Alpha Widows

As today’s Purple Pill Manosphere tries to sort out what it wants to pick and pull from ideas the Red Pill has been debating for decades now it requires a lot of deliberate misdirection of the old concepts they struggle with. This is actually nothing new. If you look at any of the exchanges I had with Aunt Giggles (Susan Walsh ret.) or various notables from the golden years of this blog you’ll recognize the pattern – Distort the premises of the concepts that conflict with your ego-investments, straw man them, then offer some redefinition of what they ‘really’ mean.

One of these maligned concepts is the phenomenon of the Alpha Widow. I’ve written extensively on this idea for well over a decade now. I’m fairly certain I even coined the term back in my SoSuave days. Back then Alpha Widow was a designation we used to describe a woman’s tendency to become fixated on an Alpha lover she had in her Party Years and still pined for him into her 30s or 40s after marriage. We didn’t just pull the idea out of our asses back then. We came to it because of the overwhelming number of married or LTR men who reported that their wife or girlfriend were pining for old lovers they thought were “the one that got away” or they left them to pursue a new relationship with an old flame.

Back then it was just a useful reference, but it quickly became such a predictable and confirmable phenomenon I thought it deserved more investigation. I mentioned Alpha Widows in The Slut Paradox but it was around this time that Roissy (Heartise) had proposed a simple maxim: 5 Minutes of Alpha Trumps 5 years of Beta. That’s when I decided to look deeper in my own short essay Five Minutes of Alpha. With a Red Pill Lens I began to see this Alpha Widow narrative played out in popular culture. Katy Perry had a song out then called The One That Got Away and it accurately described everything that goes into making an Alpha Widow.

What is an Alpha Widow?

To understand the phenomenon of the Alpha Widow we must look at women’s evolved mating strategy – Hypergamy, a woman’s intrinsic desire to balance the best quality sexual/reproductive male with the best provisioning/parentally invested male. Since a woman’s mating strategy centers on quality in a long term partner(s) women tend to focus on ideals in men. The imperative drive for mate quality extends to both sides of women’s Hypergamous equation; the best genetic, sexual experience and the best long term security potential. Only women are Hypergamous, and Hypergamy never seeks its own level – it is always seeking a better-than-merited exchange in SMV compared to her own. For more information on this concept read False Equivalencies.

When a woman misses the opportunity to consolidate on a confirmed, high SMV (sexual market value) male that man becomes the new standard for what she believes she can attract as a potential mate.

“I’ve had an SMV 8 guy before so in the future no man below an 8 will be my optimal choice.”

Even if a woman’s perception of her own SMV isn’t realistic her Id wants what it believes it can get.

The setting of a mating strategy metric in men is largely a subconscious process for women, but, more often now, high-ego women do consciously acknowledge that one man does (or doesn’t) meet the SMV benchmark of a previous lover. As women have become more comfortable in embracing Open Hypergamy, amongst their girlfriends, on social media, they will readily debate this SMV metric of past boyfriends. The Alpha Widow dynamic is no secret among women. Usually this involves women bemoaning the lack of “eligible” men in their lives when their prime SMV years are behind them. Please note that eligible implies an entitlement to a man who would be an ideal.

This qualification process is a constant for women, and it’s a complement to mens’ Burden of Performance. Women’s Hypergamous filtering process evolved from an Existential Fear of pairing with any man beneath her own (self-perceived) SMV and risking her life on a bad reproductive bet.  The worst existential prospect for a woman is to have her mating strategy superseded and controlled by that of a suboptimal man. 

The flip side to this dynamic is that, evolutionarily speaking, a woman’s subconscious cannot afford to miss out on an optimal Hypergamous pairing. If a woman’s Existential Fear is to be forced to reproduce with a lesser man, the next fear is to lose or miss out out on the opportunity to consolidate on monogamy with a high SMV man. When I talk about how a woman will make rules for Betas, but break rules for Alphas this is the root of that principle. 

As such, a man who exceeds a woman’s SMV, and creates a benchmark of her ‘personal best’ ideal male to breed with and parentally invest with, makes a significant impact on her psyche; sometimes in the long term. When a woman has had this man – one for whom she has genuine, organic desire for – but she cannot consolidate on him (i.e. lock down in monogamy), this represents a critical loss of the ideal Hypergamous/Reproductive/Life strategy option. Mentally this is what a woman will strive in some way to recreate with subsequent men in her life – a return to that ideal state.

This then is the basis of the Alpha Widow:
A mental fixation on the man who made the most significant impact upon a woman as her Hypergamous ideal.

The Fantasy Ideal

Usually this male ideal is an actual man from her past with whom she had some sort of relationship with, but not always. Sometimes the fantasy of that ideal will make a mental impression and sometimes a brief, seemingly insignificant, encounter with an ideal man may be enough to imprint on her psyche. 

Five Minutes of Alpha Trumps Five Years of Beta.

Sometimes the smallest brush with an ‘alpha’ male is enough to trigger the ‘what if?’ possibilities of consolidating on a guy like that. This might be one-night sex, the one guy in the foam cannon party on spring break in her wilder college years, or even just a missed opportunity to fully develop a hoped-for connection at a social gathering. The ‘Missed Connections’ forum on Craig’s Lists are filled with these regrets. All that matters is that the guy, knowingly or not, instilled a sense of Hypergamous urgency that she just knew represented a prospect for consolidating on that ideal.

