The Nature of Power

From Truth to Power:

Real Power is the degree to which a person has control over their own circumstances. Real Power is the degree to which we control the directions of our lives.

Are women attracted to Power? Yes. Why? Because a man who has it is in control of his own circumstances (to the best of his ability). People need to be reminded of this because we tend to think of power as some tyrannical dominance over others. Sometimes power is exercised as such, but that’s not what defines real power.

There exist a set of Beta men who hold this idea because it fits into their self-loathing binary understanding of intersexual dynamics. On my Incels post comment thread there’s a conversation with a 25year old guy who considers himself an Incel and his self-awareness is one that he’s hopeless to be anything else. He believes he has no power and therefore nothing a woman would ever want from a man. As he persists in this belief he’s not wrong.

I’m proud of my commentariat for giving this guy some kind of hope and inspiration, but according to the Black Pilled set all they’re doing is setting him up for failure and disappointment. Because if he attempts to empower himself he’d just be making himself a more efficient pussy-beggar and or/setting himself up for more failure. The game is rigged so stop playing it, right? And even if he had the kind of access to women he wished for ‘the juice isn’t worth the squeeze’ is the circular logic, and he’d only be a failure from within a success – or something like that.

The old saying goes, ‘Everything is about sex, except sex; sex is about power’. But what is ‘power‘? The degree to which a person has control over circumstances that would otherwise govern their lives. But power is always measured by how it fits into a particular context, so in this instance that power is a control over sexual experience, gratification and ultimately reproduction. And really, this is the basis of how Hypergamy has become the socialized, prime-directive that is gynocentrism. What is the latent purpose of a feminine-primary social order? Empowering women to unilaterally control their reproductive circumstances and then as much of their own lives as follows that imperative.

Power is one aspect of attraction (sometimes arousal) for women. I would also say, by this definition, that power is an aspect of a man being Alpha, but it isn’t the only aspect. I can point to a lot of men who have no real power, influence, affluence or even social proof who nonetheless pull women and have women pull him because they have a look that fit a woman’s sexual ideal and/or had an Alpha mindset. I have been that guy.

Power is not a prerequisite for being Alpha, but the appearance of, the potential for, power certainly is. Remember, women are hardwired to seek out competency in men as part of their innate need for security in all its forms. This is why I make the distinction between power being ‘attractive’ to a woman (in the long term Beta Need side of Hypergamy) and not always an element in arousal – though when paired with an arousing man power is intoxicating for women sexually.

The appearance of, or potential for, real power in a man represents competency in his capacity to control the circumstances that would dictate the terms of his life. If a woman is to ultimately pair monogamously with a man, his access to power will ultimately dictate the terms of her life while paired with that man. So it follows that power would be a selected-for aspected of female attraction.

This is probably pretty remedial. “Duh, chicks dig power Rollo.”

Power is a part of that Alpha ideal, but the question to ask is why is power attractive to a woman? This is where militant MGTOWs and Black Pill nihilists show their colors. Most will say it’s because they want control or some parasitic association with a powerful man to further their own ends. In essence it’s about a need to control their circumstances by using a male proxy to exercise their own self-serving plans. It’s all very melodramatic until you pick apart the latent purposes of female power.

From an evolutionary perspective, what these guys think is “power” is really just social dominance, preselection and a good physique. That’s why they’re obsessed with the “Chad” archetype that bullied them in high school. That guy seems “powerful” and made a lasting impression on them because he effortlessly got women and reminds them of what they’re not. Whether or not the guy is genuinely ‘powerful’ in the sense that he’s in control of his own destiny is irrelevant – he has the appearance of what these guys think power should look like and he’s rewarded with pussy for it.

So, what to do? Do the same shit feminists do; change the game and try to convince everyone that they are the real deal and the world that they figured out (really constructed) on their own is the ‘real’ game everyone ought to be playing. Unless you’re Thundercock the Barbarian, which you never are, all you’re doing is trying to be like him, which amounts to you accruing ‘power’, (however they define it) no matter how self-interested you think you are, with the sole purpose of giving it away to a woman – which she will use to more completely own you, because, that’s “just how women are.”

Feminists do the same thing from their own base of interest. They cannot compete for Darwinistic reproductive success with women whose SMV outclasses their own.

Solution: Change the game to suit their lesser capacity to compete; embrace fat-positivity, shame men for their innate sexual choices and expressions, disqualify hot women by disempowering and stigmatizing their strengths. Ban Grid Girls, cheerleaders on TV and remove the swimsuits from Miss America.

All of these are adaptive strategies for increasing reproductive success. The problem is nature confounds these efforts over and over again. The idea is to change the rules of the game; to literally control the reality and context in which it’s played in order to make the ones changing it the superior players. Rather than find the cheat codes to play the existing game in ‘God Mode’ the idea is to just rewrite the game to suit their skills.

