The Best of Rational Male – Year One

The Best of Rational Male – Year One

The Basics

Plate Theory

Plugged-In

Unplugging

Game

Communication

Social Conventions

Hypergamy

Iron Rules of Tomassi

Mythology

The Feminine Imperative

If you have any other favorites that really spoke to you, but didn’t make my list, please link them and tell me how it helped.

43 comments

  1. I, single guy, was just turned on to your site by a good married friend of mine. I know he wishes sites like this existed pre-marriage for him. 😉 Great site! Please keep up the good work.

  2. I’m not one to leave comments but for a website that has changed my life, I would have to make an exception. Thank you so much for these mind blowing pieces of work. Keep them coming

  3. Wow! I just read all this in the space of 48 hours and it has really opened my eyes thank you!

  4. Haha, totally convinced about the greatness of the ‘alpha male’ as all a woman ever wants. Well, the ‘alpha male’ is not much more then a woman’s disposable tampon. Easy to use, easy to dump. The ‘beta male’ is more difficult, as he is more interested in depth in relationships and something long term and love and love is a scary thing. So yes the beta gets less pussy but pussy is not his main interest anyway his main interest is the depth of the connection he can have with being with a woman.

  5. I’m quite happy that a guy like this didn’t found your blog in his younger years and decided to spend his time in the gym and start some business and earn lots of money just so he could fuck woman. He shines much brighter as he is now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n8V94WQjMAw

    I think the vision most people on this blog on what a man should be is very limited and narrow minded.

  6. mr wazimbo,
    Quote:
    Haha, totally convinced about the greatness of the ‘alpha male’ as all a woman ever wants.

    Read the blog more carefully. AF/BB. Rollo never states that women only want AF.
    Quote2:
    Well, the ‘alpha male’ is not much more then a woman’s disposable tampon. Easy to use, easy to dump.
    Captain Obvious!? You’re alive!

    Quote3:
    The ‘beta male’ is more difficult, as he is more interested in depth in relationships and something long term and love and love is a scary thing.

    Different doesn’t always means difficult. Competing in other field. Just like you can’t compare soccer with basketball.

    So yes the beta gets less pussy but pussy is not his main interest anyway his main interest is the depth of the connection he can have with being with a woman.

    If he doesn’t have problem with that woman constantly, cheating on him – yeah sure why not. Also, why not raise his kids on the way?

    More quotes –
    I’m quite happy
    He shines much brighter
    I think the vision most people on

    A lot of opinions you have here. Care to start your own blog? It seems this post would be much more relevant there.

  7. Yes, I have opinions. No opinions allowed in a reply? I have more opinions: Like that all this differation between man and woman doesn’t make so much sense. People are complex mixtures of conventions, backgrounds, hormones, genes, brain chemistry, education, skills, affected by social environments etc. etc. and that makes up a Person. Why talk so much about ‘man’ and ‘woman’ Man should be like this, woman are like that, bla bla. Well guess what, what might work on one person might not work at all on an other. Why talk about games, competition, winning, losing, scoring? Why not talk about chemestry, love, being on the same ‘wavelenght’ and love for a person?

    I also get the feeling that ‘woman’ are being demonized and downgraded in this whole manosphere community…just becauze some people got kicked in the nuts some times. Well my advice would be to just enjoy falling on your face from time to time. It’s not only woman who can kick you in the nuts, it’s People.

  8. Quote 1:
    Differation between man and woman doesn’t make so much sense

    Since we both agree that this is an opinion – why don’t you prove your point? If you don’t understand it, it doesn’t mean it is wrong.

    https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/personal-incredulity

    Quote 2:
    People are complex mixtures of conventions, backgrounds, hormones, genes, brain chemistry, education, skills, affected by social environments etc. etc. and that makes up a Person.

    Yes they are, and when generalizing you should always be aware of that. But in studying dogs, one may assume all of them hear better than they see. Generally. And this is the reasoning behind the generalizations about man and woman.

