Hypergamy doesn’t care,..

Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a Father you are to your kids.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how you rearranged your college majors and career choice in life to better accommodate her.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how inspired or fulfilled you feel as a stay-at-home Dad.

Hypergamy doesn’t care that you moved across 4 states to be closer to your LDR.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how ‘supportive’ you’ve always been of her decisions or if you identify as a ‘male feminist’.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about the sincerity of your religious convictions or aspirations of high purpose.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about those words you said at your wedding.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how you funded her going back to college to find a more rewarding career.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a guy you are for adopting the children she had with other men.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your divine and forgiving nature in excusing her “youthful indiscretions.”

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your magnanimity in assuming responsibility for her student loans, and credit card debt after you’re married.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if “he was your best friend.”

Hypergamy doesn’t care about the coffee in bed you bring her or how great a cook you are.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about all those chick flicks you sat through with her and claimed to like.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how well you do your part of the household chores.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how much her family or friends like you.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you think you’re a “Good” guy or about how convincing your argument is for your sense of honor.

Hypergamy doesn’t care whether the children are biologically yours or not.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if “she was drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another,..”

Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you “never saw it coming.”


Add your own, I’m sure there’s more,..


  1. Hypergamy is one cold, mean, heartless bitch..

    .. and this needs to be shouted from the mountaintops !

  2. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’ve never heard of hypergamy.

    Hypergamy doesn’t care if you don’t understand what hypergamy is.

    Hypergamy doesn’t care that you hate hypergamy.

  3. On the other side, if you’re alpha enough:

    Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re broke
    Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re ugly
    Hypergamy doesn’t care if you lost your job
    Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re in prison
    Hypergamy doesn’t care how many women you slept with
    Hypergamy doesn’t care if you abuse her

    As long as she can look up to you, and you’re the best she’s ever had (or the best she can hope to get), her hypergamy will forgive anything.

  4. Actuallly, hypergamy does care about many of those things–the sorrowfully beta ones. It hates them. If you want to be on the right side of hypergamy, take that list of things, identify the ones that reek of betastink and don’t fucking do them.

  5. Hypergamy doesn’t care that you work your butt off to facilitate her leisured reality in a home of her choosing…

  6. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you win the nobel peace prize, cure cancer, and put an end world hunger.

  7. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re twice, triple, or in some rare cases, even quadruple her age.

  8. So the best solution as far as I can figure it is to be fully aware of the hypergamy and counter-game it upon recognition; every once in awhile instilling the dread and generating the tingles. And NEVER stop gaming her, even if you get married.

    And of course keep the 16 commandments of poon in the forefront. (I’m a pretty big believer in those. They radically changed the way females responded to me as soon as I put them into practice… especially ‘never be afraid to lose her.’)

    Of course no one knows the future, and the woman can go sideways at any moment. But if you’re aware of the beast, know game and recognize the inconstant nature of women, nothing should come as much of a surprise, even when she goes off the deep end. Cut losses and move one… always another girl on the girl tree, etc.

    Is that about accurate, Rollo?

  9. Hypergamy doesn’t care how good you look on paper.

    Game away, fellas of all colors, incomes, and looks

  10. Hypergamy doesn’t care about consequences.

    Hypergamy doesn’t care about cause and effect.

    Hypergamy doesn’t care about yesterday, only about today and tomorrow.

  11. Sounds pretty brutal doesn’t it?

    I get a lot of shit from certain critics who think all I’m about is nihilism and constant paranoid vigilance, but it’s really just about being informed and understanding the environment men are really in.

    Living with a better understanding of hypergamy and the landscape of the SMP doesn’t require a Man to sell his romantic soul or morph into an emotionless drone barking at shadows and suspicions.

    That’s what the absolutists will tell you, but it’s my opinion that it benefits a man’s efforts in his passions, his art, his physical and mental well being, to better understand the conditions he finds himself in. It can help him to either live in those conditions more harmoniously, or it can provide him with a more complete understanding of the intricacies of things he hopes to change.

  12. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you earn half her income and are 5 year her subordinate.
    (my first puppy eye look) ;).

  13. Hypergamy doesn´t care about your effort, it cares only about the results.

    Hypergamy doesn´t care if you got it by hard work or appropriation.

    Hypergamy doesn´t care if your muscles were grown on steroids.

    Hypergamy doesn´t care if your 6h non-stop wild sex is due use of medicines.

    Hypergamy doesn´t care if you don´t agree with Machiavelli: the end justifies the means.

    Hypergamy doesn´t care if your male transcendental moral is offended by female pragmatic moral.