Ostensibly, the cover story of feminism has always been about some effort to achieve an idealized state of equality between men and women. This has never been the actual case, but even if we were to presume that this equality was tenable it still requires the players to ignore their strengths and weaknesses in playing the existing game and pretend that a new game, based on contrived rules, is now the true game. The problem is they can never get everyone to participate in the new game. The fact remains that we evolved to compete in a naturalistic game and most people instinctively get this reality even when they espouse a belief in the new game.

Beautiful women will aspire to a feminist-contrived norm, but on a root level of consciousness they understand that their beauty and sexuality puts them above their less beautiful sisters. This again is a form of power. It provides them a control advantage over their life circumstances and their hindbrains wont allow any pretense of a level playing field stop them from exercising it.

End Games

The same principle applies to the ends of MGTOW. I’m not even sure what the consensus is as to what an idealized outcome between the genders might be for a MGTOW mindset. Every time I’ve tried to parse out what happens when enough men go MGTOW that society shifts I’m usually met with some equalist future where women ‘come to their senses’ and take responsibility for their own actions. That and crypto currencies seem to be what the future MGTOW utopia looks like.

I’m not being flippant here. I’m genuinely curious as to what the end state of a MGTOW society ought to look like. Feminists seem to think that egalitarian equalism and gender neutrality, and a world where men and women are coequal agents is a future that’s possible. I’ve read the comparisons of feminism with Marxism and it’s not too far off with regard to their stated future hopes. I don’t buy any of it of course. It’s been proven over and over that feminism is a supremacism movement, but I’m interested in what the hopes are for the the cover story of feminism.

I wonder the same about MGTOW. Both MGTOW and feminism are ultimately interested in power – in the respect that power is the control over the individual circumstances that govern our lives. MGTOW make it very clear that dealing with women is an unacceptable risk (by order of degrees) and that until such time as the risks diminish to an acceptable tolerance they’ll simply ‘go their own way’ and avoid potentially dangerous entanglements with women. Sounds perfectly logical in a male deductive logic way, but what does the intended goal-state look like for MGTOW?

I’ve yet to get a clear consensus on this. Most of it seems to be awaiting an expected societal collapse whereafter women ‘come to their senses’ and somehow realize they really need men and voluntarily relinquish the power they hold today in favor of treating men more fairly. I’m doubtful of how realistic this is, but perhaps I’m mistaken in this being the perceived end game. Women of course would see this as being an abdication of their own interests – a surrender of feminism so to speak, but what does an acceptable ‘truce’ between men and women look like to feminists as well as MGTOWs?

I ask these questions because it seems to me that both movements depend on an adversarial state existing between the sexes. What would the inter-gender landscape need to look like for MGTOWs to deal with women or compete with other men? What would that landscape need to look like for feminism to dissolve and relinquish the abusive power it’s established over the lives of men?

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rugby11
rugby11
3 years ago

Male Female compliments and companions
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2p06x-yumc0
23 chromosomes
Knowing what you have control over heals what you don’t

Blaximus
Blaximus
3 years ago

Power is both intellect and violence. If I shoot a super intellectual in the back of the head, his intellect stops right there. It’s a miscalculation did to lack of experience in life to assume that only one aspect is power, or can save you. Keyboard jockeying if you will. Nothing wrong with that per se, as mental exercise/gymnastics. Most dudes never have to confront real violence in their lives, so they fantasize and speculate😂 … But make no mistake, the guy unwilling to be violent, or doesn’t understand why violence is necessary and useful, will be made short work… Read more »

theasdgamer
3 years ago

Athletic training here…curious what kfg thinks about it…

http://www.stack.com/a/fast-twitch-muscles

Blaximus
Blaximus
3 years ago

….control via social means?

Sounds heavily beta to me. Alpha=mindset, not demographic. An alpha could be a mensa certified genius, or a complete moron. It’s projection to say alphas use intelligence because you happen to place high value on intelligence.

This is how men make terrible miscalculations.

Be not a sucker. Intelligence without will to action is masturbation. Only under the type of society we currently live in are some people celebrated for their capacity to think about shit and talk endlessly while doing mostly nothing.

Commendable? Nah.

gregg
gregg
3 years ago

Real Power is the degree to which a person has control over their own circumstances. Real Power is the degree to which we control the directions of our lives. Ok, but I think that real power is also measured of how effectively we can control the lives of others. For example in my company – I control the “working lives” of my employees – I set the rules, I expect loaylty, punish the disobedience, etc. The same is valid for behaviour of women in standard marriages. She controls the behavuour of her husband, she disciplines him, she set the rules.… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
3 years ago

Syria?

