It took me much longer than it probably should have, but considering this book has been 12 years in the making I wanted something well designed with all the attention to detail it has due. I’m a perfectionist and an artist which makes for a very difficult combination when producing something I really care about. In my career I have been responsible for the concepts and branding of many successful products and projects, most of which I have no doubt the bulk of my readership would recognize were I to be completely honest. As tempting as it would be to boast about them, in the interests of protecting the integrity of those brands I can never really be specific about them, but for all of the products I’ve ever launched, for all of the promos and marketing I’ve done, for all of the money I’ve made for other (already wealthy) men, nothing has made me so nervous as clicking the ‘publish’ button on Createspace to approve the final draft of The Rational Male.
One thing I learned very early in my career was to never invest too much of myself into a brand or a project that was someone else’s idea. I’ve been instrumental in many collaborative ideas, but this book is the first work that I’ve been solely responsible for. I pray that it will make the impact I hope it will and reach the people who would otherwise never find this blog.
Roosh posted this on twitter this morning:
The manosphere may be divided, but its reach exploded in 2013. In 2014, its ideas will begin to infiltrate mainstream society. Bet on it.
I’m both scared and excited that The Rational Male might be included in this reach into the MSM. I’ve of course repeatedly written about the inherent dangers that red pill ideologies will only be vilified and ridiculed in a public forum controlled by the feminine imperative, but that’s something I’m going to have to come to terms with if red pill thought is to ever be taken seriously. I worry about how the impact of this book will affect my personal life, my career, and probably a lot of other aspects of my life that I haven’t yet considered.
For now the book is available on the Createspace store at this link:
In about a week it will be listed on Amazon and I’ll announce it when it hits.
Late Edit: The Rational Male is now available on Amazon Thanks to the preorders on Createspace the book was expedited to Amazon – and yes you can buy it internationally.
And now Kindle is good to go too:
There will be a Kindle version as well, but I think an e-format kind of defeats the purpose of the physical book. I probably fucked up a few things grammatically, I had an editor and a proofer, but this is a rookie effort. I’d also like to apologize to all the reader who’ve emailed me for advice or consults in the past 6 months. The book has been my primary focus for the last 8 months so I look forward to getting back to the blog again – I haven’t forgotten any of you and I’ll be getting back to you soon.
I’ve never written a book before, but I’ve been writing for almost 14 years now. It’s been a real learning process. Reading material I’ve written and rewritten since 2000 is a little like reading the thoughts of someone else.
What you’ll read are a refinement of the core ideas and concepts I’ve formalized on The Rational Male. I began The Rational Male at the request of my readers on various men’s forums and comments on blogs in the ‘manosphere’ in 2011. After the popularity of the blog exploded inside a year it became apparent that a book form of the basic principles was needed for new readers as I moved past them, and built upon the prior concepts.
For the most part I’ve rewritten and edited for publishing the blog posts of the first year at Rational Male. I’ve left in most of the jingoisms and acronyms that are characteristic of the blog and are commonly used in the manosphere, however I’ve made every attempt to define them as I go along.
Furthermore, many of the concepts I explore in this book came from a question by one of my readers. As with most commenters, their anonymity is assumed in the form their online ‘handle’. The important thing to remember is the concept being discussed and not so much the importance of who is proposing or contradicting a concept.
Before you begin reading
The primary reason I decided to codify the Rational Male into a book came from a reader by the name of Jaquie. Jaquie was an older, married woman, who genuinely took to what I proposed about inter-gender dynamics on Rational Male. Jaquie wasn’t exactly a typical reader for me, but she asked me to help her understand some concepts better so she could help her son who was about to marry a woman whom she knew would be detrimental to his life. Jaquie said,
“I wish you had a book out with all of this stuff in it so I could give it to him. He’s very Beta and whipped, but if I had a book to put in his hands he would read it.”
