A Woman’s Prerogative

prerogative

“A woman talks to one man, looks at a second, and thinks of a third.” – Niti Sataka

Reader/Blogger Ian Ironwood had a really on-point comment about last week’s piece that I’d already considered for the next essay to continue this series:

Excellent post, Rollo. It goes without saying that the Pill and liberalized divorce law was the first step on this path, but few appreciate its logical conclusion. Especially feminism, in the face of evolving technology. Pendulums swing both ways, and the reverse can be devastating.

In particular, your discussion of evolutionary biology/psychology and evolving technologies is spot-on. One element many men (and almost all women) do not appreciate is the social change that will erupt when Vasalgel or one of the similar products/procedures is finally authorized by the FDA. For the uninformed, Vasalgel promises ten baby-free years for a man before it breaks down, and can be removed at any point to get a woman pregnant. It works without messing with your hormones by simply shredding the sperm in the vas deferens. It costs about $1000. One time.

The social implications of this are clear: suddenly for the first time in history, a woman would have to seek a man’s permission to have a child with him. This small, subtle shift will have dramatic consequences, especially as we head into the Age of the Herbivore. When all of those egg-freezing women and their younger, more opportunistic sisters can no longer practice rampant reproductive coercion, then the social balance will shift again, and hard. Men who screw without the shredder are not to be trusted and are demonstrably irresponsible…but men with it are impervious to the traditional biological means of ensuring a commitment. Suddenly we are very much on an even playing field, and everything is back on the table. It will take the conscious will and permission of both parties to have a child, and men in that position will find themselves in a far more powerful spot than they have ever been in.

Finding a suitable father for your kid is hard enough, from a female perspective. Finding one who also sees you as a worthy enough mother for his children to make the conscious decision to remove his birth control is going to be much, much harder. And the prospect of starting all over with a new man as her biological viability evaporates is going to be . . . problematic. We’ll see a much more intense emphasis on the Epiphany phase, and a multi-layered cultural panic as competition increases among women across the board.

The cultural freakout will include more-of-the-same “where did all the good men go?” “manbaby” “dropout loser mother’s basement” frustrated criticism of men; which is why it’s important, from a cultural perspective, that there are men articulating our essential cultural position: marriage, as it stands, no longer serves our interests, and we will select only women of the highest quality to raise our children with – mindfully.

It will be interesting to see how it evolves, but I predict this one little fact alone – independent of the other sexual distractions available to modern man, from internet porn to Tindr to prostitution to robotic sex dolls – will put modern feminism and womanhood in general into a crisis. I look forward to your next few parts.

Despite what a handful of new commenters believe, I have written in the past about the dramatic cultural shift that unilaterally feminine-controlled hormonal birth control has meant to Western culture. I started this by addressing the feminine side of the birth control situation in posts like Fem-Centrism (also an important chapter in The Rational Male) because it offers and confirms for Red Pill men so many examples of how the psychological nature of women interacts with their biological natures:

Sexual Revolution

I got into a hypothetical debate with an online friend as to what it would mean to humanity (and masculinity in particular) if a new method of birth control was developed with the specific and unique ability to allow men to control conception to the same degree women were given with hormonal contraception in the mid-sixties. I thought it interesting that human effort could create reliable contraception for women in the 60’s, yet in 2011 we can map the human genome and yet not figure out how to afford men the same degree of birth control?

Put simply, the feminine imperative will not allow this.

Imagine the social and economic damage to the feminine infrastructure if Prometheus gave such fire to Men? Imagine that balance of control veering back into the masculine; for men to literally have the exclusive choice to fulfill a woman’s sexual strategy or not.

The conversation got heated. Men could never be trusted with such a power! Surely humanity would come to a grinding, apocalyptic end if the feminine sexual strategy was thwarted by reliable male contraception. Societies would be sundered, populations would nosedive, and the nuclear family would be replaced with a neo-tribalism dictated by men’s sexual strategies. Honestly, you’d think the discovery of atomic weapons was on par with such an invention.

