Hypergamy doesn’t care,..

Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a Father you are to your kids.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how you rearranged your college majors and career choice in life to better accommodate her.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how inspired or fulfilled you feel as a stay-at-home Dad.

Hypergamy doesn’t care that you moved across 4 states to be closer to your LDR.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how ‘supportive’ you’ve always been of her decisions or if you identify as a ‘male feminist’.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about the sincerity of your religious convictions or aspirations of high purpose.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about those words you said at your wedding.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how you funded her going back to college to find a more rewarding career.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a guy you are for adopting the children she had with other men.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your divine and forgiving nature in excusing her “youthful indiscretions.”

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your magnanimity in assuming responsibility for her student loans, and credit card debt after you’re married.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if “he was your best friend.”

Hypergamy doesn’t care about the coffee in bed you bring her or how great a cook you are.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about all those chick flicks you sat through with her and claimed to like.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how well you do your part of the household chores.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how much her family or friends like you.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you think you’re a “Good” guy or about how convincing your argument is for your sense of honor.

Hypergamy doesn’t care whether the children are biologically yours or not.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if “she was drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another,..”

Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you “never saw it coming.”

 

Add your own, I’m sure there’s more,..

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Samuel Solomon
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about God or hell.

Uri Katsav (@UriKatsav)

Hipergamy doesn’t care about God and God-given rights and institutions.

Samuel Solomon
9 years ago

hypergamy DOES care about what will get a girl killed…

but will even take that risk, when it wishes.

thechauvinistkaiser
9 years ago

Ah, the red pill. Even I find it difficult to swallow.

It’s stuff like this that makes it so hard for guys like me not to be bitter.

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re bitter.

Beat
Beat
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

This one sums up all the others–bitterness doesn’t come out of a vacuum.

FFY
FFY
9 years ago

^
Dude is a troll

Beat
Beat
9 years ago
Reply to  FFY

Charitably, I’ll say you misunderstood me, and are not simply dim. I was agreeing with Rollo. To make it as clear as possible: There are good, logical reasons men are bitter. Hypergamy doesn’t care.

FFY
FFY
9 years ago
Reply to  Beat

I was talking about the other guy… he is pure troll. Or she. Not sure about that one yet

Beat
Beat
9 years ago
Reply to  FFY

Sorry about that.

Beat
Beat
9 years ago
Reply to  FFY

which reminds me, hypergamy doesn’t care how sorry you are.

Scott
Scott
9 years ago

I think it’s important to realize that, despite the harsh realities of life, having a positive outlook will more often work in one’s favor than not. The trick is to be a realistic optimist.

jadoescher
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you fool around on her

Heywood Jablome
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about preserving Western Civilization.

Survivorman
Survivorman
9 years ago

Hypergamy is one cold, mean, heartless bitch..

.. and this needs to be shouted from the mountaintops !

Fred Rotten
Fred Rotten
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’ve never heard of hypergamy.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you don’t understand what hypergamy is.

Hypergamy doesn’t care that you hate hypergamy.

carioca
9 years ago
Reply to  Fred Rotten

lol! poor clueless betas…

jadoescher
9 years ago

On the other side, if you’re alpha enough:

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re broke
Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re ugly
Hypergamy doesn’t care if you lost your job
Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re in prison
Hypergamy doesn’t care how many women you slept with
Hypergamy doesn’t care if you abuse her

As long as she can look up to you, and you’re the best she’s ever had (or the best she can hope to get), her hypergamy will forgive anything.

Coy
Coy
9 years ago
Reply to  jadoescher

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you earn half her income and are 5 year her subordinate.
(my first puppy eye look) ;).

FreeAgent
FreeAgent
5 months ago
Reply to  jadoescher

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your delusional copes.

(R)evoluzione
(R)evoluzione
9 years ago

Actuallly, hypergamy does care about many of those things–the sorrowfully beta ones. It hates them. If you want to be on the right side of hypergamy, take that list of things, identify the ones that reek of betastink and don’t fucking do them.

Jon
Jon
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care that you work your butt off to facilitate her leisured reality in a home of her choosing…

dicipres
9 years ago

Awesome post. Every young man should get to read this at high school.

