Amused Mastery

I think a lot of guys get hung up on the term “aloof”. The word conjures up the idea that a guy has to pretend to be looking down his nose at some girl he’s interested in a lame effort to get her to qualify to him. When people read “aloof” they tend to think “haughty” or feigned disinterest. Throw that term away right now, because you don’t want to be “aloof”. What you want is AMUSED MASTERY.

Roissy made this distinction a couple years ago; there’s a difference between an arrogant ‘aloofness’ and a confident Amused Mastery.

A presence of Amused Mastery puts you into a position of maturity while still remaining playfully approachable and forcing her to qualify to you by acknowledging your mastery of her (really all women by association). An attitude of Amused Mastery implies to a woman that by virtue of your maturity and/or authority you’ve “seen it all before”, you already know what women mean when they say or do what she is, and it’s amusing to you. You’ll play along, but only so far as to cleverly poke fun at her attempts to get you to qualify to her. It means you never take her seriously, like a bratty younger sister, but also with the presence of mind of a senior Alpha male who knows her game before she plays it.

I’ll admit, I never fully appreciated the potential of Amused Mastery until I had a daughter. I found myself naturally using it with her because that’s the actual, unforced relation I have with her. When she was younger this added to my Daddy-Alpha credentials, but now that she’s 14 theres a history of my Amused Mastery she finds comfort in. However, I also noticed my wife finds Amused Mastery just as appealing, to the point that she includes herself in my Mastery over my daughter.

Amused Mastery is particularly effective for older men / younger women Game. Assuming you’re in reasonably good shape and have some degree of affluence, being older gives you a degree of authenticity. With maturity comes an expectation of knowledge and experience for Men. I’ve used Amused Mastery with my “pour girls” at promo events and it’s like cat nip for them. You become that Father figure to them (FILF?) that they crave, but can’t seem to get from younger guys. There’s a certain Alpha security dynamic at play between a woman and a Man who emits an ambient vibe of having been with enough women to be able to predict her shit tests, and then pass them with a casual roll of his eyes and a knowing smirk. When a man is giving off the cues of Amused Mastery theres an unspoken presumption by women that he “just gets it” when it comes to dealing with women.

Dominance

Another term that gets very abused both in the manosphere and the feminine Matrix is the word ‘dominance’. That word also conjures up a lot of preconceptions in people because it carries the same negative connotation the word ‘power’ has been associated with. Women will rarely admit to wanting a ‘dominant’ man or male influence in their lives because the word seems so binary and absolute. In the feminine defined equalism of the Matrix, if one partner is dominant the other must necessarily be submissive. After having been fed on a steady diet of “independent woman” tropes for the better part of the century, to admit to desiring a dominant man is to admit dependency upon him. Dominance is synonymous with aggression and oppression to this mindset, and women and feminized men have a pavlovian reflex response at even its mention.

On the red pill side we look at the truth of the dominance need women have for men. We can evidentially see women’s desire for dominance in their behaviors and the latent meanings of their words, but I think, at present, the manosphere also has a somewhat absolutist idea about what constitutes dominance. We classify it as ‘social dominance’ in that it indicates an Alpha status, but it really goes beyond this. Ideally I think most guys imagine dominance as having his particular woman present when he’s issuing commands to the underlings which he has power over as some form of social proof she’ll want to fuck him that much harder for.

After 50 Shades of Grey became a best seller it became sort of an ‘ah ha!’ moment even for the men still plugged into the Matrix. Women really do get off on being dominated, but this too is a very narrow facet of masculine dominance. Obviously the popularity of that particular type of fem-porn is enough to reinforce that women do in fact harbor fantasies of dominant men, but does it require a sex dungeon and bondage paraphernalia to confirm masculine dominance?

Personal dominance, social dominance, doesn’t have to be cast in such extremes. I am the dominant personality in my marriage and in my family, but that doesn’t mean Mrs. Tomassi plays step-and-fetch-it or wants me to include zip ties in the bedroom. Dominance is much more than making demands and issuing commands. I display it in my speech (even my silence), the way I dress, the status of my career, my attitude towards people on either end of that status spectrum, my tolerance and my intolerance, etc. As Men we have a tendency to think that the more overt our displays are the more women will take notice, but women are far more sensitive to the nuances of our actions than most could imagine. A little goes a long way, and what we think are useless gestures are often the most memorable for women.

