Two Guitars

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Recently, I’ve been very busy with more than a few business projects. ‘Success Coaches’ always tell you to develop passive forms of income in addition to whatever it is you consider your vocation, but I have an odd habit of turning my past “vocations” into passive forms of income as I move on to my next project.

Then I’ve had the audiobook of The Rational Male as a front-burner project for my leisure time along with doing re-edits of the first printed book (new, better-edited, bigger font edition coming soon) and then there’s the first draft of the third book I’m picking away at.

In between all of that I’ve been doing my best to stay on top of the comment threads for the essays I’m writing. Among these, for the past 6 or 7 months has been the saga of a commenter who goes by Softek. While I haven’t been able to keep abreast of all his comments and the exceptional advice of fellow Rational readers, I’m going to take a moment now to address his situation because it serves as an example, and perhaps a warning, to Red Pill aware men who come into a new awakened understanding of intergender dynamics and fall prey to some of the pitfalls inherent in unplugging themselves from their prior illusions.

I’ve followed Softek’s unplugging and his increased confidence from a thoroughly Blue Pill conditioned guy to something approaching Alpha confidence. Whether this is beginning to stick and becoming an internalized part of who Softek is as a man, I’ll let him say, but recently he’s been dealing with some of the fallout that comes from being caught up in what I went through in Dream Girls and Children with Dynamite.

Another very common occurrence is the “reformed” AFC who makes progress toward becoming more Game savvy, and as a result gets his “dream girl”, only to lose her after reverting back into an AFC frame once he’s in an LTR with her. I’m not a big Ross Jefferies fan, but he did say something very profound once, he said “teaching PUA skills to these chumps is like giving dynamite to children.” This is probably truer than he realized, because the potential for disaster is much higher. Most guys want that silver bullet, the magic formula that will get them the girl, but it does nothing to prepare them for the idyllic LTR their beta nature has fantasized about for so very long. They don’t become Men, they become children with dynamite. So are we really surprised when the guy who finally gets his Dream Girl as a result of learning Game becomes despondent and suicidal when he loses the “best thing he’ll ever have” when she leaves him? Are we shocked when his ONEitis turns out to be a BPD girl and his life’s ambitions fall into a death-spiral because he was unprepared to deal with a post-Game LTR?

Now, I’m not suggesting that Softek is despondent or suicidal in his present position. In fact, likely not because he’s got a base of support on this blog and in the manosphere at large to coach him through it. I’ll let him outline his situation in the comment thread for this post, however, Softek’s situation of getting wrapped up in a yo-yo clingy BPD relationship reminded me of a story I’m not very proud to relate, but in the interests of other guys in a similar situation I’ll explain it.

The Price of a BPD

Towards the end of my relationship with my own BPD there came a point when I attempted to make it work with her as a long distance relationship (LDR). This was really the last nail in the coffin for us. I knew damn well she was ‘cheating’ on me while I blithely convinced myself I would eventually get her to move another state away to join me so I could continue wallowing in her neurotic psychological abuse of me.

I’m happy to say that never happened, but it came at a cost. At one point during the LDR I had to make a decision in order to find a way to drive over a state to see her college graduation. I’d already had my (correct) suspicions she was fucking a guy from one of her classes, but I wasn’t entirely sure. You’ve got to understand that as a BPD she’d already had me ‘converted’ to accept her frame as the dominant one. And as pathetic as it’ll sound, I was still her thrall and blamed myself for her neurosis even as I lived 800 miles away.

People love to cast me as some life-long Alpha, but I’ve been Beta, a natural Alpha, and during this period of my life I was approaching Omega (by Vox’s definitions). If there’s a bright side, it was that the bit I’m about to relate to you was the catalyst in my turning my life around to be a ‘lesser Alpha’ in a permanent way.

I had already been brought low. In her neurotic jealousy, she insisted that I toss out a photo album of all the times I’d been on stage in my Hollywood days and essentially destroy the memories of friends and events I had archived of that time. It was like losing part of my soul, but I did so because I thought she was right; I was convinced anything that came before her that I’d done was the source of her distempers.

You might think that was bad, but in order for me to go to her graduation – the time she intentionally had me discover her fucking this guy – I had to pay for that horrible experience by selling off two very expensive guitars. I won’t tell you the brand, but they were a 12 and a 6 string acoustic that was priceless to me. Even the guy I sold them to asked me if I was sure I wanted to part with them, he could tell I didn’t.

But I did sell them, for $800. Now they’d be worth around $4,000, but it’s not the dollar value I regret the most, it was voluntarily cutting off a limb from myself for the privilege of learning exactly how fucked up this person was. The only time I’ve ever snapped with Mrs. Tomassi was her casually suggesting I might sell off a guitar from my present collection. She knew there was something more to it and I’ve never silenced her with more seriousness.

I have one post outlining Borderline Personality Disorder and I feel like it’s all I really needed to post about it. There was a time in my life when I was completely in the dark about anything like it, so when I first discovered it in the DSM while studying psych it literally sent chills down my spine.

After this traumatic experience, I came to realize that while all the women I’d been convinced and conditioned to believe were my duty to be supportive of were banging other men and earning degrees, my life was paralyzed. Now, in hindsight, I can see that my beating myself up over being stalled in life because of my Blue Pill conditioning was misplaced. ONEitis will do that to you, but when you combine it with a BPD it takes a trauma to wake you up – either that or you swallow a bullet or put a rope around your neck.

On the BPD comment thread, there’s a sobering account of another man’s experience with a BPD woman. I’ll quote it here, but virtually every experience I’ve had men relate to me about a BPD is a frighteningly similar story.

From Hugh:

So, to start, I discovered that my ex was having an affair, revolving around a “church based canoe group”. Initially, I began questioning and blaming myself, telling her that we needed to work it out. I spoke to a professional seeking support and answers, who somehow got her in to see him.

He reported to me that he diagnosed her with Borderline Personality Disorder, and that I had some major choices to make, as she rejected his diagnosis and any thought of treatment. He advised that she would never change without help, and that what she did had little to do with me or the children – it was all about her.

I initially failed to understand, and tried to reconcile. Over the next few months she promised to try, and even started going to church.

