The Epiphany Phase

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When I was detailing the landscape of our contemporary sexual marketplace in Navigating the SMP there comes a point on women’s SMV (sexual market value) progression where she becomes cognizant of her SMV decline and impending date with The Wall. Generally this occurs in women’s late 20’s and possibly early 30’s but as a rough estimate on the graph I provided in that post, this is the point of transition at which women realize their decaying capacity to hypergamously compete with women in their sexual primes, and the point at which men are beginning to realize their own increasing SMV potential. I dubbed this intersection the point of Comparative SMV. It’s also important to note that this phase conveniently coincides with the social convention of women’s mythical biological clock. (more on this later).

The Epiphany Phase

I’ve previously described this phase as a parallel to men’s feminine-redefined midlife crisis. This is a precarious time for women, usually the years between 28 and 30, where she makes attempts to reassess the last decade of her life. Women’s psychological rationalization engine (a.k.a. the Hamster) begins a furious effort to account for, and explain to her reasonings for not having successfully secured a long term monogamous commitment from as Alpha a man as her attractiveness could attain for her. Even women married prior to this phase will go through some variation of self-doubt, or self-pity in dealing with the hypergamic uncertainty of her choice (“Is he really the best I could do?”)

It’s during this stage that women will make radical shifts in their prioritization of what prerequisite traits qualify as ‘attractive’ in a man and attempt to turn over a new leaf by changing up their behaviors to align with this new persona they create for themselves. Since the physicality, sexual prowess and Alpha dominance that made up her former arousal cues in a Man aren’t as forthcoming from men as when she was in her sexual prime, she reprioritizes them with (presumed) preferences for more intrinsic male attributes that stress dependability, provisioning capacity, humor, intellect, and esoteric definitions of compatibility and intimacy.

For the spiritually inclined woman (which is to say most women) this may manifest in a convenient return to convictions she’d disregarded since her adolescence. For other’s it may be some kind of forced celibacy; a refusal to have sex under the hypergamic auspices of her ‘party years’ in the hopes that a well provisioning male (the ones not realizing their own potential SMV as yet) will appreciate her for her prudence – so unlike herself and all of the other girls who rejected him over the last decade.

The self-affirming psychological schema is one where she’s “finally doing the right thing”, when in fact she’s simply making the necessity of her long term provisioning and security a virtue she hopes men will appreciate. And if they don’t, then there’s always shaming them to think they’re ‘less-than-men’ for not living up to her eating her cake once she’s had it.

The Shifting Point

Case in point Hephzibah Anderson, author of the book Chastened, The Unexpected Story of My Year Without Sex. Here we have a graphic insight into the inner workings of women’s rationalization at the crossroads of acknowledging her decaying SMV, the need for long term male security, provisioning and intimacy, and realizing the necessity for a new psychological paradigm to justify her shift in behavior.

It’s easy to dismiss this interview as just another 3 women allowing their hamsters to colate on camera, but when you view this clip in a red pill context a surprising amount of information is revealed about the Epiphany Phase women experience.

We begin here with the now clichéd Kate Bolick Brand® former boyfriend-in-love regretfulness as the catalyst for Hephzibah’s newly gained insight. He’s serendipitously buying a ring for his new fiancé and the Alpha Widow mojo takes root in her psyche, “some girl found him valuable enough to marry.” She then proceeds through the predictable, “I’m 30 and need to reprioritize my life” boilerplate that’s made more than a few women authors a good deal of money writing for The Atlantic.

As I noted earlier, this phase also coincides with a woman’s sharp decline in fertility and childbearing capacity, so the instinctual urgency to breed, reinforced by the myth of the biological clock contributes to this internal crisis. All of this coalesces into some amazing feats of rationalization hamster acrobatics.

I’d thought those thoughts once or twice, but it would never have occurred to me that I’d actually go ahead and voluntarily eject sex from my life. It took a bizarre serendipity, a torrid affair and a chance anecdote to make me realize that the kind of sex I was supposed to be cool with as a post-feminist, 21st-century Western woman — a casual sort of intimacy without intimacy — was not working for me.