Amused Dominance

I got ran up the flag pole by femosphere pundits when I wrote my essays on Dread and Dread Games. Women don’t like overt dominance, just as they don’t like overt objectification or adoration. It’s when it’s covert that they respond most favorably – women love to be objectified, dominated and adored, but only by men who know better than to remind her of it. I’ve always advocated the positive effect of maintaining an ambient threat of competition anxiety with women, but this form of dominance cannot be an overt display. Dominance must be playing in the background, only occasionally being amplified as situations warrant. Women need to know it’s there, but her imaginations of that masculine dominance are more useful to a man than a constant, present, overt reminder of it.

And thus we come full circle; Amused Mastery is a form of social dominance. That sense of knowing the answer before the question is asked, but still giving the answer with a smirk is a very effective form of demonstrating higher value (DHV). An attitude of Amused Mastery begins from a default position of social dominance.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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Any time you have to lower yourself to using explicit displays of status or power is seen as desperate act to grab for position.

The most resonant displays of high value is when it is shown in a stylish manner.

Any time I hear people brag about money, how badass they are, how much they can lift, I mark those people down as being deficent in those areas and as having low social status. The fact that someone has to verbalize displays of high value instantly cast doubt of that person’s worth.

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If you remind yourself that by default men communicate overtly and women communicate covertly, everything makes perfect sense. Covert communication of dominance is the best kind. Everyone notices it, but there’s no backlash. Even things like walking through a crowd. When you’re truly dominant people will make a path for you without you having to say or do anything.

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Excellent post….especially ties into LTR game I think This: Women don’t like overt dominance, just as they don’t like overt objectification or adoration. It’s when it’s covert that they respond most favorably – women love to be objectified, dominated and adored, but only by men who know better than to remind her of it. I’ve always advocated the positive effect of maintaining an ambient threat of competition anxiety with women, but this form of dominance cannot be an overt display. I think the part about it not being overt is absolutely essential. The magician can’t reveal the details behind the… Read more »

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Good post, particular the last part about keeping your dominance covert instead of overt. Subtlety is HUGE when dealing with women. You can’t just scream at a woman or try to overtly display dominance. It doesn’t work. It just scares the cat. Subtly displaying dominance is actually somewhat hard to do for regular average guys.

Rollo: Do you have any specific pointers about how to covertly display dominance?

[This is really contextual depending on the guy, but you may want to read Command Presence for some ideas.]

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Great post. It’s a timely reminder. I went too overt on dominance and dread game recently with my wife, and it backfired. Having used more subtle and humorous communication in the past, I know that less is more. Got to remember it’s “show” not “tell” for optimum results.

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I always give a little slap on the ass while telling her to run along. Not sure if that’s an example of Amused Mastery but it keeps it playful.

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Outstanding post. The FILF acronym is a meme that ought to grow legs, but in a way it’s already embedded in the female psyche.

As I progress in this endeavor to explore my own masculinity and cultural heritage, more and more I learn it’s all about the nuance.

Form follows function, and the gross form of basic movements and tenets of the novice eventually gives way to the subtleties and more subjective experience of the intermediate and expert.

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Very nice indeed. I’d been hoping you would revisit this topic in detail.

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“It’s when it’s covert that they respond most favorably – women love to be objectified, dominated and adored, but only by men who know better than to remind her of it.”

An excellent distinction that could only come from a FILFy mind smile

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Exactly- knowing the answer before you ask the question. I’ve heard that exact definition used to describe ‘brilliance’ in an academic context. I always do this, it’s like creating a little game for someone.

via text:
man: You’re one of the more girls I’ve met out here
man: More fun*
girl: smile thanks. you are hilarious.

A neg, a compliment, a dhv, and you know it’s going to get a rise.

