The War Brides of Europe

(h/t to greyghost for today’s video)

Comment from Kaminsky on Dalrock’s thread:

What I find with that video of the Danish feminist. If there were such a thing as a Master’s Degree in the manosphere, you could show the candidate that video and have him break down all the elements of the female mind displayed. Point by point;

  • Let’s you and him fight
  • Shit-testing
  • Extraordinary lack of accountability
  • Collectivism to the depths of her soul
  • A form of AF/BB…In that men have to be both ends of behavior to meet females’ changing needs. Meek and placid during the forty years of feminist play-acting fun-time, now all of a sudden a different kind of man is needed.
  • Victim/victim convenient duality. Victorious feminists imposed their will and opened borders, now they’re victims and it’s up to men to clean it all up.
  • Equalist/androgynous when it suits whatever need, strong gender roles when it suits whatever need.

So amazing.

“Intractable solipsism” belongs in that list as well.

I apologize in advance if this post comes off as overly dramatic or kicking a hornets’ nest. It’s not my intent to wax poetic, but it will serve a purpose.

I was asked about my take on the current ‘migrant crisis’ in Europe by several Red Pill friends (both online and in person I should add), and how I thought it played into what I’ve written in the past about the War Brides dynamic. As my readers know I never delve into issues of politics, race or religion on this blog unless those issues are directly related to intersexual social and personal dynamics.

So it was with this in mind that I considered connecting the dots between Hypergamy and the War Brides dynamic and what I believe we’re beginning to see now in Europe. However, before I get too deep I thought I’d pick Ms. Thranholm’s interview apart first.

A Schism in the Feminine Imperative

I’ll agree with Kaminsky on his take for the most part; the degree of default entitlement women feel they have to men’s physical protection is glaringly evident, especially coming from ardent feminists, but the side-glance vitriol for European men wearing skirts in protest to the rash of ‘migrants’ raping/harassing European women only highlights feminist duplicity.

Is this rash as widespread as these women are making it? Hard for me to say, but not a day’s gone by since this migration that several ‘incidents’ of these migrant’s sexual assault (assault that would land the average European male in jail or make an American man a sex offender overnight) has been in my Twitter feed. I’ll leave that interpretation up to my readers, however what’s glaringly evident is the duplicity in the reaction strong independent® feminists are having to these assaults.

In the video Thranholm at last drops the feminist boilerplate and makes the concession all feminists (and Red Pill deniers) are loathe to hear – our society has become feminized. I’ve been making this point since the days of my writing on SoSuave; western society has become founded on a feminine social primacy that prioritizes women’s imperatives (Hypergamy) above all other considerations (lead photo NSFW). The fabric of western society from our religions, to our work cultures, to our personal relations, to our educational institutions, to the foundations of our parenting, have been progressively and systematically feminized over the course of 60+ short years.

To have a woman like Thranholm voice this from a visceral, fear based necessity is an indictment of how unignorable this feminization as become. In a similar fashion to how Open Hypergamy and soon Open Cuckoldry are becoming too socially evident to ignore, so too is the fact that an increasing majority of western(ized) men believe that touchy-feely feminized solutions to conflict are their first best alternative to violent, physical, in-your-face conflict resolution.

“This militant feminism that has been going on for decades, now we see the consequences that many men here are brought up to be like women, and to think like women, and be soft-minded.”

Iben explains in no uncertain terms that a lack of conventional, complementary masculine strength is so lacking in Europe that even feminist women are beginning to feel uneasy in the uncertainty that their safety could be insured by average European men. Underneath all of the posturing of strength, feminism still needs “muscle” for its physical defense. When feminism looks to its loyal White Knights for that muscle it finds them dressed in mini-skirts and high heels.

Without missing a beat, scowling feminist interviewer, Anissa Naouai, presents the complete obliviousness of the gravity of the situation women are facing…

“But that is what Europe is about, that is part of the European qualities that the European Union promotes.

[…] “These refugees are coming to Europe, shouldn’t they adapt to that?”

This is a glaring example of the degree of cognitive dissonance that has been cultivated in our feminine-primary social order. The idea that men who wouldn’t recognize that feminine social primacy exist, much less who would entirely ignore it, is so alien a thought that it never enters Anissa’s mind.

An Appeal to Honor

Iben continues and answers Anissa’s question without really realizing it.

“Now we see that these post modern values are just a construction.”

I thought this was interesting when we consider how long we’ve been told the opposite – that the popular concepts of conventional, evolved gender roles are the social construction. However once these ‘post modern values’ are slammed into the harsh conditions of a reality that diametrically contradicts it, then, then it becomes a question of “where have all the cowboys gone?” Now the truth is revealed that it is in fact this post modern, feminized interpretation of gender that is the social construct – and one with potentially disastrous consequences.

“…and now we see that we don’t have any male that can stand up, that can fight, who can fight back those male aggressions that we are feeling. So the vacuum that feminism has created means that women are the victims of those male aggressions”

And now we come to the standard appeal to the Male Catch 22 I described in The Honor System many years ago:

Man Up or Shut Up – The Male Catch 22

One of the primary way’s Honor is used against men is in the feminized perpetuation of traditionally masculine expectations when it’s convenient, while simultaneously expecting egalitarian gender parity when it’s convenient.

