The archetype of the Strong Independent Woman® has been culturally reinforced over the last half century in virtually every imaginable media. Whether it’s Disney’s capable Princesses ready to save themselves from certain doom – as well as their quirky, hapless but handsome male heroes – or the now clichéd ‘tough bitch’ of action movies and video game protagonists who measures herself by how well she can kick ass and /or swear as the culturally contextual equal of “any man”. Her template-crafted character is strong, confident, measuredly aggressive, decisive (but usually only when shit gets serious so as to prove to the audience she’s ‘digging deep within herself to discover her yet unrealized resolve), judicious, loving to those loyal or dependent on her (immediate family, children and female friends), capable of solving problems with little more than the feminine intuition men magically lack – but above all, she’s independent.
As this cultural archetype is broadcast to society at large, the want then is to find parallels of this Strong Independent Woman® in the ‘real’ world. The media character is only marginally believable now thanks to endless revisions and replications, so we look for the examples of independent women equalling and exceeding the, paltry-by-comparison, achievements of the unenlightened ignorance of their male “oppressors.” High ranking company CEOs are usually the first rock star independent women to nominally shine (often undeservedly) in such a role, but then, by order of degrees, we can move down the economic social strata and cherry-pick or conveniently create the match of any mediocre man. As most men are, or have been conditioned Betas it’s not too difficult.
It really is the End of Men you see. You’re no longer necessary because, well now, there is nothing men can collectively and uniformly do that women cannot find some individual example of matching and / or exceeding. Women don’t need men anymore, they’re independent.
The Branding
If there’s one thing I know, it’s branding. The Strong Independent Woman® caricature has generously earned it’s registered trademark. I sometimes use that ® to emphasize a particularly long-evolved meme; social conventions so embedded into our cultural fabric that they literally have become their own brand. The Strong Independent Woman® is actually one the best examples of this branding. However, to really understand the gravity of so long a cultural branding, you must go to the root of how the brand of the independent woman was originally intended to evolve by the 2nd wave cultural feminists who spawned it. In a way it’s succeeded far better than any feminist of the period really had the foresight to expect.
An Independent Woman was to be independent of men.
While a lot of feel-good aphorisms like confidence, determination, integrity, and the like became associated with this desire for independence, make no mistake, the original long-term feminist goal of fostering that independence in women was to break them off into individuated, autonomous entities from men. That individuation needed to be as positive and attractive to women as possible, so a social pairing of that independence from men, with a sense of strength and respectability, had to be nurtured over time.
Since the beginnings of the sexual revolution, women were acculturated to believe they could ‘have it all’, career, family, a husband (of her optimal hypergamous choosing) and, if she were influential enough, leave some indelible mark on society to be remembered by for posterity. To achieve this she’d need to be an autonomous agent, strong, and above all independent of men. Women would embody and perfect the maverick individualism that men seemed to enjoy throughout history. If she couldn’t manifest ‘having it all’ then she was still, by male force or by personal choice, not independent enough to realize it. Of course, the irony of all this can be found in the marriages of virtually every ‘high profile’ feminist luminary of the time (all the way up to our current time) to the very powerful and influential types of men their stated independence was to emancipate all women from in order to truly be independent.
The Case Against Male Self-Esteem
Matt Forney’s lightning rod post, The Case Against Female Self-Esteem drew a frenzy of internet hate, but at the core of that post was a question that Strong Independent Women® and their male identifiers don’t like be confronted with; do they truly want independence from men? Do the men they want to be independent from even exist, or are they conveniently useful archetypes; vaudevillian chauvinist cartoons from the 50’s, planted in their heads, courtesy of the feminine imperative?
While I can’t endorse a message that would diminish anyone’s self-esteem, male or female, Matt’s post, even so much as suggesting the idea of limiting female self-esteem, uncomfortably turns a cultural mirror back on over 50 years feminist and feminized social engineering. For over the past 50 years the case against male self-esteem, with the latent purpose of emancipating women from dependence on men, began in earnest — not with some anger inducing blog post, but as a progressive social engineering that would run the course of decades to effectively erase men’s inconvenient masculine identity, or even memory of what that identity ever meant to men. The case against male self-esteem has been the social undercurrent of popular culture since the early 1960’s.
I think it’s important for red pill men to internalize the popular idea of feminine independence. The true message that the Strong Independent Woman® brand embodies is independence from you, a man.
Its latent purpose isn’t the actual empowerment of women, or efforts to bolster self-esteem, strength (for whatever loose definition seems convenient), confidence or any other esoteric quality that might flatter a feminine ego. Its purpose isn’t to foster financial or economic independence (as evidenced by ever evolving fem-centric laws, educational and financial handicaps), or religious social parity, or even efforts to achieve its vaunted social equalism between the sexes. What feminine independence truly means is removing the man – independence from men. Feminine independence’s idealized state is one where women are autonomous, self-contained, self-sufficient and self-perpetuating single-gender entities.
If that revelation seems aggrandized and over the top, it should. It’s extreme, because the purpose itself is extreme. When you consider that the sexes have coexisted in relative gender complementarity, to produce our very proliferate species, for a hundred thousand years, the idea and implementation of separating the sexes into independent and solitary entities is extreme. Obviously effecting this independence is an impossibility for a race of social animals like human beings. We’ve relied on cooperative efforts since our tribal beginnings and the species-beneficial psychological hardwiring of that cooperation is one trait that made us so successful in adapting to changing, dangerous, environments.
For most manosphere readers (especially MRAs) I don’t think I need to illustrate the many manifest ways that women are dependent upon the men; if not men’s generated resources and provisioning, then certainly their parental investment, companionship, emotional and sexual interest. We’re better together than we’ve ever been apart – even when the ugly mechanics of hypergamy, or male aggression, or any number of negatively perceived gender dynamics prove useful survival traits for us, there is no true independence between the sexes. There is interdependence.
This is what equalism makes a mockery of. In its striving for a homogenous goal-state of androgynous gender-parity it fails to account for where the species-success that the complementarity of the past 30,000 years has brought us. From a heroic male perspective we generally accept that no man is an island, but feminism and equalism disagree – a Strong Independent Woman® is an island,..or she will be just as soon as a man gives her her due to become so.
HUS = Hooking Up Smart. Susan Walsh’s blog for upper middle class and middle class women between the ages of 18 and 30 where SW and her commenters give each other pointers on how to engage in serial monogamy/have casual sex until they are ready for marriage. A few other points. Living Tree, women were not victims in the 50s. Women worked, voted, married, and took care of their families. Or they did none of those things if they didn’t want to. The 1950s was not full of women chained to stoves and pregnant with their 11th child. About the… Read more »
Oh jeez, Deti, we wouldn’t want you guys to have to hold back on being offensive, would we?! Cuz that would be unprofessional, er, no.. wait.. I find it really telling that you guys can only figure out how to exist in polar extremes. Either you are “a manly man!!” or a total pussy. Emotional support is contemptible? Only for a douchebag who thinks in black and white stereotypes it is. Do you find men who study philosophy to be faggy too? It IS possible, I swear, to be both supportive and masculine. I SWEAR TO YOU. If you find… Read more »
“’Living Tree said somewhere that women deeply and truly love men who support them emotionally. Umm, no. Women do not love men who support them emotionally. Women seethe with contempt at men who support them emotionally, because to a woman, “man who supports me emotionally” means “simpering touchy-feely beta who’s so in touch with his feminine side’.” Slight modification, they theoretically love “supportive” men but give it up for the opposite. Sure, there’s some positive feelings for “supportive” men (as long as they know their place and don’t try anything), but the kind of “love” WE want is reserved for… Read more »
FFS, did I stumble into a support group for beta men who’ve been cheated on or left by women for alpha males? Would more sex make it all better?
I don’t know a single female who fits that description, and I know plenty who have supportive, yet masculine, husbands. It CAN be done you know. Maybe you just have to grow up a bit first though.
How old are you guys? (I told you mine…)
I can’t help wonder if maybe its just that you guys are making really, really bad choices in the women you mate with. Which does happen. I made really bad choices when I was in my 20s too, I get it.