But, little-by-little she revealed how this had begun, first with lesbian affairs with coworkers, then eventually, when I bought her a new car, but declined to take a car maintenance class with her – she slept with the mechanic giving the class. I learned of more in rapid succession, of affairs, one night stands, and worse over a 7 year period. She was in the medical field and used the cover of being on call,being in surgery, working extra for a dentist, going to medical conferences, etc, etc.(I could comment on my opinion of medical morals, but ’nuff said) I recalled an occasion when I got overwhelmingly sleepy after consuming a soft drink at a movie with the ex. I realize now that she drugged me. She also infected me twice with STDs, telling me she had a yeast infection. She put antibiotic in my food unknown to me. My children later reported to me, when asked, that whoever I was out of town, the ex was “always” gone to the hospital at night “on call”.

The gross details aren’t necessary, but the revelations shook me back to reality. (disgusting, degrading, and sick are better terms even than gross)

She began trying to convince me to sell our house and move. Now awake, I realized that she wanted her share and would dump the children on the street and force a move to a new neighborhood. I had recently pulled her off the chest of our 11 year old son when she tried to strangle him for begging her not to leave him – so I wasn’t exactly fooled by her house sale drive. I resolved that my children needed to have the support of friends and family, and not be moved out of their home and away from friends. How I would do this came to me eventually – wait long enough and she would find another prince, but couldn’t hide it easily, and would have to leave.

I had been contacted by the wife of her latest affair, a physician whom she had recommended me to for minor surgery.(Roll that around for a second). She and I had quite a conversation, during which I learned that he had “done this before with his office nurse, and she had attempted suicide when he dumped her – possibly for my wife”. I advised her to seek professional medical and legal council, but also delivered an explicit warning concerning what I would do if I ever saw her husband in public.

The next day the ex came home late from work, crying and just glaring at me (a Thursday BTW – a favorite day for medical professionals at some hospitals to play, as it offers the cover for some surgeons who “have surgery that day”.) The next day, after meeting with her surgeon friend again, she proceeded to drive her car right in front of an oncoming truck, suffering broken ribs. I rushed to the hospital, told she was being X-rayed and that I should go to the room she was assigned. I did so and in rearranging the pillows on the bed, found a hand written note from a “friend” indicating they would be by later. I didn’t stay long after she got to the room.

Well, we bought her a new truck, and about 3 weeks later, she called to inform me that she was taking our motor home on a canoe trip that afternoon, and when she returned, she was “leaving the family”. She asked our teenaged daughter to drop her off, and my daughter called me, appalled, that the canoe trip was my ex and 4 men. My daughter said she threw gravel “all over them” with her rapid departure.

She never said anything to the children, but shortly after informed me that she was leaving that afternoon. She got friends to help her move and was gone when my dad and I returned from picking up the kids at school golf team practice.

The judge at the divorce hearing classified her as having abandoned the family and offered to impose child support payments on her – which I declined, in an attempt to cut all ties.

That was 31 years ago, and we had absolutely no contact with her until Dec 24, when a scribbled note, from some tiny town in East Texas arrived, stating that she had breast cancer, and I should take “appropriate measures concerning the children”.

I can’t imagine that she thinks any of us care!

So, that’s my early life’s scary story – though I left the horror story parts out!

Be safe, there are really monsters in the world!

Hugh

P S – My 2 older children are college educated,very successful professional people with families and children. I remarried a spectacular woman a few years after, the true savior of our lives, and have a third child, who is a Nurse Practitioner, and who also has 2 children.(I have advised her about morals in the medical field particularly).

Softek, the reason I’m dedicating an entire post (and hopefully an on-topic comment thread) about this is because, in my estimate, you’re in both a more precarious, yet potentially more hopeful, position than guys who’ve dealt with what you are now. My concern is that your Red Pill awareness and basic Game skills have brought you a dangerous woman. It’s the kids with dynamite dynamic I’m seeing unfold.

The good news is you have a solid community of men ready to help you with this, most of whom have some experience with toxic women. I’ve seen too many men learn Game or adopt an abundance frame, but still cling to the hope that they can fulfill a Blue Pill ideal with their Red Pill awareness. Women like the one you’re involved with will believe your Alpha frame, but when you shift or backslide into Blue Pill idealism they’re either disgusted with a man, or they see him as potential prey – and often are oblivious to their own interpretations of why they do.

I’d like to open up the commentary here for men to relate their experiences of dealing with BPD women and/or offer something for Softek. I realize there are a lot of well-meaning guys who think that BPD is overestimated in the ‘sphere, and while I can appreciate that, I think it speaks volumes that women can so regularly be confused with the signs of BPD today as to make that estimate. For my outline have a read of Borderline Personality Disorder first.

 

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Via Vitae
Via Vitae
5 years ago

Lot of good posts flying around. Thanks, tribe.

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@ SJF ” This answers you questioning us on the whys and wherefores of our position. And this stuff is important to practice at 35, because when you get to 55 you will have the skills you need when you need them in the future after you are lounging poolside in your castle you built” Looking at short term success and defining it via some external, immediate reward. This is a young man’s game. We’ve all been there. Patience, understanding and wisdom come with time. Hopefully. Until that light bulb pops on, all that precedes will look like an implausible… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

I said: “We didn’t chew up things, get bored and move on to new exciting things. It is not time with a woman or job(profession) that kills delight. It is familiarity, neutralization and lack of purpose. “ I noticed the similarity in what I said here about having a deep an powerful inclination to do something after the fork in the road seemed the right one to take: https://therationalmale.com/2016/05/15/tribes/comment-page-11/#comment-157416 The basic elements of this story are repeated in the lives of all of the great Masters in history: a youthful passion or predilection, a chance encounter that allows them to… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

… but I NEVER passed up an opportunity to make some cash chasing pussy. The pussy was there after I got paid. Lmao.

Via Vitae
Via Vitae
5 years ago

Yeah, Have some goddamn coffee, Rosie!

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

I look forward to experiencing this ” boredom ” I’ve heard so much about. It sounds interesting.

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@ Via Vitae

…. chicks will bring me coffee once they see my massive…rose bush.

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I love me some horticulture.

