The greatest inconsistency that most people discussing Social Darwinism fall into is the “survival of the fittest” falacy. Nowhere in any of Darwin’s writtings will you ever see this terminology refered to in the context of natural selection. It’s not survival of the fitest, it is survival of the species best able to adapt to it’s changing conditions and environments. Dinosaurs ruled the earth as the preeminent species for eons (far longer than humans). Then in the relative blink of an eye, they were extinct because a radical environmental change, for which they were, biologically, completely unprepared wiped them out wholesale. They simply couldn’t adapt to that environment.

This is what people fail to see; adaptation is the coin of the realm in evolution. 68% of the population in the U.S. is overweight, not because of “bad” genes, but because the environment has changed and people have adapted to it. Our bodies naturally store fat. We evolved from a necessity to do so since food sources were scarce in our biological past, however now the environment has changed. Food is too abundant, too convenient, too calorie dense, etc. for us not to be fat. Our metabolism favors carbohydrates over protien and stored fat, why? Because our environmental reality thousands of years ago meant that a good sugar kick made for a better chance of evading a predator. Now this biological legacy only makes us fatter when you can buy ding dongs at any 7-11.


With regards to monogamy or polygyny, essentially what we’re observing in this era is a result of a restructuring of adaptive methodologies to account for changes in our environment. Single motherhood, readily available forms of birth control, greater potential for security provisioning for men and women that isn’t based on physical prowess, etc. Yet, in light of all that we still struggle with the legacy of our biological pasts.

Men and women, biologically, have different methodologies for reproduction. It is in a woman’s biological best interest to mate with the genetically superior male best able to provide long term provisioning for her and any potential offspring. Again, it is in her best interest to find a man best fitted to share in parental investment. This is due to her comparatively prolonged period of gestation (9 months), the rigors of rearing a child to self-sufficiency (at least adolescence) as well as her own insured survival. They ovulate in a 28 day cycle and are at a peak of feritlity 5-7 years after puberty. They posess a limited number of eggs and become biologically inviable after a certain age (at or around menopause). Their hormone and endorphin biochemistry also reflect this reproductive schema; they produce in bulk oxytocin and estrogen, both responsible for prompting feelings of nurturing as well as serving as buffers for sexual indescretions. At the peak of their menstrual cycles they produce more testosterone in preparation for sexual activity and in the low periods produce more estrogens and progesterones. In addition, both during and after pregnancy they produce high levels of progesterone and oxytocin, both primary in engendering feelings of love and nuturement for offspring.

Men’s methodologies are much different. Biologically, we produce 12.5 times the amount of testosterone than women. As a result we have higher accuity of vision, hearing and touch. We have more muscularity, lean towards feelings of aggression in preference to sadness. And of course we are easily prompted to a state of sexual arousal – we’re always ready for it in our natural state. We produce millions of reproductive cells daily and are sexually viable until very late in life. Our reproductive methodology revolves around “spreading the seed” as indiscriminately as possible. Ours is quanity, women’s is quality.

Now, having done the break down of this, you can see the conflict in mating methods; thus enters adaptive sociological and psychological mechanisms to regulate this process. Thus, being social animals, we introduce ethics, morality and implied responsibilities to buffer both methodolgies. In our biological past, sexual arousal in both men and women was mitigated by physical prowess. Large breasts in women, an appropriate hips to waist ratio, physical symetry in both sexes, muscularity in men, physical manifestations of testosterone (square jaw for example) etc. we’re the call signs for sexual activity. Physicality was (and still is) the primary motivator for sexual activity and this is literally encoded into our genetics.

However, as society progressed, conditions and environments changed, thus social adaptation changed. A lot of freshly unplugged guy’s make an astute observation in this progression – Why is it that women are still hot for:

  • Celebrities
  • Musicians
  • Criminals
  • Drug dealers
  • Daredevils and risk-takers

Social proof began to become a secondary consideration for intimate acceptance (from a female mating methodology) for women as society progressed. Physical prowess, while still a primary sexual attractor and indicator of prefered genetics, didn’t necessarily ensure a continued committment to parental investment. Men and women’s reproductive methodologies have always been in a see-saw balance since we began as hunter-gatherer tribal societies. As society (see environment) changed other factors for parental investment became important. Artists became attractive bcause they possessed creative intelligence and this was manifested in their creative abilities to solve problems. When you see the broke musician with the dutiful girlfriend this is that legacy at work.

Social proof and intersexual competition, while always present, began to move into the psychological. It was far more efficient for women to compete for a desirable male covertly – usually by not confirming his acceptance – than to do so overtly. As society further progressed, male competition moved away from the physical and into a provisioning capacity. A drug dealer and a high powered corporate executive could both be “alpha” males – both have high social proof and provisioning capacity – albeit in different social strata.

Polygyny and Monogamy are natural human methodologies. Polygyny serves a mans biological imperative better, while monogamy serves a woman’s better. The conflict arises when either is compromised. A single man who’s non-exclusively dating is essentially in a state of polygyny, while a married woman is in her prefered state of secured monogamy. Either sex must surrender their prefered methodology to accommodate the other’s. This is why, socially, we have stages in our modern lives where one is exercised over another.