BTW, Martel, women don’t want hours of long heartfelt conversation with men (once in a while maybe). That’s what we have our girls for. We want emotional support from you in the sense that, if we tell you, dear husband, that something is important to us, that you give a shit maybe, and definitely not invalidate us for it by telling us, in any way, that its not important. Which incidentally, you almost all do, and often. You’ll generate a woman’s resentment faster for invalidating her than almost any other offense (except cheating, maybe). Do you guys do that to… Read more »
Living tree:
No one here thinks you’re a devil. The problem is that you think you know much more than you actually do. You think you know things that just aren’t so.
@ livingtree: It’s no surprise that women are excelling academically when lower education is dominated by female teachers who view boys as defective girls. Everything from the elimation or regulation of recess (such as organized play instead of just letting them go), to the “sit still & listen” approach to learning, to an emphasis away from hands-on learning, to the emphasis on “cooperative learning”, to banning any references to weapons or violence (getting expelled for a gun-shaped pop tart, etc.), to drugging the crap out of the poor little bastards turns males off to education. But STEM subjects are still… Read more »
Right Martel, which only serves to illustrate the point I made like 50 posts ago about getting more men into elementary school education! Or even in the administrative/bureaucratic positions which dictate the standards of the school system. Both of which are weeping for more men. But you don’t feel its manly or important enough to teach children, so who does it? Women. You don’t even think its important enough to run for trustee, so who’s standards dictate? Women. I mean if you care enough about it, you’ll take more direct action. Right? I guess you just expect that women will… Read more »
“Burn, you totally ignored the point of what I said, which was that it wasn’t a legal oppression that women in the 50s labored under, I don’t think there’s been any lack of legal freedom for women for a very long time in the free world. It was strictly social oppression. “ I won’t ignore it, then. There’s a FUNDAMENTAL difference between legal oppression and “social oppression”. You’re entirely correct that the opinions of others have a profound difference on how we behave. Regardless, although being made fun of and getting thrown in jail both suck, the latter is a… Read more »
Uhhuh, right, so what’s your issue then Martel? We don’t want to be socially oppressed anymore, and that’s…bad? Or is it that you don’t want us to be referring to “our rights” when we are talking about feminist issues because it has nothing to do with rights anymore…? If the latter, I agree. Its not about rights or victimization anymore (except when we are talking rape, but that’s a different sort of victim than we’re talking here, and I do NOT want to start on that tangent here). If you are paying attention, which you seem to be, you will… Read more »
You want women who look trim and fit because you life in the land of plenty. As I keep reminding you. I realize men not being physically aroused by your particular body habitus is one of your many pet issues, but yeah, as I’ve pointed out to you many times before,… http://therationalmale.com/2011/09/15/womens-physical-standards/ You see, men will very readily cater their physical sexual “preferences” in accordance with what has proven sexually successful for them in past experiences. In other words, men tend to return to the same watering hole they found to be plentiful in the past. These preferences of convenience… Read more »
Huh? Rollo I’m not sure I know which of my comments this link was sent in response to, I assume the one about the standard of hotness being dependent on culture. I’m not saying that because waaaa, I’m fat, I feel left out. I’m saying it because I’m right. I’m not fat, but even though I AM old, I still have a collection of amazing men trying to woo me away from my even more amazing boyfriend, so I’m not insulted. Your taunts don’t threaten me in the least. Anyway, I can’t read that book now, but it does look… Read more »
Furthermore, on the different standards of attraction between the sexes (on which Rollo has written extensively), what men find attractive is deemed superficial, what women find attractive is considered to be perfectly reasonable. We feel sorry for the fat girls who can’t get a date far more than we feel sorry for the video game nerd. So when you said earlier that the “kicks ass in the boardroom” stuff is for you and not for us, be that as it may, that’s not how it generally comes across. If I’m not attracted to a woman’s careen accomplishments, I’m “superficial” or… Read more »
Well yes, Martel, because so many men ARE threatened by a woman competing with them. Not because they worry they might lose to a woman – which most do fear – but because of the very things we’ve discussed here. A woman in the boardroom represents something about the power balance that makes men subconsciously uncomfortable, even many progressive ones. I read Rollo’s article “Shallow”, I had a good laugh about it, and I posted a comment on it. See if you can find it! He was so annoyed by my post that he wrote a whole article dedicated to… Read more »
@ livingtree2103 But tell me please, objectively – do you really think the power to mete out sex and carry a baby (which is a fundamentally base, and any woman can do it) is more valuable than the power to manipulate our society via law, finance, and politics? At the most basic level, there are only two important goals for any organism – survive and reproduce. In usual discussion, we are all pretty clear how the power of things like money, resources, laws, and political status help us survive. Arguably, for various biological and evolved reasons, men tend to gravitate… Read more »
Ya of course, Dr J, not diminishing the importance of reproduction, but I’m trying to make the point here that as we have evolved economically and culturally, our mortality rate has PLUMMETED, and that was the POINT!! How much effort has been spent on curing cancer and TB and smallpox? How much money has been spent developing long-range weaponry so we didn’t have to send in ground troops? How much time has been spent eliminating all the extreme industrial safety risks that killed millions? The population of the planet grows by 25,000 every DAY. Its not a worry anymore. So… Read more »
You do realize that the exchange of the last two dozen or so posts you’ve just found so stimulating here between yourself, Deti, Martel, Dr. J, myself and others would never be allowed to take place on HUS, right? You post here because you know that’s true, so cut the ‘unprofessional’ bullshit.
I can’t speak for HUS, Rollo, I’ve never been there, but I post pretty routinely on policymic, huffpost and jezebel and i never find that rational conversation is censored. Its only comments that are excessively provocative, deliberate trolling, that gets censored. I have mixed feelings about censorship, because I love the free speech aspect, but as long as you don’t have an agenda (ie. policymic), the censorship can be used to keep the quality of the discussion high or on topic. On a site like huffpost, you can see how quickly the quality of the conversation degrades to a pissing… Read more »
Policymic cuts posters that violate the rules of conduct, which include personal insult and violence, and I don’t think that’s bad. If anyone came here to your site and spoke violently towards you, you would be well within your jurisdiction to escort them out and I wouldn’t hold it against you.
But you all seem like (mostly) you’re quite capable of humiliating an opponent into departing on their own…
All of us here have probably made some dumb mating choices, some of us have recovered from them better than others.
That doesn’t alter the validity of anything we say, either way. Truth depends not on the voice of he who delivers it.
@ Dr. J: Beautiful! Bravo!
As if creating, nuturing, and fostering the next generation of humanity is somehow unimportant.
“@Burninator, thats cute that you think I’m a “young” feminist. I’m 45…” Reading comprehension dear. Go back and re-read what I posted that made you respond as you just did. There’s a crucial “OR” that you missed, as well as a n easy deduction based on context. Ah heck, I’ll save you the effort. I said you are either “closer to my age” OR you were young and raised under the tutelage of a femi in her 40’s or 50’s. Now, apply logic to that statement. If you were raised by a femi in her 40’s or 50’s OR you… Read more »
Wha…? Burn, you’re confused. I said those things AFTER you said you thought younger feminists (under 30) are cute and misguided. To which I responded with some truth. I hope you aren’t actually resorting to correcting my typos and logic faults in order to demonstrate my maturity level. Cuz that would be kind of like admitting defeat. You may not have noticed but that post you referred to, it was about my 50th here, and only was directed at the more pitifully ill-founded and increasingly angry arguments being made at me without responding to any of my points, and the… Read more »
LT, as I’ve read through all your posts on this thread and others, my conclusion is that your forays onto manosphere blog comment threads is really a form of catharsis for you and the unsatisfying results that have made your life what it is, rather than any genuine interest in understanding gender dynamics any better. But, I’ll entertain you a bit longer,.. You’re 45, I’m 45. I would expect you’d find my professional and personal success threatening, and of course the result of all my male privilege. However one thing I wont claim is some precognitive knowledge of the social… Read more »
Consumption does not entail strength. Production does, particularly of technological and military goods, and the organization and willpower to use them.
