Fempowerment

fempowerment

I’m often asked by ‘fempowered’ women critics whether I ‘believe‘ in some of the more socially acceptable tenets of feminism in some sort defense to the affront of my Red Pill lens being cast their way. It’s usually something to do with, “Do you or do you not think women ought to have the right to vote?” or the ever-reliable “Shouldn’t women have the right to do with their bodies what they choose?” These questions are always binary (“yes or no will do”) and usually couched in a context that implies that if you even slightly disagree or have a marginal caveat to answering ‘appropriately’ you’ll be dismissed with a name tag that has “misogynist” printed on it. Say no and you’re a despicable misogynist. Say yes and you’re tar-pitted in “yes, but” caveats – mansplaining – that are disqualified because you’re a man.

Say no and you’re a despicable misogynist. Say yes and you’re tar-pitted in “yes, but” caveats – mansplaining – that are disqualified because you’re a man. Up until recently, it’s been a very effective means of silencing uncomfortable truths about the Feminine Imperative.

I’ve always found it ironic that a movement (feminism) that predicates itself on the ostensibly egalitarian notion that rational, reasonable considerations of issues should lead us to ideals of equality is the first to reduce itself to unquestioned, blind faith binaries at the first sign of rational reasonable truth being unflattering to women. If you want to know who holds power over you, look at whom you aren’t allowed to criticise – or even hint at criticism.

My position on these and many other questions of the sort is usually met with simple observational analysis (as you’d probably expect). I don’t necessarily have a problem with women voting or even having access to legal (relatively safe) abortions. What I have a problem with is the latent purpose behind the reasons that led to women’s decisions to vote a particular way or the latent purposes that brought them to having that abortion. For the greater part, any dubious ‘right’ women feel they were somehow denied in the past usually comes at the expense of men being liable for decisions they had nothing to do with.

What I have a problem with is an expectation of lowering the standards of the game, thus fundamentally altering the game, to better accommodate the variable strengths and weaknesses of women – up to, and including, changing the very nature of women’s environmental realities that would endanger the wellbeing of both sexes. What I take issue with is the expectation of making men liable for the decisions and consequences of the rights and freedom of choices we’ve reserved for only women to make (almost unilaterally Hypergamic choices) that are not in men’s best interests.

I mentioned in Our Sister’s Keeper that men today find themselves in a very precarious position with regard to entertaining women’s perceived wrongs of the past. Men are expected,by default, to be held accountable, for no other reason than they were born men, for past injuries to the ever-changing Feminine Imperative. Your existence as a man today, your failed understanding to accommodate women’s social primacy, your lack of catering to the ambiguous nature of what conveniently passes for masculinity, is a constant stinking affront and obstacle to the “advancement” of women. The Feminine Imperative has known how to manipulate men’s Burden of Performance for millennia, and at not other time in history has it had the unfettered leisure to do so than now.

So, we get socially acceptable default presumptions of ‘male privilege’ without qualifying what it even means, or we get catchy jingoisms like ‘mansplaining’ to give a name to women’s need for silencing men’s inconvenient observations of women’s ‘correct’ perceptions, decisions and the reasons they came to them. We get default presumptions of male guilt for sexual assault and sexual consent as fluidly defined in as convenient a way that serves women’s imperatives. As I’ve mentioned before, the true intent of feminism has never been about establishing a mutually agreed ‘equality’, rather it’s always been about retribution and restitution for perceived past wrongs to the sisterhood.

There has always been a subtext, a cover story, of equality mentioned in the same breath as feminism. Only the most antagonistic asshole, only the most anti-social prick, would be against “equality between the sexes”. Thus, to be against feminism is to be against a simplistic concept of baseline equality. However, taken out of the propagandizing efforts to shame and ‘correct’ men’s imperatives, it’s easy to demonstrate that the true intent of feminism is female ‘fempowerment’ in the dressing of an equality that no man (or woman) wants to appear to be against.

Yellowed Pearls

I found an interesting example of this  Catch 22 in the Economist recently. Pick and choose: Why women’s rights in China are regressing.

In 2007 China’s official Xinhua news agency published a commentary about women who were still unmarried at the age of 27 under the title, “Eight Simple Moves to Escape the Leftover Woman Trap”. The Communist Party had concluded that young Chinese women were becoming too picky and were over-focused on attaining the “three highs”: high education, professional status and income. Newspapers have since reprinted similar editorials. In 2011 one said: “The tragedy is they don’t realise that as women age they are worth less and less, so by the time they get their MA or PhD, they are already old, like yellowed pearls.”

In the last Red Pill Monthly discussion, I mentioned the expansion that the Feminine Imperative has taken on a global scale. One of the old missives of the manosphere has always been about how American women are too far gone to be worth ever entertaining beyond a pump-and-dump consideration. They are too damaged and self-absorbed beyond all redemption, and men ought to expatriate to another country where women are more feminine or at least necessitous enough to appreciate a conventionally masculine man.

I get that. I understand the want for a Poosy Paradise or some promised land where women are still raised to respect and love men by being conventionally feminine. I also get that there exist certain cultures where this is still true, but for all of that, I think it’s important to recognize the social undercurrent that the Feminine Imperative exercises in these cultures. A popular meme on Twitter is ‘Feminism is Cancer’, but there’s a kernel of truth to the humor of this. The spread of the westernizing social primacy of the Feminine Imperative is spreading, not unlike cancer, into what we would otherwise believe were societies and cultures still oppressed by the mythical Patriarchy – a belief necessary to perpetuate the narrative of default female victimhood.

