The Script

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There is a certain formula most romantic comedies rely on to convey how relations between men and women ought to go. It’s an old formula, as in Shakespeare and Greek antiquity old. It goes something like this:

An avowed Alpha bachelor for life questions the existence and nature of love, the sincerity of women, the illogic of not living just for his own self-importance, certainly the institution of marriage and lives, according to his rules, a satisfying life. He rationally observes the “madness” of his friends and fellow men when they fall in love, and out of it. He either mocks their foolishness or is analytical to the core in understanding their madnesses. He is an elemental force of one – a captain controlling the course of his own ship. He’s not wrong in his estimations; they all add up, they all make deductive, provable sense.

That is until he meets her. The ONE special woman who miraculously, alone amongst billions, has the unique power to bring the facade of all that he thinks he is into stark, insightful self-realization. He’s bit by the bug, smitten by the only woman who could fatefully tame the arrogance of his otherwise cruel rationalism. It’s akin to a religious conversion; he’s seen the light, he’s in love and all of his former concerns are proven to be falsehoods – it’s the triumph of true love! The one thing he was missing (the one thing only a woman can possess of course), the last piece to a puzzle he didn’t know he was  putting together, has been added and now he is complete. And they live happily ever after,…

Every writer from Shakespeare to Bronte, to modern writers, use some variation of this outline. The locations, time periods and actors change, but the basic story doesn’t. If you need a contemporary example watch Gerard Butler (King Leonidas, 300) in The Ugly Truth. The reason this formula is so successful and timeless is because it is essentially the fantasy of love and emotionalism trumping logic and reason. Women naturally love this because it puts them into the position of being the ‘cure’ to a man’s illness while making him look like a brooding, sulking, bitter child for clinging so tenaciously to his rationalism, when all he was really pouting about was feeling unloved.

All his intense powers of rationality, all of his implicitly provable facts, all of his monuments and achievements of deduction mean nothing without the only irrational thing a woman can uniquely supply – unknowable, fantastical love. It’s part and parcel of the Myth of the Feminine Mystique which makes women the gatekeepers of the knowledge of love; don’t try to understand it with your silly boy-logic, just leave well enough alone and be eternally grateful to whichever god you worship that a woman has favored you with the love you need to be perfected.

In this story, the build-up to men realizing this is what stokes the feminine indignation that sustains women’s interest, but the real satisfaction is summed up at the end when he finally concedes to the feminine imperative and drops all his pretense and submits to love.

The satisfaction doesn’t last long though, because it was the build-up, the tension, the anxiety, the want of a woman to scream at the TV, “SHE LOVES YOU!! JUST GET IT YOU STUPID MAN!!” that was making it at all interesting. Once he’s submitted and seen her light, all of that fades away to predictable, boring comfort. She’s done with that romance novel, puts it in the pile of them at the garage sale, and moves on to the next. And he’s left with all the echoes of his past rationalism, and explaining to all those he’s influenced and built his reputation upon, how love conquers all and how wrong he was all along.

For that man, it’s the last chapter in the vindication of feminine primacy.

And they lived happily ever after,..

For women, the only thing better than experiencing this script vicariously through movies and stories is to see it happen live. David D’Angelo, Tucker Max are a few manosphere notable who’ve played the come-full-circle surrender to the script. There are far more guys who play it in a more visual sense (the repentant ‘Womanizer’ episodes on the Tyra Banks show comes to mind), but no one really remembers them, and certainly not in the ‘sphere. While there’s a sense of vindication for women to have a guy surrender his anti-social (i.e. anti-feminine primary) lifestyle and beliefs in favor of a feminine paradigm, and “settle down” into a feminine framed, normalized monogamy, surrender is still surrender. Essentially the strong vibrant man who posed such a challenge to her, the one who’s steadfast determination and conviction made him a man she was hot for as well as one she could respect, loses his status.