Sam Spade
Sam Spade
9 years ago

Hypergamy can be your ally or your enemy.

The choice is yours.

FreeAgent
FreeAgent
5 months ago
Reply to  Sam Spade

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your choices.

unscathed
unscathed
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you win the nobel peace prize, cure cancer, and put an end world hunger.

Nutz
Nutz
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re twice, triple, or in some rare cases, even quadruple her age.

feral1404
feral1404
9 years ago

So the best solution as far as I can figure it is to be fully aware of the hypergamy and counter-game it upon recognition; every once in awhile instilling the dread and generating the tingles. And NEVER stop gaming her, even if you get married. And of course keep the 16 commandments of poon in the forefront. (I’m a pretty big believer in those. They radically changed the way females responded to me as soon as I put them into practice… especially ‘never be afraid to lose her.’) Of course no one knows the future, and the woman can go… Read more »

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  feral1404

Sounds pretty brutal doesn’t it? I get a lot of shit from certain critics who think all I’m about is nihilism and constant paranoid vigilance, but it’s really just about being informed and understanding the environment men are really in. Living with a better understanding of hypergamy and the landscape of the SMP doesn’t require a Man to sell his romantic soul or morph into an emotionless drone barking at shadows and suspicions. That’s what the absolutists will tell you, but it’s my opinion that it benefits a man’s efforts in his passions, his art, his physical and mental well… Read more »

feral1404
feral1404
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

I really don’t think it sounds brutal at all, just realistic. I for one appreciate that realistic brutality and heartily salute what you continue to do. For after all, ‘hypergamy doesn’t give a shit if you think it’s brutal.’ I’m 42 and currently in an LTR with a very feminine 29 y/o. In my past beta days I doubt that it would have lasted very long, but adhering to game has made all the difference. From the start the frame has been mine, to the point where she’s given up her job to follow me and has gleefully submitted to… Read more »

Dreamer
Dreamer
9 years ago
Reply to  feral1404

It doesn’t sound brutal to you, but it does to me. Let me be honest. First though I want to write that I know there’s obviously more nuance and I do keep reminding myself of that. Hypergamy as in being a leader and superiority in some form is reasonable. But is it that aspergery to draw thoughts that the solution to climbing the ladder is not becoming dominant/better over her or become the best of the men with typical measurements, but just becoming a sociopathic violent douchebag? One can only read so much “hypergamy doesn’t care about the birthday card… Read more »

Jim
Jim
9 years ago
Reply to  Dreamer

It may help to remember that romance is purely a male construct. Hypergamy does not care about romance – romantic men do. If you want to keep your romantic soul alive, you should either channel it into creativity, or make yourself so alpha in other ways that you can be romantic to women and still get away with it.

Stingray
Stingray
9 years ago
Reply to  Dreamer

make yourself so alpha in other ways that you can be romantic to women and still get away with it.

This. Women appreciate romance, from a dominant man. It makes us feel quite special actually. Being chosen by an alpha to be romanced is a powerful thing. Just remember, the romance is secondary, even tertiary. Dominance will always be first.

Of course, choosing the girl who you find worthy of showing romance is a large part of the battle.

gregg
gregg
9 years ago
Reply to  Dreamer

This is an overlooked TRUTH. Knowing this – being deeply aware of this could be very transformative. At first men are feeling depressed – like something has been taken from them. The they digest it. Some merely drop off – MGTOW. There is a part of these men that gave up not form the reason that they are not able to find woman. They are simply disgusted with woman, they are seing their very nature in work every day and tehy do not want to touch such primitive creature. I know a couple of theese. Some men continue in interaction… Read more »

FFY
FFY
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care how good you look on paper.

Game away, fellas of all colors, incomes, and looks

Columnist
9 years ago

Good post! Use hypergamy to your advantage.

Arch
Arch
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about consequences.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about cause and effect.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about yesterday, only about today and tomorrow.

DerHahn
DerHahn
9 years ago
Reply to  Arch

Number one is spot on but the last one’s wrong.

Hypergamy only cares that it feels good *right* *now*.

Arch
Arch
9 years ago
Reply to  DerHahn

Hypergamy is the instinct of a woman to trade up whenever possible and that is decidedly future-oriented.