Compare the Consumerist societies, sans US, to the central planning of the Soviet Union, and make some estimates of how long they last.
“Again, Furiousferrett, your hostility is getting in the way of your ability to have rational discourse. Ironic, since this page is called Rationalmale. I’ve seen very little rationality here so far. But maybe rational discourse isn’t the point here, you just want to rant. ” No way. My logic is solid. In short, you want to rig the game by not having to compete in your gender’s arena in the traditional biological sound ways. You are not biological good enough to secure the high resources that come with locking up an alpha thus you feminists rigged the game to secure… Read more »
Ferrett, take it easy… I don’t live in America, I don’t know what your women are like. I hear quite often though that they’re really fat and selfish and bitchy. Maybe you want to consider sourcing elsewhere? Anyway… “Life isn’t fair for the vast majority of people. Most are born in middling circumstances and you have to scratch and claw your way up. The ‘fair’ way is actually what our found fathers said “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness”. That’s all you get. You take those three things and make the best of it. You don’t rig all the… Read more »
“Oh, and by the way, you won’t ever meet a high value woman in a nightclub. You wont meet a high value woman at all until you understand what actually makes a woman high value, which you honestly do not.”
I’ll be the judge of that.
“underpaid jobs like teaching”
now I know you’re just having a larf.
Good morning gents! Hope you all had a pleasant weekend away from your troubles. Tam, your first up – I’m not implying that teaching in general is a low-paid profession. If you read the whole thread in context rather than cherry picking the words from certain sentences, you’d understand the point in its context. Teaching at the pre-school/kindergarten level is one of the lowest paid professions in America. Elementary is higher, secondary is even higher, and post-secondary is the highest. You need the same teaching degree to teach p/k, elem, and secondary, but they are paid differently according to “importance”.… Read more »
@ livingtree: You can get to my blog by simply clicking on my name next to the hammer.
However, I’ve addressed the misconception of “rights” here at my blog already: http://alphaisassumed.wordpress.com/2013/04/02/the-right-rights/
More to follow at another time. For now I’ve stuff to do.
Good article Martel, and I agree 100%. I would agree more if it were mathematically possible. I’ve ranted on this topic many times! We rely too heavily on the concept of rights in this culture. The only natural right we have is the right to exist (the liberty, as you call it, to do whatever we need to in order to exist). And for that right, we have the collateral responsibility to “respect” (though you know I hate the word) the right of others to exist too, and that means no-one has the right to take anything that belongs to… Read more »
“I’m not sure I know which of my comments this link was sent in response to”
Copy a diagnostic chunk of the rogue text, Ctrl-F and ^.
Magic.
@ Rollo, This is an inherent power advantage women have over men. That’s not to say Men don’t have other power advantages over women, but the advantages he enjoys aren’t endemic to his sex by default, he must earn those advantages first in order to be able to leverage them with women. I agree. The distinctions among the types of power and the sources they come from are important for men to understand. Sometimes men can be confused, overwhelmed, or taken off guard because women’s power over them “feels different” than power dynamics they are used to negotiating with other… Read more »
SPECTACULAR post Dr. Jeremy (the one about negotiated intimacy, that is – I haven’t yet made it through all of the 20+ new posts on this article since I was here on Friday).
Messed up the html… Here is the link:
Why People Say Yes to Sex!
Nope, no power imbalance whatsoev,..ehr,..
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/21/fashion/social-networking-App-allows-women-to-rate-men.html?_r=0
Having just read this comment thread, I want to again thank Rollo for allowing such a diverse discussion. LivingTree, you seem like an intelligent, practical woman. Why are you defending the feminists, most of whom are hellbent on fake victimization of women. In today’s world, there is zero reason for feminism. A woman can have anything she wants as long as she understands the tradeoffs. Just because those tradeoffs exist (e.g. Career vs. Family) and one can’t have it all does not mean that the world is unfair or prejudiced against women. Modern feminism is nothing more than unfiltered whining… Read more »
@ New Yorker – thank you for the compliment. I try to keep a calm head and make an effort to understand things from other points of view, even if they don’t reciprocate. I gather it wasn’t apparently from my comments, but I’m not defending feminists. I don’t know them all personally, I wouldn’t even dream of trying to do such a thing because I know some of them are terrible people. I WILL, however, go to the death to defend FEMINISM, despite its misuse and abuse by so many, because I understand the importance of its values. I agree… Read more »
“LivingTree, you seem like an intelligent, practical woman. Why are you defending the feminists, most of whom are hellbent on fake victimization of women.” “Anyway, computer time is over, I”m going curling and beer drinking now” She’s probably Scandinavian. They are no where near as bad and horrible as American feminists. They actually do believe in equality between the sexes not feminine domination like the American girls. It’s still a pipe dream but it’s not the total toxic environment of the US. However, multiculturalism is coming for them in Sweden and Norway. It’s a much greater threat to their country’s… Read more »
No, Ferrett, I told you guys already I’m Canadian. I dont have a clue what American feminists are like in comparison to the rest of the world’s feminists, but it sure sounds like you have your hands full. I mean, I know girls up here too that call themselves feminists but still think that men should pay for everything and buy them presents to show how much they value them. It makes me want to puke.
But they are in the minority. Most women I know here are quite legitimately independent.
@livingtree2013 November 20th, 2013 at 8:09 pm For gods sake, this is getting exhausting. Jeremy, WE DON’T THINK WE DON’T NEED MEN!!! I’m getting tired of saying that. Will someone please tell me where and how it is that you all got the idea that women are actively trying to exclude men from society (I mean, not the shitty ones)? Because I just don’t see it, anywhere, except maybe as a defense mechanism in an argument. This is a terrible habit some people with elements of solipsism fall into, presuming the personal when someone else is speaking of the general.… Read more »
SO i think, Jeremy, that in spite of all our arguing here, we are all actually talking about the same problem, just from different angles. Women largely AREN’T actually independent, like the meme says, and like many of them would have you believe. We recognize that, and are attempting to fix that. But a lot of that is because there are many, MANY parameters that reinforce that in our social structure, that just can’t seem to be fixed easily. Not just in the welfare system, I mean in our daily lives. Me personally, I’m too stubborn to let any one,… Read more »
Absolutely Jeremy, many women still fear ending up old, single and childless, mainly because we get our social approval from whether or not we have a man and/or a baby. I’m sure men also suffer from this discrimination, maybe more so. Honestly, I’m glad to see that there are starting to be some men resisting this pressure from society and going it alone, I think its like 30 years overdue. I just wish it wasn’t being done out of anger, but I get that you have to go through the anger phase, and its probably been repressed for so long… Read more »
I have to admit, I could only get through so many of the comments (or should I say Friday Night Fights) and then just had to quit. Interesting dialogue though – but I will say this again… I know we can’t legally keep the woman of the clubhouse, but by engaging them, you only encourage their continued participation. And for further clarification of my point…about the economic push woman provided…we have the become the number one consumer nation in the world (which is not necessarily a good thing) — and yes, Men would purchase things, I like suits and sport… Read more »
@Tin Man, I totally agree with everything you said, I did not mean my comment to be taken as a positive spin either, just to say that we both take part in the economy. But consumerism is an escape for us, we are ever more stimulated and capitalized upon, encouraged to spend and spend and spend, to alleviate boredom or distract us from our unpleasant realities. It is so much more true for women than men. Women almost always buy stuff to stifle their feelings of depression, like having more stuff will make us into better people. I don’t think… Read more »
BTW Rollo — congrats on another fine article — it appears this one struck a cord also. As always, good reading, and very entertaining comments.
Well now. The kind persons from MiniTru are on a similar wavelength to our loquacious Canadienne. Not required on voyage, hombres, unless we bloody well buck up our ideas and make ourselves more docile, obliging and unconditionally giving, i.e. pet-like. Why can’t a man be more like a .. nice fluffy cat, eh? Although naturally, being the Beeb, they have absolutely no fucking clue about sciency stuff, and therefore misinterpret the findings in the preferred direction of femarchy. As the boffin said ” this is of limited use in understanding human fertility” (added bonus of insulting and irrelevant stock photo… Read more »
@Tam, this y-chromosome research is so old, I find it hilarious that its resurfaced again. Yes the y is diminishing (extremely slowly), its been proven many times over, but no men aren’t going extinct anytime soon. The x contributes 80% of the DNA that is passed on, and we both have those. The y has been stable for like 100,000 years.
