Dangerous Times – Part 1

We live in a very dangerous age for men. The Blue Pill is even more of a liability today than it was in times past, because we live in an era that encourages men going all-in in their life’s investment in that conditioning.

Welcome to the #MeToo era. What we’re experiencing in our social environment today is a sea change in intersexual dynamics. The underlying fundamentals haven’t changed; our evolved natures and the latent purposes that are driven by them haven’t shifted, but the social dynamics and sexual acculturation that serve as checks and balances on them has drastically shifted, and in a very short time. While you could make an argument for an idealized free love era that took place right after the Sexual Revolution, now we find ourselves in a time that is so calculating in its design on intersexual social dynamics that it makes the late 60s seem romantically naive.

Back in October of 2014 I wrote a post called Yes Means Fear. This essay was a response to the, at that time new, Yes Means Yes sexual consent legislature that was being instituted on California university campuses. Dalrock had written similar essays regarding this latest form of sexual consent aptly titled The Sexual Revolution’s Arab Spring and Making the World Safe for Promiscuous Women. It may take you a while to review these posts, but please read these and skim the comments to get a gist of the conversations we had going on just three years ago.

One of these comments was the inimitable Deti:

At the end of the day, college women (soon all women) will be able to use the “lack of consent” law/policy as a weapon against undesirable men to do the following:

1. Weed out and eliminate unattractive men by chilling their conduct

2. Making even the most innocuous sexual conduct (i.e. approaching, asking for dates) so dangerous that the only men who will engage in the SMP are attractive men with proven successful sexual track records who will never get reported for doing anything “untoward”; thus ensuring that only attractive men will approach them for dates and sex

3. Giving women more power over the SMP so even unattractive women can use and select men for alpha fux; then have the sole ability to pursue and select men for beta bux when they see fit.

Open hypergamy. It will be “we women are going to do this, and if you want sex, you’ll do it our way, and there’s not a damn thing you can do about it.”

Deti posted this comment on October 15th, 2014. The inter-blog debate then (at places like the now defunct Hooking Up Smart) was that Yes Means Yes was solely meant as a firm response to the supposed on-campus rape /sex assault panic that was being circulated in the mainstream media at the time. From the Red Pill perspective, we saw what potential this legislation represented to what would later become a societal scale institution.

Of course, they called us reactionaries, called us ‘rape apologists’ for simply pointing out all the ways this legislation would be expanded to a societal scale. They said we were exaggerating when we illustrated that, even for long-married couples, there would need to be a check list of approved acts of intimacy for each and every act performed, and men would need some form of hard evidence to prove that consent had indeed been granted.

The new California college/university sexual assault policy requires the following:

“An affirmative consent standard in the determination of whether consent was given by both parties to sexual activity. “Affirmative consent” means affirmative, conscious, and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity. It is the responsibility of each person involved in the sexual activity to ensure that he or she has the affirmative consent of the other or others to engage in the sexual activity. Lack of protest or resistance does not mean consent, nor does silence mean consent. Affirmative consent must be ongoing throughout a sexual activity and can be revoked at any time. The existence of a dating relationship between the persons involved, or the fact of past sexual relations between them, should never by itself be assumed to be an indicator of consent.”

There was sex, which is clearly “sexual activity.” The question then becomes whether there was “affirmative consent”. In order for there not be consent, the woman would have had to show affirmative conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sex with the man. It is the man’s responsibility to make sure he had that consent. She had to manifest, verbally or nonverbally, consent to it.

Silence doesn’t mean consent. Her not resisting or saying “no, please stop” doesn’t constitute “affirmative consent”. So really, the only way to make sure that consent is present is for the man to continue asking her throughout the encounter: “Is this OK? Can I keep doing this? Is this thrust OK with you? Is THIS thrust OK? Can I thrust again? How about this one? Can I keep going? Do you want me to stop?”

If that did NOT happen, if the man did not get EXPRESS, VERBAL statements that he could continue, then yes, there was sexual assault.

The way this plays out in situations like this is that verbal consent is REQUIRED. She cannot manifest “ongoing” “affirmative consent” any other way. That’s because of the way the law is written. Lack of protest is not consent. Lack of resistance is not consent. Silence is not consent. Thus, a wife, just lying there, starfishing it, giving duty sex to her husband, is putting him in jeopardy, because she is not manifesting “ongoing” “affirmative consent”.

All of that they said was ridiculous. Women would never be so petty as to make a man ask permission for, nor hold him accountable for, sex that she wanted to have with him. Furthermore, this ruling was only meant to curb campus assault; any extrapolating to a larger societal norm, we were told, was just us Red Pill men and their insecurities about the intentions of women and sex. If we’d Just Get It we’ll have no problems.

We were told it was limited to penis-in-vagina sex only. We were told it was just in cases of “drunken sex”. All of these proved false. This law was intended to govern, regulate and control every single sexual interaction between a man and a woman. This law is intended to require a man to get express consent at every single step of the process, from initial touch to banging. This law is intended to chill all male sexual conduct. This law by its very terms requires express consent for every sexual act, starting with kino.

The goal of feminism is to remove all constraints on female sexuality while maximally restricting male sexuality – Heartiste

A World of Fear

When I wrote Yes Means Fear (also 3 years ago) it was initially in response to an article by Ezra Klein, Yes Means Yes is a terrible law, and I support it completely. This reads through as bad as any gender related article on Vox, but Klein’s salient point was summed up in one sentence.

To work, “Yes Means Yes” needs to create a world where men are afraid.

I’m reasonably sure Ezra was aware of the larger scope – larger than just California college campuses – that his giddy Beta love of a world where men would be afraid to so much as approach a woman would lead to. But now we find ourselves here in his idealized sexual marketplace founded on men fearing to interact with women at the risk of losing everything. At the risk of being Zeroed Out. Today, just three years later, we’re experiencing the #metoo moral panic based exactly in the fear Ezra said would serve us so well. Ezra must be proud that the gold rush hysteria of sexual misconduct allegations any and every woman (who ‘might’ have ever felt an accidental hip brush 50 years ago) feels entitled to is the result of this cleansing fear he loved so much. Unless he’s defending allegations himself of course.

If you go before the college board and say that the woman accusing you of assault simply doesn’t remember that she said yes because she was so drunk, then you’ve already lost.

Gone is the college board now in favor of the popular court of social justice – the court that condemns a man for even the suspicion of an allegation of sexual misconduct. Gone too is part of women’s remembering the pretense of a sexual encounter. Whether a woman was drunk and doesn’t remember the details, or if she conveniently recalls them 40-50 years after the fact is immaterial. The operative point is that we always believe any and every allegation of rape or misconduct a woman brings forward.

Articles of Belief

Shortly after I wrote Yes Means Fear I wrote Hysteria, an essay intended to address the disgraceful (now thoroughly proven) UVA fraternity rape hoax story written by Sabrina Erdley and published by a complicit Rolling Stone Magazine. Just daring to question the validity of so outrageous a rape account was heresy to women back then. Bear in mind this took place after the Yes Means Yes consent ruling in California. At this time, just to question the story of a woman’s rape account was enough to earn you the title of ‘rape apologist’. But moreover, we were popularly expected to repeat this mantra and always accept a woman’s account as infallibly true:

“No matter what Jackie said, we should automatically believe rape claims.” http://t.co/3HFlXR7jme True insanity pic.twitter.com/AFXIyn32FS

This was the sentiment (now deleted) tweeted by Zerlina Maxwell on December 6th, 2014. Since then this meme that anything a woman had to say about sexual assault must be believed by default has snowballed into a default belief that anything a woman alleges against a man must also be believed. Whereas a male college student might stand in front of his kangaroo court at a university, now men must stand in front of the kangaroo court of public opinion where a woman’s word outweighs all pretense of due process. That college kid is now the average man who must prove his innocence because if a woman alleges it due process is reversed.

What we’ve witnessed in just 3 years is the systematic removal of a man’s right to habeas corpus with regard to women’s allegations.

And I expect that this removal will extend to much more than just women’s believability in regard to sexual misconduct. Imagine a culture where it’s expected that anything a woman accuses her ex of is to be believed in divorce proceedings.

We’re now seeing exactly what myself, Deti, Dalrock and countless other Red Pill bloggers and commenters predicted would happen, but it’s also so much more that what we could see coming. In just 3 years Yes Means Yes moved off the campus and into mainstream culture; a culture predicated on female social primacy. In a feminine-primary social order even “affirmative consent” isn’t enough – “enthusiastic consent” must now be established and maintained. That “enthusiastic consent” is a new ambiguously defined terminology, and part of the larger narrative meant to further confuse and instill fear in men.

Last week Novaseeker, once again, had a terrific comment that illustrates what consent has come to today.

Yep, that’s the newest goalpost move.

We went from No means No (which meant that if she doesn’t say no, it’s on … which pretty much is the basic human mating script) to “affirmative consent” (“may I kiss you now” … “may I lick your breast now?”, etc., per the “rules” required before any physical contact *and* at “each stage of escalation”). Very few people actually follow affirmative consent, as we know, but it’s the rule at most colleges and universities. It isn’t the legal rule for rape, in terms of determining what was “consensual”, currently, but the FI is working on that, believe me.

Now, we have the goalposts moving even further along, from “affirmative consent” to “enthusiastic consent” — which means that if her consent is even verbally expressed, but isn’t clearly enthusiastic, then it isn’t “reliable as consent” because it could be the result of “pressure”, and if the consent “was real, it would be expressed enthusiastically, because when people really are consenting to sex, they’re always enthusiastic about it”. So essentially the standard they are pushing now (and which is getting rolled out on campuses right now) is that if the girl isn’t jumping your bones and begging for your cock, it’s rape/assault. Of course, again, not the legal standard, but that doesn’t matter that much — as we can all see what is happening right now is that the legal standard is being marginalized, because people can be destroyed in our media saturated environment without any involvement of the legal system at all, and the standards that apply in that extra-legal environment are the ones that the FI wants to apply, whether the legal system applies them or not.

