I’m still very busy at a Vegas tradeshow at the moment, but briefly, I’d like to take this opportunity to personally embrace all the newly disenfranchised and disillusioned commenters who were once regulars at the Hooking Up Beta echo chamber.


I understand that you may have once believed that Aunt Giggles was sincere in her assertions of wanting to come to some gender neutral middle ground as a mission statement for the catharsis that passes for her blog. I understand your frustration, but always know that the comment threads here at RM will never be edited or censored of conflicting viewpoints and insight (only spam). You see, personally, I believe that a real understanding of gender issues can only happen in an open forum of debate. A true marketplace of ideas needs all voices to determine the strength and validity of those ideas.

Again, welcome, and please feel free to browse the categories and archive.

Published by Rollo Tomassi

Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

60 comments on “Welcome

  1. I really wanted to like that site, but the answers and posts provided always left me cold and with more questions. It all reminded me of the teachers, coaches, parents, salesmen, mangers, et al, who would rather be your friend than truly help you by preparing you for the tasks and challenges ahead of you.

  2. You need to do a post specifically about women’s debating style.

    How does it go? Get frustrated then angry then resort to name calling and shaming then refuse to participate in the discussion (or BAN someone, if you have that power).

    It’s quite comical, really.

    1. Let’s not forget that when arguing with women her anecdotes trump all facts, statistics, averages, medians, modes, ranges, standard deviations, confidence intervals…..

      If she, or one of her friends, don’t think/act like that well then it’s you who is wrong because she hasn’t seen/heard of it before

    2. Hmmm…I saw the comment about Rollo and Yohami as “woman-haters” and “toxic” and then in the next breath/sentence accusing them of using invective. Something ironic about that.

      I’ll admit I’m somewhat surprised at the direction she has gone in in terms of the substance and tone, and the actions to really come down hard with censoring and banning commenters. My sense is there is some frustration and she very much sees Rollo as a sort of Emperor type figure corrupting decent men to “Dark” game. Its become a battle of “good” vs “evil” and any nuance/subtlety is lost.

      In any case, it is irrelevant. Inquisitive guys searching out all perspectives will find their way here, and can evaluate different views for themself.

      1. Rollo is hardly ‘dark’. He just happens to be an advocate of male awareness. The reaction you’re seeing by Susan serves as an excellence case study in what he’s explained before:

        “Nothing is more threatening yet simultaneously attractive to a woman than a man who is aware of his own value to women.”

        The Threat

        As Rollo continues to expose many faces of hypergamy, Roissy/Heartiste’s Maxim #77 is also proven to be true:

        “Maxim #77: Women will screech louder the closer your words get to damaging or exposing vulnerabilities in their sexual market value.”


        Here, ‘sexual market value’ could be replaced with ‘hypergamy’. Interestingly enough, one tenet of hypergamy seems to be maximizing women’s sexual market value across the board. The problem with this is that if everyone has higher value, then no one has higher value.

        That has got to suck.

        It’s a damn fine time to be a guy. The lot may be against us but we get to see the truth for what it is. Solipsism is a helluva of a drug. Blue pill & fake steak be damned.

        Pass the mush. At least I know it’s real.

        1. i don’t know if its a great time to be a man…there is a long struggle ahead to give our sons a more balanced reality.

          there are some juicy sluts to cum on though!

  3. A little harsh, aren’t we? HUS just trying to convice the young females that it’s hopeless to count on a LTR by chasing alphas. A much taller order for her than your job to convice betas to swallow the red pill. A lot of her commentators are over the top. Except for my pal Munson. But you two are not that far apart. She recognizes alpha cues for what they are: the LTR road to nowhere. You suggest guys avoid marriage until their 30’s. Sound advice. I actually enjoy the back and forth. She did overreact to your Roissy riff about Dread. That would scare the shit out of any secure 50’s type female.

    1. HUS just trying to convice the young females that it’s hopeless to count on a LTR by chasing alphas.

      That’s begging the question. One of the points of contention is that Aunt Wiggles is wallowing in ulterior motives.

    2. Senior Beta

      She recognizes alpha cues for what they are: the LTR road to nowhere.

