Building on the core works of The Rational Male – Preventive Medicine presents a poignant outline of the phases of maturity and the most commonly predictable experiences men can expect from women as they progress through various stages of life.
Rational and pragmatic, the book explores the intergender and social dynamics of each stage of women’s maturity and provides a practical understanding for men in dealing with women in those phases.
Preventive Medicine also provides revealing outlines of feminine social primacy, Hypergamy, the ‘Hierarchies of Love’ and the importance of understanding the conventional nature of complementary masculinity in a world designed to keep men ignorant of it.
The Rational Male – Preventive Medicine seeks to help men who “wish they knew then what they know now.”
The book is first in of series complements to The Rational Male, the twelve-year core writing of author/blogger Rollo Tomassi from therationalmale.com. Rollo Tomassi is one of the leading voices in the globally growing, male-focused online consortium known as the “Manosphere”.
Well, it’s been about a year in the making, but the print version of my second book is now available on the Createspace store and will be distributed through Amazon in the next 3-5 business days. If you prefer the digital format the Kindle version is also available now on Amazon.
I’ll be updating this to a permanent page once the print version of the book is live on Amazon.
I’d like to thank all my regular readers and commenters. It was your input and insight, and the questions we put to each other that made this book possible. I’m often asked why I’ve never moderated the comments on Rational Male, this book is why. I’d also like to personally thank Sam Botta for doing the forward and helping with promotion of my work.
I’ll be doing an ‘Ask Me Anything’ of sorts in this week’s comment thread if you have questions about the book. My purpose with this book is to formalize the work I did in the Preventive Medicine series as well as provide some support material. If you’re a regular reader here, you already know I make my material freely available, however, I have fleshed out a lot of the original content more thoroughly as well as adding some new material in the book.
Preventive Medicine is intended to be a complement to The Rational Male core works – an important supplement, not an extension. I’ve decided that future Rational Male series books will center on that core work for reference to more specific topics. I think you’ll find the organization and direction of Preventive Medicine much more singularly focused than the first book. This is intentional. There was no feasible way to present the first book’s material without familiarizing readers with a lot of varied Red Pill topics. The Rational Male will always be the starting point for any new work.
Once again, my hope is that readers will share this book with the men they feel would need it the most. I hope you’ll “accidentally” leave a copy on a table at Starbucks or a school library. I hope you give it to your teenage nephew and your middle-age best friend going through a rough divorce. If you buy the digital copy, thank you, but do consider getting the physical copy to share with someone who wouldn’t otherwise consider exploring the Red Pill or the manosphere online. And if you get into a conversation about the book be sure you let them know about the first book too. Please spread the word.
I thank you all most sincerely.
RT
@alpha seed What do you think of this? I believe there’s a really old saying that applies here: “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.” I have friends that I’ve presented the ideas to and they’ve rejected them. While I’m concerned for their well-being (they’re having worse relationship results than even I have in many cases), I also know that they’re men responsible for their own lives. When ridiculed by them, I hand it right back and move on to something else. I don’t force it on them though. I make my arguments then… Read more »
Any sufficiently rational and legitimate criticism of the feminine is indistinguishable from hate to a Blue Pill mindset.
@alpha seed, not much unfortunately. You’ll need to wait until they experience an example of female behavior I describe and tactfully point it out to them at the moment.
Eventually you’ll come into contact with one of the dynamics I describe in the books or on the blog, that’s the time to remind them of it.
My impression is your bandmates are conditioned Betas so anything remotely critical of the feminine will sound like hate or condoning rape. Just wait for the teachable moments and remind them.