Animal Planet

I was recently watching an animal planet special on dogs and cats that compared their “domestic” behaviors with those of their wild counterparts, like preadatory cats and wolves. Not so surpisingly a dog will instinctively do circles and tramp down his bed in exactly the same fashion as a wolf will his sleeping area. So too will cats cover up their own excrement, burying it so predators wont catch their scent so readily, just like house cats will. To us, these and many other behaviors seem cute, but entirely unnecessary for domesticated animals to habitually perform. One would think that after literally thousands of years of domestication, as well as selective breeding, these behaviors would be less prominent or entirely “bred out” of them, but this is obviously not the case. They are hardwired, unlearned behaviors that are imprinted into them from birth that proved to be valuable in their species’ survival over the course of generations.

Using this analogy, how much more complex are our behaviors and the motivations behind them? There are many global studies that compare physical features in attraction across culture and race for both sexes that show very frequent commonalities for physical attraction. Broad shoulders, squared jawline and chest to waist ratio in men and symetry of facial features, breast size and hips to waist ratios in women are universal attractors for each respective sex. In fact the very common propensity for women to exclude men shorter than themselves from their consideration for intimacy is specifically derived from what evolutioanry psychologists call vestigial sexual selection.

Bear in mind this is attraction and how our subconscious interprets external cues for prompting desire. You see a naked woman in Playboy and the result is a hard on. External prompt – biological response, pure and simple. That’s a quick and easy one, but there’s a variety of other reponses that occur too – quickening of heart rate, release of hormones and endorphines, dialation of pupils, flushing of skin, etc. Again this is a reaction that was unlearned and part of our chemical make up.

A lot of frustration most men and women endure in our modern socio-sexual education is the result of a psychological attempt to reconcile the vestigial behaviors and predilections of our feral past with the need for adaptation in our present environment. Hypergamy is the prime directive for women, but precious few are cognitively aware of it, and even the ones who may be still find themselves subject to it. Hypergamy is a vestigial, mental subroutine running in women’s peripheral awarenesses. So vital was this species survival methodology in our past that it had to become part of a woman’s limbic understanding of herself.

So when these processes are brought into our awareness (i.e. feminine hypergamy, male polygyny, etc.) we tend to play them down or dismiss them wholesale. Sometimes the truths of these vestiges are ugly – in fact the reason we find them uncomfortable or offensive is the result of a societal effort to keep them under the surface in ourselves. They offend our sense of justice, or notions of equitability, but they did serve to bring us to where we are now as a society.

A lot of critics of evo-psych (in particular), as well as the revealers of some of the more unsettling aspects of human social and sexual evolution, like to start their criticisms by conflating the revelations of these dynamics with condoning  the behaviors that are results of them. Yes, hypergamy, in all its permutations, can be a very ugly truth to witness, but exposing it, attempting to understand it, is not tantamount to endorsing it. Human beings can’t handle too much reality, so the recourse is to attempt to stuff the Genie back into the bottle. Being aware of our feral natures and attempting to deconstruct the vestiges of those we deal with today is not the same as expecting absolution from the consequences of them.

Just because you know the reasons for your behaviors doesn’t grant you a license to engage in them. Yet neither should anyone be discouraged from legitimate inquiry into the natures of our primal selves for fear of the shame that others would want to apply to you to ease their own discomfort.


  1. @Anna

    Men gaining worldly experience and wealth is ideal, but this will harm most women in the long run. During their early 20s women should be looking to marry a high value man. That’s the best strategy for them. Only the beautiful have the option to have all that free fun without an enormous cost.

    Do you understand the concept of selling your stock at peak value? You can’t simply want experience and job success to apply to women as it applies to men and have it to be true. Locking down commitment to a high value man is hard enough as is, and telling normal women to act like guys and that everything will simply fall into place later is fool hardy (at least for the women). Most women become resentful when they are stuck with a man below the value that they could have locked down when they were young and had the leverage whereas men reget not fucking lots of hot women before they got hitched.

    YaReally gives good advice to MEN. Applying it to women will have consequences because we have competing reproductive paradigms. It’s like telling a linebacker that the best way to be successful in the NFL is working on his route running and catching ability because it works so well for an NFL reciever.

  2. “YaReally gives good advice to MEN. Applying it to women will have consequences because we have competing reproductive paradigms. It’s like telling a linebacker that the best way to be successful in the NFL is working on his route running and catching ability because it works so well for an NFL reciever.”

    Very good points. Thinking what applies to men applies to women is the root of all of these problems.

  3. @Furious Ferret

    Understood, but I still kinda disagree. If a woman completes high school at 19, marries at 20-22, and starts having babies at 23, then raises them each to age 19…that puts her to at least age 40 before she can have a life of her own…probably closer to 43-45 due to spacings between births. I’m not saying that women should go out and fuck every guy they see or waste money on a degree they’ll never use, or even try to have a much sought after job (especially if they’re just going to get preggers and quit 2 years after getting it). But I do think that women should know a little bit of the world they live in before getting hitched to a man and running a house.

    Of course, this could just be the way *I* look at it, since I have never desired a husband/children. I’ll be 28 this year, and I still want to get my MBA before I’m 30. The business I work for will be looking for new partners in about 3 years, and I’m in the running for helping to open a new location. I’ll be completely debt free in under 2 years if I keep my lifestyle the same as it is now and nothing happens with my mortgage rates.

    I’m just saying that women should weigh their opinions carefully…like YaReally said, marriage is a big decision and not something you should rush into headfirst. It’s all about knowing what you truly want from life, and not giving in to societal pressures to be someone you’re not (within reason of course!).