Better late than never right? Unfortunately no. While I’m sure this realization will seem ennobling to the more moralistically predisposed  mindset, what you see now is the expectation of a new appreciation for her insight which was prompted by her need, not a genuine introspective. It’s kind of ironic in that the Chastening Hephzibah is so proud of was prompted by her own necessity.

All right, in most circumstances it’s still just about required for life’s perpetuation, but we can lead perfectly healthy and, indeed, happy existences without nooky, whoopee or bonking. People can — and do — go decades without sex. Some live their entire lives without it.

Side Note: In Girl-World a woman can electively forego sex for an entire year and it’s recognized as a sacrifice worthy of writing a book to be published by a major print publisher, while the only way a man can be recognized for his 40 year celibacy is when he enters a fitness center and guns down 7 women in a pilates class. As I’ve stated before, when a woman tells you “I don’t understand why sex is sooooo important to guys“, she’s telling you the literal truth.

Elizabeth I was known as the Virgin Queen, and there was nothing metaphorical about the title, history assures us.

Robert Dudley and a long list of the Queen’s confirmed lovers disagree. What follows here is an attempt by Hephzibah’s rationalization engine to affirm what she’d like to think is her radical decision to go abstinent – plenty of luminaries from the past have gone without and lived perfectly fine lives. What she’s in denial about is the necessity of sex in a mature human experience. Sex is the glue that holds a relationship together; without sex a woman becomes a man’s mother, sister, daughter, aunt, friend, but not his lover, and certainly not his wife. Deemphasizing the importance of sex, actively desexualizing yourself in the hopes that it will make you more sexually arousing is an effort in self-defeat.

What follows here is yet another overwritten self-examination of a woman facing the Wall and attempting to reconcile a past of eschewing offers of genuine intimacy with (albeit probably beta) guys and her own hypergamous impulses during her 20’s. When a pre-Wall Anderson makes a conscious effort to remove sex from the equation in order to bring her more “clarity” about a man’s long term value what she’s doing is attempting to dissociate hypergamy from that process. In doing so she devalues the important sexual aspect of a relationship and turns off the men she’d probably fit well with because she believes that sex is the foil in her past failures, not herself, not her ego-investments, not the delusions the feminine imperative has saddled her with. Sex isn’t her problem, her innate hypergamy will eventually reveal this to her, but it’s how she’s been doing it and the late hour at which she’s come to her “new” epiphany with all of its urgency.

Hephzibah is easy pickings for the manosphere Men with a bent for shaming women about riding the Cock Carousel (she even alludes to this in the article). That’s a given, but it’s not the operative issue I’m on about here. What her story illustrates for us is the psychological machinations behind the reconciliation of her unfulfilled hypergamy and her need for future intimacy, security and provisioning.

For red pill, Game-aware Men, this is a supremely important stage in women’s maturation to consider. A woman in the Epiphany Phase is looking for a “fresh start” for a much more visceral reason than some newly inspired sense of self. This motivation prompts all kinds of behavioral and social conventions to facilitate a man’s commitment to forgiving her past indiscretions. As Roosh has pointed out more than once, it’s women in this phase of life (or the mothers of women in this phase) who most vocally complain about men’s lack of interest in committing to them. As Hephzibah is painfully aware of, women in their peak SMV years don’t complain about a dearth of marriageable men– “Man Up” is the anthem of women in the Epiphany Phase.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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^ It’s a woman thing but a man shouldn’t worry about that. Men don’t owe women provision. They don’t owe them protection. They don’t owe them children. They don’t owe them families. With how women get most college degrees and get paid the same while working less hours at less dangerous jobs, I’m astonished at how men still pay for everything. I get that not every man has the resolve to say no to the possibility of a quick one but seriously, this is pathetic. There’s a time when a man has to say, “why is that when it comes… Read more »

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Fascinating article Rollo. I’d say one of the greatest impacts that the Manosphere has had on my thinking is the way I view age. This is largely influenced by you, as I have previously written! 3rdmilleniummen.wordpress.com/2012/08/20/manosphere-female-age-and-sexual-market-value/

I used to think women at 30 were incredibly hot. Some still are, but more than ever I notice their wrinkles, white hairs etc… I’m sure they do too, which is part of what sends them into a tiz. Will be including this article in my next Manosphere examination of the subject!

