Rationalmale regular and all-around red pill evangelist MikeC had an interesting Matrix experience recently. This comment was drawn from yesterday’s Respect post:
“This is another socialized manifestation of hypergamy: the man must always perform for her, ***always qualify to her.***“
Yup….I actually got engaged over the weekend, and when we got back in town we visited her parents. Me and her on one couch, her parents on the other, and I have a friendly relationship with them (her Mom loves me).
Anyways, we were talking some plans and stuff, and her Dad chimed in about getting used to just saying “Yes, dear”….”Yes, honey”, etc. First thing that popped into my head was the femcentric thinking involved. I didn’t think it was the time or place to call that out for the crap that it is…but I didn’t need to as both myself and my fiancee chimed in at the same time that our relationship isn’t one where she calls the shots and I just go along with it.
It truly is mind-boggling. It almost seems like at some point, a mass brainwashing took place that instilled in men that to “RESPECT” women you simply had to go along with whatever they wanted to say or do in that moment.
[Congrats Mike, and I mean that sincerely since I know you have your roots planted firmly in positive masculinity and Game-awareness. RT]
I was listening to a local talk radio show on my commute home last Friday and a caller tells the hosts that he’s getting married for the first time over the Memorial Day weekend. After all the ubiquitous congratulation, he petitions for advice from the show’s hosts as well as any listeners who call or text or IM into the show.
I can’t say as I was surprised, but predictably, every guy who dropped some words of wisdom couched it in exactly this “just say ‘Yes Dear’ to anything she asks, she’s always right” mass groupthink. “Happy wife equals happy life” was literally what at least 5 of these guys called in or texted to say. Everything after this was autonomously, automatically implying that a husband’s primary duty in a marriage was to ‘keep her happy’. “Make sure you get to all the things on her Honey – Do list and you’ll be alright” was another caller’s advice intoned in a voice that sounded as if he were telling a new arrival at Auschwitz of how best to survive in the camp.
Last week I wrote about how the Unplugged become progressively more sensitive to the group-speak of the Matrix, and MikeC’s experience is a a textbook example of this. However, it’s one thing to identify the code in the Matrix, but it’s quite another to see the latent purposes behind the memes, the clichés and the idioms that the PluggedIn take for common sense.
Hypergamy and Cognitive Function
As MikeC astutely highlighted from Respect, Men’s preoccupation with performance is a direct psychologically, sociologically evolved response to qualifying for women’s hypergamy. Perhaps the most important reason women’s primary drive revolves around security-seeking is due to hypergamy, by definition, being an inherently insecure proposition. In fact so insecure is feminine hypergamy in principle that it was necessary for women to evolve psychological fail-safe schemas on the subconscious level (i.e. involuntary shit tests).
In general, when a psychological dynamic is pressed into the limbic, involuntary, subconscious level of our psyche’s, it’s primarily due to that dynamic requiring too much mental attention for our conscious minds to process effectively and maintain a cognitive awareness of other dynamics, stimulus, etc. in our environment that require our more immediate attention. Mother Nature has evolved humans with a wonderful ability to muti-task our awarenesses, but there are limits to how much information a person can process efficiently before that psyche becomes overwhelmed. Taken to the extreme this processing overload has potentially life threatening and species survival implications. Thus these processes that would overwhelm our conscious cognitive abilities are relegated to our peripheral awareness and/or pressed down to a subconscious / preconscious level.
This then is the mental realm of feminine hypergamy. When Roissy writes about women’s hindbrains or imagination/rationalization hamsters, this is the conceptual, psychological region from whence they issue. It’s easier to think of hypergamy – and its manifestations such as shit tests – in terms of breathing. We can control our breathing when we think of it, but when our mental attention is required elsewhere our autonomous nervous system takes over and we breath on autopilot until such time as we become aware of that breathing. Whether we are under stress or running a marathon, that autonomous system kicks in to allow us to focus on more important stimuli. So too is it with hypergamy – women are aware of it, and may adress it consciously, but more often hypergamy is pushed into women’s peripheral consciousness to allow them to focus on other stimuli.
The Abdication Imperative
Hypergamy is rooted in doubt. Hypergamy is an inherently insecure system that constantly tests, assesses, retests and reassesses for optimal reproductive options, long-term provisioning, parental investment, and offspring and personal protection viability in a potential mate. Even under the most secure of prospects hypergamy still doubts. The evolutionary function of this incessant doubt would be a selected-for survival instinct, but the process of hypergamy’s assessment requires too much mental effort to be entirely relegated to women’s subconscious. Social imperatives had to be instituted not only to better facilitate the hypergamous process, but also to reassure the feminine that men were already socially pre-programmed to align with that process.