So it is for the sons of Jaquie’s that I decided to put this book out. And it’s in this spirit that I’ll need to ask you, the reader, to clear your head of a few things before you begin to digest any of it.
The Rational Male literally has millions of readers world-wide, so there’s a strong likelihood that you’ll buy this book to keep on a shelf and loan to friends because you’re already familiar with its concepts. There’s a certain power and legitimacy that the printed word has that a blog or some online article lacks, so if you already are a Rational Male reader be sure you do loan the book out, or encourage the plugged-in to read and discuss it.
If you are picking this book up for the first time, or had it handed to you by a friend or loved one, and have never heard of the Rational Male or the manosphere or have had any exposure to the ideas I put forth here, I’ll humbly ask that you read with an open mind.
That sounds like an easy cop out – open your mind – it kind of sounds like something a religious cult would preface their literature with. We all like to think we already have open minds and we’re all perfectly rational, and perfectly capable of critical thinking.
I ask you to clear your head of the preconceptions you have of gender because what you’re about to read here are very radical concepts; concepts that will challenge your perspective on women, men, how they interact with each other, and how social structures evolve around those relations. You will violently disagree with some of these concepts, and others will give you that “ah ha!” moment of realization. Some of these concepts will grate on the investment your ego has in certain beliefs about how men and women ought to relate with each other, while others will validate exactly the experiences you may have had personally with them. Some are ugly. Some are not complementary of women and some of men, you’ll think I’m a misogynist on first glance because it’s the default response you’ve been taught to react with. For others, you might feel some kind of vindication for getting burned by your ex and realizing what was at play when it happened. I realize it’s a tall order, but strive not to let your personal feelings color what I lay out for you here.
You’ll love me and you’ll hate me. You’ll think “well, not in my case, and here’s why,..” or you’ll think “wow this is some really ground breaking stuff.” I’m not a psychologist, or a PUA, or a men’s rights activist, or a motivational speaker. I’m just a guy who’s connected some dots.
Just bought 2 copies. One for myself and one for my soon to be 18 year old brother.
Best get this on amazon as soon as possible, shipping times are ridiculously long.
@Sim, yeah Amazon takes 5-7 days to list. Just found that out today.
Ordered! Thanks, Rollo. It’s been a long time coming.
Just bought a copy. First… customer. Exciting.
I’ve been following your blog for more than a year now, and I’d have to say that this book would be pivotal in the philosophical underpinnings (which translates to behavioral manifestation) on gender and social dynamics. I hope that it will be available for overseas shipment as I’d prefer a hard copy over an ebook for topics of high interest. It has been a challenge trying to get unplugged. To be honest, I was late in discovering the manosphere. I have finished ‘The Game’ and watched the ‘PUA’ and I am very glad that you have brought the principles to… Read more »
its about damn time Rollo.
[yes, it is.]
Rollo, I just discovered this blog last week and I just purchased your book. Its exciting. I’d like to also get in touch with you.
I bought the physical book to lend out to friends and eventually my son but I’ll be reading the electronic copy when it’s out. I sincerely hope this book becomes the handbook for all males going forward.
Ill be buying a copy. The only thing that troubles me about what you’ve presented on the blog is that I fear you may be over-dramatizing the “feminine imperative” to the point that it seems like a mirror to the ill-defined, all-surrounding “patriarchy.” I think your writing style is very accessible, and your ideas are sound, but that in the rush for simplicity many readers will latch onto the feminine imperative as the wonderful new explanatory device that is suddenly the boogeyman behind all inter-gender ills.
Having written and published a half dozen books and articles myself, there is nothing to fear in the words you have had the courage to write. Strangely it was a woman who said:
Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace.
Incredible. Will buy the moment it’s on Amazon. Thank you.
Annnnd GBFM is going to have to amend his list.
The shipping times for Australia seem to be 2 months+ on createspace. So hopefully they’ll be shorter on Amazon. I’ll grab a copy when it’s on there.
Can you shoot out another mailing list email when it’s available?