An Alpha Widow can also be ‘widowed’ from the fantasy of her ideal male. This is fairly common among women who marry early in their Party Years. Most feel like they missed out on having made a good Hypergamous choice (or had it made for them by circumstance or social pressures). That missed opportunity leads some women to be widowed from the fantasy of an Alpha who would have been a better choice. Thus, an ideal Alpha mental model is what she pines for. An interest in romance literature is usually exaggerated in this type of widow. The formulaic stories are a form of vicarious fulfillment of an unrealized Hypergamous ideal. I should also add, this this widow, when married, is a prime demographic audience for divorce porn fantasies.

In any of these instances what’s at issue is the fact that women’s mating strategy always moves them towards a “better-than-merited” SMV exchange and a psychological fixation on the man, or the type of man who best embodies it. It’s as if a woman’s Id is imprinted with the model of the optimal Hypergamous pairing (evolution-wise a life or death proposition) and believes that only in recreating it will that male again save her life. This is the source of that unconscious pining.

Social Enabling of the Alpha Ideal

In 2019 it has never been easier for a woman to explore her reproductive options with an ever-increasing pool of potential Alphas from which to be widowed from. Since the Sexual Revolution western cultures have done little else than facilitate women’s mating strategies. In terms of “sexual liberation” the goal has always been to ensure provisioning and support – the Beta Bucks side of Hypergamy – in order to give women the impression that they have an indefinite window of time in which to find their optimal Alpha man. We see this reflected in the age of first marriages getting older and older. And in the age of social media women take for granted that they can remain sexually viable if not indefinitely, then at least as long as a man would. This facility exacerbates the Alpha Widow effect.

Women will fixate on the “one that got away”, but today we have social conventions in place to pander to that predictable insecurity in women. In fact, there are numerous industries that now thrive on exactly this.

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I should add here that the very concept of a soulmate began with women pining for their bygone ideal man. That ‘One’ is much easier to justify cheating with, or agonizing over, if you mix in the metaphysical to aid in rationalizing it. The popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey and Eat, Pray, Love also find their root in the Alpha Widow dynamic. Popular culture tells women they are entitled to that ideal soulmate; and the only way they can remain true to themselves, the only way to live their best lives (even the life they believe God meant for them), is to pursue the ‘ONE that got away.’

The Plan B mating strategy is another social convention that forgives women of the consequences of pursuing that Alpha ideal while concurrently holding on to her next best male option. And lastly, the ongoing normalization of a female-initiated Polyandry is also a social convention predicated on allowing women to hedge their Hypergamous bets with respect to finding that Hypergamous ideal mate.

Misconceptions

The following are a couple of the more common misconceptions critics like to presume is meant by “Alpha Widow”. For the most part these are attempts to straw man the phenomenon with no real interest in how anyone came to understanding the dynamic. 

Alpha Widows are the result of “players” who fiendishly used these poor impressionable women before they left them high & dry

Blue Pill conditioned White Knights in particular use this to build their own heroic narrative around women. Of course, not all women are victims of the Alpha they were widowed by. The first part of this misconception is the presumption that no woman would volunteer for her own widowing; the second is that an Alpha “Player” was implicit in his motives to thoroughly imprint himself upon her. The truth is that any seduction requires a willing participant (Art of Seduction, Greene) and in accordance with women’s mating strategy women will eagerly participate in their own seduction. These are Alpha Widows, not rape survivors. 

The misconception is that the woman being widowed was somehow traumatized by her former lover. The truth is that the more positive the experience was for her the more impactful the widowing is likely to be. If women didn’t think fondly of the “one that got away” she wouldn’t be an Alpha Widow in the first place. The emotional despair some women feel over that Alpha is usually the result of having missed pairing in the long term with a better prospective man than the lesser man she settled on by necessity. 

This is an easy misconception for most Blue Pill men to follow along with because often enough women will refer to their ‘asshole ex boyfriend(s)’ as the man (men) who was responsible for her being damaged. Women in their Epiphany Phase will usually incorporate into it some narrative of their having been used by the Bad Boy Jerk who came before the Nice Guy Beta they found it necessary to settle on. This damaged narrative then locks in with a woman wanting to “do things the right way this time”. Women will often use this narrative as a failsafe to excuse their hesitancy to be as sexually available to the Beta as she was with the Alpha she was widowed from. So, you get a Saving the Best situation for the Nice Guy in the relationship and he’s apt to believe her claims of being damaged by the asshole who had her before he did.

Self-righteous Beta men love this damaged by the Player narrative because it allows them constant opportunities to prove to his woman how positively different he is compared to the asshole Alpha she’s still covertly pining for.

• “Alpha Widows” are just men making shit up and thinking the worst of women because they’re bitter and burned.