In an era when women’s sexual selection has been given exclusive control to the feminine, in an age when hypergamy has been loosed upon the world en force, social conventions had to be established to better silence the doubt that hypergamy makes women even more acutely aware of. And nowhere is this doubt more pronounced than in the confines of a monogamous commitment intended to last a lifetime. Thus we have the preconception “Happy Wife equals Happy Life” pre-programmed into both gender’s collective social consciousness. It’s as if to say “It’s OK Hypergamy, everything’s gonna be alright because we all believe that women should be the default authority in any relationship.”
When you disassemble any operative feminine social convention, on its most base, instinctive level the convention’s latent purpose is to facilitate and pacify hypergamy.
As I covered in Hypergamy doesn’t care,.. it isn’t enough to profess love, promise support, exemplify dedication, etc., no, in a social context hypergamy demands a total pre-abdication of authority. Hypergamy wants social assurances before it makes a decision it has to live with. And even under the condition of total contrition hypergamy will not be pacified, but feminization, since the sexual revolution, has defined society in hypergamic terms, and that imperative will insist that the general populace internalize that “Happy Wife equals Happy Life.”
I meant to mention this in response to last week’s article, but this one hits the nail more squarely on the head: I have been noticing this sort of pathetic, preemptive supplicating behavior freaking everywhere. It bothered me pre-red-pill, but now it’s like someone stabbing me with a pin. The worst part of it is that it’s rarely convenient to disassemble, on the spot, the absurd structure the Yes Dear Always responses are built upon, so you have to let them go. There’s neither time nor leverage to even point out that such comments are insipid, unmanly, abjectly unreciprocated, the… Read more »
“My usual response is to try not to look nauseated.”
Ha! Same here. I’m going to a party this weekend hosted by solidly blue pill types, so I’m starting to mentally prepare myself days in advance.
What about those sharp one liners that can be said and then just walk away? You know, those ones that make half the people laugh uncomfortably and make the other half angry?
Or would it be inappropriate as well in these settings? Explaining in detail most likely won’t get you anywhere, regardless. Those one liners tend to stick with people.
That would be ideal. I’m open to suggestions. With other topics my wit does its usual rapier flourishes, but in this case I’m like the ex-smoker who not only can’t stand the smell any more but has trouble not preaching about the ills of tobacco. The urge is strong to either slap the wuss out of them or shake them like a dog, shouting, “What the hell is wrong with you?!” So… Yeah. A collection of 1-liners kept at hand would be preferable.
Alas, I don’t have any one-liners for you. Hard to come up with without having a lead-up. Do you have a girl? My husband and I have been to parties where this goes on and our go to is some form of “Woman, how about a beer/whiskey/drink/sammich etc.” I give my best smile, get what he asked for and give it too him with a loving, happy kiss. The looks we are get are hysterical.
Too wordy. I just slap her ass in front of others, and she giggles.
I’m so massojanistuck.
Combine them. Slap her on the ass after she makes you an amazing sandwich. Really piss off the others.
“How about a drink?” or “Baby, bring me a drink.” is too wordy?
“How about a drink?” should work in some situations, though I’m still at a loss for something between a sermon and a bitch-slap to give the castradi described in the article.
Peregrine John,
Seriously, all I got is quite crude. When a man tells you that you should always say “Yes Dear” to your wife you could respond something along the lines of “Huh. That’s funny. That’s what {insert name here} says to me when it’s hummer time”
Yeah. I’m a chick. I’m not as good at this as the guys here are. Sorry.
“Too wordy. I just slap her ass in front of others, and she giggles.”
Yes.
How ’bout telling the guy, “I bet your pants fit better now that she keeps your ball sack in her purse.”
It seems like turning yourself into a voluntary eunuch or hyper-agressive macho are the two strategies that result. The beta can’t understand the constant insecurity so he relinquishes his will over guiding it. The alpha doesn’t give a fuck since girls act on their best behavior until he is satisfied.
Hypergamy asks the question, betas give an answer. When hypergamy asks again, betas wonder why the answer didnt please. Alphas dont answer the question.
There is a third way. Manly way. Become free. Alpha and beta – just two names of poor slaves. Their very definition is dependent of women – women decide. If they like him – he is alpha, if they do not – he is beta. His values is determined by women. Beta does his bets to please women, alpha does need to do, ´cos women do their best to please him. Then some car accident happens or alpha become jobless or some women catch him and domesticates him…and suddently he is doing his best to please his wife – obese… Read more »
This is brilliant.