It is interesting, but it serves no good purpose except as fodder for angry diatribes.
” the ultimate purpose of feminism is rooted in securing (by social engineering and legal force) an optimized hypergamy for women.”
An optimized hypergamy AGAINST women. A woman blinded by her vagina is useless.
@bob, I can’t agree with you on the optimized hypergamy concept – that may have been the intention, even subversively, but it just didn’t happen that way. Women who actively seek a higher quality of life by their own efforts find that they have less mating choices than “lesser” women if they engage in hypergamic behavior, because like it or not, most men still prefer to engage in hypogamic behavior. It would be ideal if the freedom of women to pursue higher education and income would have collaterally resulted in men also being pushed to higher levels to compete for… Read more »
Hehehe,..I love how LT hasn’t taken the time to read today’s post and yet she yammers on in this one basically confirming everything I go into in Nursing Power.
Please continue LT it’s very entertaining.
Or maybe that they just don’t have what it takes to compete for a really high-quality woman anymore because they are too far out of their league. I’m not sure which, maybe a combination of both. Consequently, men are not bothering to make themselves seem attractive to high quality women, and becoming depressed and angry about it. LT, I suspect this paragraph is rife with solipsism. First, define for me “high-quality woman”. In order to make your definition meaningful, RESTRICT your list to 2-3 criteria, absolutely no more than 3. The point is to see how your prioritize characteristics/traits in… Read more »
Morpheus, its a great point you make, and I’m sure that most quality women would define “quality women” quite differently than most men would. I don’t think I can do it in three, definitely not two. What I consider a “high quality woman” is one who: – is not desperate for attention, male or otherwise, but does not shy away from it when necessary – stands by her beliefs and values, and will not be intimidated out of them – is able to, while keeping these two priorities in mind, communicate in a meaningful and convincingly respectful way – I… Read more »
LOLOL Give ’em hell, living tree! They love it as much as you do 😉 (Not to mention the blog hits.)
Rollo…might be worth a blog post to turn the tables a bit. You’ve written excellent articles about “woman” — it might be interesting to take a look at the “stages of a Man in years” — and the phases a Man goes through in his life with regard to “women”. Because, now, because I’m a “man of certain age”, have kids, had a wife, been with more than a couple women in the life, getting my shit back together (including my health, body, finances, mission) – I really have less desire to do the “dance” and chase. I guess that… Read more »
I’m waiting to hear a justification from the women for government-guaranteed female independence, to the point of taxation of men. No government-guaranteed mother-of-your-children is ever provided to the men, particularly the men who die in wars for those same women. How can women justify assuaging their fears by using the power of the state to force men to support them, while men are forced to die for the state with no chance of ever having children?
OK Jeremy, in answer to your question about the government-guaranteed female independence, here is a question I want you to ponder before we can discuss this fully…. bear with me to the end, ok? Please? I’m asking this seriously, I want to hear your POV on this question. We “know” that the vast majority of welfare recipients are single mothers. Lets just skip over all the blame, and the rationalization, and the long-term effects, and all that crap, and go straight to a hypothetical analysis based on the content of this conversation only. You guys keep saying that you DO… Read more »
Jeremy, thank you for that. While you are “waiting to hear a justification” for the humanity of men being ignored/exploited in favor of women’s pursuit to secure resources for themselves and ‘their’ children, I’m waiting to connect the dots of future news stories about vigilante justice. Men also have children. My son is 10 years old. The thought that someday, before he’s even 25, I could see him leaving the house to go to a scrub job he’s locked for into years because of some $700 a month court-ordered child support payment is horrifying. (“She said it was an accident.”… Read more »
Good point, Tarzan. Questions though…
Why is there no male-pill?
Would any male take it if it were available, knowing that it is going to effect your hormone balance?
Could we trust you that you actually were taking it regularly enough to be effective if it were?
If you didn’t take it effectively, and accidentally got a girl knocked up, would assume full responsibility for it, or would you put 50% of that responsibility back on the baby-mamma who was fool enough to trust you?
I’m somewhat curious to know living tree, what sort of feminist are you?
Um, sort Cylux? What definition are you looking for exactly? Like are you referring back to my bi-fold definition, breaking it up into moralist and liberalist? If between those two, I’d definitely be of the moralist variety, but I appreciate the importance of the freedom of self-definition, so the liberalist variety has my support. I just wish they were more responsible with it. But there are all sorts of sub- and sub-sub-divisions within feminism. http://sparkcharts.sparknotes.com/womens/womens/section4.php It is impossible to lump into one stereotype, because like every segmented description in our culture, the segments all disagree with each other about priorities.… Read more »
I’ll just leave this here:
http://www.munkdebates.com/debates/the-end-of-men
I like the point regarding male contraception. This will be a huge fight at some point. There is just too much of this nonsense happening for it not to become a movement. We are already seeing a changing tide in regard to custody rights for fathers. It is only a matter of time before the de facto confiscation of male sperm by scummy women gets brought under the microscope.
And as well it should, New Yorker. Its 30 years overdue as a movement, in my opinion. I’ve always been confounded by how willy-nilly men give out their sperm to anyone who’ll have it. Do you really want to get into that much complication in your life with a woman you barely know, let alone let her raise your child. It seems like massively low self-worth to me.
I heard someone saying women’s work is still not appreciated enough. I know everyone has heard of it, but how much status a job gets is not primarily a function of what sex does it the most (at least not in the western society). Garbadge collecting is mostly male, but is not very high status.
Ya thats true Emma, “garbageman” doesn’t come with status. It’s not so much the status I’m thinking about here though, its the economic value of the job. Garbageman requires no education at all, not even high school, and gets paid usually around $45-50k a year, depending on location, which is a very decent living. Almost exclusively male terrain though, because it (used to) involve heavy lifting. A woman with similar education would be lucky if she could get a job in customer service paying $10 an hour (= $21k). Maybe she could work construction or landscaping or drive truck, but… Read more »
The point that livingtree consistently avoided addressing is that feminists did not truly seek independence itself — they also sought, and continue to seek and receive, plenty of coddling and special treatment along the way. Not many in the manosphere disapprove of a woman seeking a high status career if that is where her heart lies, but if that high status career is attained through achievement in a public school system in which the curriculum, mode of instruction, staffing, etc, all happen to be more favorable to female students, and through gendered affirmative action, etc, then we have an issue.… Read more »
@Gurney, that’s a pretty big chip you have on your shoulder. I have addressed that point more than once, you’re just not paying attention. I don’t really know how you can say that the educational system is rigged in women’s favor either, I’ve proven already that it quite clearly is tilted in favor of getting more men to enroll by lowering the standard of acceptance. Do you think that class curriculum is made easier to talk down to women, because we’re too silly to understand the hard stuff? If that were the case, men would be excelling academically, and they… Read more »
Forced equality is not true equality. Few people will argue about true equality, there is logic behind the argument. But celebrating weakness (not strength) and trying to make things “fair” only makes us all weaker.
Of course, Tin Man, you’re absolutely correct – legislated equality isn’t the same as real equality. That’s exactly what I’ve been saying all along!
And feminists are all too aware of the difference, believe me! But until we have real social equality, which is probably never, I guess we’ll have to settle for legislated equality (so long as the male legislators will still permit us to have it…:) ) in the meantime.