There are a few ways to look at this, but one obvious one is that this is a way for the FI to tighten the screws on betas. Very little sex that betas have, if any, is “enthusiastic consent sex”. Everyone knows this. Under this standard, basically all sex with betas is rape. That’s the intention.

And thus we come full circle to the latent purpose of legislating Hypergamy that I’ve continually repeated in many essays. It is Roissy’s maxim of feminism: The end goal of feminism is to remove all constraints on female sexuality while maximally restricting male sexuality.

Recently I found myself in a Twitter war on a story by CBS Los Angeles asking whether it was still OK for men to hug women. I used the cartoon I posted in The Creep 2 to illustrate my bigger point:

And of course the feminist tropes (from men and women) and the point & sputter ad hominem attacks flowed from there. However, this rage is precisely what I would expect from women who are now coming into a default expectation (entitlement) of all men to ‘Just Get It‘.

Only in this instance it is Blue Pill, Beta men who should know better than to approach a woman below their (self-perceived) sexual market value. Those men, the lesser men that her social media overinflated sense of SMV has convinced her are beneath her attraction floor should ‘just get it’ that they shouldn’t be flirtatious or even too friendly with her or risk the punishment of an allegation that might be his zeroing out. The Beta man who doesn’t ‘get it’ is an insult to her self-worth and deserving of an optimized Hypergamy.

In the next post I’ll be exploring the ramifications of the “enthusiastic consent” concept and how even consensual-but-unwanted sex and “duty sex” will be the next chapter in marital rape. I’ll also be detailing the the “Cat Persons” story that’s been making the rounds this week.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

793 comments on “Dangerous Times – Part 1

  1. @one day in the life of Anonymous Realtor:

    Apologies for my imprecision, phone-typing at midnight. When I said “we Russians don’t save shit”, I meant Russians won’t save western civilization, or Europe, or Christianity, or the Caucasoid genetic strain. We’ll say we will. We want you all to believe us saying we will. But we won’t.

    Otherwise you are correct: generally speaking we do save shit, as in gear, scraps, junk, clothes, tank parts, Kalashnikov fragments, leftover uranium, whatever, you have to do that, you never can be sure what you’ll need it for or what you can trade it for. We’re hoarders.

    Otherwise, we WILL take your shit. And if we can’t take it we’ll fuck your shit up.

    We also eat our meals quickly, to prevent a Cossack or Commissar or Party boss taking our food away, requisitioning it for the Tsar or the Motherland or some oil baron’s gourmet dacha kitchen. (The Irish learned a similar lesson in dealing with the Brits as overlords).

    Strictly speaking you correctly sussed I am not heritage-wise Russkie. What I am is Belarus. (Hence the reference to Minsk). Which was always translated to me as a boy as “White Russian” and “Pure Russian” and you can take that anyway you like.

    But really means: Great Russians look down their noses at everyone else. Belarussians look down their noses at Great Russians. (All this despite the chronic inferiority complex and paranoia literally dating back to the Mongol invasions).

    So yes I did like the RT article I was just screwing around. Peace, love, dope. Hippy Goo Yaar.

  2. “Great Russians look down their noses at everyone else.”

    As the “Baroness” mother of a former associate was prone to say, “Phhhhhhhbt! Minsk Pinsk.”

  3. Powerful shit

    “The paradox of masks is that though they are “artificial,” they can bring out our truest self — the self which we not only feel ourselves to be, but that which we desire ourselves to be. Our best self. What is more inspiring than the fact that our feelings are not our destiny — that we may feel weak, lazy, and cowardly, but make ourselves into men of strength, conviction, and courage?”

    https://www.artofmanliness.com/2017/12/04/celebrate-masks-masculinity/

  4. @ EhIntellect

    Once again, an intelligent, considered response. I appreciate this. I certainly don’t want to come off as arrogant as all knowing, ’cause i’m certainly not that. I guess at this stage of life i have a greater insight into who i am & how the world works, but i’m far from content or satisfied. I have the lifestyle thing down pat pretty well, but that’s been at the expense of the economic side of things. So that’s getting more focus now.

    I agree that there are many ways to actualize ourselves as men. Chopping wood is certainly very honest work! For me, i just couldn’t live in a city again after the freedom of a country lifestyle. But i am probably gonna have to move more amongst the people to perform my music over the next few years. I have some goals, so we shall see how they unfold…

    Great that you get to ride with your sons, something i’ll never be able to do. Credit to you, man. But that’s how it’s unfolded for me and now i feel too old to have a kid, not to mention the current lack of a suitable partner. So i just continue to set goals, make music and improve my property, mind and body. What else can we do? I don’t want to get old, lonely & grumpy like some men i know, but some hot female company would go down well this summer down under…

  5. “men of strength, conviction, and courage”
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=17_ImViPryQ

    “Great that you get to ride with your sons, something i’ll never be able to do. Credit to you, man. But that’s how it’s unfolded for me and now i feel too old to have a kid, not to mention the current lack of a suitable partner. So i just continue to set goals, make music and improve my property, mind and body. What else can we do? I don’t want to get old, lonely & grumpy like some men i know, but some hot female company would go down well this summer down under…”
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5N40C8OO-s

    Let life live and be what it is… Grow and gauge what you can within it. Learn to lead what it is that you want and are curious about…
    What i’ve come to appreciate about myself is how much i care about thing’s that pass on or that i do not nor ever had control over… I can only lead myself into the best interpretation of my being.

  6. @Eh Intellect, Where I live the women are more Red Pill. They immediately get that when I game them I want to fuck them. From there they’ll either go along or blow me off.

    The guys I know are basically fakes, White Knights, betas or Blue Pill apologists who try to better themselves by putting me down.

    I had to cut two guys out who crossed the line. But 2018 is a new year, live and learn right.

  7. “now i feel too old to have a kid, not to mention the current lack of a suitable partner. So i just continue to set goals, make music and improve my property, mind and body. What else can we do?”

    SSFox,

    RP increases your options doesn’t it?

    Increasing your value decreases your need for external validation, true. That’s chick crack. As RP calculus goes, you’ve never been more attractive to ALL women. Blax commented recently at a party his older guys group were chased by the young women. This is not an aberrancy, it is hypergamy functioning by design. Masculinity is attractive to all women regardless of age.

    Walawala: “Where I live the women are more Red Pill.”

    SSFox, I’d say that’s true for most western cultures.

    Consider now guys like yourself. Rugged, self improved, confident. Funny thing, all in guys find women will walk to the ends, of the earth and off, will do anything, live anywhere to have that. Not the guy per se but what perhaps you embody, true masculinity, leadership.

    Self improvement is self discipline. A lot of guys get hung up at this stage. In their minds women are harder to control and men dither, rationalize why they’re not moving on and defeating that final insecurity of dominating women. Women want domination. Not necessarily S&M, of course, but a guy who mentally controls her natural lability, that same energy force that requires hypergamy to bang only the best she can get.

    Sentient: Fuck her mind and then you’ll fuck her body.

    Shit tests, comfort testing, rejection, other flaky feminine behavior is a pain, but no more a pain than keeping your chainsaw, ponderosa maintained.

  8. “Self improvement is self discipline. A lot of guys get hung up at this stage. In their minds women are harder to control and men dither, rationalize why they’re not moving on and defeating that final insecurity of dominating women. Women want domination. Not necessarily S&M, of course, but a guy who mentally controls her natural lability, that same energy force that requires hypergamy to bang only the best she can get.

    Sentient: Fuck her mind and then you’ll fuck her body.

    Shit tests, comfort testing, rejection, other flaky feminine behavior is a pain, but no more a pain than keeping your chainsaw, ponderosa maintained.”

    Incredible… and well put… Total self Intergration is red pill masculine heath. Mind though and body allign with one another to express a total version of yourself.

    https://www.axios.com/justice-dept-watchdog-finds-issues-in-handling-of-sexual-harassment-2520353224.html

    http://mikesouth.com/porn-stars/dana-dearmond-helps-mash-t-j-millers-career-20031/

    http://mikesouth.com/social-media/august-ames-donald-trump-and-the-seduction-of-jessica-drake-19985/

  9. Chopping wood is certainly very honest work!

    No doubt. One of the more satisfying things I do is chop firewood. I had to have my ash trees all cut down in my yard over the past ten years or so and ended up with ten years of so of firewood. Taught my son how handle an axe at the age of 12 and he enjoyed it too. Was funny to hear the reaction of women at work when I shared that about my son using an axe at that age. Typical freaking out. Another benefit to chopping wood is it gets my GF very aroused. She really gets off watching me swing an axe.

    Up in the thread someone else wrote:
    In other news regarding zeroing out, suicide and dangerous times, I have found over the years a massive frustration in how men are separated from each other by having male spaces, work places and even family life being infiltrated by women. This was long before the manosphere really took root.

    There are spaces, you have to seek them out or create your own. Even if its your garage hanging out with guys smoking cigars and drinking bourbon. A good friend of mine used to have a cigar shop and he created a smoking lounge which drew about 99% guys. Was a great space and a lot of good times. Unfortunately his business failed and it closed. Now we get together on my deck when its warm or my garage this time of year.

    Going out of your way to find spaces, or meeting RP men online can happen. I immensely enjoy driving a few hours to visit SJF at his deer habitat/farm. Its a 100% male space and has so many things going on to enjoy and do. Be patient and keep your eyes and ears open and you may find a few guys here and there to meet up with. Sharing field reports in person is 10x better than writing them out for TRM. There is instant give and take with the nuance and such that lead to more being covered in an efficient manner.

    Hanging with RP dudes would be great it’s just I don’t know any. They simply don’t exist here. Most of the guys I know are pussies. “Friends” of mine showed themselves to be beta orbiter fuckwits.

