Last Minute Resistance

LMR

Many PUAs have at one point encountered and considered what’s commonly known as LMR, Last Minute Resistance after they’ve successfully moved through the various phases of seduction and had a girl reconsider fucking him and ultimately reject him at the zero hour before sex was in the offing.

LMR is the acronym PUAs gave to the tendency, but you don’t need to be a PUA to have had the experience of pleading your case for sex while spooning on the bed with a girl you’ve been trying to ‘make comfortable enough’ to want to fuck you using your best Beta Game for two months. I’d say blue pill men are much more familiar with LMR than most self-styled PUAs.

I’ll admit, I did this in my younger Beta days.

This was long before I realized that sex was about urgency, anxiety and tension, not comfort, familiarity or rapport, or proving how much better a boyfriend I’d make than the Jerks she’d enthusiastically spread her legs for because they naturally created that urgency.

It wasn’t until I’d hit my sexual stride in my semi-pro rock star 20s that I realized that striving to make a girl feel comfort and trust was anti-seductive.

Eventually I got to the point that I could get laid predictability enough with girls who were enthusiastically down to fuck, that I no longer felt the responsibility to endure the blue balls I had in trying to behave according to how girls ‘told’ me I should go about being intimate with other girls.

It was then I realized I had been attempting to Game girls according to the advice other girls had given me (or even some of the girls I wanted to get with themselves). I realized how adolescent this really was; these are games teenage girls played with guys who’s attentions they enjoyed, but couldn’t bear the thought of fucking someone they were so familiar with. I figured out that when a woman says, “I don’t think of you in that way. I think of you as a brother.”, what she’s really saying is “I’d consider sex with you to be incest”.

I didn’t know it then, but this was an important lesson in my red pill education.

I’ve never been an advocate for pushing past last minute resistance with a woman. From that point on in my life if there was any hesitancy on the part of a woman becoming sexual with me, and certainly once clothes were about to come off, I knew something else was affecting the needed sexual tension and urgency. Something else was mitigating genuine desire and I knew it wouldn’t be the kind of sex I wanted to have, or couldn’t already have had a better experience with another plate I was spinning at the time.

I get that for a lot of guys, “pushing” for sex – really trying to wait a girl out for sex – is the only Game they really have to speak of. However, I’d gotten to the point where I realized that any sex a woman makes a guy wait for is negotiated desire and mitigated sex, and the experience was never worth the wait.

I learned how to do very effective takeaways during this point in my life, but not because they were practiced to perfection from a want to bang a particular woman. Rather, and unintentionally, I had what PUAs termed a very good ‘push/pull’ technique due only to the fact that I knew if a new girl I was with was hesitant to get sexual I was wasting time I could’ve spent with another girl who was a proven commodity.

Women pick up on cues like this. Men are often oblivious to them, but there are subtle differences in our behaviors, indifferences to women’s expected behaviors from us, and subtle attitudes we sub-communicate which women are attuned to thanks to an evolved psychological understanding of when they have a sexual competitor for our attentions. Women who have a genuine interest in a guy, rarely confuse that guy with “mixed messages“.

I didn’t consciously process it then, but an overt attempt to overcome last minute resistance broadcasts a perception of ‘pussy begging’ in an obvious way. While I realize there’re sometimes situations that call for a need to be sexually assertive to promote a dominance women are testing for, if you’re in a position of what amounts to pleading or “c’mon baby” convincing a girl to fuck you, you’re negotiating (really compromising yourself) for her unenthusiastic desire.

When you overextend yourself in getting past LMR, you risk sending the message that “you just don’t get it” with regard to how women need to be seduced, and how the men they do want to fuck organically behave. By being too self-effacing in convincing a woman to fuck you, you present the perception of being optionless with other women, and thus a non-sexual Beta and she can deal with you, or not deal with you, accordingly.

It was really simple pragmatism for me to walk away from a sexual dead end girl – I had other options – but in doing so I’d unwittingly, but organically, passed a shit test. And more often than not I got laid a week or two after “bumping into” her again; after she’d had time to process it.

Game 101

Now, why am I going back to Game 101 here?

Likely this is something I should’ve included in the book, or come about to in the early posts of Rational Male (I have actually, but not in depth). Well, it’s because of a pathetically brief throwaway post from Lindy West praising the recent Yes Means Yes law on California campuses.

West usually wrote feminist agitprop before she was surreptitiously let go from Jezebel a few months ago, and rest assured this is the first and last time I’ll ever quote her on this blog, but in her giddy sputtering over the YMY law she did manage one coherent point:

“Why would you want to be tolerated when you could be desired?”

Following along in the wake of the Yes Means Yes social initiative, many a feminized blogger has gone through a good deal of mental contortions in order to rationalize why they support it. The problem they encounter is that in supporting YMY they have to explain away more than a few previously, and publicly, held stands they made in the past about gender relations to align with YMY.

One such inconsistency stems from women’s dubious want for comfort and rapport prior to sex that conflicts with what, essentially, amounts to negotiating for their genuine desire. Thus, I agree with Lindy, why would you want to be tolerated, when you could be desired?