DerHahn
DerHahn
9 years ago
Reply to  Arch

Read simon99’s post below.

The hamster rewites the past and reimagines the future as necessary for the present.

carioca
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn´t care about your effort, it cares only about the results. Hypergamy doesn´t care if you got it by hard work or appropriation. Hypergamy doesn´t care if your muscles were grown on steroids. Hypergamy doesn´t care if your 6h non-stop wild sex is due use of medicines. Hypergamy doesn´t care if you don´t agree with Machiavelli: the end justifies the means. Hypergamy doesn´t care if your male transcendental moral is offended by female pragmatic moral. Hypergamy cares about the size of you penis. ps. “Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are.” Disagree totally! These are sexy… Read more »

simon99
simon99
9 years ago

I’m watching hypergamy unfold a 10 year marriage with 2 kids involved with some friends of mine. She met some guy at a party, danced and felt some “connection” with this guy that has now brought her to the conclusion that she was “never in love” with her husband and shouldn’t have ever married him. She’s “unfulfilled”, feels there is a better relationship out there for her, “deserves more”, plus has a laundry list a mile long of complaints about her husband. He’s a decent guy, a good father, works full time, helps around the house. And he’s been totally… Read more »

Samuel Solomon
9 years ago

hypergamy doesn’t care if you believe it exists or not.

granddesignnz
granddesignnz
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care that you ultimately have the last laugh, when princess hits the wall, and your balls deep in a 19 year old.

Cream
Cream
9 years ago
Reply to  granddesignnz

Love this one, so true. \

cassius
cassius
9 years ago
Reply to  granddesignnz

No, hypergamy does care about this, but by then its too late.
Today’s hypergamy does not care, tomorrow’s does.

YOHAMI
9 years ago

Hypergamy is my bitch.

Stingray
Stingray
9 years ago
Reply to  YOHAMI

Thus far, my favorite one.

jynxi
jynxi
9 years ago

Hypergamy is eating its’ seed-corn.

Luis
Luis
9 years ago

This Hypergamous utopia won’t last long.

Simon Corso
Simon Corso
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about crabs or herpes.

Mr. Mitchell
Mr. Mitchell
9 years ago

Soldiers…fight fire w/ fire. Become hypergamic yourselves. Give ’em a taste of their own medicine.

YOHAMI
9 years ago
Reply to  Mr. Mitchell

mmm yeah. Lets only bang highly accomplished women who have looks money fame dominance and attitude and are into non strings sex. Maybe we can all bang the same girl. That will teach them.

Candide
Candide
9 years ago

*cough* 1. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re more highly evolved. 2. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you play well with others. 3. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you are more likely to be creative, artsy and funny. 4. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re capable of emotional connection. 5. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re nurturing and caring. 6. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re much less likely to cheat. 7. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re far more likely to marry and stay married. 8. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you want to be a dad and will be good at it. 9. Hypergamy doesn’t care… Read more »

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  Candide

I see what you did there.

theprivateman
9 years ago
Reply to  Candide

Hehehehe…. good one.

FFY
FFY
9 years ago
Reply to  Candide

LOL hahaha

King A (Matthew King)
9 years ago

Preach it and keep preaching it until the last feminist dies. But forget the reforming-chump choir — they’re perceptive enough to pick up on the hints and to see the game magic at work. They don’t need to be told that many times. (Do they?) The illusion becomes forever obvious once the illusionist reveals his secret. We see the mirrors and the wire and the diversionary tactics. Rather, tell your daughters about the clusterfuck that roils inside them, until they believe it and seek refuge in the only possible remedy: the male will. Women appear to be savage and less… Read more »

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago

Matt, you and I don’t see eye to eye on some aspects of Game, but we probably agree on more than you’re aware of.

That said, I have to applaud your effort on HUS, well done. Aunt Sue will simply ban you, but I respect you for trying.