  4. The best thing for a man to do is live alone in his 20s. You will learn how to take care of yourself, rely on yourself to fix problems, rely on yourself to go out into the world to find your own fun and hobbies…etc. You learn independence. It’s by that you learn problem solving skills you need to take care of others who will be dependant on you. When shit hits the fan…you’ve gone through it before.

    Momma’s boys and guys who are shacked up perpetually with ladies never get this great life experience.

    Women however shouldn’t do that unless you want to be truly independent. Most women should be looking for a man that lives this way.

  5. About the tail thing: one word. Huldra. It’s a kind of troll-wife.
    There’s a new slightly horrorish film out, Thale.
    Knew a girl who had a vestigial coccyx-extension, but it was only about as long as the last joint of your pinky. More irritating than captivating, as it was very prone to injury, and she was a bit over-embarrassed about it, even though nobody (that knew about it) cared a toss. Maybe because she couldn’t make it wiggle 🙂

  6. @Matthew King (King A)

    The Buddha, Christian asceticism, and the first precept of The Tao of Steve say otherwise. To become perfectly desireless is to attain nirvana. To avoid adultery and extinguish the very thought of adultery is to be “be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” These self-destructive urges are properly categorized as external to the true self, or demonic to those who require a more blunt rendering for the lesson to sink in.

    To assume it impossible to eliminate your desire is a tacit authorization of desire, no matter whether you act upon it. To control your desires from becoming actions is an excellent and necessary discipline, but to control their occurrence is still more excellent.

    Matt, desire is passion. What you are arguing for is the extinguishing of human passion. I can’t think of anything more horrific to argue for. I don’t care what those religions say about removing desire, religions can create whatever psychological fantasy they want and hold it in front of people as an ideal to attain. That doesn’t mean it can actually happen. Scientology literally convinces people they can attain telepathy or telekinesis with proper use of their methods, would you ever use that as an example?

    Human passion is a great evolutionary gift, to argue for its removal is to argue for humans to become robots.

  7. “Women however shouldn’t do that unless you want to be truly independent. Most women should be looking for a man that lives this way.”

    Precisely what I’m saying. Just know what type you are before you make a mess of your life and those around you.

  8. “Of course, this could just be the way *I* look at it, since I have never desired a husband/children. ”

    The huge problem is that the vast majority of women really do want the high value husband with kids and giving the strong independent woman advice royally fucks them in the ass simply because it makes them unhappy in the long term. Young women might say or even superfically think they want the feminist path but by the time they realize they want the more traditional lifestyle they much less likely to get an optimal one. However try to explain these things to these girls is an exercise in futility because it goes directly against their social programming made by their liberal overlords and nothing pisses off the masters as a rogue woman going against the herd.

    In the past exceptional women would go out and accomplish workplace success because they had a unique drive and skills however it’s wasn’t pushed on women that really weren’t suited to it. Now wanting to be a wife and manage the home will make that woman a pariah even though secretly this woman is envied and admired just as the male cad is publically shamed yet celebrated.

    Anna, I guess you might be a true outliner and that’s fine but you will have to accept the consequences which I’m not sure you fully aware of when you hit the wall hard. I believe you think you understand but it’s whole different ballgame when it actual happens. I mean if you are perfectly happy with your successful business woman path and aren’t seeking a better way, why do you come to Rollo’s blog so often? You obviously are searching for a higher way, yet aren’t willingly to accept the sacrifices. No one can have it all. Everyone makes trade offs.

    However, the wild card in this equation is just stay thin. The woman with one chin in the land of the landwhale is Queen. So funny that what was the norm 60 years ago is worth it’s weight in gold.

  9. “However, the wild card in this equation is just stay thin. The woman with one chin in the land of the landwhale is Queen. So funny that what was the norm 60 years ago is worth it’s weight in gold.”

    Amazing how easy it is to up your value these days when it used to be the norm up until feminism reared its ugly head.

    Women…stay thin and act pleasant.
    Men…act confident, be interesting, and live independent.

  10. @Furious Ferret

    I don’t know if I’d say I come to Rollo’s blog “so often”. Unless I’m remembering incorrectly, this is only the 3rd post I’ve ever commented on. As for why I read and respond, it’s because I enjoy the exchange of ideas and information, especially when it’s an interesting topic. I mean, why does ANYONE subscribe to a blog or forum?

    And you may be right, who knows? It is possible (though not probable) that I’ll “hit the wall” 10 years from now. Maybe I’ll be 38 and sad that I didn’t get married or have children yet. But you know what? I can’t live in the present if I’m only looking at a theoretical future. Since I was very young, I’ve always wanted to travel, go to college, have a degree to hang on my wall, make lots of money and be appreciated for my hard work. While other girls in the playground were playing house, I was with the boys playing capture the flag. I took Tech instead of Home Ec, and went to the prom with friends instead of a date. I can’t help the way I am…no matter how much my parents complain about their lack of grandkids. (I’m the oldest of 6. They’ll get grandkids eventually.)

    I guess I’d just rather live this life in a way that makes me happy and responsible. I love my freedom, both financial and physical. I love being my own person, and making my own rules. If I want to stay up til 2am painting minis or playing videogames, I can. If I want to go to the gym right before work, I can. I don’t have to call and say my D&D game ran late, or that I’m heading to a midnight showing of Iron Man.