    Quote 3:
    what might work on one person might not work at all on an other.

    Yes, and if it was the case here, this blog would be useless. But it isn’t.

    Quote 4:
    Why talk about games, competition, winning, losing, scoring? Why not talk about chemestry, love, being on the same ‘wavelenght’ and love for a person?

    Because the the first half of your list is working for most men. The second isn’t. Again, if something doesn’t work it will not be used.

    Quote 5:
    I also get the feeling that ‘woman’ are being demonized and downgraded in this whole manosphere community.

    Feelings are good. They just cannot be used as arguments. The way you feel is not the way most woman, that I show this blog to, feel.

    Quote 6:
    Well my advice would be to just enjoy falling on your face from time to time.

    No thank you. But go for it.

    Quote 7:
    It’s not only woman who can kick you in the nuts, it’s People.

    Yes, but while we manage to understand the one half of people and the reasons for their betrayal, this blog helps us to understand the other half.

  9. Hey Everyone,

    Long time AFC, first time Alpha.

    I just want to say, I’ve grown to love the community. You guys are amazing.

    I also have something I hope you guys can help.

    To keep it short, a while back (5 months), I became reacquainted with an old friend, who used to be the girlfriend of my old friend, up until he cheated on her; or so she told me.

    Fast forward, we meet up for drinks on the basis of catching up and we ended up making out, which ultimately led to us getting out in my car. Things were going great but as soon as I reached second base, she stopped and told me, not “let’s be friends”, but “let’s take it slow”.

    I hope someone can explain the psychology of her mind by that statement.

    I understand the lack of context is not helpful but do what you can.

    Best regards,

    Noe

  10. To get a better answer you should probably go to red pill reddit.
    There is not enough info on her, so “probably” will become a star here. As far as I see it:
    She reconnected with you 5 month ago.
    Probably she has been checking her “surroundings” for some time. You are (most probably) one of her “cash in” pool. Of course you don’t know that. Probably she is in her epiphany right about now and on the lookout for the best BB she can find. This should be apparent to you because “when she wants to fuck you – she will”. But she didn’t. I’m sorry mate, but it seems to me you are not enough “Alpha” for her.

    Here are some things you should refresh in your head, read in order:
    https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/06/the-medium-is-the-message/
    https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/09/the-tool-of-asd/
    https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/23/schedules-of-mating/

  11. Hi Rollo,

    I’m a dedicated follower of the Rational Male blog for cca 1 year now and I’ve got your paperbacks as well. Your insights have completely changed my life… for the better, and I’ve directed several friends to your site for advice too. But, unfortunately, not all of them speaks english well enough to be able to read your articles.

    So I’m thinking about translating your books to my native language. I’m a good and experienced translator, I’ve translated professional texts as well as literature. I have MA in philosophy but I work in the IT industry now. I’m quite educated in psychology too.

    How could we start a private discussion about the possibility of translating your books to my native language and publishing it as an e-book, for example? (I don’t think it’d make sense to publish it in paperback form, as my language is spoken only by cca 15M people worldwide.)

    Regards,
    NomoreMrNiceGuy

    PS: I agree to almost every word that you have put down so far, except one minor thing: IMHO you’re quite unfair with C. G. Jung. By saying that every man’s soul has a feminine part (the anima) that he should accept and integrate doesn’t mean that he should become less masculine and more feminine! To the contrary! He says that you have to come to terms with your anima in order to AVOID being uncounciously overcome by and getting controlled by it! IMHO C. G. Jung would never call today’s pro-feminist manboobs men who have successfully integrated their anima. He would call them men who have a serious mental disorder that he called anima-possession. Anima-possession occurs when someone is unable to integrate his anima into his healthy, masculine self, but lets it take control of him… either by pushing it down into the uncounscious or by missing the opportunity to develop a healthy, masculine self.🙂

  12. I’m in the same boat as many other men that have commented on your blog. I’m in the military, and had a somewhat “invincible” mindset for years. That is until a very disgusting end to an LTR completely shattered me. I was searching for answers and saw a link to your blog. I spent 10 hours straight reading anything that caught my eye. I just finished reading The Rational Male, and I’m looking forward to Preventive Medicine.

