The Unbearable Rightness of Being Female

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The following post quote has been making the rounds in professional circles. It’s from Sallie Krawcheck, CEO of Ellevest, an investment firm dedicated to helping women with financial investment (no jargon, no ‘playing’ stocks for sport, no mansplaining, you got this). She’s also the “chair” of Elevate Network, a global professional women’s network. I’m adding this here to make a later point, but it’s important to understand how normalized it’s become for women to create a sexually exclusionary organization for women who will simultaneously complain about men’s sexism for not accommodating their (presumably successful) business culture to the interests of women. More on that later.

I thought I’d riff on this click-bait for, I assume, professional women because I expect we’ll see more of this prefabricated outrage in the coming years as a response to what will undoubtedly be the suffering of the Trump era in America. I’ll be the first to admit I was surprised by Trump’s win, but the denial of the First Female President® into the White House will be the cause du jour for every jilted woman who believes she’s a “professional”. Even if Clinton had won the mainstream would’ve been inundated with how ‘we still have a long way to go’ stories, however, with Trump in the Presidency the same tired narrative of systemic male sexism will get reinvigorated in the coming years.

From, A Letter to young women, in the age of Trump:

When I was your age, I thought it was over. My mother was a feminist, so I wanted to call myself anything but a feminist. And anyway, I seemed pretty welcome at work. Even though it was Wall Street, my analyst class was about a third women. We weren’t just on our way — we’d arrived.

But then…there were the inappropriate pictures left on my desk. The guy miming a sex act when my back was turned. I wasn’t given the great assignments; the more senior woman I worked with was likewise dismissed as “lightweight” (and, lest you think that might have been true, that woman was Safra Catz, now the co-President of Oracle). Then the women started to fall away in their 30s…more in their 40s. But the worst of it, I thought was over.

And now Trump has made it clear to everyone that the battle for us women is not over.

In femopshere there will always be an ‘us’. As I’ve outline in many prior essays, the Sisterhood will always take precedence above religion, politics, personal conviction and even family affiliations for women. Largely this is due to women’s evolved propensity for collectivism among their own sex. In our hunter gatherer beginnings women had an interdependent need for collective support for keeping tribal cohesion as well as child rearing.

This intrasexual collective support has carried over into what’s become the Sisterhood today. If you look at the interactions of young girls and their social group interdependence you begin to see that nascent tribal collectivism naturally come through. In terms of larger societal scope this collectivity becomes about acknowledging a shared experience of an imagined oppression by men. Between all women there is a gestalt understanding of “the plight of women” and a presumption of an endemic sexism no matter how culturally or socioeconomically dissimilar those women are.

As I mentioned, Trump is now a universal icon of that presumption of sexism and oppression. Granted, it could’ve been any man who displaced a woman in the history books, but the fall back presumption is that whoever ‘he’ is, he becomes emblematic of a ready narrative of sexism irrespective of merit. We presume sexism, we presume a guy would mime a sex act behind a woman’s back and leave ‘inappropriate’ pictures on a woman’s desk despite decades of workplace harassment legislation. We believe it because it sounds right; it sounds like something a typical sexist guy would do.

I can’t stop thinking about this and what we can / should do:

Remember that gender bias in the workplace is not a thing of the past. I’m sorry if I didn’t act when I should have. I thought we had left sexism behind us by the time I was in more senior roles. After all, we had complaint hotlines and diversity plans and requirements for diverse slates of candidates for every job. But now I’m remembering one of the members of the senior leadership team who would kiss younger women on the cheek at the beginning of meetings. Creepy, right? I now wonder what was being said when I wasn’t in that room.

What’s creepy is that in spite of years in a professional field that’s been the domain of men she’s just now remembering this fact. Would it have been less creepy if he’d kissed only his age-appropriate women on his leadership team? Professional women’s default presumption is that it is always sexism that is holding them back from breaking through a mythologized ‘glass ceiling’, but as is women’s solipsism, their first thought is that their problems are caused by externalities. Never is there an insight that they may simply lack the skills or that they don’t perform at their peak in a job they were told should be rewarding to them.

Gender biases will never be a thing of the past because to suggest they ever might be so is to presume a default state of egalitarian equality between the sexes. The gender biases in the workplace are most evident in the peer selection and peer evaluations of women – not some secret group of guys getting together in a private office room to expressly talk about a their co-workers’ tits.

As it stands in today’s modern office men are scared shitless every time they are called to cooperate with a woman on work projects for fear of being accused of sexism or harassment:

“In a lawsuit-happy culture, where claims can be made on a ‘he said/she said’ basis, men are now trying to ensure their actions are always covered by a third party witness”

“The terror of being accused of sexual harassment is now so common it has its own term, ‘backlash stress”

There’s a reason HR departments are largely staffed by women, because they want to be positioned in a way that they can execute policy. HR departments no longer exist to serve the company with regards to employees, rather they exist in order to protect that company from lawsuits and enforce feminine-primary conditions in the workplace.

Ask tough questions, and call the guys out when necessary. I recently asked my best guy friend: “Do guys really talk like Donald Trump and Billy Bush behind closed doors?” His response: “No, but…” And the “but” was that the conversations are more along the lines of: “Boy, she has great legs,” or “she’s a looker” or “Whew. Wouldn’t touch her with a ten-foot pole.” When I asked him how he responded to this, he said he didn’t say anything; after all, he has to work with these folks.

But so do we. And breaking us down to our body parts or our appearance dehumanizes us in some way. Maybe it’s only in some small way. But it’s clear that for some years, we (and by we, I mean I) were likely too complacent about the inevitability of gender progress in the workplace and relaxed perhaps just a bit too much.

It’s funny and irreverent when all the girls in the office get together for drinks or a male revue strip show after work, but it’s dehumanizing when men do the same. I’ve known very few men who would ever comment on a woman’s anatomy in a workplace environment. I have known men who would scold other men for staring a little too long at a female co-worker. I have known women to actively flirt with guys and wear inappropriate outfits to get attention from them. I’ve known women who’ve called me and other men I’ve worked with their “work husbands”.

I’ve worked in the liquor and casino promotion businesses for two decades now. I see some pretty wild behavior on the part of women who are not unlike the poor victimized dears Krawcheck describes going to work on Monday mornings.

The modern workplace culture has conditioned men for fear of women thanks largely to strict codes of conduct, but also because these men have been raised from birth to be dutiful Betas and White Knights who look for every opportunity to correct a ‘typical man’ for his sexist and rude behaviors. They look for these backroom boys clubs where women are rated on their looks so as to expose their heinous misogyny and institutionalized sexism, but they are disappointed when they don’t actually find it. So instead they contribute to an atmosphere of fear in some lame form of Beta Game they hope will be recognized and rewarded for by workplace women.

If you’re in a bad work situation, it’s ok to quit. So many women think that it’s a “failure” if you quit your job; and you know how hard we females take failure. But sometimes it’s not us: it’s them.

I recently left the board of a non-profit that I LOVE. I had been on it for years (and years). At nearly every meeting I asked how much we were spending on our investment managers, in comparison to the return we were getting. Meeting after meeting I was told that the answer was complex, it was hard to calculate, it would take a lot of work – and why did it matter anyway? It was really the net returns that matter, regardless of how much we paid for them. And then, last spring, before I could bring up the topic, one of the men did; and all the other guys eagerly agreed with him, that we need to keep an eye on fees because those are really all we can control.

I quit the next week.

Life is too short, and I can have a lot more impact with the week-a-year I get back instead of being ignored in meetings.

I know not everyone is in the position to quit; I wasn’t earlier in my career. So the onus is also on those of us who are more senior to be more supportive of women who leave these situations. I am hopeful that an outcome of this election will be greater understanding of this.

If it had been a woman who’d made the same suggestion would we be hearing about this? Shit like this happens all the time in the workplace. One reason The 48 Laws of Power resonated with men so well is because it was relatable to exactly this kind of situation. Law 7: Get others to do the work for you, but always take the credit for it yourself. Sallie sees this as sexism because it happened to be a guy who pulled it on her, but would she have quit the non-profit had it been a woman who outplayed her?

This is the reality of even the most seemingly benign of companies. They are defined by the interplay of power dynamics, but when women are bested in it the sexism narrative is ready on standby to comfort and explain their failure. So it becomes OK to quit, because the environment is always sexist. The business environment is one defined by competition and this grates on women’s expectation of it to be cooperative and collective. Women like Sallie expect recognition for merit, but wish for things to be easier rather than developing the skills to play the game better.

Get yourself a senior, successful – preferably female – mentor, who can help you navigate the politics of your company. This includes the gender politics. Can’t find one on your own? Speak to HR about helping you find one; this is their job, after all.

Your company doesn’t have a senior, successful female? Get the hell out of there.

Really the only sexism I’m seeing in this piece has been one coming from and endorsed by Krawcheck. She bemoans a lack of gender equity and then suggests a female mentor would be preferable to a male one. Her sexism is blatant here – the only definition of a solid reputable company is one that ensures it has a senior, successful female in it. Since most HR departments are staffed primarily with women it’s their job to help you find a senior, successful and female mentor? I’m not a business insider, but I’m pretty sure this isn’t their job.

I made this point in Male Space, but what happens when women insert themselves into a traditionally male dominated domain is that the enterprise becomes about accommodating the female influences rather than the enterprise itself. This entire article is an indictment of this. Again, the solution to a woman’s problem of not being successful is sought externally.