For the past 60 years feminization has built in the perfect Catch 22 social convention for anything masculine; The expectation to assume the responsibilities of being a man (Man Up) while at the same time denigrating asserting masculinity as a positive (Shut Up). What ever aspect of maleness that serves the feminine purpose is a man’s masculine responsibility, yet any aspect that disagrees with feminine primacy is labeled Patriarchy and Misogyny.

Perhaps we haven’t reached it quite yet, but we are approaching a social tipping point where the physical necessity of conventional masculinity will outweigh the liability to women in ceding the power that feminine social primacy represents. The need for ‘Man Up’ will outweigh the need for ‘Shut Up‘.

This need for women’s defense predictably gets couched in men’s Burden of Performance, and now that shit’s gotten real we see this dynamic laid bare in women’s shaming of men for not putting themselves bodily between them and an attacker. This is where Iben’s premise, and the sham of the Feminine Imperative’s social engineering, breaks down. And ironically the very idea of a new “male revolution” or supporting conventional masculinity on a social scale is even more appalling to Anissa than the reality of rising potential sexual assaults on women:

“It means that men need to take responsibility to go back to the old male virtues, to defend the women, the children and the culture. Because now this post modern project is dead, it doesn’t work…”

Iben goes on for a bit repeating the same men need to take responsibility for defending women trope in various ways and tries to explain to Anissa in as black and white a way that reality necessitates this. However the real disconnect, the most poignant illustration of feminisms denial of reality comes from Anissa after all of this:

“But the mass rapes shouldn’t be happening in the first place.”

“I’m sorry, uh, what?”

“The mass rape, the violence shouldn’t be happening in the first place. These are guests essentially who Europe has welcomed.

[…] should (women) have to protect themselves against mass rape on their streets at home?”

The utter cognitive dissonance of Anissa with her inability to grasp that these male ‘guests’ (who should be beholden to the Male Catch 22 by default) wouldn’t honor the dictates of feminine primacy is staggering. So much so it even fazes Iben for a moment. However, this disconnect is a textbook example of the sociological and psychological schism that is (or will soon) taking place for European women given their present reality.

I’ll stop here because Iben goes on to reiterate most of her points, and gets in another about the need for complementarity in conventional gender roles, but do watch the whole clip. The point I’m making with this is that there is a coming reckoning that a feminine primary society is beginning to face; post modern feminized gender constructs have fundamentally compromised the security of western culture.

Real Solutions

This then begs the question, what comes as a response to this? As I mention, the typical go-to strategy of the Feminine Imperative is to lean on men’s shame for not taking the masculine responsibility for women’s (and children’s) defense. However the same characteristics that make a conventionally masculine man a good defender are also a liability to women’s sphere of control once all her would-be attackers have been subdued. These are the same characteristic that have been ridiculed, marginalized, denigrated and punished by feminine-centric society for going on 7 decades now.

So what’s the proper response here? No doubt there will be the scorched earth factions who’ll quote us the following:

This city is afraid of me. I have seen its true face. The streets are extended gutters and the gutters are full of blood and when the drains finally scab over, all the vermin will drown. The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout “Save us!”… and I’ll whisper “no.”
– Rorschach, Watchmen 2009

If men need to take responsibility to go back to the old male virtues, to defend the women, the children and the culture it needs to come with a reciprocal incentive for men in doing so. Relying on men’s sense of duty to honor only works insofar as women are appreciative and rewarding of it. As it stands now, the average man either blindly believes his honorable action is to be more “soft-minded” in his approach to honor or has absolutely no motivation to risk himself for women who’ve told him they don’t need his “macho bullshit masculinity” for the past 60 years – right up until she’s assaulted or raped in 2016.

For a complementary gender restructuring of society it implies a reciprocal incentive on the part of women; one I don’t see forthcoming even in the desperate tones of Iben and Anissa.

It may be all well and good to let women such as Anissa to burn along with the rest of feminized Europe, however, Iben does make a valid point; if (European) men don’t do something by reassuming conventional masculinity they stand to find themselves in precisely the position I outline in War Brides:

Evolution has largely selected-for human females with a capacity to form psychological schemas that preserve an ego-investment that would otherwise afflict them with debilitating anxiety, guilt, and the stresses that result from being continuously, consciously aware of their own behavioral incongruities. Evolution selects-for solipsistic women who are blissfully unaware of their solipsism.

[…]women’s peripheral environment dictated the need to develop psychological mechanisms to help them survive. It was the women who could make that emotional disconnect when the circumstances necessitated it who survived and lived to breed when their tribe was decimated by a superior force. This is also known as the War Bride dynamic; women develop an empathy with their conquerors by necessity.

Men are the disposable sex, women, the preserved sex. Men would simply die in favor of a superior aggressor, but women would be reserved for breeding. So it served a feminine imperative to evolve an ability to cut former emotional ties more readily (in favor of her new captor) and focus on a more self-important psychology – solipsism.