Looking forward to the Kindle version!
Rollo, My sincerest and deepest congratulations on finishing and publishing the book. I’ll order my copy on Amazon once it is available there so please be sure to let us know. Feminism had Betty Friedan and the Feminine Mystique. If and when some day people look back at the infancy of the “masculinist” movement I suspect you and your book will be looked at as a catalyst. Ideas are interesting things….they can spread like a virus. Thomas Paine could probably never anticipated the future course he created with the publication of his Common Sense Pamphlet. On a different note, you’ll… Read more »
Congrats Rollo! I look forward to reading it!
OT….but I just heard the bassist from Great White Lorne Black passed away…RIP. Rollo, one of these days I’d love to read a post of living through that time in that scene if you can do without giving away anything too revealing.
One of my favs from that time:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yg06B46VVys…kind of a fitting celebration song for finishing the book
Haven’t bought a hard copy book in about 15 years. This one will be for my boy. By rights I’ll have him slaying tang (and dodging taxes) as soon as he’s old enough but your book will be the surgical scalpel, assuming he can even read from this current cluster fuck the cathedral calls “school”.
Ordered my copy, and I’m looking forward learning from the Rollo Tomassi master work. Anyone not ordering within 24 hours is a loser that will continue to complain. It is your responsibility to change in ways that cause others want to follow you because you’re an attractive winner with options. Expedited shipping’s too high for you? Awww, poor baby that spends money paying high rates for cable or satellite TV. You sit in front of it instead of building your body, your businesses that run themselves and the pleasure in living life. You can afford this resource. Drop the junk… Read more »
Amazon is already listing the physical copy
I’m assuming it’s legit. Congrats Rollo!
Props, Rollo! Your book is going to be a solid digestible bridge from Blue to Red Pill as more and more men become disillusioned with the Blue Pill and seek answers, and as more and more of us Red Pill men raise and influence the next generation of men, who will influence the generations after that. If I had a son or mentor relationships with teenage males, I would hook them up with your book over a lot of other Manosphere stuff, even over a lot of actual PUA stuff. Your blog is the first place I read about Hypergamy… Read more »
Should take about 10 days or so for it to get to England.
Congratulations on the finalization. I know how hard it is to get one of these manuscripts completed alongside the normal working life demands, so like me, I would expect you gained a great amount of pride when the button was clicked. My honest view in line of your last post, Roosh’s twitter post and my first hand experience is this: Game is being more exposed – by men and women alike – but this is only on a technological perspective. People have more access to blogs of this kind so their eyes will naturally be tempted to look on. But… Read more »
I’m a perfectionist and an artists
I love irony. And will be getting the book.
Thanks for all your hard work, Rollo.
Thank you, sir. Consider it ordered as of now. A steal at this price.
(Now, if only mr. Krauser would take a short break from screwing around with young nymphettes and finish his new book…)
I am in for 5. Too many friends never saw it coming. Book price should be higher.
“Anyone not ordering within 24 hours is a loser that will continue to complain.”
Somehow I don’t think this book is for you, given the fact that the first thing you do here to make your point is to use shaming tactics (i.e.’follow me in my actions or otherwise you’re a loser’).
Not everyone here lives in the US and hence wants to wait up to several weeks for the book to arrive.
” never invest too much of myself into a brand or a project that was someone else’s idea” Words to live by. Another post topic, perhaps? “Roosh posted this on twitter this morning: The manosphere may be divided…” Then I say it is time for reconcilliation. Especially in light of this book coming out. Recall this tidbit from history: ” Franklin was one of the committee of five which drew up what is known as the ‘Declaration of Independence.’ When about to sign it, Hancock, one of his colleagues, is reported to have said, ‘We must be unanimous; there must… Read more »
This is a ‘must buy’…and I’ll recommend to all my friends…
Ordered from Amazon at the above link. Have “prime” so should be here in three days.
I also bought one from the Amazon link, it will be here Thursday. So excited!