    Rollo wrote a post about ghosting https://therationalmale.com/2016/03/07/ghosting/

    When I read that I really didn’t think it would happen to me. But back in June all at once it happened with my best friend and a coworker. Both guys always had my back and were very loyal. The more RP I became the more agitated they became with me. I didn’t overtly discuss RP with them, but they started seeing the changes in me and didn’t like it. My best friend eventually started calling me a misogynist, to which I laughed. That did not bother me, but being so immersed in blue pill thinking and being politically correct, he carried it further to suggest I was leaning into the alt-right and suggested I just might be racist also. That was enough for me. We haven’t spoken since. Exchange holiday greetings via text and an occasional email but thats about it.

    It was no longer benefiting me to spend time with those guys. I decided to not spend time with people who were unlucky, unhappy and were playing the victim card all too frequently. Time is something we don’t get back.

  10. Messed up my use of italics up there. Wish we could edit our comments. Silver fox wrote this:
    Chopping wood is certainly very honest work!

  11. @walawala

    “Where I live the women are more Red Pill.”

    AND…women by design are BP.

    IMO, women function as designed as opposed to men, who have been acculturated to subdue their masculinity. The 80/20 Beta/Alpha is ratio hard wired. What’s changed is our definitions of sex roles.

    Goalposts are moving against, not all, but most men.

    RP is similar to running the West Coast offense in its infancy. PUA had its day but is being overtaken as a approach.

    We’re standing athwart recent history, aren’t we? It’s fun winning.

  12. @ Roused

    Thank you. I’ve not read that post before.

    If I’d read it a year ago, I’d might have saved me time, though my lot would be roughly the same. I’d of walked away from my Beta relationships sooner.

  13. Bono:

    “I think music has gotten very girly. And there are some good things about that, but hip-hop is the only place for young male anger at the moment – and that’s not good.”

  14. Bono’s getting a lot of push-back in the mainstream media for those statements. Which he generated in a masculine Red Pill rock-star kind of way. The Billboard Top 100 songs (pop and pop rock) of each year have been 80% Blue Pill in nature for the last 50 years. So the media need to protect their own.

    We all know what is going on here. But the logic that critics are criticizing him for is just juvenile.

    http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/bono-rolling-stone-girly-rock-n-roll-hop-hop-masculine-never-existed-a8131701.html

    https://noisey.vice.com/en_uk/article/43q37n/big-dumb-bono-says-that-music-has-become-very-girly

  15. “But we should take a moment to say that this “girly” comment isn’t a miniature slip of the tongue—it’s a colossally ignorant statement…”

    Catching flak? Then you’re over the target.

  16. @Wala, Eh, and Roused.

    “If you’re not losing friends you’re not growing up.”

    “Sometimes you have to un-follow people in real life.”

    “You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” —Winston Churchill

    A couple years into my Red Pill Reconstruction when I didn’t have as much traction (hopping over the line from social incompetent incompetence to conscious incompetence and then solid conscious social competence I would unconsciously and consciously battle blue pill guys and blue pill worlds. It was an anger and bargaining phase. I’d sub-communicate that I was talking about Fight Club. (Mainly because I was geeked up about Fight Club and wanted to engage with the World.)

    I remember distinctly battling a guy verbally at a holiday party a couple years ago when he was advancing lines of though. He was there with his wife and we went back on a couple topics until he wanted to agree to disagree, which offer I declined. (One of the lines of discussion was that the Jack Daniel’s whiskey was the best ever–tastes like shit to me. And he drank it with Coke. He was merely virtue signalling the Brand and saw himself as a Sinatra-like guy in his own mind. And he is quite a charming guy, just without the depth I would prefer in a man….)

    The next time we got together, we hooked up with him and his wife and his two adult children at a sports bar by accident and sat together at a table. That time we had the most delightful social interaction. I had let off my gas peddle and didn’t overthink things (I used my inferior function of Extroverted Sensing) and went with the flow. I didn’t care that he was Blue Pill or if he even was Blue Pill to begin with. It was fun. My wife and I had a great time.

    I know a lot of Blue Pill guys around me, but they are a far stretch from pussies. Successful in their own pursuits and passions and comfortable in their own skins and marriages and have great adult children. They are Blue Pill Alpha types. They are not a bother and they are great guys to hang with. They are strong men.

    I had an incident this past summer where a super blue pill alpha neighbor was sexting my wife while she was lying next to her in bed and I found out about it. (I accidentally looked at text messages on her IWatch. Not really to snoop, but to check the IWatch features not knowing anything about the IPhone platform. I do Android.)

    The fallout from that worked out well. I responded in a non-Beta fashion. My wife was horribly embarrassed (to have been caught) and apologized and admitted she was doing it out of social validation. She was terrified at what my response was going to be. My response was to be non-plussed and congruently act as if it was No Big Deal. She asked if I was going to retaliate in person towards him. I said: “No. Why would I?” The fallout in the neighborhood and country club would be too great. (And at the time, my wife was leading a crusade in her female social matrix against one of the crabs in the bucket. A younger married woman sleeping with the married golf pro. Yes the fallout would have been dynamite in the crab bucket, and so my wife was apologetic. And so it goes, but it went extremely well Red-Pill-wise.)

    She blocked him on media and texts. We saw each other socially after that. And it was not at all uncomfortable. He apologized profusely in front of me and my wife at the club a couple months later. He admitted that from what he knew my wife adored me in his eyes. (And my wife had bailed him out and stood by him and gave words about his character–verbal letter of support at the Country club, when he had been accused in the past couple years of hitting on cute staff women at the club. And he had been president of the club at the time.) He is a Blue Pill Alpha and has a charming personality like Goldmund Unleashed and good looking and fun and is unabashedly social and outgoing.

    Turns out I had a discussion with him much later and he was in a Blue Pill funk with a dead-like bedroom (but didn’t overtly discuss this, just let out his frustrations–I knew what was going on with his sub-comms and at one point he was near tears (but drunk) about it. He had been leaning into his wife too much in the recent past when they became empty nesters with their kids in college.

    There are two levels here. The way I handled it turned out Alpha via subsequent relationship Game with my wife. And the other level was being able to interact with Blue Pill guys without any animosity.

    So be careful out there at home. Don’t seek every interaction with Blue Pill guys as one step closer to a fight, nor do you have to ghost them to preserve your Red Pill goals in order to preserve your self-dignity. But keep your self-dignity for sure.

    Don’t let the phases of anger, denial, bargaining or depression get to you.

    A distant corollary to this reconstruction in Red Pill is another thing that I have experienced: It is quite common in Red Pill exploits to get a better Red Pill tribe by seeking out and having Red Pill guys and tolerating Blue Pill guys. And in changing you, there is a high frequency of both Red Pill guys and Blue Pill guys to ghost you. For different reasons. The Red Pill guys are changing, growing and moving on in their mission. They are guys on the move and sometimes they don’t have time for you. That’s OK. It’s just part of life. And you have to go with the flow of your life. Like we used to say here: “Don’t let other rent space for free in your head”. Cause that’s not proper Mental Point of Origin for you.

    When you find someone you resonate with, just go with the flow and take what opportunities present themselves to you. You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, yeah,
    ….you might find you get what you need!

    Just be aware that ghosting from both sides is extremely common in this business of Red Pill. Because we live in Dangerous Social Times. Live in an Acceptance-of-how-things-Are Mindset.

    Don’t be afraid to make choices going forward with the understanding “that it seemed like the right thing to do at the time”. Trust your gut and let your heart sing and your mind will rub it’s hands with satisfaction when things work out in your best interests. And they will. You three guys have seen that happen. So go onward and upwards from here. Keep moving towards your goals.

  17. Some of the Bono butthurt is no doubt due to the inconvenient truth that Bono is right.

    Rock and roll is rage, it always was. and, as Mark Shipper said, it is also the biggest joke ever perpetrated on modern culture. Those who don’t know it’s a joke are the butts of the joke.

    Meditate on those zen statements.

    Most top 40 and certainly “alt-nation” type rock/pop is very girly, i.e., fempowered, getting jiggy, SIW, or emo puking. Very little rage.

    Rage doesn’t sell to girls, who do most of the pop music streaming anyway and the market caters to them, as most retail store ads do generally, since women do most of that purchasing.

    Rage is alive and well in metal, hip-hop, and what passes these days for punk, and some of the more out-there experimental EDM. It’s mostly boys who get mad enough to do it that way. There are a few rage-filled girls from time to time: Sleater-Kinney, Tancred, PJ Harvey, Colleen Green, Tori Amos. But not too many, they don’t mesh with the Max Martin earworm-pop-song industrial formula.

    Bono’s only sin was not having newer references than the Who and Pearl Jam, who are rather long in the tooth and who have mellowed with age, as one would expect.

  18. @Rugby

    That Stoicism by TheLastChance/TheEffectiveMan is good stuff.

    I want to point out that that stuff about Stoicism is described in the abstract. The book Reality Transurfing by Vadim Zeland has concrete actionable advice on how to get that mindset.

    Zeland is vague on how he wrote the book. He tries to say it came to him in lucid dreams from ancient sources. Most likely that same sources that those reddit essays came from. Zeland turns the why’s of being Stoic into how to live and succeed with a Stoic mindset. He distilled a lot of great long-standing wisdom into a How To book. I highly recommend reading it. (The available torrents of it Steps I to V had been crap in the past. The Amazon kindle version is good. A little rough in translation from Russian to English, but overall good.)

    I got EhIntellect to read it and he says it came at a perfect time in his Reconstruction. A good tool in the Red Pill Toolbox.

  19. @ SJF

    “Turns out I had a discussion with him much later and he was in a Blue Pill funk with a dead-like bedroom..”

    Well handled. Big difference living high value, established frame vs. building frame.

    Established frame will engender a comfort test (I’m sorry I didn’t mateguard). Weaker frame engenders shit testing i.e. no big deals, what are you going to do, it’s not a big deal, you two fight.

    IMO, no test>comfort test>shit test

    I’ve known tipsy confident same age and younger guys to hit on my wife behind my back, learned to blow it off. I took note though who was doing it and similar to your story, they were paper Alphas. Hence doing it behind my back.

