Double Standards

In a fem-centric society it should really come as no shock that the feminine controls the meta-messaging in its own interests. As in politics and religion, when you are the controlling interest in the framing of any and all discourse, you preset the terms of any debate. Nowhere is this more evident than in women’s precognitive understanding of the infamous Double Standard.

Ask any woman for an example of a Double Standard and you’ll unfailingly get some iteration of the age old chestnut, “men are heroes for banging a lot of women, but women are sluts for banging a lot of men, agh, how unfair,..” This is always an easy, but ironic, target considering the current gender landscape. However, the reason it’s such a cliché is because it’s representative of the fem-centric standard of messaging. Women own the term Double Standard by default; any mention of a Double Standard and women will gleefully presume the term refers to them. Women’s feminine indignation need requires little prompting to satisfy.

With this in mind, it may come as a shock to most that there are far more applicable Double Standards for men than for women. You see, for any illegitimate cause to progress it must always accuse its rivals of the sins it commits itself. Double Standard? Women own it. Unfair judgement based on physical standards? Women own it. This is called ‘sowing disbelief’ – if your premise is weak, assume victimhood. Female default victimhood is nothing novel, however, feminine primary social engineering goes this one better by presupposing any male even hinting about claims to victim status is automatically disqualified from being a man.

The following comparative list was originally meant to be a humorous exposé of ‘true double standards’, but in its comedy it reveals the code in the Matrix. Enjoy!


Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

78 comments on “Double Standards

  1. The list is good. But don’t bet on getting any leverage debating this topic with women and their sycophants. It’s an exercise in futility.

    However, when I hear ladies mention the sexual double standard, the best response is “Ladies, the reason why that particular standard exists is because being a Player takes work & effort, being a slut is extremely easy.” Usually that shuts them up.

  2. Regarding guns. Yeah, you’re going to get women who say you’re a crazy gun nut, but don’t be fooled. Guns are hawt. They convey power, mystery, strength and a willingness to get the job done (obviously I am talking about educated gun users, not the jackass who waves one around for s**** and giggles). I don’t care how vehemently anti-gun a woman is, presented by a strong man, she will wilt (on the inside. On the outside she will likely fight you tooth and nail. What can I say, we’re women. 😉 )

      1. Going to the range on a date is one of my favorite activities. More than a few women have responded incredibly to having a gun in their hands.

        I gradually move the women up from a .32, thru a.38, .357, .44, and .45, then the latest addition to my collection – a Desert Eagle – a lot of women find that a bit much, but it has quite an impact to their psyche. As mentioned above, more than a few have been so turned on by the times we are leaving, that they practically jump me. Sometimes it takes a bit of convincing, but it is always worth it…

  3. Not 100% on topic but yesterday I was waiting to get my oil changed and “Maury” was on the tv in the waiting room.

    I sat down just as Maury was scolding an older man for dating a younger woman “What in the WORLD could a 40 year old man possibly have in common with a 20 year old girl?”

    Next up, a 41 year old woman dating a 21 year old man. Guess who got roasted? If you guessed “the guy”, you would be correct. Apparently if you are an older guy dating a younger woman you’e a creeper, and if you’re a younger guy dating an older woman you are after her money.

    Yea, it’s that bad.

    1. “What in the WORLD could a 40 year old man possibly have in common with a 20 year old girl?”

      She likes to be f**ked, and I like to f**k her… Any other stupid questions?

  4. Let me add one:

    Propose more observance of gender inequalities >

    Women = Empowered, brave and assertive Feminist
    Men = Bigoted, misogynistic hate-monger who can’t get laid

  5. Women’s use of dildo’s
    – Liberated, empowered, embracing her sexuality, in touch with her body and her needs

    Man using a sex toy/doll
    – Sick fucking pervert, loser, can’t get laid, monster, objectifying asshole, misogynist, sexist, deviant, possible pedophile, sick twisted animal, boogyman, possible rapist.

  6. The femcentric dynamic that Rollo always blogs about is just the implementation of egalitarianism. It is egalitarianism which is the ruling paradigm of the modern West ever since the Left ascended to cultural domination with the rise of the New Left post 1960s. The manosphere makes much of this but its obvious to all who understand the philosophic and historical development of Leftism.

