Little Big Head

One of the dichotomies I consistently see in the manosphere is the differences in how men approach the importance (or feigned unimportance) of sex. I got a bit sidetracked in last week’s essay. I was planing on writing about this phenomenon when I saw the need to explore how it impacted a larger social narrative. So, let’s consider this essay an addendum to The New Polyandry.

How men publicly and privately prioritize sex is always something that leads to a judgement call about that particular man, how he lives his life, and what it says about his integrity. If you openly make sex a “big deal” in your life, or you acknowledge its importance in intersexual relationships, you open yourself up to men’s Beta Game virtue signaling. The presumption is that if you were a real Alpha sex is just something you should have mastery over. If sex is at all important to a man, and he expresses this, that guy runs the risk of being seen as “obsessed with sex“, a “pussy beggar” or in someway less of a man for allowing sex to control his decisions.

Why is this the perception?

Two weeks ago I had a lively debate with the producer of Pat Campbell’s morning show. While we did have other topics to hit on that morning, she and I dug in and talked about how “sex is the glue that holds relationships together.” You can listen to the full segment here if you like.

As I mentioned last week, the notion that men need sex is nothing I haven’t covered in the past. In You Need Sex I made a case for the importance of sex and how it was, until recently, something that constituted part of a man’s life experience. Now it seems that being a sexless virgin at age 40 should be considered an accomplishment by certain factions in the manosphere: 

One very common dismissal of Red Pill awareness I read from Blue Pill men is this feigned, blasé indifference to sex.

For the most part this false-indifference is really a conditioned, response couched in Beta Game. The idea is for the Blue Pill guy to promote the public perception that he’s above his sexual impulses in the hopes that any girl within earshot (or reading his comments online) will recognize his uniqueness in not letting his cock do his thinking for him. From a male deductive logic standpoint it makes sense to the feminized male – women have all told him how off-put they are with guys who only think about sex, so he’ll identify with the women he’d like to get with and “not be like other guys.”

“All that Red Pill, PUA shit is for guy’s who obsess over sex. They only go to the lengths they do to get laid and never see the bigger picture. You don’t need sex you know? You wont die from not getting laid.”

[…]Thats the Beta Game behind the “you don’t need sex” Buffer, but there’s more to this rationale than that. Technically the Beta reasoning is correct; physically, you’re not going to die if you don’t get laid. You could probably masturbate to relieve yourself or live a sexless existence due to a physical disability and live a productive life as satisfying as you can manage it. If you don’t know what you’re missing or if a sexual substitute does the job, what’s the difference, right? The line of reasoning is that if it isn’t food, water or oxygen it isn’t really a necessity for existence.

You’re All Obsessed!

Self-righteous Blue Pill men always look to make their necessities into virtues. It also helps the men who fall on the 80% side of the Hypergamous Pareto curve to convince themselves and others that their sexual strategy – one that follows enforced monogamy – is the moral one; or the logical, common sense one absent the moral context. If you cannot get laid yourself, at least you can make getting laid into an ‘obsession‘ for the 20% of men who can. By doing so you encourage the 20% of men, who women desire to fuck, to police themselves and women by adopting your own, self-superior, one-woman-per-man sexual strategy.

Pretty much every MRA I’ve listened to, most Traditional Conservatives and a few MGTOWs, like to qualify men who can get laid as being in some way obsessed with getting laid. We’re told how morally superior they themselves are for essentially thinking with the big head instead of the little one, thus confirming their own part in a monogamous sexual strategy. As I mentioned in the last essay, a majority of men tend to fall on one side of the Strategic Pluralism Theory with respect to their sexual strategy.

Low SMV (sexual market value) men are basically forced to invest in one woman at a time if they are to successfully reproduce. This is the basis of a socio-sexual order founded on enforced monogamy. The larger pool of men benefit reproductively if the majority of men can be relied upon to follow the dictates of socially accepted, socially enforced, form of monogamy.

In the past this emphasis also had a culling effect on the worst aspects of women’s Hypergamous tendencies. If all men – including the 20% who could enjoy many women – agreed to play by the old social contract and adopted monogamy as their sexual strategy (in spite of being able to reproduce outside it) then more men would have the opportunity to reproduce. Furthermore, women’s Hypergamy would also be forced to accept lower SMV men’s monogamous strategy as a buffer to worst aspects of their own.

In the past, religious and social mores used to act as a buffer against Hypergamy, but the compromise for women was that they could expect to have the Beta Bucks provisioning aspects of their Hypergamy more or less provided for by the majority of men who adopted this strategy. In an evolutionary sense, protection and provisioning are already an integral part of the male mental firmware. But all of that went out the window after the Sexual Revolution, unilaterally female-controlled hormonal birth control and the socio-sexual/socioeconomic landscape that sprang from the Fempowerment narrative.

Today there is a radical imbalance between the old social contract upon which enforced monogamy was a key element and the new social contract dictated by a gynocratic social order that places women’s sexual strategy well above that of men’s. So it’s small wonder that men would revert back to 80% of low SMV men insisting on, and shaming, the 20% of high SMV men comply with a sexual strategy that women readily confirm isn’t in their best interests. 