LT wrote “Men remind me constantly that this gender disparity exists in the school system because teachers’ pay is so bad (yet again, devaluing the work that women do), and the fact that men work for status and money, not for personal reward or social contribution (which is womanly)” This is hilarious. Public school teachers in Los Angeles (LAUSD) earn an average of $67,000 per year (2012 data, look it up). Each of the elementary and middle school teachers that I know here have a salary that exceeds $80,000 per year. Richard Dreyfuss wants good teachers too (10 second clip)… Read more »
Oh why thank you, LiveFearless, for graciously invalidating my argument by childishly reducing women’s economic contribution to “fashion”. You would make Aristotle proud! How exciting to hear that teachers in LA are being so well paid compared to the national average! Does it make a difference to the quality of education? or the male-female representation in the field? http://www.payscale.com/research/US/All_K-12_Teachers/Salary Compared to other professions, nationally, public school teacher is not a good choice, with an elementary school teacher earning only slightly more than an admin assistant. http://www.payscale.com/research/US/Country=United_States/Salary Not too many jobs you NEED a degree for that pay that badly. None,… Read more »
[…] it was throughout last week’s commentary about the branding of the Strong Independent Woman® social template offered and reinforced by the feminist mindset, and endorsed wholesale by […]
…said the person with no understanding of economics.
Jeremy, if you want to take a go at me about economics, perhaps we should do it in a different forum. (I’m planning to begin a masters in it next year, just to give you fair warning). For now though, I content myself with public domain research!
I would have so much more respect for MRAs if they manned up, stopped drinking their koolaid, and faced the reality out there about themselves/men: http://www.sheckys.com/2011/04/04/my-boyfriends-unemployment-is-affecting-our-relationship/
It’s a good thing you’re not speaking to MRAs, they might laugh at your obvious troll. As it stands you’re commenting in a forum of men, who are much more likely to ignore your facile demands.
Good article Martel, and I agree 100%. I would agree more if it were mathematically possible. I’ve ranted on this topic many times! We rely too heavily on the concept of rights in this culture. The only natural right we have is the right to exist (the liberty, as you call it, to do whatever we need to in order to exist). And for that right, we have the collateral responsibility to “respect” (though you know I hate the word) the right of others to exist too, and that means no-one has the right to take anything that belongs to… Read more »
I completely disagree with you about the concept of rights Jeremy, and i assume Martel will as well, given that he wrote the article (interesting how you directed your comment at me though and not him). Rights and privileges are totally different, as they are from contractual responsibility. Plus, you take into account risk and reward, and public domain. Rights are not something we have “naturally”, it is a construct of human law which we’ve learned to depend on like a crutch. But it is off topic, even though its an important distinction to make here, so lets just agree… Read more »
By the way Jeremy, the conditions you just described in NO way constitute a right of ownership. It is territorial dominance by the strongest party, and plain and simple. Not a right. Ants that do not allow other colonies to merge with theirs are doing so because there will be a war to decide who gets it (which there often is in animal communities, because they don’t have the safeguards of codified law, which is a safeguard at best, but still not a natural right), so for the protection of the species they don’t bother. Plus, they don’t need to… Read more »
“I also do not have the “right” to be provided with work, nor do I have the right to earn money, or the right to keep it once it is given, because the money I “earned” is not actually mine. It belongs to the state, which is a lending institution – you see their mark upon it, do you not? They “loaned” it to me, for a fee (my labour) so that my life might be easier, but by law they are entitled to recall their currency at any time. “ I disagree in that we’re not allowed to use… Read more »
My point was not about banning or codifying fairness into law, Martel. It is a matter of personal integrity that I’m more worried about, personal integrity (or lack of) is what creates social constructs that protect unfairness. You value your mother more than the guy who sold you your mountain dew, but if you owned a company and hired your mom and Mountain Dew Guy both to do the same job, but you paid more money to your mom, you would in fact be infringing on MDG’s freedom by way of your partiality. This is what happens in our world… Read more »
@LT
Yes you do need men as you keep stating you do. But that sentence is not complete. You need men to go against their biology. The “go against their biology” is the part that you refuse to acknowledge, but it underlies nearly every one of your arguments. A million years of evolution will not be denied let alone reversed in a short time.
@LivingTree I think you need to read what the Great Pook wrote about the concept of men’s work and women’s work and how smart women make out like bandits by winning the traditional way: WOMAN Feminists (Very Stupid) – Believes men are the destroyers of Earthly Paradise and attack men to ‘restore’ it. Feminists are very stupid because they are attacking the ones who created paradise. Smart women join men in attacking feminists because feminists are a threat to THEIR paradise (of men working for women). Feminists believe if they expel the men, they can create a lesbian relationship which,… Read more »
Well, sorry you feel that way Ferrett, I don’t know too many (any) men who’d agree with your interpretation of me, and I don’t think I’m being arrogant when I say that.
But y’know, do whatever makes you feel better about yourself, man.
A woman with similar education would be lucky if she could get a job in customer service paying $10 an hour (= $21k). Maybe she could work construction or landscaping or drive truck, but that’s tough too because its a heavy lifting thing/mechanical again, and most companies will take that into account when hiring for those jobs. So that leaves waitressing. Or stripping I guess, but… But,..wait, I thought,.. “Women are not just catching up anymore; they are becoming the standard by which success is measured.” – Hannah Rosin Oh well, no maybe you are right,.. “One of the first… Read more »
Sorry, I don’t get the point you’re trying to make with that rebuttal Rollo. And again, the point I have repeatedly tried to make here, which, interestingly, the three quotes you included all reiterate, is that the old-school male-based power structures are in decline, even though you desperately cling to them. But that has nothing to do with what I’ve been saying about economic value. The value imbalance still exists, and nothing you’ve said on this article, or anything I’ve ever read or heard anywhere, has successfully debunked that, But this is not a matter of victimization, its just a… Read more »
Ya thats true Emma, “garbageman” doesn’t come with status. It’s not so much the status I’m thinking about here though, its the economic value of the job. Garbageman requires no education at all, not even high school, and gets paid usually around $45-50k a year, depending on location, which is a very decent living. Almost exclusively male terrain though, because it (used to) involve heavy lifting. A woman with similar education would be lucky if she could get a job in customer service paying $10 an hour (= $21k). Maybe she could work construction or landscaping or drive truck, but… Read more »
Yes, its true what you say Morpheus, but that balancing happened because we have developed quite a long way since the 50’s. The jobs that USED to be well paid “men’s work” (which was all jobs really except nursing, teaching, and secretarial) of are now gender neutral, and that is really something to be proud of, I think we’ve all come a long way there. The dirty jobs that you have to pay people higher than average to want to do – mining, forestry, oil rigs, heavy manufacturing – are paid more and rightly so, they are grueling and dangerous… Read more »
@livingtree2013 SO i think, Jeremy, that in spite of all our arguing here, we are all actually talking about the same problem, just from different angles. What a nice way of saying we entirely disagree. I commend you on your silk tongue. Women largely AREN’T actually independent, like the meme says, and like many of them would have you believe. We recognize that, and are attempting to fix that. But a lot of that is because there are many, MANY parameters that reinforce that in our social structure, that just can’t seem to be fixed easily. Not just in the… Read more »
@livingtree2013 *heavy sigh* Ok, it’s actually quite taxing when you contradict yourself… on November 25th, 2013 at 6:28 pm you said: Ya thats true Emma, “garbageman” doesn’t come with status. It’s not so much the status I’m thinking about here though, its the economic value of the job. Garbageman requires no education at all, not even high school, and gets paid usually around $45-50k a year, depending on location, which is a very decent living. Almost exclusively male terrain though, because it (used to) involve heavy lifting.on November 25th, 2013 at 12:46 pm you said: Also noteworthy is the spread… Read more »
See Jeremy, I never said women get paid less to be engineers than men do. At least if I did, I didn’t intend to. What I SAID was that male-dominated professions, such as engineering, economics and law, get paid more because they are deemed to be more important than the professions that are gender-neutral or female-dominated, and I don’t believe it’s a coincidence OR that it is merit-based in a lot of cases. Which you then proved by saying that engineers and economists and lawyers are indeed more important than other professions and deserve to be paid more because its… Read more »
And Jeremy, I gather you’ve had a very different experience than I have with unfairness, and I’m sorry for both of us, its not right either way it works out. I just haven’t noticed that much unfair advantage being given to women here in Canada in the workplace, I really haven’t, especially not in the old-school establishments, and not even when they’re hot (only when there’s nepotism or sexual relations in the mix, and that’s not gender specific really).
OK jeez, I gotta get out of here!