Now, here is where I’ll step off the diving board and into the theoretical. It’s my purview that a lot of what men would complain are duplicitous acts of indifference towards them are really rooted in this innate feminine solipsism. That’s a bold statement, I realize, but I’d argue that what men take for inconsiderate indifference in a break up or in ruthless shit tests is really a woman tapping into this innate, self-preserving solipsism. Combine hypergamy with the chronically hostile environments of the past and you end up with a modern day feminine solipsism. Add to this an acculturated sense of female entitlement, social conventions that excuse this ‘duplicity’, and a constant misdirection of intent by women themselves, and you come to where we are now. As if that weren’t enough, throw in the element of hypergamy and the countdown in terms of fertility and long term provisioning that a woman must deal with before hitting the imminent Wall, and now you have a fuller picture of the conditions and stresses that necessitate this solipsistic nature.

It seems clear to me that women who align with Anissa’s feminine-primary mindset exhibit exactly this self-preserving solipsism in the subconscious knowledge that the men of their ‘tribe’ have become acculturated into becoming more like women and unable to defend them from a stronger, more conventionally masculine tribe.

Both Iben and Anissa are on either side of this War Brides dynamic, but both also illustrated the other’s solipsistic approach to dealing with it. I don’t claim to have the solution to this circumstance, and perhaps that should be the focus of discussion, but this is exactly the War Brides dynamic I laid out.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

1,122 comments on “The War Brides of Europe

  1. @Liz

    “That was a sobering read.”

    That chapter was the only sobering one.

    I found the book tremendously helpful in defining masculine identity in a feminized society. Especially in terms of parenting sons. Thank gods I read it when my son got into some bit of trouble 2 1/2 years ago and now he is really doing great. (And I don’t even talk to him about red pill).

  2. Try to help someone get both feet out of their incredibly huge mouth and they miss the point. And she wonders why “daft cunt” is the only description of her that comes to my mind.

  3. At lunch can not read all post but the blonde (not miss Emily) got my attention.
    “He then goes on to assert that once society frees, or even worse, incentivizes women’s hypergamy societies fall apart”

    Matriarchy is an apex civilization event; probably what killed the dinosaurs too.

  4. lol @ “I’m not talking to you”

    Guys please stop feeding the troll. She’s not here to learn or engage as an adult.

    Typical ‘party years’, solipsistic, entitled female. If you’re not feeding her ego kibbles, then she has no use for you.

  5. Emilyslut on monogamy
    My bad. it’s been seen as the correct goal for the west since the Catholic Church formed.

    Dearie, the Romans and Greeks were monogamous for centuries B.C.

    And the rest of the world adopted it once they realized it’s the most stable mode

    Sure, that’s why there’s no polygamy in the Moslem parts of the world, right?

    Dearie, does your daddy know what he’s not getting for his money at that overpriced slumber party you call “college”?

  6. Guys please stop feeding the troll. She’s not here to learn or engage as an adult

    These are the War Brides of the Comment Section, a self-ghettoization that should only be read for entertainment

  7. Anon, I usually don’t address you because you are a moron who only insults me, but I’ll do so this time.

    First of all, if I’m a slut, but in RL wouldnt fuck you, what does that say of you? hmm?

    Secondly, just because you don’t understand something doesn’t mean you are intelligent and I am not. In fact, it means the opposite. Greeks and Romans for example were monagamous but had few religious laws restricting premarital and extramarital sex for men and women. This was largely something done by the Catholic Church.

    And you show your stupidity again in the Islamic countries statement. Polygamy is rarely seen in Iran, Egypt, Turkey, Pakistan etc. I think its around 1%.

  8. @All

    The conversations with Emily are not for nothing. She is a useful foil.

    I’m not going to apologize for engaging in intellectual debate as a surrogate behavior in a time when I don’t have to life life with a pointy stick in my face.

    @Emily

    You have been at this for enough time to know that you have to qualify to us. The commenters in a male space. You do know this with your dabbling in a red pill space. Right?

    When you are in a hole, some times you just need to stop digging to save face and to qualify to the crowd/dinner table you are discussing stuff we are invested in. Right?

    How bout you buy into this stuff and not keep denying women’s true nature. How bout you just fess up to women’s firmware and your ego investments in womenhood in the 21’st century.

    You can’t seriously be thinking that Rollo’s writing is bullshit unless you are trying to stem a tide of guys getting together and plotting against your sexual strategy. (Which is to hold out and Betatize your man. That power might just blow up in yours and your children’s face one day, ten years after you marry him. Look long and hard at your father’s struggle and then look in the mirror and don’t be like your mom. And respect the masculinity in your dad.) So get real and don’t hold out your equalist, young female BS. It is a sham. We won’t tolerate that and if you don’t qualify to us. Which means say something engaging and advance the discussion. Be engaging. Do not just spam 20 year old’s girly BS. Good luck with that. Show us you can actually engage in a philosophy major’s intellectual train of thought. I haven’t seen you do so.

    How bout not swimming upstream here? A leisurely downstream paddle in a kayak is much better trip than paddling upstream.

