The Soul Mate Myth

With apologies to Dalrock for thread-jacking his “The one” vs “my one and only” post. After reading Dal’s take on the fallacy of the ONE and picking back through the comments on Casualties I thought I might clarify a few things about the concept of the ONE.

There is no ONE.

There is no ONE. This is the soulmate myth. There are some good Ones and some bad Ones, but there is no ONE. Anyone telling you anything else is selling you something. There are LOTS of ‘special someones’ out there for you, just ask the divorced/widowed person who’s remarried after their “soulmate” has died or moved on.

This was one of my earliest posts back on the SoSuave forums from around 2003-04. I was finishing my degree then and had the Fallacy of the ONE graphically illustrated for me in a psych class one day. I was in class, surrounded by (mostly) much younger students than myself, all very astute and as intellectual as they come for mid twenty-somethings. At one point the discussion had come around to religion and much of the class expressed being agnostic or atheist, or “spiritual, but not religious”. The rationale was of course that religion and belief could be explained as psychological (fear of mortality) constructs that were expanded to sociological dynamics.

Later in that discussion the idea of a ‘soul mate’ came up. The professor didn’t actually use the word ‘soul’, but rather couched the idea by asking for a show of hands as to how many of the class believed “there was a special someone out there for them?” or if they feared “the ONE that got away.” Damn near the entire class raised their hands. For all of their rational empiricism and claims to realism in regards to spirituality, they (almost) unanimously expressed a quasi-Karmic belief in connecting with another idealized person on an intimate level for a lifetime.

Religion of the Soul-Mate

Even the Frat guys and hook-up girls who I knew weren’t expressly looking for anything long term in their dating habits still raised their hands in assent to a belief in a ONE. Some later explained what that ONE meant to them, and most had differing definitions of that idealization – some even admitted to it being an idealization as the discussion progressed – yet almost all of them still had what would otherwise be termed an irrational belief in ‘destiny’ or, even amongst the least spiritual, that it’s just part of life to pair off with someone significant and there was “someone for everyone”.

This discussion was the catalyst for one of my red pill realizations – despite all odds, people largely feel entitled to, or deserving of, an important love of their life. Statistically and pragmatically this is ridiculous, but there it is. The feminized Disney-fication of this core concept has been romanticized and commercialized to the point of it becoming a religion, even for the expressly non-religious. The shakespearean longing for the ONE, the search for another soul (mate) who was destined to be our match has been systematically distorted beyond all reason. And as I elaborated in Casualties men will take their own lives in the delusion of having lost their soul-mate.

Soul-Mate Men

This perversion of the soul-mate myth is attributable to a large part of the feminized social conventions we deal with today. The fear of isolation from our imagined soul-mate, or the fear of having irrecoverably lost that ‘perfect ONE’ for us fuels so much of the personal and social neuroses we find in the Matrix. For example, much of the fear inherent in the Myth of the Lonely Old Man loses its teeth without a core belief in the Soul-Mate Myth. The fear of loss and the delusions of Relational Equity only really matter when the person men believe that equity should influence is their predestined ONE.

The feminine imperative recognized the overwhelming power the Soul-Mate Myth had over men (and women) from the beginnings of its rise to ascendency as the primary gender social imperative. Virtually all of the distortions of the core soul-mate dynamic evolved as a controlling schema for men. When it is soul-mate women who are the primary reward for a soul-mate necessitous man, there are a lot of opportunities to consolidate that power upon. To be clear, don’t think this is some fiendish plot of a fem-centric cabal socially engineering that soul-mate fear into men. Generations of men, raised to be oblivious to it, willingly and actively help perpetuate the Soul-Mate Myth.

Soul-Mate Women

Although Hypergamy plays a large role in determining what makes for an idealized soul-mate for women, they aren’t immune to the exploitations of that core fear. Though it’s more an unfortunate byproduct than an outright manipulation, I’d argue that in some ways hypergamy intensifies that neurosis. Alpha Widows know all too well the languishing associated with pining for the Alpha that got away – particularly when she’s paired off long-term with the dutiful, Beta provider after her SMV decline.

For women, the soul-mate represents that nigh unattainable combination of arousing Alpha dominance matched with a loyal providership for her long term security that only she can tame out of him.

Hypergamy hates the soul-mate principle, because the soul-mate is an absolute definition, whereas hypergamy must alway test for perfection. Hypergamy asks, “Is he the ONE? Is he the ONE?” and the Soul-Mate Myth replies, “He HAS to be the the ONE, he’s your soul-mate, and there’s ONLY one of those.”