      Not exactly. One of the guiding principles of HUS is that women can be trained to recognize which guys are ‘cads’ and which guys are ‘dads’ so they can build relationships with the ‘dads’. My understanding is that this runs 180 degrees counter to Game principles for two reasons. The first reason is that the core principle of game is imitating alpha cues well enough to generate attraction. Secondly, it runs counter to the ‘ladder’ principle of relationship selection. She pretty much rejects any attempt to explain that a woman’s definition of a ‘cad’ is just an alpha that shows interest but won’t commit to her on her timetable, as well as any evidence that women in the current SMP are not attracted to the typical ‘dad’ values of dependability, future time orientation, and long term prospects.

  4. It’s completely understandable though, why expect a woman to debate like a man?

    What baffles me is that Vox Day has hitched his wagon with HUS, he’s a pretty sharp dude and it doesn’t make sense.

    1. FWIW, he posted a comment on HUS (I can’t find it now) where he kind of explained his position vis a vis HUS and more “hardcore red-pill” type gender dynamic sites.

  5. Women have a built-in bug (err, feature!): Autoshame (I’m tempted to add Autoflirt as well). When you call them properly out on their bullshit its amazing the backpedaling that can suddenly happen. Though sometimes a great deal of anger/hate can appear as well.

    My personal red-pill started with Roissy/Chateau, then The Spearhead, and now here. All three have different slants and often the comments sections are pure gold.

    There is still a long way to go.

  6. To be fair, even though I’ve read it a long time I stopped commenting a long time ago.

    I wasn’t expecting to be banned for calling her out on her ridiculous behaviour though. That would be an unacceptable act of cowardice for a man, there’s some hamster action happening there for a feminist like Susan to do that.

    She obviously “feels” like she is under siege from the brutal forces of misogyny (ie, men, not the manginas that appear to be comfortable in that environment.)

  7. Women simply and trust just cannot help themselves.

    It’s funny, if pathetic.

  8. I’ve thrown a few comments on her site but I really objected to her approving link of that graph of study-time vs romance that supposedly showed that nose-in-the-book nerds are eventually going to clean up in the relationship department. As if. I’m probably not strident enough to get banned so I just left the thread after throwing in my comments. I checked back later and found the typical 500+ comment digression away from the topic of the post had occured.

    I had some fairly high hopes for the site when I first started reading. I know I’m out of the target demographic (my college years ended before some of the kids posting there were born at this point) but I’m single now and relationships are relationships. As far as I can tell HUS has become an exercise in defining the limits of how long a carousel ride a college age HB7-9 can take and still be able to snag an upper alpha when she wants to have a ‘real relationship’.

  9. Eventually the beta guys at HUS will all come to the realisation that making a heartfelt appeal for women’s sympathy for their situation is a fruitless pursuit. That blog serves a very useful purpose in that prolonged exposure to it will kill any notion of “NAWALT” in the beta’s head. The truth is sometimes best learned straight from the horse’s mouth.

  10. What baffles me is that Vox Day has hitched his wagon with HUS, he’s a pretty sharp dude and it doesn’t make sense.

    I don’t see how I’ve hitched my wagon with anyone. First, Susan and I get along well personally, which has nothing to do with whether we agree on anything or not. Second, how can anyone who knows anything about Game expect a happily married mother’s perspective to precisely match that of a single thirty-something player? Third, Susan is intelligent and usually has something interesting to say.

    I also think it’s unrealistic to expect Susan to ride herd on her site the way Roissy and I do. She’s not a ruthless and socio-sexually dominant male, so of course there isn’t going to be the same level of intellectually playing rough permitted that takes place on other Game-related blogs. Her blog, her rules. How is that a problem? It would be boring if all of these blogs were identical.

    None of us have this whole thing right, not Rollo, not me, and not even Roissy. And not Susan either. But at the end of the day, Susan is the only female blogger attempting to help young women take a more sane and sensible approach to sex and romance, and that is something every male Game blogger should be able to respect, even if one doesn’t agree with all of her theories and/or methods.

    1. The problem is that her advice will probably do more harm than good to betas. Her blog is a platform for Game 2.0. Some older MRAs have warned that as Game becomes more mainstream, women and white knights will start to turn it against men in order to fulfill the feminine imperative. They were apparently right.

  11. Perhaps you should defend her some more, VD.

    It’s my opinion that HUS is becoming less and less useful to anyone as it slides farther and farther back towards the blue pill.

    Ruthlessly purging anyone who disagrees with your clueless female perspective just because you can’t take the intellectual heat makes for a pretty useless blog.