    To my face would be an actionable offense. Hadn’t had that…yet.

    There’s a part of me that wants to embarrass them with some cocky douchebag antics, but that’s perhaps butthurt vestigial Beta…perhaps greedy what’s-mine-and-yours-is-mine Alpha.

    I hadn’t thought about it that well.

    Mete out punishment as the offense requires is my policy.

    Alpha walks comfortably a fine line, understands people are living contradictions.

  20. Transurfing helped me consolidate a lot of personality traits I naturally preferred but was playing the field elsewhere for fun.

    It helped my intermarriage communication too as it touches on universal problems, their solutions. Talking heart and mind alignment is woo-woo gold. Fastest way to a bang yet, if you can stomach it.

    Mostly, I needed to stop resisting the world, focus on numero uno and play by nature’s game. Easier that way and corresponds to RP mindset.

  21. Eh, There’s a part of me that wants to embarrass them with some cocky douchebag antics, but that’s perhaps butthurt vestigial Beta…perhaps greedy what’s-mine-and-yours-is-mine Alpha.

    I’ve found a few times doing that it was funny for me, my twisted sense of humor to punish guys I thought were weaker and lacked good game. But…in retrospect it was lame and I don’t think it made me look attractive to my female date/gf/wife. If the date/gf/wife were around when it happened or they hear about it later I’ve noticed them expressing I was going to far or “being mean.” I don’t care if someone thinks I’m mean over something like that, that is cat language. But I would prefer to come off attractive.

    When SJF described to me the approach he took regarding the sexting incident I thought he was being too laid back and thought he should have taken on things more aggressively. Turns out his style for handling it worked out well. It also fit his personality and character. Over time I’ve observed the stoic approach to be much more masculine and less petty/pissy/butthurt. At the time I was thinking to myself I would have found a way to punish the neighbor, perhaps banging his wife and making sure he knew about. But then at times I’m foolhardy and risky. It was a good lesson in how to handle a tricky situation with less emotion and more RP thinking.

  22. Different scenario SJF –

    Years ago, I was attending a birthday party with my wife, who was then my girlfriend.

    A guy at the party had been carrying a torch for the gf for years. He was relentlessly hitting on her throughout the duration of the festivities, all while looking at me hard and laughing. Other attendees at the party were trying to get him to chill out, girlfriend repeatedly told him to fuck off, and yet, he persisted.

    So I told the gf that we should leave before something awful happened. Lol.

    As we were walking to the car, the guy ran up behind us and professed his undying love for my gf. Then he proceeded to cast dispersions directly upon me, my race, and my sexual preferences. He even had a few choice words concerning my mother ( who hadn’t attended the party…lol ).

    Then he said something to the effect of ” you’re a fucking pussy and now even she knows it “… something like that.

    I placed the gf in the car and walked over to him explaining as I drew close, ” This isn’t about her, it’s about your disrespect of me… and it’s going to hurt “. He immediately went all Tasmanian Devil on me throwing wild punches that were mostly glancing blows, and I punched him square in the chest with a pretty decent shot if I say so myself. It sounded like an M80 going off. He fell back and bounced off of a near by tree, twirled around like a ballerina, bounced off a parked car and rolled into the street. Gf yelled out ” Blaximus!!! ” and I told her ” Ah, I’m not gonna fuck him up. I’m just gonna get his dumb ass out of the street before he gets run over “.

    I grabbed him in the collar and dragged him towards the curb. Idk.. I guess he banged his head against that tree because he looked concussed and glassy eyed.

    I told him 2 things before leaving : 1) My gf can take care of herself and make her own decisions. This was between me and you and your big assed mouth. 2) If I have to deal with you again, I will promise you that I’ll do my level best to beat your stupid ass to death, and put you where even cadaver dogs can’t find you. ” Blink twice if you understand me..”. Lmao.

    See, it’s mostly not about the woman when a man knows of your existence and decides that he’s just gonna bypass the fuck out of you because… well… I don’t really know what goes through guy’s heads when they do such things. But I see these things as tests, and I’ve studied very hard and long to make sure I can pass these tests.

    Man, I love being a man, and I have tons of respect for all other men because they are men first, unless you give me a reason to not respect you or you want to test me. Men have always tested each other in some way, some tests are harder than others.

    A couple of days ago, I was leaving the supermarket and witnessed a drunk man ( at 11 in the morning. Damn..) stumbling into what looked like an extra from a biker movie. Biker dude yelled at the drunk and pushed him to the ground. I was trying to walk around the commotion when biker dude told the floored drunk guy that he was going to stomp him. Stomp a drunk, old man?

    So I asked him to chill out and leave the old guy alone, to which he replied ” Nobody was fucking talking to you bitch!! ” lol, which made my heart sing with joy. So I hit him up old school with ” why don’t you pick on somebody your own size? ” and gently placed my grocery bag on the ground. Technically, he wasn’t my size because he looked about 6′ 6″ and around 250+ of flabby, jelly like pounds with substantial guttage. We stared at each other for a few seconds, then I smiled and he smiled. We both helped the drunk guy to his feet and biker dude asked if he was alraight, and drunk slurred ” yesh “, to which I responded ” well, your liver tests would beg to differ ..” and biker dude howled with laughter.

    And, biker dude and I wished each other a happy new year and went on our ways.

    Tests.

  23. Blax

    “See, it’s mostly not about the woman when a man knows of your existence and decides that he’s just gonna bypass the fuck out of you”

    Truth. Well handled… Lol.

  24. ” See, it’s mostly not about the woman when a man knows of your existence and decides that he’s just gonna bypass the fuck out of you because… well… I don’t really know what goes through guy’s heads when they do such things. But I see these things as tests, and I’ve studied very hard and long to make sure I can pass these tests.”

    I agree with Sentient. Excellently explained Blaximus. See?, you can teach well as a Natural recalling all those things you did well while putting in the earlier hard work. Excellent in fact. This goes in the folder: It’s you the guy (you), not her. (Recursive to the 2016 discussions here. You can’t whine about her if she can’t trust in your Alpha traits, or your greater Beta lesser Alpha self.)

    I had a typo in my little daily motivational upstream. “…neighbor was sexting my wife while she was lying next to her in bed and I found out about it…”. Should have read “…while she was laying next to me not fucking me…”

    I came up to bed after being in my own little world. My wife was receiving the texts as I laid down by her for ten minutes and she was finger-fucking-her-IPhone and watching television. I put my earbuds, got a little butthurt, felt unappreciated, and thereafter I walked back downstairs to my library.

    I looked at the IWatch and saw the texts the next day. They coincided with those ten minutes. (This coincided with one of those peri-menopausal times when a guy has to step up and by demonstration, let her trust in the guy’s Alpha, if so deserved.) Things are good with me. The holidays have been delightful with the family. Thanks Rollo and you commenters.

    It was not about her. It was a test. And believe me, I also studied long and hard to pass those tests–in the last 4.5 years when I became clued-in to Red Pill. The studying was done with great desire to study and the hard work was No Big Deal (in retrospect, it was fun). That test turned out to be a final exam. And I used it to my advantage instead of merely passing, while being congruent and authentic to who I was and I trusted my gut in real time.

    Just like Blax did in his reports. He trusted his gut, expressed and tapped into the unconscious feelings in his heart and didn’t have to really cognitively think with his brain before acting. (BTW, We–me and you guys– are different, with different skill sets. I didn’t need to mimic a Blaximus, EhIntellect, or Roused mindset not congruent or authentic with my red pill self. I can do me. It’s not a generic recipe out there.) Blaximus being his authentic and formerly studied congruent self, now and in the past, Unconsciously Competent.

    Nice, how Mastery and Confidence works out that way. Inner desire and inner Intention are limiting. It’s outer intention and action that define you. Don’t feel and think. Act and demonstrate without over-thinking. Do not Want or Hope, Intend. And things will come to you.

  25. …fucking HTML codes..

    At least my orzo with sweet Italian sausage, baby spinach and Parmesan cheese and jarred hot PeppaDew peppers and a side of caponata turned out good, despite the use of nightshade vegetables (pepper and eggplant).

  26. “I didn’t need to mimic… ”

    Picking a PUA fight?

    Not at all. Not in the slightest.

    Just a testament to Knowing Myself, enhancing strengths, minimizing weaknesses and trying to integrate my inferior functions along the way.

    I couldn’t have done MRP game without the input of PUA game insights into Red Pill. Game changes, and you can make up the rules as you go along. PUA game is reaching a breaking point, but that doesn’t disqualify the gains that were made in the field in the last 15 years.

    I have nothing bad to say about PUA. Except for the occasional non-self actualization of lesser PUA’s including YaReally. If you want a portrait of where I would like PUA icons to end up, look no farther than West Indian Archie, who has ultimate integration of self and goals based on his writing. And notice he’s not trying to sell anything rather than ideas. The PUA’s for a buck seem to be struggling in their message. Or at the least obfuscating what is the most efficient path to masculine freedom.

    “I didn’t need to mimic” other’s skills simply meaning punching the guy out or creating a scene wasn’t in my wheel house. Blax’s reports demonstrate great strengths of his, as would Eh’s and Roused handling things in a more congruent way to them. With an Alpha flair.

    All great PUA’s and their acolytes can come into their own after a period of mimicking, testing the waters and generating their own truths that resonate with themselves. And then move on. I have not bone to pick with PUA methods. I couldn’t have Reconstructed without them. And RSD Luke Gerhard was the spark that led to my digesting Reality Transurfing ancient and ephemeral knowledge. (When he didn’t actually read it himself.Lol.) Oh,The Irony. He helped me, one truthful anger label leveled at Red Pill, one time. I spent very little time in anger or denial on the red pill road.

  27. I think my keyboard is defective. Maybe I’ve been beating on it too much. Gosh darn codes, after all the brackets and slashes I’ve put down over the last couple years. That’s three in a row. Good night moon.