Do your best to make sure that your success is quantified. Be it a sales goal, a client satisfaction rating, an output metric, a quality target. Numbers count here because they’re black-and-white, cut-and-dried. Were you successful or not? I recommend this even if you work in a “normal” company, because implicit gender biases and expectations still exist for all of us.

Solid enough advice, but it’s couched in the context of an expectation of gender biases (at least the type of bias Sallie finds unacceptable). There’re implicit gender biases, but the ones we see dominate even ‘normal’ companies are ones that favor a feminized workforce.

Think about starting your own thing. This is what’s exciting; we have the ability to start our own businesses today, in a way we didn’t in the past. Why not take our marbles to our own playgrounds and build great businesses and cultures? Our mothers couldn’t do this because the cost was so high – but the costs of everything-about-starting-a-business, including technology, people (i.e., freelancers), real estate (co-working spaces) and support services are coming down. And then no one can relegate you to the less-interesting jobs.

Women are taught that they deserve the luxury of interesting jobs. In fact this is the sole reason for even wanting to enter the workforce most times – a rewarding career that’s fulfilling, but as I wrote in She’s Unhaaapy… that fulfillment is always elusive. Therefore it must be that uncooperative men are holding women back from this happiness.

I’m not sure opening another gourmet cupcake eatery counts as contributing to the status of women in business, but I would say that women ought to be encouraged to start up their own businesses rather than rely on the proven successes of established ones to prove their business acumen. Carly Fiorina and Sheryl Sandberg are not innovators in any sense. Neither started a company from scratch, but they are lauded as powerful businesswomen because they supposedly had the moxie to compete with the big boys and their sexist enterprises – not actually as a result of their companies wanting to present a feminine-correct public image.

I would love to see women’s organic business successes despite themselves, but my guess is that every failure or setback would have some tinge of external sexism attached to them. The truth is there are very few women who actually create something of worth because the easier path to success is to create a social convention that shames men for not including women in their own successes. It will always be easier for women to appropriate the success of men rather than create anything for themselves.

I am going to go out of my way to support other women. It’s clear now: we can’t do this alone. Another woman who is promoted or celebrated or funded clears the way for another. I am actively looking to buy from women-owned businesses, which is much easier these days — Glossier, Outdoor Voices, and Project September are just a few of a new wave of startups led by women — and avoid companies that remain all-men. I’m just so over supporting them.

And here we have yet more fem-centric sexism in a piece decrying male sexism. Weren’t we just reading about how surprised Sallie was about gender bias not being a thing of the past in the workplace? Because Trump won the election she calls for a boycott from buying anything from male owned companies?

One thing I’ve always found ironic about women’s call for collective, gender-exclusionary support for other women is that women are often guilty of even worse infighting than men are in the workplace. Lets face it, women hate other women to a degree that most men are unaware of. Their capacity for sub-communication and psychological warfare among themselves makes intra-sexual competition more brutal than having to deal with any so-called sexist male co-worker. From women’s collectivist perspective one would think that women’s intra-sexual support of other women would make them all outstanding successes in business, but we find the opposite is true. Women have a very hard time making an all-female enterprise a success. Naturally this is blamed, again, on men’s sexists brinksmanship and outmaneuvering them, but by and large it’s internal conflict that destroys all-female run enterprises.

Invest. Having spent my career on Wall Street and now being the founder of Ellevest, a digital investment platform for women, I know I’m a broken record on this topic. But men invest to a greater extent than women do, and it costs us. Indeed, I believe investing is the best career advice women aren’t getting. Think about it – are you more able to tell your boss to take this job and shove it if you have more money or less money?

That’s what I thought. At the end of the day, money is the real key to gender equality.

Of course we get the sales pitch at the end. Women don’t invest because it’s not sexy. It requires a degree of commitment and a depth of insight that goes well beyond what an average woman has any interest in. I do find it entertaining that Sallie finally gets to the real reason for a gender inequality she claims she wants to see abolished. Money is most definitely a key to establishing social dominance and that creates a fundamentally unequal condition between men and women.

Businesses, successful ones, are founded on competition, not cooperation. This is the fundamental conflict we are experiencing in today’s corporate culture; women’s collectivism promotes what they believe should be a successful enterprise based on egalitarian cooperation while men largely see the enterprise as competition. Sometimes this is a win-at-any-cost type of competition, other times it may be more subtle, but the crux is that women’s propensity to want for a more collectivist approach to a successful enterprise is at odds with men’s competitive approach. Success in business is fundamentally unegalitarian, there are winners and losers, not co-equal participation trophy winners. But as women continue to insert themselves into the unegalitarian male spaces of enterprise we will see this push for cooperative hopes for business success fundamentally alter the purpose of these businesses as we attempt more and more to accommodate them.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

1,073 comments on “The Unbearable Rightness of Being Female

  1. @Rollo @All
    “RSD Luke hasn’t read TRM but he feels qualified to paint it as negative because it outlines unpleasant realities. Any negativity doesn’t play well with the sales pitch of Positive Thinking that RSD has adopted, thus the need to disqualify TRM. When that happens, then yes, it’s an attack directed here. So don’t give me this shit about when you get haters it means you’re legitimate when it’s RSD throwing shade at TRM.”

    Where did he says this? Last time I checked the RSD guys are FANS of your work, I’m sure that Owen would love to talk to you or to bring you on a bootcamp to show all the nuances that we go through on a daily basis. All the snark and cat fighting is uncalled for. All the other manosphere forums and comments are full of negative inexperienced men and the ones that shout the loudest and say the most feel good garbage are revered (GayLubeOil). This site has the best content in the Manosphere but it’s comment section has turned into a Heartiste-like hate fest. I would not want any newbies reading the comment section to be honest. At best they should read the content and books and use their own judgement and critical thinking. I’m not taking any sides but Ya and Scray are the only rational males (heh) that I would listen to 100% in the comments because everything they say is backed up and they post and say stuff that everyone’s favorite three lettered company has not talked about or that they later talk about.

    Those two are explaining Male/Female relations and psychology because they want to. They both initially struggled and know the pains of not having an active sex and social life. I say to hell with the masses because as seen in your comments 90-98% of men are incapable of reaching their potential as successful men. Not because it’s impossible, they fail because they will not get out of their own way.

  2. “And you have to game the plain one too dont forget her…”

    Yes. I started out implying that, but then neglected to state it explicitly. Not only is it not what they usually expect, but with a tight tag team like that, having the plain one like you is going to be critical if you’re looking for more than a one bang deal with the 10.

  3. @RSDLuke

    I’m not taking any sides but Ya and Scray are the only rational males (heh) that I would listen to 100% in the comments because everything they say is backed up

    I see a bright future for you in Louisiana politics.

  4. @Keith @dancers

    Went to a new bar last night and participated in the group lesson. I fucked around a lot in the lesson and I’m sure I annoyed the instructor…didn’t necessarily follow the drill cuz I was too busy chatting and enjoying myself, lol…quite a few very good social dancers were there…some of the same old cliquish girls were there, too, lol…silly girls…they don’t want to dance with any men who went to someone else’s party…didn’t bother me

    I started off dancing with two high school girls who were there with their parents…then I danced with their mother…the girls were both lit up to get to play with the grown ups…it was fun and I thanked their dad for sharing

    Last night was about dancing and not about girls…lots of 5s and 6s…but I had to go outside to cool off about 8 times in 3 hours, so I got lots of cardio and calorie-burning in.

  5. @ Luciano

    Not sure what you’re getting at.

    TRM isn’t a PUA blog. Why is this impossible for guys solely interested in pickup only to understand??

    If you’re looking for pickup direction, of course your perception will be that the 2 guys you mentioned are the only commenters with anything worthwhile to say.

    No my man. The hate you talk of is aimed at guys who might just already understand the stuff PUA is talking about. There is nothing wrong with not having struggled with women.

    Not everyone has struggled with pussy. People been fucking and reproducing forever. Wtf????

    Then you wonder why some guys question the PUA industry. Attitudes like the one you just displayed is one reason. Pickup is all that matters in life, right?

    Jesus.

    I’ll stop now. I have to censor myself because some of you dudes are waaayyy to sensitive and feel that everyone else is wrong and misguided somehow. But guys that think like you? That you have to be constantly helped and coddled like a fucking baby? Life has some shit in store for you.

    Just like it does for everyone. You’re not special. You don’t have superpowers.

  6. But I have somehow got myself into the position where I am able to approach and build attraction with girls I find really hot, but can’t close. ……

    Intresting. Reckon it’s a mental block? Cant bring yourself to getting her number? Are you waiting for some magic moment? Next time you are chatting up your hottie and shit is going well, get your hand down to her wasit, brush/ pat her ass etc, when she steps away, hook a finger in her britches and drag her back to you. Extra points if you hook her panties. She slaps you or you get her number. Either way your ready for the next mission; banging a new bitch or getting her panties off

    Also, maybe you are focusing on her as the pinnacle of your ass smashing career and are doing the sniper thing vs having fun and crushing bitches. Target fixation can really fuck you up. Having bitches in your rotation helps with that…. but I am an old school sort of dude and generally think the solution to a man’s lady problems is banging some other chick.

    ——–‘
    I’d actually love to succeed and just bag one of these girls.
    ——–
    I get that but you are thinking to small. The goal is to fuck both of them. At the same time

  7. @Ton

    She slaps you or you get her number.

    Or maybe she tells you that if you do stuff like that you might get slapped. Through a buddy. Because she’s afraid that she’ll fuck you if she sees you again.