Yes, it is entirely possible that despondent Incels may exaggerate the phenomenon of the Alpha Widow to rationalize their giving up on women. This still doesn’t invalidate phenomenon. This misconceptions is generally dropped by critics of the Red Pill who’d rather attack the source than have to address a concept that rattles their comfortable Blue Pill understanding of women. That said, I understand how it might be convenient to disqualify the concept based on the bitterness of the individual piecing together why his wife or girlfriend still seems to be having a relationship with her ex even if just in her head. Self-loathing Incels will then use this as an excuse to give up for the same reason they believe Hypergamy is this insurmountable obstacle to their connecting with juice they don’t want to bother squeezing for.

For the record, no, not all women turn into Alpha Widows. All women are Hypergamous, but buffers and learned self-control have historically been the checks and balances needed to protect against this Alpha Widow dynamic. The problem is that these buffers are popularly considered sexual repression of women today. Women simply wont police the worst aspects of their mating strategy and any interference, personal, political or social, that would prevent a woman from exercising her Hypergamous sexuality is viewed as misogynist, sexist repression.

Statistically women with more sexual partners have a higher incidence of divorce and find it more difficult to form healthy attachments in LTRs based on their partner count. Men do not appear to follow these stats or dynamics, why?

Because men and women have different evolved mating strategies and priorities. Men, it appears, have a much easier time compartmentalizing the sex act and separating it from the emotional aspect women apply to sex. Men’s obsession with pornography is a good illustration of this, but it is reflective of the differences in our evolved mating strategies developed in our ancestral past. Men found it necessary to breed quickly and then move out – ejaculate and evacuate.

However, in a social order where Hypergamy is unbuffered women have more access to more men and have more opportunities to be imprinted by Alpha men while in their peak fertility years than in any other era before. This abundance of reproductive opportunities, and a lack of any social stigma or moral reservations are putting women into a position where their Blue Pill husbands turn their denial into hate for the ‘Players’ who violated and ruined their ‘soulmate’ before he came into her life. They refuse to acknowledge that in most cases his girl eagerly chose to give herself to the man she told her husband was a ‘Player’ from her past.

Blue Pill married men have the hardest time accepting the idea that their wives may be Alpha Widows for a man that came before them. They struggle with the possibility their wives gave a part of themselves to a guy that they’ll never experience, so denial and anger becomes their ego’s protection.

They throw shade at the men who have the Game to seduce women (who enjoy the seduction as well) because they “ruin women for great guys like him”. Thus, they turn it into a moral issue for those men or a personality flaw because it absolves their wives of their modern mating choices.

– Illustration, Stefan Schmidtz

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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“Why do you keep asking me that?” Testing you by your answer or lack thereof. You seemed like you’re aiming at entertaining people by wearing big feet and a red nose and wig. I’ll give the biologically correct answer to my question: A man’s no. 1 mission is to spread his seed…to not become a Darwin Award winner…to reproduce in such a way as to strengthen his genetic line and ensure that his offspring have the same mission…reproducing as much as is feasible…’K’ reproduction strategy…I’ve seen ‘r’ and it tends to die out…’K’ can do the same if a man… Read more »

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Support and leadership

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Q How to deal with women afraid of hitting the wall? I’ve just turned 22 and seeing this: Have those who are still indulging in porn ever wondered what would happen if Israel (A) came to know you right now? How to save yourself? Why do you waste the afterlife for a momentary pleasure? I’ve no plan or wish to be in a relationship let alone settling down, I’m afraid. Middle East. As to why being afraid, here the whole society is optimized for female sexuality. When Feminists tell men to stand up, the cucks stand up, when pre-wall women… Read more »

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P.S. That quote in bold and italic is from a female of my same age from the same college.

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Why do you keep asking me that?

Obvious answer is obvious.
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@Solitary Cyclist

I don’t see anything the quote that implies hitting the wall, it looks like a mix of typical female man-shaming combined with a religious appeal.

Also I do not understand what this means:
what would happen if Israel (A) came to know you right now?

To me, Israel is a country bordered by Egypt, Jordan, Syria and Lebanon. This statement makes no sense.

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AR, hie thee to the masturbatorium.

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Isra-el; the wrestler with God, grandson of Abraham, patriarch of the Israelite nation (not country), hence also the patriarch of the Judeans and Levites.

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Interesting listen

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@kfg
Already knew that…and the sentence still does not make sense, perhaps there is something missing. For sure Solitary Cyclist is better at English than I am at any other language.

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Novaseeker Telltales abound: height, size of hands and feet, size of head, width of shoulders, prominence of wrist bone, adam’s apple (if they haven’t had it shaved), lack of hips (unless they have had implants there) and so on. Much of that is valid, however more and more I am seeing 20-something women with hips noticeably narrower than their shoulders. Just last weekend on travel I briefly talked with a rather pretty brunette woman who had narrow hips, broad shoulders and visible biceps / triceps / traps. There could be any number of reasons for this, but some number of… Read more »

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deti Check for a 2/4 digit ratio. When the fingers are placed immediately next to each other and laid flat on a flat surface, the index finger on a biological male is almost always markedly shorter than the ring finger. Do the same with a biological woman, the index finger is either the same length as the ring finger, or index is longer than ring. Except when it isn’t. Yeah, that digit ratio seems to be a fairly good proxy for exposure to T in utero, but it doesn’t necessarily track to trans. A couple of lesbians I’ve known had… Read more »