It may not be now, but at some stage, the Feminine Imperative will exercise its presumptive control over even the societies we think ought to be immune from that cancer. As I mention on The Red Pill Monthly, even in underdeveloped countries where we would expect to find the horrible oppression of girls and women, we make a triumphant example of the incidents of where girls (not boys) are taught to read and “think for themselves”. Westernized culture, founded on the Feminine Imperative, celebrates every time a woman in Saudi Arabia is allowed to drive a car, much less run a business on her own as if it were some blow against the tyranny of men.

Little by little, or in leaps and bounds, your second or third world Poosy Paradise will eventually be assimilated by the Feminine Imperative.

I bring this up because, as you’ll read in the linked article, China is also experiencing the long-term results of having adopted feminine social primacy in its own culture. From women’s popular consciousness, we’re still, to this day, told of how horrible “communist” China has been in mandating its one-child policy and how its draconian ‘sons live, daughters die’ social structure has been the result. However, once we reasonably investigate it, we find that China now has a problem with “Yellowed Pearls” as a result of a cultural shift that placed women’s interests as preeminent in that culture. And it should be noted that this shift came about as the direct result of the men who adopted and accommodated the Feminine Imperative as their own.

Now the problem for women in China is not unlike the plight of American women bemoaning the lack of men with “equal” marriageability as themselves. And likewise, the self-same social authorities responsible for institutionalizing the fempowerment of women are now the horrible misogynist villains for suggesting that women ought to lower their unrealistic standards.

The tone of these articles is surprising, given the Communist Party’s past support for women’s advancement. Mao Zedong destroyed China, but he succeeded in raising the status of women. Almost the first legislation enacted by the Communist Party in 1950 was the Marriage Law under which women were given many new rights, including the right to divorce and the right to own property.

Sounds a far cry different from the pictures women, even women in this century, have painted of China’s institutionalized, one-child sexism doesn’t it? Remember, this advancement in women’s rights took place before the Cultural Revolution in China.

Though collectivisation made the latter largely irrelevant, women played an active role in Mao’s China, and still do today. By 2010 26% of urban women had university degrees, double the proportion ten years earlier. Women now regularly outperform men at Chinese universities, which has led to gender-based quotas favouring men in some entrance exams. However, many of the earlier advances have been eroded in recent years by the gradual re-emergence of traditional patriarchal attitudes.

Consider this part in contrast to other industrialized nations and how women have increased their socio-political standing as the result of having the Feminine Imperative adopted as the primary social order of those cultures. Even in cultures that are still popularly deemed “repressive” to women we see educational and socioeconomic parallels to western(ized) cultures. We also see the same resulting consequences and the shifting of blame for them to men. The downside of Yellowed Pearls is placed at the feet of men for not living up to the convenient, feminine-primary definition of what their Burden of Performance ought to mean in promoting and forgiving women’s decisions.

The party has joined an alliance of property companies and dating websites to confront the issue. Government surveys on marriage and property are often sponsored by matchmaking agencies, and perpetuate the perception that being “leftover” is the worst thing that can happen to a woman. They also promote other myths, such as the idea that a man must have a house before he can marry.

As you may expect, the tone of the article is written to emphasize an egalitarian perspective that conflicts with a reality that the Feminine Imperative would have men change or be responsible for not having changed. It’s men’s fault that women might feel bad for not having married by a post-wall age. It’s men’s fault for promoting myths that women would expect that a man must be successfully established in his life and career before any considerations of marriage occur to him. It’s also a man’s fault for clinging to the “myth” that women don’t want him to be established.

The law is reflecting the shift away from women’s empowerment too. An interpretation by the Supreme Court in 2011 of the 1950 Marriage Law stated that, when a couple divorces, property should not be shared equally, but each side should keep what is in his or her own name. This ruling, says Ms Fincher, has serious implications. In the big cities a third of marriages now end in divorce but, based on hundreds of interviews, she finds that only about 30% of married women have their name on the deeds of the marital flat. Women believe the party hype about becoming a “leftover” woman so strongly, she says, that many rush into unhappy marriages with unsuitable men, made on condition that the brides agree not to put their name on the property deeds.

Feminism Would be a Success if Men Would Only Cooperate More

Several years ago Dalrock had a post detailing the sentiment of feminists that feminism would be a success if only men would cooperate with the ideology by abandoning their own interests and sublimating their own biological impulses. The fact remains that feminism and egalitarianism are failed ideologies because at the root level those ideologies ask men to participate in their own extinction. Not only this, but they ask men to raise successive generations to accommodate and participate in their own degradation.

The narrative expects Yellowed Pearls to be prized by men, or respected as Spinsters, or pandered to as ‘Cougars’ while still maintaining men sublimate their own imperatives by willfully ignoring the fact that their own sexual strategy is what is being asked of them to abandon. As I stated in the Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategies, for one sex’s strategy to succeed the other must either be compromised or abandoned – what better way is there to assure this for women than to socially mandate through shame, persecution or financial liabilities that men abandon their own strategy in favor of women?

For some time now, I’ve detailed how for the past 4 or 5 generations, there has been a popular social re-engineering effort to raise and condition boys to become the ‘better betas‘ – boys designed to become the supportive male-reinforcers of empowering women’s interests and imperatives.

For a greater part this effort has been primarily focused on boys and men in western society, and while it’s still open for debate, I’d say that westernizing cultures are really the only cultural environments that can afford to entertain this ‘fempowerment’. This is changing radically now if it was ever really the case to begin with.

In the manosphere we like to highlight the ‘pussification’ of modern men through various efforts on the part of a nebulous ‘socitey’ aligned against masculinity. However, the flip side to this is the fempowerment agenda; an feminine-primary social structure that disallows any criticism of inherently female nature while promoting the empowerment of women on every level of social strata.

We coddle and cater to the feminine in every aspect of social interaction, every aspect of academic achievement, every socioeconomic advantage inventable, every story we tell in every form of media and we do so under the threat of not being supportive or misogynistic for suggesting anything marginally pro-masculine. This is the other side of the demasculinization imperative of boys & men – the total consolidation of handicaping men and empowering women into unrealistic effigies of feminine triumphalism.