The ridiculous, pathetic endemically juvenile and perverse masculinity that 50 years of feminization created could never be trusted to further humanity in pursuing their sex’s inborn imperatives.

Yet, this is precisely the power that was put into the hands of women in the 1960’s and remains today. The threat that male contraception represents to the feminine imperative is one of controlling the framework of which gender’s sexual strategy will be the normative. Prior to the advent of female-exclusive hormonal birth control and the sexual revolution that resulted from it, the gender playing field was level, if not tipped in favor of masculinity due to men’s provisioning being a motivating factor in women achieving their own gender imperative. Latex prophylactics were available in the 40’s, and this may have afforded men a slight advantage, but both parties knew and agreed to the terms of their sexual activity at the time of copulation.

Once feminine-exclusive birth control was convenient and available the locus of control switched to feminine primacy. Her imperative became the normalized imperative. His sexual imperative was only a means to achieving her own, and now the control was firmly placed in favor of feminine hypergamy. Whether in the developing world or in first world nations, the onus of directing the course of humanity fell upon women, and thus the feminine reality evolved into what it is today.

Freelove 2.0

It would appear that if all clinical testing goes according to hopes, Vasalgel will be this new form of unilaterally male-controlled birth control. I am, however, cautiously apprehensive about how accessible this breakthrough in male birth control will actually be. From the research I did for this piece, and coming from the usual feminist suspects, you’d think that Vasalgel would be a Godsend for sex-positive feminism. If I’m a bit skeptical it’s because the usual feminist sources are following the same shortsighted emotionalism that put them into virtually total control of the course of the human species.

Naturally, feminism would like to paint Vasalgel as some equalist responsibility for men. Almost every feminist article I read aboutVasalgel had some exasperated variation of “well, it’s about time men were given some responsibility for birth control” and then citing how difficult it was to remember to take a pill regularly. The other refrain was about how women couldn’t wait to get off the birth control hormones that made them fat, moody or just ornery, and how great it would be to have men be responsible for the convenience of their sex lives – more on that later.

But this is more than a bit facetious for women, because it only illustrates women’s (or feminist writer’s) obliviousness as to how male birth control will affect a base of power the Feminine Imperative has enjoyed for over five generations now. The fact that we’ve had female-controlled hormonal birth control, as well as legal, medically safe, abortion since the mid 60s and we’re only now developing/testing a male-controlled alternative in 2016 should speak volumes about our culture’s feminine-primary priorities.

This idea never occurs to women apparently; at least not publicly. Bear in mind all the development for Vasalgel has taken place almost entirely outside of western cultures (India being the test-bed). It could be that Vasalgel is still in its infancy with regard to a feminine-primary public awareness and women are still caught up in the hedonistically entitled mindset that only speaks to convenience in their sex lives. My guess is that not a lot of critical insight has been given as to how, as Ian and myself have explained, a feminine-primary social order would be affected by men’s far greater control of women’s Hypergamous strategies.

The ‘greater good’ of Vasalgel at this stage is all couched in the hope that it will help end unwanted pregnancies. That sounds like a progressive’s idea of a benefit to society, but at this stage what’s being overlooked is how a new technological advancement will immediately and irrevocably alter the direction of our larger culture.

I spoke to this in last week’s article. The rapid advancement of Vasalgel represents the potential of altering the direction of a social order that’s depended on the presumption of a unilateral control of Hypergamy for almost sixty years now. My guess is that once we get closer to realizing the use of Vasalgel as practical birth control for men the more resistance and legislation will be lobbied against it as the idea of what it could mean to the Feminine Imperative starts to sink in.

Her Prerogative

Now, we have to bring the implications of male-controlled birth control full circle here. There’s been a common idiom about women’s ‘right’ to choice for centuries now – a woman’s prerogative; a woman always has the right to change her mind. I actually looked up where this notion first started and it went as far back as (you guessed it) courtly love of medieval times:

Breach of promise is a common lawtort, abolished in many jurisdictions. It was also called breach of contract to marry,[1] and the remedy awarded was known as heart balm.