    Hypergamy cares about the size of you penis.

    “Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are.”
    Disagree totally! These are sexy personality traits.

  14. I really don’t think it sounds brutal at all, just realistic. I for one appreciate that realistic brutality and heartily salute what you continue to do. For after all, ‘hypergamy doesn’t give a shit if you think it’s brutal.’

    I’m 42 and currently in an LTR with a very feminine 29 y/o. In my past beta days I doubt that it would have lasted very long, but adhering to game has made all the difference. From the start the frame has been mine, to the point where she’s given up her job to follow me and has gleefully submitted to a more experienced, settled man. For all the femz, you lost one, as ‘submit’ was her word, not mine. And she has done so, in actions as well as words. Not what she says, but what she does, eh?

    In the end, even after reading and rehabilitating on sites like yours, Roissy’s and Vox’, like a club, it hit me that all I’m doing is consciously replicating (through game principles) what my very alpha father did with my mother. And they’re still going strong, 45 or so years later. I’m not pessimistic at all. Now that I realize what he was doing, it doesn’t seem so daunting. Sure everything can change in an instant, but internalizing the game has made me unafraid. And that’s straight from the 16 commandments of poon… ‘never be afraid to let her go.’ And I’m good with that.

  15. I’m watching hypergamy unfold a 10 year marriage with 2 kids involved with some friends of mine.

    She met some guy at a party, danced and felt some “connection” with this guy that has now brought her to the conclusion that she was “never in love” with her husband and shouldn’t have ever married him.

    She’s “unfulfilled”, feels there is a better relationship out there for her, “deserves more”, plus has a laundry list a mile long of complaints about her husband.

    He’s a decent guy, a good father, works full time, helps around the house.

    And he’s been totally blindsided by this and is rightly now outraged and incredulous about what’s happening to him and his family. And she’s about to sail off into her fantasy of finding a “better man”.

  16. Hypergamy doesn’t care that you ultimately have the last laugh, when princess hits the wall, and your balls deep in a 19 year old.

  17. Soldiers…fight fire w/ fire. Become hypergamic yourselves. Give ’em a taste of their own medicine.

  18. mmm yeah. Lets only bang highly accomplished women who have looks money fame dominance and attitude and are into non strings sex. Maybe we can all bang the same girl. That will teach them.

  19. Number one is spot on but the last one’s wrong.

    Hypergamy only cares that it feels good *right* *now*.

  20. *cough*

    1. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re more highly evolved.
    2. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you play well with others.
    3. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you are more likely to be creative, artsy and funny.
    4. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re capable of emotional connection.
    5. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re nurturing and caring.
    6. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re much less likely to cheat.
    7. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re far more likely to marry and stay married.
    8. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you want to be a dad and will be good at it.
    9. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re healthier.
    10. Hypergamy doesn’t care if you’re not a sociopathic narcissist.

  21. Charitably, I’ll say you misunderstood me, and are not simply dim. I was agreeing with Rollo. To make it as clear as possible: There are good, logical reasons men are bitter. Hypergamy doesn’t care.

  22. Preach it and keep preaching it until the last feminist dies.

    But forget the reforming-chump choir — they’re perceptive enough to pick up on the hints and to see the game magic at work. They don’t need to be told that many times. (Do they?) The illusion becomes forever obvious once the illusionist reveals his secret. We see the mirrors and the wire and the diversionary tactics.

    Rather, tell your daughters about the clusterfuck that roils inside them, until they believe it and seek refuge in the only possible remedy: the male will.

    Women appear to be savage and less disciplined than us only because we’ve indulged their instinct for a century, and worse, constructed an entire ideology for the sole purpose of justifying that one-sided indulgence — while demonizing plain evidence, common sense, and even slight dissent to the outer bounds of polite society.

    Women can tame the hypergamous beast, but not in this rank, century-old climate. They will have to be pressured. Luckily, they like to be pressured, and they are built to be forced.

    If you think this dystopian ruins of a culture is wonderful for pick up, you’re not wrong, but you’re missing the point. It can only last so long until nature corrects itself. Party on, bros, but know you’re partying on a bulging volcano. We know how this movie ends.


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  24. Can women decide not to act on their hypergamy? As a male, I can easily identify my polygamous instincts but, in the scenario I decided to go for an exclusive LTR, I could also decide not to take any action on them. I’ve got the feeling that women lack this ability and are simply always after the bigger better deal. If LTR Game is aimed to feed and keep the hypergamy monster satisfied, doesn’t it make us men sort of “slaves”, in an inferior position? Should I put Game into practice to became the best man I can be or to just calm my partner’s hypergamy?