How do you counter this?

I’m always lauded for describing these social dynamics, but I’m run up the flagpole for not offering concrete ways of dealing with and pushing back on these imperatives. Many a MGTOW will simply suggest men no longer play the Game, that isolationism is the way to go, but this only serves to eventually concede power to the Feminine Imperative. You don’t get to check out of the Game even if you refuse to play it. For all the guys who left for parts unknown to find their demi-utopia of feminine women in a foreign country, even they will explain that the tide of feminism is changing those seemingly idlyic places. And for every guy to voluntarilly go celebate and “refuse to deal with women” I’ll show you a man whose tax dollars go to fund the consequences of women’s legislated rights to Hypergamous choice.

Sooner or later Men will have to confront and push back against both men and women who are convinced of their purpose in idealizing the dictates of the Feminine Imperative. A lot of men in the ‘sphere believe their being clever when they refer to people with this worldview as ‘SJWs’, but for every hair dyed, gender-confused man-woman you see on Twitter there are hundreds of ‘normal’ people who all share similar perspectives – some simply subconscious generalization they’re oblivious to – sitting next to you at church, or working in the cubicle next to you.

As I’ve mentioned countless times, the change needs to take place by appealing to the hearts and minds of Men by making them Red Pill aware from the bottom up, but moreover, we need to live out that awareness in our own lives and lead by Red Pill example. Our decisions in life, our aspiration in parenting, family and career, in our business dealings, in the women we Game and the people we hire, all of these aspects need to take on the perspective of how they fit into pushing back against a feminine-primary world that demands we surrender any thought of individuated male power.

As Men, we need to unapologetically exercise what little power we’re left with to inform this and successive generation of Red Pill truths tactfully, but with strength of conviction in the face of a feminine-primary society bent on our surrender. Life finds a way. Feminism and the consolidation of the Feminine Imperative have failed because Men were not evolved to acquiesce their dominant spirit. On the same evolutionary level women also evolved into requiring that convnetionally masculine dominance. This is why feminism and egalitarianism will ultimately fail – nature simply will not cooperate with it’s own stagnation. As men, we can use this truth to our Red Pill aware advantage.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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YaReally 😉 If you think those girls on OKCupid and Tinder and walking around the book store and Starbucks aren’t ALSO at the bars…lol Tinderellas, most def. OKCupid, yeah, I agree. Other sites…not necessarily so much, really. No lol, truth. Sweeping generalization, dude. How do I know this? Because my social circle includes some women in their 30’s who are (a) looking to get married (b) using various matchmaking sites and (c) who don’t go out to bars. That’s how I know what some of the world looks like from the other side of the window. Back in the 80’s… Read more »

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also lol I might steal “garden gnomes”.

Don’t hold back on my account. Because you know it’s true, especially the glazed over eyeballs.

Make it a meme.

“WENT OUT TO PICK UP GIRLS”

(garden gnome)

“SAT IN THE CORNER ALL NIGHT INSTEAD”

Or whatever.

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Re: porn http://yourbrainonporn.com/rewire-your-brain-using-ocd-neuroscience Being addicted to tobacco and having gone through a period where I was drinking heavily, I feel like a lot of the signs of alleged addiction ring true with me. I actually have never had a dream in my LIFE where I was having sex. But I have had multiple dreams of myself going on porn, or watching porn, or masturbating to porn (cruel world, lol). Just like when I cut back on smoking, I will start having dreams where I’m smoking. I don’t think that’s coincidental. Seeing people in movies that are smoking will trigger that… Read more »

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One more note: Rat Park study. Rats that were in the “Rat Park” voluntarily chose to go through drug withdrawal. They chose the straight, clean water, instead of the (morphine, I think it was) laced water, which also had sugar added to it, because rats love sugar. They still chose the regular water and voluntarily went through withdrawal, because their environment surrounding them wasn’t fucked up. Let that sink in. Imagine if WOMEN were blamed for men’s retreating into porn. What if porn really IS like morphine? Let’s take it that far. Ok. Well, people get addicted to shit because… Read more »

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@Softek, you ever heard of the term “thermic effect of food”? Basically, your body uses energy to store and process certain foods, and certain foods take more energy to store and process. Fatty foods (as opposed to protein) take the fewest calories to process and store, so, naturally, your body would crave them. Why wouldn’t it, right?

Same with porn. Why wouldn’t your mind want a sexual release with less effort? But just consider porn as Beta-Brain Fat; the more you consume , the more beta your brain will become. The less you consume, the more alpha your brain will become.

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She is a feminist who doesn’t want men to stop pushing the grindstone. The fact that she may currently be an ally of convenience doesn’t imply that she is on our side. Agreed KFG. This pretty much sums up my opinion of all “red pill women” anywhere. On some level, I believe AWALT. Usually what happens though is called a “chaser effect” where you crave more and more immediately. Once you’re hooked, one time isn’t enough. It isn’t a here and there kind of deal. Same here softek. I even get ED as a result (I got the impression from… Read more »

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“What if porn really IS like morphine?”

Morphine is an endogenous opioid, like the endorphins.