Man, I run into that disgusting blue-pill shit all the time. I find it offensive, and I have a very hard time keeping my mouth shut. If I do offer opposition, I just sound like a total asshole. I want to say, though, that you are giving too damn much power to hypergamy. It is a serious foe to battle, to be sure, but very much a defeatable one. Yeah, hypergamy doesn’t care about our ‘love’ etc.. But it is quite possible to function in such a way that hypergamy becomes placated, and only pops up in the occasional shit-test,… Read more »
“Going NOWHERE!”
No surprise I agree with Stingray. It is SO good to hear someone say “you don’t even have to be an asshole.” No, you realy don’t. There are some women who just will refuse to engage because the line of assholery starts to blur with sadism. No. Thank. You.
This was a well-articulated piece. I’m happy to say I don’t associate with too many “yes, dear” type guys. Just can’t deal with that type of guy.
Solomon, power might not be the right word, but hypergamy does need alot of “attention” you can’t give it too much at this point, this is one of the main threads that is unraveling our nation and hardly anyone knows about it. But I must ask to anyone who can answer. What is the male equivalent to hypergamy? The obvious answer is a male’s desire to sleep with/impregnate tons of women or the attractiveness of his woman. But to me at least the parallels just aren’t as clear, like there are not online communities of women taking red pills on… Read more »
The male equivalent is lowergamy.
I thought the desire to get my rocks off with as many women as possible was called “origami.” Huh. The things one learns.
Good post Rollo.
It’s not just the husband regurgitating the ‘Yes, dear’ nonsense. It gets carried over all too often into the entire family with the ‘If Momma ain’t happy, nobody is happy….’ rationale. It essentially trains the children that same behavior which carries over into their own lives.
Thanks Rollo….this is my second go around, and it was the traumatic, disastrous first marriage which led me to the Red Pill and many of your writings years ago. I think the first time I chose poorly and obviously had that total wussified beta mindset. I think this time I’ve chosen wisely, and am bringing the Captain mindset. Last week I wrote about how the Unplugged become progressively more sensitive to the group-speak of the Matrix, and MikeC’s experience is a a textbook example of this. However, it’s one thing to identify the code in the Matrix, but it’s quite… Read more »
Good lord, between this and ‘Perceptions’ you are smashing it lately.
Also, in reply to ‘A’ – “But to me at least the parallels just aren’t as clear, like there are not online communities of women taking red pills on how to keep their men sexually satisfied or continue looking good throughout life, or some motherly advise to a daughter that parallels the “yes dear” advice fathers give sons”
Perhaps not the last point, but the number of magazines and websites devoted to helping women look good and be better in bed… it’s obscene
Just found an interesting story on Yahoo.com, it’s a website a lot of women at my workplace read. http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/7-things-women-drive-men-mad-080011387.html It’s basically listing some common things women do in relationships, that ties in very neatly to what Rollo says in this article. Perhaps predictably, a lot of the responses from women are saying “bu bu bu I’m not like that! I treat my husband so super awesomely blah blah blah let’s talk about me for seven paragraphs”. Irony at its finest – one of the very points made is ‘incessant talking’ xD! I think these responses could be seen as some… Read more »
Nah, pure solipsism. We read an article like that and the first thing we have to do it compare ourselves to it. We can’t stop it from happening even if we try. Then, the urge to defend oneself is overwhelming. It is so blurring often times that it won’t allow an actual reading of the article because after the first thing that we take issue with, nothing else at all is even understood.
@ Stingray
…And THEN, after the reader’s emotions have been brought to a sufficient broil, thereby putting him/her in a vulnerable mental state, the REAL reason for the article’s existence… “BUY MORE CRAP!” The medium is the message!
I’ve read on a number of occassions (can’t site, sorry) how engaging in emotion-triggering media sets up us suckers, I mean, *viewers*, into a state of vulnerability, which makes us more open to, and less resistant towards, commercial messages. And it must work beautifully, considering the open sewer that is the mainstream media.
Interestingly enough, I’ve seen men do the same. Someone posted an article on Cracked, about failings of men, and many responded they are not like that. Not all of them did that, just a noticeable fraction.
