Do you feel like you’re playing by by one set of rules while everyone around you seems to be playing by another? Do all the women you interact with seem to have a restrictive set of hoops for you to jump through in order to qualify for their intimacy while they eagerly break their own rules for a different type of guy? Do the married guys you know still cling to their wives rules like their sex live depend on it?
The rules that a woman creates for a man she perceives as Beta carry over into that man’s LTR and marriage. A marriage/LTR usually retains whomever’s Frame that relationship had when the couple first became intimate. A lot of Beta men (and even some well-meaning Red Pill men) carry over this need for female (their Mother’s) approval into their relationships, proudly integrating their personal beliefs into how well they satisfy a woman’s rules and plans for his own life.
Are the ‘old set of books’ social agenda really the same set of personal rules women have for their own approval for Beta men?
Pat and I will discuss these issues and how to help men avoid the most common problems that lead to dead-end and damaging relationships for men.
Bonus: Why ‘Promise Keepers’ issues are really mommy-issues not daddy-issues.
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The video was not tiresome and actually chocked full of insights that for some folks, may have been redundant, however……I’m glad that it went out to the general, not-self-selected, public, without filters. The praexology and RP “toolbox”, I hope, is reaching a wider audience. Thanks for this.
Red Pill while dating, Blue Pill whe in at LTR – this is a very fascinating topic. This is exactly what happened to me when I got married, alpha mindset for most of my life, 150 plus notch count, started dating my wife to be an self abosrobed Alpha, then got married. And for some dumb ass reason I said to myself i will stop rocking the boat, be a ‘good man’ and make the marriage a success. Except that it wasnt, I became a beta, my wife lost respect and missed the alpha she signed up for. We divorced… Read more »
Rudd I said to myself i will stop rocking the boat, be a ‘good man’ and make the marriage a success. familiar trajectory… Influence of “The Golden Rule” [do unto others what you would like them to do unto you] and a residual beta kernel of “earning” it… = Blue Pill. Whereas Alpha is the Platinum Rule [do whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it]… It would be great if there could be a dedicated thread on this topic, as I have a feeling a lot of guys face this issue, the switch from alpha to… Read more »
@Rudd “It would be great if there could be a dedicated thread on this topic, as I have a feeling a lot of guys face this issue, the switch from alpha to beta. And more importantly how to maintain an alpha midset while in an LTR or marriage.” What you are asking about was detailed in an excerpt from Practical Female Psychology by J. South and Franco. Women manipulate men for their benefit and the benefit of their future children. It is part of their evolutionary firmware. It is normal for them to do this. It was just that you… Read more »
I like seeing your videos imbedded here. Mainly because at work they block youtube and other video hosts but not imbedded video. Win.
Also some guys relate better to video than audio alone or written word.
@Rollo
Tweet from December 4, 12:42:
“It’s scary to reconsider popular music lyrics from past decades with a Red Pill lens. It’s scary because you realize just how BP conditioned the songwriters were. Then you realize their songs helped condition future generations and no one could see it happening.”
I would love to see you write an essay on the red pill and media. The red pill has pretty much destroyed my enjoyment of 90% of all movies and music.
@Sigma It’s not just recent music, even older material, eg B.B. King Sweet Little Angel relased1956! 2nd verse sounds RP: I asked my baby for a nickel And she gave me a $20 bill Whoah, you know I ask her to buy a little drink of liquor And she gave me a whiskey still But 3rd verse is Blue Pill: Oh if my baby should quit me Lord I do believe I would die Yes if you don’t love me little angel Please tell me the reason why -And that was pre 60s! reflects the idealized love men have for… Read more »
Circa 1700:
Mid 1800s:
Alpha widowhood gets its own:
The endless fucked up looser do loop: START Step 1) You respect what you think other people think of you more than you respect what you think of yourself. Step 2) You figure out that step 1 causes other people to respect you less than you would like to be respected by other people. Step 3) You respect yourself more hoping to receive more respect from others. Step 4) Others see that you respect yourself more hoping to gain more respect from them. Step 5) Others respect you less because of steps 2 and 4. Step 6) Go back to… Read more »
NBTM, figuring out the feminine sexual dynamic in order to manage women doesn’t make you weak. You can impose your own frame regardless, if you are strong enough. Strength is masculine.
Of course, if you are trying to fake it and fit in the feminine frame because your own frame is too weak, you will have trouble.
A man has to figure out strength, courage, and what it is for him to be a man in order to have a true inner frame that has some chance of passing women’s tests.
Gamer Maxim: Pussy is just pussy.
But most men Never figure out the ” female sexual dynamic ” to any great degree. NBTM is correct about ” frame “. Figuring out women does not mean you’re supposed to act like them. Men would be better served establishing their own Frame/MPoO without input from ANYONE else FIRST. Then you can tweak and adjust to a degree so that you can relate to and get along with a wider variety of people. But men don’t do that much either. Social media, talking and texting on phones for hours a day – daily, eschewing health/sports participation/ using your hands… Read more »
In fact the most blue pill tune, by today’s standards, is… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWfSA60zVT4