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softek Being addicted to tobacco and having gone through a period where I was drinking heavily, I feel like a lot of the signs of alleged addiction ring true with me. Not to get all shrink-wrapped, but from what you have told us about your growing up, you are carrying various forms of pain around in your head. So of course you have self-medicated with various things. Have you read Biology of Desire yet? If not, get it this week. I did not look at that site you pointed to, but rewiring the brain is what we do al lthe… Read more »

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@Rollo Dude, stop lol man, I love you but you’re embarrassing yourself in terms of being up to date on internet culture and shit here. Shoe is NOT Boxxy man. Boxxy is a different chick who’s STILL MAKING VIDEOS. This is Boxxy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pctbu0XWlZw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WVvOU1r2sM Here’s LITERALLY a video of Shoe TALKING TO BOXXY (top-right video window is Shoe): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Q1CbsT2pkU She was a huge Boxxy fan and made Boxxy related videos and she does look similar to her and shit but she’s NOT BOXXY lol She actively makes fun of people who STILL haven’t gotten the memo and STILL think she’s… Read more »

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lol oh man, stop, that’s not her, dude. Made a post with vid links/proof etc in mod for ya grin

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….are we gonna fuck this chick or what?

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…. I’m not signing up for her fan club. Not even for free.

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Apparently the well of admirers ran dry on 4chan …

Seriously? I did not think that was possible.

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@Softek You have some fucked up views about sex/biology so I’m gonna just ask this flat out ’cause I’m curious: You understand that when dudes don’t orgasm, they get horny as fuck and the urge to orgasm becomes overwhelming, right? Like, porn or no porn if a guy is abstaining from fapping he goes through intense urges TO fap…like the first couple days after orgasming are whatever, often he doesn’t even care about girls/sex, and then it starts building up and then like a week or two of NoFap and the guy is clawing at the walls and full of… Read more »

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YaReally to Softek … then like a week or two of NoFap and the guy is clawing at the walls and full of frustrated energy and easily agitated and shit until he faps (or has sex) again. Or he has a really interesting dream and wakes up with sticky sheets. Sperm cells have an age limit, and the reproductive system generally will empty the prostate one way or another for much of a man’s life post puberty, to make space for newer and fresher sperm cells. It’s gonna happen, one way or another. The Victorian era was big on no… Read more »

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@Rollo “I picked it up from Roosh’s thread. Apparently there’s still some speculation that Boxxy is Shoe’s younger net persona.” RVF is the Jezebel of the Manosphere, they do the same level of research there and like to just post click-bait to get upset about lol Shoe’s been getting the Boxxy accusations since she entered the whole anti-feminism scene and literally a one second google search clears up that they’re not the same people. Again, the original Boxxy was still making videos while Shoe was rising up in popularity, they are 100% not the same person lol “I took Karen… Read more »

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@Anonymous Reader “Or he has a really interesting dream and wakes up with sticky sheets” Right, forgot that happens lol I have a Natural buddy who never looks at porn or faps. Because he has multiple girls lined up all week long to fuck him, he doesn’t NEED porn. If THAT guy turns down all these girls dying to suck his dick to fap to porn, then ya, ok, I’ll say he has a porn addiction. But some dude who’s starving to death and keeps pigging out at the free buffet isn’t a dude with an “eating problem”, he’s a… Read more »

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Eh, wrong Kellogg. I meant John Harvey Kellogg, inventor of corn flakes. Corn Flakes were invented as part of his health regimen to prevent masturbation. His belief was that bland foods would decrease or prevent sexual arousal.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Harvey_Kellogg

Some of his ideas, such as the importance of intestinal flora, are actually quite good and scientific. Others…not so much, and that may well be part of Softek’s background.

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Oh, yeah, the Graham cracker was created to…help prevent fapping.

http://virgil.azwestern.edu/~dag/lol/SexGraham&Kellogg.html

Before we start durr-hurring too much, reflect on stuff that is common knowledge now, that will be risible in a generation or so.

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YaReally But some dude who’s starving to death and keeps pigging out at the free buffet isn’t a dude with an “eating problem”, he’s a dude with a “not enough food available” problem. Yup. Somewhere or other I suggested that if culture and law forced married women to eat only the food their husband gave them, in his presence, and it was routine after a birth or two for a man to cut her back to 1,000 calories a day, there’d be a huge uproar. But a woman cutting her “till death do us part” AFC back to an I.V.… Read more »

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Hey, Ya..

Easy on the ” old guys don’t get the super cool, sweet tech ” stuff. Lol. Hurtz muh feelz since I work in the sweet, cool, nee tech field. Understand fully. Just call electronic bullshit on the effects of SM. It hurtd more than it help. Both sexes.

Some of us remember life before all of the tech….and adhd diagnoses….and mass shootings…. And guys having trouble socializing in large numbers…..and playstation/xbox playing 30 year olds with no life direction.

New isn’t always better. Some of us old guys know better.

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@ Pellaeon I wonder if premature ejaculation is a potential side effect of too much porn. It’s not the norm (ED is from what I’ve read), but I have read some cases of that, and I feel like I have it really bad. If I could get over that hurdle I think I’d feel a lot more confident. It could be too soon to tell (the last time I went on it was a couple weeks ago or something like that), and I have had times that I felt I had a lot of control (though not complete). But having… Read more »

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…. Now, get off my lawn!

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softek But having complete control is one of my goals. I feel like I should at least have mastery over my own mind and body. Kind of a bigger metaphor, like, how can I expect to be dominant and lead any woman in any relationship if I can’t even control myself? This. But I’d still feel like shit after whacking off so much. Just like a videogame hangover. Level grinding in RPG’s feels great for a while, but then when you’re done it’s this sense of wasted time like “what the fuck did I just do.” This. We get a… Read more »

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@ Blax re: old guys I was hanging with my near 70 y/o friend today, the 1200+ N count guy. He needed help with his computer. As I’m working on it, I need to access a program I downloaded. It’s in the downloads folder. Lo and behold there are like 500 porn videos in the download folder, lol. He goes, “Hm. I don’t know where that came from. It must be a computer virus or something. You know, those damn things are everywhere these days. I’ve never seen all of this before.” Rofl He’s still got plenty of women chasing… Read more »