Building the Mystery

Due to this core concept and soul-mate mythology, both sexes will seek to perfect that idealization for themselves – even under the least ideal of conditions and expressions. We want to build our intimate relations into that soul-mate idealism in order to relieve the fear and solve the problem, and most times so badly that we’ll deftly ignore the warnings, abuses and consequences of having done so. For women the impact of the most significant Alpha is what initially defines that soul-mate idealization. For men it may be the first woman to become sexual with him or the one who best exemplifies a woman he (mistakenly) believes can love him in a male-defined orientation of love.

However, these are the points of origin for building that soul-mate ideal upon. This ideal is then compounded upon with layers of investments in the hopes that this person “might actually be the one fate has prescribed for them.” Emotional investment, personal, financial, even life-potential investments and sacrifices then follow in an effort to create a soul-mate.

This process is why I say the Soul-Mate Myth is ridiculous – it’s psychologically much more pragmatic to construct another person to fit that ideal than it ever will be to “wait for fate to take its course.” People subscribing to the myth would rather build a soul-mate, consequences be damned. So women will attempt to Build a better Beta, or tame down an Alpha, while men will attempt to turn a whore into a housewife, or vice versa.

One of the most bitter aftertastes of having taken the red pill is abandoning old paradigms for new. I’ve described this before as akin to killing an old friend, and one friend that needs killing is exactly this mythology. Disabusing yourself of this core fear is vital to fully unplugging, because so much of fem-centric social conditioning is dependent upon it.

Dropping the Soul-Mate Myth isn’t the nihilism a lot of people might have you believe it is. If anything it will free you to have a better, healthier future relationship with someone who is genuinely important to you – a relationship based on genuine desire, mutual respect, complementary understanding of each other and love, rather than on a fear of losing your one and only representation of contentment in this life.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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Emotional pornography is responsible for the continuation of this myth. http://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2011/02/15/emotional-pornography/

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“Hypergamy hates the soul-mate principle…”

Is it possible that the soul-mate principle was a beta-male driven refined attack on hypergamy? Soul-mate found its apex in strong marriage culture. There is no stronger hamster-food then soul-mate. In appearances, soul-mate has the feel of a genius design for the beta-male civilizing imperative. It focuses hamsters against hypergamy, dividing themselves and their hamster force.

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I truly believe the concept of a soul mate is just one way to lure people away from God…so in a sense I wouldn’t be surprised about agnostics or atheists subscribing to that idea. Placing all your hopes, dreams, ambitions, salvation in another human being is always a recipe for failure…because we are all flawed. Frankly it’s irresponsible to place such expectations on another human being. Humans can do the most wonderful things for others and/or the most inhuman things to them…that’s what I expect. I am a Christian and I go to God for unconditional love and inner strength.… Read more »

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Leave ‘the one’ for women to romanticize about; it gives them something to do during the day and discuss with their girlfriends. A man has the unique ability to actually fall in love with multiple women, at once, and not feel guilty about any of it (biologically this makes sense). Not saying you should, but men obsessing over ‘the one’ just goes to show how much of a female-centric mindset they’ve adopted err had shoved down their throats since childhood. A healthy monogamous relationship is where the woman realizes on some level the sacrifice you make to be exclusive with… Read more »

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I agree, as you can see.

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It seems to me that the soul mate myth goes hand-in-hand with (and perpetuates) the “don’t settle” mentality (aka hypergamy) because The One will never be the man she’s with, it’ll always be that perfect someone else who she just knows is out there.

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There is another element to the myth: laziness. “If its destiny then I don’t have to work at it.” Its no better than believing in the winning lotto ticket for a retirement plan.

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Way to kill the romance, Rollo . . .

Destiny, fate. These terms are a central part of the human psyche, they have been with use forever. In our myths, our religions, our entertainment and the soul-mate is an extension of that.

I’m not sure a civilization, culture or society can survive without them, even if they’re false.

As you yourself have noted everyone woman believes they have some special spiritual connection or power.

This is part of it

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It’s hilarous how everyone’s soul mate happens to be a tall handsome guy that makes six figures and is socially dominant or a woman that is at least moderately attractive, isn’t a nagging bitch and doesn’t blow up into a land whale. Looking at the two templates for the respective sexes, which is one that is rooted in total fantasy and which one should actual be an attainable option? I always hear from women on how every man wants an unattainable super model and won’t settle. I just laugh my ass inside though as I think bullshit. Want they mean… Read more »

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What’s interesting here is some of the science and statistics behind the soul mate myth. I’m NOT that expert, but can only link to one easy reference: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201207/why-you-shouldnt-believe-in-soul-mates Some of the more interesting take-aways: 1. Nearly 73% of Americans believe in the soul mate myth. 2. Slightly more men (74%) than women (71%) believe in the myth. 3. …And most interesting: …when problems inevitably arise, believers in soul mates often don’t cope well and leave the relationship instead. In other words, a belief that soul mates should be ideally compatible motivates individuals to just give up when a relationship isn’t… Read more »

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Alain de Botton writes in Essays in Love: The longing for a destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to share our bed with those who cannot fathom our soul, can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams? Can we not be excused a certain superstitious faith in a creature who will prove the solution to our restless yearnings? And though our prayers may never be answered, though there may be no end to the dismal cycle of mutual incomprehension,… Read more »

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@ Furious Ferret

The sphere already has it. A blog called The Rules Revisited.