@Rollo
Ive been married 20 yrs, we have one daughter. My wife cooks me breakfast every morning, dinner every evening, when I want sex, I get it. She does all the laundry and all the grocery shopping. Many of her friends and some of my friends wives say crap like, “why do you do that for him?” Or, “IIIIIIIIIII would NEVER do that!” …”She treats you like a king…” Usually I just smirk and say somthing like, “Well when you’re a king you’re a king” or “Yea, I know, I deserve it”. More than once I’ve said somthing like, ” Bitch!… Read more »
http://therationalmale.com/2012/11/06/people-are-people/
” damned if he does, damned if he dosent, damned if he does-doesn’t, damned if he doesn’t-does, damned if he’s alpha, damned if he’s beta, damned if he’s MTGOW, damned if he games, damned if he doesn’t game. He’s alone in this and he is just fucking damned.”
Try this old wheeze :-
“Frankly my dear I don’t give a damn ..”
For those that think even they have complete control of their own thoughts and actions through free will:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCofmZlC72g
Note his end conclusion that you are not absolved of personal responsibility, even if free will seems to be largely an illusion.
Amazing that i got completely ridiculed for reading this book and trying to help my friends who were in bad situations with women (by their own doing) Show by example, not by lecture. My Best Man was not receptive to Red Pill thinking at all. Then one day, it clicked, and he said “ADBG. I like your relationship. It seems like you call the shots. You say, it’s sex time, and it’s sex time.” He liked Red Pill ideas much more after seeing the results in action, and comparing them to the pussy-whipped Blue Pill losers he knew in college,… Read more »
Rollo, thanks for people are people. I hadn’t read that one. We don’t diverge as much as I thought. No man has to take the shit. The decision is up to each individual. Regardless of gender, hypergamy, whatever; if you go through life expecting any kind of fairytale, you WILL get fucked and sooner than later. There are plenty of opportunists who will capitalize to your detriment on whatever idealism you embrace. Idealism is the basis of all sales. Best to get off any fairytale wagon sooner than later. Early in my career in the construction industry, an older mentor… Read more »
That’s great man. I’ll pick it up on the tablet. You deserve some compensation for putting in all the time.
“Any sufficiently ..” you riffing on Clarke’s Third Law now, jefe?
@Tam
He’s been playing that riff for a while now.
This concerns women & children, woman’s natural primary love for her children, her “innate programming to love and nurture her child”. Mothers commit the majority of infanticide. Most babies that are murdered are murdered by their mothers. Look it up if you don’t believe it. This fact is contradictory to our well conditioned expectations of women and motherhood. A sociological analysis of contraception, especially the contraceptive pill, and the inspected NOT the expected nature of women may resolve confusion. Contraception- Without contraception there is a likelihood of conception….especially during the “she wants to fuck an alpha” phase of her cycle.… Read more »
Any thought given to a hard cover version of your book someday? Thanks
Congrats, Rollo! I look forward to reading it this weekend.
Rollo posted the screen cap with “The Rational Male – Preventive Medicine” at #8.
Do you sincerely want people to buy the new Rollo Tomassi?
Spread the screen cap.
Rollo pasted it here: http://therationalmale.com/2015/03/09/the-rational-male-preventive-medicine/comment-page-2/#comment-91929
Here’s a backup: http://imgur.com/7d9Mkr4
People flock to the top 10 books. People follow the habits of other people. If it looks like it’s on top of the list, it must be great, so they buy.
Spread the screen capture of #8 and watch it go to #1
I had a long conversation with a close friend that’s earned more than most wealthy men will ever see in their lifetimes. She’s an innovator, inventor, founder with ‘exits’ and a feminist. She has founded and sold three startup companies you’ve heard of. One of them runs in the background every time iTunes and a few other platforms load on any device. She still successful, and like most people that are of great power and wealth, she’s kind and generous. Yes, she’s a feminist, yet she’s close friends with Warren Farrell. How can this be? 1. She has a son.… Read more »
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@LiveFearless
Relax, you’re talking like you got this chick on a pedestal or something lol AWALT
Just got it on my kindle and I can’t wait. I’ll never understand how a guy who had his fun with women while young then made a good marriage could be motivated to keep thinking about these issues on deeper and deeper levels but we’re lucky that you do. Thanks.
