Once again, I’ll be adding this post to the top page in a week or so for future reference.
As most of my regular readers are aware, I have a habit of crafting my essays over the course of a week or so, but about 8 months ago I got into the practice of keeping a small ‘scratch’ notebook with me wherever I go now. As an artist I’ve always kept a sketchbook with me to scribble out ideas when the moment strikes, and I find that this is even more necessary to my writing now as ideas or fragments of interesting ‘germs’ of posts often hit me when I’m not at my computer to flesh them out.
This practice has resulted in most of these ‘best of’ essays for 2013-2014. I get asked about my writing process fairly often and the best I can describe it is ‘crafting’ a post. I jot the elements of a topic in this notebook and some just sit there while others kind of snowball and take on a life of their own. I got to a point where I found myself waking up around 2am after a good sleep and having an internal conversation that was really my hashing out concepts and predictable counterarguments for what would be a good topic to address, only to fall back asleep 45 minutes later and wake up at 5 forgetting what it was I was considering.
So I decided to embrace the madness so to speak and simply started getting out of bed writing the basic elements out in my notebook and getting back to them later the next day. I also found I sleep better once I do.
So these are what I thought were my most important concepts in year 3. As far as general topics go I think Open Hypergamy will be something deserving of more attention in the coming year, however, Male Space is my personal favorite for year 3. I’ve chosen this post because I think it most succinctly and accurately describes this social dynamic.
And again, these are all among the best rated posts of The Rational Male for this year, plus a few I thought were important. I’ve deliberately left out the Preventative Medicine series from this lineup because I thought it important enough to dedicate to being the basis of the next installment of the Rational Male book, and I’d rather they be brought to life in that publication than distract from the rest of these posts.
It’s always difficult to consider which of these to include, because I (naturally) think all of my posts have the potential to benefit an individual reader. I always run the risk of having new readers just wind their way through my ‘best of’ without considering the others, but my hope it that these posts will encourage you to read all of my essasy.
Thanks again for another great year, and I’ll continue to write for as long as there are issues to address.
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I was curious if you ever considered changing the page layout of your site?
Its very well written; I love what youve got to say. But maybe
you could a little more in the way of content
so people could connect with it better. Youve got an awful lot of text for only having one or 2 pictures.
Maybe you could space it out better?
Don’t change a thing Rollo (except maybe add a Year 3 link up the top). Looking forward to Year 4 and beyond – love your work.
I am going through a marriage breakdown now; after years of abuse and exploitation I am the one doing the leaving but as many guys here will know, it is still tough, especially if you are a “pleaser/protector” type. Even if the person you were with was a complete vampire you can still feel guilt. At these times a man needs some support. He needs to keep his head clear and not get sucked back in. What has saved me is that i have, on and off, kept notebooks this last 18 months. The purpose was (a bit like the… Read more »
Stay on top of it my friend.
You can bet “Open Hypergamy” will become more rampant as the West slowly reverts back into a more primitive sexual mating strategy. I’ve written about the ecological factors before but here’s some more thoughts on the subject, as well as others. Also, since this is a post by Rollo over many topics, I’ll post some material that I’ve mulled over for quite some time as well. I’ll be interested in any comments some of you guys may have: 1) Female domestic authority is associated with female mate preferences more like those typical of males (i.e., based upon the dimension of… Read more »
Rollo – would be interested in your thoughts on life long ‘red pillers’ like George Clooney or more recently, Paul Janka, getting married.
Still like The Man In The Garage as one of the best. Illustrates the end game, what can ultimately be where all the phases and the nuances of strategy can try to take you. To Chode: The purpose was (a bit like the excel spreadsheet guy) to create a record to prove to my forgiving and easy-going self that “all this” was not just in my imagination but was in fact actually happening in my marriage, and constantly, that afoot was an exhausting and apparently pointless strategy of subtle humiliation and covert challenge that was utterly destructive and counter productive… Read more »
On Return of Kings they are talking about that guy Paul Janka, who I’ve never heard of, but they credited this statement to him. The big ruse of monogamous relationships is that women have succeeded in convincing us to voluntarily enter into a situation in which we have no sexual alternatives. Think about that. The way the institution is set up, men willing agree to forgo all the other sexual options so that their woman is happy. If that’s not evidence of a woman’s agenda and her control of the situation, then I don’t know what else is. That metaphorical… Read more »
Because of you, Robert Greene, and to a lesser extent Roissy, Roosh, etc. I’m on the verge of restoring my relationship with my ex-wife and mother of my three small kids. Typical AFC frivorce with a ton of social pressure from her friends to dump me. And what’s funny is that at this point I could really take it or leave it and be equally happy. Thanks!