    I guess hypergamy doesn’t care about my insights on hypergamy itself.

  25. johnno, your polygamous instincts are kept well in check by both society (or culture) and the law regardless of your decisions. However, a woman’s hypergamous instincts are currently not at all restrained by either, and are in fact celebrated.

  26. @johnno

    1 woman, 10 women, or 1000 women. You might feel special having just one woman. Or you could feel unfulfilled after 1000. Like you say, its your decision. A la Candide, there will be lots of people along the way to hinder 1000 notches.

  27. Hypergamy cares if you become richer, stronger and more independent than her upgrade…

  28. Hypergamy doesn’t care about anything except getting what it wants… So use it to get what you want, and you will have an unending supply of p*ssy…

  29. I think it’s important to realize that, despite the harsh realities of life, having a positive outlook will more often work in one’s favor than not. The trick is to be a realistic optimist.

  30. Hypergamy doesn’t care that Aunt Susan wants you to date a beta male. http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2012/05/16/hookinguprealities/10-reasons-to-date-a-beta-male/
    The part of the article on treating Alpha Male Syndrome was particularly infuriating, especially since this company specializes in it. It struck me because yesterday one of my colleagues was going on and on about how women are better managers, do better in school, and excel on management tests.

  31. I can happily report that this September I’ll celebrate anniversary #28 with Mr. HUS, who fits this description to a T.

    So essentially this list is just an essay in self-validation. Shoot the arrow, paint the target around it,..bullseye!
    Ah Giggles, making necessity a virtue is a full time job isn’t it?

    Well, ok, I’ll play along; I’ll be celebrating 16 years with Mrs. Tomassi in July and by Susie’s redefinition of Beta traits as Alpha traits, I’m reasonably sure I’d lean much further into Alpha territory. Looks like I’m incontrovertible proof that Alphas make better husbands,…now, where’s my bow and arrows?

  32. Matt, you and I don’t see eye to eye on some aspects of Game, but we probably agree on more than you’re aware of.

    That said, I have to applaud your effort on HUS, well done. Aunt Sue will simply ban you, but I respect you for trying.

  33. Out of curiosity, how many of those 10 traits on Susan’s post do you posses? I would guess quite a few. This idea that an alpha has to be an asshole is very irritating.

  34. For a 55 y.o. woman, she sure goes to a lot of pains seeking affirmation about the great guy she married 28 years ago.

    Smells an awful lot like,…hypergamy.

  35. Hypergamy is the instinct of a woman to trade up whenever possible and that is decidedly future-oriented.

  36. Solipsism. Her world revolves around what she can see. It works for her, but I fear her definition of hypergamy. It will not work for nearly as many women as she hopes it will.

  37. From the look of things, apparently hypergamy doesn’t seem to care when it gets fat.

  38. Hypergamy doesn’t care that you made her a birthday card and gift-wrapped a photo of you too at Disneyland together….

  39. As a European living in the States, I have found out that hypergamy is different and more brutal in the USA.

    I was just dumped by my hot american ex girlfriend. Her reason? I was too sweet to her. I’m used to European girls, with whom you can be sweet AND alpha at the same time and it works.

    With american girls if you’re sweet they discard how alpha you are, it doesn’t matter. I believe this is a self esteem issue on their part. They don’t internally feel like they deserve to be treated well, thus if you do treat them well they assume you have lower value.

  40. She would likely not believe it, as not only do girls not tell betas about their exploits, they also don’t tell older women who are trying to get them to see the virtues of a beta. All women know that they should be attracted to these beta traits. Should never did any thing for anyone.

    A beta can be the most virtuous man in the world, but he will never been seen by a woman until he can dominate her. Again, the fact that people think these need to be mutually exclusive is very irritating.

  41. “Women appear to be savage and less disciplined than us only because we’ve indulged their instinct for a century, and worse, constructed an entire ideology for the sole purpose of justifying that one-sided indulgence — while demonizing plain evidence, common sense, and even slight dissent to the outer bounds of polite society.”

    Nailed it. Women are as feral as we permit them to be.

    I voice a similar idea in a series of comments some time ago in an epic Roissy thread:

    “So all you have is these clueless young women, their useless mothers, and a society that has shielded them from 99 percent of consequences of their actions and has attempted to forbid public scorn of their decisionmaking. They don’t have dignity because they were never taught it, and they weren’t taught it because we tried to make so they wouldn’t need it.”