    So, yeah…I’d rather keep myself healty, fit and fun to be around while being happy in my life…rather than hanging up my aspirations and dreams to raise a family I’d be resentful of for tying me down. It’s one thing to screw up your own life. It’s entirely selfish to screw up someone else’s.

    But this is way too much about me, and it’s way off topic. I was just trying to say that I agree with YaReally…though it seems I messed THAT up. 😦

  11. “So, I’ve gone from being 172 lbs in December to being 162 now (and will hopefully be my goal weight of 155 by February.)”

    “”It is possible (though not probable) that I’ll “hit the wall” 10 years from now”

    At your age of 27, I’d say you’re on a direct collision course as we speak. You weigh as much as I do, a 5’11 15 – 18 percent body fat man. As age increases, we have to be in better shape.

    That’s what women don’t seem to understand. They burn brighter and although they know that the beauty will burn out and rather rapidly, they don’t feel it and understand it.

    You that famous line in Fight Club for men “”You have to know, not fear, that some day you are going to die. Until you know that and embrace that, you are useless.” -Tyler

    For women it should read “You have to know, not fear, that some day you are going to be ugly. Until you know that and embrace that, you are going to end up with a beta herb and/or cats”.

    However, Anna you are that type of nerd/alt girl. Both sexes that follow that very geeky behavior seem to actually be happier in many cases. I know one guy and his wife that the biggest geeks in the entire world with very plain looks but they seem extremely happy with star trek and all that jazz being their primary focus simply because that’s who they are and they don’t really give a fuck about the rest of the world. They are like little nerd buddhas, cut themselves from desire besides battlestar galatica and are totally content despite being by many metrics sub par.

  12. “A lot of critics of evo-psych (in particular), as well as the revealers of some of the more unsettling aspects of human social and sexual evolution, like to start their criticisms by conflating the revelations of these dynamics with condoning the behaviors that are results of them.”

    My response to these people is; while yes, it is natural to rape, murder and cheat, it is also natural for us to oppose the engagement in of these behaviours by others.

  13. “I can’t live in the present if I’m only looking at a theoretical future.”

    But this is exactly what more people should be doing: delaying gratificaction by building a foundation for future happiness. Not to say you never enjoy anything along the way.

    “rather than hanging up my aspirations and dreams to raise a family I’d be resentful of for tying me down.”

    You may really think you are atypical, but its more likely you’re not. Biology trumps everything. Deny your biological destiny at your own peril, I say.

  14. @Anna

    …If a woman completes high school at 19, marries at 20-22, and starts having babies at 23, then raises them each to age 19…that puts her to at least age 40 before she can have a life of her own…

    Point of order, the father of those children isn’t exactly going-his-own way and having a blast on his own during these 19 years either. Female sacrifice for family does not exist on its own in a vacuum. Raising a family is an equal sacrifice of interesting life experiences by BOTH partners… but this is presuming it’s much of a sacrifice at all. I’ve seen lots of families who managed to have tremendous amounts of fun together. Your life changes, but it isn’t destroyed for those 19 years.

    …I do think that women should know a little bit of the world they live in before getting hitched to a man and running a house.

    Absolutely. The most important things to learn when growing into adulthood whether you are a man or a woman are:
    1) Everything that pertains to survival
    a. learn a trade/start a career
    b. learn to responsibly keep a roof over your head
    c. learn to cook
    d. learn to clean
    e. learn to enjoy what you have
    f. learn to save for retirement/rainy day/that boat you want
    g. learn to make friends and circles of friends.

    Whether you run a house or a multi-national corporation, those things are important to know how to do. Most things outside of those are extraneous fun (not that that isn’t important).

    Marriage and children are indeed big decisions, but they are not life-destroying as feminist culture tries to preach to us. I’ve seen families with small children travel the world on pennies using little more than a sailboat (this is actually far more common than most people think). I’ve seen families with teenagers go out drinking together and throw house parties together. I’ve seen all manner of enjoyment out of life reflected in parents of all ages of children.

  15. @Kate

    Well, I’ve been an ovo-lacto vegetarian since I was 13, so i guess I’m good at “denying my biology” already, lol. To be blunt, the idea of being pregnant really freaks me out.

    @Furious Ferret
    I’ve already reached my February goal of being 155, and as soon as spring comes around I’m going to try for another 5 to 8 lbs off. Then I think I’ll be at a wonderful healthy weight. But yeah, I’m a geek/nerd…not very plain though, I’ve been told by numerous men that I’m a 7/10.

    You make the most sense, in my humble opinion. And I didn’t mean for it to come off as me being down on family life…it’s just really not for me. I appreciate that others want and strive for it though!

  16. @Martel

    …. Oh my god… I think I am going to be sick. I think that was too much red pill for one sitting.

  17. “I couldn’t agree more. People need to go out, live, and experience LIFE. This whole guilting men and women into getting married at age 20-25 is bogus…how are you supposed to be able to make any type of long term decision when you’ve nothing to compare it to? I firmly believe that we need to travel, get a good job, and learn to depend on ourselves BEFORE we try to depend on someone else for the rest of our lives.”

    Well, that’s why we had family not so long ago. To help us with their wisdom. Authority works like that too. Wisdom can be acquired through communication. Would you say that reading books is useless because the only way to learn is to experience something? No.

    OF COURSE travelling/working/having responsibilities and getting your own experience around the world is a huge bonus. We are talking about very practical experience here mainly, one which helps you move through the world. But how the hell is a 19 year-old supposed to know ON HER OWN that she is in her prime and that she should settle with this guy right now? In your world, she would need to go through experiences which would ultimately make her value go down. Huge, huge, huge mistake.