    But all this begs a question. The manosphere obviously disagrees with feminism/leftism. But what do you want to replace it with? A return to state enforced monogamy? Is the manosphere just a repackaged social conservatism? It seems that way to me.

    I can’t stand the Left. But I have no love of conservatives either. The manosphere seems just another conservative phenomenon but one that’s grounded in ev-psych rather than religion. I personally am calling it the “evolutionary right”.

  7. Everything in red is just a shittest. If you own your answer, past the indignation is arm-punching and giggling (“you’re terrible! tehehehe”).

  8. Sexually aggressive…
    woman – lucky guy
    man – sexual harassment/assault

    Have sex after a few drinks…
    woman – empowered if she enjoys it, rape victim if she regrets it
    man – taking advantage of her if she enjoys it, rapist if she regrets it

    Doesn’t want to get married…
    woman – empowered, keeping options open, bucking oppressive traditions
    man – man-child who needs to grow up

    Make less money than partner/spouse…
    woman – being oppressed by patriarchy
    man – deadbeat loser

    Wants sex without commitment…
    woman – owns her sexuality, keeping her options open
    man – degenerate who uses women

    Wants commitment after sex…
    woman – he owes it to her
    man – sexist pig who thinks he owns her just because they had sex

    Has standards for romantic partners….
    woman – selective, self-respecting
    man – shallow, needs to see “inner beauty”

    And we could go on like this all day.

  9. god what the fuck are you all bitching about.

    It’s like you all think every female gets the best of everything in a rigged system– uhh hello have you been to a bar 80%+ of every chick there is worthless, ugly ugly and there’s nothing they can do about it. Yeah the hot ones with good personalities benefit I GUESS, but big surprise so do tall good looking guys with cash AKA the 10%. It’s not a mystery.

    It’s why I take this PUA stuff with a grain of salt I spit on the girls these guys post in their videos.

    So yeah Girls are dumb they do dumb things think dumb thoughts and rarely add anything real. The smart ones are just better at being girly. Best you can hope for is a hot babe who spends her time being hilarious sharing stupid things with all her uglier friends on facebook. Trust me in the grand scheme of things your standards for what you’ll commit to are LOW- she’s popular, likes me and wears crotchless panties now and again……EVERY one of you would LOCK it DOWN I promise.

    Think about it we guys spend time thinking up Creative ways to Creatively have fun, impress people and take risks. What the fuck do girls do ever except trip over themselves, put on make-up and do the same exact shit over and over again. Boo hoo you wish you could take off the pressure to perform (cause you fail) and be the judge instead of the actor guess what you have a cock if you don’t use it to create interesting and cool life situations that’s your own damn fault. It’s one big community of want-what-you-can’t-have guess what having strippers at your place ain’t that tight they’re fucking dumb. You build them up in your own head because you want to be investing your time in a high quality girl, guess what you get fucking dumped, girls don’t want to be built up they want to be grunted at and put in their exact right fucking place.

    Have you ever been put in your place. Yea sure and you fucking hated it because you have a cock and are a man and it inspired to go out and do something. What sounds more fun doing that or playing pussy defense, not knowing why you do what you. Seriously what do girls do at home by themselves NO ONE KNOWS.

    jesus I hate these emotional appeal hoorah speeches but come on this feminist semi-MRA shit is fucking flak, it’s in the way of the usable will-to-power game attraction dynamics stuff I love. Okay, the female imperative stuff is interesting and you’re smart just don’t go too far with it please, it’s Roissy’s filler find your own.

      1. 100%.
        On the video’s blue balls and chick crack:,,20578778,00.html#disqus_thread
        (The Ali Landry pre-remarriage obstinence)

        “It cultivates a stronger relationship because they decided not to “put out”. The focus is on the relationship itself as it grows, and whether it’s a solid, worthwhile connection.”

        Commenter in reply:
        “Sex is a natural way to show your love for one another. Withholding it for silly reasons like yours (focusing on the relationship?? please…) is simply a control issue. A “solid worthwhile connection” doesn’t come from mind games and withholding sex. It’s about communication and showing your love for one another – which doesn’t happen with silly rules that only foster frustration and anger.”