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@MikeC74 What I’ve come to realize more and more is that with most/all? women perception is reality. Terms like “dread”, “dominance”, are just words on the screen. Women will interpret the behaviors in different ways to make the terms themselves meaningless as descriptors. I saw a neuro-imaging picture that brought this concept home. Women think emotionally with the right side of their brain, while men systematize with the help of logic. The way all of us gain a theory of mind is to first start with our own experience, and then extrapolate out from that. So young men dealing with… Read more »

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” …but does it require a sex dungeon and bondage paraphernalia to confirm masculine dominance? ”

I’ve always thought of that as a kind of overcompensation. Not that it can’t be fun, but it just seems like a person with an adequately dominant personality wouldn’t need to act things out in such a way.

Why tie a woman up if you can own her soul with words ?

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This thread reminds me of the distinction between the words, “dominant” and “dominating:” The former is your amused mastery. The second word has more of a captive or controlling sense to it and is sometimes a more objectionable concept. I suspect the femosphere you mention got its panties in a bunch by conflating the two meanings. The former word, “dominant,” is an adjective and merely describes someone’s state or capacity. It can be used without reference to a direct object being acted upon. By contrast, the second word, “dominating,” is the gerund of the verb “to dominate.” And like any… Read more »

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Agreed, Simon. If you need a rope to keep a woman spellbound, your magic needs work.

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This is very timely and interesting. I’ve recently started to game girls in their 20’s. I’m late 40’s. My success rate is about the same as with any other type of girl. But a few things. One, friends my age start to make jabs and comments about “jail bait”—which I now take to be AFC frustration. These girls are mid-20’s, hardly jail-bait. Secondly, the girls that I’ve had the most success with have either been mature and have chased me. Or, i’ve demonstrated the “Amused mastery” by teasing them and otherwise not seeming fazed by their hotness while at the… Read more »

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It soooooo complicated Women want “dominant” men, women want “confident” men, you have to have “game”, women want “jerks”, etc You have to fulfil this 1000 points check list and meet subsequent shit tests, you have to overcome last minute resistance, you have to schedule this – dating “game”. It is somehow too much work, isn´t it? Young guys are scratching their heads what the fuck that all means. Nerds with 150 IQ are producing definitions of “dominant” and “confident” men, game, shit tests, tec. Gentlemen, please! Women are very SIMPLE, not complicated, creatures. They are basically WALKING SEX ORGANS… Read more »

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Rollo, love your blog, so much hidden wisdom in every post. While I have subscribed and get updates whenever theres a new post, I still like to browse old posts on my mobile. Have you considered mobile-enabling this site? A “random post” function for us browser wouldn’t go amiss either.

Just some suggestions, but I wouldn’t read your blog any less if they weren’t implemented.

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This is not so much a comment about this topic, yet it is. My niece has a cute friend, an 20 year old HB7 who thinks that she is an 8 and is grooming herself to be a “trophy wife”. I think she is gonna be disappointed. But she is very status and money motivated in her choice of men. But anyway, the last I had heard from this girl was that she had met this “Ideal boy” who had a winning smile (I had met the guy) and his family owned a restaurant. A couple of months later, my… Read more »

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@Gregg Read my comment about how this Rollo stuff works. Also, Roosh had a comment a couple of days ago that there is so much more knowledge on both sides out in the open and common awareness that your father and mother probably would not have married if they met today. 40 years ago, your mother would have showed an indicator of interest and if your dad didn’t pick up then she would have been a little more overt to insure he got the message. Today a young girl would assume he wasn’t alpha enough because he didn’t act on… Read more »

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Amused mastery for me is a man who is not ruled by fear or appetite and his self worth is not easily threatened because he is not emotionally dependant on others for a sense of his own value.

He would have to be extremely self possessed.

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@Mark Minter First off, you’re anti-marriage rant was epic. Second, in your comment above refuting gregg’s point, something needs to be pointed out: For a good looking guy like you (according to your description), the addition of “game” would have an exponential effect that doesn’t necessarily apply to everyone else that isn’t as good looking. I remember when I first stumbled upon Roissy (now CH, although I suspect it’s a different writer), and he touted “looks not mattering very much” quite often. While I agree having game and average looks is better than good looks in no game, I did… Read more »

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It’s a really bitter part of the red pill that people don’t want to digest. Alot of guys on here have swallowed the red pill, not nearly as many have fully digested it. Truth hurts, but it sets you free.