    With responsible parents, she would settle down early, and she would experience life with her bf/husband.

    Funny how, through your comments, hypergamy is so obvious. Funny and surprising, considering you probably know (should know) about yourself (hypergamy) by now. I suggest a little (euphemism) more introspection. 🙂

    “Human passion is a great evolutionary gift, to argue for its removal is to argue for humans to become robots.”

    The point is not to suppress desire, it’s to channel it. Hypergamy is just that: unchanneled (that’s not even a word but who cares) desire going wild.

  18. As I sometimes do I’m coming late to this conversation, hope it’s still on I read all the comments.

    As always seems to happen with hypergamy we seem to get in a rut between the need to beat in the power it holds for those blind to it versus it’s own limits as a force and between its reality as a determinant for female mating behavior and it’s tendency to not be the only determinant

    Men want the hottest hotties and quicky learn to sublimate this desire and still want hot hotties but consider more dimensions. Women want the actor or bandmember or high status individual but have had reasons to sublimate that desire.

    We are living 45-55 years after most reasons to sublimate the desire have been removed in western society.

    It doesn’t need to be so complicated. Yes superfamily drives female mating choices like hotness drives men’s. Simple. Yes while men on the whole remain defacto restrained in their pursuit of hotness women have become unchained in their pursuit of status. Simple. Yes women seem systematically unaware or even in denial of hypergamy. Yes hypergamy can be sublimated we have 10000 years of history and many current world cultures to tell us so and we even have legions of betamales to tell us so (that seed came down to us somehow) but the question is … having unleashed it, what do we do now?

    If all men had free/clear access to hoties, 9-10s approaching them (approaching men) like the men were actors, NBA athletes, rockstars for the first 10 years of their adult lives how would we start from their expections of sexual entitlement to build society and healthy relationships?

    And while I’m not sure the answer I think Yohami is on to something when he suggested that you either restrict men’s and women’s base drives equally or you restrict neither at all.

  19. Part of the trouble discussing hypergamy is the word itself. We’re all using it, but some people using it get it in a strictly conceptual sense while others have a more experienced-based grasp of it.

    One way to describe hypergamy is this:

    Hypergamy is ALL the game you need.

    Does a 9/10 hottie need a good personality? Does she have to be smart or have a college degree or good prospects?

    Those are all nice things, but push-come-shove, looks of 9-10 will carry her as far as attracting men, in spades. She need do nothing – the men will simply approach her. She shows up, they approach.

    So about every single itemizable aspect of “game”, be it cocky/funny, be it aloof, be it asshole game, be it skittlesman, be it a mighty physical appearance … you could trade in every single one of those things, you could basically even be a true-blue-beta-at-heart, but …

    …play base guitar for anyone from Justin Bieber to Peter Gabriel (I probably just commit a grave sin by putting them both in front of the same period) … and viola …

    9s and 10s will approach you, in spades. And they will act like they are interested in your hobbies that they thought were annoying and offputting when you were a cube-drone. And they will be easily responsive to your physical escalations.

    Or – put it another way … a trouble that a lot of men have with grasping hypergamy is that women 4-5 points below them in SMV are as invisible to them as men 2-3 points below a woman are invisible to her.

    To retrain your mind: pay attention to the women who have always been invisible to you. Pay attention to how easily responsive they are. Pay attention to how deferential they are. Did you need any game for that? Did you need to hit the gym?

    When it starts to sink in I think the cause it gives men for alarm is … pretty damn good.

    When men on the whole figure out that when it comes to access to sex, status trumps all comers – status completely reverses the trajectory and gets the hotties to approach you rather than the other way around, then break open the Coliseum, sound the trumpets and start the tournaments. Forget asshole game and cocky-funny too – don’t even bother with Skittles and (ha!) non-sequitar game, the real games will be ON!

  20. Anna: Everything about being a woman used to freak me out! Now there are only a few things that still give me a hard time 🙂

  21. @Bob

    I’ve never personally experienced hypergamy, but that wasn’t the intended point of my initial comment. Yes, hypergamy exists…I see it all the time on television, inferred in commercials, in comments on Facebook or from observing/listening to my friends and customers.

    However, I’m still unsure as to why my opinion that both sexes should have SOME world experience is being translated into “women should sleep around and decrease their SMP value”? That’s not what I’m saying at all.

    If I go to see the Hagia Sophia, do I have to bang a Turkish man while I’m there? If I visit the Taj Mahal, does that mean I’m going to fuck some Indian guy? If I go see the sights of London, does that mean I have a “mandatory” roll in the hay with a British dude?

    No. It means that I’ve gone to see beautiful architecture of some different countries, taste different food, perhaps learn a new language, etc. Not sample that county’s cocks. Again, not sure why some people think I meant that women should open their legs for every man they meet…You can spend a year traveling the world and still be a virgin on your wedding night, whether you’re a man or a woman.

  22. “.. women are able to see a slightly broader range of colors and can hear high noises better. Again, this is most likely due to needing to listen for children crying ..

    Speaking for myself and my mates, and even my sons, at least, it’s maybe got more to do with women being less inclined to spend every opportunity they could headbanging to the likes of Napalm Death or BoltThrower in nasty bunker-like venues, sweat running down the walls and piss on the floor, during their formative years.
    Pardon? What was that?