  8. @Blax

    You naturally know this and you’re married and had your fun from what I’ve read. Your one of the more outspoken people here but its like your a grad student at a 101 class, catch my drift. You would have a harder time teaching it because your life experiences helped shape the man you are today. Same goes for Rollo and all the other OGs that post on here. Most dudes nowadays learn more about life from movies, internet, anime and video games (which all push manboobery for the most part). It’s really tough trying to teach dudes my age or younger how to man up and act accordingly. They know they’re fucked up and they are willing to change but they usually throw everything out the window and continue to act like children. I’m pretty sure you’ve seen it wherever you work or where you go to socialize. These kids WANT to get laid and WANT to be cool so they will do ANYTHING that they think will help them get women (Gym, career, mystical feels bullshit) that doesn’t involve directly talking to them. Also I’m sure that 95% of guys are here because they want to get laid more don’t BS me, most of the traffic came from Heartiste and TRP and those sites are all about getting pussy (with some career advice thrown in).

  9. “P.S.: my own experience is the hotter the girl the less bullshit. Less shit tests or any of that”

    Hey, Ton, that is why you have honor among men. Unrepentant masculinity. Before you even engage, the women don’t need to test you, because they see the thing they are testing for as you approach.

    These hotter girls trust your masculinity via your subcomms. Good job there. They don’t have to poke shit test.

    Nice gig you got going there and I’m a fan of that. Most men should push toward your mindset and your former life experiences as well as your current biker, bar owner thing driven by your former experiences.

    As always, you are a guy to look to for how to operate because of how you operate.

    Way to go.

  10. @blax

    TRM isn’t a PUA blog. Why is this impossible for guys solely interested in pickup only to understand??

    because they and rp theory go together. rp/trm is the theory, pua is it being applied in real time. each helps the other — rp explains more broadly why attraction and game techniques work, while FRs help to refine the theory.

    add to that I don’t know of any PUA guys who are soley interested in pickup. they comment here because they like TRM and they like hearing about the theory.

    finally, as has been mentioned many times, FRs comprised a tiny minority of posts. Perhaps 10%-15%. Further, there are many comments that are not related to the topic at hand, yet are not FR or pua related. The nature of a largely unmoderated comments section is that it is going to be somewhat of a free for all, its not going to be an neat and orderly string of praised for the author “all hail the great and magnificent rollo for another insightful post! We exult in his knowledge and dedication!”

    Its somewhat of a hugbox where guys, mainly OMGs, refuse to accept differing viewpoints from infield. I mean this:

    I’ll stop now. I have to censor myself because some of you dudes are waaayyy to sensitive and feel that everyone else is wrong and misguided somehow. But guys that think like you? That you have to be constantly helped and coddled like a fucking baby? Life has some shit in store for you.

    Just like it does for everyone. You’re not special. You don’t have superpowers.

    …Describes the OMG reaction to the marriage debate perfectly.

    SJF was talking about how yareally was saying their wives had old wrinkly vaginas and shit…he never said that lol. All he was saying is that even if you’re wife is a hot 40 or 50 something, she’s passed her prime. You might love her all the same, but according to the SMP she’s not going to be rated as highly. The 22 year old version of her is hotter. Not really all the controversial.

    However, the OMGs blew up all over that shit. I really don’t see where the YSG/PUAs have been hypersensitive at all, but I will strike a middle ground and say both sides have been very sensitive about certain issues.

    No one ever claimed the pua understanding of the world is perfect. However, what makes it a great methodology is that its core principle is “Go out and test it.” If you have a particular set of beliefs, then go out in field and try it out. Try it the way you think it will work, then do the exact opposite. Have guys from all over the world test it out. The review each other’s notes.

    OMGs have just been reluctant to go out an test things. I don’t see how any of the PUAs would have an issues if you went out and tested some of these ideas. Yareally had a good suggestion for rollo to go incognito and try to social network his way into a reserved section. And hell, read IAS’s field report. Hell, he go into the reserved section just by going into it early on and sitting at an empty table.

    https://therationalmale.com/field-reports/#comment-181427

    The girl from the mixed set wants to seat down but all the tables have a “reserved” sign. They actually ask one of the hired guns how much it is in another room and it is expensive (duh). I’m not sure if it was with bottle service but from the order of magnitude I don’t even think it was. So we go back to the main room and I just go “Let’s seat down in this one, there is no one here anyway”. They are kind of hesitating so I seat down and say “The worse that can happen is they come here and ask us to leave”. The first time a bouncer passed us they were a bit nervous but he didn’t say anything so they relaxed.

    Lol, he didn’t push it, but he could have just hung around there and BS’d and gotten to know everyone, so by the time the section was filled up, everyone would just assume he was in that reserved section lol. It was a great move and something I am going to try out myself once I get to a similar venue.

    But point is, the OMGs aren’t going out there and testing this shit out.

    Culum was right though, this is a generational thing. The biggest shitstorms to come out of all of this have been the marriage debate and the looks debate. Nothing to do with PUA.

  11. @hank, @lostinegoyareally

    “yareally was saying their wives had old wrinkly vaginas and shit…he never said that lol”

    the quote mining from June 18 is Ya, which to repeat was:

    “… to me locking down to one vag means I’m just going to end up fucking an old wrinkly vag at some point”

    this was after he noted he was going to offend the OMG:

    “… the married guys will take offense to this but to me ugly is ugly. I’ll hear rants about how “my wife’s wrinkled hands are sexy to me because those hands passed my newborn son to me” and that’s cool if that’s your thing, but like, to me I just see wrinkled ugly hands lol”

    so when Ya said

    “… insulted them all (the only thing I ever said that was even close to ACTUALLY offensive was “your post-wall wives aren’t 10s in the SMP” and that’s just an inarguable reality, sorry guys, but Blax & crew got ego-butthurt over that interpreting that as me saying their wives are all ugly shit).”

    that was not true, as he actually used “ugly”

  12. @redlight @blax

    yup, this is what I am talking about

    “… to me locking down to one vag means I’m just going to end up fucking an old wrinkly vag at some point”

    Which is not referring to OMG wives at all. He’s just saying that if he marries a girl, eventually she’s gonna get old, and he’s rather have a younger chick. Again, OMG being to sensitive, reading insults when there are not and aren’t referring to OMG wives specifically. Just Ya’s personal preference.

    “… the married guys will take offense to this but to me ugly is ugly. I’ll hear rants about how “my wife’s wrinkled hands are sexy to me because those hands passed my newborn son to me” and that’s cool if that’s your thing, but like, to me I just see wrinkled ugly hands lol”

    Which is just an example. Its saying that you may have wife goggles, but he doesn’t. Again, overly sensitive.

    So again, OMG are the ones that are reading into shit, being too senstive, and overreacting to everything.

    Anyone care to do a quote mine of how many times sentient has called someone a gamma faggot?

  13. Cool thing happened Friday. A chick who thought she was out of my league had her bitch shield up. I approached her and asked her to dance and she refused. I then smiled my Amused Mastery Smile ™ and said some random bullshit and she smiled and engaged me.

  14. @redlight

    “yareally was saying their wives had old wrinkly vaginas and shit…he never said that lol”

    Dude, these guys are in lurrrve with YaReally…probably some are alpha widows.

  15. this was after he noted he was going to offend the OMG:
    “… the married guys will take offense to this but to me ugly is ugly. I’ll hear rants about how “my wife’s wrinkled hands are sexy to me because those hands passed my newborn son to me” and that’s cool if that’s your thing, but like, to me I just see wrinkled ugly hands lol”

    Of course, I would NEVER say that shit about Mrs. Gamer…she’s Asian, her hands aren’t wrinkly…YaReally YaReally is saying that OMGs would say shit that we don’t say that I can remember.

    The YaReally Cocksucking Squad is now gonna say that we read in/misinterpreted shit YaReally said…girls, maybe he wants to take your anal virginity next.

  16. I’ll hear rants

    Where? Who has wife goggles on? Not me! Where is there a rant from an OMG about his wife’s sexy hands?

    Bend over and drop your panties, girls.

  17. “Just a blog PSA: I’ve now bumped the link count of comments to 4 links before it goes to mod”

    Hah, love you man.

    But your language has failed before. The way you phrased it in the past was that three was borderline.

    Four links are OK. Five goes to moderation? (Or 4 links goes to Moderation)

    A whole new day. That is a great change.

    It was interesting before when YaReally had thought he was above and beyond normal WordPress limitations set by you…

  18. @ Hank

    Brother, you can pose it any way you like.

    So let me ask you something. If a man has lived, and I’m talking about LIVED, for 40-70 years on earth, do you Really, honestly believe that he hasn’t tested shit numerous times over the course of his life?

    Do you really believe that??

    If I told you that it’s possible to approach a woman and ask for a fuck, and get that fuck, that it would be crazy and impossible and that I’m talking out of my ass and haven’t field tested it?

    You think all men live for 40-70 years doing nothing, gaining no experience, with their thumbs up their asses?

    Living life isn’t field testing? Why would that be exactly?

    I’m NOT ANTI PUA, but that attitude is a part of it that I dislike greatly. Pua’s aren’t reinventing the goddamned wheel. It’s a niche Hank.

    You say TRM and red pill goes hand and hand with pickup? I think they should indeed go together, but ive lost track a year ago the countless times I’ve heard a PUA bleating shit that is the exact opposite or red pill.

    Listen man, you can defend some of the unnecessarily dumb shit that’s been said here, but I know what I’ve read and the intent behind it. Monday morning quarterbacking doesn’t change it.

    I mostly stay quiet, believe it or not. I don’t comment on every stupid and misguided nugget of new found wisdom I happen to read. But I’m becoming less inclined to do so because some guys can’t calibrate themselves as men. ” I’ve watched some videos and read some books and I go out often and approach women and push myself….now I know everything and can correct everyone because they don’t do exactly what I do…”.

