This week there’ve been a rash of articles all outlining the latest statistics about marriage in this decade. US marriage rates are at a 150 year low and, if you believe the all-female article writers, it’s of course men’s fault for failing to be marriageable. These articles are referencing a study published last week titled Mismatches in the Marriage Market and this study reveals large deficits in the supply of potential male spouses. One implication is that the unmarried may remain unmarried or marry less well‐suited partners.
That’s right gentlemen, you’re unmarriageable and the ladies want you to shape up. If you want to experience marital bliss – despite all the inherent personal dangers for men in today’s “marriage economy” – you must make yourself “economically attractive“:
“Most American women hope to marry, but current shortages of marriageable men — men with a stable job and a good income — make this increasingly difficult,” says lead author Daniel Lichter in a press release.
The stats don’t lie and they are pretty bleak. More women are enrolled in college than ever before and more are expected to enter through the middle of the coming decade. Now, a degree doesn’t guarantee a woman a job, and it says nothing about the majors and job sectors women prefer, but a college education does reinforce the idea that women are entitled to marry an economically attractive man who himself has an education and enough aspiration to make something of himself to become marriageable.
That’s some real shit right there and we’re not even half way through this post. We’ve gotten to the point where the truth of the past five decades is apparent; gendered politics has actively, openly, disadvantaged men in terms of education. Whether this hobbling of men is via educational dispensations (Title IX) or social conventions (divorce, child support, Duluth model feminism) the outcome is now unignorable.
In most western societies today there is a separate standard of justice that applies to women. Women are receive far fewer consequences and are sentenced much more leniently than men for committing the exact same crimes. These are easily proven statistics, but even when they are brought to light the gynocentric social order doubles down and justifies them because, women.
My intent here today isn’t to depress anyone. Neither am I drawing attention to this because I’ve made a new turn to the Men Rights Movement. No doubt there’ve been many article already written about the female hubris inherent in these revelations – revelations the Red Pill community has been pointing out for almost two decades now.
The manifestations of about 50 years of social changes produced by a feminine-primary social order are unignorable. Even mainstream media sources are finally seeing these stories as the red meat du jour for the masses now. A lot of the Red Pill principles and I and many other men in the Manosphere have been drawing attention to about intersexual dynamics are now coming to light in popular consciousness.
Aww Quit Complaining
Last year I delivered the State of the Manosphere Address, and in that talk I outlined the rise of what I saw as a new Gender War (or gender cold war). Naturally I was called a reactionary, and have been since described as “overly negative” even by the organization that asked me to deliver that speech. But yet, everything in that outline has come to pass in less than a year. Of course, the easy dismissal is to blame this on election year propaganda. More than one mainstream talkshow conservative has jumped on the Toxic Masculinity bandwagon, pointing out how the Left and mainstream feminism are one and the same.
However, there have been many swings of the political pendulum in the past 50 years. Conservative zeitgeists have contributed to the same feminine-primary social order that’s resulted in men being unmarriageable today. It’s just been good politics to appeal to the Feminine Imperative no matter what side of the political aisle you happen to sit on.
But I’m a man. I’m not supposed to be overly concerned with issues like this. As long as I’m measuring up to my Burden of Performance any marginal raising-of-awareness to truths like the ones above make me seem like I’m complaining. And that’s something men are never allowed to do. It’s a very effective way of silencing men. Get them to feel like they ought to silence themselves. Real men don’t complain.
Meanwhile, it’s Broke Men who are hurting American Women’s Marriage Prospects. My good friend Dalrock once wrote a series of post around the idea that feminism would be so much more successful if men would only cooperate with it. When women are unable to optimally complete their mating (and life’s) strategies it’s men’s fault for being uncooperative. It’s men’s fault when women’s life plans don’t come together as Sheryl Sandberg told them it would. It’s men’s fault when they won’t play the approved role they should when women hit their Epiphany Phase and their sexual priorities shift.
Confirming the Red Pill
If you needed a better illustration of the Solipsism inherent in women’s nature you’ll be hard pressed to find it on a bigger scale than the dozens of stories bemoaning the lack of marriageable men today. Furthermore, it goes to prove another Red Pill truth: as a man, women don’t care who you are as much as what you are. I’ve taken a lot of heat over the years over my assessment of how men and women have different concepts of love. Men love idealistically. I rarely get any pushback on that assertion, but when I layout how women’s Hypergamous natures predispose them to a concept of love based on opportunism men and women lose their minds.
