The New Sensitivity

With profuse apologies for shamelessly lifting this thread from CH’s most recent post comments, but it dovetailed perfectly into my topic today.

From The Whammer:

I can acccurately predict who is the Alpha or Beta with a simple test which I will prove here. I’ll tell you who will get laid within the next week. Do this, take out your wallet and then describe the wallet and list the contents (don’t bother to list that condom that expired in 1999) I can determine from this test how well you will do with females and whether you’re a true Alpha.

OK I’ll explain then. Have you ever seen someone carrying around a wallet bulging with stuff? Sometimes you’ll even see a rubber band around it it’s so full of junk lol This is typical prole (beta) behavior. They carry all of this stuff in case they have to “prove” something. You will never see an Alpha carrying around all of this crap. Alphas carry a slim wallet with perhaps some cash, a credit card and a license at most. Alphas have certain habits or traits and they’re reflected subconsciously in a lot of outward ways. An Alpha would never even think that he’d ever have to prove anything to anyone.The first guy who answered said he just carries some cash in a money clip and that would indicate Alpha behaviour to me. I wasn’t really concerned with the amount of cash.People, especially females, subconsciously equate a bulging wallet with a beta flunky and that’s not even taking into considerstion the bulge you’ll have in your chest suit pocket. Betas don’t get laid.

I’d encourage readers to read the thread in its entirety. It’s some real funny shit, however there is a germ of truth in The Whammers humor. A lot has been written about Beta (and Alpha) ‘tells’ in the manoverse. In fact, I’d argue that in its infancy formalized pick up artistry was fundamentally about ridding oneself of the Beta ‘tells’ and emphasizing Alpha ‘tells’ to maximize guy’s chances of getting laid.

However, with the unplugging from the Matrix comes a progressively developing sensitivity to the feminized world around us. We see it all around us, usually in advertising first – maybe the undertone of masculine ridicule in TV commercials, then the subtle association we make when considering that women arre the primary consumers in society. The next easy observation is how men are portrayed on television; feckless, ridiculous slobs in need of feminine intuition to solve their problems.

This new sensitivity then becomes more refined. We pick up idioms and subtle attitudes in people’s conversations. We pick up on terms and assumptions of premise that previously, in our Blue Pill fog, we would’ve taken for common sense or matter of fact. We hear the same tropes offered as the solution to the same issues that we thought were so confusing in our plugged-in existence.

I use The Whammer’s wallet test as an illustration here to detail this new sensitivity. It’s fairly easy to assess the difference between a Beta’s Look (or lack thereof) and that of an Alpha. Like most other higher order animals, human beings have an evolved sense, on the subconscious level, that helps us determine the looks, posture and vocal cues of sexual competitors. But looks can be deceiving, and in an age of feminization, the guy who outwardly may be the very specimen of an Alpha in a physical sense, can also be the most debilitated Beta due to his life’s conditioning.

Maybe it’s from having been unplugged from the Matrix for so long, or maybe it’s my constant observation and writing about it, but I am very sensitive to the choice of casual words men use when talking about gender issues. It’s been acculturated into feminized men’s vernacular to use words, idioms and presumptions that are assumed, on the subconscious level, to be more neutral or inoffensive to women-as-authority or feminine primacy. I can pick out the subliminal self-deprecations men filter into their conversations, often with a nervous laugh, or else they’ll drop some blunt truth only to casually (but practiced intentionally) to backpedal by ridicule themselves or men in general for being ‘how they are’ as if it were some kind of apology.

Everything you need to know about a guy, or really the state of feminine primacy in society, is in the choices of words he uses. It’s a fairly easy task to pick through the writings on someone’s forum posts to determine where they stand on the Beta-Alpha spectrum. Is he using Disney-esque dialogue about the girl he thinks is special? Is he using Shakespearean prose, words he would never actually speak in casual conversation, to describe his yearning and longing for a soulmate? These are easy ‘tells’ when you read them on your monitor; all but the most Aspergery of men probably wouldn’t use Arthurian vernacular when casually speaking about women.

Better to beg forgiveness than beg for permission.