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Holy shit, you’re right.

I guess the only problem with this and the reason that it won’t attract a massive following is simply because young woman don’t have to so they won’t.

Who needs rules when you are 22 and every dude wants to bone you? It will never ever end either. She will be forever attractive and attention will fall from the sky just as surely as the sun shines.

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“I always hear from women on how every man wants an unattainable super model and won’t settle.”

Most likely these women are hovering around 200…either in weight or in number of cocks they’ve experienced.

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Nothing Higher to Live For: A Buddhist View of Romantic Love
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/price/bl124.html

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Even if the Soul Mate fairy tale were true — even if there really was one special person that would fulfill you more than any other person on the planet — the likelyhood of you finding that person would be astronomically small given the fact that you’re searching for your one perfect in a pool of 3 billion women.

It’s wired that the average American never finds his SM in Morroco or Syndney, Australia. What an amazing coincidence that all these guys find their soul mate through work or at their local bar. LOL.

So rediculous.

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As long as you are willing to look, the fact that the soul mate myth is so rooted in our culture is no surprise at all: The Soul Mate Myth is the fundamental lie which the scam named marriage is based on. After learning that there is no ONE, you can’t possible tell people with a straight face that they have to keeping acting as if there was ONE. Telling people to marry after exposing the myth is like revealing people that asbestos causes cancer and selling them an old crysothile-ridden house anyway. It gives a good laugh to watch… Read more »

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Soulmates no longer exist largely because the vast majority have become soulless.

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Just testing to see if this is an email address for Rollo or if it’s just the update-sender address.      Brian

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@FuriousFerret, that may have been the best comment I’ve seen on this blog.

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I do believe in the concept of “soul mate”.

I think a soul mate is a person who is a “correction” of one’s own self.

However to recognize such a person, one will first have to discover one’s own self. That’s the hard part.

For people with low self esteem (cloudy view of self), its easier to just ask from society what a soul mate should be.

These people thus end up with a soul mate of a collection of people instead of their own. Heartbreak follows.

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That must be a pretty tasty Blue Pill you’re gnawing on, Dillon.

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The soul mate myth is backed up by periods of intense emotion that block out all rational thought. When we are in love, it all can seem so believable. Even with the experiences of age, the emotions can obscure a broader view. We are built to be dupes to women. But the flip side is that we can also be duped by rationality, and turn our backs to the joys of being in love. The middle ground of course is to find meaning and joy and satisfaction without pinning to some notion of eternity. Or even necessarily monogamy. Enjoy love… Read more »

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I have only been in love once, and it wasn’t with my ex-wife. I think Men also suffer from 5 minutes of Alpha(woman) and Women will see right thu your pretty lies based again on the myth of the hollywood soul mate (aka Male Servitute) I think Hypergamy, serves it’s usful purpose to weed out lesser men, lesser men are men who are without options, be it other women or social dominance or whatever. I know I could never really bring myself to fully loving my ex, and she always knew we ‘settled’ for eachother somehow..I agree. Hpyergamy is a… Read more »

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Actually, there is such a thing as soul mates. However, it is not destiny nor are two people ever perfect complements for each other. People learn to become soul mates through spending a lifetime together, working through problems, dealing with the grief and sorrow and joy and boredom of real life. The myth is that someone can be your soul mate without having spent that lifetime with them. Many people give up before they ever get there because they’ve bought into the myth and because relationships aren’t always wonderful and require work and commitment. They can’t see that through this… Read more »

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xsplat
We are built to be dupes to women.

This.

It’s a women’s world and men are genetic groupies. Red pill. A total inversion of what I used to believe.

There are only two outs for men:
(1) Be the genetic superstar that many women want. Real or simulated.
(2) Live in a time of resource scarcity so that women’s desire to eat overpowers their hypergamy.

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Chuck Hammer, there is a third option. Build a society with a basis of monogamy, so every man gets a woman, fidelity, so hypergamy can’t keep dumping men for the perceived better man, chastity, pre-marital abstinence, and modesty.