  28. My son hasn’t had any “oh shit!” moments in the past year to speak of. But every one previously in his masculine male development (and he’s had his share) has been a priceless learning experience for him as a ‘artist, don’t-box-me-in type’. His mother cringed at each one, but I took it Stoically. He got to higher masculine levels with those “oh shit!” moments. And he’s on more on solid footing now. (With not hardly being a moron. He’s sharp and alive in life. I’m proud of him. Good thing my wife was there during my drunk captain years. I’m there fully now.)

    Red pill fatherhood embraces boys leaning out to their edge and falling off that edge a time or two due to their lack of mastery in trying to climb mountains. Dr. Laura was fond of saying that if your child didn’t break a bone by the age of adulthood, you as a parent were doing something wrong. A metaphor for letting him push boundaries without being a helicoptering parent.

    Shit, artists live for “happy accidents” in their craft. When things just gel, because they took a chance and stuck their neck out to make it happen. Took me a while to accept that. But I fully accept it now as a thing.

  29. Rollo, have you considered exploring any WordPress plugins that allow for a preview of a comment before its posted? The ability to go back and edit would be better, but at least a preview would help us.

  30. Those oh shit moments are golden teachers. Obviously the fewer of them the better, but I can think of several oh shit moments in my red pill education that helped me wake the fuck up.

  31. @Roused

    “Those oh shit moments are golden teachers. Obviously the fewer of them the better, but I can think of several oh shit moments in my red pill education that helped me wake the fuck up.”

    Now compare this statement to a quote of Churchill I like:

    ‘Success is the ability to move from one failure to another without loss of enthusiasm.’

    In a similar vein I have reflected upon concepts like ‘bravery’, ‘courage’, ‘resolve’ or ‘loyality’ to only mention a few (or alpha and beta for that matter). These words are all labels we apply to masculine behaviour we find admirable, however what is often forgotten with these heroic sentiment is that in the actual instance when these concepts are applied, you as the individual are shitting your pants, don’t know what to do or are taking a leap of faith.

    Afterwards, individuals that have been beneficial to the group get an ‘attaboy’ clap on the back (if that). However, what is ignored in these are POST HOC rationalisation of heroism, in the moment no one knew what to do.

    (e.g. was Churchill’s defiance to the Nazis ‘rational’ at the time of the ‘we fight them at the beaches’ speech? The ‘rational’ thing was what Chamberlain did, however history took a different turn.)

    Now coming back to the topic at hand, in a world where the majority of men are being raised by single mothers. These men surely can recognize the heroism that resonates with their masculine instincts. However, they fail to comprehend the suffering necessary to get to the point of mastery. The ones that do become their version of MGTOW. I like this quote:

    ‘The difference between the novice and the master is that the master has failed more times than the novice has tried’

    All the BP people want instant gratification, as soon as something does not work out they essentialise this failure. ‘I wasn’t smart enough’, ‘the bitch is crazy’ or ‘I have [insert mental illness]’. None, ever says: ‘I should work harder’, ‘i made this misstake’ or ‘i didnt try hard enough’.

    One big difference I find between RP and BP thinking is the focus on process vs. outcome. No doubt being a result of being raised in a female primary thought frame. Guess, what if you have a pussy that shit works (to an extend, dosen’t make you in a pleasant individual though). However, what it doesn’t teach you is perseverance.

    So to connect back to the initial comment by Roused, I think in today’s culture there are too few moments, where people can (safely) fail and it not ends up completely destroying their life. Its a consequence of living in a highly efficient market economy, where the slightest mistake can cost you your job.

  32. Good morning Albert, how are you?

    Consider that most children today are raised by the village at large, wether or not their parents are together. This being the case, Masculine heroes are downplayed across the board.

    While a boy raised by a single mother may be more concerned with outcome than process, the two are intertwined to the point that without one you can’t have the other. We learn to follow certain process to achieve certain outcome. Men are more inclined to moral process than women. Also consider that the boy raised by the single mother is more likely to run feral, be more of a natural and seek out male mentors. This seeking out mentors can be a suckers game , as he is a target for the worst sort.

    Being afraid of failure will cost you your job ( and everything else) faster than failing. Take calculated risks, then recalculate and try again.

  33. Been watching “Peaky Blinders” on Netflix. Totally red-pill, but from another era. Especially liked a scene in season 2 where a woman would rather share an alpha (Tommy) rather than lose him. Actor Cillian Murphy does a marvelous job but as yet I’m not sure if he’ll get Beta’ed later on. Recommended as red-pill material.

  34. Also consider that the boy raised by the single mother is more likely to run feral, be more of a natural and seek out male mentors.
    This can go either way. I have yet to see this though in any of the sons of single mothers I’ve dated or even my own step-brother. Maybe my sampling is too small but they’ve all been pussies. Then again, most young men these days are pussies.

  35. ‘I wasn’t smart enough’, ‘the bitch is crazy’ or ‘I have [insert mental illness]’. None, ever says: ‘I should work harder’, ‘i made this misstake’ or ‘i didnt try hard enough’.

    One big difference I find between RP and BP thinking is the focus on process vs. outcome. No doubt being a result of being raised in a female primary thought frame. Guess, what if you have a pussy that shit works (to an extend, dosen’t make you in a pleasant individual though). However, what it doesn’t teach you is perseverance.

    So to connect back to the initial comment by Roused, I think in today’s culture there are too few moments, where people can (safely) fail and it not ends up completely destroying their life. Its a consequence of living in a highly efficient market economy, where the slightest mistake can cost you your job.

    Thanks for the reply Albert. Nice quote from Churchill.

    I had those moments where I thought many times the “bitch was crazy” or I was crazy. I still find myself speaking dog language when I should be working on the translation to properly interpret cat. Sometimes even had a few of the “I didn’t try hard enough.” Once I learned about oneitis and how to get your mental point of origin squared away many times I would be ready to walk at the slightest infraction or shitty shit test. Mentors are great if you can find one, or if they find you and have the patience to deal with a dude walking around with the proverbial load of dynamite on their back.

    From what I’ve observed on TRM, Reddit and from a few Good Men IRL is that those who really have a solid mental point of origin and good Frame the fear of losing it all and failing diminishes dramatically. Going with the flow with proper intentions is an absolute requirement on the road to mastery, IMO. Or as SJF would repeat to me over and over and over…bless his patience (LOL) “become outcome independent.”

  36. DE

    “This can go either way. I have yet to see this though in any of the sons of single mothers I’ve dated or even my own step-brother. Maybe my sampling is too small but they’ve all been pussies. Then again, most young men these days are pussies.”

    True enough,it can go either way.

    Two things.
    1, Being a natural doesn’t necsesarily mean a tough guy, rather a guy that understands female nature, and isn’t that concerned with process.

    2, A boy raised by a single mother will almost always be at odds with her male suitors.

    “Most young men are pussies these days.” A guy needs to get punched in the nose a few times to figure out it won’t kill him to fight back. None of this action is allowed by the village.

  37. @boulderhead, good afternoon (here). Just came out of the sauna, at the cabin by the lake and the GF is cooking some food (naked). So I really can’t complain. In regard to your statement:

    “While a boy raised by a single mother may be more concerned with outcome than process, the two are intertwined to the point that without one you can’t have the other.”

    I can only concur, obviously the outcome and the process are connected, as you can’t have one without the other. However, let’s turn this BP mentality of staring yourself blind at the outcome around and look at the success of Jordan Peterson, Donald Trump, Michael Jordan, Albert Einstein or Bill Gates. Now surley afterwards we can identify qualia like IQ, parental wealth, uppbringing etc. as nessesary pre-conditions of why they succeeded.

    However, I find conceptualizing this stuff this way misses the point, namely what all these individual have in common is ‘not being a quitter’. Now you say:

    “Consider that most children today are raised by the village at large, wether or not their parents are together. This being the case, Masculine heroes are downplayed across the board.”

    Myself, despite being raised with both parents I still internalized a female primacy approach to life. Nevertheless, I still remember to this day every time I fucked up my dad laughing and saying: ‘no big deal, try better next time’. Now later in life I find myself more and more being grateful for this (masculine) internalized attitude of never quitting.

    Now as you say men that are being raised by single mothers can be; “more of a natural and seek out male mentors”, which certainly can be the case. However, due to their need of having to figure this shit out themselves they usually are not very apt at cooperating with other strong willed men, which they have learned from their ‘dear mothers’ are assholes.

    I know I am generalising here, but what I am trying to articulate is that interacting (constructively) with other men is a skill that has to be learned as well. Learning this is really difficult, when all your life you are being raised to view men as ‘the other’, as your mother cast men in this light to protect her ego investement and own up to her poor life choices.

    How things going for you?

  38. Albert things are going well, thanks for asking.

    Sure two boys from the same family can grow up to be exact opposites in this context.

    “However, due to their need of having to figure this shit out themselves they usually are not very apt at cooperating with other strong willed men, which they have learned from their ‘dear mothers’ are assholes.”

    Not always the case, This non cooperation with masculine males,from my experience is more due to the village at large. The two opposite boys raised by a single mother, being one will seek out strong mentors while the other will get along better with gay men.

    As for the depends on where you start, it is easy to overlook the tempering process that goes into fine steel. Without this tempering none of the men you mentioned would have had any success.

    I need to get to work you lucky bastard. will check in later.

  39. P.S. I do not intend to shit on men that were raised by single mothers, neither am I laying all the blaming on these single mothers. However, when single motherhood produces so many adverse life impacts on an individuals life, I think it is really important to understand the process of why this is happening.

    I think Freud was right in identifying anger and sexuality as two prime driving forces of human psychology and soceital drive (allthough their are other things I disagree with). However, where he failed was to extrapolate these trends to wider societal trends. Not so much because he didn’t anticipate these types of trends, but rather during his times people could not comprehend what would happen to society when the nuclear family would be the exception and not the norm.

  40. Albert,

    “All the BP people want instant gratification”

    or settle for less.

    “I think in today’s culture there are too few moments, where people can (safely) fail and it not ends up completely destroying their life.”