From at least medieval times until the early 20th century, a man’s promise of engagement to marry a woman was considered, in many jurisdictions, a legally binding contract. If the man were to subsequently change his mind, he would be said to be in “breach” of this promise and subject to litigation for damages.

The converse of this was seldom true; the concept that “it’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind” had at least some basis in law (though a woman might pay a high social price for exercising this privilege, as explained below)—and unless an actual dowry of money or property had changed hands, a man was only rarely able to recover in a “breach of promise” suit against a woman, were he even allowed to file one.

This is another one of those old books ideas that women playing by the new books of modern times still clung to even after the Sexual Revolution. An important part of men’s Blue Pill Beta conditioning is to always defer to a woman’s judgement and choices no matter how duplicitous they may initially appear. Part of the old books social contract was based on a pre-understanding about what was at stake were a man and woman to come together, have sex and potentially bring a child into the world. Prior to the advent of birth control both sexes were on relatively equal presumptions of risk. A woman’s fickleness, duplicity or even prudence made a woman’s prerogative something pragmatic.

Now we move into an era where women have almost unchallenged, unilateral control of the birthing of the next generations of the human race. As I’ve mentioned before, with safe and legal abortion, feminine-controlled birth control, feminine-primary societal norms, feminine-controlled definitions of rape or harassment, and feminine-controlled legislation of men’s responsibility to fatherhood (irrespective of genetic origin) women’s consolidation on power is nearly complete.

All of these bases of social control revolve around a woman’s control of Hypergamy and the complete exclusion of men’s influence on it, beyond his genetic and provisional qualifications to satisfy it. When we combine the old books idiom of a woman’s right to change her mind with the nearly total control of Hypergamy, we see that the more we progress socially the more evident this feminine base of control is.

All social mandates revolve around satisfying women’s Hypergamous doubts, or allaying or justifying the fear of living with the consequences of them. Even in the current Presidential election we see this dynamic in action with the potential for the first female President.

Changes

In the next post in this series I’ll get into how women’s hindbrains struggle to keep up with the immediate rewards of social media and that the advancement of technology that gratifies their evolved psychological natures. However, for this discussion it’s important to understand that the advancements that have led to women’s social primacy of today are still tenuous. Vasagel could be one catalyst that is a game changer; a challenger not just to our intersexual dynamic, but the power hold women retain in directing Hypergamy and putting the direction of human breeding (in a much larger part) in the control of men.

I find it ironic and fitting that the promise of unrestricted sex which men believed they would enjoy with the advent of women’s hormonal birth control is the same rationale I’m reading from women about Vasagel. What they don’t consider is that this new invention will give men a new male prerogative with regard to who they will or will not start a family with.

I understand that in some ‘sphere communities Vasagel is the ‘big fuck you’ to women for have had such uncontested social control for so long, but to them I would advise not to get too elated too quickly. For the most part the socio-psychological infrastructure that conditions men for the Blue Pill will still exist, and there will always be Betas, even ones with the male prerogative that Vasagel implies, who will still defer to the feminine as their only means to sex and intimacy. The Feminine Imperative is nothing if not fluidly redefining itself to work around challenges to it s power. Vasagel may represent a change (assuming men are allowed to have it or can afford it) in our intersexual dynamics, but it will take some time before there is real change in our social dynamics as a result of it.

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Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@Tom – thanks dude. Yes, I’m familiar with the Secret Society (back when I was focussing on online dating and getting lays out of that, I had a couple girls briefly as FWBs while they looked for boyfriends, and one girl wanted to introduce me to a friend of hers so her friend could bang me too etc). So I’m pretty good with the Secret Society “mindset” (I don’t do it much now but I used to go to swingers clubs a lot too a few years ago – that also helped). Bedroom skills..not so great. Like no complaints or… Read more »

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
5 years ago

Culum
Coat check girl was smoking hot – solid early twenties blonde HB8, full makeup (why full makeup when doing the coat check job I don’t know).