    Yeah yeah, Guys do Stupid Shit, Part XVII. Get used to it.

  23. @Martel

    Regarding that blog post of yours, following the links brings you to this:

    Reading that page brings to mind Urkel, and the literally culturally ingrained disdain for being smart in minority communities. Reading it solidifies my complete contempt for shows such as “Big Bang Theory”, which seem to try to create culturally acceptable social dismissal of smart white males. A very disturbing trend.

  24. I should probably Google the link for this, but when I was in college I remember reading an experimental study for psych about how fathers were better able to identify their own children’s faces in a crowd than their mothers. They basically had all these kids dressed in identical school uniforms, boy’s hair short, girl’s pulled back, so their only identifying features were their faces and hair color.

    The father’s overwhelmingly out performed the mothers for time in making a facial recognition of their own children. The study was intended to validate the idea that men had a psychologically evolved capacity for kin selection that women lacked an imperative need to develop. Since men had no real genetic assurance that the child they sired was in fact their own progeny, they needed to evolve a capacity to identify their own ‘genetic investment’ from that of another man’s, whereas a woman had little (or comparatively less) need to evolve this autonomous identifying mechanism.

  25. @Rollo,

    That’s pattern recognition, which men generally excel at. I’ve also been able to recognize people I know from much longer distances than the people I’m usually standing with. I don’t do this by facial recognition. I realized a long time ago that I (like most males) didn’t ONLY look at peoples faces to recognize them. Instead I also watch their stance and how they walk. I literally memorize the way my friends/family stand and walk, and that becomes the first thing I look for when looking for someone from distance. I’ve even been able to name someone just by watching them walk from hundreds of yards away (their faces covered). I had to think about this for years before I realized how I was doing this.

  26. That’s fascinating. When I was living in Europe, I once ran into a cousin of mine I hadn’t seen in years (so, I was really unfamiliar with exactly how he looked) in a comedy club while waiting in line for the bathroom. He saw and recognized me first. Neither of us knew the other was abroad and it was one of the strangest experiences of my life. Very surreal to be able to identify “family” that way.

  27. YOHAMI, we’re really in the weeds here. It’s hard to maintain dialectical flow by fisking each other’s blockquotes. Particularly since much of our typewritten conversation is thinking out loud and testing concepts whose integrity we are not certain of, which is why we throw them out there for challenge. Toss it all against the wall; see what sticks.

    Suffice it to say, the mastery of instinct is the basis for all civilization. Hypergamy is an attraction to the telltale signs of domination, not an attraction to domination per se because domination includes the control or elimination of the hypergamous instinct itself. (Which is why many women have sexual/daddy issues. “Disturbing stuff”? Yes. Real stuff? Yes.)

    If the man does not control/eliminate her hypergamy, she will continue seeking other signs of domination — some of which will be genuine, others of which will be superficial PUA poses designed to poke her hamster and trip her id. This straying will occur no matter the quality of her man’s attractiveness, just as men’s eyes wander for variety no matter the quality of his mate’s attractiveness. Unless he dominates her not out of her need for domination but out of the unrestrained pursuit unto her own destruction.

    Rape is when she doesnt want to fuck you and is screaming no. Pretty sure that one is not ingrained. Fucking doesnt mean raping, you know. Women dig cock.

    Dig deeper. It’s safe to turn the rock over in this forum and speak plainly about sordid truths. Rape is very much ingrained in men — and women. Civilization is excellent at denaturing us out of that instinct. It has to be, since the effects of unrestrained masculinity are direct and patently harmful to social tranquility (unlike hypergamy, whose consequences are easily deferred/concealed/explained away).

    Yes, “women dig cock.” But they dig it most when it is delivered to them via a dominating man on his own terms. The most severe manifestation of this is rape while she “is screaming no.” Other “vestiges” of the rape instinct manifest themselves through hair-pulling, spanking, painful fucking, and throwing a petite girl around like a doll.

    You know this first hand, I imagine, but if you doubt its widespread currency, consider one of the fastest-selling series of books in the history of publishing (which should be on every syllabus in the manosphere). Civilization can only allow so much of this in the open, or course, but the instinct remains viable despite (or perhaps because of) a hundred years of feminist denial.


  28. Jeremy wrote:

    Matt, desire is passion. What you are arguing for is the extinguishing of human passion. I can’t think of anything more horrific to argue for. I don’t care what those religions say about removing desire, religions can create whatever psychological fantasy they want and hold it in front of people as an ideal to attain.

    What you’re saying is you worship “passion” (however you define it apart from desire), and you take exception at me for blaspheming your creed.

    Religion is whatever we place highest in our lives. No one said anything about “extinguishing human passion” altogether, so you can save your boring irreligious Enlightenment pose for someone who cares.

    I was talking about a discipline facile enough to place desire utterly under the control of the will. This isn’t a “psychological fantasy,” it is the basis of stoicism and Platonism. One set of desires, called “good,” are acceded to by the conscious mind and given expression. Another set of desires, determined “bad,” are snuffed out like candle flames.

    “I can’t think of anything more horrific to argue for.” Stop watching Dan Brown movies and go get acquainted with the classics of Western Civilization. You are a dunderheaded Hollywoodoid.


  29. @Rollo

    Thanks for the link, it was an interesting read. I don’t agree with some of it, but it’s cool to see a different point of view and rationale for some of the comments here.