    True in part, key holders are herding us. False in part, RP success isn’t BP success. Different metrics.

    RP success in a BP world is often born of creative destruction.

  41. Re: single mothers

    Even progressives at Slate admit single motherhood is worse for all involved, though their reasoning protects the FI. Single Moms don’t have a dutiful chore-playing Beta provider.

    “Why is this? Single mothers, even from wealthier families, have less time. They are less likely to be able to monitor their kids. They do not have a partner who can relieve them when they are tired or frustrated or angry with their kids. This isn’t just a question of taking kids to the array of pampered extracurricular activities that many affluent, two-parent families turn to; it’s about the ways in which two sets of hands, ears, and eyes generally make parenting easier.”

  42. @boulderhead

    “Agreed not to blame the boys or their parents,rather the village is my point.”

    I think this is a very difficult semantical point here, because what is society (i.e. the village) if not a collection of individuals? However, where I do agree is that blaming individuals for all ills misses the point. Individuals just try to make due with what they have, for example one big game changer was the birth control pill

    https://youtu.be/d3fvs3bRPng

    Other technological changes on a comparable scale are: the invention of the automobile, automatic weapons, nuclear bombs, the jet engine, the internet, smart phones, tinder etc. etc. all these inventions are made for a particular purpose, however once societal wide use reaches critical mass unexpected contingencies arise.

    Now what politics and culture are then attempting is to integrate these newly changed (socio/economical/biological/political) realities in a damage control kind of way. Sometimes doing it well, but often times causing more harm than good. The problem that arises socially now is that people want an easy bogeyman to blame, a quick fix to a complex problem and hence its the fault of the: ‘juice’, ‘menz’, ‘libtards’, Trump, alt right etc.

    What fascinated me is, is that this type of technological progress causing social upheaval is nothing new. In fact if Roy Baumeister is to be believed taking sexual selection into the cultural realm is what created civilisation in the first place. Its the motor that drives soceital progress, once men could constructivley compete for resources WITHOUT harming other men civilisation arose. I think, the next revolution in human civilisation progress will stem from men learning to communicate with men as brothers and not enemies. This can be akin to the agricultural revolution, as new forms of societal organisation are found.

    It appears to me, that religious belief system tapped into this vast potential space in the past, as did nationalistic and tribal movements. However, it was always to antagonize another religion, another nation or another tribe. Never, to the benefit of the individual. If this intra male communication to the betterment of individuals males lives (e.g. like the red pill) is not collectively adopted the built up of male frustration (90/10) will take the same bloody path it always has done throughout human history. As sexual frustration and easy targets to blame go hand in hand.

    Note, this is not shitting on the few men that do make something out of themselves despite single motherhood and being raised as betas. Neither am I shitting within the above understanding on the men that don’t. I am merely extrapolating what happens to the village when the majority of men do not overcome their demons and that anger and frustration is channelled into counterproductive ways…. historically that meant bloodshed, a lot of bloodshed…

  43. From the blaximus Broken Record archive: learn to read women’s makeup. Millions of 6’s and 7’s out in the wild masquerading as 8’s and 9’s. Fake eyelashes, eyebrow contouring and widening ( new thing ) hair extensions/coloring/highlighting, eye liner and shadow ( make eyes ” pop ” and appear bigger and brighter ), and application of foundation and contouring of facial makeup to create higher appearing cheek bones, narrow wider noses and drop weight from the face.

    It’s becoming a very standardized art form, with thousands of tutorials on YouTube ( even my daughter has a bunch…). But it’s easily seen through with a little effort and not being too blinded by what you see initially.

    camouflage gentlemen.

    I mean, no hate from me towards the imposters. Good on them and I’m sure it’s an instant ego/esteem booster. I just want my fellow men to understand these tactics so that they don’t delude and fool themselves. In my ‘ social circle ‘ there are 3 chicks with blonde hair and blue eyes, but only one was actually born that way.

    Regardless to what anyone says, the ” HB ” scale is subjective and dependent on a few factors. Know what you like and go for that. Make yourself happy. Most men will not be out there banging a parade of 8-9’s because they aren’t all that plentiful. Some will think they banged a 9, when in reality it was a very nice 7 made up well. Lol.

    I’d say averaging it all out over my lifetime, the averages for me point to a majority of 7’s. 8’s and 9’s are virtually statistically insignificant. Plus, most of them faded over time. More so than the 7’s – farther to fall.

  44. I think, the next revolution in human civilisation progress will stem from men learning to communicate with men as brothers and not enemies.

    That won’t happen, because men are always, always, always competitors first, especially when it comes to sexual access. This is precisely why, as things in other areas have become less overtly competitive and the sexual arena has become more free, the competition among men has become more intense and severe, so much so that many men simply opt out of the competition altogether (though they can’t opt out of the results of opting out … they lose the competition). Women will always sort men according to a hierarchy so that they can determine which males are worthy of sexual access, and because of this men will compete with each other to get to the higher positions in that hierarchy and secure access — and the freer the system the more cutthroat the competitiveness. This is baked in the cake, it is biologically driven by female hypergamy. The only way to get around it is to suppress it by means of massive social suppression, which is something that pretty much noone wants, and even if they did is not coming any time soon. Until then, massive competition among males — and the result of seeing each other as competitors/enemies rather than brothers/collaborators — will be the norm, and ever more intensely perceived as the sexual realm becomes freer (thereby allowing more competitive behaviors).

  45. Women can raise children from birth through adulthood. Usually the kids will not die from parental neglect during that timeframe.

    Women cannot properly raise their sons into a vibrant and strong version of masculine maleness. Chicks lack the proper tools, hormones and insight.

    To properly acclimate a female child, a strong father ( or male father figure ) must be present.

    See the pattern?

    One of the strongest pillars of the destruction of society is the lessening and subjugation of Fathers as active participating heads of households, sans any form of outside interference.

  46. From the blaximus Broken Record archive: learn to read women’s makeup.

    Yes!

    This is odd, though — I mean I’d think anyone who has lived with a woman would know this clearly because we see the difference between the war paint look at the morning getting out of bed no makeup look every day. I guess with guys who have never lived with a woman or who have never had a woman sleep over or something like that.

    It’s the same with celebs. You always have to look at both the pro shoot pics and the candid “street makeup” pics to see what you are really dealing with (a good case in point here is Amber Heard — a very attractive woman, no doubt, but her pro look is truly special, and all makeup, whereas her normal/street look is still attractive — she has a fine physique after all — but nothing at all like the pro look — as is the case with *all* women).

  47. Yeah approach and speak to women… Don’t hide your intention’s

    Communicate that you’re sexual…you’re gonna get laid with somebody tonight…let girls think they have a shot…make sure they don’t think they have a lock on your interest…don’t be a rifle, be a shotgun…make girls compete for your favors…that’s what the hottest guys do

  48. @Novaseeker

    I understand you point, and I grant you that its a valid criticism. Hence me labelling it as revolutionary, as it is against the ‘nature’ of men (btw so was settling and starting to farm grain). As such, I grant you that the odds are stacked against it. However, you have the causality back to front when you write:

    “Women will always sort men according to a hierarchy so that they can determine which males are worthy of sexual access, and because of this men will compete with each other to get to the higher positions in that hierarchy and secure access — and the freer the system the more cutthroat the competitiveness.”

    The initial hierarchy women order men after is contingent upon the ways in which men compete. If men decide that society is right wing authoritarian women will swoon for Herr Führer, if society becomes left leaning inclined they swoon for the socialist college professor.

    “The only way to get around it is to suppress it by means of massive social suppression, which is something that pretty much noone wants, and even if they did is not coming any time soon.”

    Spot on, hence why literally every major world religion is suppressing female sexuality. However, this suppression of hypergamy is top down, institutionally reinforced. You can in principle achieve the same result bottom up, by teaching men not to take shit. Alas, the revolutionary potential of game, being a script men can learn as it lays out the principles of the intersexual dynamics in a comprehensive way to the logical deductive male. I.e. ‘a for dummies version for dogs of how to understand cats’.

    Furthermore, I agree that the sexual market place has become “freer”, but I am not so sure if that is a good thing, especially in the long run. Every economic bubble, where a few individuals get very rich on the detriment of the majority pops at some point. These economic crashes have often negative consequences, what happens when this misandrist bubble pops?

    http://www.singularity2050.com/2010/01/the-misandry-bubble.html

    @Rugby, have shit internet here, I’ll check out these links as soon as I make it back to civilisation, God bless broadband internet connection!

    I still maintain that the revolutionary potential is there, however only time will tell how things unfold….

    Its indeed a Brave New World as Huxley wrote…

  49. The initial hierarchy women order men after is contingent upon the ways in which men compete. If men decide that society is right wing authoritarian women will swoon for Herr Führer, if society becomes left leaning inclined they swoon for the socialist college professor.

    I agree but the point is that there will always be competition among men, in terms of men jockeying for position in the hierarchy of male competition. That essentially prohibits brotherhood from forming in a meaningful way. Brotherhood type of thing persists in limited contexts (sports teams, military units) but that isn’t universal, it’s tribal and aligned against other groups of men pitting themselves against each other in … competition! We are competitive fundamentally not brotherhood fundamentally. Could a fundamental revolution change that? Sure, but I guess we could also get rid of gravity while we’re at it.

    You can in principle achieve the same result bottom up, by teaching men not to take shit. Alas, the revolutionary potential of game, being a script men can learn as it lays out the principles of the intersexual dynamics in a comprehensive way to the logical deductive male. I.e. ‘a for dummies version for dogs of how to understand cats’.

    Only in principle, never in practice. Why? Because to do it from the bottom up you need huge percentages of men practicing tight, effective game — that will never happen. Again, why? Because men have hugely disparate aptitudes and trait characteristic distributions as between each other (more male than female retards and geniuses alike … more spread in characteristics among males, as we are the “test” sex when it comes to genetics, we are the sex where selection works itself out, not females primarily). Because many men are also ran or suck, we will never have the percentage of men having tight game that is required to make that kind of social change from the bottom up (which is almost certainly why, by the way, historically it was very much done from the top down).