Well, uh…

Anyway she had a candy bar on the counter and I said something about how she was all set for a long night with a snack and she was like “No..it’s from the bartender..he likes me” and she shrugged.

..maybe she dolls herself up for the bartender? Or some other man she doesn’t even know, yet?

stringerbell
stringerbell
5 years ago

@forgethesky Thanks for the response. Makes alotta sense. I have a decent amount of hobbies (some of which chicks are into and some they aren’t) that I can work into convo and then offer to teach them about if they show interest really looking for some responses from @yareally @scray @sentient so reposting incase they see this. this is a continuation of my text game with HB6 and HB7 and a new chick I met at the bar (NewHB7) on Friday who loved me. 1) HB6 had come out on a date with me and we had a great night… Read more »

Forge the Sky
Forge the Sky
5 years ago

I’m traveling so y’all are going to wake up to a ‘what Forge has been thinking about for the past week’ page 4 when you wake up lol. Good thing I’m on a tablet or I might be inclined to get philosophical. @Culum I’m not close enough to your circumstance to say for sure, but your reasons for not banging social circle chick sound buffer-y. It doesn’t sound like she’s the sort of girl who often causes drama around sex. I’ve banged social circle girls before and it seems to be ok if a) they’re stable and b) non-clingy about… Read more »

Forge the Sky
Forge the Sky
5 years ago

@Stringerbell

No prob, just remember that the hobbies, teaching girls stuff etc is NOT YOUR VALUE to them. It’s JUST a great way to timebridge. Your value to them – what they’re attracted to – is YOU. As soon as you start wanting a girl to value you for an external you get slotted as a ‘provider’ type. Which is doubly lame if the external is something that can’t even, ya know, provide.

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
5 years ago

Forge It’s something that’s embedded in the NARRATIVE you have around the relationship – something which makes for a real difference even though it’s not a PRACTICAL difference. I like kfg’s analogy to psychosomatic disorders. They’re real even if they don’t LOOK real, just because of the way the human mindbody functions as a whole. Huh. What you describe looks a lot like one-itis. A man with oneitis cannot be outcome independent. He cannot possibly induce dread, either. Several of my friends over the years have gotten one-itis in their marriage. Some of them are still married. Others betaized so… Read more »

Forge the Sky
Forge the Sky
5 years ago

@Culum “@Forge – wait, wut? The hot girl approached YOU? You know she was pretty much throwing herself at you right? You haven’t posted the details but why didn’t you just lead/isolate her?” Lol I haven’t even told ya the worst of it. I was walking towards the first club of the night, she comes up to me on the street and asks me if I know where X bar is (so I could have led them there) so I tell them and they’re all like ‘yeah, that bouncer from (club I’m going to) can go fuck himself.’ Giving me… Read more »

Forge the Sky
Forge the Sky
5 years ago

@Anonymous Reader That’s a good observation, and one that is a bit troubling to me. I’m trying to add a bit to the discussion of how a relationship could possibly work long term; it would be unfortunate if the dynamics I’ve seen worming are obsolete. I’ll have to think more about your analogy to oneitis here. I think there are a lot of similarities and that a razor-thin line exists here. But it’s my current intuition that this is something different. The people whom I’ve seen making it work (albeit under the first set of books) do not have oneitis.… Read more »

Forge the Sky
Forge the Sky
5 years ago

*working

I don’t make a habit of worming, particularly when I’m observing dynamics. Aglia spinners work just fine.

Tom
Tom
5 years ago

@Culum, The reason I mention the Secret Siociety is because if you demonstrate that you “get” complete, total, 100% discretion, and also are down with the female need for comfort sex that “doesn’t count” toward her Relationships, you get to be the guy who’s on-tap for sex without the betas in the given social circle even knowing it’s happening. Also, an early mentor explained that IHO once a guy reaches the point where he can take women to bed regularly, he should back off studying PU to “learn sex.” The way he put it is “you need to deliver the… Read more »

Forge the Sky
Forge the Sky
5 years ago

In fact, given the way I tend to go through Aglias and the calorie content of the average squirrel I suspect I’ve likely had a @kfg sourced Aglia before.