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softek We all have relapses, but I do feel better about how I’ve cut back on smoking lately, cut out drinking SEVERELY (I hardly ever drink anymore), Lemme congratulate you on cutting back the drinking. That’s not always easy, but the sooner done, the easier. And now you know how do to it, so if you drift back into it sometime, you know the way out, right? BIology of Desire is your book, man. Look, the neural pathways to do X or Y or Z to lessen anxiety is there, just redirect it to something else. Lift free weights, nothing… Read more »

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“Eh, wrong Kellogg.” But wait! Don’t order yet, they were BOTH right. George was the estranged, adopted son of John Harvey, who invented the cornflake, but George actually is the guy who started the breakfast cereal company (which was part of their estrangement). And at the root of it all was Sister White, the girl who “heard voices” and founded the 7th Day Adventists. And they don’t come much estranger then Graham, Kellogg and White but a number of people tried harder. For a longer read than the Wikipedia articles, the best general overview book is The Nuts Among the… Read more »

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One more before I head out for a while: Just a couple years ago he had a hookup with some 20 something. Clothes come off, they start going at it, and then boom — car starts pulling up in the driveway. Her boyfriend was apparently in the military or something, she said he had a gun. As he was pulling into the driveway she said he should probably get out of there fast. Whether she was making that shit up or not just because she didn’t want to get caught cheating, we’ll never know. But having had a gun pointed… Read more »

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@Blaximus:

This was my first, programmable computer

http://retrothing.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/digicomp.jpg

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@ Anonymous

Will check it out, thank you for the recommendation and support, I appreciate it a lot.

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@Rollo,
Thanks for the heads up and link on Sommers. As I watched the video I wondered about her and if she was a female token anti-feminist.

Milo was funny as hell.

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Ah, that’s actually the new, crap copy. This one is the real deal like I used to have:

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@Rollo Also for real send that group a free copy of your books. If you can get ANYONE in that anti-feminism/anti-SJW crowd (Shoe, Armored Skeptic, Sargon, etc) to check it out they’ll probably give it a fair review/mention if they like it. They’re pretty open to opposing logical viewpoints and discussion (Sargon does interviews with all kinds of guests from all kinds of backgrounds/ideologies/etc) and your work is some of the most RATIONAL (HURR DURR) writing on the Manosphere that isn’t full of overreactive “WOMEN ARE PREDATORS TRYING TO TAKE MUH RESOURCES” negative weird shit and most of them are… Read more »

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@ Softek Some new agey stuff,the four agreements,excerpts. “The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our life we no longer need anyone to domesticate us.We don’t need Mom or Dad,the school or the church to domesticate us.We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator.We are an autodomesticated animal.We can now domesticate ourselves according to the same belief system we were given,and using the same system of punishment and reward.” ” How many times do we pay for one mistake?The answer is thousands of times.The human is the only animal on earth that pays… Read more »

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” . . .do you know the young kids’ culture around it? Do you know what GamerGate was about or . . .”

. . . Literally Who?

And don’t tell anybody, but Vivian James tends to push my slender, red headed Scots buttons.

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Porn is a weird thing, sure there is the getting off libido angle but there is more to it. If was simply about removing an urge men would simply bust a nut without having the need to look at it. Like Ya intimates it’s more to do with unfulfilled desire. It’s not really a substitute good, otherwise chronic users wouldn’t be spending hours on end jacking off, even after they’ve passed the point of biological satiety. Coolidge and Chaser effect aren’t present in normal human interactions to the extent it is evident in chronic porn usage so it doesn’t really… Read more »

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LOL they should also restrict the sale of mormon scripture writing pencils,you know,the ones with little erasers on the end.

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Rollo, I thought it was an Onion News service report at first. Now, that reminds me of when some Southern state – Alabama, maybe – tried to ban sex toys back about 15 years ago. The testimony in the Statehouse hearings was apparently very special; women swearing under oath that they cannot, can not, obtain an orgasm without a deVICE, for example. That also reminds me…once upon a time, I knew a man who got paid very well to travel way too much. He was involved in the rollout of lots of mom and pop Internet providers; part of the… Read more »

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A rich man uses vaseline.A poor man uses lard.A beggar uses axle grease and gets it just as hard.

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@ Softek “I wonder if premature ejaculation is a potential side effect of too much porn.” “…..But having complete control is one of my goals. I feel like I should at least have mastery over my own mind and body. Kind of a bigger metaphor, like, how can I expect to be dominant and lead any woman in any relationship if I can’t even control myself?” You can’t. Anonymous Reader is giving you some real good practical advice. Be all ears to what he is saying. In my opinion, your problem is with having too much Beta. (And YaReally is… Read more »

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Reblogged this on MGTOW 2.0.

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But I’d still feel like shit after whacking off so much. Just like a videogame hangover. Level grinding in RPG’s feels great for a while, but then when you’re done it’s this sense of wasted time like “what the fuck did I just do.”

This feeling is dopamine withdrawal… huge prolonged surge of dopamine, then a crash. Your brain is associating an other meaning to it.

Ignore.

You can feel the same way after a few consecutive days of running game… It’s a chemical reaction loop.

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Rollo, am looking forward to more from BizStandardnews.com…now there’s a hook in my mouth I must remove.