    Fuck me runnin’.

    Nah Hank. Red Pill is something else from what I see pua’s talking about. I’ve watched dudes prance in here making fun of masculine shit they don’t understand. Is that red pill? Calling bullshit and challenging any non PUA tested action or theory, because nobody made a video about it or taught it in a bootcamp? Is that stuff red pill in your mind?

    Again, for the ten thousandth time, guys can do what they feel is important with the very short life they have. No do overs and time gives absolutely no fucks. You’ll understand this very clearly in another 30 years. But to question everything else outside of such a narrow field of interest is just Olympic style pooch screwing at the end of the day.

    Dudes can pay all of that ” I’m red pill and it goes hand and hand with pickup” lip service shit all they want, but the words are preserved here for fucking posterity.

    Hat tip to redlight.

    In the end, after all of this, I still want you to have what you want. But as a man interested in guys being better with time and EXPERIENCE, I wish you more than your immediate wants. wider vision and all that.

  19. Yeah Yareally has moved on before… he moved from the Chateau… a lot of guys there were just simply tired of poosy chasing PUA bits on non Game posts…

  20. This isn’t directly related to this blog “The Unbearable Rightness of Women” but Rollo mentioned this earlier this year or late last year. I even forgot about it and I’m assuming a lot of people have forgotten about it as well but the showing will soon be upon us http://theredpillmovie.com/

  21. Thanks for the headsup Jafyk.

    This probably wont be a box office hit,there is a theater down in the dorm district that will show it for sure.
    I will go see it even if it is produced by a feminist.

  22. @YaReally

    Hate to see you go man. I totally get it though…

    @Old Guys

    Lost respect for all of ya (except HABD, sfc Ton seems cool). Even the “enlightened” kfg (lol, not even close.) Hope you enjoy your little closed minded hug box echo chamber so you can reassure yourselves that the world isn’t changing and stroke each other’s egos, pat each other on the back and talk about guns and fighting and fixing cars and pizza recipes and shit. You know. REAL Red pill conversations…

    @Rollo

    Hope you contact Owen. I’d really love to see you open your mind about RSD and pick-up in general. Men need that…

    Anyway, I’m out of here. Partially out of solidarity for YaReally. Partly because I need to hold myself accountable and get into the field. Nothing left for me to learn here.

  23. Thanks SJF. No dobut I was blessed in that area as the things I am naturally drawn to create strong mental and physical frames

    But there is more going on. It’s my understanding that good looking people, men and women, have better over all experiences in life. I reckon that makes them easier going people. Nicer because the world has been nicer to them. And Blax is correct girls are just girls. The hottie is nicer because the world has been nicer to her but she is also use to all sorts of men beta orbiting and she has had enough.

    You role, strong frame not hiding you are sexually interested but not making a big deal out of it….. you are the one guy who doesn’t blurt out “you’re hot” when you 1st start bullshitting. You ask her how her softball team is doing, she doesn’t play softball. Sorry my bad, figured you were into chicks and softball. She does something to show off her midriff, you poke her belly and say lite beer for you only. Guys lite her cigarette, you steal it from her and say it will stunt your growth little girl.

    Unless that hottie is in a big city, odds are no dude has ever ran game on her. She is caught up in the emotional roller coaster and yours for the taking.

    The hard part for new guys isn’t the skill set or frame, it’s the not choking during the big game. And once you’ve crashed and burned a couple hundred times in a weekend one more isn’t a big deal either

  24. Bikes and bars

    If you don’t have one, buy a bike. Damn near doesnt matter what. Chicks dig bikes. Most chicks arent that fired up about brands. Harely has the best rep but chicks get on metric bikes every day. Some UMC chicks will semi avoid HD’s because of the blue collar rep, but not many. If you ride a moderate amount, say one road trip a month, you’ll always have something to talk about. A 2 week trip a year to yak about and chicks will hang on your stories. Society creates your status for you. Want to make the Terminator look more bad ass? Holyweird sticks him on a Harely. Want to make the mission impossible dude look less gay? Holyweird sticks him on a rice rock. Can’t ride? Motorcycle safty fondation has beginner classes near you almost every weekend. If you are challenged in the fashionable dress area, biker rags have you covered. Now you aren’t a slob, you’re a bike. Same thing if your a little chubby. Take a girl to a McDonald’s 3 blocks away for milks and you’re lame. Take her to one 3 towns away on your bike and it was cool.

    A bike is an amazing ass smashing tool.

    Bars; being a bar owner increases your status like nothing else. I also own a garage/ bike shop, used car/bike lot and a bunch of 18 whleers. Everyone reacts positively about the bar. Even men much wealthier men/ women. Hard to explain but it’s there.

  25. @Blax

    If I told you that it’s possible to approach a woman and ask for a fuck, and get that fuck, that it would be crazy and impossible and that I’m talking out of my ass and haven’t field tested it?

    Lol, that was my first at 19 in college back when dinosaurs roamed the earth and girls had ASD up the ass. I’m more than a little older than you are. I got this idea from reading a Playboy article about asking 100 girls if you wanted a fuck. I only needed to ask one and she was hot! I was fucking petrified (oops, image unintended, my dick was actually shriveled from fear, lol).

  26. Come on dudes – just let the rest of them leave and keep about your business. No need to be snarky… frame and all…

  27. @ asd

    Andy is an example of a guy that the red pill confused, and he just turbocharged his confusion by going all strawberry fields ( nothing is real ).

    He made a choice, as men will do. Married man with kids deciding to question all of his life choices without being thorough enough to actually reach any conclusions other than ” nothing is real so nothing matters”.

    So, he wants to drag his incomplete, emotional mindset into the all powerful field. Yeah, that should fix everything.

    Idk, maybe he’s gay at heart and that’s what’s confusing him.

    Alpha widow indeed.

  28. @Earthling

    Come on dudes – just let the rest of them leave and keep about your business. No need to be snarky… frame and all…

    Oh, I hate to waste an opportunity for a bit of fun. No serious snark in my comments. Those young guys have me laughing. They tried a serious challenge and it failed. Don’t give up…try again.

  29. @ Disgruntled

    Frame strong.😀

    Removed the kid gloves and dialed back the excessive ” understanding and coddling “, as it yielded very little long standing results. Some motherfuckers want to just be confused and ignorant, and demand that they are special.

    You can’t even tell them to ” man up ” because that’s hilarious somehow and part of the FI.

    I’m all for guys looking for answers, but if you’re only looking for your shoes in the freezer, then you’ll be a shoeless dude until you understand the concept of a wider search.

    And everyone cosigning your freezer search so as not to upset you, is only adding to the problem.

  30. @Blax

    So, he wants to drag his incomplete, emotional mindset into the all powerful field. Yeah, that should fix everything.

    Young men have accepted the FI message that men are incomplete women and women live in their feelings, so, in order to be truly human, men need to live in their feelings as well. It’s a common problem for young men–they are emotion-driven. I see it all the time.

    Older men know because of experience (= data points!!! Pay attention, @YaReally admirers!) that we can’t let our emotions control us. (or anything that might interfere with our mission, including various addictions)

  31. On bikes…

    I worked with an older dude who was in a bike gang for a bit. was a cool guy, had a few bikes. He was getting me interested in getting one. He had a live in GF his age who worked with us in the dispatch office. She said there was nothing like the feeling of getting on the back of a Harley. didn’t give it much more thought. Oh the guy was also banging the 20 YO hot girl in the dispatch office…

    Then one night at my apartment about 1AM a guy was revving his rice orcket… just holding the throttle at like 7K RPM RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR…. so I go out to look at what the hell he is doing and his fat GF was on the seat and he was just standing there revving it while she was getting down with the seat… LOL

    feeling indeed….

  32. In line with the OP, men are incomplete women, so women are ideal human beings. Young, propagandized men live in fear of it being discovered that they aren’t women. Young men work hard at being women, including living in their feelings.

    I aim to be AWARE of my feelings, but not to let them CONTROL me or interfere with my mission.

  33. @ Theasdgamer glad you got to dance. I was only asking about your dance skill set because the comments had changed to DPA. I was thinking what am I passionate about and ballroom is the only thing I push the envelope on. I stopped dancing about 2 months ago Same time I injured my lower back doing shoulder press at home. I should of stayed in the gym. Using gym equipment is safer but you have to wait. A hate not utilizing my time properly fuckers at the gym will just sit on peice of equipment and play on the phone or talk or something. These days I’m just in a monk mode or a mgtow state of mind. I’m gonna chill until the 1st of the year. This weekend I butchered a doe that my kid killed Friday and as I worked on it I was pondering DPA and thinking how many saltwater strip bass and how many deer can a man harvest. How many times can a man go primitive camping before he no longer pushing himself. When mastery becomes mundane it’s time to look for new adventures. Like a progressive into promanade with an A turn traveling down line of dance then grapevine against line of dance to close the pattern with a half twinkle then back around the room again with 3/8 turns. Leading a dime peice down the floor where she has all Alfa eyes on her. Why go watch a girl dance on a stripper pole when you can be the pole she dances against. Yes DPA makes me think. Theasdgamer I’m sure most of these guys don’t have clue what I’m talking about but I think you know

  34. On bikes and vibrations

    Two nuns were out riding their bikes in Rome when they hear the bells sounding for Mass. “We’re going to be late!” says the younger nun. The older one says, “don’t worry, I know a short cut, follow me” and she turns down a bumpy cobblestone side street. Breathless, they pedal up to the church just in time to go in. The younger one says “Sister Mary, I’ve never come that way before!”