Orson
Orson
3 years ago

theasdgamer: Your definition of alpha sounds like the sigma! The natural alpha overtly establishes social dominance over the other males so that women make no mistake who the alpha cock is in the room! That is his biological predisposition! If a beta chump verbally attacks him in public his automatic response will be to knock him out and the beta dude will possibly end up in coma with cranial fractures. The alpha dude will end up in prison for a big part of his life! You see the alpha man didn’t really hate the beta ..nor wanted to cause him… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
3 years ago

Lol. You really don’t get it.

Orson
Orson
3 years ago

What I don’t get? Even Rollo said somewhere that you will find most alpha dudes in prison!

Blaximus
Blaximus
3 years ago

Ok. Let’s make up an example. 2 guys in same place. 1 guy verbally insulted the other guy. Insulted guy isn’t a fan of verbal assaults and games them to be the same as a physical assault, which in some cases it absolutely is. There is a natural make reaction to these things that society and the FI has worked diligently to punish and eliminate, but the end result has been weaker men that act more like women running their mouths with the expectation of zero consequence. There’s always a way to shut down an insulating shit talked in the… Read more »

anon
anon
3 years ago

Plane is too full.
Passengers are asked if someone will trade their seat for a later flight and one person agrees. He later jumps a barrier and sits in the seat anyway, refusing to move.
The flight cannot depart until he leaves. He says he will sue the airline, scream, and smash his own face into the wall if you try to drag him off.
You’re in charge.
What do you do?

theasdgamer
3 years ago

If a man cannot rule himself, he cannot rule others…something like that in Proverbs…ancient wisdom… …sigmas are socially smooth but don’t have to spend time sorting out betas…they are a variety of alpha… …social intel rules over the other kind… Blax, it was interesting that people misread social stuff in my last poll because I’ve acknowledged that I’m autistic. I have trouble sometimes reading signals In the Moment ™, but my analysis ex post facto isn’t lacking. I have high social intel, but some people confuse autism and low social intel (which often go together, it’s true). That girl who… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
3 years ago

Anon If it’s my plane, he comes off by force. If it’s not my plane, I’m not as invested. A job is ” different “. Men voluntarily assuming the role of attack dog in service of an employer is also a part of the problem and another reason men need to understand their personal duty to protect themselves. So it’s a toss up kinda. I don’t have any real skin in that game unless I choose to remove guy from plane just for the fun.of it. His.envoking the courts is telling about who he is deep down at his core,… Read more »

theasdgamer
3 years ago

Meh, he comes off because he’s being a bitch. Bitchness in men need consequence.

yep

rugby11
rugby11
3 years ago

Blaximus Man every time i keep moving forward. Certain triggers bring stuff up that make it hard to carry self composure. I get in my own way. “Intelligence without will to action is masturbation. Only under the type of society we currently live in are some people celebrated for their capacity to think about shit and talk endlessly while doing mostly nothing.” Thats Me in a sate of anger right their. “His.envoking the courts is telling about who he is deep down at his core, but the court cannot save him at that moment. Nobody can.” Violence is the undertone… Read more »

rugby11
rugby11
3 years ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3iDaWKTa-Y
This is really relevant/Power boundaries and the importance of the red pill

rugby11
rugby11
3 years ago

The red files
https://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLA4KviZGRd4ZeJ3sySqoDFKmTpkFJuy0e
Relationships and what we have control over.
She’s also very beautiful

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
3 years ago

rugby11 Man every time i keep moving forward. Certain triggers bring stuff up that make it hard to carry self composure. I get in my own way. That’s not at all unusual. Ask yourself where that emotion comes from, or maybe “who is angry?”. Carrying around the burden of anger or fear or grief for years becomes habitual, it becomes an emotional condition of a known aspect. All that emotion gets in your way, right? Be in charge of your emotions. Do not let them be in charge of you. Every time one of these triggers starts your emotional /… Read more »

anon
anon
3 years ago

Thanks for the response, Blax. Thought it was an interesting real world problem (based on an event that actually transpired). “His.envoking the courts is telling about who he is deep down at his core, but the court cannot save him at that moment. Nobody can.” In this case, the man was dragged off the plane and some passengers video taped it. It made the rounds and the airline was accused of “jackboot thuggery” and so forth. I think the person in charge who made that call (to use force) forgot that he had a third option. And it comes to… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
3 years ago

Anon Lol. Facts certainly don’t matter. I was told by a judge once, that if I put my hands on anyone, it would constitute assault and I could be charged. I told him he was out of his fucking mind because ” the law ” shows up after the fact. Charge me. And charge me the next time too. ” justice ” is a severely compromised subject nowadays. When I lived in Virginia back in the late 80’s, the laws were enforced in such a way that everyone had the exact same rights. Assholes had a very rough go of… Read more »

ab17
ab17
3 years ago

@Blax You’re definitely right about how they tend to protect the assholes and scumbags. Knew this guy I used to work with who was dishonorably discharged from the marines for multiple duis while he was a marine. Typical “douchebag” who married a hottie I also knew (we all previously worked together) and had three kids with her. Anyway long story short she divorced him about 2 years ago because she discovered he was back to pill popping. He was a regular drug user and alcohol abuser and started up the habit again. So around thanksgiving last year he got loaded… Read more »