He’ll say, hey, you don’t know where I’m at in life, you don’t know the experiences I’ve had, life has taught me the value of compromise. Women fundamentally lack the capacity to appreciate the sacrifices a man must make to facilitate a feminine reality, but if there’s one thing women outright despise, one thing men foolishly believe women should be able to appreciate, it’s a man willing to compromise the beliefs he’s established his reputation and integrity upon in order to facilitate her feminine reality. That’s the definition of a sell-out.

After the happily ever after comes the living. He can console himself in his new paradigm, he can hole up in a cocoon of domestication and simply not answer the phone calls of all his old friends who are also playing into the script, who are really only waiting to commiserate with him, but his new domesticity compromise wont allow him to. His old life is gone right? Love conquered him, made him a new man, ready to live up to the new, correct, feminine expectations he formerly railed against, but has been enlightened to and now calls his new masculine purpose. He’s been converted.

He looks into that girl’s eyes, the one who changed him for the better, but the memory of the urgency, the desire to tame him, the adrenaline he inspired all seem like an old song that reminds her of that thrill.

 

I would never wish ill on my fellow man, no matter his crimes, no matter his station, so I wont do so now. I sincerely hope nothing but the best for any man making this surrender, he will need every good fortune that comes along in the face of compromising his reputation and purpose in order to facilitate a woman’s primacy.

However, I’ll add that I also make it my policy never to speak ill of the dead.

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Coyy
Coyy
8 years ago

Ahhh….rollo, This MM and GK affair has just taken investment of your time and energy. Just keep writing and debating ideas it’s what you do best.
For most however the manosphere has become a sort of buffer. An easy substitute for keyboard jockeying. Hence the frenzy over MM affair. it has put a wrench in their ” i hate marriage ” circlejerk .Forget it man. This blog like everything else is just a tool. Learn , use and contribute. Kapish

mikec74
mikec74
8 years ago

Rollo,

Thought you might like to know Susan turned off commenting over at HUS. You had that called from Day 1 that having any real debate and discussion over there was a farce.

Rollo Tomassi
8 years ago
Reply to  mikec74

Yep, I tweeted about it. I doubt it’ll last though. She can only go so long before her ego needs the medicine only her sycophants can give her.

Rotten
Rotten
8 years ago

Im late to this discussion, and haven’t read the comments. So I just wanted to add that the trope referred to in the article is called “the players gets played.” Act one. The player establishes his alpha cred by doing alpha actions Act two. The player meets the girl breaking some of the rules of player cred established in Act One Act three. The girl shit tests the guy possibly even dumping him and he chooses the girl over the player lifestyle for good. This makes for a good fictional story, but real life doesn’t work out this way. The… Read more »

sunshinemary
8 years ago

@ Rollo
re: Susan’s comments about where you supposedly live

I think it is atrocious that she revealed personal information about you. It is like a code of honor among blog administrators not to do that to their commenters. Why did she do it?

Rollo Tomassi
8 years ago
Reply to  sunshinemary

It was funny because I was living in Florida when she posted that.

HanSolo
8 years ago

Before the comment ban she deleted one of my comments. I used to love HUS a year and a half ago or two but it has gotten more and more totalitarian and more and more people have been driven away or chose to leave the madness. You can add me to that list now. The odd thing is I used to argue in her defense with Obsidian. But after many arguments where reasoning with her is like hitting your head against a wall and she just twists your words time and again you finally tire of it. Plus the excessive… Read more »

HanSolo
8 years ago

This post from Yohami seems quite appropriate:

http://yohami.com/blog/2012/05/29/my-hus-love-story/

I feel somewhat the same.

HanSolo
8 years ago

I will credit HUS for much of my red pill enlightenment. Mostly it came from the other commenters that used to be tolerated there, and gradually branching out to read other blogs, and eventually starting my own with a few other guys.

senorasilvermouse
8 years ago

Recently I’ve been lurking on these websites that are written from a man’s perspective. As a woman, I don’t appreciate male bashing or women who say they need to “train” their husbands. It’s refreshing to see a different perspective. Many of the complaints posted here against modern women (and against modern society) are valid. But after just two weeks, I’m already bored. I’m not meaning to collectively insult you, but can’t you turn your minds to something useful? Isn’t the loss of liberties in the US something to think about? Maybe bureaucratic overreach caused by legislative power given to unelected… Read more »

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
8 years ago

Speaking of Giggles, she’s shut down comments at HUS, for an undetermined period of time. I didn’t expect that this year..