Vektor
Vektor
5 years ago

BPD tales. Shit, where to begin. I was married to a BPD woman for 15 years. However, the BPD did not manifest overnight. There is too much to tell. I will have to try to condense it down. 1. The worst, THE ABSOLUTE WORST thing you can do with a BPD woman is have a child with her. If……for the love of GOD….by some miracle you have not yet had a child with her……..then celebrate….rejoice….but for fucks sake…..do not fuck her EVER again. 100% serious….NEVER again. You dodged a bullet my friend, do not tempt fate. Leave. 2. Leave her.… Read more »

becomingamaninmyforties
Reply to  Vektor

@Vektor Completel agree theaxim should be, protect yourself but for this of us still not fully red pill aware it isn’t that easy. We struggle with the desire to both be Savior and tormentor for these BPD women. Often, we were raised by women with a severe disorder though not always BPD. I find myself in the situation, trying to decide what to do. One year left of the kid being at home, broke as fuck, dealing with her shit go hot then cold… and having come from am abusive household as a child, sometimes you just deal with it… Read more »

Via Vitae
Via Vitae
5 years ago

@blax You can lead a horticulture, but you can’t make her leaf.

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@ Via

Okay, I’m speechless.

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@culum @yareal @blax @quixotic@forge Worst night out yet Went to eat. Waitress asked if I had been there before. I hadn’t. Joked with her about she must have seen my evil twin. Actually have had that happen a lot. Next time I am with a lone girl or girls when that happens, I’ll just say something like “Yeah, I was running through you dreams.” and go from there. Do the whole yareally thing about “You have got to stop having me run through your dreams at night I can’t get any sleep” Went to town. Event going on. All the… Read more »

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@culum Wasn’t trying to be negative last FR, just explaining my thoughts and why I was driving around aimlessly for a bit there. Can’t move. Not enough money. I found no options to relocate to where I want to go. I’d have to have something where they pay for travel. Only military will do that, and that’s a bad choice for me Tried for 3 months now to relocate to a compromise location about 3 hours away, Not ideal, but it has a nice downtown with loots of venues close by each other (unlike where I live now). 50+ applications.… Read more »

Softek
Softek
5 years ago

@ SJF That Deida passage you shared sounds like it resonates with me to a T. I couldn’t believe it as I was reading through that because I feel myself going “Yep, yep” with every paragraph. Sounds ridiculous because it hasn’t even been a year with this girl. But the first couple months were crazy intense, so excited to see her, but slowly, after seeing each other every single day, it started eroding. Let’s not pin it on BPD for a moment, or the idea that I need a better girl: Why have we been having less sex? Because I… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

“He he heee…. ” ..explain to me why you don’t want the coffee? Are you afraid? Do you think it would cost you everything? I’m trying to understand why you won’t take the coffee, and then have as many refills as possible. Everybody likes coffee…” Well played Blaximus, you wise mother****er, you. Lately, I’ve been trying to train my wife to understand that when I say something overtly as a masculine male, that you know, I actually mean it. That is is not a cryptic game I’m playing. I actually feel and think what I just said. I’m not at… Read more »

rugby11
5 years ago

Interesting way to live as a couple.
http://lukeisback.com/stars/stars/kelly_madison.htm

Via Vitae
Via Vitae
5 years ago

“they have had a bit of debates with the girlies in the past couple years. that bleeds over into masculine debate here”

Yup.

Those bleeders, they are crafty…

Softek
Softek
5 years ago

One of my favorite songs (couldn’t find the Woodstock version, they’re pulling Hendrix shit off NaziTube like crazy, which I think is really necessary on the topic of polarization that SJF brought to light: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xTpQem36uA well, I travel at the speed of a reborn man I got a lot of love to give From the mirrors of my hand I sent a message of love Don’t you run away Look at your heart, baby Come on along with me today Well I am what I am, thank god Some people just don’t understand, well help them god Find yourself first,… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

Softek Careful there. YaReally’s psychological advice in his comments to you are vastly more than the tangential quotes from Deida. I listen to Dr. Laura too much to know that YaReally is correct about the fact that you condone psychological abuse by your parents (because you think being unloved and alone from your parents was/is worse) or psychological abuse by your girl (because you are afraid of not getting fucked. You know, your incel fears). You must understand this concept that YaReally said upstream about condoning or accepting abuse as normal. And yes it is hard going forward. The abuse… Read more »

Softek
Softek
5 years ago

@ SJF I’m feeling scrib’s advice to just fuck another woman. Preferably more than one. That’s the simple solution. Just get out there and do it. Having that seed planted in my head ALONE is helping to quell some of the Blue Pill BS that has been coming up. But it’s tough. Until it happens, it’s just a pipe dream. Have to experience it firsthand to really get it. What’s not good is I have “hooked up” with a couple girls online, traded pics etc., and felt awful about it. Even though I never once promised monogamy. I have lied… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

Softek If you f***ing run like a moth to a flame or Icarus to the sun toward this girl rather than keep Frame and distance yourself ….. from anything I say, I’ll be pissed. Softek, We got some serious dichotomous levels going on here. You need to set limits. In young man game, you need to know the power of next and walking away. At Andy level game with job/profession, young kids and a wife that is trying to control you and push you away from sex because of her perceived safety issues (tame the alpha/betatize the alpha) and the… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

“I have lied a few times about not pursuing any other girls and I felt bad about that. I felt like I was cheating and the guilt/shame was crushing me and the way I dealt with it was to just pretend it never happened.” NO SHAME. Stop that shit. What don’t you understand about that being the cunning and pervasive FI telling you that? In order to advance her/their sexual strategy?????? The Feminine Imperative is simply stripping your masculinity because it can. If you let them. If you let them. Your job is to be masculine. Spend your energy on… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

It’s okay, STRONGTEK, to plateau. It’s okay to have have feelings of grief short of acceptance. That is normal. And you can’t fix normal. Sometimes you have to wait. With your precarious mind, it is okay to wait for when you have more strength and courage to make the next ascent. Lean toward your edge but don’t fall off the cliff. What I am saying is definitely paradoxical. You have to move forward, but it is OK to plateau. Otherwise you play with dynamite. When the time to move is right, you have to move to better, higher ground. A… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ SJF

Still working on the caps.