Everyone should go back to their old copy of Robert Ringer’s ‘Winning Through Intimidation’ for some simple remedies to hypergamy. No, your framed response to shit tests doesn’t have to be putting your fist through dry-wall to get her attention (although a display of controlled anger definitely brings out the submissive little girl when done properly… AND will get her abundantly wet). But Ringer’s business postulation of not even taking the time to address the obstacle in front of you (shit tests) – but leaping directly to where you want to be in the situation (giving commands and expecting prompt… Read more »
“Hypergamy demands that a woman push the relationship and try to take charge, then reflexively dump the chump when he abdicates the lead.” If only I’d read that years ago… Ah, well. Could be one of the most concentrated encapsulations of Red Pill I’ve ever seen. Look, the difference between being a good ruler and bad ruler is mostly in whether you believe it yourself, whether you know your fitness to lead to be true. One is easy, confident control; the other is dangerous bluster. One is Steven Tyler, the other is… well, pick any too-ready-to-fight rapper. The difference between… Read more »
It’s too difficult to be an island in a sea of hyperagamy, the same limbic drives that are existent in female hyperagamy are also existent in the masculine need to cooperate (even Nazis ended up cooperating with the Allies).
Unfortunately, over time the “yes dear” men result in broken marriages and single parent kids. You owe it to your family to resist this at all costs. Be the man of the house or lose the house to another man.
Or be the man of your own house, and only share on a fractional basis, under your terms.
I.e. Don’t marry and watch those cohabitation laws!!!!
Speaking of one liners, it would be great to develop comments, standard replies and standard things to say to quickly get our views across in a clever gamish way. And also to discuss more about how to explain red pill wisdom to people in clever ways and tolerable amounts.
Absolutely. Arrows in the quiver. Some focus on that would be well-leveraged attention.
Great post and kudos to Mike C
I first off want to say thank you all for your comments, and for the author of this blog and other similar blogs for giving me a safe space, and for really awakening me, albeit a little late at 23. I also want to apologize for the length of this, if it ends up long, and if it’s a stupid thing to post. Moderator can feel free to delete it if he thinks so. I would like to ask your advice on my current situation. My ex girlfriend – who I guess I broke up with informally, and she broke… Read more »
Acute BPD, go dark. Do not contact her, delete every conceivable connection she could have with you no matter how remote or insignificant. Twitter, texting, cell phone number (get a new one), all of it. Delete your FaceBook account and don’t consider creating a new one for at least a year and then under a new alias. Do not contact anyone who knows you both mutually. If you’re employed, tell your boss about your situation now. She WILL pursue you there once she’s exhausted all her other means of contact. She will experience what’s called an ‘Extinction Burst’ where she… Read more »
Ok. I will. It shouldn’t be hard after this summer when I can move away again and she won’t be in close proximity to me at all. Fortunately I don’t have a facebook, and cutting contact with her won’t be too difficult, but the dramatic nature of this is all & the audacity with which she is going to every means to make me feel like I’m in the wrong for her insanity is literally killing me. I have no doubt I would end up dead within a few months if I guess things didn’t get taken this far and… Read more »
Damn MCM, your story reminds me of my experience with my psycho-BPD-ex girlfriend whom I wasted over a good year of my life with when I was 21-22. She was absolutely fucking amazing in bed but the unnecessary drama, the emotional rollercoaster ride, manipulation, violence between her & I, the loss of friends and family just wasn’t worth it. You’ve gotten some really good advice so far. I’d add that it took some work and time to patch up family relationships but it was and is very possible. The best thing you can do is walk away from this situation… Read more »
@ Jim
Yep, I moved, too.