On the male side of the strategic equation a majority of low SMV men cannot afford to have Alpha men playing by the rules of polygyny.

That polygyny is really a form of female-directed polyandry (see last week’s essay), but to the 20% of men who enjoy the benefits of falling on the enthusiastic consent side of Hypergamy it just makes sense to go with it. As such, low SMV men are compelled to find ways of discouraging these Alphas from following their r selected sexual strategy. They realize women will want, and pursue, Alphas. And in a polyandrous socio-sexual order based on the Alpha Fucks side of Hypergamy low SMV men drew the shortest straw.

Intrasexual Combat

When Beta men shame women for wanting to fuck Alpha men it has the effect of making those Beta men seem more insecure. In a feminine-primary social order one of the highest crimes is to attempt to challenge Hypergamy in any way. Even in a religious context, to challenge Hypergamy is to be guilty of repressing women’s sexuality. Today, just this impression is conflated with ‘toxic’ masculinity.

In truth, it would never occur to most low SMV men to shame women for their sexual strategy because they know that in doing so they reduce their own chances of reproduction. Women simply deem them ‘losers’ in the SMP (sexual marketplace). They become scolds, or worse, they become men who are “insecure in their masculinity” because they confirm their low SMV status in doing so. In today’s socio-sexual environment men policing women’s Hypergamy is a lost cause.

The solution then becomes an effort to disqualify the Alpha men they compete with by changing the rules that “real men” are supposed to play by. If you can’t win the Game, change the rules to better fit your strengths.

The ‘Real Man®‘ becomes the guy who exclusively invests himself in one ‘Quality Woman‘ – just like they do.

The apex of masculinity becomes whatever definition best aligns with what they believe they represent.

The’Real Man®‘ is the guy who best fulfills a woman’s, often duplicitous, sexual/life strategy by adopting the K mating strategy of socially/religiously enforced monogamy – just like they do. Oh, and the Quality Woman becomes whatever woman whose necessity compels her to agree with and adopt that strategy (Epiphany Phase).

The Real Man®‘ is the guy who plays by the old social contract rules of enforced monogamy, so more Betas might have a better shot at reproduction. True ‘Manhood‘ becomes a title Betas now feel qualified to bestow on other men; just as women also do with men who help complete their Hypergamous life-strategies. 

Trads vs. The Playboy Lifestyle

In order for Beta men to effect this reigning in of the Alpha men women want to tame and breed with, the high SMV man must be demonized and disqualified from the SMP for following his sexual/biological imperatives. The most common way to do this is by conflating his strategy with a degenerate hedonism. he must be made to seem as if he’s not in control of his sexual nature. So the effort becomes one of building an archetype around the ‘Playah‘ – A man who would be a bad long term bet for women’s Hypergamy because he lacks self-control. For this straw man character his little head does the thinking for the big head making him unreliable as a prospect for parental investment.

If enforced monogamy defines the accepted SMP, and women are presumed to be coequal, co-rational participants in it the ‘Playah’ needs to be cast as the outsider. The latent message is the same intrasexual combat method women use with ‘slut shaming‘; the ‘Playah‘ is a bad bet for long term security even if he is the guy women want to fuck.

However, that Playboy is a cruel reminder to low SMV men that they’ll never be able to fully exercise their own masculine imperative – unlimited access to unlimited sexuality. The closest the majority of men will ever get to this is online porn; which of course is why it’s so popular. There is a reason why 68% of Christian men watch porn. They understand that it’s the only viable substitute for their sexual imperative that they’re likely to experience in this lifetime.

While MRAs and MGTOW tend to reserve a special hate for ‘Playahs‘, it’s the Trad-Con mindset that is the most vocal against the Playboy lifestyle. There’s an overarching need amongst Trads to confirm their ego-investment in locking themselves into  enforced monogamy. 

There’s two complications to this:

First, Trad men (and women) tend to superimpose their religious and social belief set on their own sexual strategy. It’s a sin if they don’t accept monogamy as the standard. Today, this belief is a vestige of the old buffers that used to guard against either sex getting too far into their primal sexual impulses and strategies. It’s much easier to impose your sexual strategy on other men, effectively policing their strategy, if it’s ‘God’s Will’ that everyone behave according to that old social contract. I should add that this is the primary reason most Trad men suffer the worst from having their belief in the old set of books destroyed by Red Pill truths. It is galling for men who’ve invested their whole lives in the old social contract to have it vividly disproved by ‘Playahs’ (and women’s behaviors that confirm it) who understand the new social contract well enough to make it work for them.

Second, there’s the self-fulfilling idea that a man who opts for the traditional monogamous lifestyle is in some way more progressive or evolved, or life-satisfied than the ‘Playah‘ with the option to enjoy his non-exclusive sexual strategy. These are the guys who play up the ‘sour grapes’ Law of Power:

Law 36 – Disdain the things you cannot have

If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.

