Remove the Man 2019

In October of 2017 I wrote an essay titled Male Control. It was actually the second time I’d covered the topic of how a feminine-primary social order (a Gynocracy if you will) seeks to control its male population by deliberately sowing confusion about masculinity into multiple generations of boys, and later men. Prior to this I’d written another seminal post titled Remove the Man in which is outlined the ways in which that Gynocracy makes efforts to systematically remove men from our language. Usually this takes the form of ‘erasing’ the letters m-a-n from the English language wherever it appears in an official capacity (i.e. state bylaws, universities, legislative documents), but also in gender-neutral translations of the Bible now. The only real constant in all of this the deliberate erasure of ‘man’ and/or ‘men’ from that language.

But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought.

George Orwell

I wrote Remove the Man back in 2013 in response to one such effort by the Governor of Washington, Jay Inslee, who passed a bill to make state laws gender neutral. The effort actually began in 2007, but in 2019 a simple search for ‘gender neutral language’ will show you the extent and scope of this much larger effort. This essay served and the starting point for a larger awareness for me – that of the push to remove men and masculinity from more than just our language, but rather the removal of all things conventionally masculine. As Orwell states here, the thought, the thinking, about masculinity and men is the focus of the corruption.

But language is only one way that the concept of what is masculine is distorted for a purpose.

Today the American Psychological Association issued its first-ever guidelines for practice with boys/men’s. In it the concept of conventional (traditional) masculinity is outlined as ‘harmful’.

The main thrust of the subsequent research is that traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression—is, on the whole, harmful. Men socialized in this way are less likely to engage in healthy behaviors.

It would be easy to refute this basic presumption with countless examples of how all of these traits, most of which are innate parts of men’s evolved mental firmware, have been key in developing a civil society as well as healthy masculine identity. But what we’re seeing in this is a corruption of language that is leading to the standardization of the corruption of thought.

Stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression are evolved aspects of the male psyche that have served men for millennia. To the Red Pill aware man this is self-evident. What is less evident is the new context in which these ‘educated’ men apply meaning to these terms. Academia has been so thoroughly assimilated by the Feminine Imperative that the men making official decrees about psychological principle no longer have the insight to understand that their perspective is informed by ‘female-correct‘ thought.

There are two presumptions being made here:

First, is that men’s predisposition for stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression are the results of a patriarchal societies adverse influence on boys and men.

The belief is founded in blank-slate social constructionism. I addressed this in Old Lies:

They hate the very idea that a boy might act in accordance with an inborn masculine proclivity. They hate the idea that a boy might learn to be tough and resilient at the expense of a vulnerability (weakness) because it contradicts the equalist belief set. They hate the idea that boys and girls have innately, biologically, different ways of dealing with emotions that don’t align with their belief in a blank-slate. To force them to accept this would be to force them to abandon deeply ego-invested beliefs that they themselves had conditioned into them by the same feminine-primary education.

Boys don’t naturally emote like girls, but when they refuse to align with the female-correct way of emoting we say that some patriarchal macho man, somewhere, in some movie, in some song, in some household taught that kid not to feel. He somehow learned that allowing his emotions to rule over him, to be vulnerable, to prioritize his feelings above his sense of rational self is what it actually is – a weakness that in our evolutionary past was far likelier to get him killed than to earn the praise of his equalist teachers.

Boys are simply not as emotional as girls – our brains did not evolve that way – but because we value the feminine above the masculine today we say this kid is doing it wrong. We say he learned to be an asshole from his macho dad or he learned to love firearms because of the latest rap song or a toxically masculine society that doesn’t exist. 

Now, granted, the men responsible for these psychological practices and their standardization tried to walk back the idea that conventionally masculine attributes weren’t “all bad”. This is expected because an aspect like stoicism can still be considered useful to a feminine-primary social order. It’s just that the larger social order wants the aspects of masculinity to manifest on its own terms and serving a female-centric utility.

A determined hard-driving man is what they want when the floodwaters start rising and women need to be carried to safety, but when a man uses that aspect of his masculine nature for his exclusive benefit, or a purpose that conflicts with feminine primacy, that’s when the aspect is defined as dangerous. However, the overall preconception is that there is some sinister influence of an old-school chauvinistic patriarchy teaching boys and men to be ‘toxically’ masculine. I addressed this fallacy in Old Lies, but this is one more example of how fem-centric society must cling to a clichéd parody of how boys must be being taught in order to cover the fact that boys are raised like defective girls today.