King A (Matthew King)
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

I was under the impression Hooking Up Smart was generally on our side with respect to the nature of the sexual marketplace, but translating it into useful advice for young women. As I say in my comment above, those women are the ones being left out of the new “dark” wisdom of game, and that’s not good for anyone in the long haul. I didn’t realize she was, incredibly, attempting to defend the righteousness of the beta male. That is so much worse than simply denying the dynamic altogether like some feminist ideologue. She is actively dangerous to the very… Read more »

dragnet
dragnet
9 years ago

“Women appear to be savage and less disciplined than us only because we’ve indulged their instinct for a century, and worse, constructed an entire ideology for the sole purpose of justifying that one-sided indulgence — while demonizing plain evidence, common sense, and even slight dissent to the outer bounds of polite society.” Nailed it. Women are as feral as we permit them to be. I voice a similar idea in a series of comments some time ago in an epic Roissy thread: “So all you have is these clueless young women, their useless mothers, and a society that has shielded… Read more »

King A (Matthew King)
9 years ago
Reply to  dragnet

Right. We are at the all-you-can-eat seafood buffet for alphas. Men who are men should be conflicted about this development, and not only because its eventual and inevitable correction will involve massive social upheaval. We should be able to imagine our daughters and sisters (and mothers) being thrown to the wolves, disrespected, and raped. It is imperative to offer sanctuary to our sisters who have consciously stepped away from the cock carousel, to maintain a safe place for them in return for their (devoutly desired) submission. Rock the feminist establishment out with your cock out until they are made to… Read more »

gregg
gregg
9 years ago

very naive up to the point of blindness. Women CAN NOT tame their instincts. They ARE their instincts. There is nothíong differnet in their body to be able to tame it. Their whole body is a sex organ. Woman – body is not able to rule body – woman. Soul could rule body, or body could rule soul. WE must tame their instincts. We must create rules and punish their disobedience. We muts rule and direct them. Soul has to rule body, not the other way. Nature has never corrected anything my friend. Religion, philosophy, morals – thing that are… Read more »

King A (Matthew King)
9 years ago
Reply to  gregg

WE must tame their instincts. We must create rules and punish their disobedience. We must rule and direct them. In other words: “… seek refuge in the only possible remedy: the male will.” There is the castle of civilization with high walls and deep moats. And everything outside of that is the state of nature. Of course the savage jungle doesn’t correct any civilizational lapses directly, except by killing off the weak and deviant. Rather, the state of nature provides a reminder of the harsh alternative outside the vigilance of the castle walls. In that way, reminding women of “the… Read more »

Stingray
Stingray
9 years ago

And all of those feminist believe that a woman who chooses to live as I do have it so bad. If it weren’t so incredibly depressing it would be hysterical.

gregg
gregg
9 years ago

matt, you are an inteligent man. But there is nothing like “lack of cooperation in sustaining the civilization” from women. Civilization is not their thing. Deep down they are NOT willing to have it. They are made for the “horror, horror” and they are naturaly gravitating towards it. They will willingly share couple of alphas, while serving them in a harem a let betas dies for their food a territory. THIS is their very nature. This is the reason why all the religions – systems of rules designed to preserve cililizations, ordered them to obey their man and do not… Read more »

King A (Matthew King)
9 years ago
Reply to  gregg

Our elders know that they are UNABLE of cooperation of their own choosing. That they must be FORCED to cooperate. Agreed, which is why I said, “[T]hey like to be pressured, and they are built to be forced.” All of this bravada about women wanting “the horror, the horror” … no. In their fantasy romance novels, where kindness and ravishment co-exist, maybe. But one hour alone in the real Hobbesian “state of nature,” the hell on earth of her perpetual rape, and she’ll insist the granddaughters of her granddaughters’ granddaughters remember what their obedience purchases for them in protection. Our… Read more »

King A (Matthew King)
9 years ago

Hypergamy Doesn’t Care. And neither does the honey badger. HYPERGAMY ANIMATED.

trackback
9 years ago

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johnno
johnno
9 years ago

Can women decide not to act on their hypergamy? As a male, I can easily identify my polygamous instincts but, in the scenario I decided to go for an exclusive LTR, I could also decide not to take any action on them. I’ve got the feeling that women lack this ability and are simply always after the bigger better deal. If LTR Game is aimed to feed and keep the hypergamy monster satisfied, doesn’t it make us men sort of “slaves”, in an inferior position? Should I put Game into practice to became the best man I can be or… Read more »

Candide
Candide
9 years ago
Reply to  johnno

johnno, your polygamous instincts are kept well in check by both society (or culture) and the law regardless of your decisions. However, a woman’s hypergamous instincts are currently not at all restrained by either, and are in fact celebrated.

gritartisan
9 years ago
Reply to  johnno

@johnno

1 woman, 10 women, or 1000 women. You might feel special having just one woman. Or you could feel unfulfilled after 1000. Like you say, its your decision. A la Candide, there will be lots of people along the way to hinder 1000 notches.