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@Pallaeon @Softek Like I hate that guys with ugly fat wives get diagnosed with ED like THEY’RE the problem, I agree. This is not the case I am referring to, however. if you can get hard for PornHub then there’s SOMETHING MENTAL going on keeping you from getting hard for your chick, whether it’s that she’s ugly or that she’s smokin hot and you’re pressuring yourself too much like performance anxiety or she’s demanding (or you IMAGINE she is) and you feel too pressured to focus on the pleasure or she’s totally cool and you just have baggage from other… Read more »

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@ Anonymous +1 on the exercise. One thing I’ve been doing lately is interval training with boxing. Get my heart rate up really high, rest period, rinse and repeat for a few sets, usually first thing in the morning before breakfast. Big fan of calisthenics, but I got out of shape over a long period of time. Back when I was 18 I could do 100 pushups in a row on my fists. Now I can comfortably do about 15, and I have joint pain in my hands these days so the fist pushups are out. (glycine, as a supplement,… Read more »

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@stuffinbox That was a good read. @Pellaeon “I’ve gone to strip clubs where I’ve had no pressure on me to perform, and I haven’t been able to get hard watching the hot naked chicks dancing in front me” Me neither. OH SHIT I HAVE ED!!!!11 Or it’s just not that sexy an environment and I don’t view it as that big of a deal and need more than seeing a vagina to get hard lol “I can understand why you don’t want to believe the possibility of there being some brain chemistry involved in this shit.” I didn’t say it… Read more »

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I can see I knee jerk reactioned a bit there – having only zeroed in on the one part of YaReally’s post. I definitely agree with like, 90% of the rest of it. I wonder if premature ejaculation is a potential side effect of too much porn. It’s not the norm (ED is from what I’ve read), but I have read some cases of that, and I feel like I have it really bad. If I could get over that hurdle I think I’d feel a lot more confident. It could be too soon to tell (the last time I… Read more »

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@ Pellaeon I agree 100% that porn addiction is a real thing. re: Kellog. Look at circumcision. Main initial purpose was to reduce male masturbation. I was circumcised so bad (all foreskin gone, no mobility at all) that the skin was so tight that it hurt for me to masturbate in the ‘traditional’ way. I started masturbating by humping my mattress. They actually have a site about this and how it can damage your dick to masturbate like this, and how to re-train yourself to masturbate the ‘normal’ way, with your hand(s). It’s sick and twisted. So I’m not knocking… Read more »

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But I need to address some skeletal issues. Some birth defects left my skeleton fucked up and my muscles are compensating which has resulted in chronic pain and tension. I’ve just lived with it for years but I have an appointment coming up Thursday to see if anything can be addressed. Can’t take bones out of my body that aren’t supposed to be there, or at least I’m not willing to go into surgery for that, lol, but maybe some other help can be gotten. Ahaha, chronic pain. That stuff wears on a person. Self-medication can be a result. So… Read more »

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“There are so many things that add up to show it’s a real thing that I could probably write an entire blog post about just that.” Or you could not waste your time and just read Marc Lewis’ book. Everything you just said, he proved, explained, or gave anyone motivation for work-arounds. If I were wise enough like kfg and knew what Q.E.D really meant, I could emphasize that was already proven. (I.e. bad habits are your primitively evolved brain functioning totally normally in a modern society. It is not abnormal/pathological. It is just lack of masculine tactical virtues and… Read more »

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@ YaReally I do see your point too, and how would I know what kind of girls I think are really hot when I’ve only seen a couple naked IRL? My friend has told me tons of stories about being semi into it with some girls, and saying when you get with the REALLY good looking ones, hold onto your shorts, lol. NoFap reminds me of Jesus’ followers, lol. Like, I read the Bible for fun back when I was heavy into my ‘spiritual’ (introspective psychological seems like a better term for it for me) phase. I just wanted to… Read more »

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@ Anonymous Funny you mention that, the guy I’m going to see specializes in fascial work. The issue is an extra vertebrate in my spine that has thrown everything out of alignment since I was born. One side of my body is higher than the other and all that, have some mobility issues. I have a lot of other shit but the conditions are so rare I would basically be doxxing myself if I mentioned everything. Not that it matters at this point anyway, lol, which bothers me, but whatever. Fuck it. I’m hoping I can at least get a… Read more »

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Ya really enlightened us with:

>That’s why I was asking though. I mean guys can hate on Shoe I don’t care, but when guys are posting “hey Karen nice fucking video you dumb slut look at Karen!!!” and picking apart her videos and I can’t post a relevant Shoe vid because she’s blacklisted it’s just a huge facepalm.

We look like the bunch of out of touch parent’s basement crotchety bitter old men who don’t understand the Internet and modern times, that haters >make MRAs/Manospherians out to BE lol

People don’t say that about you as far as you know…

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Ya really’s obsession intensifies:

>If Shoe WASN’T planning to make fun of the Manosphere, she sure as shit WOULD BE posting a vid making fun of us after seeing that uproar in that Karen comment section.
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A whole section devoted to me? Can a book deal be and a late night show be far behind?

*Giggles*

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>I took Karen out of mod. Still not convinced she’s Shoe, but I’ll put her on probation for now.
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That was like sooo generous! But I would like to request a female probation officer. Thoughts of you making unannounced visits to my domicile at any and all hours is not something I fantasize about…though somehow, I doubt that feeling is mutual…

*Smirks*

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@Softek “I do see your point too, and how would I know what kind of girls I think are really hot when I’ve only seen a couple naked IRL?” I’m not even just talking about looks. Personality and sexual chemistry and shit go a long way too. You haven’t experienced enough women from a place of understanding yourself to know what REALLY clicks with you. You’ve got this mediocre girl that your brain is blowing up into a special snowflake because she occasionally tells you what you want to hear and your brain blocks out all the obvious evidence that… Read more »

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“That was like sooo generous! But I would like to request a female probation officer. Thoughts of you making unannounced visits to my domicile at any and all hours is not something I fantasize about…though somehow, I doubt that feeling is mutual… *Smirks*” Being fun (solipsistically) is one thing. Adding value in comments on The Rational Male blog is an entirely different thing. And then there is spam…….toying spam. Solipsistically having fun is cute, even if trite, until it is not. When it is worthless is the point it should be labeled as trite, worthless, spam. So Karen, have fun,… Read more »

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Mr Scribbleberg writes: Ask yourself a simple question: Why shouldn’t you live in a society in decline? Why shouldn’t we lose? Why not us? Why not me? Where do I get this idea that I shouldn’t live in a batshit society? Most humans live in ridiculous political and social conditions. In fact, that is the norm. So, be philosophical about it. Adam Smith once said, “There is much ruin in a nation.” It’s nothing new. I’ll close with a poem I may have posted another time here, it’s worth revisiting and re-reading from time to time. > This is a… Read more »

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Karen’s getting try hard and not making me hard. Betcha she can’t do it with pics, nyuk, nyuk, nyuk.