    How bout it? Kill your ego and come along for the ride. The masculine space leisure pursuit of being better at inter-sexual relationships. You can learn here that your man is simple. And he needs your respect. Of which you are lacking. And admiration. Without that and sex he is going to be one mother-fucking ornery frustrated guy.

    You will be a better wife, mother and lover in the end of your journey. It is the Catholic model, whether you like it or not. You are the the Churchian that is subscribing to the feminist ideology, not the Catholic praxeology. How bout you write two paragraphs on Catholic praxeology? How Catholocism works in today’s society. And how this Catholicism works for you as a praxeology in the future? What is your end game?

    You are going nowhere fast. Think of your frustrations in life and think about how wonderful it would be not to have them. Think if you were congruent in your desires for a Catholic wife and religious life that actually works for you. Or let your hind-brain dominate and feel it’s way into Betatizing your man with your feminist leanings. Catholic, feminist, Churchian (aligned with your priest instead of your real life man) or good wife. Pick two. Good luck with your pics.

    And don’t you have some essays to write and some exams to take before mid-winter break?

  9. @SJF

    Show us you can actually engage in a philosophy major’s intellectual train of thought. I haven’t seen you do so.

    Spewing exactly what the textbooks and professors have told them is the average philosophy major’s intellectual train of thought. It’s why it’s a worthless fucking major.

  10. Emilyslut
    Anon, I usually don’t address you because you are a moron who only insults me, but I’ll do so this time.

    Butthurt much?

    First of all, if I’m a slut, but in RL wouldnt fuck you, what does that say of you? hmm?

    Nothing at all, dearie, it just illustrates how butthurt you are to resort to this particular female game. Besides, I wouldn’t want to catch any STD’s…

    Secondly, just because you don’t understand something doesn’t mean you are intelligent and I am not. In fact, it means the opposite. Greeks and Romans for example were monagamous

    End of story. You were wrong. Again. Dearie. Monogamy predates the Christian church. By centuries. And predates the Catholic church by even more centuries. But I digress…

    but had few religious laws restricting premarital and extramarital sex for men and women.

    Goalpost moving, poorly done.

    This was largely something done by the Catholic Church.

    I see. So you’ve never read Leviticus? Or are you now claiming that Moses was a Catholic?

    And you show your stupidity again in the Islamic countries statement. Polygamy is rarely seen in Iran, Egypt, Turkey, Pakistan etc. I think its around 1%.

    “Some” and “all” are not synonyms, dearie. You claimed that the rest of the world had adopted monogamy after seeing how well it worked out for Catholics, the only problem being that not all the rest of the world has adopted monogamy.

    I know, logic is hard. Not nearly as easy as, say, cockteasing that poor boifriend, right, Emilyslut?

  11. ” First of all, if I’m a slut, but in RL wouldnt fuck you, what does that say of you? hmm?”

    Funny how some chicks view their sexuality…like a shaming tool or a punishment of some sort.

    That has always fascinated me, every time I witness a ” I wouldn’t fuck you!!” tantrum.

    If a chick won’t fuck you to prove a point, what does that say about her?

    approx. 125 million adult females in the U.S., so why do chicks think that they are saying anything of worth by ” I wouldn’t fuck you” ? 125 million…let me ponder that shit for a minute. Mmmmmm…..

    So, would a girl like that use her ” no pussy for you ” stance against a man she supposedly cared for? To what end? 125 million chicks vs the ” no pussy for you ” chick.

    Ow. My head hurts. Maths is hard.

    So, if I call you a slut, the reasonable reply is ” but I won’t fuck you “.

    Is the fucking special in some manner? Better than 125 million other chicks? Or is that all in your head, perhaps?

    Oh man, this is gonna be a real eye opening experience for lil Em in about 15-20 years. Lmao.

  12. Blaximus
    Funny how some chicks view their sexuality…like a shaming tool or a punishment of some sort.

    Eh? Nah, that’s Teh Golden Poozle. Every man wants it, only a few can has it. We’re all sposed to sit up and beg for it, because that’s what her boifriends have always done in the past…because speshul snowflake Poozle.

    Antibiotics afterwards…optional…

    Oh man, this is gonna be a real eye opening experience for lil Em in about 15-20 years. Lmao.

    Yep. Maybe sooner, if she parties really hearty, takes up smoking, etc.

    Lurkers might want to take notice of Speshul Snowflake Emily, notice how she uses her “gift” of sex (that Catholic doctrine is pretty clear about…) to try to do Pavlovian conditioning.

  13. “Spewing exactly what the textbooks and professors have told them is the average philosophy major’s intellectual train of thought. It’s why it’s a worthless fucking major.”

    Sun Wukong for the win.

    Exactly my point.

    “Funny how some chicks view their sexuality…like a shaming tool or a punishment of some sort.

    Oh man, this is gonna be a real eye opening experience for lil Em in about 15-20 years. Lmao.”

    15-20 years? I don’t see the skillz. I give her 10.

    We’re old school where the baseball is slower to the plate. New school, the baseball is aimed toward the head. Fast with intent.

    I’m sure her mother caused her father some pain. And I’m not catering to her in saying that. The women’s Imperative can do some harm to her. If she subscribes to it.

