The Wall

Not to belabor the fresh input contributed by new Rational Reader ‘S’, but her recent comment regarding The Wall has made me aware that I haven’t yet gone into too much detail regarding the Wall and its socio-psychological effects upon women:

Yeah, it’s a term I have seen before arriving at this blog but have never heard in reality. I always attributed it to a woman losing her looks but to place it at exactly 30 seems to me to be too precise a calculation…as there are many variable to be taken into consideration I would imagine. For example, a party girl, serial tanner and smoker could probably lose her looks long before she reaches 30, whereas a clean living late bloomer might not even realize her potential until her mid to late twenties. I’ve seen women from my school..the most popular girls (with guys) changed the most in a negative manner and the nerds or just the most unexpected girls have become more attractive over the years. It’s freaking odd.

The infamous Wall a woman reaches (or slams into as the case may be) is somewhat of an ambiguous term that was actually coined by catty women long before the manosphere came into existence. It used to be a relatively less combative term that women used for one another in an effort to disqualify a sexual competitor. A woman implying another woman had “hit the wall” was marginally more polite than calling her a slut, but the latent purpose is still the same – disqualifying a sexual competitor from men’s mating considerations.

The Fear of Decay

Underneath the obvious utility of the Wall as an epithet is a more painful truth; the inevitable decay of women’s sexual appeal – their first, and for most, only, real agency of power they’ve ever actualized over men to ensure their long term security needs. In the heyday of 2nd wave feminism, the sisterhood’s message was all about collective empowerment and solidarity, but beneath that was the intrinsic hypergamic need to compete for the best mate their looks and sexual availability could attract. As I’ve written before, women prefer their combat in the psychological and there are few fears women harbor as deep and as long as losing their sexual agency with men. They know the Wall will eventually come, and they don’t like to be reminded of it.

Women’s intrasexual combative use of the knowledge and fear of the Wall did not go unnoticed by men. Therefore the feminine imperative found it necessary to make the truth about the Wall as socially and individually subjective as possible. As with most uncomfortable truths unique to women’s weaknesses, the feminine creates social conventions and ambiguities to misdirect men from becoming aware of women’s eventual powerlessness over them (i.e. the progressive loss of her sexual agency). The Threat of having men become aware of women’s Achilles’ heel before they could consolidate long-term commitment with their best hypergamic option was too great a risk not to form social conventions about the Wall.

Implications of the Wall

Thus, in an intergender social context, the Wall became individualized and subjective for women, and it’s within this framework that women like S are most comfortable in addressing the reality of the Wall. “Not all women are like that” (NAWALT), the go-to mantra of feminized subjectivity, is a direct result of subjectivizing the inevitability of the Wall. In fact, virtually every operative social convention women rely upon for empowerment and self-esteem finds its root purpose in avoiding the fear of the Wall. The Myth of Sexual Peak, the Myth of the Biological Clock, the social convention that Women are just as Sexual as Men, are all very complex social rationales with the latent purpose of convincing the majority of men and women alike that post-Wall women can still be equally effective sexual competitors with pre-Wall women.

It’s important to bear in mind that all of these complex social conventions are rooted in a fear of the Wall. I’m repeating this point to emphasize the importance this has in a feminized society that’s subjected to feminine hypergamy as its most operative doctrine. When enough women, through cultural forces or personal circumstance, can’t capitalize upon what they think is their due, optimal hypergamic male option, then society must be acculturated to believe that women past their Wall expiration date can and should be just as desirable as those in their prime. Think of it as a retroactive social moving of the feminized goalposts. This is the gravity and extent that the fear of the Wall plays for women – feminized society is literally structured around avoiding it.

Defining the Wall

When I wrote Navigating the SMP, the reason I used 30 as the general age women typically hit the ‘Wall’ is really a combination of factors. Most importantly it represents the threshold at which most women realize their lessened capacity to sexually compete with the next generation of women in their ‘actualized’ sexual peak (22-24). However, there is a male part of the Wall equation that needs to be understood. 30 is also the general age at which men (should) become aware of their own, longer-lasting sexual market value and potential. This affects women’s interpretations of the Wall. Once a Man is aware that he has the capacity to attract the sexual attentions of the younger women he’d previously had limited access and understanding of, his actions and imperatives define the Wall for women who are approaching that threshold. And unsurprisingly this is the point at which Wall-fearing women begin their accusations of men’s infantile ego issues, shaming, etc. for preferring younger women than themselves.

When we (and as women in particular would have us) view the Wall in terms of physical attractiveness we don’t see the full picture and relevancy the Wall has for women. It’s very easy (and often fun) to compare pictures of girls we knew in high school with their current FaceBook profile shots at 40+ years old and get a laugh at how bad she hit the Wall. It’s also easy for women to point out the notable exceptions to the rule and find a hot 38 year old woman with 3 kids competing in the Ms. Fitness USA pageant. It gives them a sense of hope about their own decay.

However the Wall is much more than just the physical; it’s the conditional that accelerates or decelerates a woman’s date with the Wall.

Single mother? Acceleration.

Consistent, bad personal habits? Acceleration.

Careerist obsessive? Acceleration.