Congrats on the book. Will order the Kindle version – that way it can never be lost or misplaced.
The cover is great. It has a very “bible-esque” look to it. Very appropriate considering this blog has been at the forefront (along with Roissy arguably) of modern Manospherian thought. I wouldn’t be surprised if this book becomes the “go-to” resource when introducing other men to these types of concepts so it helps that the cover gives it a very legitimate, authoritative and timeless feel. Great choice. Congrats Rollo. I’ll be buying several copies as Xmas presents for my younger brothers. Also, +1 to the audiobook request from a commenter above. I would love to have an audio copy to… Read more »
Congrats on the book!
Congratulations and thank you Rollo. I ordered through amazon and will have my copy Thursday.
I hope your book reaches the masses and lands on the NY Times best seller list. Send a free copy to Joe Rogan and Bill Burr, they have weekly podcasts that often discuss male/female issues. I firmly believe it would catch their attention. All men need to read this
Congratulations Rollo! I’ve been following your blog for a while now and can’t wait to get the book. My buddy and I are going to start a local meetup and discuss your book as the basis for it. I’ll report back as to how we are doing. Best of luck to you in the upcoming weeks! (BTW, killer cover. The delicate serifs on the book title really look refined and elegant. I’m a designer as well so you know I geek out. 🙂 )
I’ve been very much looking forward to this book, def getting 1 copy for myself and another for my brothers/dad.
Purchased, and you deserve it Rollo.
I’ll purchase another copy to give to my brother when travel settles down for me.
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Oh man, The Guardian is going to cack itself in rage.
Column-fodder for its in-house lady winos for months. They can’t afford not to look … muahahahahhhhaaaaa!!11!!
Well played sir!
Am off to find Amazon etc. p/w and all the rest of it toot sweet. Christmas is going to be interesting this year. Laying away my prezzies for the lads already. (They’re away and ought to be too busy mugging up on molecules ‘n’ shit to read extra books right now).
Hey man, have to say, based on experience, you need to have an ebook version of that title for Kindle, or else Amazon will bury your title in search results. EIP if you need a little help.
Is the Amazon listing legit?
NVM orderered and done!
They’re trucking it in from Abroad/Greater Frogland here, and it’s way cheaper than a pack of cigarettes! About the price of a gallon of gas or couple of pints.
Good policy, means they can be just “lent” permanently to other guys (you know how it is with book-“lending”), and instantly replaced.
Rollo, I’ve been reading your blog for over one year now and I think this book is just what my close friend needs, but i have a question before I order it for him. Does this book delve into racial/hbd topics? My buddy is mulatto and I would hate to have him reject the “red pill” because he recoils from the racial content. I don’t think you write about hbd/race, but want to check before I send the book to him.
@Bitter, no and I never would.
Can’t see why the Amazon listing ain’t on the level, Sin & Kurtz), I sent my browser after the local AMZN site for Blighty, checked the address bar looks kosher, and asked that version of it to look for Rollo. Bish bosh job done.
Well done, sir. Looking forward to awakening a great many with this.
I dont always buy paper books (literally two in the past five years or so). But when I do its because there is literally no other option and my desire for the book overrides my aversion to the format.
Having said that, I just bought it off amazon, so it appears that it’s available there today.
Is this a book on self improvement like Athol Kay’s ?
“Send a free copy to Joe Rogan and Bill Burr, they have weekly podcasts that often discuss male/female issues. I firmly believe it would catch their attention.”
Anyone got a link for Rogan and Burr?
“Is this a book on self improvement like Athol Kay’s ?”
Nick one from the shop and find out ..
Anxiously waiting on the Kindle version.
Just ordered it and will pass it on to blokes around me. We need to spread more of such wisdom. Thanks for writing it.
Update on the Kindle: The book is still in review and should be approved by end of day. The formatting design and layout is not exactly what I wanted (and spent a lot of time doing) but all the relevant material is there. I made it a few bucks cheaper as a result.