    Simple dirty jokes are a good way to sexualize your convos… Get three or for you can do quickly in a row… take it from there…

  35. Ain’t no place perfect. Ain’t no man right all the time.

    Don’t know why we have to harp on each other so. It’s some dogmatic shit. Like madonna/whore complex applied to other men.

    Christ. Let’s leave the self-cannibalizing to the SJW’s.

  36. So after you tell a few jokes, flip it around and tell her to tell one… she won’t be able to most of the time. Now you have her complying and then start qualifying to you… “really, You don’t know any jokes? Oh man, I thought you were cool.” roll off …[she qualifies] roll back “OK well what other skills do you have?”… [qualifies]

    If she manages a joke it will be lame so just act like this was the worst thing you ever heard in your life… and repeat as above… “that’s terrible!…. oh man I thought you were cooool?” etc.

  37. Theasdgamer I’m sure most of these guys don’t have clue what I’m talking about but I think you know

    Some of it…different instructors use different terms. I tried telling girls they were Cinderella at the ball when I danced with them and the floor was empty…they ate it up. One was chatty cathy the whole time she danced with me and was always laughing and giggling…a lot of that was her personality, but she was also trying to qualify herself as fun to me. I didn’t even have to prompt the qualification.

  38. @ Rollo

    I’m excited to see the FR section up and running. Looks really slick in the bar at the top. Took me a few minutes to realize where it was, which I think is a good thing as it doesn’t stick out at all.

    Just spent a few hours organizing my work area, including lots of labels for lots of drawers. Definitely makes things run smoother and I feel like that’ll do the same here. Very cool to see TRM growing and evolving…speaking of which, can’t wait for the 3rd book to come out to add to the collection.

  39. I’m glad to see that Softek is a young man who hasn’t been scared off…no, I don’t want a date, lol.

    I don’t think I’ll go play with the kiddies in the sandbox. If I have social questions, I’ll ask the men on the main posts.

    @Keith

    Do you see many problems caused by people forming cliques when you’re out dancing?

  40. Talking to Connecticut girl this weekend:

    Me: B.S you don’t have tattoos.

    Her: I swear I don’t.

    Me: Prove it.

    Her: Yeah you want me to take off my clothes, here?

    Me: Easy…easy. This is small town. Start with your top. Here, let me help you…

  41. @Intellect

    Her: Yeah you want me to take off my clothes, here?

    Me: Yeah, here. [give her an amused “you’ve got to be kidding” look with a small smile] No, silly, if it’s in an intimate place, we’d need a little privacy. So let’s go for a walk. I’m not promising that I’ll look or that you’ll get a kiss, but we can chat and get acquainted. Maybe I’ll like you and maybe not. [give her an amused mastery smile] I need to like a girl before she gets a kiss.

    If she declines, roll off. She’ll probably try to get you to come back. If the girl is shy, she might need more comfort before she’ll go outside with you, so you give comfort for a bit and calibrate her emotional level and instigate a second time a little later with a reason to go outside that isn’t sexual (e.g., to chat).

    Here, you sexualize and flip the script and instigate for isolation and offer to give comfort when you talk about chatting and getting acquainted. And you’re avoiding the “perv” tag and sticking it on her just a little. You’re also mitigating her ASD. You’re telling her that she needs to qualify as a special snowflake when you tell her that you need to like her before she gets a kiss. Of course, you’ll have to find a reason to like her that she will believe. (Hopefully, you’re not planning on fucking girls you don’t like, lol.)

  42. @blax

    So let me ask you something. If a man has lived, and I’m talking about LIVED, for 40-70 years on earth, do you Really, honestly believe that he hasn’t tested shit numerous times over the course of his life?

    Do you really believe that??

    Its just like I was telling sentient about the Trump win. There were droves of people in the media with DECADES of experience on politics, elections, social trends, etc etc. These are EXPERTS. And they were DEAD wrong about the election. And then there were people out on the fringes, like myself, who have ZERO (count ’em –> 0) experience in either of those fields, yet called the election.

    Why? Because we actually went out in field, chatted with people, and found that while union guys, people from the rust belt USUALLY voted democrat, this time they were going trump. Same with some blacks, same with women. There was a major shift that was happening here. Democrats were fed up with the party, fed up with politics as usual.

    But the experts kept going by the old paradigms. They went with the old rules, the old books. They didn’t go out in the field and find out how things were changing. They didn’t keep testing their ideas and make sure they were still relevant.

    So yes, you do have experience. That’s great. But just because you’ve been around a while doesn’t mean you know anything. And more to the point, being an “expert” or “knowledgeable” isn’t an ending point. Its not a badge you get and then say “wheelp, I’m gonna call it a night. Now that I’ve got my expert badge, I’m not going to go out and do anything new. I’m just gonna coast on what I already know.”

    Nope. You have to constantly prove you know your stuff, you have to re-earn those accolades each and every day. You don’t get to rest on your laurels.

    Much like with the Trumpening, stuff with girls changes and it changes fast. While the basics are always the same, a lot of the details will switch on an almost yearly basis.

    For example, you used to be able to text girls. You could game a girl solely over text, and get her to come over to fuck just off text game. But times have changed. That no longer works. Girls nowadays are too into their phones, its not a novelty anymore, and now girls won’t play along and will interpret ANYTHING as being creepy or strange if they are given even the slightest opportunity. So as of right now, for text game you have to push for the meetup ASAP. Ideally, you’ll get her on voice even before then.

    Thing is, if you were a guy who learned to game girls through text, but then stopped going out, you’d be convinced text game still worked. “Hey, just do this here. Tease her a bit, make it sexual.” Then guys who are actually out running text game would say “uh, actually now that doesn’t work anymore. Try it out now and you’ll see.” and that old text guru would say “What? Don’t my years of running text game count for anything? You think I haven’t gotten girls over text? Don’t you think I know what I’m doing? Why should I have to go out and run text game on other girls? I did it in the past, I know what I’m about.”

    So there is the disconnect. Sure, you’re gonna know the basics if you picked up girls in the past. But the details change as time goes by, and you’re not gonna be aware of those if you aren’t going out like the PUA/YSGs are doing. You end up being like those media experts who were broadsided by the Trump win, when there were plenty of ordinary folks who were saying that all along, because they actually went out and chatted with the american people.

    I’m NOT ANTI PUA, but that attitude is a part of it that I dislike greatly. Pua’s aren’t reinventing the goddamned wheel. It’s a niche Hank.

    Its not reinventing the wheel. All its doing is taking stuff that’s already been done before, and making an easy to understand formula for how stuff works. Because otherwise you get OMGs that run off on their platitudes of “Do the hard work.” or “remember its just girls.” and new guys are like “…okay…so how do I get that girl in the club?” But PUA goes “Sure, you need to do A then B then C, and then later do D.” so the new guy goes “oh, okay, that makes sense, I’ll try that this weekend.”

    Again, for the ten thousandth time, guys can do what they feel is important with the very short life they have. No do overs and time gives absolutely no fucks. You’ll understand this very clearly in another 30 years. But to question everything else outside of such a narrow field of interest is just Olympic style pooch screwing at the end of the day.

    Again, natural mindset. You were having sex at 13. OF COURSE pussy isn’t a big deal to you, you’ve always had it.

    But a lot of YSG didn’t get laid until their twenties, if at all. So getting pussy is a part of that process. They have to learn to me more confident, learn about themselves, gain more skills with women and general socializing, and THEN they can move on to the deeper shit.

    These guys have a LOOONG way to go before they can switch over to the deeper shit. Its hard to care about esoteric shit when you are starving to death. But give a man some food, teach him to hunt, and then we can worry about a higher purpose.

    This takes time though. Guys are having to lean what you learned at a very young age PLUS undo the years of negative social conditioning and shitty mindsets. That’s not something you can really comprehend, when like I said you lost your virginity at 13 and were banging coworkers at 17. That is so far away from what most of the YSG are experiencing.

    So its gonna BE A WHILE before new guys are gonna get to that higher purpose, but if you’ll actually pay attention to what yareally wrote, and in those ooooohh spooooky evil RSD vids, you’ll see they are filled with references to a higher purpose, to getting the rest of your life in check, to getting other hobbies and other priorities.

    But like I said, you started out getting girls at such a young age and getting an abundance mindset, and for a lot of young guys that takes YEARS to develop.

    You just started out at such and advanced level you can’t really comprehend how much shit there is to undo and new skills to acquire. So it seems way to slow and narrow focused because you already had all this handled at a young age.

    I’d recommend you read scray’s FRs in the yareally archives. You’ll find, yes, they too are pooosy focused. But you’ll also see behind the scenes he was working on other stuff, like especially lifiting and getting in shape, and they all worked together to get him to where he is today. But that shit took time and he was also starting from a much high position than a lot of YSG do.

    In the end, after all of this, I still want you to have what you want. But as a man interested in guys being better with time and EXPERIENCE, I wish you more than your immediate wants. wider vision and all that.

    I mean, go preach to a guy that’s starving to death about having a higher purpose. Lol, you’re gonna have a lot more success if you feed him first. And that’s what PUA does…give you some skills to get girls on your terms, which then makes it MUCH easier to focus on your career, your family, your hobbies, whatever.

    Its just you’ve never been starving like most YSG are or have been, so you can’t really comprehend what they are going through, and the amount of time it takes to get to just a normal mindset.

  43. best day of 2016? Memory worthy days in 2016?