Love's Orphan
Love's Orphan
9 years ago

So… What does hypergamy care about? Nothing?

carioca
9 years ago
Reply to  Love's Orphan

6 packs

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  Love's Orphan

The guy who represents the better psycho-sexual reward.

Muse
Muse
9 years ago

Hypergamy cares if you become richer, stronger and more independent than her upgrade…

Doc
Doc
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about anything except getting what it wants… So use it to get what you want, and you will have an unending supply of p*ssy…

And Balls
And Balls
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care that Aunt Susan wants you to date a beta male. http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2012/05/16/hookinguprealities/10-reasons-to-date-a-beta-male/
The part of the article on treating Alpha Male Syndrome was particularly infuriating, especially since this company specializes in it. It struck me because yesterday one of my colleagues was going on and on about how women are better managers, do better in school, and excel on management tests.
http://www.worthethic.com/the-alpha-male-syndrome.html

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  And Balls

Hooking up Betas.

Still need more proof Candide?

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  And Balls

I can happily report that this September I’ll celebrate anniversary #28 with Mr. HUS, who fits this description to a T. So essentially this list is just an essay in self-validation. Shoot the arrow, paint the target around it,..bullseye! Ah Giggles, making necessity a virtue is a full time job isn’t it? Well, ok, I’ll play along; I’ll be celebrating 16 years with Mrs. Tomassi in July and by Susie’s redefinition of Beta traits as Alpha traits, I’m reasonably sure I’d lean much further into Alpha territory. Looks like I’m incontrovertible proof that Alphas make better husbands,…now, where’s my bow… Read more »

Stingray
Stingray
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

Out of curiosity, how many of those 10 traits on Susan’s post do you posses? I would guess quite a few. This idea that an alpha has to be an asshole is very irritating.

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  Stingray

For a 55 y.o. woman, she sure goes to a lot of pains seeking affirmation about the great guy she married 28 years ago.

Smells an awful lot like,…hypergamy.

Stingray
Stingray
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

Solipsism. Her world revolves around what she can see. It works for her, but I fear her definition of hypergamy. It will not work for nearly as many women as she hopes it will.

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  Stingray

Read her 10 Reasons for Beta post and then read her commentary on the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey.

The irony writes itself.

jadoescher
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

Rollo,

Can you link to Susan’s commentary on 50 Shades of Grey?

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  Stingray

I’d love to read Suzy’s response to this:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/03/30/the-reason-beta-males-pedestalize-women/

Stingray
Stingray
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

She would likely not believe it, as not only do girls not tell betas about their exploits, they also don’t tell older women who are trying to get them to see the virtues of a beta. All women know that they should be attracted to these beta traits. Should never did any thing for anyone.

A beta can be the most virtuous man in the world, but he will never been seen by a woman until he can dominate her. Again, the fact that people think these need to be mutually exclusive is very irritating.

Good Luck Chuck
Good Luck Chuck
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

Hypergamy doesn’t care about “should”.

King A (Matthew King)
9 years ago
Reply to  Rollo Tomassi

Already banned, two comments and gone. Wow is that twat sensitive. I suppose the young ladies must be sheltered from every slight deviation of her fairy-tale orthodoxy. Either that or she feels any criticism of the beta male is a direct insult to her “man.”

What a shame, women need guidance even more than men these days. Stingray? Warm up your throwing arm. QB1 just threw her fifth pick.