Funny thing, the world didn’t implode. I’m still here even though my handle is different.

Now there’s a surprise. Feels weird.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@hank holiday: that doesn’t sound like a bad night dude. It sounds like a really good night to me. You took ACTION under difficult circumstances and difficult logistics and you didn’t let the complications stop you. You opened and chatted to a bunch of people – that sounds great to me (YaReally’s archive has plenty of stuff on getting into groups – he’ll also probably tell you to read up on Mystery Method) The RESULTS you get are not under your control – you only control your actions and you did very well. I think you had a great night.… Read more »

Kang
Kang
5 years ago

to Rollo and other men who was traumatized by a BPD, how did you regain your strength after being sucked life out by a BPD, or NPD? For me, I’d say I was lucky because I had a friend who would sit quietly and listen to how I felt about it, along with other resources on the internet, most notably Paul Elam’s videos on his Youtube channel. However, I am still traumatized to this day to a certain degree, and have nightmares about the pure monstrosities I was put through. But I cannot imagine how Rollo and others got himself… Read more »

Kang
Kang
5 years ago

Jax,

you are 100% correct.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

YaReally Sentient HABD Walawala and gang: Quick update 1. Went out street gaming last night but couldn’t manage to do any direct approaches (only situational), so I need to get over this mental block. Out again on the streets tonight – I *will* nail this. 2. The HB7 first date I posted about a few days ago – the one I said I managed to “get through” to by escalating hard and sexualizing even though she was a bit aloof? She’s not replying to my text now..I’m not actually surprised – I I felt something in the vibe that day… Read more »

scribblerg
scribblerg
5 years ago

Can’t keep up, but am reading as much as possible. Ah yes, it’s the usual frolics, nice. I love this kind of male arguing, intense but still in good spirits. Truly a uniquely masculine thing and a privilege to be part of. @Rollo – Easy answer. A prostitute is the ultimate in negotiated desire and we all know that desire cannot be negotiated. I want a woman to want me. I want to seduce her. I want her to pull me towards her. Check out what Julien is doing in that RSD vid Ya shared – the surrender, the overt… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

Question for all the commenters here. Have you ever considered where you fit in, in this world? This society? How much thought do you ever give to that idea? Do you believe in a hierarchy or any kind of pecking order? Do you have a personal set of goals in life that you’d like to accomplish ( besides pussy that is..lol )? How far ahead do you normally plan for your life goals? On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being unbearable, how hard do perceive life as being? I’ve asked a few questions for the crowd before, and was… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@Scribblerg – that’s spot on about negotiated desire. Speaking as a guy who spent a long time dating chicks off sugar daddy sites (I still dabble a bit when I’m travelling or if I haven’t been laid in a while but I’m focussing on cold approach now) that point about desire rings true. I’d much rather have real desire from a HB6 than negotiated desire from a HB9..and I’ve banged chicks with negotiated desire before and it just sucked (in fact in a disproportionate number of cases they would often just blow me and no more as a “taste of… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@ Kang ” to Rollo and other men who was traumatized by a BPD, how did you regain your strength after being sucked life out by a BPD, or NPD?” I actually think that because of my young age at the time, I was able to recover much faster and regain perspective, but as I learned recently when I read the OP, I never fully 100% ” healed “. People don’t really fully recover from trauma. That’s what makes something traumatic in the first place. If you fully recover, then you suffered some degree of injury. Trauma is a very… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ scrib Thanks for the support, as always. Maybe we could talk on Skype sometime soon. I also have never done one of those Mantable things Wukong was hosting because I don’t know how that teamspeak client thing works but that could be cool too. Being afraid to charge a fair rate is one example of manifestations of abuse issues. In my mind I’m thinking like, “500 dollars? That’s insane. They must’ve paid so much for the parts and now they’re going to have this much into it, etc.” ….completely disregarding myself. And that 500 bucks is a LOT lower… Read more »

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

“Have you ever considered where you fit in, in this world? This society?” Yes, but only recently. Given your third question my answer may not be directly related to your question. This society is rather different than the one we grew up in and I’m not sure there’s a “place” for anyone in it any more. In fact, I’m not sure there’s anything that could be considered a society any more. And I place some value on society. Even though society might not consider me properly part of it, it serves as the frame to be not quite in it.… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ Blax *Have you ever considered where you fit in, in this world? This society? I feel I operate best as an introvert. Being friendly with customers but keeping non-business related communication with them to an absolute minimum, and saving my non-work energy for having fun with my friends or relaxing by myself. Functioning independently in this society (or as independently as a person can in a society) seems to suit me best. 9-5 grind does not suit me at all. Ironically I’ve felt more free even working longer hours, but without a boss breathing down my neck and planning… Read more »

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

@Kang:

I also agree with Blaximus’s points to you. Take one step at a time, as small as you need to. Even the smallest step is progress and as long as you’re making progress you’re still in the fight.

Back in the day, even though there was no Internet, there was information and people actually talked to each other more than they tend to today.

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@ Culum ” As for the bit about integrity and monogamy – I am no expert on the subject, but I agree that integrity is crucial for a man and keeping his word is part of that. That said, I don’t judge anyone who chooses to cheat – I don’t know anyone’s life circumstances and it’s not my place – particularly in circumstances where there is a good chance they got married based on some kind of Blue Pill lie and they didn’t know what they were signing up for (and that’s not even getting into circs where the wife… Read more »