  14. You girls earn dis-repect. Useful foils. First Emily and then Inanity are preety much embodified in lyrics:

    There’s certain things you’re s’posed to know
    When you’re a girl who grows up in the south
    I try to use my common sense
    But my foot always ends up in my mouth
    And if I had to walk a runway in high heels in front of the whole town
    I’d fall down
    And my mama cried
    When she realized

    I ain’t pageant material
    I’m always higher than my hair
    And it ain’t that I don’t care about world peace
    But I don’t see how I can fix it in a swimsuit on a stage
    I ain’t exactly Ms. Congenial
    Sometimes I talk before I think, I try to fake it but I can’t
    I’d rather lose for what I am than win for what I ain’t

    God bless the girls who smile and hug
    When they’re called out as a runner up on TV
    I wish I could, but I just can’t
    Wear a smile when a smile ain’t what I’m feelin’
    And who’s to say I’m a 9.5
    Or a 4.0 if you don’t even know me
    Life ain’t always roses and pantyhose
    And…

    I ain’t pageant material
    I’m always higher than my hair
    And it ain’t that I don’t care about world peace
    But I don’t see how I can fix it in a swimsuit on a stage
    I ain’t exactly Ms. Congenial
    Sometimes I talk before I think, I try to fake it but I can’t
    I’d rather lose for what I am than win for what I ain’t

    I ain’t pageant material
    The only crown is in my glass
    They won’t be handin’ me a sash
    And that’s okay, cause there’s no way
    You’ll ever see me in a swimsuit on a stage
    I ain’t exactly Ms. Congenial
    Sometimes I talk before I think, I try to fake it but I can’t
    I’d rather lose for what I am than win for what I ain’t
    Yeah I’d rather lose for what I am than win for what I ain’t

    And of course we have her mentor in Churchianism’s lyrics.. From Ms. Inanitybytes who couldn’t make it through Rollo’s Spam triage:

    Taking down your neighbor won’t take you any higher
    I burned my own damn finger pokin’ someone else’s fire
    I’ve never gotten taller makin’ someone else feel small
    If you ain’t got nothin’ nice to say don’t say nothin’ at all

    Just hoe your own row and raise your own babies
    Smoke your own smoke and grow your own daisies
    Mend your own fences and own your own crazy
    Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
    Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy

    Nobody’s perfect, we’ve all lost and we’ve all lied
    Most of us have cheated, the rest of us have tried
    The holiest of holies even slip from time to time
    We’ve all got dirty laundry hangin’ on the line

    So hoe your own row and raise your own babies
    Smoke your own smoke and grow your own daisies
    Mend your own fences and own your own crazy
    Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
    Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy

    Pourin’ salt in my sugar won’t make yours any sweeter
    Pissin’ in my yard ain’t gonna make yours any greener
    And I wouldn’t know about the rocks in your shoes
    So I’ll just do me and honey you can just do you (so hoe)

    So hoe your own row and raise your own babies
    Smoke your own smoke and grow your own daisies
    Mend your own fences and own your own crazy
    Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
    Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy

    Heheh. We’re watching you.

  15. SJF, I thought we were getting along and having a nice conversation 🙁
    Bah, I’m just not appreciated over here!

    > How bout you buy into this stuff and not keep denying women’s true nature.

    I didn’t realize all women were the same.

    > You can’t seriously be thinking that Rollo’s writing is bullshit

    Rollos writing aint bullshit at all! I never said that.

    > You will be a better wife, mother and lover in the end of your journey. It is the Catholic model, whether you like it or not

    The Catholic model for marriage is described perfectly in ‘Love and Responsibility’ by Pope JPII. It’s very very not red pill.

    Where are you getting the stuff about my parents from? My mom did hurt daddy, but he hurt her too. They hurt each other, typical marriage really. But it was daddy who set her aside to marry a younger version of her and seems to be far happier than her.

  16. @SJF

    Sun Wukong for the win.

    Exactly my point.

    To be fair, I also think it’s impossible to have an interesting philosophical thought without a few decades of life experience. It shouldn’t even be available as a major to anyone under 40.

  17. “Bah, I’m just not appreciated over here!”

    Emily, way back when you first arrived I asked you what you were trying to accomplish posting here and you said you were only here to, “blow off steam”. I must ask again. Two questions this time:
    1) What are you trying to accomplish posting here?
    and
    2) Do you have a split personality?

  18. Neuroplasticity rabbit trail time…

    Blow off steam

    A term appropriated from railroads of the latter half of the 19th and first half of the 20th century…steam locomotives, obviously. A popular pscychology term that one still hears, some 60 or so years after the last steam loco went to the scrapyard or the museum. Such is the power of popular memes.

    It’s bunk. It’s wose than bunk, in fact. Neuroplasticity tells us that “practice makes … wait for it … permanent. Not perfect, only perfect practice makes perfect. A person who forms the habit of venting his orher anger on others is not “blowing off steam”, that person is training themselves to be angry. This is one way people wind up being the perpetually angry man or woman, who goes off like a firework because a grape fell on theri toe in the produce section.