Matt

Stingray
Stingray
9 years ago

To comment there or to start my own? I’ll get banned just as quickly as you. I had so many comments running through my head and all I read were the list of ten things, not the post itself. I was going to argue, then didn’t see the point. The thing is, the men she is attracted to are alpha (meh, for the most part). She just absolutely refuses to call them that as all alphas are cads in her book. She absolutely won’t call a man who is dominant with those traits she listed an alpha. There are too… Read more »

YOHAMI
9 years ago
Reply to  Stingray

Start your own. Just save your best comments and repost them. Works for me.

King A (Matthew King)
9 years ago
Reply to  Stingray

I meant start your own. And it’s only a half-hearted suggestion. You aren’t masculine, the naked self-assertion typical of bloggery is not in your nature, and I like you that way. Yohami has good advice for a compromise position. Repost what you’ve already written, comment on what’s around you (like that recital anecdote you recounted in another post), and see what kind of audience/commentary you draw, what conversation you facilitate/inspire. That aged hag has quite a following despite her gross errors of assumption. You might not get as many visitors, but those you get will be dedicated. You are not… Read more »

Stingray
Stingray
9 years ago
Reply to  Stingray

I ‘m seriously considering it. Thank you, both.

Deep Dish
Deep Dish
9 years ago

Hypergamy does care if you’re a psychopath.

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  Deep Dish

Or an incarcerated murder.

Fred Rotten
Fred Rotten
9 years ago

From the look of things, apparently hypergamy doesn’t seem to care when it gets fat.

Au naturale
Au naturale
9 years ago
Reply to  Fred Rotten

The expectations of American obese women should be a sign of the end times in and of itself

walawala
walawala
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care that you made her a birthday card and gift-wrapped a photo of you too at Disneyland together….

Cream
Cream
9 years ago

As a European living in the States, I have found out that hypergamy is different and more brutal in the USA. I was just dumped by my hot american ex girlfriend. Her reason? I was too sweet to her. I’m used to European girls, with whom you can be sweet AND alpha at the same time and it works. With american girls if you’re sweet they discard how alpha you are, it doesn’t matter. I believe this is a self esteem issue on their part. They don’t internally feel like they deserve to be treated well, thus if you do… Read more »

Simon Corso
Simon Corso
9 years ago
Reply to  Cream

Bingo.

The quickest way to lose their interest is to show or tell them how much you care.

On the plus side , it’s a great way to get rid of them when they get too clingy.

theprivateman
9 years ago

Hypergamy has a pet. It’s a hamster.

gregg
gregg
9 years ago

great post. Hypergamy – aka woman does not care. Of course, body does not care about the soul. Woman as the ultimate sexual being does not care about abstract values, values of the soul – justice, morals, gratitude, etc.

Good Luck Chuck
Good Luck Chuck
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care how much you thought of her, the relationship, loyalty and commitment.

Good Luck Chuck
Good Luck Chuck
9 years ago

The best defense for rampant hypergamy is a good offense. Discrete infidelity. A woman who is constantly on edge has neither the time nor the desire to be a duplicitous whore.

driveallnight
driveallnight
9 years ago

Agreed. My gf knows the score, so she mate-guards like mad.

A tired hamster is a happy hamster.

necorochi
necorochi
9 years ago

Hypergamy dosn’t care how big your **** is.

AlphaWhiskey
AlphaWhiskey
9 years ago
Reply to  necorochi

Ehhhh, disagreed. A lot of girls won’t admit it in polite company, but they love knowing their man is packing.

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  necorochi

Funny that the first school yard insult even mature women will resort too is “I bet he’s just got a little dick” whenever they disagree with any guy talking about women in any critical fashion. Actually I think women are very concerned with the size of a guy’s schlong. They may avoid public admissions of it when asked, yet privately, amongst themselves, they’ll shamelessly go into detail about their current men’s cocks. And they’re not even all that secretive about it when they’re in a group setting. In fact, this is really hypergamy in action. The public message to men… Read more »

PS
PS
9 years ago

Agreed, Rollo, there is something uncanny about women’s stance on the penis size issue. It’s like the whole topic scares them, because of what it may reveal about their own psychology. (And also because it may disturb their hamstering re: why their current man is the best in all possible worlds.)

tom
tom
9 years ago

brilliant as just truth can be… reality mocks itself hahaha

Atl Man
Atl Man
9 years ago

Rollo, you should do a whole post on what women “say” they want in polite company and what they really want when it comes to real time action. How they LOVE if their guy is packing is just one gold nugget of a mother load of it’s not what she says she likes but what she actually likes evidenced by her actions. Hypergamy doesn’t care what she says. Hypergamy cares what she does.