Perhaps Mark and Kate can invite Hugo Schwyzer to be best man? He doesn’t have to attend the wedding, he could just cam in…pretty sure he has time on his hands right now.

BlackPoisonSoul
8 years ago

@senorasilvermouse – alas, darling troll, we didn’t know you well…oh shit, I just destroyed Shakespeare. Now I feel ass-shamed.

She’s right you know, we should all go and make millions of dollars as handymen and become as good at 50 Shades of BDSM as m’seur Grey and become more laconic and finally man up and marry those sluts…

*popcorn*

Bel Riose
Bel Riose
8 years ago

Looks like Matt King and Feministx will be the next to tie the knot. Here’s an excerpt from one of Matt’s recent posts at her blog: _____ …..this most essential advice is not emphasized enough in girl game. It’s what I told Kate of l’affaire Minter long ago, by the way. It’s what I told Petite Olive, what I told Maya, what I told … It is what I tell the girls and women I know. It is universally applicable, no matter how old you are. A woman on her own simply cannot navigate her own hypergamy. It is nearly… Read more »

Rollo Tomassi
8 years ago

It’s manosphere Christmas! Hugo Schwyzer goes down, Aunt Sue closes comments indefinitely and now Matt King is cyber-loving Femenistix!

http://feministx.wordpress.com/2013/07/30/my-infatuation/#comments

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
8 years ago

My dear, old, grey haired mother used to tell me “Things happen in threes”…

Tom
Tom
8 years ago

I still love Dick Masterson after all that’s been said and done. If ol’ Dick ever marries though…

lurker
lurker
8 years ago

Rollo — here is another illustration of hypergamy for you. Maybe another “Hypergamy doesn’t care ….” type of situation here.

http://www.nypost.com/p/news/national/cowell_married_sources_thing_wants_iXbOg6KsfD7FjZaSDxp6KP

The Other Jim
The Other Jim
8 years ago

Perhaps someone already brought this up, but the really weird part is the rapidity of how quickly Mark Minter went from rabid-red pill man to married schnook. I mean, I post here at Rollo’s, CH’s, and a few other places very infrequently, but everytime I popped in here Minter was on some 2000 word tirade against women, marriage, and the women in his life. In fact, it just seemed like it was only a month or two ago that MInter left his latest rant on Rollo’s blog. That it happened all so quickly is the weird and comical part. I… Read more »

The Other Jim
The Other Jim
8 years ago

Ok, one more thing. This bit about Hugo Schwyzer. Best entertainment this month! What a mess. There’s another aspect that hasn’t been answered regarding the photo’s of him jacking off in the plane on his way back from the Ukraine back in January 2013. Does anyone know why he was in the Ukraine in the first place? Unless it was for some conference, the only reason for a guy like Schwyzer to go is sex tourism. I see guys like Schwyzer all over SE Asia. Not just straight guys looking for some Thai/Filipina pussy but gay men looking for young… Read more »

Bobb Dobbs
Bobb Dobbs
8 years ago

Wasn’t there a article here the other day about Christmas or something that suddenly disappeare?

avd
avd
8 years ago

From the past two years of unceasing divide and conquer dissention being sown and pushed in the MS, who stands to benefit the most? (Hint, Rollo: it’s NOT Aunt Giggles, whoever that is.) Who has hard cash on the line and investors to please? Who does the MS hurt (besides feminists)? Whose livelihood does the MS threaten? Who has the time and resources and employees to engage the MS in multi-party “epic trolling,” over extended time periods? A blogger? I don’t think so. What singular entity has attacked: xsplat, Rollo, Roosh, and COUNTLESS other online personas? COUNTLESS. Let me repeat… Read more »

FuriousFerret
FuriousFerret
8 years ago

^^^^^^^^^^^^

YaReally is a pretty awesome poster. I have no clue why some people want to talk ill of him.