MRAs and Trads alike don’t like being reminded that sex has always been an integral part of a healthy life experience for the majority of men who’ve ever lived on this planet. However, to them, sex is almost always a reward for desired behavior that they believe women expect of them. For most of them sex is always transactional so they never live out any frame of reference of having sex with a woman in a validational sense. It’s likely that they will never experience sex in any other context than the transactional. This is simply one of the visceral realities of a Darwinian sexual marketplace. As such, this pretext colors all of their understanding about what is, or should be accepted as, a legitimate sexual strategy – which unsurprisingly is his enforced monogamy strategy.

“Meaningful” Sex

The low SMV majority have many contrivances to corral uncooperative Alphas to adopt their sexual strategy. However, there’s also an involved necessity to convince themselves that their Blue Pill conditioning is the best sexual strategy that would benefit everyone if we’d all just see the validity of it as they do. To effect this they apply a subjective “meaningfulness” to their enforced monogamy (K selection) and “meaninglessness” to pursuing men’s biological imperatives (r selection) or the Alpha sexual strategy.

As a result, low SMV men tend to deemphasize the importance of sex in life. I asked this in the introduction; why is there a perception that a man who enjoys many women is somehow having sex that is less ‘meaningful’ than a man whose sex live is dependent on his relationship with one woman – or, a man who is ostensibly celibate?

The tactic involved here is the control over what constitutes meaning in sex. Low SMV men need this control to direct a meta-Frame that foments their sexual strategy; sex is only valid if it’s ‘meaningful’ in a way that aligns with an enforced monogamy sexual strategy. Thus, they can disqualify high-SMV men by delegitimizing his sexual experience. The higher the notch count, the less meaningful the sexual experience – and the likelier he can be seeen as “obsessed‘ with (meaningless) sex.

“Meaning” is deliberately ambiguous to better salve the egos of low SMV men, but meaning only aligns with what better promotes the enforced monogamy strategy. This strategy conflict actually serves Hypergamy in the long run as well. Women will endorse the importance of meaningful sex since it helps to convince the r selected Alphas that they should (eventually) shift to K selected commitment and parental investment with them. To the Beta moralist, any sex that doesn’t implicitly lead to marriage, children and the formation of families it’s always ‘meaningless’.

For the less moralistic low SMV man the idea that sex is something easily had, something inherently cheap, serves in devaluing Alpha men’s sexual experience. A popular idea among MRAs is that meaningless sex is something any guy can realistically achieve in a random club on a Friday night. This also serves to debase the value of learning Game; something MRAs never seem to have any facility with. By unrealistically cheapening the process of Game the same ‘meaninglessness’ imperative is created.

If any guy can find a worthless club slut with minimal effort then the low SMV man can raise his value by appearing to have higher standards than to lower himself to doing so. See how that works? This is a variation of the ‘sour grapes’ strategy I mentioned earlier. The Alpha who can easily get women becomes common. And by enjoying what Beta men believe should be a common sexual experience that man is reducing himself to his baser instincts. They say he’s “obsessed with pussy” or a “pussy beggar” because he’s applied himself to learning, in the most marginal way, how to have sex on his terms. And if he plays by a rule set that doesn’t align with the “correct” rules all his efforts become “meaningless”.

I should add here that MRAs and some Trad-Con men also like to foment the idea that because they eschew all that easily-had “meaningless” sex that Alpha men and Low Quality women are engaging it frees him up to pursue more esoteric, philosophical and creatively productive pursuits. Again, this helps to boost their esteem while presenting the appearance of uniqueness in spite of the fact that few of them ever have anything concrete to show for it. Along these lines they also love to imply that famous celibate men of antiquity were somehow more accomplished because they had the forbearance of mind to understand sex was a hindrance. When no one believes you aren’t making your necessity a virtue it’s sometimes necessary to paint men more famous than you with the same false-virtues.

The common refrain is that they’ve reached some Nirvana state of higher purpose or that they’ve evolved above the common need for sex. They shame the Alpha’s intelligence by claiming they allow their sexual nature to dictate to their rational nature. This too is a sexual quality signaling (or they believe it should be). They hope that their coequal, co-rational, Quality women will respond to it because they presume they’re using the same enforced monogamy rule book. Most Beta moralists are egalitarian blank-slate equalists. If they are evolved above their sexuality, then evolved, rational women should be too – but only if they are quality.

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Student
Student
2 years ago

@Anonymous Reader

Will do. Sorry about that!

theasdgamer
2 years ago

being a dad has been nothing but rewarding.

just wait until you become a grandfather…XD

warriorhun
warriorhun
2 years ago

Let me tell you something. I am of the 80%. I was incel betwen 13 and 40 most of the time, Heroin addict because of that. Lost my virginity to prostitutes, and fucked only prostitutes between 13 and 29. Found the Red Pill at 35, started improving my looks and my money, and I learned Game. Although my temples are greying, women these days say they find me handsome. I approach and escalate, which I did not dare in the past – hence the reason I was incel. At age 30 I was afraid to talk to a 18 years… Read more »

Boris (@Protagoris7788)

The Red Placebo is lapsing into pick up artistry.

Jan
Jan
2 years ago

Great post Rollo..clear and to the point as always. I think the normative attempts of beta men to rein in the alpha has always been there, however with rising secularization of societies and open hypergamy that control becomes more and more desparate. By default, I think humanities oldest default stage was one in which mainly alpha seed were passed on in the gene pool -pagan religions worship fertility above all else and do not seem to have any inbuilt attempt to rein in the alpha. It was also during that period that modern human biologically emerged, so perhaps this pure… Read more »

boulderhead
2 years ago

@WarriorHun

Get serious,you have never cooperated with society,you never got the memo.