What Lindy is oblivious to (no doubt from a lack of experiencing male attention) is that genuine desire cannot be negotiated for. Many a hapless Beta suffering in a ‘tolerance’ relationship is all too familiar with the lackluster experience of ‘duty sex’. Women will bemoan some fanciful epidemic of misogynists who think they’re entitled to, or owed sex, but the fact of the matter is the same women actively contribute to that belief by (legally now) requiring a checklist of terms necessary for men to have sex with them.

When I published Iron Rule of Tomassi #3 I received (and periodically still receive) a rash of criticism from the femosphere for insisting men excuse themselves from, and not wait for, compromised, mitigated and I daresay now, unenthusiastic sex.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

When I wrote this it was an effort in illustrating a pragmatic approach to save men the time and resources of investing in a less than optimal sexual experience. In essence, it’s a rule to help men avoid negotiated, unenthusiastic sex with women who feel obligated to fuck him. Whether it’s ostensibly from pity or duty or some other pretense the outcome is still the same.

I also wrote a follow up to this rule in Three Strikes:

Risk & Reward

In Game, there is a subtle balance that needs to be recognized between risks of over-investing in a particular woman with regards to practicality and not throwing the proverbial baby out with the bath water and losing on a potentially rewarding opportunity. Women, as is particular to their own Game, will naturally come down on the side of casting doubt on a man’s valid assessment of a woman’s potential value, both in long term perspectives and potential sexual satisfaction. This presumption of doubt is a built in failsafe social convention for women; if only you’d been more patient, if only you invested a little bit more, you’d be rewarded with a great mother for your children and the best pussy of your life – don’t blow it now!

The short version is that it’s not in women’s best sexual-strategy interests for a man to have sexual options. Women’s sexual strategy is very schizophrenic – ideally women want a Man that other women want to fuck, but in order to assess his sexual market value to other women he’s got to have exercisable options for her to compete against, or at least display indirect social proof to that effect. So, she needs to limit his options while simultaneously determining he has those options. Now add to this the hypergamous necessity of maintaining  a reasonable pool of suitors suspended in doubt of her own SMV in order to determine the best one among them for short term sexual provisioning and long term security provisioning.

As ever, the intent here is to determine the potential for genuine enthusiastic sex – if there’s no interest, or hesitant acceptance: NEXT.

At the time of my writing these posts I was castigated for exactly the same rationale that femosphere bloggers are now endorsing Yes Means Yes with today. The (now scrubbed from certain blogs) criticism then was one of how terrible it was for Men to punish women by not playing along with feminine-primary Game.

Only two years ago the criticism was, “What? You just want some whore who gives it up on the first night?”

However, under the Yes Means Yes initiative, this Three Strikes pragmatism is flipped and endorsed by the women who were previously outraged by it. YMY fosters a social environment which actively promotes Pump and Dump sexual encounters, since the furtherance of that sexual relationship into an LTR increases the risk and liabilities that are the result of the YMY threat point.

Commenter jf12 from last week’s thread:

YMY makes a good case for men abandoning what women consider to be their assortative equals, i.e. women who are older, crankier, and more likely to say no, for women who are younger, nicer, and more likely to say yes. YMY is a total green light for men to push for sex immediately if not sooner.

So the question becomes one of how men will most pragmatically develop contingencies for the YMY threat point in their own sexual strategy? In an age when Sheryl Sandberg is openly telling young women to fuck the Bad Boys, and settle down with the Nice Guy before her SMV decays into non-competitiveness, when open hypergamy is not only embraced, but proudly preached in the media, what logical choice do men have but to push for sex immediately and go their own way?

YMY combined with Open Hypergamy promote a sexual marketplace based on enthusiastic consent for Alpha Fucks, and mitigated, ambiguous consent for Beta Bucks. Now add to this environment the effects and behaviors inherent with women’s Ovulatory Shift on a monthly basis and we can begin to see the latent purpose behind Yes Means Yes – insurance against regrettable sexual behavior.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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“This is how the law still allows men to escalate: nonverbally *ascertaining* consent by confidently *provoking* a definite response as a tool for *ensuring* consent (or not …). Be the tool. Be the dipstick.” No. The girl can always come back later and say “But I never actually said ‘yes’. He misread me. He misunderstood me. I did not give affirmative, conscious and VOLUNTARY agreement to what he did to me.” The “definite response” you’re talking about is her helping you undress her, or her raising her hips so you can slip her panties off. But this doesn’t get you… Read more »

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“There is an old trick that you ostracize, you ridicule, you isolate, and you keep repeating. These are…rules that are well known to people that have read certain books…yes, that would be Alinsky.” -Dr. Ben Carson

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Good news the crime of rape longer exists in an objective legal sense. Rape is now at the whim and imagination of any individual woman. Maybe this is bad news. Either way we men are now free to assume most rapes never happened in our objective reality, but only in the heads of the ladies as a result of feels. In other words this is no longer our problem, at least not collectively. Further the YMY law and certainly it’s soon to be antecedents will make all men “rapists” as opposed to the few rapists. Which has perverse benefit of… Read more »

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Uh, no. The crime of rape (nonconsensual penetration, no matter how slight) very much exists. The penalty for rape is multifaceted and dire. Sexual battery is any nonconsensual touching and although not as penalized as the crime of rape, prison and lifetime monitoring would be in your future. YMY changes what constitutes consent. Your attorney may try to parse the new YMY rules to characterize her enthusiastic implied nonverbal cues as step-wise affirmative consent, but you would have a rather uphill burden of proof. Better to get her to sign a presex agreement where you both initial consent to each… Read more »

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@ Buena Vista

“You know, I think we’re on different planets sexually, I think I should leave.”