@ MCM motherfucker (that’s a friendly, man-to-man “motherfucker,” by the way), DO NOT GIVE UP. Friend, DO WHAT ROLLO ADVISES. And PLEASE, DO NOT GIVE UP. This bullshit you’re going through, this is IT, sir. THIS is the kind of unspeakable insanity that brought a not insignificant number of men to this forum (and CH, and Dalrock, etc). The jaw-dropping frustration, the psychological helplessness, the blood-curdling fury you’re feeling? It’s THE VERY BEGINNING OF THE UNPLUGGING PROCESS. You’re feeling the inescapable, NECESSARY trauma that accompanies it. And it sucks total werewolf balls– BUT YOU WILL COME THROUGH THIS. You MUST…… Read more »
@ MCM PS: Rollo wrote, “I expect you’ll probably have ONEitis for her, but understand she is NOT who you think she is, nor will she ever become what you’d want her to be for you. She IS her disorder, she IS her neurosis.” MCM, fucking repeat that paragraph out loud, over and over, fifty times in a row. Use a deck of cards, and drop one card on the table each time you repeat it. YOU MUST KNOW AND ACCEPT IT’S TRUTH INSIDE AND OUT. It IS it’s disorder; it IS it’s neurosis. It’s brain isn’t working properly. It… Read more »
Yeah, you’re all right. It just doesn’t make sense. It is so far beyond anything I can fathom, it’s almost admirable the fucking sickness. I know she isn’t the first BPD I’ve encountered. Just the first I didn’t leave when the signs were clear. You are right, she is no longer her, she is IT. She even goes by her middle name, not her first name, which if you knew her name, you’d probably think that’s a fucking sign she’s a BPD succubi witch anyway. She may as well be named Jezebel. And that’s not a joke. What she goes… Read more »
Funny you mention St. Jude. I went to a rehab/sober living environment in upstate New York near the Adirondack Mountain’s for 6 weeks or so, a few years ago which was called St. Jude’s. There was a statue of him in a garden/ backyard type area. I used to stare at it at night or in the morning. Or on my walk back from the gas station where I’d buy cigarettes (the rehab was nice because it was choice based, and you got to go out and do what you wanted, so it was like a sober living home coupled… Read more »
Fred Rotten, feral1404 (Rob) from the posting way above – red-pilled at the age of 39 and lost in the desert for a great whille, until I started googling ‘oneitis’ (after a startling bad breakup – the kind I thought that I was way over at my age) and found Roissy, then Rollo, etc. I’ve never looked back. To MCM, follow Rollo’s advice and go ghost, but also rejoice, my friend… because you found this goodly advice WAY EARLIER than most of us, and you are just beginning to get a handle on it. Read ALL of the archives and… Read more »
@ feral1404 and MCM MCM: You sound like a real smart kid. Your above-average mind and talents have helped you to make some rational, intelligent sense out of our often confusing, but yet sublime, human nature. My guess is that your intellectual gifts have been built upon a solid foundation of a keen sense of justice, an eye for beauty, and an inherent grasp of cause and effect. But now, my friend, you’ve been thrust into an arena of pure CHAOS and ARBITRARINESS by the hand of a broken female. So DON’T OVERTHINK IT, and don’t OVERTHINK ABOUT IT. Yes,… Read more »
I haven’t dealt with anything as extreme as you are describing, but I do have some advice. 1. do not put anything in recordable format whether it be a letter, text, email, voicemail 2. get a lawyer 3. don’t give in and don’t show fear (it lets them know they have power over you) Be grateful for one thing especially: you do not have a child with this woman. Keep in mind that the truth always comes out eventually. Stick to what is right and you need never worry about your reputation. As to your family, anyone who creates divides… Read more »
Outstanding post, Mr. Tomassi. It’s one of those occaissional gems that I know I’ll be returning to in the future for multiple re-readings.
I do have 187 more in the archives.
: )
Believe me, I know the archives well! I have an entire folder filled with your writings. They’re truly gold I tells ya.
You know, I think I sent the wrong message when I wrote “It’s one of those occaissional gems…” I hit the ‘post comment’ button before it had a chance to sink in. I’ll bet I (unintentionally) came across as something like, “Oh, finally, an RT post worthy of my contemplation (*snort*).” NOT INTENDED AT ALL! 😉 ALL your posts are incredible– in fact, I can’t fathom how your brain is able to organize and articulate ideas, and *levels* of ideas, the way it does. I’m lucky if I can fully digest and contemplate one post a week. And now that… Read more »
It’s hard to come away from your posts feeling anything less than pessimistic. But painful self-awareness and a thorough understanding may just be the first step.
Also great suggestion/solution by Solomon. Even though society may see it one way, any change must occur on an individual level. Take your authority back in your relationships, and be comfortable with being an exceptional example for others.
hypergamy is not outside, it is in our very bodies. Our bodies are made to qualify for women. We are constatntly showered with emotions to facilitate that. Given all the informations and knowledge, would any sane man sign the marriage contract? I dont think so. It is up to as to manage this and become free. Majority of men are nothing but poor slaves to women all their fucking life. They are slaving feminine purpose – first qualify to her to be worthy of her pussy, then marry her to be worthy of her pussy, then make children to serve… Read more »
This is a great article, and I wish more men would read this kind of straight talk. I’m writing one right now about a conversation I overheard at a restaurant between three married (or recently divorced) men. I wanted so bad to go introduce them to the manosphere.