    Setting world record with my kids, there’s one.

    Long distance race with some buddies up Lake Michigan, yep, pretty good.

    More than a few good and worthy memories spent cruising for a few weeks in the islands with the family.

    Midway with my daughter, always a good time.

    Making hooch with son, he makes me proud.

    Making some PR’s learning to lift, I might remember some of that shit when I am older.

    Looking forward to 2017, Have good momentum now.

  44. The SMP changes at an incredibly rapid pace. If a man has been off the street for any length of time he is probably behind the power curve about the tactical reality on the ground

    However, some strategic shit never changes.

  45. @ton @Hank

    The SMP changes at an incredibly rapid pace. If a man has been off the street for any length of time he is probably behind the power curve about the tactical reality on the ground
    However, some strategic shit never changes.

    E-media changes rapidly. Game for e-media also has to change rapidly.

    Cold approach not so much. Holding frame requirement never changes. Status and confidence being attractive to women never changes. All strategic shit.

    Riding motorcycles for men is a status thing with some women and a fantasy trip for others…not to mention the sexual THRILL of riding one for a woman.

    Then there’s dancing phone sex. She puts her no. in your cell, she sets her cell to vibrate, you put her cell in your right front pants pocket, you all dance tight, and you call her cell…PRESTO!…phone sex for the broad.

  46. @ SFC Ton

    Right. This is why guys shouldn’t become hermits. Never walk out into the sunshine wondering to yourself ” what happened?? Everything is different “.

    Went to a club a while back for Latin night, because I love dancing salsa and worked hard at it for a long time ( learned a bunch of old school moves from a bunch of old dudes in PR ). I like dancing with the wife, but sometimes I need to go out with the fellas.

    At the club I’m holding up the bar with my buds, having a few shots of Old Grandad, shooting the shit and having a grand old time. 3 stools down were 4 chicks, early 20’s I’d guess, looking very, very good…well, one was kinda heavy, but the others weren’t.

    So I’m ready to hit the floor. It’s getting crowded now. So I roll down the bar and ask the tallest one of the 4 to dance. The heavy chick calls me a dirty old man jokingly, and another says I remind her of her father. Chuckles all around. Zfg. So I start to pull the girl I was speaking to out on the floor and I tell her ” Come dance with daddy “.

    She made a few faces, but she was ” allowing herself ” to be pulled on the floor.

    So we danced and I was having a blast. The song ended, but it was followed by one of my faves, so I didn’t let her leave. We kept dancing and I tried her just for fun. I grabbed her ass and pulled her close, spun her around and pushed her away, then yanked her hard against me. Now she’s got her arms draped around my neck.

    Afterwards, I work my way back to my fellas at the bar. We’re eating and drinking and having a really good time. Before I knew it a couple of hours had passed and we were basically in the same spot. The chicks had taken a table, and a few guys were standing around chatting them up.

    Another song came on that I liked and I scanned the room for a partner to snatch up. By this time folks had started pairing off somewhat. So I walked past the table where the 4 chicks were and yelled ” C’mon girl, dance with daddy!!!”, and she followed me out on the floor.

    This time, she got molested. Hee hee hee.

    We chatted a little by her table and the heavy chick was giving me the stink eye. So I asked her ” you like cigars?” and she wrinkled up her entire face. So I tell her ” I’ma borrow your friend for a while…you can tag along if you like and I won’t blow smoke in your face, I promise “. She declined and I walked outside with my dance partner and sparked up a Rocky Patel.

    We were puffing and talking and laughing and puffing and talking.

    If I was planning to try to bone this chick, her heavy set friend would’ve been an impediment somewhat, but I already got this chick ” Isolated ” as the pua guys would say. She’s already outside of the club.

    Guys sometimes say that it don’t count for anything if you don’t pull and fuck. How do you know you could actually have a shot at those drawers?

    I submit that a guy should be able to tell, but that’s vague I guess. Pull enough of them and you know.

    Towards the end of the conversation she was right up on me, looking up at me, swaying back and forth ( lol, not drunk swaying..). I asked her where she lived and she told me. She told me in great detail – go past the light and the driveway is on your left. I’m on the second floor…If you see a Nissan Sentra in the lot I’m home..- detail. Then she said it was breezy and asked if we could sit in the car.

    I declined and took her back inside and danced some more, molesting all the way.

    Now, as a grown man I ask you, in your opinion if I said I could’ve smashed, am I mistaken?

    And it was 2016 as far as I know ( but I confess I had a belly full of Bourbon ).

    I don’t disagree that things change. I contend that at their core, women do not really change all that much. Don’t know about Tinder game and text game and table game and hopscotch game, but what I do know is that all of that shit is just a mere annoyance to be smacked down. Face to face Game is still King, imo. Flakey chicks are flakey chicks – NEXT!!!!

  47. @ton @blax @ASDgamer

    The SMP changes at an incredibly rapid pace. If a man has been off the street for any length of time he is probably behind the power curve about the tactical reality on the ground

    However, some strategic shit never changes.

    That’s the whole disconnect between OMGs and YSG:.

    YSG/PUA talk (mostly) tactics

    OMG/TRM talk strategy

    Cold approach not so much. Holding frame requirement never changes. Status and confidence being attractive to women never changes. All strategic shit.

    Sure, but HOW you convey they confidence will shift slightly, or rather what women view as confident behavior. But the basics of: see girl, jump into convo with her, lead her on an adventure will always be attractive.

    The difference though is what you do after. Paul Janka used to go and grab a bunch of numbers during the day. Technology was different then, so you could grab a number and still convert that into a day2 and/or lay. Problem is with rampant texting and tinder culture, girls aren’t going to answer their phones like they used to. So it doesn’t cut it to just grab their number, you gotta lead them off on an instadate and push for a SDL. There is a lot more pressure on that initial interaction than there was in times past.

    But cold approach is still cold approach, and its always attractive. Its only the specifics that change.

    Hence the debate with OMGs. The puas (mainly yareally) weren’t saying they knew NOTHING about LTR and marriage, merely that times had changed. The basics are always the same, its just you have to take into account the different culture nowadays, with phones, FI dominated culture that hates on masculinity and encourages women to frivorce their husbands.

    If people would keep in mind those nuances (YSG talk tactics, OMG talk strategy) I think we could avoid most of the conflicts here. But from what I’ve read, most aren’t interested in finding agreement, but rather starting fights and keeping to their own tribe.

  48. @ Ton

    ” having a few shots of Old Grandad …”

    Oh shit. It never occurred to me.

    But, not a grandpa just yet.

  49. The real question is…. does it negatively affect your man cred if you bang the heavy chick and the hottie at the same time? Clearly banging a fattie solo gets you booted from the Council of Masculine Standards and Professional Pratices but is there ano Official Ruling on a heavy gal and her hot friend ?

  50. @Hank

    Sure, but HOW you convey they confidence will shift slightly, or rather what women view as confident behavior.

    Give an example, please…I don’t perceive any difference 2016 vs. 1972. If anything, girls react even more positively to me now…Idk, maybe I have more confidence now.

    The difference though is what you do after.

    I ALWAYS go for same day lay…I leave if logistics don’t work. I don’t ask for a number before a lay with rare exceptions and sometimes girls want to give me their number or take mine. Same in 1970 as in 2016…there, you can see that I’m an old fart. Blax was in diapers when I was running my game.

  51. @ Ton

    Actually the heavy chick was cute for a big gal. Proportioned but just bigger.

    I’ve smashed a few battle cruisers in my lifetime. A lez and her skinny ” wife ” were a lot of fun.

    The Grandad thing, my friends bust me about that too, but I cook quite a bit using grandad because it’s a bit cheaper, so I swill it sometimes while cooking.

    So when I go out It just pops out of my mouth – Grandad.

  52. @Ton

    Eh, I’d say you’re in the clear if the hottie won’t sleep with you unless you sleep with both of them.

    If you have the chance to bang just the hottie and pull the big one along anyways, that’s a foul.

  53. @ Ton

    I never worried about what other guys thought about who I was boning. I had a nerdy looking 5 that was a hellcat in bed, and my friends called her my new dog.

  54. @Blax

    Hehe, sometimes there is no accounting for these things I admit.

    I was crushing hard on a girl at a store the other day in spite of her being objectively pretty average, and the presence of an objectively hotter friend who left me cold. Subcomms maybe? I just got the impression we would click.

    I’m also a sucker for big brown eyes, sappy as that sounds.

  55. Imagine running game before birth control pills were on the market, heh.

    Anal. Because no matter what they say, they ain’t on the pill

    ——————
    Eh, I’d say you’re in the clear if the hottie won’t sleep with you unless you sleep with both of them.

    If you have the chance to bang just the hottie and pull the big one along anyways, that’s a foul.

    That would be my ruling as well. I have never banged a heavy drop. My pecker wouldn’t go for it

    ——————–
    Old Granddad is well liked, especially for the price. Store bought I am a Wild Turkey Rare Breed man, but I prefer pulling off a jug that good ol mountain dew.

    https://youtu.be/9ZBUDQsI6m8

  56. @ Forge

    Man, sometimes you just don’t know unless you try it out.

    My bed breaking 5 thought she was gaming me into bed by telling me that she would never have sex with me, then getting all explicit by saying stuff like ” I’m not going to suck your dick, or ride you hard, or let you tie me up…etc “.

    I’d decided a week before all of her pretense that I was gonna smash her to death. My boys asked me multiple times ” Why Blax?? “, like it hurt them to know. Thing was, she had the most beautiful skin and muscle tone. Like she was carved instead of born.