Males may have been reduced to tacit 2nd class citizens over the last 25 years in the West, but it is hardly a re-enactment of the Inquisition.

Why is suicide the first or second leading cause of death for men between 15 and 45?

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LOL they should also restrict the sale of mormon scripture writing pencils,you know,the ones with little erasers on the end.

There are these really fun things you can do with sharpened pencils….

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Yeah! Really! says:

>Like I say, I would keep Karen blacklisted lol but for being a dude pretending to be a girl, not for being Shoe.
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Poirot…you are not.

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@ YaReally Everything you’re saying makes sense, and keeps making me think of the Second Unplugging. This is the hardest shit I’ve ever gone through as far as women go. Hell, as far as life goes. Everything’s hitting the fan at once. All my worst fears. In a nutshell, being independent and being my own person. Was reading over my psych test results from back when I was in the mental hospital and it’s pretty telling that on the diagnostic part, two of the things were Dependent Personality Disorder and Avoidant Personality Disorder. Sums up my condition perfectly. The prognosis… Read more »

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The Lion says:

>Why is suicide the first or second leading cause of death for men between 15 and 45?
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Perhaps they have an aversion to prosperity; they may have an inborn biological predisposition that seeks out the more rustic and rugged lifestyle. This is a mindset in direct contravention to what modern civilization currently resembles and provides. The failure to be able to reconcile the one with the other may very well be the root cause of their psychological malaise.

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SJF writes:

>What is your agenda?

What is anyone’s…besides getting to tomorrow?

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@ YaReally “Maybe you should just chop your dick off and take up woodworking lol” Lmao, I actually made a joke almost identical to that to my friend the other day. I know what’s up but denial is a hell of a drug. I’m fighting against my own nature. Deep down I’ve been feeling this for a while, and have verbalized it to my RP buddy on multiple occasions. Like I’m going stir crazy being in my mid 20’s and not getting any young pussy at the age I should be having it in abundance. Big time struggling with shame… Read more »

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Ya Really says: >I follow this stuff ’cause it’s fun junk food for my brain You are what you eat… I bet few realize that the origin of the phrase “we are going to eat them up” (with regard to ones foes) is derived from the time when Zeus would actually ingest either lesser gods, humans, or a synthesis of the two…who he deemed to be his enemies. Now there is an old saying, “Choose your enemies carefully…for it is they who you will eventually resemble”. Man is a strange creature in that as he moves through life, he tends… Read more »

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“I’m often asked by ‘fempowered’ women critics whether I ‘believe‘ in some of the more socially acceptable tenets of feminism in some sort defense to the affront of my Red Pill lens being cast their way. It’s usually something to do with, “Do you or do you not think women ought to have the right to vote?” or the ever-reliable “Shouldn’t women have the right to do with their bodies what they choose?” These questions are always binary (“yes or no will do”) and usually couched in a context that implies that if you even slightly disagree or have a… Read more »

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Mr Scribbleberg writes:

>”The Second Coming” by WB Yeats

Yeats had ties to Crowley and other turn of the (last) century practicioners of theosophy. With a strong sense of the esoteric, he innately knew that a change was near…and the prophecy of the poem is close to manifesting.

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The Polymath spoke thusly: >There is no better time or place to be alive than America 1946 – 2016…and I challenge anyone to point out a better combination of era & venue. > Just read that retribution for another grave crime against The People of North Korea was obtained via a custodial sentence of 10 years “hard labor” for the perpetrator…this on the heels of the 15 year sentence handed down two months ago when a young American male of extraordinary insight took it upon himself to attempt to abscond with a state poster or sign (for his mom’s girlfriend… Read more »

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@Softek “What’s even worse is I’m actually a good looking guy. Not to sound like an entitled prick. I’ve put on some weight and am rocking a pretty good beer belly these days, but even thinking back to a year or two ago, I’ve gotten compliments from girls on my looks plenty of times. And it frustrates me feeling like I’m supposed to be one of the LUCKY guys that has an unfair advantage that other guys get pissed off about and write about on Word Press or wherever the fuck it is people go to complain about shit. Like… Read more »

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Softek, Just stop fapping for a couple days in a row as test for yourself. Then go for a week. Read this site: http://yourbrainonporn.com Not going to write a novel to share my experience but that site is useful. Porn can be addicting but until you figure out your mental point of origin you’re going to be stuck in that fap loop. Once you begin to break free you will have more time and a lot more energy to spend on your goals. If jerking off is a goal you’re meeting all expectations. Leave the house, get outside and spend… Read more »

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Aw fuck😬

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” Less talk/writing and more action by YOU is what it takes. Now get outside.”

Amen

Softek, really enough of the emo… nothing is going to get better for you until you start putting one foot in front of the other… You shared, you vented, you got advice you agree with… get in the game now son. DO.

In doing you will feel so much better.

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@ Blaximus

I agree with your views on electronic de vice and can also remember a time when people were not addicted to social media.

Take Karen for instance,if there was an EMP event today you would find her out in the lawn stirring up dog shit and giggling at the flies.As this is the full extent of her skill and stirring up shit to get a reaction has become her favorite pastime.