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

“I’ve felt more free even working longer hours, but without a boss breathing down my neck and planning out my own work schedule.” I remember when it was announced that Inuit and Greeks have relatively low incidents of heart disease. I immediately thought, yeah, sure, they don’t have easy lives, but they don’t do the rat race thing, don’t have a boss breathing down their necks and share a fatalistic view of life that tends to alleviate the sort of stress that is associated with heart disease. And then the announcement went on to note that both the Inuit and… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@kfg – thank you for your input sir. ” Yes, but only recently. Given your third question my answer may not be directly related to your question. This society is rather different than the one we grew up in and I’m not sure there’s a “place” for anyone in it any more. In fact, I’m not sure there’s anything that could be considered a society any more.” This right here. I have been mulling this over in my head quite a bit. @ scribbler – Thank you for the Buddha quote and your response. ” Absolutely. Get in good shape,… Read more »

formerbptherapist
formerbptherapist
5 years ago

I’ve lived with my wife for 5 years. She served me with divorce papers last week, while saying that “this can all change if you change.” Suspected that she had an axis II disorder like BPD or NPD for years, maybe a little even before we got married, but rationalized it away as me being too close to the situation to properly diagnose. (I was a marriage and family therapist – how’s that for “should have known better” humbling?) Second marriage for both of us, and MAN I wish I’d discovered TRP first. I found it about 2 years in,… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@Blaximus – amen brother that makes a lot of sense to me

scribblerg
scribblerg
5 years ago

Re: Blax interrogatory… Have you ever considered where you fit in, in this world? This society? I agree with KFG, we are much less of a society at all anymore. We are atomized and alienated and hyperfactional. We’ve also flipped from being somewhat of a meritocratic society to much more of a class conscious society. As for where I fit in? I don’t really. But I don’t give a shit either. How much thought do you ever give to that idea? Not too much wrt how I fit in but lots to society itself. Do you believe in a hierarchy… Read more »

scribblerg
scribblerg
5 years ago

@Emily – Serious question. What is with the “i’ll just go be a sister in a Catholic order” stuff if current BF doesn’t work out? I mean, you either have a calling or you don’t. It’s nowhere to run away to. As for the “abusive” BF, did he hit you? Did you hit him? And he cheated on you, ah, this is revealing. Oftentimes we are solving the problems we had with our last partner with our next partner. You go from dominant, alpha, unfaithful to a guy you can dominate and control sexually and be certain of his faithfulness.… Read more »

scribblerg
scribblerg
5 years ago

Check this shit out. Female infidelity has reached parity with male infidelity. Look how it’s not presented as morally reprehensible. One amazing quote: “One 41-year-old Brooklynite began sleeping with a co-worker she thought more her professional equal after eight years of marriage and a child with her “low-earning husband.” “A healthy attraction to a person does demand you have a little bit of intrigue and imbalance, which in male-female-empowered relationships is not a priority,” the woman admitted to NY mag, essentially saying the progressive ideal of equal marriage is bland. “A lot of women I know stick with [the empowered… Read more »

LeeLee
5 years ago

@Blaximus “Have you ever considered where you fit in, in this world? This society?” I found this book at the library, which said that in the days of Jesus there were these people called “apocalyptic scribes”, and their whole job was to study hard things, like the apocalypse, but not just that, also mysterious dark sayings and things that were hard to understand. When I read that I realized that I’m an apocalyptic scribe and I always have been. My brain is always searching for hard, dark things to understand, and I’m always studying and writing about them. I think… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@ Lee Lee

Thanks for your input. Much appreciated.

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@ scrib

Thank you for the detail.

I too don’t really feel as though I ” fit ” into current society. Idk if it is a function of getting older and feeling that There Is Nothing New Under The Sun, or if it is as you and kfg allude to, that society changed and went downhill, and I am not wanting to take that ride.

Like the Good Book says, I am in the world, but not of the world. ..or is that backwards… you get my drift.

Hyperfactional. Exactly.

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

@ scrib Oh yeah I forgot to mention that this is why I kind of push back against scray and Ya’s talk of social conditioning. I know Ya says that because I don’t curse in front of kids ( which I do on occasion ), it means I’m bowing to social pressure/conditioning, but 90% of me resists actively, or just don’t give a damn about ” society ” and it’s machinations in that way. I’m trying to discern if this mindset is more a function of age, because I’ve felt this way most of my life, or if it is… Read more »

Via Vitae
Via Vitae
5 years ago

@blax Finally got around to finishing my homework.. “Do you believe in a hierarchy or any kind of pecking order? Have you ever considered where you fit in, in this world? This society? How much thought do you ever give to that idea?” I think about it more as I get older. I feel that you relinquish the power to understand or change things as you try to become part of the power structure that already exists. I regret the time I have wasted in my life, but I don’t regret walking away from what I consider in many respects… Read more »

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

“I’m trying to discern if this mindset is more a function of age, because I’ve felt this way most of my life . . .” So far as anyone can tell, including people who knew me at the time, I was just born that way. When I first went to kindergarten I was living in the projects. I liked to dress like an Australian desert rat* (so I haven’t changed all that much after all these years), which was not quite on by the standards of my “peers” (and it probably didn’t help that I had an upper class British… Read more »

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@culum @yareally @quixotic @blax @forge PLEASE YAREALLY YOU ARE MY ONLY HOPE — Got a hot ass 7.5 Asian girls number when I went out and need some help with how to transition into Day 2. Plan on texting her this evening, but wanted your advice before I proceed. Just search “Asian” to skip to the part with her, this FR is long. From worst FR to best lol Last FR was bad, not because of what actually happened in it per se, but because I’ve been stuck in this place with no one I like for years. So it… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvtUrjfnSnA Point of discussion about the lye burn scene in Fight Club: Again I’m going to talk about the dichotomy of who needs to start from the ground up. And who doesn’t need to after having built something passionate, dynamic and authentic from the ground up in the past and has a good castle. The narrative of that scene was stolen from here: http://alfproject-fightclub.blogspot.com/2011/12/analysis-of-scene You don’t need to click in that link, I’m just giving credit from where I cut and pasted this: In this scene, Tyler pours flaked lye on the main character’s hand, which causes a chemical burn.… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ SJF Before responding to your post, two stories came to mind: … During the civil wars in feudal Japan, an invading army would quickly sweep into a town and take control. In one particular village, everyone fled just before the army arrived – everyone except the Zen master. Curious about this old fellow, the general went to the temple to see for himself what kind of man this master was. When he wasn’t treated with the deference and submissiveness to which he was accustomed, the general burst into anger. “You fool,” he shouted as he reached for his sword,… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ SJF That whole comment reminded me of my history of cutting myself. It’s my literal version of burning my hand with lye. When I have been at some of my most stressed out times, and am feeling old wounds resurfacing, or like I’m at a major turning point in my mentality, I will take a razor and make a fairly deep cut which leaves a big scar. Even in my early teens when this started, it was symbolic/ritualistic to me. Like a rite of passage or something, a physical representation of a turning point in my personal growth. For… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ SJF Back on track, though (weird how easy it is to get into that dissociated headspace if I think about it too long)…. …+1 on the FI manipulating me. This stuff is insidious to the core. I feel like I’m jumbled up and will latch onto older men’s desire for a stable relationship as an excuse to not pursue other women while I’m half their age. It’s normal to want to live it up when you’re younger. And part of me knows that. Every time I go on porn, I think….well, why am I not doing this with an… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@Hank holiday – that’s a great FR. See how the tone is completely different from the previous ones? It soundslike you’re very good at working a room and socializing with everyone and giving value to everyone (as Julien says “treating the whole club like a 100-set”). Not much for me to say on that except great work and it’s good to see the results when you put the work in and keep practicing. As for the Asian girl, couple of points (great work on getting her number): 1. Generally I would approach a two-set together – waiting till her friend… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