What is glaringly ignored is that these traits, and many more, are endemic parts of men’s evolved nature. Our emotional natures are not the same as that of women’s. Our brains are not wired the same as women’s. Men and women process emotions differently from the other, particularly negative emotions. This is a feature of the male brain, not a bug. But today the APA has decided unilaterally that men’s way of dealing with emotion is “incorrect”. Incorrect because the only correct way would be one that aligns with the women’s interests they’ve been conditioned to believe are only beneficial to larger society. To the APA, masculinity itself is a bug.

Secondly, this deliberate misconception relies entirely on social constructionism and almost entirely ignores the biological factors that contribute to masculine gender identity. I’m presently working on another essay that explores the dependency on blank-slate equalism as the basis for virtually every presumption the mainstream has about gender identity, so I don’t want to give too much away. However, the whole presumption of gender in humanist psychology depends on the falsehood that men and women are functionally coequal.

Accepting that failed notion of blank-slate equalism is what scaffolds the entire premise of this standard of masculinity. Masculinity is something that cannot be removed from society if its source is something that is unique to only men by virtue of their biology. They cannot ensure female-correctness as a societal standard if men and women are different. People like those in authority at the APA know this. It’s why merely talking about those innate gender differences is deemed a hate-crime today. Inspiring doubt in the blank-slate standard risks destroying the scaffolding for all their preconceptions of gender.

In the end this is one more, I think significant, effort in removing men and conventional masculinity from our collective thought. This standardization of how men should be ‘dealt with’ in therapy, or colored by in just considering men’s role in psychology is an ideological power play. Modern psychology officially doesn’t ‘get men’ anymore.

The latest Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) will now officially list ‘traditional’ masculinity as a hazard or a disorder for male humans. They can’t be called ‘men’ because that would gender them.

I read a few Twitter threads about this change to the DSM and I think they’re worth reading to get a better grasp of the gravity of this standardization:

On December 29th, 2018 I made some pretty ominous predictions about what I thought the manosphere and men in general could expect to see in 2019-2020. We’re not eve a week into the first month and a lot of what I expected is starting to develop. The gender divide is now a gender ‘Cold War’ and going forward I see the polarization between the sexes becoming even uglier than the 2016 election cycle.

This issuance from the APA is a foundation for how psychology – our Lords of the new church – will define what is acceptably ‘male’ and what is not. Furthermore it defines what aspects of masculinity is officially hazardous based on social constructionism and science denial.

Going forward I think Red Pill aware men will have to view mainstream psychology with even more suspicion than we do already. My Red Man Group colleague, Rian Stone, has mentioned that this equivalent of a “Papal Bull” from the APA represents a call to action for the Red Pill community and the manosphere in general to help men understand that conventional, “traditional” masculinity is not a disorder.

The Red Pill saves lives. I can only see this standardization as a net negative for men who are already five times more likely than women to take their own lives. Men seeking psychological help will only find their problems compounded by psychologists trained to believe masculinity is inherently toxic. And as a result we need to be prepared to help our Blue Pill brothers unplug and show them their inherent worth as conventionally masculine men.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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When my youngest was born, I was in the delivery room right behind the doc for the birth. I cut the core and informed my sweating wife ” she’s mine now.. “. I held her before my wife did. Not even my wife can tell her anything about me that goes against what she has witnessed from birth. The first 5 years are crucial, but so are the first few hours and the 9 months prior. Your kids can hear your voice inside the womb. Both my wife’s used to complain about the baby kicking when I spoke. They hear… Read more »

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There’s a lot of mocking in response to Gillette’s misandry.

https://twitter.com/JoeyPetri/status/1084878232388808704/photo/1

Memes are one way to push back, to “punch upward”.

By the way, Gillette is confirming Dalrock’s Law:

“Men are evil and need to solve all of women’s problems for them.”

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“Understanding this will go a very, very long way towards creating a bond that not even death can break – if you don’t purposely fuck it up somehow.” I was in the delivery room for all four of my children also, worked and sweated in the hot sun and freezing cold 14+ hours a day 7 days a week for 40+ years. My youngest is 24 and the oldest 36,one by one they have all come back and thanked me for their value system and returned the love. This isn’t the problem , they never should have had to thank… Read more »

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Here’s a fact based argument that has some emotion to it. I don’t know much about this Twitter account. However the numbers match what I’ve seen elsewhere.