I’ll let you all know when it’s up.
Just ordered 2 copies off Amazon
I’ll be buying this book and publicizing it to my twitter followers. I really hope it takes off and causes a stir in the mainstream media. And yes, the Manosphere needs something of a reconciliation because without some coherency amongst us, there will be little respect for Red Pill ideas.
Rogan and Burr both have Twitter feeds. As do Greg Gutfeld, Tom Leykis, etc. Hit ’em all. And anyone else you can, for that matter. Regardless of whether they are “kindred souls” themselves or not, they have 100s of 1,000s of followers, listeners, etc. who need to be made aware. Congrats on the effort and all you do to advance the cause, Rollo.
I did one day shipping, so I’ll post some pictures once mine has arrived on the 2nd. I plan on reading it first, then giving it to my father, whom I’ve been trying to get into the Manosphere way of thought.
I’d be interested in seeing the statistics on first 24 hour, and first week sales, as people who check this site via RSS come to realize it’s been released.
Ordered 2 copies, and will buy the Kindle version too when it gets published (do you know when?).
Congratulations, Rollo. Writing a book is a huge accomplishment and, though you and I often disagree on issues, nevertheless I wish you success.
Just bought it. Some years ago you helped me articulate so much of what I already knew from my own experiences.
This information and the way you present it has the capability to launch you into fame (or infamy). However never have I thought there was a better time for such a book to come to market.
The West is starved for tutelage on how to be a man….that does not come from an already sanitized source compromised by the feminine imperative.
Congratulations. I am sure this will help many, many men.
My difficulty with this book is, how many blue-pill friends will I have to buy a copy for? Headed over to pick up 2 or 3, to start!
There will be a Kindle version as well, but I think an e-format kind of defeats the purpose of the physical book. Rollo, your blog has been inspirational. Your content is excellent and your writing is crisp and superb. It’s truly a pleasure to read your blog. I admit to “stalking” your blog and checking it every day even though you only post once a week. I can’t wait to read your book. I already know it will be brilliant. I travel perpetually, and everything I own has to fit into 40 kg. Everything. So, I have a “no paper… Read more »
@kurtz, yeah me too.
@SSM, thank you dear.
Rollo publishes a book. The Federal government shuts down… priceless.
Congrats. Wish something like this had been around when I was a teen. My father provided no guidance before his death when I was fifteen and no one stepped up to watch over me. That means I developed my own views on most things, but regarding women I was adrift besides female input. Good intentioned as that may have been it really messed up an introvert like I am for most of my life. Hopefully some youngsters in a similar situation get steered this direction for answers.
Does Amazon offer a combo realbook/ebook option? That’d be ideal for me since I do most reading these days on my phablet, and it’d be good to have a book to lend out as well.
“Update on the Kindle: The book is still in review and should be approved by end of day. The formatting design and layout is not exactly what I wanted (and spent a lot of time doing) but all the relevant material is there. I made it a few bucks cheaper as a result.
I’ll let you all know when it’s up.”
Belay my last. Ill be buying the kindle edition tonight.
Congrats on the release!
I’m buying Kindle edition (fwiw)
Rollo, don’t worry about how this might negatively affect your life. probably no where near the way you think.
like you said, its only natural for the meta-masculine to push back against the meta-feminine whether overtly or covertly.
and if worse comes to worse, our army is more disciplined and well armed with truth and knowledge. they may have more pawns, but we have more kings and knights. our round table is expanding and our call to defend the heralds of our cause will be put to the test and it will be answered.
we got your back
Well done sir. Will wait for Amazon so I can get faster shipping.
I’d like to send you a personal note on one of your recent articles; please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you have the time. Thanks!
[Hit me up here Ryan, email@example.com]
Just ordered the book, doing that and reading his post has happily made my day 🙂
Ordered. Thank you.
Looks like it’s finally time to spend that $15 that’s been sitting in my Amazon mturk account the past 4 years.
