Women in Love

Men believe that love matters for the sake of it. Women love opportunistically.

Today’s pull quote comes from Xpat Ranting’s blog. The discourse there is brief, but insightful:

I really, really, really hope the myth that girls are the hopeless romantics gets kicked to the curb ASAP. Everyone needs to realize that men are the “romantics pretending to be realists” and women; vice versa

I found this particularly thought provoking – Men are the romantics forced to be the realists, while women are the realists using romanticisms to effect their imperatives (hypergamy). This is a heaping mouthful of cruel reality to swallow, and dovetails nicely into the sixth Iron Rule of Tomassi:

Iron Rule of Tomassi #6
Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.

In its simplicity this speaks volumes about about the condition of Men. It accurately expresses a pervasive nihilism that Men must either confront and accept, or be driven insane in denial for the rest of their lives when they fail to come to terms with the disillusionment.

Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of.

In the same respect that women cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make in order to facilitate their imperatives, women can’t actualize how a man would have himself loved by her. It is not the natural state of women, and the moment he attempts to explain his ideal love, that’s the point at which his idealization becomes her obligation. Our girlfriends, our wives, daughters and even our mothers are all incapable of this idealized love. As nice as it would be to relax, trust and be vulnerable, upfront, rational and open, the great abyss is still the lack of an ability for women to love Men as Men would like them to.

For the plugged-in beta, this aspect of ‘awakening’ is very difficult to confront. Even in the face of constant, often traumatic, controversions to what a man hopes will be his reward for living up to qualifying for a woman’s love and intimacy, he’ll still hold onto that Disneyesque ideal.

It’s very important to understand that this love archetype is an artifact from our earliest feminized conditioning. It’s much healthier to accept that it isn’t possible and live within that framework. If she’s there, she’s there, if not, oh well. She’s not incapable of love in the way she defines it, she’s incapable of love as you would have it. She doesn’t lack the capacity for connection and emotional investment, she lacks the capacity for the connection you think would ideally suit you.

The resulting love that defines a long-term couple’s relationship is the result of coming to an understanding of this impossibility and re-imagining what it should be for Men. Men have been, and should be, the more dominant gender, not because of some imagined divine right or physical prowess, but because on some rudimentary psychological level we ought to realized that a woman’s love is contingent upon our capacity to maintain that love in spite of a woman’s hypergamy. By order of degrees, hypergamy will define who a woman loves and who she will not, depending upon her own opportunities and capacity to attract it.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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[…] on the same page as they are with respect to his idealistic concept of love (versus a woman’s opportunistic concept of love). This is where most Beta men get themselves into trouble. They presume their ‘bride‘ […]

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Hello Chelsea

You are a Bot, right?

If not tell us your life story. In three short paragraphs. Failure to do so in a human narrative form would prove the bot speculation.

“Beauty/Sexual attractiveness of a female produce physical pleasure (mundane) for men, skill or intelligence or courage or industriousness.of a male produce material pleasures and security (mundane) for women and their offsprings.”

Only bots and losers live a mundane life.

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“1 triggered person Vote down All my rational posts which are based on reality of life.”

Possibly for the spamming, not the content itself.

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” . . . how am i spamming, i’m discussing . . .” Several posts in a row making the same elementary point is not a “discussion.” I’m only responding because you haven’t changed your IP address every post as well. “I posted here to share my perspectives on the issue as a female.” Which is the only thing that distinguishes you from someone singing to the choir, but isn’t anything we haven’t seen before. You aren’t the only female who has commented here, nor the only one who doesn’t realize she’s just reenforcing the RM perspective. i.e. you are… Read more »

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Rollo Tomassi and KFG are liars, in denial, hyprocritical, coward Beta Males. The author deleted all my posts because a lot of his ideas I proved wrong with basis from Realities of Life. (He didnt delete the posts from other females; he deleted mine because i made strong points.) Rollo and kfg, you guys are cowards cannot even counter my arguments properly. You downvoted and deleted (Lol embarrassing) the arguments instead of let it be in the public forum for other guys to read and decide for Themselves. You treat men like little boys. You wanted to brainwash men to… Read more »

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@kfg “Most men will get more and more miserable and even kill themselves before they leave their wives for a leaner model.” Hyprocritical, and what a loser. The only reason men would let themselves become miserable and even kill themselves (such losers) if their wives become obese or undesirable and not get some pride (life goes on) start a new relationship with a Nice, Pretty woman is because they Can’t. If a man likes that nice, pretty woman and she have feelings for him, if the man is confident in having a good relationship with her, if he’s not insecure,… Read more »

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Many readers have read my past posts already, go ahead delete these ones too to affirm what coward Beta males you guys are lol how embarrassing
I posted in other sites anyway- the strong men agreed and get motivated, the weak boys get depressed and stay loser.