    And, as always, it was wonderfully written. 🙂

  30. @Matthew King (King A)

    What you’re saying is you worship “passion” (however you define it apart from desire), and you take exception at me for blaspheming your creed.

    Is that what I’m saying? I don’t recall saying that. I also don’t recall taking exception to any contradiction of dogma. In fact I recall finding your use of other peoples dogma on how humans are supposed to live as proof that humans “can” control desire thus they “should” control desire fairly tiresome and banal.

    While we’re making up ad hominems for each other, I find your examples on how you think others should live about as useful as your average television evangelist.

  31. @ Anna
    I totally agree. I’m 22 and am already successful and was tempted into marriage with a girl a year older because of her looks, it didn’t work out, lucky for me. Now I’m free to build a foundation of success until I’m 30-35 and then I can settle down with a really hot 18-22 year old. Girls are welcome to do the same, but they have to realize that actions have consequences. We are slaves to our biology. Girls didn’t fuck me when I was broke and rich and successful guys want young, feminine, women. That’s why I won’t fuck girls my age when I’m older or give them any of my money or resources. That’s why historically 30 year old men paired off with 16-22 year old women.
    Why your advice to a young women is so devious is because it sounds reasonable. But it isn’t unless her family is wealthy or she is INCREDIBLY beautiful. Women can get a better mate when their younger. Their too stupid to realize this sometimes and your telling them “just do what you want” only makes life harder on them. Women are not cut out to be cut throat business executives “for the most part” and nor do they even want to. They want to be happy mothers with great husbands, not learn how to be live independently in a cut throat world.
    Yes Anna, I am not entitled to a woman or anything else in this world. In the same vein, women are not entitled to my labor or resources or one iota of respect for their sassy independent ways.

  32. @Hey There

    Well, I think everyone is entitled to basic human respect, but I get what you mean. People have to work for any further respect…at least in my book. I’m glad to hear you are successful this early in life, it’s a great feeling when your plans and finances come together. I agree that marrying so young could’ve been detrimental in the long run (though I know some couples it has seemingly worked for so far).

    I guess I just have a difficult time imagining myself as a “traditional” woman. I would hate the idea of staying home, not working, not traveling, not hanging out whenever I want, and not having control of my own resources. I have my wonderful FwB, an awesome group of guy friends, and my mother/brothers/sisters…never have felt the need for a family of my own. I’m just wired that way, and my mother has come to terms with the fact that she’ll have to rely on my siblings for grandchildren. I have to remember that the majority of women are NOT like this, lol.

  33. @Hey There

    I’ve also never had anything I’ve ever said described as “devious” before…or had anyone claim that female independence is “sassy”. It’s certainly a different experience, I’ll grant you that! 🙂

  34. @Rollo

    Just finished reading your link. I’ve noticed this many, MANY times with other women…they expect all menfolk to give complete and utter respect to them (as though they are visiting royalty), and yet give little to none in return.

    This is nonsense, pure and simple. Every living thing has *some* value. Men have just as much value as women, even if the reasons for that value is different. As such, you should never kick a guy in the genitals unless you are also willing to do it to a gal. You shouldn’t punch someone without fully expecting a punch back. So on, so forth…

    Maybe it’s because my formative years were spent with my grandmothers, but I was constantly taught that EVERYONE is due some amount of basic human respect upon meeting them. You then alter the amount given as you find out more about them, and you see how much respect THEY give to YOU. This whole “respect goes one way” deal is a steaming pile of crap, in my opinion.

  35. @YaReally

    About monogamy, I actually think that Dan Savage had very interesting things to say about it. It might help your friends.

  36. I just got off a sports message board where the first post asked how quickly after post-nuptuals did men not get sex? The lead poster said 3 weeks and the thread — not a male site, a sports message board — went on for 50-plus pages. No sh-t. Some of the results were startling. Some classic AFC’s and some guys who knew better. But it was alarming. I might go link this site to go unplug that Matrix.

  37. Yes, Anna everybody is entitled to basic human respect. Having said that, in this world we are all competing for resources, except traditional women are letting their men compete for them. i respect those women as civilians so to speak. They are part of the “women and children” who are off limits in war. I believe in traditional values, and traditionally women are respected just for being women, so, if a woman takes on a traditional role she has earned my respect just for that. What I meant was that once a woman is an adult and has decided to be an “independent” (I put independent in quotations because women receive far more benefits from the government than men as well as an easier time finding a job if they are completely helpless, plus there is always stripping and hooking) woman, she has entered a man’s world where respect is earned and the fight is cutthroat and because she has entered the world of men and is still a woman does not mean I will go easy on her.
    I’m simply saying women have the choice to fulfill their biological role and simply be respected for their womanhood, but when you forego that role my default respect is taken away. Now your fair game. Now your trying to take resources not only from me, but from my future family. I am simply saying that once women enter the world of men, the harsh, very harsh, real world, they oftentimes don’t realize just how good they had it….because now they are mens competitors and men are if anything else, brutal competitors with 12-17 times the testosterone coursing through their veins, a more analytical mind, and ferocious desire. I’m saying women, please, be women, and let the big boys fight it out. You’ll be happier for it, trust me.

  38. @Fender

    Awesome thanks for that video, that’s a great way of explaining it to the blue-pill types. I’ll be linking it to some friends. As a PUA my view goes way too deep into it and my friends don’t want to be PUAs so they take my advice with a pound of salt lol. This is an explanation that might help them sort out their feelings and guilt that’s just fucking them up 24/7 lately.