    Yohami was toxic? Really? Bullshit. I’ve seen the posts she labelled toxic. She just didn’t understand what he was saying, and got pissed about it.

  12. Embrace accepted. Although I should point out that I never actually bought the idea of HUS being some sort of ’gender-neutral middle ground’, gynocentrism and female solipsism being what it is. I have this pet theory that any public venue NOT specifically created as anti-gynocentric and anti-feminist will inexorably and inevitably become a quasi-feminist gynocentric echo chamber, and HUS seems to be the perfect example.

  13. The latest gem of wisdom from Aunt Sue in the comment section of “Is the End of Hypergamy real?”:

    “I agree with you about soft harems. Not gonna happen. That prediction is also a form of the desire to see women pay, based on an inflated view of the LTR appeal of alpha males.”

    A “desire to see women pay”? What kind of paranoid nonsense is that? How exactly do women “pay” when they join a soft harem as opposed to say, marry some beta chump or become a lonely spinster with cats? The mind boggles.

    1. ‘A “desire to see women pay”? What kind of paranoid nonsense is that? How exactly do women “pay” when they join a soft harem as opposed to say, marry some beta chump or become a lonely spinster with cats? The mind boggles.’

      I think it means women shouldn’t be accountable for their own choices (I.E. same old same old just amped to 11)

  14. The problem is that her advice will probably do more harm than good to betas

    That could be. Of course, isn’t one of the core principles of Game for men to not take female advice about women? HUS is primarily for the young women, not the young betas. Any beta dumb enough to take advice for young women over Roissy et al merits his subsequent experiences.

    Ruthlessly purging anyone who disagrees with your clueless female perspective just because you can’t take the intellectual heat makes for a pretty useless blog.

    That’s an overstatement. Susan and I don’t agree on everything and she’s never seen any need to purge me or a number of other men with opinions that diverge from hers. Perhaps it would help to think of HUS as being more like a tea party than a frat party. You can’t put your feet on the table and you have to drink your beer out of a glass. If you can’t deal with the etiquette, you’ll be asked to leave. No big deal. There are no shortage of other parties out there.

    Yohami was toxic? Really? Bullshit. I’ve seen the posts she labelled toxic. She just didn’t understand what he was saying, and got pissed about it.

    I personally consider Yohami to be a work of art and a gift to Mankind. Let’s bring this dream home!

    1. Yohami’s not posting at HUS is a real loss there. He is one of a kind and illuminates anyplace he posts. Yohami pushed Susan and other commenters hard and didn’t give any quarter. He really made me reconsider a lot of things.

      1. I’d agree….Yohami is brilliant as he is analytical in an allegorical and storytelling type of manner. In a previous life, I imagine he was an Indian chieftain.

        The problem with being that perceptive is sometimes you can hit on things people absolutely do not want you to expose or discuss.

    2. @Jesus

      I’m worried about putting up my 50 Shades post. I feel like it’s going to send you to the dark side forever, and destroy your wonderful relationship.

      Speaking of which, Rollo is waiting breathlessly for you over at his place, like a virgin on her wedding night.

      It’s him or me, Jesus. You choose an asshole alpha, we’re done

      VD, you really think she has any credibility left? She’s an 8 year old, throwing rocks into the boy’s playground.

      1. Rollo, she did leave a little winky smiley thing at the end of that post. I don’t think she would ban him there if he came here and started posting in his usual manner.

        Why do the two of you continue to read each others blog? I understand that posters are coming here and telling you what’s happening. It’s understandable that you would react to that. It’s part of your blog. But as far as going over there at this point, why do it?

        1. Why do it? Hamsterwatching, I suppose, which is similar to birdwatching. At least that’s why I occasionally go there. And to have fun reading Aunt Sue’s and her minions’ ridiculous attacks on the Manosphere.

        2. Believe me, I don’t make a point of reading her any more, but I do get PMs from guys I know on various forums about her inability to “get over me” in damn near every comment thread on her blog.

          I should also add that I don’t make a point of picking her blog posts apart as part of my blog fodder. She’s the one who’s got a problem with me.

          1. It occurs to me that I should have given you a heads up out of respect, but I asked her the same question (my apologies). She reads you when you link to her and she said she would be delighted if you “killed” the links as she doesn’t want traffic from here. Seems like neither of you want attention from each other, so why not end it? If she keeps it up and then you respond or vice versa it won’t end. If it makes for good blog information, so be it.

          2. her inability to “get over me”

            She’s the one who’s got a problem with me.