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9 years ago

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bell
bell
9 years ago

You know, and male sexuality doesn’t give a rip about many of those things either … she pigs out and makes herself ugly to you, none of those much matter. Mind you, most men will tolerate graceful aging, but that’s not the point.

Question: what if you are on the other side of hypergamy? I.e.: her husband has betaized, she wants something attractive to her and she’s finding that in you.

Do we friend this hypergamy or run from it?

Gorbachev
Gorbachev
9 years ago

No one is as cruel as individuals from a group of young girls.

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Michael Singer
9 years ago

Hypergamy is very, very stupid….

Underdog
Underdog
9 years ago

First rule of hypergamy: you do NOT talk about hypergamy

Michael Singer
9 years ago

Lol…Here is are the death blows.
– Hypergamy has a expiration date
– Who ever commits hypergamy will have hypergamy occur to them ( law of reaping and sowing).

Its a great lesson to learn, my only regret is not knowing about it sooner.

Rollo Tomassi
9 years ago
Reply to  Michael Singer

Actually, hypergamy, as a psychological construct, lasts a lifetime for women. Even the 50+ Cougar crowd will self-convince that “they’ve still got it” in an effort to pacify their hypergamic impulse.

While there’s no expiration date for hypergamy itself, there is most definitely an expiration date for a woman’s capacity to capitalize and optimize hypergamy.

The One Reason
The One Reason
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t even care what it is about at all. The term and phenomenon can be seen generally as a woman’s tendency to ditch someone in order to gain the next “best deal” available, be it sexual, social or financial. Reminds me of that young chick at work who was put under my mentorship a year ago as a newcomer. She was outgoing and rather actively ignored especially by other women at or under 10 years her senior so I got mainly to be the one that she was in contact with daily. She tried to get me flirting with… Read more »

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about truth. Or justice.

And hypergamy doesn’t care about White Knights, it just uses and discards them.

Mark
Mark
9 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about feminism.

Raza Dell
Raza Dell
9 years ago

Holy shit, this makes my red pill boner hard. Not the reality of hypergamy, but the awareness of it.

And of course, hypergamy doesn’t give two bits of a shit about the red pill, blue pill, purple pill, or The pill

PurePlayer
PurePlayer
9 years ago

on the other note, alpha male is waiting to get dumped, just got free pussy for awhile, no investment anyway and was cheating on the side while she assumed he was exclusive. lesson one: always pretend exclusivity if necessary, but never do it no matter what..

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Stuff
Stuff
8 years ago

Hypergamy ceases to exist when people stop shaming sluts. When they are shamed, they are less likely to say “yes” when propositioned, making it difficult for men to get laid just by asking. Men, on the other hand, have no such consequences and are more likely to say “yes” when a woman propositions them, making it easy for women to get laid just by asking. When women are shamed for being sluts, they try not to act slutty, but when they do, they make up for it by doing it with an extremely attractive man. Men are likely to say… Read more »

jbamai
8 years ago

Reblogged this on JustBeAManAboutit – How to "Just Be A Man About it" in a Post Feminist World and commented:
Great post I missed from Rollo…it woukd behoove you gentlemen to take heed to these wise words.

Odin2
Odin2
8 years ago

Guys this situation is just as bad for females then it is for men.. Think about it.. if a Female is younger say 23-25 masters degree plus, taller 5’7 or so, good looking, plus comes from a rich family.. Then she will need to find a Rich guy with equal education that is at least the same height as her when she wears high heels.. 5’9 and at least average looking not fat.. If she is so lucky to find this guy, this guy will now he is rare and if she messes up 1 once there will be 50… Read more »

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8 years ago

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silvereyes
silvereyes
8 years ago

Hypergamy works for me. I focus only on my looks and money, never on my partner. I just check if I can have them. If they’re not very interested, I work on my looks and money and check in a year or so and usually then it works better. For example I had this guy and he was a lil bit too cute for me and I had no proper job. Now I did bunch of surgeries and gym and diet, I moved up from being weak 7 to being 8-8.5 and I have a house and a nice car… Read more »

MackDamage
8 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care she use to juggle dicks like a circus act and fuck 6 ways until Sunday, and that you are the “Simp” that took her in and forgave her. Once her family finds out Hypergamy doesn’t care!!