Yet, here we are. Women enthusiastically proving my point for me without me having to do any heavy lifting. As women become more comfortable in Open Hypergamy we see this embracing of their nature proudly flaunted. Naturally women will double down on this.
“Of course women don’t wanna marry no bum!”
And then the Trad-Cons join the chorus,
“It’s men’s fault they aren’t measuring up to being the men all women are entitled to.”
There are dozens of studies that correlate divorce with women earning more than their husbands. In fact, women are reluctant to admit that they out-earn their husbands. Throughout the history of this blog I’ve shown the evolved reasons for this dynamic, but what the articles all dance around is women’s natural evolutionary desire for men who exceed them in all aspects. But because we’ve opted to believe in, and standardized on, social constructionism we lay all of that on “societal expectations” of men and women. In a future essay I’ll be defining how the cope of humans being ‘above it all’ in their evolved instincts is the root source of many deliberate misgivings about intersexual conflict. For now, understand that blaming any inconvenient intersexual truth on a nebulous “society” is the go-to rationale for a feminine-primary social order.
“If only men would evolve and rise above what society foists on them we women would be happy” versus “Men need to accommodate women’s success by making themselves more ‘economically desirable’“
And “Oh, but love is important too, *wink wink*.”
“Many young men today have little to bring to the marriage bargain, especially as young women’s educational levels on average now exceed their male suitors’,” Lichter says.
It’s interesting that some articles advocate for marriage as a “stabilizing force” in society, all while never (maybe deliberately) seeing the economic risks of disaster that the divorce industry incentivizes in women. There’s nothing stabilizing about promoting marriage between men you’ve deemed “economically unattractive” and women who feel entitled to a man who exceeds their Hypergamous expectations. There’s nothing ‘stabilizing’ about the incidence of divorce between couples where the man is unable to out-earn his wife.
Naturally we want to make this a ‘his‘ problem. He can’t get over the fact that she makes more, has more education, etc. He’s insecure in his masculinity and must feel threatened by Her success. Or it could be the fact that on an instinctual level he understands that it’s an evolved imperative for a man to provide for and protect his family. This is the fallacy of Rise Above It. No matter how enlightened and progressive we’d like to think we are nature drags us back to reality. It’s not a socially constructed problem – if it were it would be easily solved – it’s a human nature problem. Women reveal the true Hypergamous nature in articles like these. They want a man who they can naturally look up to, respect and admire. That’s the natural truth coming out, but they source the problem in a socially constructed fantasy that it’s men’s insecurities that are holding them back from completing women’s mating/life strategies.
Women don’t need to get married anymore. The average age of first marriage is hovering around 27 years old for most couples. Studies also show that more than half of young people in America don’t have a romantic partner. We’ve all but eliminated the Beta Bucks side of the Hypergamous equation for women. Open Hypergamy (and Open Cuckoldry) are the logical outcomes of this provisioning insurance we’ve made ubiquitous for women over the last 40 years. Yet, women still want to be married to a man who outclasses them in all areas of life. They feel they deserve that guy. Their hindbrain knows they do, but the nebulous society still encourages women to believe there’s never been a better time for them to be single. This is the message women are being fed as they complain about men’s not living up to being their “equals”.
Nearly half of working-age women will be single in 2030, a new Morgan Stanley study predicts, a demographic that will drive increased sales for companies in the athletic wear, cosmetics and clothing sectors.
The investment bank’s “Rise of the SHEconomy” report says 45 percent of working-age women between 25 and 44 in the U.S. will be single women in 10 years, Forbes reported.
Single women will drive the economy in the next decade and savvy businesses are already planning on exploiting this demographic. But yet it’s men’s fault for not being marriageable and/or avoiding marriage altogether?
Too many people think I’m down on marriage. Apparently 23 years of what most guys would consider an ideal marriage isn’t enough to convince them. Honestly, as an institution – socially enforced monogamy – I think marriage, based on evolved gender difference complementarity has been the foundation of the success of western culture. But maybe we’re at a turning point in human history where traditional marriage is left behind, replaced by feminine-primary polygamy with all its inherently violent risks. It seems we’re heading in a direction where we convince Beta men it’s in their reproductive interests to abandon their evolved need to be invested in their own paternity – and that attending to and raising the children of men that women selected before them makes them ‘better men’.