        Most of the (undoubtedly female) comments followed the first one’s mindset. Not defending the first husband but might the pre-marriage blue ball menu for the second one have increased the risk of him having seeked “it” elsewhere…

        Don’t ask me how I happened upon that cr*p article.

      1. Yeah that was the one part he got completely backwards. It shows how ingrained the idea is that pandering to women gets you laid when even an aware guy like him thinks it. Otherwise the video was funny and the ending almost redeemed him.

      1. Well, he was using the generic background of trials and tribulations of the (especially US) pickup scene as an effectively comedic concentrate. Black, deathly and macabre comedy, that is.

  10. The important thing about the chart as regards the double standard is that it points out that the two situations are different, so there is no contradiction in applying different standards.

    It’s like comparing someone who goes on a big game hunt with someone who culls deer during a bait-and-shoot. Sure, both people set out to kill animals, but there is no contradiction in calling the big game hunter’s kill the more impressive act (indeed, baiting is so unsporting that it is typically illegal except for population control efforts) – and that’s exactly what there is the SMP, a vast difference in the level of effort and risk for each actor, even in pursuit of what is superficially the same goal.

    Further, there are biochemical ramifications to sluttery that men don’t face – every rush of oxtocin with a new partner diminishes a woman’s ability to successfully form long-term bonds later on down the line.

    Passive, easy, self destructive fucks are not as laudable as earned ones – which is the real distinction made by the slut/stud paradigm.

    1. Women demanded to be compared on the act alone, not about biochemical ramifications. The femmes framed it as an equal act with disparate consequences based on gender.

      INPUT sleep with too many people
      IF woman then = “slut”;
      IF man then = “super_stud”;
      ELSE print “bisexual”

      It was women who wanted to be judged as a man would for the same act. (ie. super stud) The graphic and everyone else’s additions above are testament to that blatant infantilization that is woman’s reasoning when the tables flipped and they have to deal with counter observations they didn’t want to take into consideration when applied to them. (Men wanting to be judged like women)

      I mean i would love to be called “empowered, liberated, sexually aware, in charge of my own sexual pleasure” for wanting the asians to speed up the R & D on those life like robotic love dolls that can emote and respond to basic commands and even ask how my day was so i can forgoe the need to deal with emotionally defunct, entitled, egotistical, princess, debt riddled, diseased and used up, aging women who could care less how my day was but spend my credit limit into the red. But somehow i think it’s more likely i’d be called Hitler instead for turning women into a slave class that must compete with objects for male attention further objectifying them.

      Tho i’m sure no one cared to make that same contention when women replaced men with vibrating plastic dicks. We are the disposable sex after all.

  11. When girls complain about that double standard it doesnt mean they want to fix reality and standards and morals. What it means is in it emotional content.

    The content is that she wants to fuck a lot of guys and doesnt want to be shamed for it.

    Which becomes a tease: so, what you’re saying is that you want to bang a lot of dudes, right? and she´ll giggle. And we´ll end up fucking.

  12. I’m sure most of you have probably seen this meme by now-

    Today a chick I dated briefly awhile back posted the “women’s version” on facebook. Can’t find a link but yea, it’s probably just what you think it is, talking about traveling the world and hooking up with cute guys and not being called a slut and putting herself first.

    These chicks want all of the perks that men have without any of the obligations, responsibilities, repercussions, or the WORK that goes into it.

      1. Or rather in the Academia: “uncredited, unsourced research of temporarily untraceable origin” a.k.a. Internet Snatch.

  13. Under “Wants to feel as much pleasure as possible during sex”, add “Western doctors routinely cut off a densely-innervated and protective portion of male genitalia to little concern to society” versus “Felony to perform any type of female circumcision, even a symbolic pinprick” [the latter restriction IS moral, I admit].