    Some things just flip the switches in us too.

  57. “Yeah, my whole family done give up on me,
    And it makes me feel oh so bad,
    The only one who’ll hang out with me,
    Is my Dear Old GrandDad”
    George Thorogood

  58. ASDgamer
    Imagine running game before birth control pills were on the market, heh.

    That stuff was on the market before 1968. Just how old are you claiming to be this week?

  59. Andy, you were ALWAYS a whiny little bitch, don’t let the door hit you in the ass.

    The reason your life sucks as much as you claim is because you choose it to be so. ‘Owning your shit’ is a foreign concept to you and that is the sole reason why you fail.

  60. I fully endorse the old school bourbons like Old Grand Dad as being good. Wild Turkey 101 is my favorite and lately, the country club pours it like three ounces on the rocks when I order it. I’d prefer it neat, but they like to make those rocks (ice) turn really brown.

    New age bourbons are just a fad. The old school stuff has more than enough character.

    I had my days of drinking enough whiskey to float a battle ship around. (Hey Gimme Back My Bullets). And I had my days of going upstream. No more. I only the drink the cheap good stuff these days because of control. The good stuff gets me too excited. I can’t even do regular consumption of anything at home other than Evan Williams because of self control.

    TL;DR: Old Grand Dad is great. So is any old school bourbon. And don’t get me started about Dickel 12 Tennessee whiskey (or it’s 14 year hand selected version).

    @Blaximus

    Nice field report.

  61. @ Hank

    ” But the experts kept going by the old paradigms. They went with the old rules, the old books. They didn’t go out in the field and find out how things were changing. They didn’t keep testing their ideas and make sure they were still relevant.

    So yes, you do have experience. That’s great. But just because you’ve been around a while doesn’t mean you know anything. And more to the point, being an “expert” or “knowledgeable” isn’t an ending point. Its not a badge you get and then say “wheelp, I’m gonna call it a night. Now that I’ve got my expert badge, I’m not going to go out and do anything new. I’m just gonna coast on what I already know.”

    Nope. You have to constantly prove you know your stuff, you have to re-earn those accolades each and every day. You don’t get to rest on your laurels.

    Much like with the Trumpening, stuff with girls changes and it changes fast. While the basics are always the same, a lot of the details will switch on an almost yearly basis.

    For example, you used to be able to text girls. You could game a girl solely over text, and get her to come over to fuck just off text game. But times have changed. That no longer works. Girls nowadays are too into their phones, its not a novelty anymore, and now girls won’t play along and will interpret ANYTHING as being creepy or strange if they are given even the slightest opportunity. So as of right now, for text game you have to push for the meetup ASAP. Ideally, you’ll get her on voice even before then.

    Thing is, if you were a guy who learned to game girls through text, but then stopped going out, you’d be convinced text game still worked. “Hey, just do this here. Tease her a bit, make it sexual.” Then guys who are actually out running text game would say “uh, actually now that doesn’t work anymore. Try it out now and you’ll see.” and that old text guru would say “What? Don’t my years of running text game count for anything? You think I haven’t gotten girls over text? Don’t you think I know what I’m doing? Why should I have to go out and run text game on other girls? I did it in the past, I know what I’m about.”

    So there is the disconnect. Sure, you’re gonna know the basics if you picked up girls in the past. But the details change as time goes by, and you’re not gonna be aware of those if you aren’t going out like the PUA/YSGs are doing. You end up being like those media experts who were broadsided by the Trump win, when there were plenty of ordinary folks who were saying that all along, because they actually went out and chatted with the american people.”

    I don’t fancy ” experts ” all that much. Never have. Just how my brain works.

    I don’t coast on much in life because I like learning new things. This is why I get so much pushback at times because this is the internet, and if I just state ” that’s not true ” ( referring to myself ), sometimes guys don’t get it because they don’t actually ” know ” me, and they don’t really get my mindset. No matter how much I explain, it will never make sense.

    There is a very, very valid reason why I don’t acknowledge all of the *things* that are supposed to be really hard, or not possible to do, or off limits and out of reach, or beyond one’s capabilities. At my core I don’t accept those premises. Am I wrong sometimes? You bet your ass, but it will never be because I was intimidated or listened to those preaching ((( It can’t be done that way ))). I was taught by individuals and life not to accept that you must self limit. So no, I don’t rest on any laurels. I’ll rest when I’m dead.

    That’s why I reject what Ya and scray say concerning me when I say ” no, you’re wrong “. Lol, they hate that shit, but it’s true.

    Like, the stuff you say about texting and what not, I don’t know much about that because I’ve never, ever been a huge fan of phones and stuff. I like face to face and always have. So when I read guys talking about girls not answering their phones or texts, I wonder ” why don’t you go find her?”. But now everything is so impersonal. That’s what tech is doing to people. Wanna be different? Learn to interact face to face. Plus, I guarantee 9 times outta 10 if you make enough of an impression on a chick, she’ll pick up your call. No excuses. What do you think men did before phones?

    The whole Tinder thing… I’ll just leave that alone. It’s a lost cause, as Ya and I went on about that for months already. Belief is a powerful thing, positively or negatively.

    Like, you say that I ( omg’s ) have to keep constantly keep proving myself/ourselves. To whom? Lol, I prove myself to myself. It’s a fools errand to keep trying to qualify yourself to other men. What’s the point of that? So they’ll take your advice? The old saying: Take it or leave it still applies. It’s like anything else in life, if a guy believes strongly in something, good luck trying to change his mind. Only HE can actually change his mind. If not, then we can end all of the strife in the middle east with some convincing arguments. They’ll see ” reason ” and ” common sense ” and ” field tested ” truths.

    I don’t know the basics about picking up girls from The Past, lol. I know how to get pussy. That has not changed because, at their core, women haven’t really changed. Only the most strident purple haired lesbian feminist SJW is immune to masculinity…and even then, maybe not.

    So yes, things are changing. I don’t ever dispute that, except when it comes to female nature. The trick is if a man has enough to snatch her back into her place. No small feat. It’s not them, it’s you ( I know y’all hate those sayings because they are nonsense and vague and all that ). That is the answer to a bunch of questions.

    And believe it or not I can indeed empathize with what guys are going through. I have eyes and ears and a fairly decent functioning brain.

    I appreciate your thoughts though. No doubt about that. Good shit you’re putting down. If I have to, maybe I will bore the fuck out of all of the commenters by trying to go in-depth to better explain my mindset and reasoning. But shit, that’s a lot of typing man.

  62. @Chump No More

    I disagree with your indictment of Andy. Even if he has left the building.

    He fell victim to the Feminine Imperative. He got caught up in the fog of war. He then recently developed an existential crisis. The guy needs a fucking break.

    I don’t believe in kicking him when he is down. Because he is on the red pill team, and fighting a desperate war of attrition, trying to make it through triage. I recommend Dark Triad in his situation, because it seems correct to serve himself (enlightened self interest) in what I see are dire times for him (existential crisis).

    I have no doubt he has bottomed and will re-emerge in real life with purpose without using his family as an excuse. I still think he will parent his children well and not take out his frustrations on them. Despite my judgmental nature, I’m in a non-judgment zone with Andy.

    Andy’s demeanor is flavored by his father’s tone. (I seem to recall blue pill lies there.)

    He can guide his children, responsibly, to be male red pill raised.

    Don’t Use Your Family as and Excuse, hey Deida:

    “Children learn most from their parents by osmosis. If their father is subtly weakened and compromised, this will flavor their experience of his love. Just as you did with your father, your children will unconsciously replicate or react to the emotional taste they absorb from you. Your essential emotional tone—at ease in your deepest purpose or fearful in the ambiguity of your intent—becomes part of your children’s home.”

  63. @ Blaximus

    That field report was the best one I have seen in a year. Why? The feel (emotional vibe) of being in the moment. The catch and release authenticity. Your dynamic approach. Your natural (testosterone infused) nature.

    Good stuff.

    Don’t sell yourself short. And use Old Grand Dad as a touchstone because it is authentic.

  64. @blax

    You can’t even tell them to ” man up ” because that’s hilarious somehow and part of the FI.

    This right here is the disconnect between your 40-70 years of lived experience and your ability to pass on the wisdom gained from that experience.

    The fact that “man up” has been thoroughly corrupted in a FI-dominant society is well-documented. It’s not hilarious–it’s a debasement of everything masculine.

    Here’s a link to a hate speech website you may find relevant:
    https://therationalmale.com/2014/01/20/suck-it-up/

    All we can see are words on a screen. There is no body language or vocal tonality on the internet. There is only one way possible to assess whether you in fact possess the wisdom and experience you assert. That is to read your words and observe whether they appear to be consistent with what is already known and whether they appear to be internally consistent across your various posts.

    This is why few, if any, believed SJF’s “I was just being an asshole because I was doing an experiment” bullshit.

    Of course, this is very different from the experience you have every day of the people you see regularly in real life. They can reflect and reinforce your sense of self because they know you and have witnessed the evidence of You, as you think of yourself. Nobody here, however, has met you. The only “blaximus” we know is made up from the words you write and the actions embedded in those words (e.g., how frequent you post, how quickly you respond, how you characterize previous interactions). Here, everyone starts at zero.

    Now consider the position of someone marinated his whole life in Blue Pill masculine-shaming. Let’s say Pajama Boy catches his girlfriend cheating on him and makes his way here. He reads Year One and Year Two and is enraged to learn that everyone he trusted has been lying to him his whole life. His pastor and his mother have been telling him to “man up” ever since he first became capable of producing for the sisterhood.