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From her facebook page auto translate Yes! Don’t tell him to do all this things for u! The right man who loves u, will do everything for you!! Chill!!! 💖 Don’t teach your boyfriend how to be your boyfriend, don’t ask him to show you off, don’t ask him to text you, don’t ask him to care about you, don’t ask him to bring you flowers, don’t ask him to plan date and don’t beg for love. The right man will do anything & everything for you that’s it. Natasha Arshin 23 July at 00:25 · 69 21 July at… Read more »

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Now, that’s just only one girl. Not every girl is doing that, but that tells what the future will be. In Rollo Tomassi’s Preventive Medicine “If you’re a young man reading this section, know that your surrounding will drastically change within a short span of 8-10 years.” [From Memory] I’m just thinking how ugly things can be, this is the same girl who was known for keeping 6-7 men to orbit around her. Male and female sexuality is totally antagonistic to each other. There is intrasexual fight, there is also intersexual competition. Women never ever commit to men, they commit… Read more »

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https://gulfnews.com/world/americas/how-a-nannys-adventure-in-the-us-ended-in-bloodshed-1.1565600177952. You really need to read this. A real life example of everything you teach

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@asdgamer A man’s no. 1 mission is to spread his seed…to not become a Darwin Award winner…to reproduce in such a way as to strengthen his genetic line and ensure that his offspring have the same mission… Very good stuff. A man should should deal with a woman in a way that she thinks twice before fucking a different guy. But, since I’m not reproducing with them anyways, not at least at the moment, so what gives? 5 women wants to come back to my life , the number is only growing, I can’t/don’t want to get them pregnant anyways.… Read more »

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@SC Male and female sexuality is totally antagonistic to each other. There is intrasexual fight, there is also intersexual competition. Women never ever commit to men, they commit to themselves and plan accordingly. And look at men, they live by women, they die by women. Thanks Red Pill. Women maintain balance, keep in mind. But what you said is God’s truth. Women are the real calculating gender. They maintain their own standard. Unlike the godfather, I say it is Narcissism (not solipsism). They pretend to satisfy both masters but only satisfy themselves. They’ll rather not breed than to lose control… Read more »

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A man’s number one mission is survival.

Followed by steady and consistent improvement from birth ( crying and shitting ).

” reproduction ” isn’t a mission. Most men don’t reproduce. Fuck Darwin, inconsequential.

Anything having to do with women is never a man’s ” mission”, complementary not focal, adjust frame accordingly.

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So, Blax, do you think you will live forever? smh “Fuck Darwin, inconsequential.” “Fuck biology, inconsequential.” fify ” Most men don’t reproduce.” says who? you should read Ecclesiastes some time–other people have followed your line of thinking without satisfaction… “Anything having to do with women is never a man’s ” mission”, complementary not focal, adjust frame accordingly.” “Anything having to do with biology is never a man’s ” mission”, complementary not focal, adjust frame accordingly.” fify …first world thinking of the sort that leads to extinction…self-improvement is secondary to biology…self-improvement should lead a man to reproductive success… …when you’re old… Read more »

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Biology is a specific, not a catchall phrase.

I reiterate, fuck Darwin.

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@Blax

People who don’t reproduce leave no legacy and no lovely kids to teach how to make an even larger legacy.

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I reiterate, you’re a clown.

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@ palmasailor @@Disgruntledearthling “I, for one, am getting pretty sick and tired of this female-dominated shit on Netfucks and elsewhere” !!!!Spoiler Alert!!! Black Mirror, Striking Vipers Two black, male friends “we’re not homosexuals, but we like to have sex together”, addictively engage in cybersex within a virtual reality video game with the more Alpha of the two taking the submissive role as the female. Meanwhile, to appease the wife, the married guy sets up a schedule to exchange the game controller with his wife’s wedding ring, to allow his wife to go to bars and fuck Alphas in real life.… Read more »

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https://patstedman.com/2019/08/08/defense-of-rollo-tomassi/

This is not a defense btw. Rollo I hope you do a response to this “vibration” b.s..

“While I work with middle and increasingly upper middle-vibration men, Rollo works with low-vibration ones.”

😂😂😂

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It seems Disney is working on a reboot/sequel to The Rocketeer, with sex and race swapping. The Nazis no doubt to be swapped for middle American “fascists.”

One obvious problem springs to mind: you cannot replace Jennifer Connelly, so I suppose that will be the trans role.

Speaking of which, I note that Labyrinth was produced by Lucasfilm, which Disney now owns. You sure as shit can’t replace David Bowie (not to mention Terry Jones and Jim Henson) as well, so I suppose it’s inevitable.

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“Black Mirror, Striking Vipers…”
Yeah that one took a twist.

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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
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“While I work with middle and increasingly upper middle-vibration men, Rollo works with low-vibration ones.”

I was vibrating at such a high level I had to read TRM to get my feet back on the ground and my head out of the clouds.

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F*** Darwin, F*** biology = short-term thinking. The only reason/purpose for surviving is… reproduction. Otherwise, you are just a dead-end.

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May all your vibrations be good…

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If you don’t survive, you don’t have a shot at reproducing.

Most men don’t reproduce. Why is that?

Does this mean that they have failed?

Survival is more than breathing.