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@kfg “Men succeed at suicide the most, because they just can’t take it anymore and can’t conceive of simply leaving as a way out.” Ending your own life cos your spouse become obese, broke your heart, don’t find you good enough, being demanding, etc that’s stupidity, being weak, no sense of self-love and pride, being too dependent on someone else for your own happiness, lacking motivation and goals in life, Lacking Options That’s Not about having Idealistic love (i will kill myself cos im so heart broken!!!) So their way out is giving up, putting an end on their lives… Read more »

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@kfg “you are projecting the opportunistic love of women onto men,” Why don’t you just accept that confidence, sense of humor, skills, intelligence, industriousness, being an achiever are great traits that women Desire/Admire and make them fall In love with a man (in most cases) And that these attributes, as a result, produce security and happiness for a woman and their children. Most strong men don’t complain about this, they are competitive and win. Women desire/respect/love them, they have many options, so they get to choose the best woman. For many other women, a man doesn’t even have to possess… Read more »

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Banning me also for challenging your “rational” ideas instead of properly countering my points shows how fake, hypocritical, cowardly you guys are.

Be truthful.

Disguising my multiple posts as spamming lol you just dont want to accept the realities.

You just want excuses and scapegoats for your weaknesses and shortcomings in the dating game.

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….through thick n thin, till death do us part…

I love my Obese wife for life! I will Never fall out of love!

-hyprocritical True Romantics

Fool yourselves.

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@Rollo Tomassi “Actually most men don’t fall out of love with a woman when she gets fat. They lose arousal/attraction for her, but more often than not they’ll stay with her because they believe in an idealistic concept of love (love for the sake of it).” Is this Real life? The ones who Can leave, they leave. The others who Can’t leave, either Cheat or stay Unhappy/Miserable (in either cases, the man is Not being Romantically In love, if you’re In love with your partner you won’t cheat or feel miserable you should be happy even she’s Unattractive; Again, men… Read more »

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If your Obese wife stopped doing household chores got lazy or stopped being a good mother to your children, would you still love her?

Men’s love is Conditional as well.

Having conditional love is Nature’s way so the father and mother work harder to ensure the protection, security and well-being of their family.

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If you will delete any of my new posts, that’s only an affirmation you cannot counter properly my valid
points. That makes you lose credibility. (You should bring back all my deleted posts as well to show you’re not fake and a– coward)

Clearly I’m discussing elaborately about the issue to make Clear my arguments and points, not spamming like you guys falsely claims just so my posts you can hide from readers.

Many ppl have read these new posts too. wink

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If you will still insist that men are True Romantics, they love Idealistically….
They love their wife no matter what……….

Then for guys like you, Love is Blind for you then.

You are Irrational then. You don’t even know what is right and wrong kind of love. That makes a person miserable.

You’re not thinking with your brain nor with your penis. You’re not thinking at all.

You’re being delusional hopeless romantic. Holding on to Illusion.

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@Rollo ” Women, on the other hand, adhere to an opportunistic concept of love rooted in their Hypergamous mating strategy – “Is he the best I can do?”, is the limbic doubt women must answer. In our ancestral past answering this question was literally a life or death proposition, thus it entered into women’s evolutionary firmware of today. When that answer is ‘no’ that’s when women abandon their mates for the prospect of a better one, or a better living apart from their low SMV man. This is why women initiate 70%+ of all divorce. Their concept of love is… Read more »

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wrong section. i was supposed to post the last 2 posts in here: https://therationalmale.com/2016/04/24/fempowerment/

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@B Strong Week

You don’t know how oppressed men are now. Millennials are having less sex than any time in history! Birth rates are dropping, we are heading for extinction! Rollo today had to do a youtube video to tell millennials why sex is important. They didn’t know, they think a pumpkin latte is more important!

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The world is Overpopulated, i think it’s actually good that not everybody is popping out kids nowadays esp. life is hard, the world’s resources is decreasing, if you cannot provide well for your kids, better not procreate. The world is populated with weak people. When a tiger Chase’s a bunch of deer, which deer is likely to die? Sexually unsuccessful ones. They are always the weakest. They say, “Good men die early..”😸😸😸 Reproduction isn’t the end goal of men (or women?). theasdgamer is a 50+ man, still needs to school and take care of her 25+ daughter. Author of the… Read more »

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typing errors*

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Chelsea, how old are you?

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