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Nek, yes, even the best thinkers and writers with a great wealth of experience can become confused as to what value to put on the various variables of attraction. I’ve long disagreed with what had seemed to be Roissy’s view that in the end all attraction traits boil down to or can be replaced by confidence. I think it’s a pretty huge mental map error. I view the various attractive traits as belonging to different categories, and it’s your overall total score that matters. You can’t be ugly and broke and short and skinny with no social support and super… Read more »

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And Heartiste still uses a common dictionary definition when he talks about being aloof. From his latest post “HER: My vagina burns for violent sexual adventures with an emotionally opaque, aloof badboy who makes me a little scared for my life.”

So when he uses the term he’s not just talking about amused mastery.

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I should mention that I’ve found a way to compensate for being ugly, that works on some women. I obviously have a smaller pool of women for whom I meet their minimum level of attractiveness, but none the less once I get my foot in the door I can close the deal and then get them deeply emotionally hooked and physically bonded. But it’s nothing about being aloof. Aloof is a word, and although we like to twist into whatever convenient form fits our ideology, it still holds the simple community agreed upon dictionary definition. The ways that I overcome… Read more »

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@Mark Mark, I understand your point nd you are correct in many things. The reason of why I am speaking this way is that I´ve been on both sides of the fence. As a young guy I used to be quite attractive – and I´ve had my share of beauties. My buddies knew a lot more about women, were maybe more confident but they often did not even get the chance with beuaties when I was there. I was ignorant back then but I loved sex and women loved my body. SIMPLE as that. Now I am in my late… Read more »

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a·loof/əˈlo͞of/
Adjective:

1) Not friendly or forthcoming; cool and distant.
2) Conspicuously uninvolved and uninterested, typically through distaste.

Even the most insightful and interesting writers can have this blind spot: guys who already have high value can run an aloof game that either flat out doesn’t work for guys who lack their advantages, or completely misses addressing the emotional needs of a regular non-dark-triad man.

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As a woman, this post and thread are utterly bizarre to be. From our perspective this is all should be very obvious. I feel like I just got a glimpse of how in this particular way (reading emotional cues, etc), men’s minds are inferior to women’s. Not to say that men’s minds aren’t superior in their own way – as many of you acknowledge when you complain of women being “ruled by their vaginas and emotions.” This is because you’re still basing your presumptions on what ‘girl-world’ has taught you to believe about men. And, as a woman, you’ve never… Read more »

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“From our perspective this is all should be very obvious. .. I just got a glimpse of how in this particular way (reading emotional cues, etc), men’s minds are inferior to women’s. ” What exactly is it that should be obvious? Do you not notice that women deliberately obfuscate their true desires? It’s not a matter of men not being able to read women’s subtle cues. It’s a matter of women working very hard to not give off accurate cues. It’s only through long experience and the sharing of it with other men that we can learn about you at… Read more »

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Great post, as usual.

I like to do the less-is-more frame-based dominance. I wrote a bunch of chick crack routines last year which are basically this. Recently I do things like pat a girl on the head as a reward, when she’s agitated say (deadpan) “Is that your angry face?”, physically move her out of the way when I want something (rather than ask her to move) etc

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Start a journal of all the specific instances of you using this technique for your daughter and you’ve got yourself a valuable e-book product. I have a daughter and that’s something I’d be interested in.

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Fascinating topic this. AMUSED MASTERY. I also agree that the Prince Harry stare-blankly-at-the-horizon-with-a-hint-of-smirk look is the picture that captures a thousand words. It’s being absent-minded and present-minded at the same time. If you can pull this effect off with your own mother without it stressing you, you’ve got the idea. One of the most popular Seinfeld episodes produced the most popular catchphrase of its time: MASTER OF MY DOMAIN. This is the alpha key, the holy grail of “game”, albeit I doubt the show’s producers knew what they were really letting on. I also agree with the statement that you… Read more »