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“Vibration” and “raising vibration” is a thing, more of a thing than expected. Count your change before leaving the ticket window

https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=vibrations

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It seems Disney is working on a reboot/sequel to .The Rocketeer, everything.

Di$ney gets full copyright to their reboots / reworks / sequels / mutilations. That copyright extends to everything downstream from the movie.

Listen to the great, wise, Yoghurt…

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theasdgamer – Blaximus is correct on this one – I would just take his position that is set on the negative space and move it to the positive space by saying that a man’s number 1 mission is not to survive but to THRIVE – once the thriving is manifested in his life then he procreates, in fact I would argue that evolution wants to procreate the best seed. In fact I think the mindset being discussed is that of beta versus alpha. Anyways a beta based mindset is fine, no hate, but a man’s first goal is to thrive… Read more »

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“Porfirio Rubirosa was a Dominican diplomat, race car driver, soldier and polo player. He was an adherent of the dictator Rafael Trujillo, and was also rumored to be a political assassin under his regime. Rubirosa made his mark as an international playboy for his jetsetting lifestyle and his legendary sexual prowess with women. Among his spouses were two of the richest women in the world. […] married five times, but never had any children”.

Lmaooooo what a total dead-end chode

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@blax

Can you elaborate on your statement “most men don’t reproduce.” Based on my experience, most men in my grandparent’s, my parent’s and my generation have married and had kids, with only the extremely oddball ones getting left behind.

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Ruby could have done all that and had kids…
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Genghis did all right as well I’m told…

Just sayin’

[Sperg Disclaimer – I am not advocating for kids per se, I’m quite fine with most people I know NEVER reproducing…]

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“Di$ney gets full copyright to their reboots / reworks / sequels / mutilations.”

Purchased properties may not give them all the strings, but the current wave of creative bankruptcy at Disney began with their own properties, and the original The Rocketeer is likewise a Disney production.

This isn’t simply a rights acquisition project, it’s a Disney Ministry of Truth project. Building a new Disney that has always been the original Disney.

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Keeping Clown World clowney…

Remember these guys getting sued by these gals?

https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRr4HsghqtzNFaBHPmAyIYp3giJUXmaNFOx6taAQ4H83GxPW1Qw

Well now they are getting sued by some “guys”

https://www.law.com/americanlawyer/2019/08/14/ex-scotus-clerks-sue-jones-day-alleging-anti-male-bias

“Jones Day doesn’t just allegedly discriminate against women, according to a new gender bias lawsuit filed against the firm this week. A married couple who worked as associates in the firm’s prestigious issues and appeals practice after clerking on the U.S. Supreme Court say the firm’s parental leave policy is unfair to men.”

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This isn’t simply a rights acquisition project, it’s a Disney Ministry of Truth project.

I was thinking more of $tar War$ than the Rocketeer, but it doesn’t make much diff.
Because Di$ney is now “All your legend are belong to us”. For reasons.

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Sigma “Can you elaborate on your statement “most men don’t reproduce.” Based on my experience, most men in my grandparent’s, my parent’s and my generation have married and had kids, with only the extremely oddball ones getting left behind.” For what it’s worth, today not having kids isn’t considered ” oddball ” at all. And if the trend continues, it will only get worse. [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cIokdKdQN4E&w=854&h=480%5D When you say my Gen-gen-gen-gen-generation ( sorry had to do it ), how old are you ( if you don’t mind )? The pic Sentient posted of Eddie Murphy with his team, Eddie and… Read more »

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“Porfirio Rubirosa was a Dominican diplomat, race car driver, soldier and polo player. He was an adherent of the dictator Rafael Trujillo, and was also rumored to be a political assassin under his regime. Rubirosa made his mark as an international playboy for his jetsetting lifestyle and his legendary sexual prowess with women. Among his spouses were two of the richest women in the world. […] married five times, but never had any children”. Never heard of this guy until you mentioned him here. Playboy? That only holds sway with a miniscule portion of the population. I like this guy… Read more »

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Rafael Leónidas Trujillo Molina (/truːˈhiːjoʊ/ troo-HEE-yoh, Spanish: [rafaˈel leˈoniðas tɾuˈxiʝo]; 24 October 1891 – 30 May 1961), nicknamed El Jefe (Spanish: [el ˈxefe], “The Chief” or “The Boss”), was a Dominican politician, soldier, and dictator, who ruled the Dominican Republic from February 1930 until his assassination in May 1961.[2] He served as president from 1930 to 1938 and again from 1942 to 1952, ruling for the rest of the time as an unelected military strongman under figurehead presidents.[Note 1] His 31 years in power, to Dominicans known as the Trujillo Era (Spanish: El Trujillato), are considered one of the bloodiest… Read more »

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a few things: Novaseeker, I was looking for a review of The Anatomy of Female Power and stumbled upon your old blog. Do you still post your own stuff someplace? And what do you think of the past decade since you wrote that review? Seems on point to me. A question for All: is unplugging so difficult for so many men because they never fully left their own mothers? And does a mother’s love for their sons trick men into thinking that this same love is on offer with the “right girl?” Just some thoughts. Thanks for the site, the… Read more »

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” mother’s love for their sons ”

What is this thing you speak off? My observations – this love extends as far as it reflects back positively on the mother. Look at Jesus mother for example.