There’s a lot more to the anti-marriage reasoning than just the “losing half my stuff” arguments.
It really sucks for a guy like me who’s managed to make a Red Pill aware marriage work in spite of all this. Guys get confused. How can I be anti-marriage and still married? But it’s just that dichotomy that tells the you about the nature of what marriage has become for men today. The way we do marriage today has the potential to be the most damaging decision a man can make in his life. It may even end his life. But despite all that I still believe men and women are better together than we are apart. We still evolved to be complements to the other.
It’s the coming together and living together, and all the downside risks to men today that I have no solution for at the moment. Maybe it’s going to take a war or a meteor striking the earth to set gender parity back in balance, but at the moment there’s only a future of sexual segregation to look forward to.
Palma, yes, so this online dating thing is interesting. My approach to the “3pm cancellation” was just to assume it was going to happen and either double book dates or have an alternative plan always available (for first dates when I hadn’t met the girl before). Even 4-5 years ago when I was in the peak of my online dating, the first date flake rate was 50% plus. I’ve had a similar path to you in the sense that I’ve wound down my online dating. Even back in the day, the effort/reward ratio for messages/dates wasn’t really worth it and… Read more »
“It would be interesting to see the dating apps’ internal figures about customer engagement use and whether there is a drop in male use” The ones who have dropped out are the bottom of the 80% of males. Because they got fed up with getting zero matches (or the girls they did end up matching with (because online guys typically swipe right on everything) were hb3-5s. And they figured paying that monthly premium (whatever the cost for that is) for them wasn’t worth it). Chads are still dominating tinder/bumble. Just that it isn’t as easy as it used to be… Read more »
@thedeti I read Novaseeker as saying in his comments on this post, that women have adapted within this particular milieu. In other words, women noted the changes and have adapted to them. It helps that the changes were geared to them and prepared with them in mind. But women have adapted, and men have not. You can observe women’s usual behavior, then turn around and tell me with a straight face that all that meets the dictionary definition of „adaptation”, and I’ll believe you. But if you then try to convince me that men’s behavior, on the other hand, does… Read more »
Lol, there’s no way ever that I’d believe that 20% of men got 80% of women.
In fact, not only did it happen, but the ratio used to be much more lopsided:
In Hollenhund’s laughable article, you find gems like the following: “Ethnic Africans and Europeans had to evolve to digest milk”.
Yep, babies couldn’t digest breast milk. It’s true. Some pointy head said it and I believe it. :):):)
Yep, babies couldn’t digest breast milk.
That article was sloppy. It should have read ‘cow’s milk’. There a specific genetic mutation in humans for the ability to produce the enzyme to break down lactose
In fact, not only did it happen, but the ratio used to be much more lopsided:
This was even documented in the Bible.
As well as the following children’s Sunday school song:
Father Abraham, had many sons,
Many sons ha father Abraham,
And I am one of them, and so are you…
so let’s all praise the Lord
right arm left arm nod your head turn around sit down….
@Palmasailor Sentient ?? “BFYTW!…lol” Sentient told you what the acronym stands for, but i think it’s interesting because it’s a direct reaction to the liberal ideological ‘defense’ of ‘because’…lol normie: why do you believe THAT is true? (whatever stupid cultural assertion liberal/progressives make) sjw: because… [expecting this ‘argument’ to carry the debate…) normie: because why? (really trying to understand…) sjw: BECAUSE… normie: because WHY? sjw: BECAUSE!!!!!!…. [storming off in a huff… before trying to dox the normie for ‘bad think’…]…lol normie: ????WTF??? that^^ is just an ideological defense of a cultural belief… that really CAN’T have any grounding in reality…lol…… Read more »
Seems to me that Novaseeker is merely embodying the spirit of Male Hierarchy. If anybody should be calling out weak men, it’s strong, healthy men. The issue is the preponderance of weak men make society wobbly and chaotic, which is bad for everyone. Reading between the lines of books like Sex at Dawn and Manthropology (the later a fun read, if taken in the spirit it’s offered) one sees that men always had to be taught by other men to man-up through rites of passage (morphing into apprenticeships and mentorship programs in the market system) Women cannot do this for… Read more »
Once again, with feeling:
Understand what’s happening with” society “, then decouple from it and all its fuckery immediately.