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Stuffy says:

>Take Karen for instance,if there was an EMP event today you would find her out in the lawn stirring up dog shit and giggling at the flies.As this is the full extent of her skill and stirring up shit to get a reaction has become her favorite pastime.
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Yes…like all rich girls…I just live for the thrill of it all!

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In re-watching One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest the other day, I discovered a film with *far* more gender symbolism then I had noted upon first viewing some time ago. Kesey, the author of the novel upon which the film was based, evinced grave dissatisfaction with the transference of his work to film. However, the underlying theme expressed in both genres is unquestionably present. The Emerging Gynocracy was experiencing its first birth pangs around the time his novel was penned…as the dreaded (@ T.R.M) Woman in Power was making Her seminal appearance on the American Stage. With Nurse Ratchet emasculating… Read more »

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Her Highness writes:

>In re-watching One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest the other day,

Of course, none of this would have been possible w/o the three white (or in this specific case, black) knights (orderlies) to facilitate the Nurse’s whims…providing Her with the requisite grunt work to keep the recalcitrant males in line…

Solomon was right…there *is* nothing new under the sun!

Lol.

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And yet, nobody believes me when I tell them how COMMON this is with good-looking dudes and how frustrating it is for them to NOT be getting results when they have all these advantages according to everyone else. Yeah, have some empathy for the better looking dudes… LOL But seriously… I was a late bloomer. started college at 17, 5’8’sh and 150 lbs, boyish face. Invisible to girls, to me it seemed. Over the next year or so, I grew 2 inches and, from getting more into fitness, working out etc. gained 24 lbs… of hard muscle. But I was… Read more »

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For ED, you can just get viagra in the mail from Indian Pharmacies. It is no big deal don’t even go to a doctor. Get a pill slicer to make smaller doses.

ED is generally just stress related and it can cause a feedback loop like Yareally says. When you are stressed, the body shuts down inessential functions. It is perfectly normal.

Long term you can build up testosterone by loosing weight, eating eggs nuts + red meat, lifting heavy and getting plenty of sleep. But fix the short term problem with viagra now.

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I think the hour is propitious to promote “Yeah Really!” to moderator in recognition of the splendidly consistent job he has been doing ferreting out *Persona Non Gratas*…he’s been wrong every time.

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@Sentient

“That’s a whole other story…”

Have you told that whole other story in blog comments before? Is it interesting? Or does it steal energy from your other stories?

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Maybe interesting… Alpha – slow betaization – depression – reawakening – Alpha.

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Ooops…probably should read “personas non grata”…I haven’t had any great need to utilize that vernacular since the Salarian gate tumbled circa 410 AD…now if Jeremy needs a first hand look at *real* suffering….

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This Tyler’s Digest is awesome. It’s really giving me a much better understanding of how and why certain routines work… This shit never gets old. @Sentient My college experience was somewhat similar. Had no idea what an IOI was. Thank God for alcohol. I still get honks and shit when I go for runs (it makes me feel so VIOLATED! *eye roll*)… Must be because there’s no risk of them actually having to interact with you. Guys feel the need to yell “Nice shorts!” all the time.. lol. There’s usually cute chicks in the car when that happens. Little things… Read more »

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Karen… holy shit… you have not been missed.

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Andy

what is great about the Tyler Digest is the practical detail.. Way more helpful after you’ve seen so many theory clips. Highly recommend reading it.

On girls – when they are safe and nothing can happen they give strong IOI’s… LOL

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Andy ” Guys feel the need to yell “Nice shorts!” all the time.. lol.”

LOL indeed… once i was in a convertible, top down. Buddy driving. we are stopped at a light and I look over. Some mustachioed guy. I look forward… start hearing something… look back over… Dude is flicking his tongue around saying “I wan’t to suck your cock!”… Look at my buddy – “hit the gas!”… LOL gays…

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Karen – “Males may have been reduced to tacit 2nd class citizens over the last 25 years in the West, but it is hardly a re-enactment of the Inquisition…there are no reptile pits people are being tossed into…no roasting the (live!) body over a hot fire to obtain a confession of heresy. When you compare the mind boggling tyranny, oppression, hardship, suffering, and indescribable deprivation that ALMOST EVERYONE who has ever lived has been forced to endure…your life has been a hayride. Almost half the planet *still* goes to bed hungry every night. You have nooooooooooo conception of what genuine… Read more »

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I think the “nice shorts” is usually derogatory, but yeah… gay dudes love me too. Back when I thought looks mattered it was a source of some frustration. lol.

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“I think the “nice shorts” is usually derogatory . . .”

AMOG attempt.

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“Maybe interesting… Alpha – slow betaization – depression – reawakening – Alpha.”

Glad to hear of the re-awakening. It resonates loudly in your writing and I certainly appreciate your writing. Thanks.

And yeah, the slow betatization would not be that interesting. The Alpha reawakening is, though.

(I was greater Beta, lesser Alpha–slow betatization –(too busy or too thoroughly INTJ to be depressed) withdrew–reawakening–greater Beta, lesser Alpha. Now, onward and upward. Happy to engage.

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sfer, anyone else, think twice about online pharmacies, especially from India. Something like 20% to 30% of the drugs sold in India are nothing, or even harmful (lead isn’t good to eat). Dosage can be wrong, different from what is specified. Quality control is not a strong point for a lot of Indian pharma.

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Victimhood is the primary means women use to manipulate men. And women are natural masters in this black art. Through it, they manufacture debt, turn you into their debtor, and you then owe them. Examine this on the micro level. Take, for instance, an argument with your woman. She will escalate the argument by interrupting you, raising her voice, and calling you names. She is laying the trap which will allow her to claim victim status. So, when you return equal fire, she will claim injury, claim victim status, and thus transform you into her debtor. You now owe her… Read more »

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