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“A man’s no. 1 mission is to spread his seed…to not become a Darwin Award winner…to reproduce in such a way as to strengthen his genetic line and ensure that his offspring have the same mission…reproducing as much as is feasible…”

Beta male provider game who became red pill aware later in life and is trying to rebrand himself as “alpha provider” because of his own ego investment. Keep reassuring yourself that you’re saving western civilization, bro. Dont get your feelings butt hurt if other men dont validate your life decisions.

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Having kids mostly doesn’t have anything to do with a ” genetic line ” the way many guys like to think that it does.

It sounds noble though.

just extending a pile of dna/genes is fairly meaningless. what will your offspring do? What can you give them ( besides money if available )?.

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@just beers I think what sucks the most for guys trying to unplug is basically that to some order of degrees they find out how powerless they are. Then they feel daunted by what they realize they have to do to fix that. So rather than try to fix that, they cling to some vestige of the false reassurance that was given to them by parents, well-meaning or otherwise, who were likely just as horrified at what modern life has become as they were of what society(Those other fuckers) now expects(hopes) them to tolerate. Except the women. They knew all… Read more »

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A man’s number one mission is survival.

Blax is a genius, he hit right on asdgamer’s G-Spot.

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Why women fuck ugly Uber Drivers even if the guy who rejected her just 30 minutes ago is Super Hawt. Your Theory of Reproduction badly fails.

Why Beta Males reproduce at all? Excellent Blax

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Man’s mission is survival?

GTFOH

Why don’t you bury the bar of existence a little deeper.

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Blax, I was considering “r” vs. “K” modes of reproduction within the US context. The current ‘r’ mode is failing dramatically. I have no idea what your context was. I want to thrive, but even more, I want my seed to thrive. And part of thriving is biologically reproducing and maintaining your heritage, wisdom, work ethic, etc. I was in an irascible place yesterday and apologize for my snarky comment. I had a problem and fixed it with Game. People were trying to deny my daughter compensation and were trying to demean her and she wasn’t standing up for herself.… Read more »

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“Why women fuck ugly Uber Drivers even if the guy who rejected her just 30 minutes ago is Super Hawt.”

Machts nichts. You are blinded by short term thinking. PIV <> reproduction. Only when PIV leads to fruit is there reproduction. If the fruit is a fruit, your line will end. Your seed must also propagate. Hence, you must instruct them. Teach them to not become cannon fodder like most of ‘r’ production and how to thrive.

“Your Theory of Reproduction badly fails.”

XD

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“Today DG stood up for herself and demanded her pay and refused to do the bullshit. ” Fighting for her pay? Is that what game is for? Turning her into the son you never had? You have an unnecessarily complicated home life to be that involved in your daughters career. Women function best within the interiority of humanity. Home, hearth, children and such. Feminine always and all ways. How is telling your girl that she’s a wuss going to help your legacy? Dime to dollars she doesn’t like herself much with a foot in both masculine and feminine world’s. It’s… Read more »

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Its often repeated fallacy of manosphere that all the single moms out there are getting knocked up by the same top tier Alpha Males with superior genetics. Their bastard kid is just as likely to be product of beta male running clown game on them while they were drinking and had birth control fail.

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Its often repeated fallacy of manosphere that all the single moms out there are getting knocked up by the same top tier Alpha Males with superior genetics.

If this is often repeated, it should be easy for you to point to examples. Please do so.

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ADJ can fuck you faster than a rabbit. AUGUST 15, 2019 The Fate of the Red Man Group In the past two months there’s recently been a lot of conjecture about, and defamation of, my character prompted by Anthony ‘Dream’ Johnson and his mouthpiece-proxy DDJ. Thus, far I’ve been content to allow him to destroy his already tarnished public image with lies, obvious half-truths and childish non sequiturs. However, when blatant falsehoods about my character are presented as truth that’s when it meets the legal definition of defamation. But first I need to talk about privacy. Since Mr. Johnson and… Read more »

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You know I love you but Stop this shit .. there are young men out there that need direction. Don’t lose sight of the mission by falling into the frame of a narcissist arsehole. “Note how he unironically links all of his prior obsessive blog posts about me in the beginning. 5 posts and a ‘podcast’ with Artful Man where they kvetch about me for 3 hours in 2 years. Lets just clear the air here, the guy is obsessed with me and my work. His OCD would be flattering except that I know that ADJ invited him to speak… Read more »

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From red pill summit to pundit centerpiece along the bull-in-china-shop path. Post-election it will be a pivot to what?

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Hi guys, I am relatively new to all these, I only heard about Rational Male from my colleague at work cause I was talking about my girl problems. I haven’t gotten real far in the book but I was wondering if there was a way to get out of an IJBF friendship. She says she’s not looking to date right now, but says she’s in a situationship with with some guy. I tell myself oh the guy doesn’t like her back to feel better about myself. Says she won’t lead me on and she would be fine if I didn’t… Read more »

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Novaseeker, I was looking for a review of The Anatomy of Female Power and stumbled upon your old blog. Do you still post your own stuff someplace? And what do you think of the past decade since you wrote that review? Seems on point to me. Hey Just Beers — I haven’t written my own blog in quite a few years now — no time to do it regularly, so I closed it down years ago. Chinweizu’s book is interesting, if a bit dated. I’d say that events of the last ten years have accelerated the changes in a way… Read more »

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“I want to know if there’s anything I could do to redeem myself”

Sure. Forget about her and go out and pick up some other woman you’ve never seen before. Then do it again.