    Not to be negative — nobody knows precisely what the future has in store for us, and it is all speculation in the end. But I personally don’t see most guys adopting game and behaving like brothers anytime in the relevant future.

  50. Blax’s Single-Mommies-Can’t-Raise-Kids-Properly-By-Themselves Broken Record

    Having dads at home like Jim Anderson in “Father Knows Best” is the best no doubt. Agree with Blax about that. There are things that can be done.

    Mother Gamer and Grandma Gamer and Grandpa did a lot with Papa Gamer absent.

    Mother Gamer: “Play the field”

    Grandma Gamer: Skirts are like buses. There’ll be another one along in ten minutes.

    Grandpa tested me all the time and showed me how men interact. He worked on his own car and had his tools and worked on stuff. He chased Grandma up the stairs as she giggled.

    I had uncles I saw occasionally, too. One was married four times and I liked him a lot. Very charming. “Leave while you’ll still be missed.”

  51. “Women cannot properly raise their sons into a vibrant and strong version of masculine maleness.”
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=71yQMmyVQAc
    “make girls compete for your favors…that’s what the hottest guys do”

    Albert
    Take care of yourself let me know how your life unfolds.

    Novaseeker
    “But I personally don’t see most guys adopting game and behaving like brothers anytime in the relevant future.”

  52. “…it’s tribal and aligned against other groups of men pitting themselves against each other in … competition! We are competitive fundamentally not brotherhood fundamentally. Could a fundamental revolution change that?“

    Watched a ISIS video long ago. Young “fighters” sitting around bragging exploits, yelling “Where’s my Yazidi girl?” Laughingly believing great days were ahead. They were philosophically as tribal as it gets culturally and women divested of their FI.

    Those chumps thought the women were spoils. There were never enough to go around, women were summarily commoditized and auctioned to the highest bidder. The 80% remained such. I’d say they were worse off.

    Anyway, tribe is o.k. in theory. It can keep a barrio from being overrun but anything beyond that it’s too inwardly focused, incestuous to perpetuate.

  53. Society is a collection of individuals, of average intelligence. In its current form the “collection” is opositionally fractionalized. Technological advances tend to exacerbate the oposition by giving voice to the inexperienced to push their own agenda.

    ‘What politics and culture’ are attempting to do is fulfill their individual agendas. people are told whom is to blame according to their own confirmation biased agendas.

    “The problem that arises socially now is that people want an easy bogeyman to blame, a quick fix to a complex problem and hence its the fault of the: ‘juice’, ‘menz’, ‘libtards’, Trump, alt right etc.”

    I agree.

    “What fascinated me is, is that this type of technological progress causing social upheaval is nothing new. In fact if Roy Baumeister is to be believed taking sexual selection into the cultural realm is what created civilisation in the first place. Its the motor that drives soceital progress, once men could constructivley compete for resources WITHOUT harming other men civilisation arose.”

    Civilisation where men don’t harm other men has never existed.

    ” I think, the next revolution in human civilisation progress will stem from men learning to communicate with men as brothers and not enemies. This can be akin to the agricultural revolution, as new forms of societal organisation are found.”

    Pipe dream

    “It It appears to me, that religious belief system tapped into this vast potential space in the past, as did nationalistic and tribal movements. However, it was always to antagonize another religion, another nation or another tribe. Never, to the benefit of the individual.”

    On the contrary the religious and tribal systems gave the individual meaning, not that they aren’t corrupted by individuals.

    ” If this intra male communication to the betterment of individuals males lives (e.g. like the red pill) is not collectively adopted the built up of male frustration (90/10) will take the same bloody path it always has done throughout human history. As sexual frustration and easy targets to blame go hand in hand.”

    This isn’t likely to happen, more likely is a tribal ground up aproach allowing individual survival.

    “Note, this is not shitting on the few men that do make something out of themselves despite single motherhood and being raised as betas. Neither am I shitting within the above understanding on the men that don’t. I am merely extrapolating what happens to the village when the majority of men do not overcome their demons and that anger and frustration is channelled into counterproductive ways…. historically that meant bloodshed, a lot of bloodshed…”

    Interesting the FPSO village has as much input into a childs mind weather or not both parents are there to set the record straight. Bloodshed is the natural order. We are slipping between the edges of decadence and barbarism as a society.

  54. “What fascinated me is, is that this type of technological progress causing social upheaval is nothing new.”

    Float glass and such were non-upheaval worthwhile technological progress. FB? Hell no and we pretend it has value anyways.

  55. It’s the same with celebs. You always have to look at both the pro shoot pics and the candid “street makeup” pics to see what you are really dealing with (a good case in point here is Amber Heard — a very attractive woman, no doubt, but her pro look is truly special, and all makeup, whereas her normal/street look is still attractive — she has a fine physique after all — but nothing at all like the pro look — as is the case with *all* women).

    My ex-wife is a top-tier makeup artist so I’ve seen lots of before and afters. The difference pro look makeup makes is incredible because at its best it hides all flaws and accentuates positives. One of the newest things which was a main part of her business was eyelash extensions which obviously give a healthier more youthful look without mascara. But if you ever see a woman fully glammed up, and find it intimidating, it helps to stop for a moment and try to picture her waking up right out of bed with no makeup.

  56. @ Novaseeker & Morpheus

    Lol, this is what I’ve been preaching here for years, because I believe that way too many men get thrown by appearances without understanding what they are really looking at. They will see 2 7’s , one made up and one not, and they will swear that the made up 7 is a 9.

    Nova’s right that you really get to see it when you live with a woman. I only advocate for men understanding the whole war paint phenomenon so that you don’t get snookered. There’s a pretty substantial difference between the two pics sentient posted up above.

    I’ve seen the eyelash extention thing Morpheus is talking about up close. 60-80 bucks a pop. Chicks are going ape for these things. Very few humans on earth have lashes like that… Lol. Now the checkout girl at the supermarket has ’em in full effect. I’d bet a bulk of men that see the checkout girl probably think she’s cute, but they don’t register the ” what about her “.

    Skills. I have an old friend in her early 60’s. Ex stripper/ ex biker chick. She had her implants updated to ” gummy bear ” implants not long ago. They’re still massive. I don’t know what kind of foundation she uses, but her face shows zero wrinkles and it doesn’t crack. Maybe it’s Spackle. But I’ll give it to her, she looks maybe 40 ish with her bleached hair ( her fashion sense is stuck in the 80’s ) and she won’t leave the house without her heeels, makeup, hair and nails being on point, and over the years I noticed that the prep work is taking longer and longer.

    She’s not a cougar. She’s a saber toothed tigress. Lol.

    She’s banging 30 year olds. Lol. She’s not going to stop until she dies or breaks a hip. Smartly, no human will see her in the morning. Ever.

  57. @novaseeker & boulderhead

    “pipedream”

    ‘Crito, we owe a rooster to Asclepius.’

    I am well aware what awaits people, who dream of the betterment of man(kind). However, every person needs a telos so why not aim high?

    The thing that I am working on, is finding rules of communication, how can individuals communicate without falling prey to animosity or violence. The best template of such (male to male) communication patterns I have found so far, is the scientific ethos.

    Which would make sense, in what context these developed, meaning in written communication between early Enlightenment thinkers. Here are 5 examples of rules I have codified so far:

    · Do not use the word truth!

    This is not so much implying that such a concept or idea does not exist, however it is merely a reflection of how difficult it is to arrive at such an understanding. If you start off by utilising and imposing YOUR truth, by definition other people’s inputs are devalued. Furthermore, the conversation then usually deteriorates into an accusation of “lying” or “deceit”, which are not constructive in a dialectic.

    · Do not infer intelligence or status

    Similar to the above mentioned aspect, by inferring your own “superior” intelligence or status it becomes an argument from authority, rather than dialecticism. Furthermore, such appeals to authority do not constructively add anything to the presented argument besides aggrandising the ego of the individual expressing them. Even if you are the smartest person in the room, this does not mean that you are infallible and other people cannot constructively bring additional information to your attention, by invoking status or intelligence such avenues of discussion are shut down.

    · Do not use the word objective or call people biased

    First of all, objectivity is a similar slippery concept like “truth”. As such, using it in a discussion in fact becomes a self-aggrandisement in where YOUR version or reality is elevated and other contradicting information. Furthermore, the accusation of bias is killing the dialectic as the addressee then immediately get defensive and turns the accusation around. As no one is truly a hundred percent objective with everything, such conduct then deteriorates into an exercise of futility where the individuals involved in the discussion accusing each other of biases and the topic of the dialectic is lost.

    · Do not appeal to authority (i.e. this is “SCIENCE”)

    Just saying “science!” isn’t an argument, similarly just referring to article in nature, something published in another reputable journal or made by your favourite researcher is similarly futile. The scientific ethos requires you to qualify and contextualise WHY the invoked information is relevant for the argument. This serves two functions, firstly it contextualises the information for the participants in the dialectic and second of all it shows YOUR understanding of the invoked article/information. By providing a reference, the addressee then can for themselves verify that A) the information as you provided is relevant for the discussion and B) that your understanding of the presented information is correct. Without these qualifiers, it is the same as appealing to authority and not terribly “scientific”.

    · Respect your opponent

    Respect is essential in any type of discussion, scientific or not. A) if the participants within a discussion do not feel respected; why should they contribute? B) communication is difficult, especially articulating things that are on the edge of our understanding and mistakes are easily made. As such, by divorcing the respect for the individual and the argument no one has to lose face for making mistakes. Lastly, C) if you want to your argumentation partners to respect you, you have to do the same. A Socratic dialectic only happens when the conversation partners perceive themselves to be equal, without such equal status it can be perceived as you preaching dogma.