On my commute to work I often listen to local talk radio. No, not the conservative AM band, rather the variety show FM band type shows. I actually work somewhat closely with a few of the stations and hosts  whenever I’m doing a brand promo or a launch party at some local club or event. Of the talk show personalities I know, it’s really only in a business sense. Most of them are pretty likable enough guys, but every time I listen to any topic on their show that veers into intergender issues (which is quite often) the Beta just oozes from every pore. Matrix trope after trope, constant repetition of fem-speak colloquialisms, I swear, some of the worst offenders in perpetuating feminine social primacy are talk radio hosts – even the conservative ones. Naturally I bite my tongue in the interests of my business, but these guys are worse than any White Knight, mangina or Beta I’ve ever encountered in the manosphere; and all are blissfully oblivious to their conditionings.

In all of their ramblings, there is always a default premise of female authority. I’m convinced it takes the better part of a lifetime to inculcate into a man, but on the limbic level the Beta mindset uses the feminine imperative as his starting point for everything. In every issue, and on a subliminal level, the origination of a thought is tempered with how it will be interpreted in a feminine-primary context. This is almost a default state of mind for the Beta mindset: ask permission from the feminine.

I’ve got another friend who’ll always abdicate to his wife’s authority by saying “Gotta clear that with the boss” in reference to his wife when we’re making some plans to hang out. This tells me everything I need to know about his perception of gender and his history of success with women in general. Woman = authority; before all else, in any decision the thought is colored by the feminine.

Just as in the wallet test, the unplugged develop a sense in placing an Alpha mindset. Although we may hear it occasionally in their choice of words, it’s the lack of words that indicate an Alpha. Just as an Alpha doesn’t need a wallet full of safety measures, the Alpha doesn’t need superflous words. By virtue of his confidence-through-options the Alpha mind doesn’t care about feminine priority. He may occasionally say “uhm,…sorry?“, but his first thought isn’t to ask permission from the feminine.

When your silence inspires more intimidation, more respect, more gravity than your words, then, you’re thinking like an Alpha.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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Stingray
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Stingray

Rollo, That “Alpha” post is brilliant. Unsurprisingly, women have a difficult time understanding this as well, though I find that instead of trying to understand, they fight against it. Alpha just is. Women will have different characteristics to which is the most Alpha to her, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t find other Alpha traits attractive or intriguing. As to this: unplugging from the Matrix comes a progressively developing sensitivity to the feminized world around us. I got slapped upside the head with this recently. My girls had a dance recital and one of the numbers was a class of… Read more »

jynxi
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jynxi

Wallet? Wallet? What about those baby-sac betas? Seeing that shit makes my heart stop!

The Shocker
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The Shocker

Whammer’s post is intereting. I dont walk around with ID but when i need to for a night out, i bring my passport. I started when my license got suspended, but i keep doing it since it’s a great conversation starter. One little thing in the ‘dont feel like u need to prove yourself’ category i picked up from some random blog. A guy did this whole thing where he signed other people’s names when he used his debit card. Noone ever said anything, so he kept going to where he was drawing pictures of whales and random stuff. So… Read more »

YeOldeReally
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YeOldeReally

“all but the most Aspergery of men probably wouldn’t use Arthurian vernacular when casually speaking about women.” lol!! shit, that was the one that I wanted to point out. I’ve seen that in the comment sections all over the Manosphere since I started reading it. Any time I see guys lecturing how picking up works and they throw in some Ye Olde English “She knows not of his discretions–” or “Be not a man who–” I chuckle and rule the guy out as never having touched a vagina in his life. Thank god that bugs someone else too lol no… Read more »

YaReally
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YaReally

oh and on the wallet subject, I’ve been trying to cut down on my spending at the bar so occasionally I’ll leave my debit/credit cards at home. And to encourage me to not waste my time on just going for numbers I’ll sometimes leave my phone at home. I’ve noticed that as soon as I decide not to bring all that stuff out, I get a rush of beta “What if something happened? What if I needed money? What if I need a cab to get home? What if I got injured in a fight and needed to call for… Read more »