” FYI: 43% boys raised by single women. 78% of teachers female. So half of the boys have 100% female influence at home, and 80% influence at school. Toxic masculinity is not the problem. Lack of masculinity is.”

https://mobile.twitter.com/BadIdeasVs/status/1085026453404536833

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But what role do men play in single motherhood? I’m serious. Even when I got divorced my ex wife wasn’t a single mother. Well, technically she was single because the state accepted that she was no longer l legally married, but she wasn’t a ” single mother ‘ because I didn’t divorce my child. The 40% thing hasn’t been apparent in my circles, but let’s just say the ” stats ” are correct ( see Will Rodgers regarding stats…), Why would this be? What’s collapsing and why? Why is it getting worse? ( No shade @j ) but listen to… Read more »

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I just saw an advertisement on television for T-Mobile.

They said with their plans, the whole family can have more texting and social media at lower costs. Included were examples of families laughing and joking while looking into the idiot box….er….smartphones.

Imo, if anyone wants to boycott something and start making an impact long term, these comm providers seen to be a great place to start.

Apple stocks fell recently, and discussions about how to get people to do more upgrades and phone replacement dominated the discussion.

We’re being played.

To our lifelong detriment.

Protest that.

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But what role do men play in single motherhood?

Sperm donor. Possibly a source for child support money.

You seriously claiming to have never seen a babymomma? Really?

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@ palma “If you suggest they become better women to attract a man they’ll lose their shit but are still drawn to you.” Oh yeah. The second a woman begins her lament I respond lightly, kinda embarrassed for her: “Perhaps if you were more feminine…you know…didn’t swear so much and some other things you’d get that special guy.” @ Blax “Why would this be? What’s collapsing and why? Why is it getting worse?” A man divorcing his wife is an overt rejection of the wife and a covert rejection of that part of the child your woman contributed to. Kids… Read more »

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Even when I got divorced my ex wife wasn’t a single mother. Well, technically she was single because the state accepted that she was no longer l legally married, but she wasn’t a ” single mother ‘ because I didn’t divorce my child.

Not All Divorces Are Like That (NADALT).

HINT: What is a “protection order” and how easy is it for a woman to get one?

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Not what I said. The 40% thing isn’t apparent in my circles, and that’s a large number across generations and multiple states. In my city for example, in particular parts of the city, single motherhood is probably closer to 80%. But the majority of the residents don’t have similar numbers. Not even close. So when ” statistics ” are calculated, how much does the 80%ers skew the total numbers, even if they aren’t anywhere near a majority? I’m skeptical and suspicious. What could be a possible agenda for playing up single motherhood data to the masses? Men bad? Woman bad?… Read more »

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Better question: why would a man involve himself with any Woman that would seek an order of protection in the first place?

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A man divorcing his wife is an overt rejection of the wife and a covert rejection of that part of the child your woman contributed to.

70% of divorces in the US are filed by women. It used to be 60%. I expect 80% in the next five years.

Take your TradCon “men are abandoning women!” story somewhere else.

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But why???!

90% of murders are committed by men. That number really doesn’t say anything. Why and under what circumstances? What motivated it? What could’ve prevented it? Was it ‘ justified ‘ or just brutal, senseless murder?

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Better question: why would a man involve himself with any Woman that would seek an order of protection in the first place?

Dunno. You’d have to ask them. It could be that people change with time and life events.

The blue pill provider world can become a pretty ugly place.

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@ AR Easy now on the knee-jerk response. My reply wasn’t about men or women but I wrote it such for grammar’s sake. It was a reply to Blax about kids and the long term effects of divorce, definitely not about who was the bad actor, who’s to blame. Hell, who even cares if women are divorcing men at record high rates? Has TRM taught men nothing if only that women do stupid shit all the time and huffing defensively, especially here, about it gets a person no-wheres? My comment was an example of how children see the divorcing parents.… Read more »

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“But why???!” It’s not about me,life isn’t a popularity contest at least not at others expense. What I see in my circles doesn’t ad up to a hill of beans,it is only a small spectrum of society and even smaller of humanity. My recipe for life has worked well for me,doesn’t mean it works for all. Men need to take stock in men and suss it out sure,only not just the bad. That has already been done for them by the media etc.. No what they need to find is the good qualities in themselves and others, not police each… Read more »

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Blax you need to go out and buy all your girls new phones with all the money you save from not shaving. You could be on the family plan together and set an example for all those dead beat dads. LOL

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“No what they need to find is the good qualities in themselves and others, not police each other and point out the bad, this only breeds more of the same.”

Amen, Brother boulderhead. Testify.