Obesity? Acceleration.

Do notable exceptions to these exist? Of course, but they prove the rule. And that rule comes in the form of such an overwhelming fear that contemporary society needed to be restructured to help avoid it. The 38 year old, careerist, single mother of 3 competing in fitness pageants is only a hero because of the fear of the Wall.

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Baines
Baines
6 years ago

Ridiculously late reply, but I just had to acknowledge the brilliance of NoQuarterForCatLadies last post. This thought experiment really nails the concept at the gut level.

Matt
Matt
6 years ago

When women are approaching The Wall, they realize that Winter Is Coming 🙂

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unilantern
6 years ago

This is a myth, i can tell you how i know. Any man would pass up a 20 year old in shape woman who is strong and athletic for a 30 something feminine type in a dress who is willing to submit. Its the same reason men pass up pretty young women from a lower social class bracket in favour of more mature well spoken mutton. So keep up with the clock ticking nonsense, and remember time waits for no man. I will let you know how i used to think for most of my 20s! And how i think… Read more »

unilantern
6 years ago

I bet i will be there at 40 with unconditional freedom, as in no harassment no matter what i wear or do!

Tick tok!

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Leo
Leo
5 years ago

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Yollo Comanche
Yollo Comanche
4 years ago

@Leo

Shit, you might be on to something there….

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Dizzle
Dizzle
4 years ago

I went to church this morning, and this lady walks in and sits next to me. Frumpy, 5’3″, maybe 200 pounds. Like a 3, maybe. And she’s oddly familiar….and it hits me.

She was the homecoming queen when I was a senior in high school 30 years ago. I assume she’s still the entitled, snotty, stuck up bitch she was then.

Anyway, the wall was not kind to her.

Playdontpay
Playdontpay
4 years ago

Bumped into my high school crush last night in a bar. Back in the day she was a solid hb9, blonde, super hot body I tried but never got anywhere with her but come to think of it nobody else in my year did either. Heard she became a hairdresser and married a rich guy. She came into the bar with hubby last night to celebrate her 49th birthday and I have to say she didn’t look good. She wasn’t fat but all her youthful beauty was gone, the light had gone out of her eyes, her skin and hair… Read more »

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Neo50
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3 years ago

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Gupta Punjabi
Gupta Punjabi
3 years ago

I just read the stupidest article written by a woman, blaming men for women over 30 being unable to find “good men”. She had a couple of white knight sociologists to back her up.

I kept saying WTF out loud as I was reading it.

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/opinion/why-are-good-men-so-hard-to-find/article36365252/?service=amp

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Jodi
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3 years ago

I HAVE TO ASK… SO CAN AAN, (ALPHA) ACTUALLY ‘LOVE’ HIS WIFE EVEN THRU HER 30’S AND SO ON, IF SHE IS TRYING AND MAINTAINING HER PHYSICAL/MENTAL/AND SEXUAL ABILITIES? OR IS THIS ‘WALL’ JUST THE TIMER THAT LETS MEAN KNOW ITS TIME TO DUMP HIS WIFE AND FIND SOMEONE YOUNGER????

Yollo Comanche
Yollo Comanche
3 years ago

@Jodi

Sure he can. Not every single alpha will, but most of them.

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Dawn K.
Dawn K.
3 years ago

>The infamous Wall a woman reaches (or slams into as the case may be) is somewhat of an ambiguous term that was actually coined by catty women long before the manosphere came into existence. Interesting. Had no idea, I’ve only ever seen it used in things like MGTOW blogs or Red Pill subreddits. Then again, I don’t usually hang out with women. >Underneath the obvious utility of the Wall as an epithet is a more painful truth; the inevitable decay of women’s sexual appeal – their first, and for most, only, real agency of power they’ve ever actualized over men… Read more »

SJF
SJF
3 years ago

Dawn K

Does your index and ring fingers resemble the picture on the left or the right?

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Dawn K.
Dawn K.
3 years ago
Reply to  SJF

My ring fingers are longer than my index fingers. I have more testosterone than the average woman, or at least a greater sensitivity to it. Why?

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Name
Name
2 years ago

jesus motherfucking christ

neo50
neo50
2 years ago

I like to read this post whenever I experience an unceremonious end to a relationship. I had one end that way recently where she was 43, and she moved away for a job that she thinks will advance her career (which she claims to have sacrificed for raising her one child as a single mother). Women of course maximize their sexual agency, but as a 50+ year old, I have had a front row seat how the ravages of age weigh on women’s attractiveness during their 40s. For most, save for a very small minority, the acceleration of the wall… Read more »

Dawn
Dawn
2 years ago
Reply to  neo50

Why would you even want to be with a woman who thinks that her looks is her main “source of power” in the first place? Such a person sounds shallow and most likely doesn’t have a great personality to be around. I know I could never date a handsome man with nothing between his ears.

Dr. No
Dr. No
1 year ago

The Wall

https://www.bbc.com/news/blogs-trending-49189565

more evidence

Cuno Wiederhold
Cuno Wiederhold
1 year ago

This is the most indepth research and information of “The Wall” I have seen. Thanks!

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