Emily is getting me thinking over here about the current GF. This could be a very good lesson for guys to take note of. The girl I’ve been seeing has been with “abusive” guys. I believe her when she says that they were physically abusive. But it makes me wonder what kind of affect they had on her, and first of all, why she’s been with so many “assholes” like that. Kind of shatters the myth in my mind of her being a perfect, self-deprecating Good Woman Unicorn when I realize that she CHOSE to be with guys in her… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

Oh, I forgot the ass grabbing. Whether she’s on top, bent over, face down flat with her legs together, or whatever, get a nice full couple handfuls of ass and clamp down on that shit like Mighty Joe Young before you do your thing. Just imagined in my head a little edit of that scene from Fight Club. Just for comedic effect, lol. When he goes to his “Happy Place” he just sees a girl he was with having her eyes roll into the back of her head and screaming like a banshee while he’s fucking her from behind. And… Read more »

Kate Minter
5 years ago

Softek, Google the phrase “say goodbye to crazy.” Paul Elam and Dr. Tara made some very helpful videos on how to handle a person like this, and they have also written a book. I haven’t read the book, but based on the video discussions, I’m sure it’s quite good. In my opinion, the main thing is to avoid social isolation. It is very important that you have someone (anyone) who believes in you and who takes your side. These women are very adept at getting everyone (including your friends and children) to believe you are the crazy one. And they… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
5 years ago

Scribblerg Fuck, how did we get here? Consider the genesis of this story… 1Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” 2The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, 3but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’ ” 4“You will not certainly die,”… Read more »

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

Scribbler: What is with the “i’ll just go be a sister in a Catholic order” stuff if current BF doesn’t work out?

Emily: Well I wanted to in the first place but then decided I couldn’t leave my bf. But if he does leave that’s the plan b c and d.

Jeeeeeezus; somebody find this poor bastard.

anon
anon
5 years ago

“Just like I’m sure Emily really believes she’s not an Alpha Widow, and can rationalize her getting wet over sexually depraved guys that remind her of the sexual energy she got from him…”

Notice also the projection.
Other girls “have no self respect”.
Then she comes back again and again and again accepting and inviting ridicule, begging to be taken back.
Very distinctive lack of self awareness.

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

“These women are very adept at getting everyone (including your friends and children) to believe you are the crazy one.”

They will not only castrate you with a smile, but they will do it in such a manner that all your friends and even your children will only see that she smiled at you.

scribblerg
scribblerg
5 years ago

@Strongtek – Orgasms from banging for a girl are not that hard to accomplish. It’s about hitting the g-spot. Generally, getting a woman’s kneees up by her ears while doing mish (not really mish anymore when it’s like that) will line you up to hit it and then it’s just a matter of timing and frequency and intensity. There is lots of content about this all over the internet. Turns out engaging Emily has been worthwhile. She’s finally having civilized and respectful exchanges. Strong demonstration of frame and submission, for those of you following along at home. She wants to… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ Kate

I’ll look that up. Thanks for the support and advice. I’m going between advice like yours and YaReallys, focusing on BPD as well as solely on myself. Important to strike a balance. I would be dead in the water without all the support I get from everyone here and I always appreciate it a lot.

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ scrib The hypergamy thing is slowly making more sense to me. Women say one thing and do another, their desires are real NOW, but can change on a whim. I believe my current GF was abused too, and really is honest when she says she wants a simple life, commitment, one guy to grow with, etc. What gets lost in translation is taking it seriously. Yes, she means it now, but that doesn’t mean if I cave and become beta bucks she won’t turn on me after the tide turns and she’s craving alpha cock. Just like how she… Read more »

scribblerg
scribblerg
5 years ago

@Strong – Dude, being your own mental point of origin means blowing your load whenever you want. Whether she’s come yet or not. Even calling it “premature” is to shame yourself. You are young, you should be able to get off two or three times during a good, long session. When I was younger, I would save the good, long, hard banging for round two in which I could last for a half hour or more. Just enjoy sex. Stop trying to “perform” and rather start focusing on your pleasure. Ask yourself this: If a woman comes fast, do you… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

@Lee Lee Here is an article you might find insight in: Why Relationships Fall Apart, Part 4: Boredom http://www.girlschase.com/content/why-relationships-fall-apart-part-4-boredom What happens when a woman feels she’s achieved all she wants or cares to achieve with a man, though? What happens when progress is at an end – not because he is unstable, but because there’s simply nothing more she feels the need to secure with him? Well, at that point, the challenge is complete; the game is won. And, much like some game you’re stuck in once you’ve already done everything there is to do with it, there’s nothing left… Read more »

walawala
walawala
5 years ago

@Softek Dude, most of you posts are still about your girlfriend and not really about you. They’re all about your reaction….you’re reacting to stimuli. This is part of the pattern of codependency. Co-dependency is a faulty thought process and set of defence mechanisms we developed early in life to cope with shitty parenting. But as you get older those defenses no longer work for us yet they’re the only coping mechanisms we know. The people in our lives: girlfriend, friend, boss, idiot in front of you in line at supermarket who won’t move….are all our parents and our behaviours reacting….REACTING…to… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

@Walawa +1 Softek, you are ruminating about relationship game. And using your own old stale psychological tricks THAT DO NOT WORK. You need to build new skills. Start working on two things: One, Maculine Self-Improvement (specifically as Walawa says “developing a healthy thought pattern and set of emotional responses that work for you as a man”). And Two, start concentrating on PUA game instead of relationship game. This will give you skills you can use in the future. Don’t did that relationship game rut deeper because you are just spinning your wheels. And listen careful to YaReally. His stuff is… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

And ScribblerG is 100% correct: “Dude, being your own mental point of origin means blowing your load whenever you want.”