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@kxnx

I’ve taken it to field reports

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Kxnx
I want to know if there’s anything I could do to redeem myself, I really like her company so I’m torn cause I don’t want to let go.

First: Stop living inside your head. She’s LJBF’d you, don’t pretend otherwise.
Second: She’s LJBF’d you, there is nothing to let go of beyond your own infatuation.
Third: Do what kfg said to do.
Fourth: take this to Field Reports.

PS: There is no “soul mate” for you, there are many girls who you would get along with just fine. One-itis is bad stuff, don’t do it.

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DG has three offers of permanent employment, including one for over .5 million dollars/year

but EI wants DG to “submit” to her unemployed, homeless, worthless husband and let her daughter starve

lol @ EI and his ivory tower bullshit

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is my browser broken? Did Rollo delete the RMG post?

If so… Good.

Rollo no one really cares about ADJ and what happened as it relates to YOU. Sure he is a tool and a great subject for mockery but that’s it.

Never mention him again. Let him keep pining for you. 1/3 of his feed is about you at any given time. Lol

He will be gone completely in 2021.

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“DG has three offers of permanent employment, including one for over .5 million dollars/year

but EI wants DG to “submit” to her unemployed, homeless, worthless husband and let her daughter starve”

Do you even Red Pill bro?

What’s better for your grandkids you’ve been moaning about and thriving?

Shekels? Or them growing up in a home where their mother follows their father’s leading?

Stop undermining your own progeny.

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“Stop undermining your own progeny.”

@ Sentient.

Thank you.

It’s not about sex. It’s not about a paycheck. It’s not about control. It’s not about ASD.

Measure yourself with something outside yourself for once ASD and easy on the ivory tower stuff. I’m here with you for a reason. I bleed as you do.

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@ASD

Long game….like really long game.

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@ASD

Jeff Epstein once said: “How is a man the better for it, if he gains the whole world at the expense of losing his own soul? For a man’s soul, what price can be high enough?”

No wait, that was an old white dead guy….wait Epstein’s is now an old white dead guy too….wait that’s all voodoo churchianity FI fueled conspiracy!! That’s it!!

DISREGARD.
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Thanks Novaseeker, re: The Anatomy of Female Power. Regards to dating, and your take on the online scene, I couldn’t agree more. It’s been very good for me, but I imagine it is not good for most. Re: leaving a legacy, and having a successful life, I’m simply wondering what being a lifelong mentor/coach/teacher means. A colleague of mine has two daughters, yet no grandkids to speak of. Yet he really crushed it as a coach and teacher. When he retired, the room was packed and the stories were rich. Sounded almost like a eulogy even though he was standing… Read more »

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Yollo Comanche: “but resented the possibility that they might be responsible for engineering the worthlessness of their own children.

And nobody is allowed to talk about it or else they end up admitting that they aren’t in control of their own lives. That is, they aren’t equipped to deal with being born to cowardly people. ”

That hit me like a ton of bricks, luckily not for me, per se, but as a warning for what I don’t want for my own child. Thank you for that.

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Hi guys, I am relatively new to all these, I only heard about Rational Male from my colleague at work cause I was talking about my girl problems. I haven’t gotten real far in the book but I was wondering if there was a way to get out of an IJBF friendship. She says she’s not looking to date right now, but says she’s in a situationship with with some guy. I tell myself oh the guy doesn’t like her back to feel better about myself. Says she won’t lead me on and she would be fine if I didn’t… Read more »

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@ken

This has been covered time after time, but stick around here.

She’s not your friend, and you won’t get to bang her, and you could waste your entire life – check out my recent field report reply to walawala about the orbiter my ex had.

Move to field reports to talk.

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“What’s better for your grandkids you’ve been moaning about and thriving? Shekels? Or them growing up in a home where their mother follows their father’s leading?” “What’s better for your grandkids you’ve been moaning about and thriving? Shekels? Or them dead?” fify Red Pill praxis always has to be adjusted to the particulars. Don’t you Red Pill bro? The Son In Law is very game resistant. He’s a self-righteous know-it-all churchian who won’t support his own daughter. I’ve done far more for the baby than her father has. I think that he bought her a bath toy once that cost… Read more »

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“Shekels? Or them dead?” fify”

Holy drama queen. ASD, consider this all in another possible less extreme way and you might relax and have better vision how to proceed. If you had a disinterested yet good friend-mentor-council how might he see this differently?

You write as a man with few options.

You have more options though to redeem them you must choose to accept them as extant. You can’t understand what you choose not to.

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@theasdgamer Red Pill praxis always has to be adjusted to the particulars. Don’t you Red Pill bro? i think you are missing some points… The Son In Law is very game resistant. FI/BP/social conditioning and ‘sperg special interest pattern grooving… do YOU maybe have any insight on this?…lol He’s a self-righteous know-it-all churchian who won’t support his own daughter. come on dude, @Rollo is writing a whole BOOK about the FI coopting the churchianity ‘male space’… but since that ‘churchianity’ value set includes ‘supporting’ (like a good beta provider) can’t you leverage that inconsistency into some action?… if not, why… Read more »

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ASD, she’s not our daughter. We’re not going to make any special pleadings for her, nor against SIL.