Learn how to navigate and use societal nonsense to your benefit instead of just blindly joining in and being a dutiful follower.
The whole” tree ” thing? Men shouldn’t give any fucks about this. If you ignore all of that outside of just hearing it, it’s pretty hard not to be an oak.
The “tree thing” is just a metaphor, a teaching tool,ie. Another way to put things.
Just trying to be helpful, and suggesting some books I enjoyed that relate to the current topic and red-pill.
As HABD would say, good luck!
solid 40’s demo… It’s so sad really…
“look at me!!! look at me in the shop window!!! Somebody tell me I’m prettty!!!”
Wager more than half have some kind of “strong independent” bio…
This kind of display, this neediness is such a turn off. I don’t think I could ever online date.
How were the ones that opened you?
This is what I was looking for:
arousing pity, especially through vulnerability or sadness.
Meanwhile Zaddy’s are taking over…
“Meanwhile Zaddy’s are taking over…”
How much money will you spend to look like you shop at the salvation army. Three outa five look like they are expecting flood waters or are wearing handmedown slacks. The other two are OK looks.
“Not kidding though, it’s been ticking up for the past few months from a base thats been literally zero for years, and I haven’t changed the profile.”
Your a trend setter, or the global situation is spiking hypergamy and these women are giving up their independence for a strong protector.
Men shouldn’t give any fucks about this. If you ignore all of that outside of just hearing it, it’s pretty hard not to be an oak.
I was wondering what piece of shit are you?
Person with Dissociative Personality Disorder
Person with Avoidant Personality Disorder
Person with Split Multiple Personality Disorder
Damn we’re onto race again??? I just had a breakthrough on male nature and fatherhood and shit. Literal cow manure. Just my fucking luck. I’ll have to catch up with this later.
“That article was sloppy. It should have read ‘cow’s milk’. There a specific genetic mutation in humans for the ability to produce the enzyme to break down lactose” We are all born with that gene…some people lose the ability somewhere in adulthood…something must happen to make that gene ineffective in some people…the lactase regulation gene is recessive, which means that heterozygous genes allow lactose digestion…the fact that the loss of lactase expression in adulthood requires homozygous genes indicates that the recessive gene is a mutation…so lactose tolerance into adulthood used to be the norm at some point all across the… Read more »
Palma, these old professional gals are piling up like driftwood after the spring runoff. You are what they are looking for but they don’t know or care what you want. I’ve talked to some and they are all brag about their accomplishments and assets( trying to qualify themselves to me. LOL) but they aren’t happy not even the ones with children. They are looking for the rugged individualist or they wouldn’t give me the time of day. My main problem with it is they don’t know how to overcome strength by taking the lower position in other words not in… Read more »
Palma, also on another note the same age group of women are increasing in the local homeless sector. I am starting to see more of them than the men. This is a sign of an overwhelmed system that deals with these types. Like driftwood.
@thedeti If you want women and sex, you’re going to have to make yourself attractive to women. And the way you’re going to do that, the ONLY way to do that, is to stand out. Yes, but the trading plane has grown substantively more tilted against men. Before you’d work 5 and get 3, now you should work 8 or 9 to get 1 or 2. Girls compare you with all the men they see on Facebook and other social media/dating apps. Also, their parents no longer have a say in their choices — hardworking betas with heavy degrees got… Read more »
In other words… the red pill hasn’t improved my success with women; it has brought it down to nought. I had the most success when I was blue pill. I had half the success when I was half red pill. I have had zero success since I am completely redpilled. Even if I was given a great body, a swollen wallet, and lofty social status/career tomorrow, playing the mating rituals would still have me sickened, and very angry, at nature if nothing/no-one else. I am not even black pill now. I still think life has pleasant sides, and moments, and… Read more »
“Yes, but the trading plane has grown substantively more tilted against men.” …well, as men grow weaker in the knees, the plane may seem to become more tilted… “Also, the very idea that I have to work to get her while she has to stay there, mentally idle, and do the picking, “ …that’s the angry MGTOW view, but it ain’t reality…I know when pretty girls hit on me late at night that their options are limited…not ragging on myself, but I know that they are hanging around late at the bar without meeting ‘Chad’ and they’ve been hit on… Read more »
“Even if I was given a great body, a swollen wallet, and lofty social status/career tomorrow, playing the mating rituals would still have me sickened, and very angry, at nature if nothing/no-one else.”