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@ Infotroll It’s pretty common for women to assume that feminism is about equality for women. After all that’s what THEY get out of it…equality at work, and special treatment from the government and blue pill men. You complain about our anger without attempting to see the world from our point of view. For instance, what have you studied about how feminism treats men? As a man raised by a self-described feminist, I can tell you that the primary training is to be kind to women and listen to their stated needs at all times. This assumes women are rational… Read more »

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deti: “According to the feminist narrative, this “niceguy” isn’t really a nice guy at all, but is a creepy, threatening, potential rapist/murderer who feels entitled to sex with her because he was “nice” and kind and deferential.”

Yes, but my question is how many of these men actually exist? They can’t be all that common.

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So it is 9:35 pm CST. My comment is incredibly far down the page both in number and actual page size, meaning the length of the average comment is quite long. Obviously, this is a subject that strikes some nerve with men. It seems that a lot of comments have kind of a “Hah, take that bitches!!! How ya doin’ now? Nah Nah Nannnh Nah Nannh Nah, Nobody wants to marry you. Back when we wanted you, you shit on us. But NOW da tablez iz turned baby. Ha!!” Let me remind you of something. It’s not as bad as… Read more »

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>100 in <24hrs = hitting a nerve

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“and who knows? Maybe you’ll get lucky in the end.”

Oh PLEASE can I split up my assets even further with some bitch that didn’t earn it and doesn’t respect me in the least for the effort that went into it. Cuz, ya know, losing 2/3 wasn’t enough the first time.
I’M FEELING LUCKY.

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>100 in <24hrs = TROLL
Fixed it for you.

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Oh I thought you were talking about whatsherface, not the post. Mybad.

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The flowchart on the Gawker article is hilarious.

Are women obligated to do anything? Yes? Then you are not a nice guy.

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she couldn’t take my call because he dad was yelling at her about “what she was going to do with her life.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzfwOYMaeF0

From Wikipedia:
After Lauper’s parents divorced, her mother remarried, divorced again, and went to work as a waitress.

Hm, any wonder why she sang songs like the above?

That said…

Lauper has been married to David Thornton since 1991. They have one son, Declyn Wallace Thornton (b. 1997).[36] Lauper was raised Roman Catholic and attended Catholic school. She refers to herself as a “Recovering Catholic”.

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Hah that jezzie bitch is complaining about dating coaching when no dating coach would have a client talk to her. Ever. Unless she’s a warmup set.

http://pic.twitter.com/knGxGfDx

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There’s a time when a man has to say, “why is that when it comes to women, what’s theirs is theirs but what’s mine is *ours*?”

The answer…solipsism.

In reality it’s more like what’s hers is hers and whats mine is hers too.

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walawala: Then me: “Don’t sabotage a good thing by being weird.” … My response: “oh. interesting. thx” I like your analysis of her narrative being projection, and your terse mirroring seems a skillful way to handle it. Barely any feedback, just letting her stew in her own juices without trying to fix her, but at the same time not letting her walk all over you with her neurosis, you maintained your boundaries with “I employed “Outraged sensibility game”: ie: You are judgemental, entitled, what do you have to offer? etc etc?” It’s an interesting paradox. When we become more selfish… Read more »

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“With more then half of all college/uni degrees going to the modern woman, and their ability to scale the highest peaks in business, why would they br needing security and provisioning?” Why take some if you can have it all? They’re basically maximizing profit. Moreover, it would be a real big mistake equating women’s rapid rise through the college and business ranks with intelligence, like the media in the anglosphere likes to do. College and grad school have evolved into a ‘repeat-after-me’ game, in which even those as dumb as a rock can’t fail. It’s poisonous to creativity and to… Read more »

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“With more then half of all college/uni degrees going to the modern woman, and their ability to scale the highest peaks in business, why would they br needing security and provisioning?” Why take some if you can have it all? They’re basically maximizing profit. Moreover, it would be a real big mistake equating women’s rapid rise through the college and business ranks with intelligence, like the media in the anglosphere likes to do. College and grad school have evolved into a ‘repeat-after-me’ game, in which even those as dumb as a rock can’t fail. It’s poisonous to creativity and to… Read more »

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Yeah most college degrees amount to toliet paper.