“Yes, dear”….”Yes, honey”
A happy wife makes a happy wife. Nothing more.
FYI..
http://www.groin.com/in-mala-fide-going-down/
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This weekend Good Luck Chuck and I went to a dockside restaurant for lunch. There was funny bumper sticker on the wall which said “I’m the boss my wife said I could be.”
And the single men rode their motorcycles into the sunset…….
Thanks again for everyone’s help and comments. And also for pointing me to Dalrock, I never read his stuff until now, and it’s great. Brief update: she sent me a text this morning. From the preview I can see it’s nothing hurtful, but appears to be a hook to lure me in. I won’t read it, nor open it, but will keep it for court to see, as well as her missed calls. That way they know I have not contacted her, nor tried, and she has after she put the order in. And it’s only been one week since… Read more »
Oh, and is there an easy way to find your archives? Like, an index with all of it them in one long list by title of links or anything similar? Apologies if there is one, I just haven’t looked yet.
uh, the categories links on the side bar?
Can someone suggest an achiever/downloader which can save the posts in PDF for offline reading?
No but using Chrome, you can open the comments on an article first then right click and save as a webpage or in IE, similarly, select file from the menu, then “save as” web archive. You’ll get a local copy of the page saved for reference that you can open without needing internet access.
Thanks man but I found this
http://blog2book.pothi.com/
Apparently You can same a blog as a book.(PDF).But its limited to 100 posts.So it’ll take 2 PDF’s for this blog etc.
Rollo,I think there is a wordpress plugin that allows viewers to save the posts as PDF. Can you embed that?
That’s very neat.
I’ll look it up.
I was sitting in my living room watching television the other day when I saw something that made me think of this discussion. I live in a 1st floor apartment right next to a walk path so I often see people walking by. Anyways, a young couple walked by and it was THE GUY pushing the stroller with the baby/toddler in it while the woman just walked solo. I then remembered when I was recently in a downtown urban setting I had seen the exact same thing. Men pushing strollers, men with their toddlers strapped to them in little sacks.… Read more »
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I don’t really understand the last section concerning the “Abdication Imperative”. It was a little unclear, I thought. Is your proposition such that society has instituted a convention whereby men acquiesce to their wholly conditional position in relationships with women, lest they be discarded in favor of a replacement who will comply? If so, I got that much out of it, but I know (I think?) you had other ideas in there. No offense, but the last half of this post was some of the most obfuscated writing I’ve seen. Could use a better explanatory style. Maybe define your terms… Read more »
So after reading more and more about how women treat men. I found all this webs sites after a mate of my said I should read soem articles. There is no way for women like me to go, because as you say most men are beta and yes dear males……sooooo upsolute yuk. I am sick and tiered of all this princesses all around me. But also I am sick and tiered of males who follow them and like to rescue them. Does no one sees it is a game???? I am a mother of two males, I am frightend for… Read more »
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Just read Fred Rotten’s post. It described my life to a T. Her dumping me happened inevitably when she had no more use for me, exhausted my resources, and traded up to her new boyfriend/mule. Reading these posts have made me realise exactly how much I bought into the whole “emote more, get in touch with your feelings and open up your defences” BS that has done more to harm men in the last 20 years tan prostate cancer.
Glad I came here.
Welcome Mike.
Rollo –
I’m glad I finally found a site like this after all I’ve been through. Your writing is the exact equivalent of the sunglasses in THEY LIVE; a lens through which all the lifelong suspicions finally become blindingly, horrifyingly clear. Thanks for leaving the light on and the door open.
They Live, heheh,..that’s pretty good.
Glad you found us.
The idea that hypergamy drives women to be in charge of the relationship (instead of trading up for a better partner) is a new concept for me.
Why would she stay in a relationship that doesn’t satisfy her hypergamy needs? I’ve seen this happen and the female just takes charge as you say.
Please expand.
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always qualify to her.
Well that ones a distant familiarity
Over at http://www.knightsofthewest.com we are building a fraternal order that is completely red-pilled. All of you guys should check it out.
[…] There is nothing more depressing to me than to listen to a married man parrot back all of the tropes the Feminine Imperative has taught him to repeat about why he’s in the subservient role in his marriage. These are the guys who’ll laughingly tell single men how they must “clear everything with the Boss” before they are allowed (or will allow themselves) to participate in anything remotely masculine or self-entertaining. These are the men who prattle about their ‘honey-do’ lists, the men who count themselves fortunate to have such a ‘great wife’ who’ll allow him to watch hockey… Read more »