But, when you are Master of Your Own Domain, believe me–you won’t blow your load too quickly. You just won’t. Try it.

IAS
IAS
5 years ago

@Blaximus and Scray tangent (inc. SJF and YaReally):

When I started commenting on the site I didn’t “get” Andy and I think genuinely didn’t feel tempted to have multiples. I’m still not sure I am actually tempted to have multiples or if it is strictly a quantity issue, and I’m not getting enough from the “monopoly” supplier.

In any case, lots of respect for those of you that get all they want from a single source.

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

@Blaximus I think your questions are all trick questions, but I will play. “Have you ever considered where you fit in, in this world? This society?”. I’m integrated in the Matrix. Plugged right in in the Hivemind. I conform to rules, I pay my taxes, I avoid jail. I’m harmed by the constrictions. I play along. This because of my profession (and ongoing income stream), my community, my family and my family’s traditions. But I don’t let the Matrix take to much energy away from me that I don’t have plenty in reserve that I have for my own pursuits.… Read more »

YaReally
5 years ago

@hank holiday Your general socializing is off the charts compared to a lot of newbies who would have avoided most of those interactions you jumped into. You will be a beast the day you finally get yourself into a city full of girls you WANT to fuck. You’re actually learning a bunch of other skills like being able to enjoy general socializing with normal people (VS just interacting with girls you want to fuck) that you’ll find will actually help you out down the road in a lot of ways besides drawing the attention of girls you want. Lots of… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ SJF, scrib PE to me = lack of control. It bothers me because of a lack of control, which affects my enjoyment because it leads to me not having sex the way I want. My orgasms are always stronger when I make up my mind to come, and prepare for it. When it just happens because I get overstimulated by something she’s doing, my orgasms are shit. They are weak and not really that fulfilling, especially if I try to ‘fight back’ and stop myself from coming and fail to do so. Completely on board with the psychic thing.… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ YaReally Thanks for the tip, I’ll have to try that. And while keeping in mind that self-control and enjoyment is my goal. I have already had some mind blowing sex. I just need to relax and get out of my own way. And I think the more I feel like this, the more I’ll be open to new partners and feeling less shame/guilt about it. I was on Chaturbate a couple days ago and it was really good to feel unrestrained in my desire for some chicks I was watching on video. I was just watching to see what… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

“You’re gettin weirdly paranoid dude.” Lol, I was joking and kidding. Sorry if it went over your head. If I was paranoid I wouldn’t have answered the questions. The reason I did answer the questions was to provide food for thought. Which was Blax’s intent, I think. No right answers. Hence, my lame joke which was to draw out more of Blaximus’ thought and validate my ideas or not. IOW a provocative blog tactic. Yeah, I’m not paranoid, I’m just a red pill enthusiast for my demographic/Venn circle tribe, that Blaximus happens to be a part of and resonates with.… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
5 years ago

IAS

” I’m still not sure I am actually tempted to have multiples ”

Be careful, this,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxM1nreZdYc

Leads to this….

YaReally
5 years ago

@Strongtek @SJF @scrib “(in reality time is irrelevant and the only point is that you come when you want to….if you’re coming when you don’t want to, whether that’s in 1 second or 1 hour, it doesn’t matter – IMO it’s about control and making the choice to do it, not being at the complete mercy of your bodily sensations and feeling like you have no control at all)” Man, I didn’t know guys were so hardcore about this stuff lol Is this what goes through your guys’ heads during sex?? I just let whatever happens happen and enjoy it.… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

Also, focusing on my profession has definitely been the biggest help. Back into working out now, and also bringing diet/nutrition back into focus, and between that and getting more work (and more challenging work that’s forcing me to grow), my days are feeling a lot more balanced. Sense of direction/accomplishment/etc. is going through the roof and it’s all going along with building my life up. If I just go by intuition and feelings, this is where I need to be. Feels like I’m growing and the excitement of more work/more skill development and mastery/more money is making me feel great.… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

“I feel like if I could address the core issue there I’d feel much more confident. Not feeling in control of yourself/your life in general will shake your confidence more than anything else in the world.” When you feel in control of yourself/your life outside of the bedroom you will have control in the bedroom. When you have real power and are truly in control of your bigger issues, your PE issues won’t be an issue. It is not about simply exerting more dominance if that dominance is not congruent and authentically your core. You might be reversing the direction… Read more »

Strongtek
Strongtek
5 years ago

@ YaReally You reminded me of a koan when you said “Man, I didn’t know guys were so hardcore about this stuff lol Is this what goes through your guys’ heads during sex??” ———- Hogen, a Chinese Zen teacher, lived alone in a small temple in the country. One day four traveling monks appeared and asked if they might make a fire in his yard to warm themselves. While they were building the fire, Hogen heard them arguing about subjectivity and objectivity. He joined them and said: “There is a big stone. Do you consider it to be inside or… Read more »

scribblerg
scribblerg
5 years ago

I co-sign Ya utterly on the orgasm comment. I don’t worry about it – I come when I come. Sometimes I try and hold off a bit but @Softie (sorry, ya ain’t strong yet cuz you fucking talk way too much) you are seriously out of your gourd on this issue. You want to “control” it? Sex is the opposite of that. Again, I ask you, do you think a single woman on earth concerns herself with coming too soon? Why do you care when you come? You can always chill for a few, go down on her and get… Read more »

stuffinbox
5 years ago

@Strongtek The trick I used when I was young and dumb and full of cum.think about football,fat girls or just someone else.This requires a little mind control you do have a choice what you think about.Now that I am older I think only in terms of reality,all fantasy out the window,as a total waste of time. This whole computer world,virtual reality is bullshit.You can never test your courage and strength or anything else on line.Sure you can stick up for yourself,but without the iminent threat of concequences you are still untested.The longer people put off overcoming the fears the harder… Read more »