Dreamer
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Dreamer

Now everybody is going to go and dump everything out of their wallets and get a money clip….

feral1404
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feral1404

This post reminds me of my grandfather’s behavior towards my grandmother that I watched growing up. He was a first-generation Russian transplanted to Youngstown, Ohio to work in the steel mills. When he came home, his dinner was set out and his whiskey and cigar were waiting by his chair. My grandmother just did these things because they were expected of her… keeping house and home and her husband happy. Thing is she didn’t seem at all unhappy about doing these things. She played her part, he played his. This was just the way it was. A years ago, just… Read more »

Stingray
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Stingray

Thing is she didn’t seem at all unhappy about doing these things.

Many would be surprise to learn that not only was she likely not unhappy doing these things, but quite happy to do them. This idea of caring for a man being a horrible thing is such crap. Caring for a one’s man and one’s children, for many women, is a joy and many take great pride in it.

Leap of a Beta
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Damn. I think that simple part of “assuming submission” is where I’ve gone wrong lately. I was getting it with a few women, and then I relapsed to my blue pill days a bit. I’ve been struggling to get it back where instead I should just assume she’s going to do it.

Leap of a Beta
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Haha, love the wallet thing. I hadn’t thought about it consciously as a marker of Alpha/Beta, but I’ve always thought that people who walk around with a giant wallet of shit were simply tools. One of the first things I did after having the red pill was ditch the wallet and simply carry cash, my ID, and my credit card. No clip, no wallet, nothing. It was a simple, “This looks like a retarded bulge in my pants” thinking. S ame with the cell phone if I’m going out – it changed from being in a front pocket to a… Read more »

Scott
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Scott

Rollo, about these radio guys, have you ever spoke with them or called them on their BS. Some of these guys just spit out this BS because they have to. They might not necessarily believe it.

It’s like boy bands singing about love, and how they’ll never leave them, etc. They have to sell it to the beta masses.

necorochi
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necorochi

Excellent post Rollo Let me introduce myself, I’m Necorochi I’m somewhat new to game; unplugged for about 3 months. “I can pick out the subliminal self-deprecations men filter into their conversations, often with a nervous laugh, or else they’ll drop some blunt truth only to casually (but practiced intentionally) to backpedal by ridicule themselves or men in general for being ‘how they are’ as if it were some kind of apology.” Is so true, we have all been their at one point. I’m in the stage were I watch what I say. Slowly but surly eradicating my beta habits. That… Read more »

King A (Matthew King)
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Here’s an alternate-universe dance recital for you:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6ZmTo_utao

I’m strictly a female female
And my future I hope will be
In the home of a brave and free male
Who’ll enjoy being a guy having a girl… like… me.

When men say I’m sweet as candy
As around in a dance we whirl,
It goes to my head like brandy,
I enjoy being a girl!

And, the considerably sexier original.

Matt

gregg
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gregg

Again this dichotomy from animal world – alpha and beta. Free beings are judged by their actions and lives, not words. We could write down a couple of definitions of so called “alpha”, each having a bit of “truth” in: 1. Alpha does not need to write and talk about women, hell he does not even have the reason to analyze hypergamy. World is his harem. He has been chosen from the young age. People generally do not overanalyze things that benefit them, there is no motivation to this. Conclusion: all writers and readers of game blogs – we all,… Read more »

gregg
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gregg

add: our elders without all the science knew definitely more about women than we. Man has to undergo a test of manliness, where he has to prove some abstract values – courage, bravery, skillfulness. After he “,matched” women were alotted to him. Together with animals. Noone veer aked women if she likes him or not. THIS one is the profound knowledge of the animal female core that could be subjugated only with strenght or emotion. Man and abstract values of the society first women after. Now we are facing the complete opposite. NO ABSTRACT values at all, just values that… Read more »

King A (Matthew King)
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Have you ever seen someone carrying around a wallet bulging with stuff? Sometimes you’ll even see a rubber band around it it’s so full of junk lol This is typical prole (beta) behavior. They carry all of this stuff in case they have to “prove” something. You mean like, having to prove their credit-worthiness to the restaurant (credit card)? Or that they are who the person whose name is on the list (photo ID)? Or that they have sufficiently fungible legal tender to barter with a merchant (cash)? Save the parlor tricks for women. Even the girls who know they’re… Read more »

xsplat
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I think preparedness is an important masculine trait. A wallet is a good place to keep a chunk of gold big enough for international airfare and a bit left over. It’s a good place to keep a microchip that includes encrypted files of all your important documents. A good place to keep several bank and credit cards.