Johnny Guitar
Johnny Guitar
8 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you love her.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about being your soulmate.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about your sacrifice.
Hypergamy doesn’t give a goddamn about you unless you can make her vagina tingle.

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8 years ago

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Hero
Hero
8 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care how hurt you are.

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monster221
monster221
8 years ago

Come on guys, look at the bright side. the cup is half full here. if hypergamy doesnt care about all these things then that means that you dont really have to do ANY of them. sure a lot oof you find it difficult to adapt to the reality, start acting like pompous pricks and all that. but these couple of things are a lot easier and less stressful to do than all the shit you used to do. the hard part isnt being confident or arrogant or telling a woman to suck or go home. the hard part is accepting… Read more »

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Scott
Scott
8 years ago

How in the hell am I 6 months from my 40th birthday and this is the first I’ve heard about this!?! Holy dog shit! It all makes sense now! So does the argument I had with my girlfriend yesterday about her wanting “more” when she didn’t even define what the hell “more” meant!

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8 years ago

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8 years ago

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casaanova
casaanova
8 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care whether you live or die.

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konoron
8 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about her either.

3rd Millenium Men
8 years ago

Love it Rollo. Still as relevant as ever.

Rob
Rob
8 years ago

someone wrote “Hypergamy doesn’t care if you fool around on her”, I’m not too sure about that, I think a man fooling around/cheating on his woman/wife/gf has an effect on hypergamy – I think it somehow communicates higher status on the man’s part, that’s why so many women stay with their husbands that cheat on them several times instead of leaving them to find another more faithful husband – if Hypergamy is essentially the pursuit of a higher value male, a cheating husband is communicating a form of higher value to his wife

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8 years ago

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Danny W
Danny W
8 years ago

And if you’re an Alpha, you won’t care about losing her, which will make her more likely to try to come back.

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8 years ago

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Carlos Rivera
Carlos Rivera
8 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care that you are responsible for ALL of Western Civilization’s technological advancements. Smart guys are categorized as Beta. “Alphas” don’t feel the pain of loneliness that inspires them to overcome their resentment of continuous rejection for simply BEING authentically GOOD. Beta’s cannot help but be good, and tend to care for OTHER men! A species that is reproducing itself to extinction must DIE!

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Mr.C
Mr.C
8 years ago

Hypergamy no longer cares because the consequences are minimal. Hypergamy has been unleashed and released by its enablers; feminism, capitalism and all those that stand to benefit from societies that are unquestioning, bewlidered and consumption driven with populations that are kept in check by cryptofascist kleptocracies posing as democratic governments.

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8 years ago

[…] My friend Rob never made that connection and lived (and still lives) by what an adolescent social skill set and his feminized conditioning had taught him. Rob was enraged about the infidelity, but he took Kim back, they went to the ubiquitous marriage counseling, and attempted the typical negotiations of Kim’s genuine desire for Rob. Rob was still playing by a rule set he believed Kim should recognize and should appreciate (i.e. Relational Equity fallacy), but after 3 kids and “missing out on her 20′s”, Kim’s Hypergamy didn’t care. […]

Aremo
Aremo
7 years ago

Hypergamy doesn’t care about civilization or history. Hypergamy doesn’t care about keeping the world above a state of tiny warring villages, hypergamy should be violently repressed with real penalties for those who attempt to practice it. Too bad for civilization that it is now a “right” whose influence will bring about a new dark age. Too bad…

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Flump
Flump
7 years ago

so what does hypergamy care about?

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CV
CV
7 years ago

Hypergamy is seen 90+% in men while “upgrading” their wives; and only <10% in women for "upgrading" their men. Yet it gets called out disproportionately as a thing women do…

Geese and ganders. Geese and ganders.

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