The surprising thing is that you aren’t incarcerated,this leads me to believe that you still haven’t tried violence as an alternative to duck and run.

News flash it is the alpha that gets the warbride,the 80% are cannon fodder.

mersonia
2 years ago

Game is just redefining others desires……nothing less nothing more.

kfg
kfg
2 years ago

“Ain’t gonna be no rematch.”
“Don’t want one.”

rugby11
2 years ago
Sentient
Sentient
2 years ago

IAS

“Indeed, the real unbreakable rules are the laws of Physics and whatnot ”

Whatnot includes biology.

Sentient
Sentient
2 years ago

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2268592/Thank-heavens-Charles-Bronson-I-slept-wife-Michael-Winners-outrageous-life-words.html

Reminder – no matter how hot she is, or who she is with now, odds are that way back when she was younger and tighter some nobody from nowhere had hit it…

Reflect on that, especially if you are a nobody from nowhere.

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
2 years ago

@Sentient Very interesting article from Britland. Clears up how Charles Bronson was able to take Jill Ireland (correct my previous typo/brainfade) away from David Macallum. She wasn’t really into him, she had done the 1950’s equivalent of “settling”. There’s a big, glaring clue in that story for men in their 30’s contemplating a 29.999 year old who is sorta in twu wuv but… HINT: Game. Blaximus observed earlier in this thread that any woman of 25 summers almost certainly has a secret or two. Those who yearn for the 1950’s “traditional values” ,take notes. Those who yearn for the good… Read more »

j
j
2 years ago

@Sentient

Cool article. Thanks for sharing.

“I wasn’t faithful to Jenny: she knew this yet she stayed with me. Funnily enough, it was only when I stopped all the playing around that she left me.”

lol.

rugby11
2 years ago
Novaseeker
Novaseeker
2 years ago

I was wandering along the beach with some friends yesterday when I came across a message in a bottle … strange thing really, how it closely paralleled some things we’ve read here recently … anyway, I’ve taken the liberty to transcribe it, and hopefully some of you will … enjoy … it … God, every time I come back here I marvel at how many idiots there are, and how smart I am. I used to be an idiot, too, like you stupid fucks, but I learned better, unlike you dumb asses. Anyway, I digress … I remember when I… Read more »

warriorhun
warriorhun
2 years ago

@boulderhead I was always what is called a “functioning addict”, not a junkie. Always had a job, did not commit crimes, hence my lack of incarceration ever. The more I think on it, the more I am of the opinion that I have voluntarily sedated and suppressed myself during my youth instead of letting my Masculinity coming to the surface. It was a stupid thing to do, but I had no better idea. Back then, there was no Red Pill, no Game concepts available for young guys,, just Feminist/Blue Pill conditioning BS… Funny thing: for me, as I progress in… Read more »

theasdgamer
2 years ago

nice gentle mocking of scribs, Nova

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
2 years ago

LOL@Novaseeker!

kfg
kfg
2 years ago

In a followup message the dream boat had transmogrified into a dream house without comment.

Orson
Orson
2 years ago

@Palmasailor We all need to put 5 dollars each to pay a luxurious escort and mail her on Rugbys address for NY’s resolution. Then it’s my turn to end the long dry spell! lol I feel incel as fuck now. Though technically volcel the end result is the same. Don’t know what happened to me … I was a mini slayer a year ago. I had every month a different woman. I became erratic and started to next them on the flimsiest of pretexts. I started dating like there is no tomorrow after my LTR ended and half the way… Read more »

scribblerg
scribblerg
2 years ago

Jesus fuck, while you pussies were discussing what Game is and isn’t I was out glazing up a my hb7.5 21yo like a donut in a 15hr marathon hotel session over the weekend. For the record. Blax’s definition of game is a meandering screed that only a natural alpha who’s never bothered to study any PUA (yet thinks he knows it all) would pen. While interesting, it’s better entitled, “Blaximus on how to be one’s own mental point of origin and the kind of man I am”. But hey you guys seem to mostly want to fluff each other here.… Read more »

scribblerg
scribblerg
2 years ago

Mocking me, with faux posts, Nova, and then ASD fluffing him, lol. Proves my point and everything I say to you monkey-dicks. Most of you failed men wouldn’t even know how to properly fuck a hot woman if you managed by sheer luck to get your hands on one. You don’t want to face that – boo hoo. I’m here for the men who want to step up and start playing the game of life to win. Any man down for that will get immense value from my commentary. The rest? You’ll whine and get butthurt and I am only… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

Irony

😂😂😂😂😂

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

😂😂😂😃😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😆😆😆😆😆😆

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

As far as my meandering screed, if a man is in his 50’s, as I am, and is still figuring things out and discovering things 20+ years after the fact, it is an absolutely perfect example of having zero Game, pua or otherwise. So of course game escapes. I’ll tell a story here and there, but I don’t bother bragging about women because that is in a feminine frame. It’s like saying ” I pedestalize women and you’re to stupid to do the same “. Mind any man whose modus only includes brag and anger and insult. Repeatedly. Forever. Guys… Read more »

foxguy148
foxguy148
2 years ago

Over the last two weeks, I’ve noticed we have a tendency to complicate things needlessly. Simply be your own mental point of origin and display ZFG’s that’s pretty much all there is to it, people will be drawn to you like a fucking magnet.