The Silver FoX
The Silver FoX
3 years ago

@ MarcoP A good, honest post. Good on you, man. I hear you. I’m sure we all do. Life post 50 gets very difficult I have also found. Whilst I have been very successful with the ladies in the past, it’s not as easy these days to pull the younger quality I was once used to. It’s just hard to remain enthusiastic about life post 50, especially being single with no kids or real family to speak of, let alone a successful career. Whilst society says it wants people to speak about about depression and so on, you’re right, in… Read more »

The Solitary Silver FoX
The Solitary Silver FoX
3 years ago

@ Guest “I’ll keep going because that’s what a man does, but the optimism I once had is gone…” Man, your post totally reflected my journey (high notch count, no wife or kids), and you summed it up perfectly in your closing quote above. I also feel the same, even though i know i still have plenty to offer, am an attractive, witty, handsome silver fox, and am making better music than most younger producers with high profiles. But western women are just awful now, with ridiculous expectations and entitlements way beyond their mostly low SMV’s. Point is, who is… Read more »

PassingThru
PassingThru
3 years ago

Rollo, I don’t think you’re right about this. I don’t believe MGTOW is a unified movement like feminism, it doesn’t seem to have a collective end goal, and nor do many of these men appear to believe that the rules of nature should be re-written, so that they can get the prime pussy you believe they think the deserve Quite the contrary, I think most of these men don’t believe the world or any women owes them anything at all. They seem genuinely sad, and appear to live a life quietly hoping maybe one woman will genuinely and spontaneously like… Read more »

scott sanger
scott sanger
3 years ago

Bachelors in the 70’s had no ‘end game’ they just didnt blindly follow the other 95%. MGTOW is just relabeling the Bachelor tag . Men need to legislate away the damage feminism has caused as we cannot speak against feminism, we have no standing.. There has to be a revolt by women with common sense …………..GOOD LUCK. MGTOW is a label on a door that exits the insane asylum……….you can tell everyone that you really arent crazy and that you dont belong here……..its all a big mistake. There are no other alternatives with you keeping your wallet, sanity and future………… Read more »

SJF
SJF
3 years ago

I don’t do Twitter, but if I did I’d tweet this. Women frequently employ the double bind in the sphere of inter-sexual manipulation, particularly in LTR’s as a female stage of manipulation. When women, with the backing of Feminism try to employ a professional career, the face a double bind in being feminine by nature, but need to be masculine by profession: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/09/female-lawyers-sexism-courtroom/565778/ TL;DR Masculine alpha men cock-block feminine wiles in the courtroom. Go figure. Definition of what’s good for the goose is good for the gander —used to say that one person or situation should be treated the same… Read more »

SJF
SJF
3 years ago

“There are things I can do that you can’t, and things you can do that I can’t” was the way one of the male supervising attorneys in my office put it.

The want for equality of outcome among the masculine and the feminine. Feminism, how things ought to be rather than how they are….

Women: pick a man or pick a career. But pick one. Your personal career is made up of choices. Choose wisely.

SJF
SJF
3 years ago

Johnnie Cochran told one female associate: Be “the person in the courtroom that everyone loves.” Some female trial lawyers have succeeded in turning the attributes associated with their gender—compassion, warmth, accessibility—to their advantage, particularly once they get in front of a jury. Shawn Holley, a prominent entertainment lawyer in Los Angeles, told me that she makes her gender work for her. She described her courtroom affect as “polite and charming”—but not so polite or charming that it “gets in the way of the job that needs to get done.” Holley cut her teeth working as an associate for Johnnie Cochran… Read more »

Class-Punk
3 years ago

What is the end game of MGTOW? MGTOW promotes personal freedom for men which causes male individuality. The end game of MGTOW has many possibilities because it is a competition. And its not just a competition going on between men, its a competition going on in between the differing evidence for differing viewpoints that reaches the individual man. MGTOW doesn’t fully know what the end game or future is, its just one of the cultural engines driving the individual there. There’s chaos and uncertainty in that, and that means it carries newness, so its beautiful.

Evert
Evert
3 years ago

Badass are the Meek Hey Rollo I wanted to point out big misconception in the modern Christian church and our western culture regarding the word meek. In modern context meek usually means lowly week loser or in your terminology beta. Google will give us (quiet, gentle, and easily imposed on; submissive) as a definition of meek. So when a modern person reads the verse Mathew 5:5 “Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth” it sounds tho modern ears that lowly or submissive (beta) will inherit the earth. That understanding is completely wrong. In ancient times the word… Read more »

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