The implication is that she doesn’t arouse you enough to hold your interest despite her resistance. And women most want to be desired by sexually desirable men.

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Yes.

All this seemingly futile effort to logically parse this law are in fact futile.
The only logic that makes sense is that it serves to “remove all limitations on women’s sexuality while maximally restricting men’s sexuality”.

But I do appreciate the analyses of how this will play out in practice, and the take homes of how to navigate the SMP with the policy in place.

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The only resolution for men in mass is for every male to realize his masculinity or trust and follow “the iron rules” living alpha if he is not already naturally and learn this reality. This alone would stop the feminine imperative in its tracks and eliminate most of the damaging cultural bullshit. There is absolutely no good reason for any man to place any woman in a position of power over him in his mind no matter how hot she is. Doing so, always leads to misery for the man. It is pathetic and never leads to the sex a… Read more »

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The larger purpose of “remove all limitations on women’s sexuality while maximally restricting men’s sexuality” is to make “women want sex just as much as men do” seem more true. Women have always had Freudian male-libido envy.

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@Badpainter, re: “In other words this is no longer our problem, at least not collectively.” I think probably YMY was intended to induce the exact opposite feeling in men. It goes to show you how little women understand men’s feelings. It is possible that the weird shadows, formlessness, fogginess, and shimmering vagueness around this law that all we men can so easily discern were not supposed to have been seen by us. We are, correctly, saying “It looks like it’s enveloped in a Someone Else’s Problem field” (whether that someone else is loose women, or lawmakers, or whoever), but I… Read more »

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Yes. All this seemingly futile effort to logically parse this law is in fact futile. The only logic that makes sense is that it serves to “remove all limitations on women’s sexuality while maximally restricting men’s sexuality”. That and advancing female supremacy and hatred of men. But I do appreciate the analyses of how this will play out in practice, and the take homes of how to navigate the SMP with the policy in place. As usual the conclusion is up the alpha. I wrote before about the benefits of menopausal women as lovers. To that I will add that… Read more »

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Sorry for the double post. There was a delay in it going up.

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According to the science, what works to get your way is acting mean and showing anger in your face. Otherwise they won’t think you’re credible.

Reed L, DeScioli P, Pinker S. 2014. The commitment function of angry facial expressions. Psychological Science, 25(8), 1511-1517.

Sell A, Cosmides L, Tooby J. 2014. The human anger face evolved to enhance cues of strength. Evolution and Human Behavior, 35(5), 425-429.

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“The cold spike of fear” causes men to take greater risks.
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/19/opinion/sunday/are-women-better-decision-makers.html

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Professional muckraker rakes up muck, is shocked, shocked I tell you, to find herself immersed in muck. Then she tells you she just wanted to play more Mario Kart after all.
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/29/opinion/anita-sarkeesian-on-video-games-great-future.html

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A question for the genuine players out there. How much more difficult is to garner enthusiastic consent compared to simply breaking down resistance? I might be wrong but from my take there are three levels to the game: Enthusiastic consent – Uber alphas who instantly create attraction. Breaking down resistance – The skilled practitioner who understands the game. Supplication – The average guy who buys his way via investing resources (time, gifts, dinners, employment status etc.). Seems to me YMY is aimed at locking out the ‘resistance breakers’ (PUA and betas learning game) as these guys have found a backdoor… Read more »

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Professional muckraker rakes up muck, is shocked, shocked I tell you, to find herself immersed in muck. Then she tells you she just wanted to play more Mario Kart after all. Mario Kart folks are not “gamers” in the real sense of the word. At least not *most* of them. The reason why certain games are considered to be more “core games” than others is because of the market share they have. Warcraft and CoD have a huge, huge marketshare, such that they are “core” games. Diablo, Starcraft, Civ, etc. People who have played games know what core games are,… Read more »

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I had women call the cops on me twice. One was last summer, one was about two weeks ago. In the summer incident, I talked to her, and barely a sentence came out. She then called the cops on me. When the cops came to the park, I thought that they were coming to inspect a blown transformer. As I continued about a little less than a mile around a track, then the police stopped me. They asked, “Do you know this woman?”. I said “No.” There was no crime for them to press charges on me. They let me… Read more »

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With a worldview like the one NNJ just graced us with, I think this is beyond the scope of what mortal men can set straight. Perhaps it may be true that only professional female sex workers can save civil society at this point. That would be the only remedy I could ever see to this poor guy’s bumbling, religious, quasi-psychopathic frustration.