Especially if the subjects math or science (not counting political) ever enter into the equation.

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*never

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@johnJohnz @Lumpy
I have just responded in a comment in depth to that Jezebel article. Looking forward to the responses!!!

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@DeNihilist, Intimacy I can understand, but the need for security and provisioning? I can’t understand this from a successful, modern woman. With more then half of all college/uni degrees going to the modern woman, and their ability to scale the highest peaks in business, why would they br needing security and provisioning? You’re defining security and provisioning in too narrow a scope. Masculine dominance is a form of security, emotional connection is a form of security, there’s far more to security for a woman than just financial security. This is exactly why they find themselves thwarting their own hypergamy when… Read more »

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I’m noticing that the Manosphere seems to be getting a lot of attention from the femweb lately. We must be starting to hit a nerve.

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“There must be some need, some security men uniquely provide for women ‘who don’t need them’ otherwise they’d be indifferent to molding men into their misguided ideals.”

Precisely.

Power is a useless notion if there isn’t someone or some group to dominate and acknowledges that power. Women, especially those ‘high-powered’ career ones, can’t stand living without others acknowledging what they have. It’s the classic ‘look-at-me’ frame of mind. They can rise to the top in the corporate world, they can amass a laundy list of credentials…it’s all useless to them without the in- and outgroup validation.

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“There must be some need, some security men uniquely provide for women ‘who don’t need them’ otherwise they’d be indifferent to molding men into their misguided ideals.”

Women’s need is for the things she doesn’t possess.

Much like men’s prime derivative need for women is access to their uterus, women’s prime need in men is their strength (physically, emotionally, morally) and drive.

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@Martel

I’m noticing this too. Apparently Gawker is warming up a hit piece about AVfM:

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/154pqj/gawker_is_apparently_doing_an_article_on_the/

I don’t necessarily co-sign anything over at AVfM, but Gawker is barking up the wrong tree (not that their readership will care).

edit—–

Wow. Was anyone aware of this?
http://equalitycanada.com/cafe-response-warren-farrell/

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Rollo-

It’s FFY. Just gonna drop this here for your enjoyment-

http://niceguysofokc.tumblr.com/

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In one of the Gawker photos Rollo just posted, they cite the following exchange as evidence of not being nice: Do you believe you have the right to forbid your significant other anything? Yes. So, forbiddiing her ANYTHING is evidence you’re an asshole? The keys to my car? Blaring death metal at 4 AM when I have to go to work the next day? A night with that guy she thinks is cute in sales? And for those still doubting the connection between the matrix and politics: (emphasis mine) “So the notion that more Americans quote unquote in the words… Read more »

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Nate posted the Gawker thing I refer to.

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Related to the above Gawker post about “nice guys” on OKCupid: there is now an entire Tumblr blog devoted to this: http://niceguysofokc.tumblr.com/

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How is this not cyberbullying? They’re essentially doxxing these guys. Expect an uptick in mass murder suicides from these nice guys.

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@Martel Yeah the guy running the site is a retard and his “gotchas” are lame as fuck. I think the better lesson is learned from seeing these piles of profiles by dudes thinking that they are entitled to something by being nice. And entitled is exactly the correct word. Boo hoo I acted nice but no girls liked it so I’m not going to be nice anymore! Can you blame girls for thinking this is creepy? If that doesn’t look like a facade than I don’t know what is a facade. To them, these guys are only being nice to… Read more »

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@Nate: I agree with your assessment regarding the specific guys in question, and with the probably majority of “nice guys.” But not always. Sometimes my niceness was a strategy, but sometimes also I was genuinely trying to do the right thing. If I heard “I need time because I’m going through a rough breakup”, that made sense to me. I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable or pressure her during a rough time, so I did what I though was right. I figured that being nice should get me the girl, but if it didn’t, I still followed my conscience.… Read more »

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I’m sorry, but when I see the pics of the women writing these articles on jizabell and related sites I cant take them serious because of their looks alone. A woman writes an article slamming pick up likely because she’s never been cold approached in her life, it bothers her.