walawala
walawala
5 years ago

@Culum sounds good overall. I don’t think it’s ever a good idea to remind or bring up your 20 year old that you met her on a sugar-daddy site. You’ve made your point. But you’re pedestalizing her and one day she will rebel as a way of testing you or when she thinks you’re getting too close. Then you’ll be in a more vulnerable position and may find yourself paying her for stuff just to keep in the game. Well done, you banged her, but you’re making her into a prize. She bangs dudes for cash, so you ARE the… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@walawala thanks dude. Think you’re spot on. I don’t have any feelings or anything for her – we only hung out 2-3 times but yeah I’m pedestalizing her a little – she’s the hottest and the youngest girl I’ve banged, plus she’s sharp and funny and not tedious at all to spend time with even outside the bedroom. No way will I pay for anything but need to focus on the prize as myself – I’ve had two new bangs this week and I have a few more days left before I need to go travelling again so will try… Read more »

redlight
redlight
5 years ago

“isn’t everyone (men and women) hypergamous?”

it’s sad that Rollo has written nothing about the subject, and focuses solely on PUA techniques

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@redlight

Rollo. Focuses solely on PUA?

Lol wtf are you smoking? Give me some, lol

gb_hill
gb_hill
5 years ago

@EM CH on hypergamy for men as opposed to women: Some readers would demur that hypergamy isn’t sex-specific, pointing out that men also strive to find the best possible lover they can get. My rebuttal is two-part: One, men don’t date up based on social, economic, or occupational status. Men, if and when they are able to date up, do so based almost entirely on women’s looks. We’ve all seen or experienced how men trade up when they’ve come into a financial or social status windfall — younger, hotter, tighter women, as the GBFM would put it. So male hypergamy… Read more »

redlight
redlight
5 years ago

@gb_hill My plan was to fuck alpha women when I was in my 20s and then marry a beta women who would allow me to be a stay-at-home-dad in my post wall 30s, then I was going to get divorced for cash and prizes, fuck alpha women in my 40s, then hit menopause and live with my cats. Well that didn’t play out at all. First I couldn’t find any alpha women in my 20s. Then it turns out guys don’t hit the wall, who knew? Then there were zero women who wanted to be the main income earner. Massive… Read more »

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@ culum @yareally @quixotic @blax @forge Did day 2 prep today. Found a place at a shopping center that ended up being better than I thought. Meet up text will be “Meet me at park in the middle of x shopping center. Bring good walking shoes.” So, right in the middle is a small park. Meet girl there. Except I am going to get there earlier. Game girls there — there are quite a few young people there. Its a fancy shopping area after all, lol. Ideally, be WITH those girls when girl shows up. So briefly introduce them to… Read more »

redlight
redlight
5 years ago

@hank I don’t understand this: “Goal is to get a quick kiss in sometime in the forest” You have a very elaborate plan. NASA does less planning. By comparison, my plan would be to see the new Xmen movie and eat popcorn, no other details. But you have a plan down to having a secret garden with Nancy Friday on standby, and a waterfall special effect, and maybe some mom will show up who will try to get you drunk and give you a blow job. After all this, your goal is just a quick kiss? Is she a nun… Read more »

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

If a girl wants a kiss from me she’s going to have to do something pretty special, over an extended period of time. I don’t go around tossing those things out like bags of Skittles.

mersonia
5 years ago

@kfg make her solve one of your riddles…

Opus
Opus
5 years ago

At 01.22 on 25th May M.Simon characterised my prior remark as AWALT. I think he is right but there is a corollary that can be made, namely that sometimes a couple merely succeed in bringing out the worst in each other. After they have parted and with new partners the woman’s BPD behaviour vanishes. As the Bard rightly said, in life each of us plays many parts. A further corollary is that women not only seem to have little moral agency, but know that no matter how badly they behave their behaviour will be exonerated; this only aids their wilfulness.… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@Hank holiday – good stuff dude, both the going out and the planning. It’s good to have a plan in mind but as someone said above – don’t overdo the planning. In real life you won’t have time to do a lot of those venues in a 90-120 minute date. So have some alternatives and shorter versions ready. Make sure you have plenty of opportunity to laser and kino the girl (walking around is pretty good for that). Other than that – all good. Good text to Asian girl too – sometimes they just won’t respond – you have to… Read more »

Novaseeker
Novaseeker
5 years ago

Hypergamy is about where the attraction floor is. For women, it’s above their own SMV, for men it’s below their own SMV. Everyone tries to optimize, but the difference is that men are still attracted to women below their own SMV, whereas women are not attracted to men who are not above their own SMV.

Bromeo
Bromeo
5 years ago

@blax

“PS,

As always, Emily go fuck yourself. Thanks”

LOL dying

hank holiday
hank holiday
5 years ago

@culum My plan is meant to be modular. That’s why I put so much detail in it. There are lots of points when I can cut things short — another advantage to having the path loop in on itself — I can just skip venues or jump back to old ones very quickly. Think of it as being like mystery’s routines. I think he had something retarded like 500 routines total. Each one for a different situation. Now, he would NEVER use ALL 500 on one girl, he might only use 15. But he had a routine for every situation.… Read more »

SJF
SJF
5 years ago

@Softek http://www.deanabbott.com/you-must-acquire-a-taste-for-the-difficult/ Difficulty is an acquired taste, and you aren’t going to achieve much until you get used to it. Wishing this weren’t the case doesn’t make it so. If you want to achieve anything, whether that means building a business or a family (ed. or PUA game), you must learn to tolerate the bitter fruit of discipline. It’s not easy, but in the end it yields the harvest of reward you’re after. Whether you accept this reality or not shapes the person you will be. Someone devoted to comfort and ease above all else will grow slothful and self-centered.… Read more »

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

” Assets, I have observed, are always more valuable than cash . . .” I have observed here more than once that the wealthy do not need cash, because they own or control all the assets. Cash is something they use as a tool to control other people. I’d note that for those of us further down the wealth ladder that they make sure that some of those assets are edible, or, at least, can produce something edible in a hurry. I hold in my hand a Waterford crystal paperweight that has a nominal value of 99 US dollars (I… Read more »

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