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Now how about tackling the subject of love?

Anyone with half a brain should know that the soulmate myth is BS, but plenty of people who are smart enough to figure this out still cling to the idea that there is some kind of nebulous thing called “love” that will “conquer all”, should you manage to find it.

[You haven’t been reading me recently have you?
https://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/09/10/men-in-love/
https://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/09/11/of-love-and-war/%5D

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Along the lines of the appeal of femininity as opposed to the turnoff of masculinity in women, I’ll pass along an anecdote: Many years ago, I went to a weekend traffic school with about 20 other attendees. One of them was a fat woman, about 30 years old and about 50 pounds overweight, big enough that I wouldn’t hit it. But from the neck up, she looked good: a nice face with subtle and excellent makeup framed by long and well-styled blonde hair. In addition, she dressed elegantly and sported a huge diamond ring. Left me thinking, who the heck… Read more »

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[You haven’t been reading me recently have you? https://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/09/10/men-in-love/ https://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/09/11/of-love-and-war/%5D I’m not talking about the differences between the way men and women love, I’m talking about the idea of love as an extension of the soul mate myth, where people believe in finding this abstract thing that they will only know when they finally experience it, that “conquers all” and will “endure for eternity”. I have certainly loved several of the women I have been with but when someone asks me if I have ever been “in love” it evokes the exact same red pill reaction I get if someone… Read more »

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Exactly what I’m talking about Random Angeleno. Hyper femininity actually glosses over a decent amount of flaws. It’s the female equivalent of a sauve masculine playboy. However, trying mentioning ‘girl game’ to women. This was done at CH and you know what the response was. ‘I don’t want to do that. That’s too much work’. They even aknowledged this was similiar to how betas had to learn to be masculine to even have a shot in the SMP, they simply didn’t want to do it because at the point when they have agency the reward simply doesn’t register. They get… Read more »

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Soul Mate is BS. But there are definitely certain girls out there that you click with and that’s always nice. Were there such things as soul mates, my ex is undoubtedly mine or as close to one as I’ll find for awhile. I’m not likely to find a girl who I got along with as well as her, or a girl that knew me so well or loved me so deeply. Men with experience know the feeling, and it’s really not something you can really explain to those who haven’t. It’s a shame we didn’t pan out. At the same… Read more »

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Poke around (heh) in some of the new age-ish circles in most cities in the US, you’ll find that a staggering percentage of women (and men too) believe not only in “soul mates,” but also in this sort of extra-special turbo-soul mates that only come around “once in every 5 or 10 lifetimes” that they call “twin flames.” I’m not even joking here. It’s beyond ridiculous, it’s downright delusional. And, it does seem that any relationship difficulty causes these fruitcakes to believe that “it’s a sign from da universe that he’s not my soulmate.” However.. I refuse to be embittered… Read more »

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To paraphrase from the book of Pook: The real problem is that the focus is on the idea of love and not the beloved; on the pursuit of the lover and never on the time spent with them. This is the result of an entire generation raised by Disney and Hallmark. A spin off from this is also the delusional virginal men who end up overvaluing the act of sex, waiting for that perfect woman and perfect moment, cheating themselves of the joys of their youth. This is also why the focus today is on the wedding, never on married… Read more »

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“First You Get the Women, Then You’ve Got the Children, So Follow the
Men” – Adolph Hitler

Also the raison d’etre of the (pseudo) Capitalists (i.e. Kryptofascists), the Media and the Feminists.

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@ Tom White “This is also why the focus today is on the wedding, never on married life, hence the massive divorce rate.” The wedding is a high, marriage is dull. With this regard, women can be like drug addicts (some men too), always chasing the high. That’s what the Smart Phone culture relies on too. Same with social media. Always chasing a better high. Bigger parties, better trips, “epic”-er weekends. It’s actually a chicken or the egg thing. The smartphone/social media culture IS female culture. It’s a direct representation of fem-centrism. Hypergamy does look an awful lot like addiction,… Read more »

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nek Since this exchange of sex-for-resources isn’t necessary, the dating scene reflects Chuck’s Point #1. Exactly. Affirmative action, the welfare state and the overall prosperity of Western civilization have created unprecedented resource abundance for women, A civilization-ending cycle? Scarcity—>monogamy—>high male labor investment—>prosperity—>abundance—>sluttitude—>male labor withdrawal—>decay—>collapse—>scarcity. Hard to know where this will go for us as we’re (probably) the first technologically advanced civilization to experience widespread sluttitude. Maybe not collapse this time but instead a feminized totalitarianism complete with privileged enforcers and labor (concentration?) camps for surplus beta and omega males. Nah, couldn’t happen. A couple of relevant quotes from John Glubb’s… Read more »

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As far as replacing the soul mate myth goes: you can try Weininger’s “males” and “females” theory, from his book Sex and Character. To quote him: “Any individual, “A” or “B”, is never to be designated merely as a man or a woman, but by a formula showing that it is a composite of male and female characters in different proportions, …”. (p.8). This affirmation is backed up with enough arguments in his book, you’ll find a pdf version only easily. Back to his theory: let’s imagine a man. He is 80% masculine, 20% feminine. Weininger claims that he will… Read more »

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Incredibly insightful comments Ferret, it’s guys like you that should start blogs.