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Nice guys…to women your personality is made up and the points don’t matter.

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Roissy tweeted this article on how shootings are the result of men being socialized into valuing violent behavior:

http://www.cnn.com/2012/12/19/living/men-guns-violence/index.html?hpt=hp_c1

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@ Nate Thing is these guys didn’t become nice guys out of thin air, society encourages them to become nice guys. Its a battle of what they’re being told vs. what they see. Looking at the tumblr page pretty much confirms womans definition of nice guys: men who do whatever I want them to do and don’t complain about it. Loading...

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Wow. Was anyone aware of this? http://equalitycanada.com/cafe-response-warren-farrell/ These kids look and sound like the G20 protestors that lit up Toronto a few years ago. They’re provoctivists (I think I just made that up). Their MO is to instigate confrontations under the guise of standing up for the poor downtrodden, hoping to incite an imperfect response from the system, so they can further attack in a public forum with howling indignation. Essentially, anarchists posing as activists. Brats. The women’s rights/anti-patriarchy movements are part of a greater superstructure of anti-establishment sentiment. These misguided youth have grown up in one of the most… Read more »

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“Roissy tweeted this article on how shootings are the result of men being socialized into valuing violent behavior:

http://www.cnn.com/2012/12/19/living/men-guns-violence/index.html?hpt=hp_c1

I did the Picard double facepalm after reading that article.

Some ‘distinguished’ sociology professor blaming outbursts of violence on the sole act of being male… and white. Are they really that short-sighted in those ivory towers?

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@nate

lots of good shit on that bold and determined site.

http://boldanddetermined.com/2012/07/17/how-to-be-a-leader/

replace ‘dog’ with ‘girl’. perfect.

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@itsme: Which explains why single motherhood is such a bad idea.

Imagine being raised by a dog…

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@nate

I never saw being selfish in that way. With your fellow man being selfish is a bad trait…with a woman it brings out her good traits.

Being the good kind of selfish establishes boundaries.

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@walawala Your scenario sounds all too familiar. It sounds to me like you didn’t really like her too much either way. If you did, perhaps you would have employed at least some semblance of empathy, or turned her blame-game-projection into a lulz and left it at that. Like redirected her “sadness” into “at least we fucked like French artists having an affair” or “now that he’s out of the picture you don’t have to feel bad about us” or “do I need to get checked for STD’s?”…however you’d be both positive & aloof instead of pulling dread so soon after… Read more »

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I guess our life lessons inform our point of view. My wife is very strong emotionally and independant. One of the main reasons I was attracted to her. So for me to think about a woman needing security and provisoning, it is hard to grasp. I will just have to take accept your experiences/knowledge for it, and accept my bafflement.

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Rollo, every day I check your site for updates because this place has given me new life and at one point, brought me out of depression. Today’s topic describes exactly what I am going thru with one particular woman that has been in my life since I was 13 years old. She will be 34 in February. Everyone around me told me she would be going insane shortly and that her ways would catch up to her unmarried, entitled ,pilates instructing, “you’re not “___” enough”, narcissistic ass .. so I wait. Patiently, with a grin on my face. Thank you… Read more »

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@michaeltx

Don’t revel in a certain woman’s decent into walldom. The better coarse of action is to cut ties with her if possible or at least cut the emotional coard that she still has you trapped in which will mindfuck you. This woman has done enough damage why make it greater?

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.”

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Not gone through the comms. yet, so if nobody else has, I’ll coyly and titteringly suggest that “InfoMatron” may be the entity “Info” already given a citation for trolling on Price’s site. Failed miserably there, too. Why can’t you guys get quality trolls anymore? This one’s not as dumb and incoherent as Hopeless Raghead, I admit. So less amusing.

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@Lazarus: that Gawker hack-piece is true comedy gold. More mirth from the Lindy
“They treat a woman’s brain like it’s just her vagina’s doorman”

Hey Rollo, sounds almost like she’s getting half a clue about the female mind. Wassup? Although not the whole brain, obviously. Just the bits in the middle near the neckhole. Everything else is cut right out of the decision loop.