The biggest obstacle to the above is fear, if you can overcome the fear you will pole vault into the top 5%, doesn’t matter what you look like.

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

Oh, I forgot, Nova I luv ya man ( no homo ). I wish you.commented more here, but I understand why you don’t.

It’s nice to have more balance. Palma, AR, Boulder, SJF, Sentient, and others help to fend off the mediocre contingency that pops up from time to time, Culum, lost patrol, newly aloof don’t bother here too often either.

Lol, if kfg ( who has master game ) left permanently, it would be an extinction level event for me.

Happy New Years to everyone ( you too Scrib) here. Here’s wishing you all peace, strength and health.

theasdgamer
2 years ago

I’m sure everybody knows who the following applies to…someone who’s always bragging and angry and insulting and never plays with people… 48 Laws of Power…skunk personality type Pro tip: autistic stimming isn’t bragging. Simply be your own mental point of origin and display ZFG’s that’s pretty much all there is to it, people will be drawn to you like a fucking magnet. Necessary, but insufficient… you also have to be able to read people, calibrate social signals, avoid anti-game, and run compliance tests so many “teachers” start at the high school level when addressing us five year olds (in understanding)… Read more »

rugby11
2 years ago

Dalrock
https://wp.me/pXWyH-e7x

theasdgamer
2 years ago

Dalrock is purple pilled, not red pilled.

kfg
kfg
2 years ago

The Transgender of Ourboros:

https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2018/feb/25/mack-beggs-transgender-wrestler-wins-texas-girls-h/

F to M, taking testosterone, pronouns he/him, but competing as a girl with undefeated record.

newlyaloof
2 years ago

Happy New Year fellas.

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
2 years ago

kfg F to M, taking testosterone, pronouns he/him, but competing as a girl with undefeated record. Leaving aside the absurdity of high school girls having wrestling teams at a time when Title IX has all but destroyed men’s wrestling at the college level…yes, leaving that rant aside…. I believe we can expect more of this going forward, what with Sudden Gender Dysphoria now becoming a “thing” with teenaged girls in some middle / upper middle class social circles. One would like to think that the typical Dad Of Daughters Only (DODO) “traditional” “conservative” type would see his little darlin’ tomboy… Read more »

Not Born This Morning
2 years ago

“Today there is a radical imbalance between the old social contract upon which enforced monogamy was a key element and the new social contract dictated by a gynocratic social order that places women’s sexual strategy well above that of men’s.“ The above statement directly contradicts the current success of cultural “alpha” sexuality described repeatedly on this blog as it is referenced in virtually every post written. The paradigm described throughout all these writings is not so much a paradigm that explains how women’s sexual strategy has been put above men’s as it explains how “alpha” sexual opportunity is facilitated above… Read more »

IAS
IAS
2 years ago

Happy 2019, Red Pill friends!

Lost Patrol
Lost Patrol
2 years ago

I’m deleting this tomorrow

Good reminder to always read your Palmasailor with an accent.

boulderhead
2 years ago

@Nova man you have all the luck,what type of rum bottle was it? Did you pull the cork with a hemorrhoid remover?

I fell like such a ponce for not thinking of Madagascar first.

@ Warrior hun ,hang in there man it gets better.

@Palma thanks for the new flashes,happy new year.

Happy new year @ All

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
2 years ago

NBTM
The above statement directly contradicts the current success of cultural “alpha” sexuality described repeatedly on this blog as it is referenced in virtually every post written.

National / societal level conditions are not necessarily reflected to the individual level.
The forest is not the trees. Individual alpha men can flourish in an increasingly gynocentric society.

IOW “whoosh”.

Why are you so angry all the time?

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
2 years ago

Palma
I’m deleting this tomorrow

Teh internetz is fohevah…

Is that an Ascot you are wearing? I can see why u so ronry.

foxguy148
foxguy148
2 years ago

Happy New Years guys, may 2019 bring good things to you all!

The world is out there for the taking, it’s never been easier, but you have to take action to seize it, may 2019 be the year we all grow beyond measure. If we refuse to grow, the world will chew us up and spit us up as broken men, there is no choice, run towards the front and pull the trigger(metaphorically speaking :))!

Let the plowing of 2019 be hard and deep and may the masculine force be with you.

hunter@gmail.com
hunter@gmail.com
2 years ago

@Rollo, I’ve been enjoying your various YouTube videos (Red Man Group, Pat Campbell, your personal channel, 21 Studios, etc). Thank you very much. I’m currently listening to your RMG episode on Fathers, and have listened to your episodes regarding marriage, LTR etc. Although I find all your content interesting, I have found these especially so. I have subscribed to 21Studios via iTunes. If possible, you may wish to set up the rest of your chats this way. It allows them to be downloaded and then played later (I recognize that direct download is an option for Pat Cambell’s show and… Read more »

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
2 years ago

Palma
No it’s not an ascot, it’s a red inside to a collar..