google the recent Lockhart shootings in Australia. Those plugged in are understandably at a loss as to why a seemingly “completely normal” guy killed his own wife a 3 small children. There is a one line suicide note which may or may not be made public – but readers here know what probably happened and what that note might say. This is why I believe Rollo’s work is so important. If this man had of understood Hypergamy / Oneitis / FI – he and his entire family might still be alive. Hypergamy didn’t care that he sat dutifully by her… Read more »
WIll the next book be a new edition of your current book or will it only contain the wrtitings you’ve done after the first edition was published?
the chode i live by: When i read what you wrote, I thought it was me writing it. Worlds apart I’m sure but I’m going through the exact same thing. I started my Manosphere experience looking for ways to fix my marriage several years ago and found MMSL. It was a jump off point where I eventually found Rollo’s works and others. It’s helped me over the past couple of years and will help me into the future. I realized that no matter what I did to try and “fix” the relationship, it only works when both parties are willing… Read more »
This whole endeavor is very much needed and appreciated.
Many of us have been so preoccupied with “keeping our nose to the grindstone” that we were not as consciously and objectively aware as we should be.
Thank you profusely for all your efforts. The results are absolutely excellent.
“1) Female domestic authority is associated with female mate preferences more like those typical of males (i.e., based upon the dimension of visual parameters) … When women are not dominated by their husbands and therefore have greater equality in terms of power in the household, they express more male-typical mate preferences. In societies with high female domestic authority (i.e, Western world) women had mainly stronger preferences for physical attractiveness in a male partner than in those with lower female domestic authority.” [Siirtyrion, September 10th, 2014 at 5:05 pm] . I found this at Heartiste: “Four experiments examined the relation between… Read more »
Have you seen this graph?
Thanks Rollo, this is the very best use of the internet – the conversations we have here could never take place IRL. Here we can get straight to the point without concern for what women might think of what we have to say. Where else could that be the case? It’s good to know that women are not the unknowable creatures of myth they would have us believe – but the facts behind the system are akin to up-ending a rock on damp soil, we shouldn’t be surprised if the first reaction is throw it back in disgust at the… Read more »
Despite what Siirtyrion, and women, wish to believe, male facial attractiveness is negatively correlated with semen quality. Despite what you might think, there has NEVER been any consistent support found for the hypothesis that ANY *male* physical secondary sexual traits are “honest” indicators of male fertilization efficiency. NEVER. ANY. In many hundreds of published studies over the past century, NEVER, ANY. C. Soler, J. Kekäläinen, M. Núñez, M. Sancho, J. G. Álvarez, J. Núñez, I. Yaber and R. Gutiérrez. 2014. Male facial attractiveness and masculinity may provide sex- and culture-independent cues to semen quality. Journal of Evolutionary Biology, 27(9), 1930–1938.… Read more »
Further to my earlier post Sept 10 – Lockhart shooting update: While Jenny will never know exactly what caused her brother-in-law “to snap” she knows better than anyone the pressures the family was under. “Kim’s accident had put such a strain on their lives that Geoff obviously thought this was the only option open to him. Kim was no longer the woman he had married,” Jenny continued, revealing the extent to which the car accident in July 2012 had changed her sister. “A brain injury robs a person of empathy and love. Unless you live with someone who’s gone through… Read more »
Dearest Rollo, thank you so much for your continued work and dedication to us budding and enlightened alphas! I’m nearly six months into the red pill and continue to reap its rewards. However, setbacks happen, and I just wish to share & inspire for a moment. I’m 43 and have been an avid mtn biker here in nor Cali for over 20 yrs. 3hrs into the start of my vacation I got bucked & launched off of my bike, and fractured my tibia and punched out like 40% of the knee cartilage in one of the two disks. Being a… Read more »
@jf12: Despite what Siirtyrion, and women, wish to believe, male facial attractiveness is negatively correlated with semen quality. Despite what you might think, there has NEVER been any consistent support found for the hypothesis that ANY *male* physical secondary sexual traits are “honest” indicators of male fertilization efficiency. Conception isn’t a one way effort as it requires both sexes. While a man’s fertility is important, that’s not the complete picture here. The study below will give you a better idea of what I’m getting at. I will provide some key excerpts. All taken from: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199601/the-orgasm-wars Yet, it was only three… Read more »
Lying absolutely still retains sperm much much much much better than orgasming. Female orgasm is vestigial, totally.
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