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Great article. Are you available for personal consultation?

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Great article!

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As rigthly stated above, there is no legal way for sex to happen under the YMY law. 1) consumption of alcohol or drugs makes your consent null and void, but if you’re accused and did drink it doesn’t matter, cause still you were supposed to rightly interpret the accuser’s non-consent. 2) Without recording your every intimacy, not only sex you simply cannot prove you had consent. 3) the obligation for “ongoing consent” cannot be met just by signing some paper, because that only happens once and is therefore not ongoing. See, I’m a good guy or beta, meaning I don’t… Read more »

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No one mentioned that when a new law passes, there’ll be new quotas imposed on the law enforcement officers?

A beta male’s reputation and a law enforcement officer’s salary advances and promotions are at odds.

Guess why the beta male goes to jail…

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Deti

The judge and lawyers likely graduate from the same law school.

For every court room drama, there are at least 3 lying lawyers.

The judge (aka 3rd lawyer) can ignore any evidence at his perogative, making the statute wording irrelevant.

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Clearly, there isn’t ever any LMR when the woman is convinced it’s her job, her role, to please the man. The only time there *can* be LMR (sit up straight and pay attention, this is extremely important for you to grok) is when the woman thinks her role is to make it difficult for the man to please her.

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Nah, LMR can also just be reputation-polishing, phony ‘good girl’ window dressing. As in, “[Fluttering eyelids] I can’t believe I’m doing this, this is so unlike me I think we should stop …”

I don’t know why a man would waste his time with a “woman who thinks her role is to make it difficult for the man to please her.”

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@BV, I agree that LMR can be phony, but even then it still comes from her mental place of him having to prove himself to her. As for the big, big question “why a man would waste his time with a “woman who thinks her role is to make it difficult for the man to please her.”” 1) I was raised to believe the manliest role was drafthorse. I was taught that the bride is groomed by, tended by, the husband. 2) As a beta my entire life experience of interacting as a man with women is that they go… Read more »

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Lesbian bed death is an extremely well documented phenomenon. Closely related is lesbian relationship death. Now that the statistics are better, it can be seen everywhere in the world lesbians get divorced at more than twice the rate of gay men. I believe the *causality* is the same as for hetero women filing for divorce at more than twice the rate of gay men: the women’s flightiness being catered to.

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Love contracts, presex agreements, etc are all 100% nullified by YMY.

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oops, edit error “hetero women filing for divorce at more than twice the rate of hetero men”

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re: projection. In all the normal i.e. nonrapey situations we’re discussing, LMR, whether phony or not, whether a shit test or not, is an attempt at DHV by the woman. The most amazing hall-of-mirrors ideas (no, this isn’t narcissism) come from realizing that the sexes tend to be projecting the behaviors they want/need in the other sex. In this case, LMR isn’t precisely a plea from the woman for the man to get reluctant, but for him to DHV to her. And naturally, of course, all the foot-kissing and petting and panty-removal services etc that almost all men *have* to… Read more »

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More big-picture stuff.
http://www.washingtonexaminer.com/yes-means-yes-opposition-its-about-due-process-not-misogyny/article/2555316

I think I am sneaking up on a logical inconsistency in SJW policies, so help me thing it through. When we respect the right of a woman to change her mind (be it manifestations of YMY, or LMR, or whatever), we have to insist on the truth that she *changed* her mind. We cannot be forced to say that the way she is feeling right now about what she did earlier is the *same* as how she was feeling earlier, while preserving her right to have *changed* her mind.

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Off topic, but I comment enough on topic. The sexual alphaness of a male towards a female is exhibited by her wanting to please him, and the sexual betaness of a male is exhibited by him needing to please her. A man’s alphaness obviously and definitionally does not cause her to more require him to please her, i.e. alphaness does not rub off like that. And also betaness is not transferrable, no matter how much we betas wish that our women-pleasing caused women to want to please us. Moreover, the social dominance of a male in a male hierarchy is… Read more »

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re: Cosby. Bill was a world-renowned hardcore partier for decades. It seems a lot of women feel that Bill’s philandering affected them personally, as if they were Clair and he Cliff living a secret life.

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prolonged sexlessness for women will increasingly drive them to alphas who, regrettably for the sort of women driving this lead balloon of a “law”, actually have “standards”. HB1-10 type standards. And since there are only 24 hours in a day, constraints also. Looks like the femfraud push into gaming is wise after all, they’re going to have to entertain themselves somehow when they lurch into LadyOmegaWorld. Dumpster-diving is off the table. And the licensed trade is going to take a kicking too. I’ll bet every burglar in Britain wishes they could take refuge in “well I done that house yeronner,… Read more »

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“.. deposit in cash”, of course. We weren’t complete savages.

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re: “Also saved a heck of a lot on plumbing”

It’s the men’s fault, and boys’ fault.
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/28/health/latrines-may-not-improve-health-of-poor-children.html
and it were the doggies that did it, probably male doggies.