Shit happens, and a wallet is a bug out plan. Men are strategists, and a wallet is a tactic.

xsplat
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I’ve noticed a religious trend among some in the game community. It is a new-age feel good everything is entirely made of mental attitude magical thinking. The claim is that the ONLY thing that makes a difference occurs inside your individual skull. It’s an enormously inflated sense of the power of ego. Everything is nothing but what I think. Everything is not only what you think. There is a real world out there. The only people whose ideas are reality are psychotics. It’s good to be confident, but it’s not good to be irrationally self confident. It’s good to have… Read more »

mmaier2112
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mmaier2112

No doubt. Being a lemming with pretense is VERY Alpha.

Leap of a Beta
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Maybe a couple others can chime in, but I had a hard time with the bluntness myself. Basically I swung back and forth between being too honest and then back to too beta. I made a few mistake discussing these issues with co-workers, and wouldn’t recommend it. What I’d recommend is not being afraid to talk to people you meet or know that won’t matter if you accidentally piss them off with the ideas contained in the red pill. It doesn’t go down easy, and you never know how specific individuals will react.

AlphaFax
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AlphaFax

Great posts king A and xsplat! I’ve already started putting everything back into my wallet. Thanx.

necorochi
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necorochi

I know exactly what you mean.

I’ll make sure to catch myself from laughing if it wasn’t really funny and not be afraid to intimidate.

Also is their any post’s that you would recommend reading, I’m new and his archives are huge.

Thank’s for replying.

Leap of a Beta
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Oh lord, I don’t know too much of where to begin on the archives. Rollo’s really good about linking to past articles that are relevant, so I never really went through the archives myself but clicked every time he’d link something. So I’d recommend that. Probably start about two months ago and work your way forward.

Honestly, War Brides is the only one that comes to mind by name.

Marellus
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King A. You must be familiar with Clifton Chapel by Sir Henry Newbolt To set the cause above renown, To love the game beyond the prize, To honour, while you strike him down, The foe that comes with fearless eyes; To count the life of battle good, And dear the land that gave you birth, And dearer yet the brotherhood That binds the brave of all the earth. And this was written in a period when every man knew what the Birkenhead Drill entailed. So how would the verse above be written today : To set the cause above renown,… Read more »

Rollo Tomassi
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I do provide categories on the side bar for a reason,…

Rollo Tomassi
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King A (Matthew King)
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No, I wasn’t familiar with the poem or HMS Birkenhead. Thanks for introducing us to it. High level stuff, brother.

More men have to take game to the next level as you have. It is time. There is an embarrassment of manly riches from the day before yesterday just waiting to be rediscovered. Kipling is a good place to begin.

Matt

Sam Spade
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Sam Spade

“Naturally I bite my tongue in the interests of my business…” There’s the rub, Rollo. Though I suppose biting one’s tongue is favorable to speaking in apologetic and feminist tones. But if even you feel the need to reel it in because business interests are at risk, what does that say about the millions of betas in the workforce? It IS better to beg for forgiveness than for permission. That’s a line I tell people all the time – even the students I advise at the university where I work. Co-workers are often shocked to hear it. So you can… Read more »

Sam Spade
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Sam Spade

Well said.

GeishaKate
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GeishaKate

lol- I found this and the other thread on the subject quite illuminating as I actually had someone use this topic on me once. He wanted to know what I thought about the fact that he didn’t carry a wallet, and I was thinking, what the hell kind of question is that? Can we talk about something normal? I never did understand it was a routine of sorts until now. Another mystery solved. Lesson: not every conversation has to revolve around game. Sometimes people just talk…about life 🙂

necorochi
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necorochi

Thanks

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