Presently I have two new brands of liquor I’m launching concurrently. In an average year I may introduce one or possibly two, but these are progressive releases and really don’t hit the consumer market until Q3. So with that and my upcoming travel schedule I’m finding it a challenge to do daily updates on RationalMale. Forgive me, but I don’t blog for a living.
Even so, I’m still managing to put ideas to page, but every so often I get stopped in my tracks by something that interrupts my thought train so significantly it demands an immediate post. The lead ‘secret’ from PostSecret (today’s pic) this week was one such article.
In Bitter Misogynists I outline the facility with which our fem-centric socialization will label men as ‘burned’, or presume to ridicule the length of a man’s cock, if he should so much as offer a passing critical thought about women’s motives. I understand why plugged-in men (and women) read the ideas of the manosphere and think that it’s anti-women, misogynistic, cynical and plaintive. With critical thought comes the attendant risk of becoming iconoclastic, and iconoclasts don’t play very well with ego-investments in a system of belief.
Before I go any further, and for the benefit of those unfamiliar with my writing, I unequivocally do not hate women. Got that? I love women; and in fact I sincerely doubt that, but for a negligible few, you could find a Man in the community who genuinely ‘hates’ women. True misogynists are just as rare as true misandrists – the grey area in between the two extremes is where we have to live. However, that said, under the fem-centric social pretexts we live in today, and due to the innate, subconscious hypergamy that motivates it, women are generally unaware of their own misandrist social conventions. As I’ve stated in many a prior post, anything can become normal.
I realize that explaining the latent motivations and core concepts behind feminized social norms to women (and plugged-in men) doesn’t sink in when, on some level of consciousness, they understand that their functioning in society depends upon them NOT thinking too much about them – and discouraging you from doing so either.
There was a time I thought that the ultimate female-centric lie a woman could tell a man was, “It’s your baby” – I stand corrected, this is it:
“I killed our baby and it’s your fault I did.”
No verification necessary, just pure, wracking, potentially life enduring psychological and emotional distress based entirely on her ability to sell it convincingly. Why go the Carrie Underwood route and smash his car when you can do THIS kind of psyche-damage to him? This is the nuclear option of covert, psychological revenge. As I’ve stated in countless posts, men fight in the overt and physical, women fight in the covert and psychological; and here it is writ large and bold.
I mean really, what an absolutely brilliant tactic this is. She knows you’ll be amenable to her coming back to you a few months later, what better time to drop a bomb like this? In fact I wouldn’t be surprised if this “Your Fault Abortion” revenge isn’t covered on a few websites or forums devoted to getting back at him.
This psychological combat is what gave me pause to write this. I’m sure there’s a contingent of men who will think it’s no big deal, or that a guy would come up with his own rationalizations to cope with any guilt of having a woman purport to be pregnant and then, allegedly, abort the child. He dodged a bullet, right? I would think so too only that, in all the manosphere discussions about the overwhelming male risks associated with marriage, the single most common (only) upside was that marriage is the best environment in which to raise kids. Theoretically, marriage is worth the marriage risk for men who want children of their own. Furthermore this presupposes a motivation in men to want children at some point in life. My assertion is that on some level this registers for women and the opportunism it represents is something viewed as a bargaining token.
Not all women are like this, I know, and I’m not trying to conflate this particular instance to the whole. I love women, remember? What I am illustrating is women’s psychological gender combat skills and how the hypergamic imperative hones them – even when they’re unaware of it doing so. This is an extreme example of a greater dynamic. Irrespective of whether a woman actually is pregnant, or even if the paternity doesn’t belong to you, the fact is that in pregnancy women assume a much more powerful role. If women are socially respected by default, mothers are veritably deified. In a fem-centric world, the life-givers are absolved of any circumstantial indiscretions that led to their pregnancies.
There’s an assumption that men would prefer abortion; to further his wanton sexual strategy of scattershot sexuality, men necessarily would rather avoid the entangling responsibility of parental investment. Yet we have men contemplating entering into an institution that is knowingly stacked against his own best interests in order to “raise a child in the best environment”. That upside must really be important to men to involve themselves in such risk.
On this blog, in my analysis I always try to remain as objective as circumstances permit. By definition I make my best attempts to leave issues of morality out of the discourse (unless the topic IS morality), however in this case it’s unavoidable. This is deliberate evil.