Sniff. Isn’t that a trifle … common?

Happy New Year to all, especially those east of GMT who are up late.

Morpheus
2 years ago

NBTM,

Did you get lost on your way to debate club? You are obviously a smart guy but I’m baffled why you are here… You clearly view all this “Red Pill stuff” with extreme pessimism and seem more interested in almost Autistic like parsing of concepts, terms, and definitions instead of actually how guys can improve their lives.

Sentient
Sentient
2 years ago

Palma

“By the way, the shirt has odd cuffs, one bright red and one paisley. Was tailor made – leads well into the never stick with a blind tailor out of loyalty script”

Nice. These little things make so much of a difference… Peacocking, DHV story, humour and being able to pace the delivery from repetition… Some Kino on the laugh.

And Bob’s your uncle😉

Contrast with “ughhh so what do you do?” Etc.

There are no bad FRs… Post away.

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
2 years ago

“I can see why u so ronry.”

Palma
Sorry I must have a mental block what does this mean?

Reference from 2004. Probably a bit obscure outside the US.

Charles
Charles
2 years ago

Great post. Once I got this information and applied it. Life has been better,more natural and organic,and grand

Sentient
Sentient
2 years ago
someone
someone
2 years ago

You know why you self-proclaimed alphas get told you’re obsessed with sex and think with your dicks? It’s because of shit like this: https://therationalmale.com/2013/06/26/you-need-sex/#comment-20943 https://therationalmale.com/2013/06/26/you-need-sex/#comment-20964 You are saying that some 15 year old who stumbles his way into a vagina is more of a man than, say, every Medal of Honor recipient who died a virgin. That’s how fucking obsessed you are with sex. That’s how much you’re thinking with your dick. The reason why sexual moderation is so widely promoted is because otherwise we end up with complete fucking degenerates like you who can’t even think straight because of… Read more »

theasdgamer
2 years ago

someone has a small dick

Bromeo
Bromeo
2 years ago

https://pure.dating/

thank me later

Pinelero
Pinelero
2 years ago

Someone’s triggered!

theasdgamer
2 years ago

Pinelero, it’s funny when that happens.

Sentient
Sentient
2 years ago

so many “back to the gym” or diet ads…

Lyon @56, showing the “old guys”

https://www.instagram.com/p/BsE720DABm5/

Jafyk
Jafyk
2 years ago

@Rollo

Have you seen this platform? You might want to considering moving here in the future. There’s no censorship like on YouTube or Twitter https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKwaWh6CFjA

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

” If everyone was a fucking nigger stereotype like you…..”

Lmao. Well, 2019 just like 2018…2017…2016….

Guys like this intrigue me somewhat. Spewing all that righteousness along with ” nigger stereotype seamlessly.

Lol. Here’s hoping you get ” triggered ” in a much different manner in 2019.

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
2 years ago

Sentient
so many “back to the gym” or diet ads…

Seasonality. Not just for traders.

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
2 years ago

Someone
You know why you self-proclaimed alphas get told you’re obsessed with sex and think with your dicks?

Because girls like you have perpetual penis envy?

Kel31
Kel31
2 years ago

My two cents. Paul Proteous stated correctly that for a lot of us getting sex is WORK. Game as you call it requires learning and understanding of the “mating dance” or whatever. I applied myself became somewhat successful and then almost got hammered by that wicked crazy BITCH. BITCH refers to almost all women. I see it in my sisters when I look hard. That delusionality that seems to permeate everything women touch. Well no offense I was brought up hard 50’s blue pill. Oh yes I quickly realized that Sugar and Spice was really Hypergamous and Gynocentric. Still for… Read more »

theasdgamer
2 years ago

My two cents. Paul Proteous stated correctly that for a lot of us getting sex is WORK. Chopping wood for a living is hard work at first, but it gets easier as you build muscle. Same as anything. Getting sex is work at first, until it isn’t. Game as you call it requires learning and understanding of the “mating dance” or whatever. I applied myself became somewhat successful and then almost got hammered by that wicked crazy BITCH. Game is more than just getting laid once. A live-together relationship is a step beyond a STR just like a STR is… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

Think about it outside of your own head for a moment, if getting sex was hard, there wouldn’t be billions of people on the planet, and the birthrate would fall yearly.

Getting sex isn’t hard.

What one convinces himself of can be hard.

Convincing yourself that all women are bitches, well that’s on you and inside your skull. You will proceed in life with What you think. Your results will mirror that mindset.

Making normal behavior complicated and hard.

Your biggest foe is between your ears.

theasdgamer
2 years ago

Think about it outside of your own head for a moment, if getting sex was hard, there wouldn’t be billions of people on the planet, and the birthrate would fall yearly.

In the U.S., the birth rate is below the replacement rate. Ditto for most English-speaking countries. The rest of the world doesn’t matter for most readers of this blog.

Centuries
Centuries
2 years ago

One of the frequent articles on declining birth rates

https://reason.com/blog/2018/12/21/us-baby-bust-fears

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

Whether the rest of the world matters or not ( arrogant much??? It doesn’t help anything), the hard facts are hard facts.