YaReally
YaReally
5 years ago

@Forge the Sky “But it don’t see the big picture here. If a girl is going out dressed super provocatively like that, esp w/o an orbiter or BF to guard her, what’s her mindset?” She’s looking for a guy who will “imitate her squint, laugh, then pull w a bit about how she’s probably gotten hit on all night and OH GOD not ANOTHER one, don’t worry I can’t hit on you I’m too shy, so anyways I want to get a girl’s opinion about something and go into my FWB situ) and SEEN how much it was real annoyance… Read more »

YaReally
YaReally
5 years ago

@Tom @Culum “The very first step to doing it for real is learning how to recognize the G-spot on the anterior wall of the vagina, under the Skene’s gland, by touch.” Watch “Squrting 101”, the one with Cytherea. Try to find the full version that has the separate segment at the end where he makes the asian chick squirt in 30 seconds, but it’s usually clipped off so at least watch the full main segment. Watch the whole thing and see where the other guys are fucking up when they try to do it VS the main guy with the… Read more »

scray
scray
5 years ago

@culum Yeah, things get SO MUCH easier once you hit social hook point and I usually don’t. All it takes is jabbering for like 5 minutes lol WHY IS LIFE SO HARD IN WEIRD WAYS. I think higher IQ introverts tend to have an aversion to just jabbering about nothing until people just sort of get used to you being there, and so don’t really learn that this is a thing you can do until they practice it as a skill. nah, that’s excuses. it’s not just jabbering for 5 minutes. if you go back and read my old FR’s,… Read more »

Forge the Sky
Forge the Sky
5 years ago

@YaReally Thanks man. Wouldn’t be where I am w/o you guys. This: “She’s looking for the guy who can see her like that and STILL treat her like a bratty 5/10. ’cause that’s a guy who’s had girls like her or hotter in his life…” makes good sense. I just need the same thing drilled into my head from a few different angles before it clicks I guess lol. But seeing the dressed-to-the-nines bit as a sort of shit test is a helpful idea. But ya, I fucked that set up; I’m just seeing what I can learn from it… Read more »

scray
scray
5 years ago

@ya The key to think about is: you didn’t even LOSE the game with her…because you didn’t even PLAY. You walked past the arcade machine instead of putting in a quarter and seeing if you could beat it. At least toss a quarter in and play. 😉 yes. literally by engaging with and talking to the girl you’re ahead of like 80% of guys already. most guys CAN’T and have to rely on passive shit. most dudes simply are scared shitless of rejection… and you can’t get over it by simply purposefully bombing a bunch of sets. You have to… Read more »

scray
scray
5 years ago

@culum It’s true, I don’t think intelligence is an obstacle to social skills – quite the opposite – I just think that smarter guys use it as the go-to excuse if they’re socially anxious. Been guilty of that myself in the past. I mean, I think that it’s a double-edged sword. The smarter you get socially, the faster you know the score, and the more predictable shit is. Which, sometimes, is a little annoying and boring, because like > 95% of people are literally trapped in little boxes (limiting beliefs) about EVERYTHING you can think of. Plus, you need your… Read more »

Andy
Andy
5 years ago

“The mindset for me that works is just being a salesman for a product you REALLY BELIEVE IN.”

@scray

Any wise words on building an identity?

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@forge ko soryr I wlil do betetr abtuo fixngi teh “black” gilrs bti fmor nwo on. lol @culum like I get the feeling that someone like Hank likes to preplan EVERYTHING eh, I mean think about stuff in advance. I don’t plan it out in THAT much detail. Its just so like with that instadate, I had 3 solid DHVs I could drop in. So the long 10min walk with her through the dark at night to the icecream place would have been more awkward…except I already had a funny DHV about doing that same thing with a different girl.… Read more »

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@culum or to put it another way, the more you think about ahead of time, the less you have to think about in the moment. So its less about memorizing things as much as it is just IMAGINING what it would be like in a particular situation, and how you would respond. That way when it actually DOES happen, you just fall back on autopilot. You’re getting tripped up in set because you haven’t thought as much about this stuff before, so its almost 100% you making shit up in the moment. Whereas for me its a lot less (almost… Read more »

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@andy

Any wise words on building an identity?