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90% of murders are committed by men.

abortion–your comment is controversial

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” . . .what they need to find is the good qualities in themselves and others . . . ” One of my early memories is of one of the largest men I had ever seen, standing on a kitchen stool, standing on a Utica Club beer truck (it turned out that the truck wasn’t quite tall enough), rescuing my kitten who had been stuck in the tree for three days. He had stopped to find out why my mother was standing on the sidewalk looking up into the tree and crying. I can’t drink beer, but Saranac also makes… Read more »

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Tribe of origin is a big part of how boys and men view themselves. This is their personal view of their father or other men in their tribe of blood ties will be internalized. This is why it is important to inventory this and find the best in it. The failure to do so is a negative hit.

Fleezer gets this part,as well as cheupez.

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abortion had nothing at all to do with what I said.

I know that’s a hot button topic for you and the crowd you’ve joined, but it’s not my thing and there are no fucks in my field to give.

Just sayin’.

If abortion gets your panties in such a bunch, then do something about it besides complaining and making snide remarks on a blog.

Or stfu about it.

Lol.

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90% of murders are committed by men. That number really doesn’t say anything.

What’s with the brainfade?

You short of sleep? Quit exercising entirely? Need some ginko to perk up your cerebral vascularity?

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EhIntellect Easy now on the knee-jerk response. My reply wasn’t about men or women but I wrote it such for grammar’s sake. It was a reply to Blax about kids and the long term effects of divorce, definitely not about who was the bad actor, who’s to blame. I get that you’ve gone back to your church and are getting a full dose of the brainwashing. Not my problem. Don’t drag that crap in here and expect anyone to respect it. We know what divorce and especially frivorce does to children. I have lost count of the number of times… Read more »

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Okay. I agree that my divorce wasn’t typical.

But why was that?

For the record, I don’t come here and yap away just for shits and giggles. I share my thinking/reasoning/Game to try and get men to see.

There’s nothing I have ever done that no other man can’t/couldn’t do. The only requirement is xy chromosome and the understanding that testicles aren’t there for balance or decoration.

*smiley face *

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Hint: I don’t berate men for pedestalizing women/pussy just because I find it entertaining. It’s crucial to good health to put women in proper perspective at all times. Makes it much harder for them to fuck with you.

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Okay. I agree that my divorce wasn’t typical. But why was that? Game. Like how my separation from Mrs. Gamer ended after she had filed. Game is quite a lot harder to do when you’re downrange in Fuckistan. Married military men have a tough row to hoe. If abortion gets your panties in such a bunch, then do something about it besides complaining and making snide remarks on a blog. Or stfu about it. I did and ended up being charged with a felony. It cost me my business and almost my marriage. I’ve written about this before. I guess… Read more »

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What’s with all the unearned indignancy? One foot in the grave, another on a banana peel worrying you?

Chill out.

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“One foot in the grave, another on a banana peel worrying you?”

Hey guy, I represent that remark!

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Most of the marriage advice I’ve received in this life has been from divorcees,fortunately I can’t remember any of it. None of them was that good at game either for that matter. Just goes to show an E for effort goes a long ways,if you keep trying eventually you’ll get lucky and have bragging rites. LOL

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The deal is guys like AR hypervaluate knowledge like a college professor would. Knowledge isn’t worth much unless applied. He doesn’t apply it much, hence no FR’s or anything beyond straight-up RP cliches and Henny-Penny responses. Hence his crusade against DPA. He can’t be measured by a standard beyond himself. It’s too shameful. These types are nervous when someone calls them on their Poindexter-heavy approach to life as it’s all they got. Oh, fuck! What happens when no one respects them for their knowledge no more? They end up like those guys buffered so deep in their BP fantasies when… Read more »

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@Eh

About AR, he may be a prick but he’s a consistent one. He doesn’t play favorites. It’s nothing personal. @Scribbler G would have ripped you a new ventilation system for that fopah before he moved on to banging 20yo hotties.

The facts are Women are the main initiators of divorce, they are also the least negatively affected by it in the short term,time will tell. Tradcon religeous types would have us believe different as they pander to women.

Don’t take it personal.

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Today I saw a ray of sunshine in a dark and dank pit. I was driving on an obscenely crowded highway that turned my normally 45 drive into a 90 minute shit show. I was listening to the radio/XM, and I decided to listen to a talk show just to see what the voices in the air were talking about other than the gov’t shutdown. And lo and behold, on a urban themed station, the topic was the Gillette commercial and Toxic Masculinity ( !!!!!!!….lmao ). It was a black woman’s show, and it seemed from the conversation that her… Read more »

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@ boulderhead

It’s all cool. Have a good evening.