Most of the following is borrowed from Wikipedia… The Witch Game…. Hansel and Gretel are young children whose father is a woodcutter. When a great famine settles over the land, the woodcutter’s abusive second wife decides to take the children into the woods and leave them there to be by themselves, so that she and her husband will not starve to death because the children eat too much. The woodcutter opposes the plan but finally and reluctantly submits to his wife’s scheme. They are unaware that in the children’s bedroom, Hansel and Gretel have overheard them. After the parents have… Read more »
Live Fearless – I’m sure many are “dying” to know who “she” is. Ahhh! the power of gossip. “She knows the wage gap basically a script that keeps people in slavery thinking about & arguing about the wage gap instead of entrepreneurship.” Most people do what they are comfortable doing. Most do not want to experience the risks of entrepreneurship. Many are happy where they are. We all started with low pay. John Galt – A fantasy man in a science fiction feminist soap opera drama with all the frivolous intrigue (including sexual intrigue) that could be mustered by a… Read more »
@not born this morning, re: “I have known numerous women who resented their children, considered them to be a burden holding them back from “living the life they always wanted”. Many women complain regularly about the responsibilities of “motherhood”. The well established conventional trope that “mothers sacrifice sooo much” exposes the reality of how many women truly feel about motherhood. If they are biologically predisposed to loving their children sooo much, then why is it such a fucking sacrifice? It is a fallacy to expect that women possess an innate biological and psychological capacity to nurture and direct love towards… Read more »
29yo model marries 40yo businessman:
http://girlwithadragonflytattoo.com/2015/03/11/sorry-all-you-men-out-there-bar-refaeli-is-engaged-at-last/ …
Now where have I read this before? Oh yeah…
http://therationalmale.com/2012/06/04/final-exam-navigating-the-smp/ …
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Bar cashed in her Beta Bucks,
Its been a few years since DiCaprio the Alpha finished with her
@ anon
Damn brother. I get you have been hurt in divorce and by a specific woman, but, don’t you think some of your vitriolic generalizations come out as “hatred?” I just think you are quite the connoisseur of all women…I think you are a bit “touched” my friend.
Ok Rollo. I have “lost it”…. I am going off the fucking rails!! Preventative Medicine – Intersexual Hierarchies – The Subdominant Model, “In the beginning of this section I stated that men and women’s approach to love was ultimately complementary to one another and in this last model we can see how the two approaches – idealistic and opportunistic – dovetail together. That may seem a bit strange at this point, but when social influences imbalance this conventional complement we see how well the two should come together” …what?….. “That may seem a bit strange” ?? Hell yes it seems… Read more »
Men’s idealistic concept of love is a buffer against women’s opportunistic concept of love. When that idealism is expressed from a Beta mindset women’s opportunism dominates him and it’s debilitating. When it’s expressed from an Alpha mindset it supersedes her opportunism to the relationship’s benefit.
Preventative Medicine – “….when a man’s idealistic approach to love is in the dominate frame it acts as a buffer to woman’s loving opportunism that would otherwise imbalance and threaten the endurance of that family and relationship.” In all your previous writings you elaborate extensively on how man’s idealistic approach to love is his downfall and how it facilitates feral hypergamy. Yet now you are saying that same idealism exercised within an idealistic dominant frame is the preserver of the family and the relationship. Man’s idealistic love is the universes great white knight galactic rescue savior of all pussy and… Read more »
Are you whipping yourself with your own dick?