    Neuroplasticity tells us that we are constantly shaping and re-shaping ourselves. “Texting neck” is a problem arising because people habitually look at their stinking phone with their neck rooked over, even when sitting down, and often this puts some stress on the C-7 vertebra. So an incorrect communications habit winds up causing some damage to a body part.

    Neuroplasticity applies to all behavior, mental and physical and it applies to emotions as well. It’s possible to train yourself to be angry in certain rooms of a builidng, I suppose, or in certain groups of people.

    Perpetual anger, like perpetual fight-or-flight, is not good for the physical well being of the person who lives that way.

    Now, this is not to say that women don’t need an emotional roller coaster, and it is not to say that women do not benefit from a good cry once in a while. But the whole “blow off steam” meme is as outdated as the steam locomotive the term comes from. And it leads to bad behavior that is detrimental to both physical and mental well being.

    tl;dr
    “Blowing off steam” is old, wrongheaded thinking that doesn’t match reality. Dump it.

  19. 1) I’m here to discuss TRP with people more mature than the guys on reddit *nods*

    2) Certainly! Though I’m awesome regardless.

    No but seriously, I treat Rollo, SJF and Forge well cause they dont insult me constantly. I’m rude to people who are rude to me. Shocker, right? ‘Omg she treats people differently based on how they treat her, she must have a split personality!’

  20. Emilyslut (hey, where’s the pic?)
    I’m here to discuss TRP…

    In order to actually discuss someting a person has to be able to learn from others, or at least attempt to understand their point of view…

  21. OmGsss, I forgot the picture!

    Rollo, I don’t comment on Dalrock or BGR anymore. I got no love for hypocrites who misuse the Bible.
    I even comment on Insanity’s rarely.

    Yknow I’m really interested in TRP cause I even joined on Reddit afer you suspended me but they were far more juvenile then the guys here. So yeah, I do want to discuss it but I guess I have gone very far off topic here so I should prolly stop posting in this thread and come back later.

  22. @Emily

    1) I’m here to discuss TRP with people more mature than the guys on reddit *nods*

    That word “mature”, I don’t think it means what you think it means. I think it’s code for, “men who don’t always brutally confront me with the holes in my canned feminine pushback ‘arguments.’ ”

    If men have to deal with female duplicity and remain men, then frankly you lady-folk should have to deal with male abrasiveness and smile in spite of it.

    Go back to reddit, coward.

  23. @Jeremy

    You know? Now I know how to take that other chick I was talking about the other day. Abrasiveness as an understandably male trait…..Amituofo. It’s been there for me all along if I just take it….

  24. @Rollo

    >:(

    but whatever. I’m glad you are man enough to not block anyone who disagrees w you or your readers unlike BGR 🙄

    @Jeremy

    srs the kids on reddit are like in HS or something. I get comments like ‘stfu or else im gonna shove me **** down your throat’ or etc.

    Thats what i mean by juvenile.

  25. ” I’m rude to people who are rude to me. Shocker, right? ‘Omg she treats people differently based on how they treat her . . .”

    Oooooh, the frickin’ irony.

  26. “but whatever. I’m glad you are man enough to not block anyone who disagrees w you or your readers unlike BGR”

    If you are truly here to engage mature people on RP topics you should be aware that the above is exactly the type of shaming technique that tends to be unwelcome. It is possible to flirt without denigrating others as “not man enough”.

    You’ve done this in a number of your responses, offering compliments that are really back handed insults toward others (“you’re interesting and clever, unlike (this poster) who is disgusting” and so forth). That’s a manipulative tactic that doesn’t work well with this audience.

  27. In her first interview since Kurdish special forces recovered her in northern Iraq, the 16-year old told a Kurdish TV channel she had met her boyfriend in mid-2014 after dropping out of school in Sweden.

    “First we were good but then he started to look at ISIS videos and speak about them and stuff like that,” Marlin Stivani Nivarlain told Kurdistan 24 in a brief interview, using another name for the Islamic State group.

    “Then he said he wanted to go to ISIS and I said OK, no problem, because I didn’t know what ISIS means, what Islam is — nothing,” the girl said.

    http://www.businessinsider.com/swedish-teenager-speaks-life-under-isis-2016-2

  28. I forget where I saw an interview with a Muslim punk living in Germany, teenager, part of a gang of thugs that liked to film themselves beating and harassing the white German kids in the school. The white kids were almost always outnumbered as the Muslims attack in numbers (something I’ve observed myself) and rarely fought back. He said quite plainly that the Muslims would conquer Europe through aggression and breeding at well above the rates of the whites. He said something to the effect of “I will marry your sisters and your daughters, and they will wear the hijab”. He’s right.

  29. It’s just another special forces operation (jewish mossad is a founder of this “rape-migrants” thing).
    Goal: destabilise europe and bring attention away from jews. Then, they will offer “solution” and demand voting for them to rule whole Europe (which they do anyway, but not officially yet).

    As for stupid comments about Russia…
    Putin is a russian JEW, go figure!
    There’s no east vs west “conflict” (russia vs EU).
    Divide and conquer.