    · Be helpful in your feedback

    People make mistakes, lack additional information or simply have a different understanding. By introducing your feedback in a helpful manor, you are framing the dialectic into an open forum. With snarky remarks, ridiculing, name calling, belittling or any other type of behaviour of invalidating the opponent nothing constructive is added to the argument. Yes, these types of behaviours may feel good to the individual that is making them, however the recipients of this type of conduct are usually not very fond of being presented in such a light. Furthermore, once the interaction has progressed to such a stage it is often difficult to salvage any type of constructive criticism.

    This is all still work on progress, but as I see it, communication is key in this male game of connecting to another men’s understanding. I tend to notice a great lack of such communication etiquette in many comment sections. I suspect, because the ‘naturals’ only communicated with women or the nerds only with their special online tribe, so communication pattern atrophied in young men, and hence being a contribution to our current calamity, and who knows in the end we could all end up learning from each other…

    …or be accused of corrupting the youth of Athens, can go either way really

  58. ” With snarky remarks, ridiculing, name calling, belittling or any other type of behaviour of invalidating the opponent nothing constructive is added to the argument.”

    To wit: I’ve petitioned, now on 6 months, mind you, that Robert’s Rules of Order be instituted to control raucous uncouth debate in these chambers.

    I say, solemn gentlemen, commentary of late shabbily respects the sanctity of measured productive debate!

  59. “I say, solemn gentlemen, commentary of late shabbily respects the sanctity of measured productive debate!”

    On the contrary things are going quite smoothly as of late. In comparison to the normal scrims,old chap.

  60. Point of order!

    Esteemed colleague of mountainous habitat, I have not yielded.

    Ahem.

    In effort to promote orderly commentary, I nominate SJF TRM parliamentarian.

    Do I have a second?

  61. Not hardly.

    Disorderly and un-moderated is the greatest thing in a male space. A brawl. It’s a free-for-all. A meritocracy. A competition for thoughts and ideas.

    Moderation is a girly thing.

    Funny thing was a couple years ago when WordPress popped up with a like button. Another girly thing. Without a dislike button. Go figure. Society is so feminized that it can’t conceive of a dislike button. Just like society folks can’t conceive of a Blaximus punch to the chest or the face.

    I won’t agree to be a parliamentarian. I’m too odd, too in my own head (Extroverted Sensing is my inferior function, even if I have incorporated that function more successfully in my functional stack to be more of an integrated personality via Red Pill and Game), too monogamous and too low on Agreeable-ness. Hell, I’m too Walter White like. And can only be a leader of men in small tribes of like 5-7. Plus I have zero empathy unless others are in the small, small tribe. Then I have all the empathy in the world.

    Umm, Sorry?

    https://youtu.be/spnE1xRRamw

    @Boulderhead

    One of my instinctual skills is engaging in and getting respect from rural folks. Tough crowd. I surprised myself, but I was a natural at doing so over the last 11 years at my farm. I can’t believe how instinctual it was from the start. A go figure decade.

    But talk about ghosting, those people in rural areas are unstable. One tight friend, single mom, with three children of three different dads died, one had his house burn down, one was displaced by the pipeline, and the assholes to the north sold the property to a nice young guy. Another young school teacher with a wife, young children and two dogs that would roam my land moved out of their rental house.

    If one city boy can garner the respect from rural folks, it’s got to say something about skills. It’s like a Western Movie, the drama. Which tends to be no big deal. Drama about little things. A study of life on the edge.

    On the other hand, Mother nature is a bitch that has endless amounts of energy. And she is the supreme selector in life. It’s best to make her your friend. And soak up her energy.

  62. Disorderly and un-moderated is the greatest thing in a male space. A brawl. It’s a free-for-all. A meritocracy. A competition for thoughts and ideas.

    Beat Rugby to the draw:

  63. “This can go either way. I have yet to see this though in any of the sons of single mothers I’ve dated or even my own step-brother. Maybe my sampling is too small but they’ve all been pussies.”

    Red Cloud’s territory at the height of his power stretched from Minnesota to The Salt Lake, From Canada to the Oklahoma Panhandle.

    The Sioux war Chief was raised by a single mother.

  64. @SJF

    I have been back in the woods so long I am growing moss on the north side.

    Most people come and go the average stretch is 5yrs, the independent types last longer. Iv’e met people for the first time that have been around a few years and they think i’m new.

  65. Lost Patrol
    https://archive.org/stream/RapeOfTheMind-ThePsychologyOfThoughtControl-A.m.MeerlooMd/RapeOfTheMind-ThePsychologyOfThoughtControl-A.m.MeerlooMd_djvu.txt

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gb5dHYnx7Uo

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kSutjmECFb0

    “Disorderly and un-moderated is the greatest thing in a male space. A brawl. It’s a free-for-all. A meritocracy. A competition for thoughts and ideas.”

    The ability to destroy something and build something without having to manipulate it…. I’m still struggling with that…

  66. Excerpts from

    The Heart of Everything That Is by Bob Drury and Tom Clavin by Bob Drury

    “1825 was also the year when Secretary of War James Barbour had begun to act on a
    concept of the forcible removal of the eastern tribes, ”

    “The more salient fact for Red Cloud that year was the death of his father, Lone Man. According to his
    incomplete autobiography as well as statements he made late in life, the cause of Lone Man’s death was an addiction to what the white man called whiskey”

    “Perhaps
    because he was a child whose father had died not in battle or on the hunt but from whiskey, and he stood just outside the ring of light thrown by the lodge fires of boys with important fathers, it was always Red Cloud who hit hardest with the lance during “king of the hill,” or laughed loudest while confiscating the other boys’ toy weapons. Such was his
    temper that was he was sometimes warned by his uncles to curb his ruthless streak.”

    “When I was young among our nation, I was poor,” he told Sam Deon. “But from the wars with one nation or another, I raised myself to be a chief.” A warrior’s vocation was the only path to success and stature for a fatherless boy, even a boy with powerful and respected uncles. Red Cloud was about sixteen years old when he joined his first
    raiding party.

    Red Cloud had always, if reluctantly, obeyed the pleas of his mother when she argued that he was too young to take part
    in these raids. Despite a Sioux woman’s inferior status, Walks As She Thinks did speak with some authority due to her brothers’ standing. But even the respect afforded Old Smoke and White Hawk could not alter the fact that Red Cloud’s absence from the war parties was beginning to be remarked on. When young warriors painted and dusted
    themselves and their horses for battle, an unofficial head count circulated through the camp as to who was riding and who was staying behind. Although there were many reasons for a man of fighting age to sit out a raid (usually having to do with omens), any young brave repeatedly failing to participate was said to have had his “heart fail him.” Red Cloud was still on
    the cusp of war-party age, but perhaps he had heard this insinuation once too often. Or maybe his cousin’s death was the spark. For whatever reason, on this day as the departing braves gathered at one end of the village a shout suddenly rose among the mothers, wives, and sisters gathered about the warriors. “He is coming.”
    “Who is coming?” someone called. “Red Cloud,” called another voice, and the crowd took up a chant. “Red Cloud comes! Red Cloud comes!” He then appeared on his spotted pony, painted and feathered, leading a spare bay by a rope. Both horses wore ribbons entwined in their manes and tails.
    It was a Lakota custom that when warriors returned from battle their closest kinswomen gathered about them, took the reins of their
    bridles, and led them to their lodges in a fawning procession. For Red Cloud, this task fell to his mother. When he and Walks As She Thinks reached their tepee the boy dismounted, entered, put away his weapons, and waited. Soon enough a young female cousin called at the entrance. She beckoned him to his uncle’s lodge. Red Cloud rose, wrapped himself
    in a blanket, and strode through the camp. One can only imagine what was going through the young man’s mind as veteran braves grunted and yipped in approval and young women stole peeks at the conquering hero. When he reached Old Smoke’s tepee he was fed a sumptuous meal and prompted to recount his
    performance, particularly the circumstances of his scalptaking. He would tell the story many times that day, including during his first appearance in the soldier lodge, the village’s largest, where warriors spun tales of battle in order that the narratives might become public property. “

  67. “The Sioux war Chief was raised by a single mother.”

    There were fatherless boys among the Sioux, but there were no “single mothers.” When his father died, Red Cloud was moved into the lodge of his mother’s brother, Chief Smoke, and trained by the warrior guild with the other boys. After puberty boys would move out of the family lodge and camp communally with other unmarried men.

    Sioux men were raised by men.

  68. “The ability to destroy something and build something without having to manipulate it…. I’m still struggling with that…”

    Didn’t you ever watch Fight Club? Destruction was the coin in the realm.

    You have have the ability to destroy something.

    You have the the ability to to build something.

    You can manipulate it. You have to manipulate it, and them, and her. To do less is to do a disservice to it, them and her. She, it and them benefits by you taking charge. And lead by any means necessary. Don’t let them guys (it,them,her) down.

    Don’t struggle with that.

    Employ your dark side. Put that little fucker to work. Use him. To be scary. He’s a source of power.

    Meet up with Jordan Peterson videos. Re: dark side.

    And when someone encroaches on to your sacred boundaries, remember: No! is a complete sentence.

    Manipulation is the middle initial of the Burden of Performance. Without manipulation a male is not masculine. You Have To Manipulate.

    Manipulation is not actually a bad word, (despite what she said). It is the art of manipulating something in a skillful manner. It’s a good thing. A really good thing for everybody involved. So start manipulating something, right now. In a skillful manner. And stop struggling with the concept.

    And to do less is to not be assertive. Be assertive. Not being assertive fucks up you and it fucks up who you are dealing with. And it’s unattractive.

    A BILL OF ASSERTIVE RIGHTS

    I: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.

    II: You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.

    III: You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.

    IV: You have the right to change your mind.

    V: You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them.

    VI: You have the right to say, “I don’t know.”

    VII: You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.

    VIII: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.

    IX: You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”

    X: You have the right to say, “I don’t care.”

    YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO, WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY”

    ― Manuel J. Smith, When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope – Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy

    Heh, the 48 Laws of Power too (Robert Greene):

    https://www.tke.org/files/file/The_48_Laws_of_Power.pdf

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