If you want to use Blue Valentine as an example, the guy in the relationship abdicates all authority and ambition over to his wife’s opportunism. He idealistically believes “love is all that matters” and has no greater ambition than to please her and ‘just be himself’, because that should be enough. Consequently she despises him for it. She’s the de facto authority in the relationship and he slips into the subdominant (another child to care for) role. Now if a man’s Alpha, willful, idealism propels him to greater ambition, and to prioritize his concept of love as the dominant, and… Read more »
It’s easy to characterize women’s concept of opportunistic (hypergamic) love as manipulative and duplicitous – and in today’s social environment they’re encouraged to exploit it – however, it is still a practical and deductive concept based on what women need. Likewise men’s idealism can be (and often is) his worst failing with women –again, in today’s social environment this idealism is used as men’s worst thumbscrew – but, without that idealism he would never assume to pursue his role of dominance (and not just in intersexual relations). In their rawest form, men’s idealistic and women’s opportunistic concepts of love are… Read more »
Sorry for the smart ass remark. I just cannot swallow the use of ANY idealism in loving a woman. I’ve sometimes been accused as being a “total asshole” for not following “conventional norms” or acquiescing to peoples bullshit. My brother labeled me a “Nazi” after I gave him the advice to get in the gym, work hard, focus on self improvement during his divorce from his first wife. He was literally balling and saying, “I just wanted to love a girl”. I thought he outgrew it in his second marriage until a few years ago he announced to everyone during… Read more »
Maybe the confusion occurs when we men do not realize the difference between really loving and caring for a woman vs pretending to love and care for a woman to try and negotiate for sex. Before you can love another, you must first love yourself.
@NBTM, the problems start when you expect your idealistic concept of love to be reciprocated by a woman. Women do not share the same concept of love that men are conditioned to believe everyone mutually accepts. That belief is where a Beta mindset and an idealistic concept of love (one in which men believe they can be loved in spite of their performance) becomes a dangerous liability to him. Men will still hold that idealistic concept whether they’re Alpha or Beta; the difference is the Alpha will control the Frame of that relationship and accept that a woman will never… Read more »
” .. woman younger than 30 who gets knocked up accidentally by an alpha .. “
Bwaaahaaahhahhhaaaaa!
Is that what she told you?
[Spoiler: it’s never an accident. Unless … she discovers he was actually beta (or lesser). Then it’s off to the Clinic, and baby gets turned into gumbo. Without a minute’s regret, in my experience]
An American 28 year old white woman:
http://www.people.com/article/casey-anthony-life-today-three-years-after-acquittal
Re: Casey Anthony, note that beta dorks anonymously send her money.
Small Pecker, I did not write about a specific woman. Well, I did, but the facts about which I wrote were learned by observing thousands of mothers during my 10 years as a father. When you are a father of girls, you notice things. I’m a veteran of thousands of hours in parks, on the playground, and in school settings dominated by brainwashed modern women. I mean to add: elementary school teachers. It is a shame that teachers are paid so low and it is, indeed, a woman’s job. These same bubbly former cheerleaders are completely FI-brainwashed, of course (all… Read more »
@ anon
I understand your pain. I feel that you are in a world of hate. Is that good?
You have stated you have girls.
Will you hate them? (they will become women)
Should they be allowed to vote?