I am a professional engineer with advanced degrees, there are women younger than me who have been promoted over me, with greater pay, far less seniority at the company and less education than I have. The reasons this happen are simple, meritocracy is destroyed when young attractive women enter the employment of old-school men who instinctively try to protect women. The old guard promotes them because it protects them from the appearance of sexism, and their instincts tell them to not let the women be outshined by the guys. I probably STILL take more home per year than these women… Read more »
Still the denial of biology… hence still requiring men to go against their biology to prove your point.
What I consider a “high quality woman” is one who: – is not desperate for attention, male or otherwise, but does not shy away from it when necessary – stands by her beliefs and values, and will not be intimidated out of them – is able to, while keeping these two priorities in mind, communicate in a meaningful and convincingly respectful way – I would also include, if you will indulge me in a 4th attribute, the ability to humbly admit when she is wrong Everything else is superficial. And yes, to be clear, I did intend my statement to… Read more »
Well of course physical attraction is important to a sexual relationship Morpheus, I’m not denying that, its a universal law I think. But its something that you want. Its not on the list of what makes a quality woman. They are two different lists, in my opinion, because there are two separate categories of needs to be dealt with when seeking a mate, using separate parts of the brain really which need to be kept separated in order to make a good decision, so that the limbic brain doesn’t take over the decision making process. Because of “biology”, (there, Random… Read more »
“You value your mother more than the guy who sold you your mountain dew, but if you owned a company and hired your mom and Mountain Dew Guy both to do the same job, but you paid more money to your mom, you would in fact be infringing on MDG’s freedom by way of your partiality.” Although you could make a case that I’m being immoral, I would NOT be infringing on his “freedom”, insofar as “freedom is defined as “liberty” (the 2nd link I posted). My premise is basically that if somebody else has to do it for you,… Read more »
Indeed, I don’t disagree at all Martel, it may not be a right but I still don’t think its right. lol, I’ve waited so long to be able to use that word play! Anyway, I’m glad you understood the premise of my argument there. Its basically a negative right – none of us have rights or entitlements to anything other than to exist, but in keeping with that, Permitting one person’s success at the expense of another’s is interfering with their liberty, and a fundamentally immoral act. Most things that people consider “rights”, are really just freedoms, basically getting unfair… Read more »
Who decides that? Who can agree on a legal definition? Who decides just how far “permitting” can be taken? Someone once said that people cannot be legislated into prosperity by legislating other people out of it.
Absolutely, Random. Legislation limiting a person’s reach for the good of the rest of the nation is something that should really be agreed to by a significant majority… As if you guys could agree on it though! Just imagine the battles! Anyway, that’s why we have democratically elected governments though. We hire them to represent us in decision-making matters which, in theory, are intended to limit over-reach into another person’s liberty. Like it or not, that’s actually the job our governments are paid to do. Not that I’m saying they’re doing a stellar job of it, just that it IS… Read more »
LT, here in Lotus Land, about 50% of all landscaping companies “seem” to be o/o by women. This is just my opinion, being in the trades and seeing this almost everyday.
Awww LT doesn’t have children. Awww LT refers to HuffPost as a source to prove a point. It’s like the public school systems she complains about – her rant about men forcing women to be teachers… honest men choose not to subject themselves to ‘teaching’ jobs that destroy generations of people by limiting truth, withholding knowledge while intentionally throttling down the processes that would otherwise lead to actual learning), it gets constant funding without havjng to earn profit. So, like the public school system, HuffPost is part of the culture creation industry. Public schools limit thought and create thought and… Read more »
Why do you people care so much about what some feminist woman says? It is obvious she gets off of all the male attention you shower her with, and it is also obvious that she is not going to learn. It is already pointless to argue with *ordinary* women due to their crazy logic, endless reframing attempts and the fact that they never shut up, but trying to argue with a FEMINIST woman is downright ridiculous. Feminazi trolls don’t deserve even the acknowledgement of their existence. And besides of that, I love to dream of a scenario where all such… Read more »
@livingtree2013 November 25th, 2013 at 8:05 pm Jeremy, if you want to take a go at me about economics, perhaps we should do it in a different forum. (I’m planning to begin a masters in it next year, just to give you fair warning)… I need no warning, I’m quite certain I’ve solved more complicated math than you’ve seen. November 25th, 2013 at 8:18 pm By the way Jeremy, the conditions you just described in NO way constitute a right of ownership. It is territorial dominance by the strongest party, and plain and simple. Not a right. So you’re saying… Read more »
I should also mention that I love your work, RT. This is one of the top Red Pill sites in my book. And I appreciate the fact that you keep your writing away from politics.
@livingtree2013 November 25th, 2013 at 10:45 pm And Jeremy, I gather you’ve had a very different experience than I have with unfairness, and I’m sorry for both of us, its not right either way it works out. Here is the problem when you give attention to feminists. They ONLY respect victimization. They do not respect intelligence, or accomplishment, or value to society, they only respect that which has been “victimized”. Of all the other salient counter points I’ve made to LivingTree, she only offered any consideration when I painted myself the victim. This is classic female thinking and it is… Read more »
@livingtree2013 November 25th, 2013 at 5:52 pm OK Jeremy, in answer to your question about the government-guaranteed female independence Answering a question with a question? very poor form. You did not, by the way, answer my question, you are entirely dodging it. So then, if all of that were true, should it really then matter whether that income split comes from a husband directly, or from the government by tax assessment and redistribution? Its the same outcome, essentially, isn’t it? What if, by government order, no women were allowed to carry a baby to term, all babies were instead government-mandated… Read more »
Yes, Jeremy, that is precisely the point of my complete and total argument here with you guys. In your hypothetical test-tube scenario, the ultimate conclusion of our discussion, I will unequivocally state that if men were the party better equipped to raise the children that both genders had contributed to the creation of, I would pay 50% of my post tax income to the healthy upbringing of those children, and I would do it without complaint. Even though I don’t have any of my own, nor do I want them. I would, however, in exchange for the financing, insist on… Read more »
Incidentally, Jeremy, the reason I take that stand is because I don’t view children as personal property that individuals (their parent-owners) have a “right” to do with whatever they see fit. A lot of the reason for opposition to discipline in schools is because parents believe that they can do whatever they want with their children, and that the education system should respect that, so eventually the education system becomes weaker and weaker as it tries to please everyone by becoming more neutral and value-less, I did a bit of reading on it last night and found this article, which… Read more »
LiveFearless – “Awww LT doesn’t have children”
Which she should be congratulated for. She has made a decision to live her life the way she feels is most fulfilling to herself. She is not going to bring more mouths into this world, then depend upon others to feed them for her. At the least, she is showing that she abides by her convictions.
LT, you do realize that engineers are the ones who take the theories, dreams, etc. of others and make them into reality. You do realize this, right?
The LT consortium writes, “That’s the kind of shit you find when you look stuff up, my friend.” Is ‘livingtree2013’ plagiarizing Victor Pride? That’s a statement he’d write in a joking way. The LT consortium writes, “And I’ve never heard of Mackelmore either, before I found those lyrics online while I was researching statistics on single dads. That’s the kind of shit you find when you look stuff up, my friend.” I’ve heard of and spent time with Macklemore. IF the LT consortium is a woman, 45, in one of the Americas, unawareness of the influence of brand Macklemore would… Read more »
Slight tangent… I find I’m scrolling over one comment-er to get to the sensible/readable ones. My mouse likes the attention though. Haha.
LT writes, “Its the ego that’s the issue.” Exactly.
@ livingtree2013 You ask the question: So then, if all of that were true, should it really then matter whether that income split comes from a husband directly, or from the government by tax assessment and redistribution? Its the same outcome, essentially, isn’t it? Then you answer for yourself: …I will unequivocally state that if men were the party better equipped to raise the children that both genders had contributed to the creation of, I would pay 50% of my post tax income to the healthy upbringing of those children, and I would do it without complaint. Even though I… Read more »
Interesting, I hadn’t considered that in its efforts of eliminating masculine influence that feminism would also seek to end men’s personal reasons for parental investment with regard to raising and providing for his own offspring.