  39. @Hey There

    Thanks for the response. I wholeheartedly agree that the majority of women would be happier if they followed your advice to be “traditional”. I dislike the fact that so many of my sex claim to be “independent” when they actually rely on Big Gov to provide them with specialized loans, grants, business opportunities and other assistance that is not afforded to our country’s menfolk. I find it ridiculous to say you are a self sufficient adult when you constantly seek handouts…that’s not being an adult, that’s being a child.

    But as I’ve pointed out before, I do not do this. I work hard to get good reviews and promotions. I pride myself on my customer service and product knowledge. I take over shifts for my coworkers so they can spend more time with their families. I even declined my last promotion because the other person being considered for it has a wife and 4 children…the extra money would’ve been nice, but he needed the position far more than I.

    So yes, most women probably should take your advice since it seems they are confused as to what they truly want from their lives. I, however, know exactly what I want and how to get it through my hard work and determination. I will never be content with a “traditional”woman life, and so I’ll not pursue it. If that means that people such as yourself look down on me for being a contributing member of society…so be it. I’ll still treat you with respect even if you don’t think I deserve any.

    PS. Men have about 7 to 8 times the amount of testosterone as women, in general. However, your faster metabolism means you produce 20 times more…it just gets used up very quickly.

  40. Anna, Anna, Anna, you misquote me. I didn’t say I don’t not respect independent women, just that they have to earn it just like men do. I also understand some women are FORCED to forge a life for themselves on their own. And some, excel in the real world. I’ve met them, they are smart, capable, and strong. A minority maybe, but they exist.
    I’m just saying it’s a lot easier for an attractive girl to be a good wife than to be the next Hillary Clinton or next Angela Merkel. American culture is screwed up this way.
    Look, you conceded my main point. “So yes, most women probably should take your advice since it seems they are confused as to what they truly want from their lives.” You seem like a great person. This argument has run its course. But basically my point is girls (in America) are bombarded with the Eat, pray, love advice you gave earlier, and they need more traditional advice doled out to them, because most would be happier with a husband that loves them than the spinster lifestyle.
    This girl could have used some traditional advice.
    This isn’t some hypothetical thing were talking about. Girls are getting shortchanged when they use up their sexual power in their young years getting nothing in return….It’s like the Indians selling New York for some shiny beads….You don’t stay young forever…

  41. @Hey There

    Fair enough. I will accept that 99% of modern women would actually be happier and/or more fulfilled in a traditional role if you accept that the other 1% of us would be miserable in it. But I think you’re correct in that this discussion has run it’s course…I dislike that it has gone on this long. I’m constantly perturbed by the fact that I am against misandry, speak out against unfair/unequal laws online and in public, and am basically on “your side”, but it is always an issue that I’m not of a traditional mindset.

    Honestly, man, it just gets tiresome having to explain myself every time I make a comment. Ah well…such is the price of being an outlier.

  42. @Hey There

    Also, I’m sorry if I misquoted you…it really didn’t seem that way since you said;

    “…but when you forego that role, my default respect is taken away.”

    This made it sound as though you had NO respect for self reliant women, not that you respected them as you would a man (as a competitor, in other words). I have absolutely no problem being seen as a competitor in the workplace…I imagine that any bachelor without a family would be seen the same way.

  43. Anna, I know what you mean about being an outlier….I didn’t follow the 9-5 path and was able to gain success, so, people have trouble putting me in a box too.

  44. Yohami and M3 are just being completely obtuse idiots in this thread, while imnobody and Martel are the voices of reason. Look, if someone is so dumb that it he expects an explanation why people’s base sexual urges should be regulated, why it’s a bad idea to strip the majority of men of the opportunity to start and build families, it’s pointless to talk to them. If you think civilization equals the law of the jungle because some people have more power and authority than others, you’re a dumbass. You know what? You won’t find hospitals, schools, indoor plumbing and electric power in the jungle. Are you too dumb to realize that? If you refuse to acknowledge that betas are the Atlases keeping this civilization afloat, you’re useful idiots, nothing more.

  45. I’m starting to wonder if we’ll ever see new content here again.

    Please Rollo , if for no other reason than to push that “Vestiges” pic down the page. This weekend someone asked me “Whats worse than seeing Lena Dunham naked ? ” I sent them that pic.

  46. I’m a bit late on this post, but I wanted to ask: what if we hate ourselves for understanding the processes behind our behaviours? Something learned cannot be unlearned. This results in un-necessary analysis that affects your perceptions and behaviours albeit being very interesting.

    How are we supposed to deal with the disgust we feel towards our species as a result of understanding how they work?

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  48. Keep writing stupid crap, but at least get your facts straight.

    “This preservation of favourable variations, and the destruction of injurious variations, I call Natural Selection, or the Survival of the Fittest.” — Darwin, Charles (1869), On the Origin of Species by Means of Natural Selection, or the Preservation of Favoured Races in the Struggle for Life (5th ed.)

  49. “This preservation of favourable variations, and the destruction of injurious variations, I call Natural Selection, or the Survival of the Fittest.” — Darwin, Charles (1869), On the Origin of Species by Means of Natural Selection, or the Preservation of Favoured Races in the Struggle for Life (5th ed.)

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  51. “Just because you know the reasons for your behaviors doesn’t grant you a license to engage in them.”

    Oh Rollo, such a rational expectation!

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