This appears to be the gratz Rollo thread. Gratz on the book and making it to the top 10! Now where is the official discussion of the book thread? I just finished it tonight. Basically most of it is Rollo taking a post from the Chateau on gaming girls in different stage of life. He greatly expanded it to explain to men what they can expect and how to deal with some of the major challenges at each stage of a woman’s life span. There is more practical and actionable information from Preventative Medicine than any 1,500 page Developmental Psychology… Read more »
My 78 year old very well educated in classical philosophy and history uncles reaction to the manosphere and TRM follows. And no insanity doesn’t run in the family… From uncle Bob – I had been unaware of this phenomenon, but am not surprised. The little I was able to understand of the honcho’s inadequate vocals seems to be soft core, more or less, when compared to “…..WOMAN hear me roar of the 70’s.” The printed stuff I could read and understand was somewhat boring in a long-winded attempt to sound scholarly. I do not oppose these reactions from the manosphere.… Read more »
@Sun Wukong “So here I find myself. Alive, learning Game, seeing if I can build a great Man out of all this scrap, still not convinced suicide is immoral or wrong, but also not convinced it’s my path for the moment.” I think everyone that reads here enough knows that you are one of the wisest commenters. I’m so glad that you found the RM… if anything I think you’ve helped many people here with your comments. I can’t believe so many men are driven to think of suicide over women – it really does prove everything Rollo has written… Read more »
@GWADT I sometimes suspect suicide among unsuccessful males is an evolved mechanism. If they can’t fulfill the biological purpose of life (to create more life) and didn’t die directly from the competition over females, then it best serves the herd for them to die and remove the extra competition for scarce resources the young will need. Of course, to the individual it’s an act of rational pragmatism: this is a constant source of pain, I never in my life been able to alleviate the pain through the normal channels, this is the only logical choice I can see to make… Read more »
@small pecker: LOL. A female response. I love them more than a million times infinity. The answer is no. I don’t hate women. Women are how they are because of biological evolution. Do you read this blog? I am teaching them real facts about the world, however, trying to fight the evil narrative control they are receiving in school every day and everywhere else around them. Feminism was an attack primarily on women who did not need it, a tool of socialism, and an attack on children, families, and a civilization that, while not perfect, was the best attempt to… Read more »
Our host and other “evo-psychos” (see above) may know this, but did you know there’s an academic field called masculinity research? Which just had a big conference on how to stamp out “repressive masculinities”, a/k/a “hegemonic masculinity” a/k/a competition, finding them even among Bronies, LOTR cos-players. There’s serious work to be done “identifying what [is] wrong with men, and how to fix it.” I.e.,finding the vaccine to Stamp It Out In Our Lifetime. http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/mar/12/what-a-masculinity-conference-taught-me-about-the-state-of-men?CMP=share_btn_tw Lecturers/presenters: Sheryl Sandberg and Naomi Wolf. Read the cited item for amusement, not rage. The alternate universe it describes is so far afield that the movie… Read more »
@Fred, tweeted about it this morning:
https://twitter.com/RationalMale/status/576381884214587393
Sun Wukong… “If they can’t fulfill the biological purpose of life (to create more life) and didn’t die directly from the competition over females, then it best serves the herd for them to die and remove the extra competition for scarce resources the young will need.” We were at the Rodeo last month… and these sweet men were educating us on male bees (one had brought his own bee colony for kids to see up close). They are only alive to service the female “workers” hive with babies, and when the males are no longer needed, they are shut off… Read more »
Tsk-to-the-motha-fuckin’-Tsk, Rollo.
I can’t help but to think: “Aww. I wish I was online when RT was finishing his first…”
Think, now. What was I supposed to be doing while sitting in front of the souped-up MAC and PC (instead of posting at SS)?
*ears back in dismay*
All these criticisms about formatting/editing?
You had that coming. And, I’ll refrain from channeling Benjamin Franklin to fully dress you down for it.
Despite the “shit on my carpet”, I must sincerely congratulate you on the outstanding achievement(s).
@Not Born This Morning
URGENT!
TESTOSTERONE DOES NOT CAUSE OR SPREAD CANCER, ESTROGEN DOES!
What do they give women that have breast cancer? Arimidex … it reduces estrogen! Pass that on to Uncle Bob.
Extreme risk since elevated estrogen with lower testosterone causes strokes, high blood pressure and cancer.
I’m not a doctor, but the best doctors in the U S pulled me out of death after a hit and run accident. Arimidex (estrogen reducer) is one of my life-saving friends.