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@Johnycomelately

“October 28th, 2014 at 7:09 pm

A question for the genuine players out there.

How much more difficult is to garner enthusiastic consent compared to simply breaking down resistance?”

There is no comparison. “Garner enthusiastic consent” is the same as “breaking down resistance”. Consent Is only given when negotiation is involved. Desire never involves consent. Either she wants you or she does not.

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off topic
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4478040.stm

Romantic love ‘lasts just a year’

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I am amused that someone elsewhere pretended that “those scoring high in psychopathy may devalue kindness in a potential long-term mate in order to create a drama-rich environment” did not apply almost entirely to women. Men try to find kind stable women, and call them unicorns.

Yes, I’m wearing a suit and tie, btw.

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@Johnycomelately The further you are from the alpha side of the spectrum (most of it by your inherent value), the more resistance you’ll get from her. Girls do subconsciously evaluate you in an instant, just like a man, from a strictly Alpha Fucks position. Some PUAs will tell you otherwise but this simply isn’t true. I’m a college student surrounded by prime pussy all day. My environment, let alone my experiences, has led me to this conclusion. Sure, some old PUAs who go on the hunt for young pussy do make it happen via game but there’s a reason why… Read more »

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There is no comparison. “Garner enthusiastic consent” is the same as “breaking down resistance”.
I thought the “enthusiastic consent” thing simply meant letting them pack their snouts with coke?
As opposed to the “overcoming resistance” condition, which means they fill their hollow legs with 40% a.b.v., and you hope they don’t puke.

Or is the first condition also accounted impaired judgement/unconsensual? And will the judge give a monkey’s, if she’s got the prospect of sending a man up the river?

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@Buena Vista re: “It’s charming but also speaks to a lack of curiosity that I find puzzling and occasionally a challenge.” (from somewhere else) Yeah, it’s childish for me to do this cross-blog stuff, but I’ve kept it to a minimum, considering (I was averaging 200 comments per day for a long while. My restrictor plates have left me throttled down.). Anyway, sexually “charming” “lack of curiosity” “puzzling”, and “challenge” tend to describe my women for me too. And it’s not that they don’t *like* doing new(ish) things, it’s as if (as if!) the thought had never crossed their mind… Read more »

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Someone else needs help incorporating indifference.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2811461/Jennifer-Lawrence-blindsided-intense-Chris-Martin-ending-four-month-romance-concerns-chose-nothing.html

Seriously, though, he wasn’t actually smothering her. They spent a lot of time apart, and not him waiting at home for her, and he spent a lot of additional time dealing with Gwyneth. But the man is indeed *intense*.

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WTF? Someone or “people” are alleging that Bill Cosby sexually assaulted women?

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Tinder Master, when you say ‘lopsided’, do you mean that while there are more women on your campus, they still concentrate their interest on the top 10-20%, revoking the apparent benefit of a 55-45 or 60-40 female-male ratio?

–older man

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” it was the first time in their lives that they had ever seen their stuff, and they cried about how wonderful etc.”
lolwut; don’t modern paperless offices even have xerox machines anymore? what did they think those things were for, fanny-tanning?

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JF12, a lot of women are still in high school. For them, sex is something many women allow men “to do.” I would make this generational, but have experienced it with 20-somethings. I’m sure in your case its generational, plus the willful ignorance is backed up by Scriptural reference. When I was a kid, Our Bodies, Ourselves was all the rage. This precipitated a bull market in speculums and handy mirrors. Whatever. I still don’t know how I ever found a clit under all that fur. On occasion, I’m not sure I mind the naiveté in the anatomy department so… Read more »

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Deti, yes. It’s not in the MSM because it appears he’s getting the Clinton treatment.

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Walking out like you’re a man with options is the best way to get out of the Maybe Zone quickly. Works so much better than protracted begging and Nice does. Nice doesn’t work for shit, in fact.So does just showing up and without saying more than two words, going to work with a big embrace, huge kiss and being very physically assertive. The way the laws are changing though, it really disadvantages men. You’re going to have to be reckless if you want to score like a hero, women bitch that there are no good men but then legislate away… Read more »

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@BuenaVista Yes, that is exactly what I am saying. My campus is comprised of 44% of men and 56% of women (I confirmed this via my uni’s current demographics). Even with the abundance of females, their hypergamy still restricts them from “assortive mating” or from abiding by a ratio that benefits men*. I believe that in some way, girls are innately predisposed to seek out the top 10-15% of men on campus (or anywhere for that matter). I’m still kind of new to this whole “redpill” thing so I don’t know if anything else will back me up on this.… Read more »

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Holy Batshit Robin! How can Joe Blow immediately above get ithe whole thing so right by “walking out like you’re a man”, while “Consent Bro” in that Post story gets it so wrong?? He was inspired by Emma Watson?? Let’s you and him fight indeed. Fuck me raw with a crazy straw. I mean, OK, I guess we need freshman orientation classes to tell guys not to fuck drunk chicks. Guess I’m down with that, apparently because, sadly, too many of us beta cunts will fuck drunk chicks and be gobsmacked why bad things happen. But the rest of it?… Read more »