The ” West ” leads the planet in getting inside your own head and over complicating the most basic things.

There are a few reasons that the ” replacement birth rate ” is so low, and not one of them make any fucking sense at all.

Too much time. Too many ” resources “. Too soft.

Lol.

Again, your greatest foe is between your ears. The world goes on.

scribblerg
scribblerg
2 years ago

I don’t think Blax will ever get that he’s a “Natural Alpha”. The comment about how sex is so easy to have is just more glibness from a man who refuses to go beyond his own experience and POV. Let me break it down for guys here who are actually trying to become Red Pill versus Blaximusian… All women want to mate with top 20% of men. Period. Science confirms this. Men are not the same way. Men punch their weight in terms of SMV. Seems to me that Blax could finally internalize this after how many years here? In… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

😂😂😂 I’m an English speaker in the U.S. And I don’t see any replacement problems. ” some ” folks are having issues. Everyone can’t be a ‘ wasp ‘. Eastern Euro immigrants ( build a wall…lol ) are populating maternity wards just fine. Italian Catholic population doesn’t seen to be vanishing. All millennial are struggling with all aspects of life, including reproduction. Gee, why don’t they just…. Get good paying jobs. Bu y property. Make sound investments.y BE social ( not social networking) Lift. Have varying levels of male dominance in society. I’ll tell you why, because guys my age… Read more »

boulderhead
2 years ago

“A woman putting on weight is a nuclear shit test. This is countered by Dread. ”

I can only ass u me you are talking to your SIL, so you might ad the benefits of counter balance an extra 50+ lbs makes when driving across a side hill.

boulderhead
2 years ago

“I’ll tell you why, because guys my age and older ( like you ), have wrecked the structure for those that come after us, and they have to deal with the dumb capitulations made by the generations before them.” Speak for yourself Blaxi. They (“All millennial are struggling with all aspects of life, including reproduction.”) Are soft because Men like me have made life too easy for them.All the hard work has been done and these kids are too full of shit like ( “guys my age and older ( like you ), have wrecked the structure “)They are feminised… Read more »

theasdgamer
2 years ago

I don’t see any replacement problems.

Are you gonna sing your song, “Superstition?”

theasdgamer
2 years ago
theasdgamer
2 years ago

There are a few reasons that the ” replacement birth rate ” is so low, and not one of them make any fucking sense at all.

Too much time. Too many ” resources “. Too soft.

You need to get out more…like to colleges and maternity wards. Count the women and men you see on campus and compare numbers. Go to maternity wards and look at the age of the mothers.

It has nothing to do with any of the shit you posted and has everything to do with feminism pushing 1. higher education for women and 2. abortion.

theasdgamer
2 years ago

And on the question of whether illegal immigrants take jobs from Americans and push down construction wages:

Unauthorized immigrants also were 15% of workers in construction jobs in 2014.

http://www.pewhispanic.org/2016/11/03/occupations-of-unauthorized-immigrant-workers/

But Blaxie Wonder would have to get outside his own head or even visit some fucking construction sites to see this.

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

😂 Actually, I don’t need to get out more, I need to get out less. For the record, both my daughters attended college, one is currently in her freshman year. I was in campus last week, with both eyes open, as I was 12 years ago with my oldest. But anyway….. Let me riddle you this about the ” shit ” I was talking about: When all of that feminist stuff came about, who was ‘ in power’????. That’s my broader point. Feminism is 1/2 the equation ( as is abortion). Nature abhors vacuums. Why did feminism gain so much… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

😂

Asd, you do realize where I live, right?

Get out more…and see what exactly?

I’m going out in a few, and just like all of my life, I will see and deal with people from all over the world, legal and otherwise.

Construction.😂😂

Why did you even insert this into the conversation??

😃

You crack me up.

kfg
kfg
2 years ago

https://pjmedia.com/trending/shout-your-abortion-movement-targets-children-in-creepy-video/

I note, however, that world population has tripled in my lifetime and continues to grow. I also note that what can’t continue forever, won’t.

boulderhead
2 years ago

“When all of that feminist stuff came about, who was ‘ in power’????. That’s my broader point. Feminism is 1/2 the equation ( as is abortion). Nature abhors vacuums. Why did feminism gain so much unopposed traction? What drove feminism as an ‘ option ‘ in the first place?” Just stop man,your killing me. Because men are men,we ignore most of the emo bullshit. What drove feminism as an option is you give her an inch and she wants the whole thing. Like I said a bunch of spoiled ass babies living the soft life after all they can get.… Read more »

theasdgamer
2 years ago

I note, however, that world population has tripled in my lifetime and continues to grow. I also note that what can’t continue forever, won’t. Reminds me of redlight/greenlight…you have to pay attention to the local signals. All this talk of “world population” is just hamsterbating. But even if you are paying attention to world population, you realize that population mostly increases in countries where you have little per capita industrialization…where the middle class is relatively small and the lower class is relatively large…India…Africa…not China…not Japan…not western countries…even in countries like the Philippines, the rate of pop growth is declining as… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

How was that climate of spoilage created?