@girlwithadragonflytattoo Quite actually, it’s not quite accurate to claim that the queen “chooses” which eggs are to be male or female. When the queen’s pheromones get too weak, it’s a sign that the queen is no longer effective, and for the future success of the colony, a new queen must be raised. So, any egg can be a queen, it’s a matter of how much royal jelly is fed to the larvae. Extended feeding of royal jelly ensures the extended development into the queen. All bees are fed royal jelly at the onset, but only for a few days, whereas… Read more »
Uh… I just double-checked my understanding of the queen. My “only need to breed once” understanding conflicted with what I was just explaining. I’m actually off a bit. The queen DOES selectively release semen, so it’s a matter of seasonal indicators. When the weather is springlike, then she’ll drop drones, but only to breed queens outside the hive, as a matter of species survival, not her particular colony’s survival. Dang… that’s crazy. A queen bee will store the sperm of 12-15 males she breeds with while flying outside of the hive. Apparently, she’ll store several millions spermies up in her… Read more »
Being disposable simply comes with being male in nature. Men are quite able to accept that as part of the cost of being the physically stronger sex. It’s generally portrayed throughout history as one of our most noble traits. It’s only when that disposability and our acceptance of it is treated with disrespect and contempt that men become indignant and angry about it.
I have no moral or ethical issue with being disposable. I have a big problem with being subject to ridicule at both the personal and societal level for it.
@ LiveFearless A general principle of anti-aging medicine (same as health optimization) is to restore youthful levels of hormones. In aging men, testosterone tends to go down and estrogen tends to go up. My Dr. prescribed testosterone to up T to the upper end of normal for young men and anastrozole to lower estrogen to the optimal level of 21-30pg/ml. He correctly predicted that my PSA would actually go down. It went from 2.7 down to 1.8. This is the opposite of the conventional ‘wisdom’ that TRT causes prostate cancer. But there is another reason why BP types are afraid… Read more »
@Jack LeBear You are correct. There is a wimp doctor in Beverly Hills that’s destroying men he’s jealous of. You know, he’s young, married with children, and for sure obligated sex is dispensed to him sparingly. He was “oversexed” for sure pre-marriage since, of course, his plan was to be a doctor in the middle of Beverly Hills, CA. He prescribes men Clomid as if this increases testosterone DELIVERY throughout the body. What doctors do not do is something that saved my life after the hit and run accident. Testosterone testing is not always complete. Most doctors seem to be… Read more »
@Jack LeBear Yes too many of them are afraid of LIFE and HEALTH and ACCOMPLISHMENT and WOMEN HAVING GENUINE DESIRE for a PATIENT! “Well, we can’t have that, of course not.” “Preventive Medicine” … NO! Must Ban… they say! Thank you for telling us about those improved PSA numbers. I hope all 7 million Rollo Tomassi students have taken notes from your words. And you’re right, anastrozole is the generic of Arimidex: A miracle most RM readers should consider… have an estrogen test that includes the full testosterone panel – including FREE testosterone. If they doctor refuses, get out of… Read more »
@ Livefearless, There is a lot more to health optimization than hormonal modulation, for example making sure you don’t have any nutritional deficiencies and eat the kinds of real foods that your genes expect (where are your ancestors from?) and getting the right kind of exercise (for me low volume high intensity strength training – it’s more cardio than cardio). While you need to pay someone for the use of their prescription pad, walking into an anti-aging clinic isn’t enough. You need to educate yourself on all the other stuff because anyone who profits from your lack of health has… Read more »
Relying on Organized Medicine to take care of your physical health is like relying on the FI to take care of your relationship health. My acceptance of the RP was facilitated by my learning the truth about cholesterol, saturated fat and heart disease. That truth being that eating cholesterol and natural animal fat does not cause heart disease. That’s when I realized that the whole culture is insane, there is no one I can rely on to take care of me; they lie for profit, power, politics and pussy and I’m on my own to take care of myself. I… Read more »
Wow, I was reading through the book today finally and realized I’m quoted in it. I’m honored. My words in print. Whoda ever thunk?
Thank you, Rollo.
They came at a particular point in my writing that fit perfectly. Thank you.
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Will there be an audiobook version just like for the first book?
@Josh, yes, Sam Botta is doing the audio this month.
I purchased the first volume on Amazon in print and was able to get the kindle version for a reduced price with Kindle Matchbook. When I went to purchase this one, it did not give me this option. Will you be adding this to Kindle Matchbook? Thanks
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