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re: ” I’m sure in your case its generational” Yes, but actually it is the tendency to lack of curiosity, which isn’t generational. FWIW, which isn’t much, of the women who’ve mentioned to me or near me through the years about their preference of a gynecologist’s gender, except for the surprisingly few shy ones (like I’ve mentioned, women have tended to treat me like another woman) who didn’t want a man seeing things, the overwhelming majority have preferred a man doctor, claiming that women doctors were rougher and less interested. The published data suggests my observation tends to be true… Read more »

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Thanks, TM. While it’s a ‘sphere truism, it’s still shocking to me. And ominous for the social future. At least you’re figuring this out a couple of decades before I did.

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My mind is still in the latrines (and all my women readers agree). The nytimes article makes it sound like the men and boys and male dogs are flinging their feces all around the latrines, making the womynz sad. The actual study, however, points to “suboptimum use of latrines constructed as part of the Total Sanitation Campaign, particularly by men and children, and for the disposal of child faeces” http://www.thelancet.com/journals/langlo/article/PIIS2214-109X(14)70307-9/fulltext The women are too lazy to drag their toddlers including the *girl* toddlers to the latrines, so the main problem with childhood diarrhea is that toddler poop is still tossed… Read more »

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@Fred Flange, re: “historically youthful”

That doesn’t really narrow it down, does it.

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Well, JF, you have more references than I have the energy to read in the original. I’ll take your word for it. In argument with your disparagement of nurses, during my recent unpleasantness, when I had five tubes stuck in my body, skull fractures, 15 ribs, flail lung, shoulder in 8 new pieces, hosed up with morphine, blah blah blah, one of my nurses offered daily to help me shower. On checkout day, she got mad when I refused her again. So I don’t know that I agree with your disparagement of nurses. I pleaded for the old battle axe… Read more »

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@BV, I have had some very caring women nurses through the years, all of whom were older and dare I say whiter than the uncaring ones. They are memorable because of their rarity.

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re: latrines vs lockerrooms. Well, well, J1G is leaving there, because of wishing the place could have had the “highly visible presence of and very active participation of Women”.

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YMY and alcohol is an interesting intersection, being taken advantage of while drunk seems to be a form of plausible deniability. There’s no denying females need sex and there’s no denying females preferably want sex from alphas but what’s a woman to do when she needs sex but can’t get it from an alpha? Alcohol. The immediacy of the need for sex temporarily trumps the alpha desire but doesn’t ameliorate the discust of betas so alcohol temporarily lowers the threshold of beta discust (any wonder the term ‘beer goggles’ came to exist). In the cold light of day that discust… Read more »

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“Girls do subconsciously evaluate you in an instant, just like a man, from a strictly Alpha Fucks position. Some PUAs will tell you otherwise but this simply isn’t true. I’m a college student surrounded by prime pussy all day. My environment, let alone my experiences, has led me to this conclusion.” you need to do better research. try this, meet a girl, talk to her tits, talk to the floor, talk about boring shit, see if the evaluation changes. next try game, see how that works. next wear the worst clothes you have, look completely broke, and try game, see… Read more »

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@jonnycomelately Interesting idea about alcohol and it’s use to accept betas. While I think there may be something to that, I’ve seen way too many women get sloshed to bed the alpha as well. I think the primary driver for alcohol is the same driver to almost all female behavior- in-accountability for her actions and her need to maintain all options viable at all times. Just as AFBB is a way for to have her cake and eat it too, alcohol allows a woman to have as many random sex partners as she likes- alpha or otherwise- while maintaining her… Read more »

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Yes, chicks really dig jerks. And both kinds of solutions to LMR, indifference and pushing through, are jerkish solutions, because that is what works.

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And if it were a snake it would have already bit you, but I’m here to point it out. That fact that women don’t want to admit that the jerk part of Game works so well is proof that women know it is a weakness of theirs.

And yes, it is bad to do bad, but it also is bad that doing good doesn’t work with women.

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Alphas are indeed happier, because women try to make them happy. Betas are unhappier because women treat them worse.

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If we aren’t going to discuss long-married LMR (which is my experience with it. After 15 minutes of making out and increasingly heavier petting on the couch in our pjs, we moved to the bed. She made a pit stop, and got a text from her sister. She climbed into bed still fooling with the phone “ooh, yeah, right there, ooh. Keep doing that, but I’ve just *got* to tell you about Honey Boo Boo. I know you don’t want to, but listen, please for me, I feel I’ve just got to put it into words. It makes me so… Read more »

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Well Deti, I think you are right but a bit off, if this is any indication. A hugely popular radio host up here in he GWN, just got fired. The claim is that he is sexually violent. This guy looks like Roosh, is considered hunky by most of the women I know (showing once again that Hartiste’s maxim of looks are not the biggest factor to women is right on). He is an Alphalpha! But even he is now going to be taken down. Alphalpha’s may push through the YMY law and get away with it, but only for a… Read more »

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jf12, long married LMR, like the example you give, is just another instance of the wife just not giving a shit. She’s happy with the oxytocins, so, of course, you should be too. You need to up your dread game, that’s the only tool we have left…..