    Poland (JudeoPolonia) will fight back, because this will be next real Israel (after USA & Israel as we know it today collapse).

  30. Oh, the Protestants hate the Catholics,
    And the Catholics hate the Protestants,
    And the Hindus hate the Moslems,
    And everybody hates the Jews.

    So, now that we’ve stipulated that and the Muslim Brotherhood has been heard from – back to business:

  31. Perhaps the staff was taking a curry break.

    “I will be thinking we are most sorry to be not in the office in this particular moment. Be leaving a voice message in the voice message box and we will most certainly be getting back to you in the moment which is possessing the most convenience.”

  32. ” That’s a manipulative tactic that doesn’t work well with this audience.”

    Haha

    It wasn’t manipulation by the way, it was the truth. BGR bans everyone who disagrees with him.

  33. Stating that BGR bans everyone who disagrees with him isn’t a manipulation tactic. That is stating an opinion.
    Stating, “I’m glad you are man enough (to do x, unlike y)” is a manipulative shaming tactic and it reflects poorly on you.

  34. In all seriousness (just throwing this out there, not to Emily) it does seem like social media has had a very adverse influence on social intelligence. Aren’t I just sort of stating the obvious above? And doesn’t the average ten year old who has lived in the real world for any length of time “gotten” the distinction between stating an opinion/ disagreement/persuasion and a shaming manipulation tactic?

  35. Mike is reading a book called ‘Outliers’ and he mentioned an interesting chapter to me about longstanding feuds between families (for example the Hatfields and the McCoys). According to the book they traced the cause back to their ancestral legacy as herdsmen. Herdsmen depended on good grazing land and so forth for their livelihood and things tended to be more predatorial. They had to develop more “street cred” than the average farmer, so honor and reputation mattered more. Well….this legacy was passed on indirect via the community and family culture that was taught. So generations later you get longstanding family feuds (we see this in the Middle East as well).

    But the interesting thing about this is, it all makes me wonder about the legacy of social media now. We have generations of folks who are living in a “kingdom of bullshit”** and instant gratification for behaviors that aren’t very productive or beneficial to society as a whole. We’ve had it for along while but never to the degree we see now.

    “Kingdom of bullshit”= h/t Mr Robot
    “”Is any of it real? I mean, look at this, look at it! A world built on fantasy! Synthetic emotions in the form of pills! Psychological warfare in the form of advertising! Mind altering chemicals in the form of food! Brainwashing seminars in the form of media! Controlled isolated bubbles in the form of social networks. Real? You want to talk about reality? We haven’t lived in anything remotely close to it since the turn of the century! We turned it off, took out the batteries, snacked on a bag of GMOs, while we tossed the remnants into the ever expanding dumpster of the human condition. We live in branded houses, trademarked by corporations, built on bipolar numbers, jumping up and down on digital displays, hypnotizing us into the biggest slumber mankind has ever seen. You’d have to dig pretty deep, kiddo, before you can find anything real. We live in a kingdom of bullshit, that even you have lived in for far too long. So don’t tell me about not being real: I’m no less real than the fucking beef patty in your Big Mac. As far as you are concerned, Elliot, I am very real. We are all together now, whether you like it or not.”

  36. “In all seriousness (just throwing this out there, not to Emily) ”

    Yeah suuureeeee

    ” it reflects poorly on you.”
    Why?
    Rollo doesn’t ban people who disagree w him and thats a good thing. Insanity doesn’t either.
    BGR does, and that’s pathetic.

    That’s all I was pointing out. How manipulative of me!

    1. Rollo doesn’t ban people who disagree w him and thats a good thing. Insanity doesn’t either.

      You’re lying again. Insanity has had an echo chamber since day one. She’s banned me and several other men who bothered to challenge her with counterarguments she had no answer for.

      She and you are both proven dishonest frauds.

  37. Emilyslut, of course Bites bans people. All girlbloggerettes do, sooner or later. They can’t help it – the blog is their playground, their sandbox, their club. Just like in elementary school, “We have a club and you’re not in it!.

    It’s the nature of the beasties, dearie.

  38. Someday, I’m going to write a tale of two women. It’s such a stark contrast: mindful semi-rational and highly moral vs. short-sighted, feelz driven, broken late 20’s – early 30’s prospective cat-broad but current party girl. I can hunt the local uni for a 24 year old masters student. I like sociology and psychology chicks. They seem to have the weakest minds. Easy gaming. I recently hung out with a 27 yr old business student. The girl was- despite being raised muslim in a solid middle-class gujurati family in whitby, ontario-a com.plete trainwreck. Still fun to hang with. Along with finance and accounting she minored in hydromorphones and crack. She’s trying to kick and hasnt had a home for 2 months. Shelters, detoxes, crisis centre. Despite that, this girl had a high i.q. d we had some great convos. She told.me about growing up going to a madrassa where she.was taught arabic and islam whilst being hit with a stick. Think she’ll make a good mother someday?

    I wonder which one emily will relate too?

  39. “Rollo doesn’t ban people who disagree w him and thats a good thing. Insanity doesn’t either.
    BGR does, and that’s pathetic.”