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To take a scientific tack: I suspect that “amused mastery” is a byproduct of “self mastery.” In more specific terms, mastery over one’s psychophysiology. While this might sound like psychobabble, I’ve heard scientists suggest that in studies, elite athletes, scientists, and entrepreneurs have greater control over their psychophysiology than average people. Specifically, it was noted that these elite performers can control physiological markers like heart rate and heart rate variability (HRV, which is a proxy for sympathetic vs. parasympathetic tone). Importantly, it appears that while these higher levels of control might be genetic, they can probably also be learned through… Read more »

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Just when I was about to close the page, lalalala hits “From our perspective this is all should be very obvious.” It would be obvious if for 30+ years almost every newspaper, magazine, book, movie, would not be trying to blind my eyes and ears with “women are these emotional angels that need a connection”, It would be obvious if for 30+ years, people in my family would not be blinding my eyes in relation to what women want, and men would not be silent what they go through. It would be obvious if women would be giving out clear… Read more »

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Well this sure made my day.
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Social dominance…

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Greetings, Rollo et al, I have been writing about the psychological implications of male-centered sexual Dominance for years, largely using pornography forums to get my message out (other than a few publications in psychology journals and the like). I was thoroughly revolted by the fake PUA scams of the mid 2000s, and walked away from NLP and its associated context until, literally, this afternoon when I found the Red Pill Reddit. That led me here. One of the things I write extensively about is that Dominance is not abuse. For that reason, I also found a strong resonating chord in… Read more »

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Great lines – “Women don’t like overt dominance, just as they don’t like overt objectification or adoration. It’s when it’s covert that they respond most favorably – women love to be objectified, dominated and adored, but only by men who know better than to remind her of it.”

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Great article. Even among men I’d say that these subtle methods can be more impactfull than overt displays. Sometimes you need to be subtle with power even among men or risk being try-hard. It all ties in to machialvellianism in a sense.

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I think this is funny how you wankers spend so much time trying to analyze dominance and trying to learn how to pretend to be dominant. True dominance is natural. I’m a dominant woman and I don’t spend any time reading about it. I just am what I am. I’m guessing this is why alot of men on dating sites assume that my pretty pics must be fake and that I’m actually a dude. Negative. But you all are just trying to fake it and it’s really just laughable😂😂😂

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Alexandra you are who you are because no-one has stood up to you properly and taken charge. Reasons being either because you are not worth the effort or the guys you come across have all been feminized by feminist modern society. Let me guess, you were brought up by a single mother or had a weak father who never stood up to you or your mother. If you’re that sought after why are you on dating sites? I’m my experience pretty and dominant women sleep with a lot of men and get bored easily, huge turnoffs for a serious relationship.… Read more »

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This seminal post, with minimal comments 4+ years later, is as good as any to make this point, which I will proceed to make via bullet points… -I have read probably 75% of all RM posts over the past 5 years, including both books -I have read the RM top-linked RP Reddit posts “Women in Love”, “Men in Love”, “Of Love and War” -I have taken into account that Rollo has a wife and daughter …. -Rollo has fallen all over himself to retain the ability to declare that women ‘love’ whatsoever -Rollo has twisted around any conceivable dictionary definition… Read more »

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Great, let’s have this debate…I’d already read 2 of those, but just read all 3 (including ‘Love Experience’ for the 1st time): “Love Experience” “I have no doubt that their feelings of love are genuine to them based on their individuated concepts of love; indeed they’re ready to fight you tooth and nail to defend their investment in those feelings.” That they fight you tooth and nail on this means not a goddamn thing with respect to whether their assertion is objectively true. It could reflect dissociative rationalization or cognizant deception, or anything in between…but their argument is about preserving… Read more »

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I’m glad to have read this article… It asserts that I chose a great man to have a daughter with.

What age do you feel is best to gift The Rational Male to a boy/man?

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“As Men we have a tendency to think that the more overt our displays are the more women will take notice, but women are far more sensitive to the nuances of our actions than most could imagine. A little goes a long way, and what we think are useless gestures are often the most memorable for women.” …definitely true. When I was dating for prospective marriage partners at 20 my future husband demonstrated this perfectly. He is four years my senior, was in a position of authority in our congregation and has the best stoic ‘poker face’ I’ve ever seen.… Read more »

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