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off topic The “catcall” video, where “hello” or the more modern “wat’s up”, is asserted to be full-blown sexual harassment. I run every day on the beach near my home. As I gaze blankly ahead of me, half of the women glance at me. If I neutrally glance back at them, roughly half look away and the other roughly half flash me the resting bitch face (google it!) glare. But about one in ten smiles and about one in one hundred says hello, to both of which I respond with a neutral expression and a casual wave of my hand.… Read more »

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@bbb, re: “up your dread game”

I agree. I keep saying that “nice” indifference, to include conciliatory indifference “oh well, maybe next week”, Does Not Work in LTR. The only tool that works is Dread which is necessarily unloving, actually de-loving, and estranging, and therefore bad. Empirically what works is when she thinks there is some kind of threat to her and/or to the relationship, i.e. when she thinks there are actual *negative* consequences to her behavior. Positive reinforcement does not work, at all.

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Again I ask. Is the fact that by law a woman’s right to change her mind MUST be planned for by the man, reason enough for him to keep trying after she says no?

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re: on the near futility of playing nice with the Feminine Imperative. Over to the Dal, they are going on about how the social stigma of a woman losing custody can keep her in line, because it’s so unusual for a woman to lose custody that her losing custody would imply there is something seriously wrong with her. But in accord with the FI, the threat of that stigma is *already* taken care of! The courts bend over backwards to allow way-out-of-line women to keep custody *because* it would be such a stigma. They don’t want to rub salt in… Read more »

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Lerman and Wilcox suggest that if women wanted there to be better relationships and better men, they would stay married to raise their sons in an intact family.
http://www.aei.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/IFS-ForRicherForPoorer-Final_Web.pdf

Obviously, because women do not stay married, then women do not want there to be better relationships and better men. What you see around you is what they wanted.

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OT still, but important. Getting a college degree for a woman is much less protective of her getting divorced than her getting a gender change. From Table 4 in the good longitudinal study of age 50-ish folks in
http://www.bls.gov/opub/mlr/2013/article/marriage-and-divorce-patterns-by-gender-race-and-educational-attainment.htm
Already by age 46, more than 35% of married women with degrees had already divorced. But less than 24% of married men with degrees had already divorced.

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It is not enough to have laissez-faire policies allowing competition when there are historical monopolies.
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/31/upshot/why-the-us-has-fallen-behind-in-internet-speed-and-affordability.html
What actually works is requiring competition, i.e. Dread.

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jf12- “What actually works is requiring competition, i.e. Dread.”

That might be the most profound thing you’ve ever said.

There is an underlying implication that is equally profound that being that a male-female relationship is not a friendly partnership, but an adversarial collaboration. The mistake men make is assuming a friendly partnership.

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My campus is comprised of 44% of men and 56% of women (I confirmed this via my uni’s current demographics). Even with the abundance of females, their hypergamy still restricts them from “assortive mating” or from abiding by a ratio that benefits men*. I believe that in some way, girls are innately predisposed to seek out the top 10-15% of men on campus (or anywhere for that matter). I’m still kind of new to this whole “redpill” thing so I don’t know if anything else will back me up on this. @TM — Yes, precisely. In any scenario or setting… Read more »

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If I understand correctly, one aspect of hook-up LMR is that it is the last stand, the last gasp of ASD. But if women know they are guaranteed an ex post facto ASD “I shouldn’t have wanted to do that last night”, will there be less LMR in hook-ups?

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“Have you ever bothered dating a nice guy? Ew.”
http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2014/10/10-reasons-to-give-a-nice-guy

I suppose the real question is why nice guys would bother dating. And of course the answer is the possibility of sex.

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Ted Rall brings up something.
“The problem with [YMY] is that it tacitly validates the attempted defense of many accused rapists that women are too hard to read, that if they’d known that their aggression was unwanted, they would have backed off.”
http://www.latimes.com/opinion/opinion-la/la-ol-rall-affirmative-consent-yes-means-yes-sex-contract-20141029-story.html

Jian G: “May I surprise you by punching you repeatedly in the head for no reason?”
Her: “No!”
JG: “That’s cool. So, you wanna hang out tomorrow?”
Her: “No!”

vs

JG: says nothing, just starts pounding her, making her cry
H: “Ow! You jerk! What did you do that for?”
JG: “B-tch, get outta here. So, you wanna hang out tomorrow?”
H: “Ok. Thanks for asking nicely.”