    Everyone has a different objective he or she is trying to accomplish when they set up a blog. It’s just courtesy to adhere to the standards and if you can’t then go along your way to another site that better fits you. You’ve mentioned traveling. Do you demand everyone adhere to your standard of behavior when you travel to other countries with other cultures, or do you try to respect the local traditions? Do you ignore your host’s wishes when you are a guest in his or her home or do you respect their home and abide by their rules? The former is what rude people do. Blogs aren’t that much different.

    It isn’t the criticism itself that makes you manipulative, Emily, it is the way you criticize. But I’ve said this at least twice now, and it doesn’t compute for you. And I’ve already stated why that is the case numerous times as well.

  40. “It isn’t the criticism itself that makes you manipulative a fraudulent, uninspired cock-tease, Emily, it is the way you criticize. But I’ve said this at least twice now, and it doesn’t compute for you.”

    Cosign.

    I’ve tried to sub-communicate that several times to Emily also. The “way she criticized” was also the undoing of InanityBytes and her spam here.

    It is OK to criticize in a reasoned way. It is not OK to treat the host and his guests unkindly or haphazardly (…characterized by lack of order or planning, by irregularity, or by randomness; determined by or dependent on chance; aimless).

  41. SJF, I don’t do that no mo.

    Rollo, I actually didn’t know she banned people. Some red pill guys, feminists and atheists are always posting there.

    I’m not ignoring BGRs rules, Lizzy. I could make other accounts and circumvent his ban, buuut I won’t. All I am saying is that his rules are pathetic. You can criticize another countries culture, or a hosts complete censorship.

  42. Oy vey, well…hope your spring break is going well.
    Yesterday was nice here, spent a good portion of the day out on the boat.
    We live on an Island not too far from there.

  43. Yeah, it’s paradise here. No locking doors, it’s a great place for the kids to grow up. 🙂
    We’re as far out as the Bahamas, still part of Florida but about an hour from the mainland.

  44. 1111! yay

    Where i live is an extremely safe place, but I wish I could live in a place like that! But yeah, daddy will never move outta Texas. Maybe when im married..

  45. Given the open rebellion of the Republican base against its leadership as exemplified by the rise of Trump, it is very likely that H. Clinton has a really good chance of being elected, unless she is indicted (and who really believes the FBI would go through with that?). With her election we will see an all-out assault on males as well as our constitution. With a liberal justice nominated and approved by a quivering Republican Senate, there is a really good chance that the 2nd Amendment will be castrated and the 1st Amendment neutralized. A few bastions of sanity need to be populated with men who will act like men. There are a few areas that can serve as a nucleus around which a new civilization can be rebuilt when this current one collapses, and it will. If I may humbly propose, men that have a purpose and give a damn about their future and their children’s future, move to an area that is conducive to your values, Texas being one of them. Texas has a lot going for it, plenty of resources, a people with a broad liberty streak, its own powergrid and an independence heritage. Provided Texas is not completely engulfed in the collapse to come, we can start rebuilding a new civilization and lead the way out of disaster. It will take stout hearts to persevere in the crises to come. A single reed is easily snapped, a bundle of reeds is incredibly strong. Hang on, it will be a bumpy ride.

  46. Women demand protection?

    “WE DON’T OWE YOU ANYTHING, SWEETHEART!”

    I’m afraid that i fall into the ‘Scorched Earth’ camp…

    I don’t believe this ‘civilisation’ can ever be ‘saved’. Therefore it must burn to the ground before any real change can happen.

    And I, very much look forward to it!

  47. i haven’t read all the comments, but has anyone thought about this angle…

    women are attracted to masculinity & dominant traits in men. european women have RUINED their husbands and sons; they are done & feminized.

    now that women are in-control, and now that they have to ‘fight,’ i don’t predict a fight at all. none.

    what you will have are european men fading away as european women GIVE IN to their newfound attraction: dominant, masculine middle eastern men. when faced with an enemy and with their lives on the line, women will not draw their irons and fight; instead they will drop their panties and ‘assume the position’ because to them, the end-game is SURVIVAL.

    they will receive Muslim seed & have their children.
    they will give-in to their need/want for masculinity & dominance.
    they will survive.

    the european men will perish; they are already wearing skirts instead of bashing in heads.

  48. No problem, we just tell our women not to go out after sundown or to go out in groups of at least four. We could also make gender seperated public transportation or allow women to carry peber sprays. No wait, that would be taking it too far… Or would it?

  49. This is the plan for Europe, this is gonna get loaded now, but it is the attempt to destroy the entire white race and western civilization, and this is how you go about achieving that aim. genetic warfare if you will. Once you fully understand what is going on it becomes so diabolic that you could reach a psychotic break, which you either survive (as your brain rearranges itself to be in line with reality and TRUTH of things around you) or perish from.

  50. Great post. The problem with not including ethnicity in the analyzis is that you don’t consider that the woman who is against making the native men more masculine is of non-european descent, and the woman who want european men to become masculine is of europan descent. In Sweden where i live this dichotomy is very tangible, the non-european are very much for feminizing swedish men, but not the same for their own.

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