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

” industrialization ” is you in your head with your ” standards “. Biology gives no fucks about man made standard, as you are seeing if you’d take off the blinders and look at the blaring messages/examples right in front of your face.

Pool boy fucking wealthy housewives.

Standards….😂

theasdgamer
2 years ago

When all of that feminist stuff came about, who was ‘ in power’????. Feminists…duh…I’ll admit that I was a 2nd wave feminist and didn’t even realize it. I was duped. By school. As designed. By feminists… (But feminists are so anti-abortion and all…I mean, the Kavanaugh hearings weren’t being pushed by the pro-abortion feminists…) …so it doesn’t matter which age groups were in power because we were all duped by the feminists…essentially, the feminists were in power because they controlled the schools… …I began to wake up when my kids reached school age and we removed them from school and… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

All duped by feminist huh?

Speak for yourself.

kfg
kfg
2 years ago

“All this talk of “world population” is just hamsterbating.”

This talk is just ostriching.

” . . . in countries like the Philippines, the rate of pop growth is declining as its manufacturing increases.”

Q.E.D.

boulderhead
2 years ago

“How was that climate of spoilage created?”

War.

theasdgamer
2 years ago

So, Blax, is your daughter in higher ed or in the work force?

Maybe you weren’t duped, but joined the movement with your eyes wide open…so sing “Superstition” one more time…

theasdgamer
2 years ago

Rich broads were banging pool boys back in the days of non-fucking Joseph in Egypt…with a massive birth rate…

…even before The Pill ™, birth rates dropped during the Industrial Revolution because people migrated from the farms to the cities and machines reduced the manpower needs on the farms. The middle class percent increased and male babies weren’t needed so much to keep the family alive in the city like they were on the farm…

…what The Pill ™ did is to enable female sportfucking while they delayed marriage as they pursued higher ed and a career…

O.B.I.T.
O.B.I.T.
2 years ago

Wow, what’s with the classy new fonts and masthead — I thought I was having a Harper’s Magazine flashback

kfg
kfg
2 years ago

“…what The Pill ™ did is to enable female sportfucking . . .”

Oh. Hey! Sportfucking is the subject. How did that get in here?

theasdgamer
2 years ago

Busted for jumping the shark while feebly attempting to maintain relevance…

kfg
kfg
2 years ago

The Pill allows women to sportfuck.
Sportfucking must be down because the birthrate is down.

Pick one.

ex-cartoonist
2 years ago

@ Scribblerg At the risk of becoming a target for your insults, I recognise a lot of myself in your description of guys who prefer to talk about women rather than interact with them. Part of the reason is that after decades of being a husband/ex-husband/boyfriend/lover/whatever, my heart is no longer in ‘Game’. So why do I enjoy reading ‘The Rational Male’? Why do I enjoy watching youtube videos such as ‘Entrepreneurs in Cars’ on Red Pill subjects? Basically, because it keeps reminding me that hoping to experience a woman’s love is a waste of time. Deep down, I see… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
2 years ago

Asd

I’m not a joiner.

DisgruntledEarthling
DisgruntledEarthling
2 years ago

Good rant Scrib. I concur on all points.

I recently turned an SA 23-yo into a vanilla plate – she doesn’t want the $ just the 8==>

And this new layout is pretty but the light-colored font makes it hard to read for us old folk.

O.B.I.T.
O.B.I.T.
2 years ago

@ex-cartoonist

The upscale, dignified new typeface should help soften the blow from any incoming insults.

SJF
SJF
2 years ago

Also agree on the good targeted rant Scribbler. Ex-Cartoon, Having the relationship you want involves a personal metamorphosis. Every successful individual that gets what he wants, when formerly he wasn’t, has a point at which fundamental reorganization takes place. New behaviors and solutions appear because the system itself is changing. The required conditions for your re-working can occur when your masculine self improvement hits critical mass, a term from physics that means “The amount of energy necessary to create a self-sustaining reaction”. Move towards that point. And then on to having free excess energy, because that condition is in the… Read more »

boulderhead
2 years ago

“The Pill allows women to sportfuck.
Sportfucking must be down because the birthrate is down.

Pick one.”

I choose both, and abortion lowers birth rate also. Bossy women lower it even more than all three other things combined,they lower testosterone from the cradle to the grave.

theasdgamer
2 years ago

Sportfucking is largely independent of the birth rate.

boulderhead
2 years ago

“Sportfucking is largely independent of the birth rate.”

For some guys this is true somewhere around 80%.

I was just poking fun at her and she took me seriously.

O.B.I.T.
O.B.I.T.
2 years ago

One thing Scrib said hit me as a key point for cartoonist: “The less you make it mean, the easier it becomes.” Just one more TRM truth I wish I had realized more clearly 40 years ago. (Where the hell were all you guys?) Also happened to have some Accept playing right now There’s two worlds colliding right inside of me Two worlds colliding I’m my own worst enemy. Not exactly John Donne, I know — but this is where cartoonist is right now. I think the TRM message for you is, be realistic about women, but remain open to… Read more »

rugby11
2 years ago

https://youtu.be/vblot9RiULI Rollo

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