  14. This image was full of a lot of just lame victim mentality. The fashion store for thing for instance.. If men shopped more and bought more clothes, there would be more fashion stores for men. Fact is they don’t, and the market changes because of that. It has nothing to do with a double standard. The truth is there are plenty of double standards and to act as though your gender might have it worse than another is a shame. I’m sure if women wanted to make one of these just like this, they could. I’m sure any group of people could come up with a huge list of double standards against them. Most people don’t spend their time whining about it.
    You might want to check out this article

    1. Perhaps, but in a fem-centric culture which gender will generate a sympathetic response to that list and which gender will be told “Man Up or Shut Up” ?

      Which gender owns the term ‘Double Standard’ and which gender will be called a whiner for complaining about them?

      It’s not that you couldn’t compile a list of double standards that affect either gender, it’s who owns the message. Just by my posting this list it reeks of ‘poor me’ for no other reason than a Man addressed it.

      Now go meditate on why a man raising this issue should be accused of a victim mentality. Hint: you’re still plugged into it.

      1. Exactly. Men are expected to be good provider drones not protest any injustices or rock the cradle.

        [This link from Today’s Daily Mail in the UK is ridiculous in that it just panders to the female perspective – if a similar type of article was written by a bloke suggesting or encouraging joining dating sites to cheat on Women, it would be castigated but in reality, would never be published by a mainstream news site.]

  15. Reminds me of this:

    If you put a woman on a pedestal and try to protect her from the rat race, you’re a male chauvinist.
    If you stay home and do the housework,you’re a pansy.
    If you work too hard, there is never any time for her.
    if you don’t work enough, you’re a good-for-nothing bum.
    If she has a boring repetitive job with low pay,this is exploitation.
    If you have a boring repetitive job with low pay, you should get off your ass and find something better.
    If you get a promotion ahead of her, that is favoritism.
    If she gets a job ahead of you, it’s equal opportunity.
    If you mention how nice she looks, it’s sexual harassment.
    If you keep quiet, it’s male indifference.
    If you cry, you’re a wimp.
    If you don’t, you’re an insensitive bastard.
    If you thump her, it’s wife bashing.
    If she thumps you, it’s self-defense.
    If you make a decision without consulting her,you’re a chauvinist.
    If she makes a decision without consulting you,she’s a liberated woman.
    If you ask her to do something she doesn’t enjoy,that’s domination.
    If she asks you, it’s a favor.
    If you appreciate the female form and frilly underwear, you’re a pervert.
    If you don’t, you’re gay.
    If you like a woman to shave her legs and keep in shape, you’re sexist.
    If you don’t, you’re unromantic.
    If you try to keep yourself in shape,you’re vain. If you don’t, you’re a slob.
    If you buy her flowers,you’re after something.
    If you don’t, you’re not thoughtful.
    If you’re proud of your achievements, you’re full of yourself.
    If you don’t, you’re not ambitious.
    If she has a headache, she’s tired.
    If you have a headache, you don’t love her anymore.
    If you want it too often, you’re oversexed.
    If you don’t, there must be someone else.

  16. how about that key and lock analogy? a player is a good key that opens many locks, a slut is a bad lock that can be opened by many keys.

  17. How about how society is engineered for women to be happy?

    Marriage is unstable for men because that is not natural for men to be happy in monogamous relationships while women can be. So atleast most of life for most men is unhappy while most of life for most women is happy. Also consider the fact that man’s attraction is based on looks and the wife keeps changing for the worse, while woman’s is based more on character and personality and that keeps usually getting better or atleast staying the same. Also while they are young they can get any man they want, while men have to try and get sex. Any women unless horrendous can open her legs any easily find a good looking man or a bad looking man with huge dick to boink her.

    Also, think about this:
    Man is judged in bed by how long he can last and how big he is, very hard to change intrinsic factors. While women can last long naturally and how much is she judged on the size or shape of her pussy? Breasts are not comparable because it is a matter of taste and not at all essential to the act.

    You have to read Anatomy of Female Power by Chenweizu

  18. I was directed here, to this article, by deti in order to get a better grasp of the “manosphere” when I asked – on Stingray’s site – why are they so MAD?

    Good post. I get it.