Why are you angry? Have you examined yourself?
“Also, the very idea that I have to work to get her while she has to stay there, mentally idle”
…more like in a constant state of insecurity and worry…and girls are experts at hiding their emotions when they want to…girls look mentally idle, but they aren’t…girls worry that other girls are prettier, so they throw themselves at men…the prettier girls worry that men aren’t approaching them enough and that they might lose out to less attractive girls (which happens a lot)…men will mate down, unlike women…
…so you need to become truly Red Pill…
“Yes, but the trading plane has grown substantively more tilted against men. Before you’d work 5 and get 3, now you should work 8 or 9 to get 1 or 2. Girls compare you with all the men they see on Facebook and other social media/dating apps.” The ” trading plane “(?) has grown substantively more tilted against weak men. FIFY. Serious question, because I get a little tired of the ” Girls do this…” thrown out as indisputable fact. Do you actually see, with one or both of your own eyes, girls comparing you yourself with all of the… Read more »
Lol, we’re ” cosmically ” connected or some shit.
Thanks for posting this –
As I was explaining in a way to TT, Shit’s happening to my body more rapidly and it’s time to get back to serious work. I’m starting to suffer from ” old man ass ” where your pants start sagging a bit in the rear. Gotta address this shit before I wind up like this in a couple of years
Zaddy’s rule!!!! Lol.
So much red stuff or whatever in here
“Gotta address this shit before I wind up like this in a couple of years”
Luv this comment…chicks seem to dig guys with small butts…my butt has definitely shrunk from what it was when I was younger…girls touch it a lot now, lol…
I’ll cosign on the mating market shift, something I can see also. I was out hiking with a guy with a guy this week, after talking he confessed porn was just easier for him at this point than dealing with women at this point, this is a fit guy, not autistic, decent socially, has a house/job, etc. Contrary to common red pill wisdom, not all non redpill guys are white knights, some understand the game but just have no wish to play it. In the coming years women are going to start piling up as they hit their late 30s/40s… Read more »
I was out and it tricky business park the other night eaves dropping on successful business women in their 30s and 40s chatting about how there are no professional white collar and choose from as they are all taken, but there’s a lot of skilled treatment at blue collar men yet none of the women dared to show interest with one another seeking these prospective men as they apparently feared embarrassment or lowering their expected sexual market value being associated with lowering their social status. Yet ironically almost all of my successful blue-collar skilled tradesmen are dating or married to… Read more »
“men restructure themselves for ‘themselves’ (like Novaseeker is suggesting)… that focus is much different… and the results won’t be ‘civilization’…”
This is on the money, prior to red pill I was a lot more civic/society minded and would take that into consideration. Post red pill the improvement is for myself and myself only and those whom I choose to share it with. The results will not definitely be “civilization” but rather tribal/familial.
“when the university considered race, it did so only to benefit applicants’ chances — as a “plus” factor — not to hurt them.”
Good news Chinamen… Your race isn’t a negative. It’s just not a positive.
Not sure where to file this?
Under “racism is a social construct” or “some animals are more equal than others”…
@Sentient: file it under “Quotas are discrimination”, same kind of thing. In a zero sum game (and admissions is clearly zero sum), positively benefiting one is the same as negatively affecting everyone else, and discriminating one is the same as positively affecting everyone else. This isn’t even that hard to get… But I’m still unsure on this: “when the university considered race, it did so only to benefit applicants’ chances — as a “plus” factor — not to hurt them.” my doubt is whether whoever wrote that is actually just putting positive spin on it intentionally or if they actually… Read more »
Off-Post, but On-Blog topic:
Any of you guys watch Tim Pool?
A couple videos of his from the past 5 days or so are HILARIOUS….
Keep in mind Tim is very very deeply blue-pill, but he’s not a dishonest person. He just clings to specific beliefs and has reasons for doing so. He will, however, confront all lies including those in his own life (given time).