Since the latent purpose of feminism is optimizing hypergamy, it would stand to reason that promoting social and personal acceptance of cuckolding a male provider into caring for her hypergamous breeding efforts (either proactively or retroactively) with better breeding (not provisioning) stock would need to be socialized into beta men.
Since the latent purpose of feminism is optimizing hypergamy, it would stand to reason that promoting social and personal acceptance of cuckolding a male provider into caring for her hypergamous breeding efforts (either proactively or retroactively) with better breeding (not provisioning) stock would need to be socialized into beta men. Rollo, I can’t find the article now….think maybe I first saw it linked on Dalrock, but it was an article about “10 reasons to date a single Mom”, and basically playing up all the supposed “virtues” and “advantages” of dating a single Mom over a childless woman. Just in general,… Read more »
Dr. Jeremy at 4:51 for the WIN, that is what you call a complete and total deconstruction.
Someone had to do this. I’m not sure where the pomp in LT’s posts come from, but i suspect it has to do with growing up comfortably middle-class. Alright, let’s get to it… [didn’t proofread, so i hope it reads okay] “Wow, M3…. where do I begin? I usually find it a chore communicating on this forum because the points of view are usually very one-sided, so I genuinely appreciate that you have at least acknowledged the value of “women’s work” in the education system at least.” You begin your supposedly coercive diatribe with such a snooty attitude that it… Read more »
We live in a country where a girl who makes $30,000/year at a nonprofit is more highly regarded than a tradesman who makes three times that. – Matt Forney
@ Rollo, Interesting, I hadn’t considered that in its efforts of eliminating masculine influence that feminism would also seek to end men’s personal reasons for parental investment with regard to raising and providing for his own offspring. Since the latent purpose of feminism is optimizing hypergamy, it would stand to reason that promoting social and personal acceptance of cuckolding a male provider into caring for her hypergamous breeding efforts (either proactively or retroactively) with better breeding (not provisioning) stock would need to be socialized into beta men. You have the first half… Eliminating “beta” men’s interest in individual parental investment… Read more »
I may have to work on a post about this dynamic now. I followed up on your comment on Yesterday’s thread, but I’ll c&p the rest here too: Obviously failing in this feminism needed social welfare programs to fill that provisioning gap, but it’s interesting to consider the feminine socialization efforts to make men more feminine from an early age so as to better prepare them to accept that cuckoldry and support role for their pluralistic sexual strategy (alpha fucks / beta bucks) when they reach adulthood. This may explain the conditioned stimulation and rise in popularity of cuckolding porn.… Read more »
@livingtree2013 Yes, Jeremy, that is precisely the point of my complete and total argument here with you guys. In your hypothetical test-tube scenario, the ultimate conclusion of our discussion, I will unequivocally state that if men were the party better equipped to raise the children that both genders had contributed to the creation of, I would pay 50% of my post tax income to the healthy upbringing of those children, and I would do it without complaint. Then you are a marxist, plain and simple. We disagree because you want to steal what I have rightfully created with my own… Read more »
@livingtree2013
hare-brained? I just stopped feeling bad about implying your math abilities are suspect. Your arguments are invalid because you haven’t thought them through. You are considering one perspective only, that of a single woman who does not desire children. You have zero empathy for men and how they are being cut out of society and society’s future by having their reproductive rights shit on.
Empathy? Jeremy, are you trying to be funny? Your case against me is that my arguments are not valid because I haven’t thought about them from YOUR point of view? Is this forum actually satirical…? My very first comment on this article started with: “… I definitely can understand why you might feel like your importance in the world has been diminished since the advent of feminism. You SHOULD feel that way, if you’ve been paying attention, because it has been diminished. I even understand why you might be a little insecure or angry about that.” And then the attack… Read more »
@ Rollo Thanks. I appreciate the food for thought as well. I think it might have been lost in the shuffle, but I am also interested in your thoughts to my reaction about power, the Savior Schema, and derb labor: http://therationalmale.com/2013/11/20/the-brand-of-independence/comment-page-2/#comment-25264 Actually…it might all tie together with the above. When men are convinced/brainwashed/forced to give up their resources/rewards to women (as we discuss above), women’s needs are satisfied without them having to perform reciprocal behavior to “earn” those resources/rewards. This makes women unmotivated to meet men’s needs in return (they no longer “desire” men). It also removes men’s power, because… Read more »
I wonder whether the other piece is the “Player Schema” – which convinces men that it is in their best interest to give their sexual and reproductive resources quickly, without reciprocal behavioral influence over the woman? Do women still desire the player after she gets pregnant – obtaining his genetic (and monetary) resources? What I see in the behavior of women who mother babies from multiple fathers tends me to think not. So, despite what seems like “genuine desire and intimacy”, perhaps the Biker Boyfriend does not make out any better in the long run. He may indeed get sex… Read more »
The end
Thank god. Does this mean we don’t have to listen to your feminist marxist hamsterish blathering any more?
I agree with lots said here, but please stop using the word Marxist and somehow equating it with feminism. That word doesn’t mean what many here and elsewhere think it means.
“Thank god. Does this mean we don’t have to listen to your feminist marxist hamsterish blathering any more?”
Amusingly, no. Far from it.
If you check back through the epic page after page of comms, you’ll notice she signs off every handful or so of diarrhetic screeds with complaints of being driven away or shut up. Her bezzy mates are Vic&Tim.
Livingtree, your own comments form the case against your perspective. The only people who can’t see that are people who honestly believe that property rights and self-ownership do not exist. I’ve already made the case that property rights exists within nature and should thusly be aligned with human civilization, instead of considering that point of view, you just tried to poke holes in it.
You’re now playing the victim card because it’s the only thing you have left. Have you ever taken a course in logical debate?
@Tom The problem here is that you’re debating a person who has not yet realized how to make a cohesive argument. She will continue to “debate” like this because she is validated for it on her hug blogs and forums. @livingtree Dude. Do you not realize that you are acting hilariously superior for how shittily your arguments are crafted? Take these gems from your last comment: “You clearly have no idea what empathy even is” “men rarely ever bother to try to empathize with women (because real men don’t empathize?)” “you have not bothered to empathize with a single thing… Read more »
This is a brilliant post. Well done.
” But you’re a retard because the pressure not to empathize comes mostly from females reacting negatively to empathy. Bitch.”
LMFAROTFP!
Tree : ” I work all day every day with engineers Jeremy. It really isn’t rocket science, what they do most of the day, and they do it badly half the time, but they sure do act like they’re doing rocket science.”
Jeremy :- ” As it happens, rocket science is my profession.”
Classiest Retort on the Internet, Ever.
Platinum Award.
I realize it was deadly serious, but I laugh every time I recall it.
And it also handily encapsulates the problem that attempting to communicate with floating-world feminists always entails.
My god women love attention and love to blab. Fucking incessant. Men’s studies room indeed.
@LivingTree The simplest way to look at male/female relationships is as a marketplace. Hence, if it is clear that many women can’t find partners that fit their parameters, then that simply means they are outside the market. It is not a fairness issue, but rather a simple fact. I don’t know how this is a cause for a movement. In my mind, to have a movement, there needs to be what I would call a “don’t give a fuck” test. That means, if a person thoroughly applies themselves, takes every chance to learn, get better, and allows no sloth in… Read more »
@New Yorker ~
Gold star. Best comment, ever.
” .. I would rather that we spent more time talking about becoming men who could attract such women.. “
What the .. whu .. why? What the hell for? They got their life, I got mine. Get on with it. Everybody’s happy.
They want to meet me? Fine. On my terms. Otherwise ..
What the fuck is this?
“.. becoming men ..”
“could attract ..”
dafuck?
Y’are or y’ain’t.
Gettouttahere…
Be sexy and have lots of money. A full mane of hair doesn’t hurt either.
Since that about wraps up the discussion of ‘becoming men who could attract such women’, shall we return to the topic at hand?
LivingTree: You won’t get a fair hearing here. Its not personal; its their method. If they were to allow for exceptions or consider other points of view, it would be a crack in the dam of the deluge they are trying to contain. Kudos for being willing to listen to the other side and question and challenge your own ideas. Its far more than most women do.