Challenge yourself. Character is gained through adversity. The more new situations you put yourself in, the more people you interact with, the more you learn about who you really are. Those challenges and experiences will develop and sharpen your identity.

Or, to put it more succinctly:

Field is king

Andy
Andy
5 years ago

@hank the fucked up thing is that I was more confident when I was married red pill Dad with nice job and sweet sahm wife. Heh. Now I’m just some guy.

Anyway, I shall challenge myself. Baby steps to the bar.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@Scray – I agree with you (although I don’t think that’s really my current sticking point) – most of your points were to Forge’s reply to my post, not me. @Hank – yup, I see your point about how planning helps you to be prepared for what happens, but the thing is, that’s not my sticking point. I know I suck at cold approach and I’m working through it (slowly as you can see from my FRs) but actually I’m intermediate in terms of things like conversation and sexual escalation and kino and things like that – because I have… Read more »

Magda
Magda
5 years ago

Hello everyone. I have just read the rational male preventive medicine. I am wondering if the following quote also is true is the word woman is substituted for man: “A woman talks to one man, looks at a second, and thinks of a third.” – Niti Sataka Also, in the book it says that a woman’s love for a man is opportunistic, as she first loves what a man is as a prerequisite for who a man is. I am wondering again if this is also true if the word woman is substituted for man, and if not, I am… Read more »

having a bad day
having a bad day
5 years ago

@Blaximus Her mom was working long hours, then trying to date, and my god-daughter became an afterthought with very little attention paid to her. sooo, standard issue ‘single mom’… gotcha…lol… it’s likely that if god-daughter hadn’t had what little benefit of the ‘Blaximus Experience’ ™ that she did have, that she would be ‘on the pole’ instead of just taking pics for ‘teh interwebs’…lol… so, props on that… My berating became hollow when she only saw me once or twice a year. no, not ‘hollow’… it still has the same effect on the amplitude (when it’s administered anyway)… it’s just… Read more »

YaReally
YaReally
5 years ago

@Colbert @Blaximus “Ummm…Charlie Sheen is not a model of success in this arena…lol.” lol I don’t think Charlie Sheen is a model of success in ANY arena to anyone. @stuffinbox “So do you pick your favorite plate or your least favorite,to leave watching the kids?” What? Does Sentient invite the stripper he bangs on a business trip to watch his kids? Why would you even let the other girls meet your kids? Why does everyone think that if you don’t promise monogamy then that means you’ll have 50 women walking in and out of your house raising your kids for… Read more »

YaReally
YaReally
5 years ago

ah fuck, wrong thread lol ignore that.

anon
anon
5 years ago

YR “I don’t think Charlie Sheen is a model of success in ANY arena to anyone.”

Yet he has lived precisely the lifestyle everything I’ve read of your handiwork would advocate for “success”.
Where exactly did he go wrong and deviate from your plan?
“Don’t get AID, dude, lol!”
?

Bellator
Bellator
5 years ago

There is another interesting possibility. The white/asian upper middle class will all get it, but the illegal immigrant and lower classes will not. Idiocracy here we come.

Juci
Juci
5 years ago

I think women have more worrisome things to concern themselves with, when it comes to birth control, besides sleeping with alpha/beta males or getting fatter, and those things are the horrible deadly side effects of these damn hormonal forms of birth control, including DEATH!!!

Frank (@Phonetic_AU)
5 years ago

The holy grail male reproduction choice & control, how will women & feminists react ??

Luc J Hale
5 years ago
CGIFurniture
3 years ago

Nice post!

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