Hey rollo if I buy the hardcover do we get a digital edition as well to read on the fly like a pdf or something.
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Congrats Rollo. I definitely will buy the Kindle edition. Thanks for the great work.
Congratulations! I’m in for one kindle version.
I pray you find success in this and accomplish your aims!
The kindle edition is here:
But so far unpurchasable. Is the release date set for the 1st or something?
I pulled it back so I can offer match print discounts to purchasers of the hard copy. Shouldn’t be too much longer.
Best news in days! Having it shipped to Sweden. Will tell all of my friends and relatives. Congrats, Rollo!
could you post the table of contents on amazon.
Kindle will be available in a few hours:
If you buy the print version the Kindle version is just $1.99
Congrats on finally realizing your vision. Your writing is unique and will appeal to all segments of the population. This is something that I will buy for all of my friends and keep a special copy for my boy.
I look forward to reading this.
“Circumstances do not make the man, they reveal him.” –James Allen
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I echo the sentiments of those who usually don’t buy physical copies of books…this is an exception. Definitely something I want around the house for a conversation piece.
Bought a hard copy, looking forward to reading it.
One question about the eBook – will you be offering it in other formats outside of Amazon? I’ve been suspicious of them ever since it came to light they could remotely delete books from Kindles. Call me paranoid but i don’t want people at Amazon dictating what i do and do not read.
Tengen, I am looking at Smashwords to broaden the e-pub reach of the book now.
Well done. Just submitted an order. Looking forward to this.
As I’ve said before, a book like this would have been immensely helpful to me when I was a lad, but as it was I had to figure it out on my own, with mostly positive results. However, it took time, and there were quite a few ruined relationships along the way.
In this way the young chaps of the Manosphere today are very lucky to have teachers like you.
I sense some kind of revolution is building and is ready to break free.
Bought two copies, wish I knew about your work at the start of the year, wouldn’t have suplicated like a bitch beta ” backslid” hard and lost the only girl ive met worthy of marriage due to the “soulmate” propaganda. Rollo, your work, Roisy and shark from “solvemygirlprobles.com” are doing a great service to the men who’ve been force fed these feminised ideals only to be shat on in every single relationship and left wondering why, “im doing what they say is right” only to be left looking like a worthless sap beta shmuck. Suppressing musculinty is what ive done… Read more »
Kindle is good to go now:
No promises on the layout, but all the material is there.
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Have Amazon Prime, but gladly paid the CreateSpace expedited shipping fee last night. UPS tracking says it’s at West Columbia, SC arriving “To: HOLLYWOOD, CA, US 10/03/2013, By End of Day” Also, I just bought the Kindle version. I’ve read 25% so far. It’s better than the blog, with laser-sharp clarity. This is content you can be proud to tell people to buy and to learn from. Yes… that includes people that respect you. Rollo backs everything up with intelligence from his real life and common sense. Every description of the explanations… well, it’s a place you can picture yourself… Read more »
Hi Rollo, There seem to be some minor problems in the editing of the Kindle version, mostly with the headers of the chapters. For example – the heading for “The Cardinal Rule of Relationships” seems to be completely missing – the Imagination text starts with the header “The Desire Dynamic” – the title for the Buffer text is “Schedules of Mating” – the Alpha chapter has two headers: “Buffers” and “ALPHA” I’m reading the book with 4th generation Kindle, but I think the problem isn’t caused by my device. Despite these problems, the book is very enjoyable to me. Thanks… Read more »
VH, thanks for the info. I may have to have CS professionally format it for Kindle. I resaved it in ePub hoping it would fall together better, but its really bugging me. I don’t have a kindle and it reads different on my iPad.
Here’s a marketing idea for you; set up a paypal donations page where donations are used to give away your books for free to people who claim that finances are a purchase deterrent. Or for donations to public libraries.
I’m sure some people want to give back even more than the $10 for the value received, while at the same time helping to spread the word.