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@redlight “you need to do better research. try this, meet a girl, talk to her tits, talk to the floor, talk about boring shit, see if the evaluation changes. next try game, see how that works. next wear the worst clothes you have, look completely broke, and try game, see how that goes.” You’re basing your premise off extreme behavior that doesn’t (or hardly) exist with the average male. I’ve never met a guy who would strictly talk to the floor, or her tits, while conversing with her. Sure some men do talk about boring shit, but you’ll be surprised… Read more »

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bbb, 11:10 a.m. on getting checked out on the beach and getting the hairy eyeball if he returns the glance to half of the women, while the other half duck and cover: No, while I don’t run or walk on beaches, I do amble about NYC and DC a fair bit. I’ve never been anywhere like Manhattan for straight on eye contact from women on the street or in coffee shops, etc. It’s so straight-on strong I’ve always looked away, like half of the women who check you out on the beach. I’ve not noticed bitch glares from women who… Read more »

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The YMY law says that the affirmative consent must be ongoing, and hence the “ensuring” and “ascertaining” of that consent MUST be performed absolutely continuously with no letup and no breaks. You are not merely required to ask “Can I now touch the left one?”, you are required the keep asking, every millisecond of every minute you engage in touching the left one. Ongoing.

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It is possible to only love a woman for what she brings into your life (sex,companionship, motherhood, etc.) but it should always be your life and you need to be able to look at your relationship through the same lens as everything else. Devoting oneself to a woman without context is foolishness and she will cheat on you in disgust.

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TM, who is quite articulate I think: “Young girls do evaluate men fast for Alpha Fucks like men evaluate women for quick bangs.” It’s not just young girls. It may be more extreme with older girls. Since I started (jokingly, usually) sexualizing my conversation with any attractive woman, attached or not, the results are staggering, if not unnerving. I get the sense that the older girls are reading the sex-pozzie stuff directed at the younger women, and they feel like they’ve missed out. Anyway, to your point, the go,no-go, “yes you’ll do, no thanks buster” decision cycle is immediate. Yikes.… Read more »

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@Buena Vista, re: “Since I started (jokingly, usually) sexualizing my conversation with any attractive woman, attached or not, the results are staggering, if not unnerving. … I’m getting more and stronger responses — by signaling availability in the first 60 seconds — than I have in my life.”

Cosign; I’ll be Thomson if you’re Hancock. Instant sexualization, as well as “ongoing” escalation, works frighteningly well. I suppose that’s why we were told not to do it.

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It is possible that YMY can make nice guys into bad-enough boys. Black Knighting suggestion.

BK: “We really shouldn’t be doing this.”
Her: “I know!”
BK: “For example, I could be thrown into jail for doing this to your left one.”
Her: “I know! And my right one next!”
BK: “Heh, heh.”

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The big that Ezra Klein, and every other woman, gets wrong about YMY is that men do not respond like women to “a cold spike of fear” “throwing everyday sexual practice into doubt and creating a haze of fear and confusion over what counts as consent.”

Men will NOT tread more cautiously, timidly, and slowly. Depending on their personalities the men will either accelerate “damn the torpedoes” because DIYDDIYD, or give up entirely.

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Dr. Helen makes the point that “sometimes experience is the only teacher”, in regards to gifted kids, but it applies in general. Almost always nobody is qualified to teach a truly gifted child except another truly gifted individual, and hence the gifted kid learns almost entirely by experience.

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“men will either accelerate “damn the torpedoes” because DIYDDIYD, or give up entirely.” many men even slightly below alpha cruiser class won’t strike their colours, but will definitely scope her out to ensure she’s a prize worth boarding, and not a rustbucket feminist-registered Q-ship, awash with toxic bilge. And then, as you say, full steam and battle stations it is, mister. I also foresee a vast ghost fleet of squat, shouty, pouchy-faced women with garish multicoloured hair roaming the social media gulf and the ocean of bars like flying dutchwomen, for many years to come, in vain search of prey.… Read more »

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Yes Means ? Although Emerson College has an “ongoing consent” standard which all students, male and female, get mandatory training on, Jillian Doherty’s lawsuit is based on her claim that the college should have trained her better and prevented her from getting drunk and climbing into a boy’s bed. “The Defendants’ are ignoring the fact that they knew or should have known that sexual assaults were happening to Emerson students,” the opposition states, “yet they failed to take precautions to prevent them from happening.” http://www.berkeleybeacon.com/news/2014/10/30/former-student-opposes-motion-to-dismiss-lawsuit All but one of the facts are not disputed. Jillian had been an enthusiastic consenter… Read more »

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@Tam. So you think “Arr! Ahoy, matey!” will be the new pickup line?

Maybe we can shorten it to “Ahoy!”

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lol@jf12:-
“Avast there, ye lubber! Come alongside, and pipe Seaman Staines aboard!”

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I have to disagree with the tone of Rollo’s OP. 100% of women will throw LMR’s. They will do it to preserve their perceived chastity. They will do it so they don’t feel like a slut. They will do it because they don’t feel like having sex right now but can be convinced. You cannot have a Long Term Relationship or a normal sex life with most women if you are unable to blow through LMR’s. They WILL use sex as a weapon and this is a recipe for Deadbedrooms. The standard manosphere advice beats Rollo this time. A taciturn,… Read more »

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Would you rather have thin crust pepperoni, or the stuffed crust deluxe?

It must be lunch time.

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I’ll take door #2, Desired, for all the marbles, Bob.

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