  42. The expectations of American obese women should be a sign of the end times in and of itself

  43. very naive up to the point of blindness. Women CAN NOT tame their instincts. They ARE their instincts. There is nothíong differnet in their body to be able to tame it. Their whole body is a sex organ. Woman – body is not able to rule body – woman. Soul could rule body, or body could rule soul.

    WE must tame their instincts. We must create rules and punish their disobedience. We muts rule and direct them. Soul has to rule body, not the other way.

    Nature has never corrected anything my friend. Religion, philosophy, morals – thing that are going against nature (hyperagmy, polygamy) created civilization. The very civilizaction is contra natural law. Civilization used to be structured to keep women in check. Now they are at the mercy of their emotions and baser instincts. That is all.

  44. great post. Hypergamy – aka woman does not care. Of course, body does not care about the soul. Woman as the ultimate sexual being does not care about abstract values, values of the soul – justice, morals, gratitude, etc.

  45. Hypergamy doesn’t care how much you thought of her, the relationship, loyalty and commitment.

  46. The best defense for rampant hypergamy is a good offense. Discrete infidelity. A woman who is constantly on edge has neither the time nor the desire to be a duplicitous whore.

  47. I was under the impression Hooking Up Smart was generally on our side with respect to the nature of the sexual marketplace, but translating it into useful advice for young women. As I say in my comment above, those women are the ones being left out of the new “dark” wisdom of game, and that’s not good for anyone in the long haul.

    I didn’t realize she was, incredibly, attempting to defend the righteousness of the beta male. That is so much worse than simply denying the dynamic altogether like some feminist ideologue. She is actively dangerous to the very girls she thinks she’s protecting. It borders on conspiracy, like a headmistress of an orphanage ostensibly rescuing little girls from the street — only to pimp them out the backdoor. She is grooming them to be victims to the first alpha they meet.

    Getting banned is a feather in my cap, as far as I’m concerned. I already get that treatment from a couple of pussified sites. I appreciate your indulgence despite our disagreements; it’s rare.

    I will try to earn my Boy Scout Badge of Banning in record time over there. If she maintains my interest, that is. I foresee boredom being a bigger factor in my disassociation with that site than her intolerance. You poke and prod and see what capacity there is for real discussion, and then, in the absence of positive evidence, you have to move on. If she doesn’t adjust her fundamental misunderstanding of the term “beta male” quickly, there’s no point in beating a dead HUS.


  48. Right. We are at the all-you-can-eat seafood buffet for alphas.

    Men who are men should be conflicted about this development, and not only because its eventual and inevitable correction will involve massive social upheaval. We should be able to imagine our daughters and sisters (and mothers) being thrown to the wolves, disrespected, and raped.

    It is imperative to offer sanctuary to our sisters who have consciously stepped away from the cock carousel, to maintain a safe place for them in return for their (devoutly desired) submission. Rock the feminist establishment out with your cock out until they are made to see the error of their ways, but with terms of their unconditional surrender always in the offing.

    There is no reason to keep the sexual renaissance of game from helping us to overcome the malignancy of feminism. The chaos is appealing to looters, but we are better than looters. We are righteous warriors bringing the culture back to sanity with our pork swords. The goal is a world without feminist harridans or supplicating beta males, a world of monitored hypergamy and sanctioned male dominance (rather than the virtual and contingent “relationship” dependent on a girl’s self-enforced purity[!]), a world of rites of passage and youthful wild-oat sowing, a world of clear paternal hierarchy and freedom for those men who can maintain it. In short, the realignment of truth to power.


  49. WE must tame their instincts. We must create rules and punish their disobedience. We must rule and direct them.

    In other words: “… seek refuge in the only possible remedy: the male will.”

    There is the castle of civilization with high walls and deep moats. And everything outside of that is the state of nature. Of course the savage jungle doesn’t correct any civilizational lapses directly, except by killing off the weak and deviant. Rather, the state of nature provides a reminder of the harsh alternative outside the vigilance of the castle walls. In that way, reminding women of “the horror, the horror” that lives out there (and in them) is a way to inspire them to contributing to the project of their correction.

    Can they do it alone? Of course not. Can women build civilization? It’s not their bailiwick. But their lack of cooperation can sabotage our efforts to quarantine the disease of their unchecked hypergamy. Feminism — and our submission to it — is their officially sanctioned refusal to cooperate in the containment. So we have to let them taste the state of nature to let them know what fate we on the walls are keeping them safe from. Women minus civilization equals a life of their perpetual rape.


  50. It doesn’t sound brutal to you, but it does to me. Let me be honest. First though I want to write that I know there’s obviously more nuance and I do keep reminding myself of that.