LT has gotten what she came for, catharsis. She’s had a lot more fair of a hearing here than any male voice of dissent will ever receive on blogs and forums dedicated to perpetuating feminine primacy. And you know the ones I’m talking about.
BTW how go the wedding plans?
“Kudos for being willing to listen to the other side and question and challenge your own ideas. “ But that’s what’s exactly what she doesn’t do. That’s what’s so exasperating. Even when she pretends to be responding to a particular post it’s a complete non-sequitur, or a series of them. In my latest (and last) serious attempt I was “rebuffed and reproved” with whatever handy nonsense got scraped up by the first google-trawl. Top of the list as well. As though she hadn’t either read, or if read, hadn’t understood what was being written down in front of her. Almost… Read more »
@Tam the Bam: I felt she was making some effort, and I see things differently. I also think its a good idea to use positive reinforcement and encourage attempts rather than discourage them. @ Rollo: Just because she was possibly treated better here than a man would on a woman’s site doesn’t mean she was treated well. I don’t know though. Except for my own “missionary” work, I don’t read female writers. But, be that as it may, there are no immediate plans. The relationship we built from a distance has translated incredibly well into our current co-hermitting status. It… Read more »
..and another thing, young madam. “You won’t get a fair hearing here. Its not personal; its their method.” (1) there is no “they”. When I bother to spew something out, it’s just me, saying my piece. I have no “method” (hope I don’t get the reds-under-the-beds fanatics from Dalrock’s joint piling in here, accusing me of being a Feyerabend fanboi. It’s a thing of theirs ATM). (2) “fair hearing” is precisely what this prolix, snobbish poseur (well, poseuse, seeing as how she’s all maple-flavored) and perfervid scold has been given. Couldn’t believe how the 2 Jeremys in partic. went the… Read more »
I might be tempted to accuse you of being a Feyerabend fanboi…if I had any idea what it meant 🙂 My ideas are all backed up, thanks. I’m not looking for an argument. I’m just saying it wouldn’t kill anybody to admit a woman has a point once in a while, but mostly men of the manosphere don’t out of principle.
Thanks for backing me up Kate, I could have used the help a week ago! Where ya been??
I totally get that there’s a solidarity-brotherhood-alliance thing going on here, so to admit any on the part of a woman or contrary opinion would violate the terms of the manosphere brotherhood, so I don’t take it personally. I expected to be the enemy, I was prepared for worse.
I did expect more…(ahem)…rational criticism, though. Oh well, I tried.
Despite the dam’ trackpad abomination, I actually meant to write “buck”. Must be some retarded dialect thing I’ve slipped into. Again. Means “sharpen” or “improve”. Sorta., The fanboi thing is cross-contamination from flipping between here and D’s. Some folk have been going nuts accusing anyone who doesn’t share the exact same life-experience and cultural background as them of being bearded, gitane-smoking communistical secret agents, or something of the sort. And it struck me just then that the closeness with which these maniacs parse one’s every loose or slack pronouncement for signs of deviation and clues as to one’s secret mission,… Read more »
@Tam etc. (you changed your name??) – You’re on the money. I did not question my assumptions (much) during this conversation, because you did not challenge the assumptions that I came with. What you did was project other assumptions onto me that I do not hold, so you could challenge those instead. I was prepared to be dissected for my assumptions, but no-one bothered. You just wanted to heap feminist cliches upon me, and mock me for anything I said that didn’t comply with those cliches (Marxist? Really? Wow. Just, wow.). That’s not a challenge, its a nuisance. This was… Read more »
Catharsis is the reason you responded in great length to every challenge another commenter made to you.
It’s the reason you did so for the entirety of 2 days before and after Thanksgiving.
It’s the reason you keep coming back to see what others have written in this thread a week later. You enjoy the singular attention for sure, but what you really want is to affirm your ego-investments amongst challengers and critics. If you didn’t you’d be indifferent.
Your catharsis is in thinking these challengers are in some way orbiters for you.
Well that would be a pretty reasonable assumption to make, Rollo, wouldn’t you think, since virtually every single comment has been directed either to me or at me since my first post? Because for every post I make there are 12 responses to follow it? I couldn’t help notice the deafening lull in conversation after I stopped participating. Maybe that’s what you want? Anyway, I have my settings on this forum directed to email me when there’s a new post on the article. I do that because I post on topics I want to engage in conversation about. I told… Read more »
Where’d I call you a jerk? I said this was your catharsis. Where’d I call you arrogant? I said you enjoyed the attention of orbiters.
I have however noticed you tend to see hypocrisy where it’s convenient for you. You and Kate like anyone else are always welcome and encouraged to post your input here. Just be prepared to be challenged. The only commenters in this thread that have take anything as a personal affront has been the both of you.
Look, Rollo, here’s the thing: It is the tendency to drop a bomb in a conversation and think that the topic is settled, so no-one should have any reason to refute it. Maybe you don’t recognize it, but its very condescending. In a professional or academic setting, this is not the style of communication that gets results. You have to ask yourself – what is the intended result here? I suspect that my intended result, and the result intended by your male readers, they are not the same. I came here fully prepared to be challenged. Unfortunately, the good points… Read more »
Don’t worry, Tam etc. (lol), I’m a country girl. You wrote “buck” and I know what it means. I just enjoy fooling around with words.
I have never found the commenters at Dalrock to be particularly informed, although the author seems to have a grasp of reality and be the go to source for statistics.
Nuts and maniacs, you say? Ask the women there to post their “n”s. I imagine that would be very entertaining 😉
I read through the comments again, start to finish. It seems the one assumption that keeps coming up over and over, which you all want to make sure that I’ve acknowledged, is that women are forcing their influence on the entire world, by way of “PC feminist claptrap” I believe it was said, to no good advantage. Were you hoping that at some point I would say “Yes, Oh My God, I had never thought about it before, you are so right! Thank you for enlightening me, I will go about my life from this point forward with a completely… Read more »
” .. sandwiched in between false assumption, personal insult, and the occasionally filthy bit of slag.”
You’re new to the intertubes, aren’t you?
Not new at all, I dislike that kind of talk here as much as I dislike it everywhere else. Its just not conducive to productive reasoning. You can see how the pitch escalates, I hope.
Usually why I prefer posting on Policymic in general, that belittling sort of conduct is just “not done” there, its generally a higher level, which is such a refreshing change, real conversation is had, even among people who passionately disagree!
I had high hopes that I’d find it here too, mainly because of the name of the site… 🙂
@Living Tree: I don’t read here much anymore, but I encourage you to read and learn all you can. My vacation is over, so you’re on your own.
@Rollo: I am not personally affronted. I was merely pointing out that everyone is speaking at cross purposes and attempting detente.
@LT Because of “biology”, (there, Random Angeleno, are you happy now? I talked about biology) the sensual “physical attraction” part of the brain often takes the lead over the logical “quality assurance” part, resulting in bad decisions, Physical attractiveness easily overpowers the logical brain, because it feels good, and plus its ego-flattering. I can’t even count the number of guys I’ve seen with women who are hot, but total scumbags, obviously awful, and they are so blinded by her looks that they don’t see that they’re being used and abused. Its astonishing to me. Physical attraction should not even be… Read more »
@RA…OK fine, you busted me. I am hereby making an academic statement about social anthropology, and it is one which applies equally well to women as it does to men… Even the lower animals make more rational choices than humans do, because THEIR decisions ARE based on biology. Ours are not. An animal judges “attractiveness” on a need that is directly tied to their own survival. Humans do not. We justify our present needs by finding an excuse – “biology” – to blame for all of our irrational decisions, and the excuse, if you dissect it, is really weak. Biology-based… Read more »
Peacocks are a very obvious example from nature that even animals sexually select on the basis of physical appearance. The more elaborate a peacock’s tail, the more peahens he will be able to mate with, but the more elaborate his tail the more likely he is to be caught and devoured by predators. In short a peacocks tail is often detrimental to his very survival, but because peahens have sexually selecting for them over centuries, if not longer, then that’s what he has to carry about if he wishes to reproduce successfully.