    He doesn’t know how to be a man in the Red Pill sense. He may not have ever seen an authentic RP man and those he’s seen may have been pointed out to him as toxic scumbags he should never emulate in any way. Every day is a struggle to shrug off a lifetime of BP conditioning, often with everyone in his real-life environment conspiring to keep him in his cubicle.

    He’s incompetent as a man and only now does he know it. He is painfully aware how much of his short life has been squandered trying to reach for a brass ring that does not exist. Desperate, full of shame and rage, he comes to TRM for help.

    And you, condensing your 40-70 years of lived experience into a transmittable packet, tell him to “man up.”

    What is his likely reaction to that? Without question, you have valuable hard-won wisdom, that could help Pajama Boy. Is “man up” more likely than not to help Pajama Boy benefit from your wisdom?

    Remember, you’re not his grandfather. He doesn’t know for certain whether you’re really practicing any of the wisdom found on this blog. You’re just words to him, but he’s so desperate for masculine guidance that he’s willing to consider listening to a random internet stranger.

    This medium does not permit the traditional method of transmitting masculinity from man to boy. You can’t take him hunting. You can’t be a physical presence in his life. He can’t even hear your voice. All we have here is words in the ether.

    Well you tell him to “man up,” or he sees you mocking the fact that he’s been duped by this phrase his whole life, what do you think that does to his willingness to trust you or any other man here? How do you respond when people question your 40-70 years of lived experience?

    If you’re here to chill out and enjoy the fellowship of other guys who’ve survived the FI grinder, enjoying a masculine space where you can celebrate how good it is to be an RP man, that’s fine. It’s important that dudes see what’s on the other side, what hard work and sincere self-mastery looks like. All I ask in that case is that you don’t denigrate the efforts of the guys running triage.

    But if you’re also here as a digital mentor of sorts, if you’re interested in helping BP eunichs become RP men, that’s a different kettle of fish. The guys seeking answers here are pathetic weaklings compared to the men they can be. Guys who have been through that process (e.g., Scray) know the humiliation of failing at being a man. From your description of your childhood, that’s when you learned how to be a man. All of your “can’t even be a man” moments happened when you were a child, when, traditionally, they’re supposed to happen. There’s no shame in now knowing how to be a man when you’re 12. Pajama boy is failing as a man at 36. He’s pathetic and he knows it.

    If you want to be an effective mentor, especially in this particular medium, you have to take the men as you find them. New guys are ashamed, afraid, humiliated, angry, and confused. Some guys struggle with this for years. Not only can they not “just get it” or “just do the work”, they have no idea what “the work” is and cannot trust their own past experiences to guide them.

    That’s why so many of them come to RP through PUA. PUA promises a concrete set of actions to baby-step these mewling, frightened noobs from the pit of despair to the sunlight of reality. For these guys, learning about hypergamy doesn’t sound like a system they can use to their advantage, it just sounds like “all women are faithless whores who will stab me in the back as soon as it’s profitable.” There’s no actionable path from “knowledge of hypergamy” for these guys. PUA gives them something they can do, something within their limited amount of energy and courage. They all start with “approach anxiety” (i.e., “talking to girls is scary”). They can’t even process the concept of preventing butt wink on a three-plate squat when they’re still trying to figure out what shoes to wear and how to get to the gym after work.

    Yes, it’s pathetic. They are painfully aware how bad they are failing and there is considerable anxiety that they may actually be failing worse than they think. And the clock is ticking. Pajama boy can’t go back in time and learn this shit in high school. He’s got to figure out how he’s going to see his son after the divorce and how to get through the day without jumping in front of a train. He knows it takes years and by then he’ll be in his mid-forties and that’s too late and no one will ever love him and he’s such a piece of shit and and and …

    Pajama boy cannot understand what you mean by “man up.” Worse, telling him that puts you in the same category of advisor as his pastor and mother. Telling him that proves to him that you are a liar and are not trying to help him.

    If this is his last stop on the Internet, having been through all of the poseurs faking authentic masculinity at Heartiste, Roosh’s forum, the BP “masculinity” forums, what then is he to do? He has exhausted every possible source of help he can think of. In his mind, there is nowhere else to go. If the answer isn’t here, it isn’t anywhere. He comes here, trusting the texts of the posts, and the commenters, representing themselves as authentic RP men, just like everywhere else, tell him to “man up.”

    Which is more likely: he decides to keep going anyway, bravely forging his own path forward, or he hangs himself in his garage?

  65. Without tactics you cannot implement your strategy and lose the battle, but at least you know why.

    Without strategy, you win the battle, but it was the wrong one and lose the war without having a clue.

  66. @AR

    ASDgamer
    Imagine running game before birth control pills were on the market, heh.
    That stuff was on the market before 1968. Just how old are you claiming to be this week?

    “On the market” in the sense of “commonly available without a prescription.”

  67. @Ton

    Imagine running game before birth control pills were on the market, heh.
    Anal. Because no matter what they say, they ain’t on the pill.

    I went bareback with my first who said she was on the pill and I believed her like a chump…well, so far no one has hit me up for child support and that girl has passed away already at a young age.

  68. I can’t even remember Zhu’s indictment of me totally admitting that I was a dick for a week in the the past. Heh, at least I owned up to my weakness and transgressions.

    No hurt here. Good comment Zhu.

    In a world where I have changed every 3 weeks, 3 months, and 3 years, because of the manosphere, life is a changeable, adaptable, thing.

    I disown my old self. I have no idea what I was talking about back then, or how it came about or why Zhu even brought it up. I have no idea whether it is an indictment or an example/metaphor for tough to translate over the internet stuff.

    https://therationalmale.com/2016/07/18/are-you-experienced/comment-page-7/#comment-164620

    IDK. I’ve had weak moments (lots of them) before and that was not really one of them.

  69. @asd

    Here is what I wrote:
    All we can see are words on a screen. There is no body language or vocal tonality on the internet. There is only one way possible to assess whether you in fact possess the wisdom and experience you assert. That is to read your words and observe whether they appear to be consistent with what is already known and whether they appear to be internally consistent across your various posts.

    In other words, I’m asking whether the “report” is consistent with what I already know or believe to be true, whether from my own experiences or my theoretical understanding of the topic.

    Here is what Rollo wrote (in part)(emphasis added):
    . . . When I can devise practices from those insights I’ll offer them, but understand that the validity of what anyone you have respect for professes or suggests you do, it’s still up to you to decide what works best for yourself and critically determine its veracity.

    I can tell you, you can trust that I am who I say I am, but my experiences and how I relate them is how you can verify my own or anyone else’s perspectives. It’s exactly for this reason I take a hands-off approach to moderating my comments on this blog. I may sharply disagree with certain perspectives, but it’s more important to read them to know just what that commenter’s experience and/or legitimacy is.

    In other words, use your own judgment and experience to determine whether what you are reading is consistent with your understanding. Even Rollo cautions against trusting the words solely because they come from him.

    This is from YaReally’s comment in the post that Rollo linked (emphasis added):
    When you go out a lot it gets pretty easy to tell if a report is fake (ie – it doesn’t jive with all the experience and principles you’ve seen consistently in action over and over) and spot who’s a keyboard jockey. It also helps weed out hookers and strippers etc (girls who fake interest in you) as well as fake guys who are trying to subtly tool you or bullshit you because you can tell “there’s no logical reason for this person to give the ioi they just gave, I’ve done nothing that should stimulate that response”. . .

    In other words, the more experience you have, the easier it becomes to assess the veracity of any particular field report, because you have a bigger database by which you can test the statements in the report.

    And, earlier in the comment:
    If you are a newbie to game, or don’t go out and regularly approach people, every field report will sound fake.

    In other words, if you have a small database of experience and principles that you know to be true, it will be harder, perhaps impossible, to verify the truth of the statements in the report. Because the results are inconsistent with your database, they will sound fake, even if true.

    In what way, ironically or otherwise, does either Rollo’s or Yareally’s assessment repudiate the principle of “you can only assess the veracity of something written on the internet by reading the words and observing whether they appear to be consistent with what is already known and whether they appear to be internally consistent across various posts?”

    Are you suggesting that there is a missing element, like, “you must have sufficient experience to cover the statements made?” If that is the case, I’d argue that whatever experience/knowledge you possess is still the only way to critically assess whether a post is true. The accuracy of that assessment rises with more experience/knowledge (e.g., spotting fake FRs), but it doesn’t change the nature of the process. At its core, the process is still, “is this statement consistent with my understanding?”

  70. @sjf

    I can’t even remember Zhu’s indictment of me totally admitting that I was a dick for a week in the the past. Heh, at least I owned up to my weakness and transgressions.

    Everyone stumbles sometimes. It’s how you owned up to it that demonstrates that you’re sincerely practicing what you say you’re doing.

  71. @ Sentient

    Did you start watching season three of The Affair on Showtime?

    The first episode was interesting. With a Red Pill lens.

    What do you think?

  72. “In other words, if you have a small database of experience and principles that you know to be true, it will be harder, perhaps impossible, to verify the truth of the statements in the report. Because the results are inconsistent with your database, they will sound fake, even if true.”

    Zhu be Zhu:

    The thing is you are implying a small database if experience. That is a contrived small world. And not the case for “us”. That is a big difference.

  73. “In other words, if you have a small database of experience and principles that you know to be true, it will be harder, perhaps impossible, to verify the truth of the statements in the report. Because the results are inconsistent with your database, they will sound fake, even if true.”

    I take it as a given that many of the words I write here will only have impact years, perhaps even decades, down the road.

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