    Thank you for sharing your insights with us. I’m new to the community and facing my own blue pill conditioning head on everyday. Your thoughts and how you convey them make using my eyes “for the first time” more like following a path, instead of wandering through a dark forest. Can’t thank you enough, and keep up the great work.

    crazedtexan25@gmail.com

  13. I am, Rollo🙂 Couldn’t it be an idea to make a page with all posts grouped by year? As is now we’ll have to dig through them all except the ones you chose to be the best.
    I would love a complete list so that I can see which ones I haven’t read yet.
    Thanks brother. Keep it up!

  14. Hello everyone and Rollo. I am just finishing your book preventive medicine. I am female I should add although I hope that fact doesn’t change the answer to your question. I’m really interested in MRAs and the related dialog he, and am aware of Esther Villar ‘s opinion of women like me. In the book you mention that women love opportunistically (I apologize if that’s not a real word) and that women first love what the man is as a prerequisite to who a man is. You also mention that men “love for love’s sake” and this is what differs how men and women love. I am wondering if someone is able to explain what love for love’s sake means and what it is about women that men love, or think they love. Apart from the fact that men expect and hope for women to be innocent and undirty when it comes to sex. Knowing now that women have a planned agenda for as to why they get into monogamous relationships and marriage, I’d like insight on why men do it. Also, do you think there is such a thing as an Alpha female and Beta female, or are they women who are unable to relate to the stereotypes in the book and posts simply in denial for whatever reason? Thanks everyone.

  15. I’ve made typos, sorry, I have the flu my brain feels a bit heavy. I meant to say answer to my question. Not yourself. Thank you.

  16. Rollo. Your blogs, videos,and, most of all, your book has helped me to finally unplug and see things for what they are. I feel smarter and more self aware now. I’ve begun to take some more time out of my life to focus on my passions, not for women, but for myself and I’ve never felt more determined. Be that for what it is (nothing short of revolutionary), I still can’t get a date to follow through. The hot ones always cancel last second and I don’t know exactly why. I know it’s something I’m either doing or not doing but I still have a hard time getting to the bottom of it. What compels them to say yes in the first place? What, in a general sense, might be some signs that the date is counterfeit?

  17. I keep coming back to this important idea: “desire cannot be negotiated”

    You do a good job discussing men in LTR’s attempting to rekindle attraction through misguided attempts to properly align himself with his woman, which of course only leads to failure and further frustration.

    But this also has important ramifications for physically unattractive men such as myself. When I analyse my previous actions and mistakes, I realize how much of what I did was motivated by a desire to preserve my ego and skip over this fundamental principle. So many bluepill rationalizations and strategies for winning over the women I liked revolved around denying my unattractiveness and attempting to minimize it’s importance for generating interest (and getting sex, to be blunt).

    Since my “unplugging,” I’ve saved so much time and energy by not pursuing women who were clearly not attracted to me (and in some cases repulsed). I had to learn this: NO amount of courting, hanging out, listening, befriending, gift-buying, or favor-doing will EVER spark that genuine desire which is the precursor for any success. That sucks to swallow when you are physically low-SMV, and I’m sure it’s one of the reasons that redpill men so frequently recommend weightlifting (among many other benefits).

    In the end, I’m wondering about what that baseline for desire is (generally) and how quickly it is established. I’m assuming that it is a very quick physical assessment, with the option to lower considerably if any beta traits are displayed. I’m also assuming that physicality trumps behavior most of the time (a short, overweight man who behaves like the alpha will skunk out more frequently than the tall jacked dude who acts like a bitch). What are your thoughts on this, and the importance of having a baseline of mutual physical attraction in general (this aspect has always been minimized and dismissed by culture and by well-meaning friends)?

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