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Urgh, now she’s creeping me out
“And it’s hard for us to get boners for you when we are busy feeling sad.” Boners? From a chick?? Jesus.

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I’m not sure how many anime fans out there, but I think this particular episode of Golgo 13 sums up alot of what this site has to say.

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In the video she states “It brought into focus how much pressure we are under, I THINK PARCTULARLY AS WOMEN, TO SEPARATE SEX FROM LOVE.”

Very interesting projection of her own experience of dating in her 20s. Sucks for chumps like me, who actually would prefer to have the hottest sex with a woman I love and not a one-nighter.

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Particularly. Embarrassing typo.

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It’s not a rational yearning for security and provisioning, it’s instinctual. Besides which, college and the workplace are just meat markets for them to find Mr Beta and never work again, or go on never-ending maternity leave.

Those who are successful “career women” are generally the most masculine in traits and behaviour, so they care less about their familial instincts and are more obsessed with the male world.

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“The shaming of the aware man continues – http://jezebel.com/5969902/dear-dudes-here-are-five-reasons-why-you-dont-need-a-dating-coach?utm_source=gawker.com&utm_medium=recirculation&utm_campaign=recirculation

Thank you for posting. Personally, this is most explicitly gaming off pua’s that I have EVER seen. Can anyone come up with a more blatant example in pop culture?

I dunno fellas, the hating seems to be hitting epic proportions lately. Or is it just me? It was interesting to see Roosh post recently that he thinks 2013 will be the year the manosphere hits the mainstream…we shall see.

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Do all women hit “The Wall” at the same age (30)?
Please enlighten me

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@Nate, you wrote: “‘Nice guys’ play hide the penis, thinking that it will win them points, not realizing that women want men who own their sexuality.”

So true.

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[…] Alpha Fucks during a woman’s prime fertility window in her peak SMV years, and her post Epiphany Phase necessity to retain a comforting (but decidedly less sexually exciting) Beta […]

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[…] a woman approaches and enters into her Epiphany Phase, she has a limbic understanding that her genetic chips need to be cashed in with a man who has […]

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[…] that I have going for me, in combination with the former oneitis being a single mother and in the Epiphany Phase (I gave it another read this morning), are a perfect mixture of characteristics and situations that […]

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[…] and pined to be intimate with for so long finally “comes to her senses” around her Epiphany Phase and accepts him. For men with this AMOG mental impression, that woman’s acceptance comes with […]

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[…] lot of Blue Pill men feel a sense of vindication for the Epiphany Phase “success” they finally get with women once their long-term usefulness to women finally […]

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what about the women who have always thought it was best to learn from alphas and never under any circumstances fuck them? alpha, beta, it only matters to women who cant control their emotions and keep their feet firmly planted in reality.

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[…] of the primary disconnects women are conditioned to believe during their Epiphany Phase is that a “good man” will be willing to forgive and forget her past indiscretions. On […]

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My wife hit this Epiphany Stage at age 30 as best I can tell and filed for frivorce a month after our 10th wedding anniversary. She was 21 when we were married and she was a virgin. She proceeded to ride the CC for the first time and she was post-wall. Needless to say she isn’t landing quality men and they don’t commit. I am very Sigma and we had a whirlwind romance and courtship. I was her Chad Thundercock. As the marriage progressed I became more and more beta, failing shit tests all along the way. I had no… Read more »

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[…] you’re this side of 30 and the 29 year old woman you’re dating is going through her Epiphany Phase and trying to “do the right thing” tells you, “I used to be a different person […]

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[…] / graph there comes a pronounced shift in a man’s SMV potential just after a woman’s Epiphany Phase, and up to and after a man’s SMV peak potential age range. The social engineering aspect is […]

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[…] is markedly different from what she’ll perceive as Alpha at 29, right as she enters her Epiphany Phase. If you read back through the Preventive Medicine series (or the book), I specifically outline a […]

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[…] about settling down (coupled with her age), made me think that she was at or approaching her Epiphany Phase. The tone used by the [presumed] grandmother also lent credence to that inference [I almost thought […]