“If you can give helpful advice about my situation, down where the rubber meets the road, that would be appreciated.”

Sure, SIL should fire up the van and get as far away from this shit show as he possibly can.

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@kfg “More generally, if you’re spending more than an hour traveling just to see a woman you’re probably doing it wrong.” More generally still, if she is into you she will accept (or suggest, if you are making her really wet from afar) that it’s she who is to do the travel to meet. “This is only part, and the least important part, of the story. What she is doing is fishing for a man to pay for her to come to his country. That is the sole point of a woman being on an international dating site. There are… Read more »

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One day I’m going to have to look at this ” OkCupid ” and ” tinder ” shit. It’s mentioned so much that I’m getting curious.

I think these things are super counterproductive for men, but for the entire time I’ve been reading in the sphere, they just keep coming up.

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Is bitch muscles having gama male personality melt down on twitter again? Who would pay thousand dollars to listen to that live?

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https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/whitney-port-says-she-regrets-041641728.html

From that clip:

“I was way too nervous to do it and then I lost my chance and it’s really one of my bigger regrets in life.”

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Yep CFGauss — she lost out on a yuuuge Me Too opportunity . . .

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Not relevant to the topic but needing recommendations. Why should or shouldn’t you let your wife find out that you are reading the blog and The Rational Male books? Is an argument that her knowing you better and as a result feeling closer and more comfortable being intimate a reason to tell her about how you are reading them? Thanks, men.

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” . . . her knowing you better and as a result feeling closer and more comfortable being intimate . . .”

Houston? We have had a problem.

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ASD He’s a self-righteous know-it-all churchian who won’t support his own daughter. Hmmmm… How those rent checks going with Daughter #2? You buy her a new car lately? SIL is proudest that he stands for “truth” (as he alone sees it). So he has a strong MPoO? I see… He’s not ashamed that he doesn’t support his daughter. I’m not giving SIL any time or attention (or respect) until he does so. (That is dog training game.) Yeh. How are you at Wolf Training game? [Hint – it’s a trick question. You don’t train wolves] Anyone who will not take… Read more »

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Hey there fellow kids:

THAT’s not a gender war.

THIS is a gender war.

https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/miley-cyrus-split-liam-hemsworth-isn-t-just-celebrity-fodder-ncna1042931

Heterosexuality is the means by which the patriarchy maintains its power, polyamory will tear it down, and Miley Cyrus shall lead the way.

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@kfg, mind explaining?

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“will explain why your advice fails for the other guys.”

Compare yourself to the badass youthful ZFG youngshagger killing it this week.

See my man? Best compare yourself with something better than yourself and emulate that.

Youngshagger chose to be different, acted and got results.

You love your stasis, defend it until death and collateral damage lives all along the way.

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“Is an argument that her knowing you better and as a result feeling closer and more comfortable being intimate a reason to tell her about how you are reading them? “

No. Not even close.

She won’t like the new you. For a while. Until she does.

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@12pointbuck:

Hint 1: Have you ever heard the saying, “familiarity breeds comfort and intimacy?”

Yeah. Neither have I.

Hint 2: Taken is not simply a Male Power Fantasy. It is equally a Female Security Fantasy.

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“Compare yourself to the badass youthful ZFG youngshagger killing it this week.”

Good point. I have a grandchild who is thriving by all standards. ys is still a darwin award candidate.

Sex feels so important because of the drive. There are no feels to lead to reproduction, hence the Pill and abortion.. Don’t be fooled/controlled by feelz.

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@Blaximus I can resume those apps/sites here saving you time: I am independant smart, confident, highly educated, love salsa dancing singing, most of all lov travelling. Have travelled to 19 countries and will be in #20 and #21 next Sept. Independint and strong You should make me laugh, fun, have ur shit together, confident but not arrogant, travel the world with me, respect women Don’t ever contact me if you are a Trump supporter, a redneck, or don’t respect women. [Their only worry is that you respect women… ;)…] The above is an average, and they look so cloned from… Read more »

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@12pointbuck

The very fact you are here reading this site (and asking that question) indicates your wife isn’t the Female Unicorn (which may, or more likely may not, exist) whom you can share everything about yourself to without meeting a penalty and who will share everything about herself to you.

Or doesn’t it? Ask yourself.

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12pointbuck
Not relevant to the topic but needing recommendations. Why should or shouldn’t you let your wife find out that you are reading the blog and The Rational Male books?

What is the first rule of Fight Club?

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“I have a [matrilineal] grandchild . . .”

You have a position, but it’s the weakest possible.

And that places the principle burden of performance on you while forcing you into playing matrilineal game.

What does SIL get out of playing your matrilineal game other than chafed shoulders and a compressed spine?

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Is an argument that her knowing you better and as a result feeling closer and more comfortable being intimate a reason to tell her about how you are reading them?

“Shuttle Challenger, go with throttle up…”

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