First one, September 29th
Follow-up, October 1st
Has anyone picked up on the fact that’s Corey Worthington (a.k.a. “Alpha Buddha”) in the cover pic??
RT’s selection is no accident.
The irony of Corey settling for that landmass😆
@Corey was the standard for “Natural” alphahood. “Unrehearsed alphahood” The many steak-eating, gun-shooting Americans on this blog, descended from the Boomers and inheriting their sensibilities, require that their “Tallest trees be born from the hardiest Acorns.” Therefore, they make the false assumption that Alphas are bulletproof once they become Alphas. But they don’t. First they gain the will to self-determine, THEN they move to prove their power and potential among other men. One of those abilities is “making it look easy.” Which inspires confidence from the other baboons in the troop. Some win and some lose at this. The foolish… Read more »
Tim released a 3rd video. This is educational watching someone who is defending a fem-centric culture to death but is also honest no matter what try to deal with attacks. It’s like watching an unstoppable force meet immovable object.
Completely feminized take on Ad Astra (stoicism = toxic masculinity)
@The church lady Rollo
I wouldn’t be worried if I were you. The Red Pills will soon be “Red Pilled” on MGTOWs(and male nature) and then likely what will happen is that they’ll shrink the gap between the two outlooks considerably if not dissolve it entirely.
” whoever wrote that is actually just putting positive spin on it intentionally or if they actually believe it,”
Whoever is Federal District Court Judge Allison D. Burroughs, who wrote 130 page decision on this…
You can be sure she very much believes it…
” there’s a lot less bullshit in blue collar jobs”
Lol, have you ever done blue collar work? I have, and I’ve seen plenty of bullshit in blue collar work. Workers fucking up and the union covering for them. Workers destroying their pinkie finger in order to get money to buy a new bass boat. Racketeering. Etc.
I’ve also done white collar and there’s plenty of bullshit there, too.
And no one was there for him. They expected him to be happy with his own opinions.
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Here’s the classic result of toxic feminism and the normalization of single mothers, and it’s goal of the destruction of the West…
“It’s the coming together and living together, and all the downside risks to men today that I have no solution for at the moment.”
I think the only solution for men is to be M.D ( preferably surgeon) for leveraging status. ALL THE Other ways are all about genetical gifts and pure luck.
The Silver FoX
Here’s the classic result of toxic feminism and the normalization of single mothers, and it’s goal of the destruction of the West…
Nah, that’s just hypergamy and LARPing. Downscale version of Lana del Rey.
I only hope that the photo is not from a real marriage.
I only hope that the photo is not from a real marriage.
It is real. Think of it as an example, of the “Don’t be this guy!” kind.
“Single women will drive the economy in the next decade” I have some doubt about this. Not that I have a hypothesis, just that I don’t think the underlying premsies which have made this true for the past ~20 years will hold true moving forward. Yes, women will likely continue to get more degrees. But those degrees don’t lead to paying jobs. And we’re seeing that crisis already with “student loan debt relief” being a new political thing rivaling Healthcare (whose solution is much more rooted and known). But even that is just a symptom. The automation that likes of… Read more »
“I came across research suggesting that tiny neuronal stuctures called spines in the hippocampus, a brain structure involved in memory, are denser in female rats than they are in male rats. But in rats that received electrical shocks, which cause them stress, the sex difference is reversed: The spines are dense in males and sparse in females.” –Dr. Daphna Joel
In other words, even when male and female brains appear to be physically the same, they are different.
I’m 25 been red pill for about 5 years, in the gym for 3 years, banged maybe 15 women in the past 3 years since I left my ex. Point of the mater is I completely agree with you bossman. When you said your not completely turned off on marriage. It used to work, but women and men changed. Women forgot how to play their role and men got lazy and comfortable. However I do believe there are few women out there that do compliment the “rationale male”. I am currently talking with a female who is extremely submissive, and… Read more »
Tucsonrazorbacks that doesn’t mean you can’t become a viable mating partner. That’s the great thing about men, we can change, adapt and overcome. Get in shape. Don’t work 1 job, get 3. Save money. The issue is that back in the day guys like you would be married and have offspring. But women have been given power over their reproduction and look what’s happened. All women only want the top tier men and now they think they can just wait around for said man. Until 40 hits and men with their shit together don’t want some used car with a… Read more »