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Two years ago my husband cam home from three years of rehab relearning to walk and two weeks of anger management and rage control after the devastation he delivered to the man I had an affair with the last year, the last 14 years I had watched my husband hurt many people trying to interfere with his rights at work and home and in the community and he even hurt people for forcing him to do as everyone thought was right for the entire community and workplace, He considered It slavery, and a life stolen from him. Then when MRSA… Read more »

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[…] most of you figured out, it’s (an albeit delayed) Epiphany Phase rationalization that all women have to confront eventually. The only difference here is the heroic […]

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[…] term and long term sexual strategy needs – throughout her entire life, not just around her Epiphany Phase. She needs the Alpha bull for his raw sexuality, dominance and confidence, and she needs the Beta […]

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[…] I’ve outline many times, women between the ages of 29 and 31 will enter the Epiphany Phase in which the rationalizations of their 20’s Sandbergian plan sexual priorities conflicts […]

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[…] On a root, hindbrain level, your Beta designation was set for your wife when she was having her Epiphany Phase. She knows and is comfortable with what she expects your nature and your character to […]

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[…] worry, fellas, she’ll be all ready for you, a redeemed re-virgin, once she hits thirty and the epiphany comes calling. Hope you’re ready for your heavenly reward of starfish sex once a month for […]

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The women need to realize the damage is done for many females worldwide because men are speaking out against bad women. Whether on Youtube, Men Blogs, Men’s Magazines, Men’s group meetings, with male friends, etc. Men are angry and tired of the women’s nonsense, bad attitude, immaturity, bad character, high standards, playing victim, lack of responsibility, not prepared for life, using males as utility, taking men to court, falsely accusing men of rape or wrongdoing when the man is innocent, and so forth. All of a sudden when a woman passes the Wall or heading to the Wall, she expects… Read more »

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As a Mother & a women from my own observation I have concluded that women do tend overlook partnering till they are on the end of their prime & suddenly find themselves competing greatly or a ‘tsunami’ with other similar females in their late 20’s onward. I have pondered this for a longtime & thought that o.k we all want our daughters to ‘not be under pressure’ while they are very young but however once past the early 20’s thus 23 years I do feel this ‘tide’ starts to change & assuming everyone isn’t troubled or in some form of… Read more »

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[…] In our contemporary sexual marketplace I think this perception – which used to hold true in a social climate based on the old set of books – is an increasing source of disappointment for women as they move from their post-college party years into the more stressful Epiphany Phase. […]

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[…] know, I know ladies, it’s a very difficult task to identify an acceptable guy for your Epiphany Phase necessities. What with ‘dating’ ALL “the bad boys, the cool boys, the […]

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[…] is the degree to which women are largely disposed to delaying commitment until what I call their Epiphany Phase and then transitioning into a need for security once their capacity to attract and arouse men […]

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[…] about any woman’s sexual past. This is the degree of desperation that women feel during the Epiphany Phase when they acknowledge men becoming aware of their long term sexual […]

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My phase was a little later, and it involved looking back over my 20s and realizing, dam ive not started trying to change the world yet! I wasted my 20s thinking i could do it by just rebelling myself, and getting distracted by all the people who told me it was not possible and instead a youth dream.

Then in my 30s i decided, maybe its time to start!

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[…] – Rollo Tomassi in The Epiphany Phase […]

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[…] Years and she’s “turned over a new leaf” in the necessitousness of her Epiphany Phase. Women aging out of the sexual marketplace are only too happy to appear to be a Beta man’s […]

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[…] expectation of capitalizing on a woman’s party years, but that once she’s reached the Epiphany Phase she can be relatively confident that her years of Sugaring will be socially normalized and not […]

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[…] the writing is on the wall for men with regard to the convenient need for that commitment at the end-game phase of a woman’s sexual market value. So yes, a man’s commitment to monogamy with a woman […]

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I’ve just stumbled on to this chat in this form and many other forms. I’m really looking for honest advice. I’m 28 years old and truly looking back feeling disgusted at the choices I’ve made in life. What advice would you give me to try to change my situation around or am I totally doomed. Well first let me tell you my crisis. I’m a 28 years black female and due to childhood obesity I never really had many sexual partners, two to be exact. I’m tall, 5’10, pretty feminine I’ve been told. I’m a social worker. I have no… Read more »

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