    Hypergamy as in being a leader and superiority in some form is reasonable. But is it that aspergery to draw thoughts that the solution to climbing the ladder is not becoming dominant/better over her or become the best of the men with typical measurements, but just becoming a sociopathic violent douchebag? One can only read so much “hypergamy doesn’t care about the birthday card and a photo at disneyland” with “hypergamy cares about serial killers and sociopaths” without delving into depression. I don’t get how this feelings benefits myself or anyone else.

    Keeping the romantic soul does involve some assumption that a romantic, considerate act is appreciated on some level somewhere. Meanwhile beating up a girl shouldn’t achieve that, at least not on most girls.

  51. Read simon99’s post below.

    The hamster rewites the past and reimagines the future as necessary for the present.

  52. It may help to remember that romance is purely a male construct. Hypergamy does not care about romance – romantic men do. If you want to keep your romantic soul alive, you should either channel it into creativity, or make yourself so alpha in other ways that you can be romantic to women and still get away with it.

  53. make yourself so alpha in other ways that you can be romantic to women and still get away with it.

    This. Women appreciate romance, from a dominant man. It makes us feel quite special actually. Being chosen by an alpha to be romanced is a powerful thing. Just remember, the romance is secondary, even tertiary. Dominance will always be first.

    Of course, choosing the girl who you find worthy of showing romance is a large part of the battle.

  54. Bingo.

    The quickest way to lose their interest is to show or tell them how much you care.

    On the plus side , it’s a great way to get rid of them when they get too clingy.

  55. Agreed. My gf knows the score, so she mate-guards like mad.

    A tired hamster is a happy hamster.

  56. And all of those feminist believe that a woman who chooses to live as I do have it so bad. If it weren’t so incredibly depressing it would be hysterical.

  57. Ehhhh, disagreed. A lot of girls won’t admit it in polite company, but they love knowing their man is packing.

  58. This is an overlooked TRUTH. Knowing this – being deeply aware of this could be very transformative. At first men are feeling depressed – like something has been taken from them. The they digest it. Some merely drop off – MGTOW. There is a part of these men that gave up not form the reason that they are not able to find woman. They are simply disgusted with woman, they are seing their very nature in work every day and tehy do not want to touch such primitive creature. I know a couple of theese.

    Some men continue in interaction but no more give a shit about well being of women. They use women for their own purposes – just for sex and comapny when they feel it and ditch them when they are not their B plus. They – themselves embraced the coldness and utilitarian nature of hypergamy. Other simply use this informations for being able to hold their marriages, or being more succesful with chicks, etc.

    Use the weapons of your enemy against him. Of course, somewhere in the middle of the battle – family and trust slowly…die.

  59. matt, you are an inteligent man. But there is nothing like “lack of cooperation in sustaining the civilization” from women. Civilization is not their thing. Deep down they are NOT willing to have it. They are made for the “horror, horror” and they are naturaly gravitating towards it. They will willingly share couple of alphas, while serving them in a harem a let betas dies for their food a territory. THIS is their very nature.

    This is the reason why all the religions – systems of rules designed to preserve cililizations, ordered them to obey their man and do not give them ANY rights. Our elders know that they are UNABLE of cooperation of their own choosing. That they must be FORCED to cooperate. Forced not by informations, by reminding or other shit. Forced by either BRUTAL power or emotions – FEAR. Maybe we are talking about the same but my message is simple – women WILL NOT cooperate to sustain civilization given half the chance of not having to. They are willing the wild nature to rule – they themsleves are nothing BUT a wild nature. They will not “see it”, they must be forced to DO it.

  60. Funny that the first school yard insult even mature women will resort too is “I bet he’s just got a little dick” whenever they disagree with any guy talking about women in any critical fashion.

    Actually I think women are very concerned with the size of a guy’s schlong. They may avoid public admissions of it when asked, yet privately, amongst themselves, they’ll shamelessly go into detail about their current men’s cocks. And they’re not even all that secretive about it when they’re in a group setting.

    In fact, this is really hypergamy in action. The public message to men is “it’s what he does with it that’s important” or the shaming tactic “men are so preoccupied with their dicks, women don’t want a huge cock, it hurts, blah, blah,..” but the private message amongst the sisterhood is the polar opposite.

    I may have to do a post about this.

  61. Agreed, Rollo, there is something uncanny about women’s stance on the penis size issue. It’s like the whole topic scares them, because of what it may reveal about their own psychology. (And also because it may disturb their hamstering re: why their current man is the best in all possible worlds.)

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