All he has ever done is try to provide FREE information to help other men. He also links to FREE videos on game concepts. He offers FREE feedback on situations and field reports.

Plus he’s pretty funny guy and he entertains me with his comments.

avd
avd
8 years ago

Commenters probably comprise ten percent of the readership. Furious has cast his vote, and I respect that. What of the rest of you? Ye or ne? You guys want an open source community, or a for-profit pickup industry community? They each have their respective pros/cons. I’m very curious where this will resolve. Are you guys going to fight to defend what you built over many years, or cave to interlopers? Inquiring minds want to know.

YaReally
YaReally
8 years ago

lolololol this made my night. Now I’m the rich boogeyman with a staff of thousands employing puppets to fake marriages and destroy the entire manosphere lol. This is awesome. You are my favorite hater ever and I hope you keep going with this so I can see what comes next. But I wish you wouldn’t waste Rollo’s comment space on it. For the record, as I’ve said before: 1) I heart Rollo. I never talk smack about him. His blog and CH’s are my favorites and I like that Rollo focuses on a deeper overall long-term game discussing bigger over-arching… Read more »

Ondrej
Ondrej
8 years ago

Hello,
I am rather new to manosphere after studying and practising Daygame. I heard you are going to publish a book, which I’d like to order and make your work famous in Eastern Europe:-) When is it going to be published? Quesstimation is ok.

YaReally
YaReally
8 years ago

Also for anyone who doesn’t read CH and doesn’t know, if you click my name on my comments you’ll be taken to the YaReally archive that Lumpy put together. It’s fully searchable and really well made (entire conversation threads are saved so you can see the context of my comments) and grabs my posts from CH and here. In fact this very post will be in it…this is like Inception lol Anyway, there are thousands of pages of free content from me there on all sorts of different game related subjects. Feel free to link to it if you have… Read more »

R.
R.
8 years ago

The picture is from a brazillian movie called “O Cheiro do Ralo”, deemed “Drained” in english.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0489458/

R.
R.
8 years ago

The picture that decorates this post is from a brazillian movie called “O Cheiro do Ralo”, called “Drained” in english.

IMDB link: imdb.com/title/tt0489458/

R.
R.
8 years ago

Sorry about the double comment… didn’t notice the pagination button on comments. 😛

Dd
Dd
8 years ago

Whose rear end is that in the picture? Need more detail.

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Mac
Mac
7 years ago

I’m a big fan, but am finding this post laden with hypocracy. If you are downing the man who has given in to the “Settling Down” dream of women, that I agree, escentially neuters him. Why do you speak of the married man as the “dead” if you yourself are a professed married man? Am I missing something here? If so, please enlighten me. Thanks.

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rugby11ljh
5 years ago

Fuck Rollo best post I’ve read…

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The Porcelain Doll
4 years ago

Reblogged this on ZeroToHero.

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Matt
Matt
10 months ago

“ It has gradually become clear to me what every great philosophy up till now has consisted of – namely, the confession of its originator, and a species of involuntary and unconscious autobiography; and moreover that the moral (or immoral) purpose in every philosophy has constituted the true vital germ out of which the entire plant has always grown.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche When reading anything you have written, this quote, like a “freight train”, always comes to the forefront of my mind. Almost like you are speaking of your shadow that you are very much still tied to, and will… Read more »

kfg
kfg
10 months ago
Reply to  Matt

There is no “grand solution” to F=ma, it just is. Make your peace with it and muddle through as best you can, still, it helps the muddling to know.

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
10 months ago
Reply to  Matt

At the conclusion of Voltaire’s Candide Professor Pangloss reiterates that this is “the best of all possible worlds”. Candide replies that we still must go and weed the garden.

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