Agreed. From a greater objective standpoint one could almost say it’s amoral for a woman to lie (about birth control for example) in order to get pregnant. She is just doing what is necessary to bring her evolutionary biological imperative to fruition. A lion has no moral qualms over devouring a gazelle, it’s just in his instinctual nature. It is up to us to protect ourselves against this instinct in women (condoms, qualification, etc).
But what is featured in this article…what biological purpose does it serve? None.
So yes: Pure Evil.
“I was pregnant but I had a miscarriage because of the stress you deliberately caused in my life”.
Yes but if you impregnate a woman whose personality could lead her to such acts, you are at fault too.
True….thanks for the reminder…
If a woman used the abortion line on me, I’d just shrug nonchalantly and say, “That blood is on your hands.”
If she thinks she can be a cold asshole to me in order to get a reaction out of me, she shouldn’t be surprised when I return the callousness.
I know a girl who used this line to an ex-boyfriend. She’d supposedly just gotten pregnant and miscarried after their very painful breakup. No proof of course.
Just my situation…exactly…
Does she go around telling all-and-sundry all about this as well? The one that I know does. Deliberate attempt to cut him off from his friends, plus gathering the pity-vote from every potential emotional tampon that she can. If you have the same, I feel for you.
A truly mature woman wouldn’t have any urge to do something like this. Yes, she’d be hurting. Yes, she’d be crying about it. Yes, she’d deal with it – in private.
I don’t know, but I imagine yes.
Whether lies or truth, it shows a degree of callousness that is hard to believe without witnessing first-hand. It shows the ability to strike out at someone else’s roots of being with only the desire to cause long-lasting pain to them. It shows not a shred of compassion nor consideration nor maturity, only a twisted and warped heart and soul and mind.
She is the least compassionate person (in a completely general way) that I have ever known. But she loves ‘mankind’ in the abstract…
What I am illustrating is women’s psychological gender combat skills and how the hypergamic imperative hones them – even when they’re unaware of it doing so.
I have a working theory that it is “women’s psychological combat skills” that is, in part, responsible for us hating to be put on a pedestal. We inherently know the crap that goes through or brains, whether we actually choose to entertain the thoughts or not, and that stuff is shameful. We know that we do not deserve to be propped up there and therefore fight against it.
Understand of course, that the “inherently know[ing}” stuff is mostly subconscious. Just to add to everyone’s confusion about what women *really* want.
pardon me, but this post seems a tad gratuitous, rollo. i think you’re above this seemingly pointless example of unsubstantiated ‘pure evil.’ “There’s an assumption that men would prefer abortion; to further his wanton sexual strategy of scattershot sexuality, men necessarily would rather avoid the entangling responsibility of parental investment. ” i dont know about that. i’m getting ready to have my third child, this time by the second woman. seems to be in this day and age, parental investment in one (set of) kid(s) (and ex) doesn’t preclude you from doing it all over again. hell, i reckon i… Read more »
Well, nature rewards certain behaviors — Apparently you have (and WILL have) hit the evolutionary “jackpot”!
This behavior serves a very important biological need of discouraging a man to mate with a different woman after leaving this one. The modern traumatic divorce and the many laws which allow it is not by accident and not simply a by-product of the woman trying to leave with more resources. Woman have a distinct need to prevent their mate and provider from moving on to the next one. I see this as partly a tactic to preserve her own access to resources and partly intra-feminine competition. She wants the break-up to be as difficult and traumatic as possible even… Read more »
Duping a man into raising a child that isn’t his seems like a greater evil to me.
I had an ex do this to me. Said she had a miscarriage about 8 weeks in, then got drunk a week later and told me she had an abortion to get back at me. She knew I really wanted kids, and it was all I could do to leave the house before I did something to get locked up for the rest of my life.
Ex of mine did this to another man- i saw through it. Didn’t think it would be a “regular feature” for women.
cassius This behavior serves a very important biological need of discouraging a man to mate with a different woman after leaving this one. The modern traumatic divorce and the many laws which allow it is not by accident and not simply a by-product of the woman trying to leave with more resources. Woman have a distinct need to prevent their mate and provider from moving on to the next one. I see this as partly a tactic to preserve her own access to resources and partly intra-feminine competition. She wants the break-up to be as difficult and traumatic as possible… Read more »