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“despite all odds, people largely feel entitled to, or deserving of, an important love of their life.”

The desire for sexual satisfaction, stability, and security is at play here. The stability and security are the ends achieved by institutions like marriage and by civilization.

Feeling “entitled to” a good sexual partner makes sense from a biological standpoint. Since reproduction is the end result of the sex drive, this feeling, this drive, creates a sense of “entitlement” in the same way that we feel we have a right to basic necessities of survival like food and water.

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I wanted to correct myself. IDEALLY, marriage and civilization create stability and security. That’s the idea. In THEORY, that’s how it’s supposed to work. Whether or not it does in practice is debatable.

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Alain de Botton writes in Essays in Love: The longing for a destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to share our bed with those who cannot fathom our soul, can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams? Can we not be excused a certain superstitious faith in a creature who will prove the solution to our restless yearnings? And though our prayers may never be answered, though there may be no end to the dismal cycle of mutual incomprehension,… Read more »

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I’ve met soul mates in my life. By that, I mean people who have been involved in LTRs/marriages that have lasted beyond all sorts of barriers. And that’s the problem with the idea of soul mates, in a nutshell. As mentioned above, people *love* the idea of meeting their soulmate without effort (and maintaining those relationships without effort.) They love the idea of everything just “working out”. But the happiest relatioships that I’ve ever seen, happened with people who (rightly) should have never met. Africans and Asians. Europeans and pacific islanders. Hispanics with Teutonic people. Hawaiians (white, of irish lineage)… Read more »

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A soulmate is anyone you make a baby with. That is all.

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@Derpifer

Tell that to the rapist who just knocked-up your 22 year old daughter because she was to stupid to act like a responsible rational human being.

Clearly the definition of a Soul Mate is a situation where you impregnate a woman.

/facepalm

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And to everyone else here: I find it rather entertaining to read other people’s points of view regarding this topic; The one fundamental issue everyone seems to forget; A soul mate is a fallacy perpetuated by the human need to be loved. There is no such thing as a soul mate despite what people think; And the fundamental flaw that EVERYONE feels they are obligated or entitled to such an endeavor is hysterical. The myth of a soul mate is a means to cope with inadequacies in one’s life. A way of dealing with a situation for whatever justifiable reasons… Read more »

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“I am a Christian and I go to God for unconditional love and inner strength.”
As with all things, there is no need to invoke a “god.” And the Christian god does not exhibit “unconditional love” – read the whole Bible, including Revelation- that is not “unconditional love” (and one can easily argue there is no such thing as “unconditional love” – it is virtually always predicated on something).
While I understand how imaginary beings may give people comfort or “inner strength,” one does not need imaginary beings for “inner strength.”

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Men seeking for a fulfillment of soul should never look outside in a horizontal direction, i. e. in such vain creatures as women. Search inside, and vertically, above the confines of time and space, towards the realm of Gods and Philosophers.

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The stories. I’ve heard on sites &forums. most so called. t/ fs runs away. now if that was true love why would. they run? u would think they wouldn’t. i think its just a myth. there’s no real proof. Ppl foolin around. with married. ppl sayin oh he/ she’s my t/ f. i remember. one story. i read this woman. was foolin with this guy that was married. Her messages sounded soo pompous. ,Sayin he’s my twin I’m goin after him. rude &everything. ,I’m thinking. u know. it would serve her right if those two married. couple. had a open… Read more »

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newly unplugged

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Welcome meatslinger.

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“that religion and belief could be explained as psychological (fear of mortality) constructs” Blax wrote only just that religion is doable but only after a complete overhaul, or such. (I think) He’s right in that it’s doable. But an overhaul isn’t needed as any self respecting RP guy doesn’t need leadership in knowing one’s self, what works. Religion is supposed to be an explanation of how to maximize our lives while on Earth, now. Hence forget about tomorrow. Example: humility isn’t hiding your RP candle under a bushel basket. It’s showing the world what you can do to sustain and… Read more »

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