    I will say that in my one week of reading in the “manosphere,” one double standard has leaped out at me and beat me in the head … The same guys who are on Dalrock and other blogs griping about women who are not virtuous are also on Roosh V. They are not going to find any virtuous women following in the footsteps of a man who has written ten books on “how to get laid.” This strikes me as the worst example of a double standard – looking for a virgin or a virtuous woman while you are trying to have sex with as many women as possible.

    This is not an attack. It is an observation. In most areas, you are preaching to the choir.

    I posted this question on Stingray’s site earlier today (no one wants to answer it):

    How do y’all feel about a school district that won’t let a senior walk to get her diploma, because she had a child in tenth grade, but went on to work, take care of her baby and finish high school through classes in school . The young man who is the father gets to walk and receive his diploma.
    (Me: Apparently, if she had terminated the pregnancy and kept her mouth shut, the cap and gown would be available.)

    What do you think?

    Respectfully submitted…

  19. The funniest thing about most of these “double standards” against men, is it’s mainly men who created them.

  20. Funny though how the smoking bans in the bars have turned most of them into estrogen showcases. Since women don’t tip well this isn’t going to end well.

    It would seem to me that another important double standard is that *most men* no longer have gathering places without women whereas women have loads of them–whether they like it or not.

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  22. @Connie
    > This strikes me as the worst example of a double
    > standard – looking for a virgin or a virtuous woman
    > while you are trying to have sex with as many
    > women as possible.

    Hey Connie. This double standard has a name. It’s called Madonna/Whore (M/W) syndrome.

    This is one of the core double standards of American culture.

    And the fools who believe this shit deserve the sexless, unfulfilling marriages and long term relationships they end up in . . . and get cuckolded in-LOL

  23. @ Connie

    Again, if you read over the article and comments the answer is within. It isn’t about how you can (or can’t) come up with double standards on both sides, it’s about how the very mentioning (or questioning) of these double standards that don’t favor men is shamed the very minute a man mentions it or calls it into question.

    That is the double standard in itself.

    The truth is our society has set out to place a man in a ‘catch 22’ position at the very thought of questioning anything, today. A man can no longer ask questions or state an opinion, on anything, with being shamed. A man is only allowed to echo the teachings of the FI…and that’s it.

    You know it’s the truth because anytime it’s brought up it’s shouted down, right away (by SJWs and white knights).

  24. I saw this one the other day and I thought I’d share it….from the movie “Up In The Air”.

    Straight from the horses mouth….scene discusses this woman breaking up with her boyfriend and the woman describes her “ideal man” or the “one”.

    Show anyone this video whenever a woman talks about men having higher standards (or a list) versus women.

  25. Wow!!
    Yes there are real double standards against females. And because m,e’s don’t want females to tell about it, then males create some false double standards.
    Rules and notions were created by makes a long time ago. Now it’s all backfiring on them. They made the rules, females abiding by them for a long time, then got fed up. Vengeance…….,,,,,

  26. @Sam

    lol bullshit. men doesn’t get congratulated for having sex with multiple women. i don’t see any men getting trophies for fucking a bunch of women. in fact, most medias portrays men who does this as assholes who should be looked at with contempt.

  27. I find this to be a tad biased. As many of the articles from the list are inaccurate based on what I have observed in society. Since when is it expected for a woman to be boring? I had no idea this expectation existed. And to that regard I think men would revert to the “I’m fucked” response just as much as women. I’m not sure if this was written in 1950 but as a modern day woman very little of this applies and just an FYI there are more women taking on professional roles and attending university than men.
    If you wish to prove a point you have done so, although it be irrational and biased.
    Opinions are only valid if they have an account, to which you did not provide.

  28. @Tom
    “This double standard has a name. It’s called Madonna/Whore (M/W) syndrome.”
    Not really. Contrary to how the terms is often used both outside and in the manosphere, usually in a shaming fashion against men who dare to set their standards for a mate and prefer sexually ‘uncompromised’ one, Madonna-whore complex is something different than what Connie mentions.
    What Connie refers to is simply as “legitimate” or “natural” male sexual strategy as AF-BB is for women.

  29. It’s weird, I googled my alias, come across this article, read it and agree with a lot of it, read the comments, see that I commented on this a few years back and remember that I read this before but didn’t agree back then apparently, funny how shit changes.

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