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The Babylon Bee is probably the furthest thing from 4chan I can think of, and even those churchgoing, very gentle, satirists Get It regarding Gillette..
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PS: I know some individuals who own PG equity who are writing little notes to Investor Relations asking questions such as “Who had the idea to attack our customers?”

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“The main thrust of the subsequent research is that traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism,—is, on the whole, harmful. Men socialized in this way are less likely to engage in healthy behaviors.” Stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression – Males do not control a monopoly on these characteristics as one would be lead to assume males do or should by reading this. Although female manifestation of these characteristics is expressed a bit differently, don’t be fooled, females are no less inclined or able to exercise them. Those characteristics are equally found in ALL humans. We only associate them and (mistakenly) believe that they… Read more »

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The deal is guys like AR hypervaluate knowledge like a college professor would.

Oooooh, someone’s triggered. Nice set of preprogrammed responses, though it’s all been seen before. Not quite NPC level, though.

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“Stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression are evolved aspects of the male psyche that have served men for millennia.”

As opposed to serving women?

Do men “naturally” own these aspects more than women?

And all discussed, feared, and disdained herein about female hypergamy and the feminine imperative are not essentially the same evolved aspects, albeit expressed somewhat differently?. Remember hypergamy doesn’t care. Is that alone not extremely competitive? Is it not essentially stoic in a most dominant sense, especially because “men are the romantics”?

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Paul Newman served as a radio-gunner in torpedo bombers in WWII. He won multiple national sports car racing championships as an amateur (I watched him break his wrist in a race that didn’t go so good) and as a pro holds the record as the oldest driver to win in the 24 Hours of Daytona, 70. He turned his fastest laps at night. Charles Bronson grew up in coal country Pennsylvania. He didn’t speak English until he was in his teens and when his father died he went to work in the mines to help support his family, still in… Read more »

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‘these men were all killers” “Garner enlisted in the California Army National Guard, serving his first 7 months in California. He then went to Korea for 14 months, as a rifleman in the 5th Regimental Combat Team during the Korean War. He was wounded twice, first in the face and hand by shrapnel from a mortar round, and the second time in the buttocks from friendly fire from U.S. fighter jets as he dived head first into a foxhole. Garner received the Purple Heart in Korea for the first wound. He qualified for a second Purple Heart (eligibility requirement: “As… Read more »

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Thanks for posting that Blaximus. That was awesome! I’m going to have better REM sleep dreams tonight. LOL. My son just got home from his job as a new auditor tonight at 11:30 PM. He’s in a great place masculinity wise. He doesn’t mention anything of how hard it is for a man these days. He’s bright-eyed masculine. No complaints, and attractive by all measures including masculine. He hasn’t been derailed yet. “An auditor is someone who prepares and examines financial records. They ensure that financial records are accurate and that taxes are paid properly and on time. They assess… Read more »

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Blaximus I agree that my divorce wasn’t typical. But why was that? Because you are not typical. Duh. We all know that men show up on this site from time to time telling Rollo “Your site / books saved my marriage“. Typical Average Frustrated Chumps learn just the basics of Game and get enough Frame back to regain some control of the situation, avoiding the typical divorce. Knowing what the typical divorce / frivorce looks like, a man who wears The Glasses can at least coach a friend through the darkness, perhaps saving him from despair and all the bad… Read more »

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“What is glaringly ignored is that these traits, and many more, are endemic parts of men’s evolved nature.” Stoicism, competitiveness and aggression, are also endemic parts of women’s evolved nature. Deny this truth at your own peril. Women simply express these traits differently. We would not be living in a “gynocracy” today if women did not posses these traits in at least equal measure. Many a stoic competitive aggressive cunning bitch hides these traits behind a mask of feigned empathy and faked smiles. Do not be fooled. Women can be and are extremely aggressive. They are incapable of expressing their… Read more »

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Women are not sugar and spice and everything nice. Got it.

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“This issuance from the APA is a foundation for how psychology – our Lords of the new church – will define what is acceptably ‘male’ and what is not. Furthermore it defines what aspects of masculinity is officially hazardous based on social constructionism and science denial.” “our Lords of the new church” Ah! A ray of light, the truth, shins through all that is confucked and dark here. THIS is true. Yes. This phenomena is post modern puritanism. Its orchestrators and followers seek to “purify” humanity by eliminating “traditional masculinity”. All “toxic masculinity” must be totally repressed, completely muted or… Read more »

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You’re a coward.

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