            She reads you when you link to her


      2. That Jesus guy seems like an odd character to me. He used to come across as a typical white-knighting, irritating beta smartass who snarkily attacks other men for their ‘misogynistic’ ways. Once I commented on HUS that it’s psychologically advantageous for men to have men-only places where they can be free from women’s never-ending bullshit. His response was to call me clinically insane and a probable victim of abuse. He obviously felt compelled to defend woman’s ‘honor’, you see. I mean, come on…we know this type of betas, don’t we?

        Now Aunt Sue and her minions are kicking him around in the comment section of “How to get a Boyfriend” for, you guessed it, his supposedly misogynistic comments. We all know this is the usual fate of beta males who publicly voice their politically incorrect opinion on women.

        It’s the same old, same old. A beta male can be as feminist and gynocentric and possible, as respectful and anti-misogynist as possible, he will never earn women’s respect and sympathy.

    3. Vox, I would tend to agree, but she knows she’s getting traffic from your Alpha site. That’s how I found her, IIRC. At least one warning would be in order given the likely composition of at least part of her audience.

      She didn’t give me one, and then she deleted my attempts to apologize and clarify.

      That’s pretty weak and pathetic.

      No big loss, though. She seems to be all about “how to keep being the same old whore while trying to keep some modicum of dignity” anyway. It’s weak advice so far as I can tell.

      But it gives Dark Game players arrows for their quivers to read female thoughts so I guess she’s not completely useless. (Oh to be a Game-versed amoral bastard…)

  15. Aunt Sue bans commenters for the flimsiest of reasons. Once a commenter said that MRAs want to see all women suffer a bit before pushing back the pendulum to its normal state. I pointed out that there are no MRAs that I know of that express this view, that I, for one, don’t want women to suffer either, that making women suffer would be pointless anyway because they wouldn’t understand WHY they’re suffering and it’d give more ammunition to feminists and white knights. Aunt Sue labeled all this ‘toxic shit’ and banned me. True story.

    1. If all Sue did was ban commenters I would agree that she’s censoring based on what she feels is offensive to her readers, but that’s not what she does. She selectively moderates comments from users she ‘bans’ in order to affirm her own narrative.

      For instance if I or Yohami or Dalrock made a comment that she agreed with or thought she could in someway challenge, she’d allow that comment to post in order to patronizingly agree, or to offer up her take on how NAWALT. But post something she categorically disagrees with or has no immediate rebuttal for, and you’ll never read that comment.

      She then takes it a step further and actively maligns the viewpoints and characters of her critics or opponents with straw men tactics and false premises, and then ensures that they don’t have an opportunity to refute any of it on her forum.

      I had to set Neecy straight for exactly this reason; she read what Aunt Sue’s sanitized perspective was about ‘my take’ on the dread topic and based all of her presumption on Sue’s fabricated narrative. Do a simple Chrome search for ‘Rollo’ in any comment thread at HUS since the beginning of 2012. I suppose I should be flattered, but she can’t stop using my name, even in topics I had no dog in the race with.

  16. There’s a game/relationship advice site written by a woman? And women and white knights deny and suppress dissenting opinions? Shocked, shocked. I will now delete this information so that it does not take up useless brain storage.

    When it comes to game, as with anything, I’m an empiricist from Missouri. Show Me.

  17. VD, you really think she has any credibility left?

    Of course. Ideas stand or fall on their own. I have no doubt plenty of people would love to be able to dismiss the ideas I present due to my own personal idiosyncracies.

    1. Yes, but your idiosyncracies don’t include plugging your ears while insisting on your own veracity when anyone has a counterpoint to your own perspective.

    2. Vox, that reads like an evasion. The question was about SW’s personal credibility in light of her behavior. Your answer is about the validity of her ideas.

    3. Ignoring anything SW says because she has demonstrated a pattern of disingenousness is the same kind of practical approach as assuming that an atheist is lying until you’ve verified his statement.

  18. Apparently you Red Pill swallowers are all branded misogynists now by Aunt Giggles.

    What have you done????

  19. I tried to get into that site a year or so back. Wanted to see if there really could be a valid female opinion about this stuff that wasn’t blinded by solipsism.

    Turns out there isn’t.

    I was immediately called a troll by Auntie for posting only a mild rebuttal of some inane point or another. I tried another comment and was again called out by Auntie.

    I read through the comments and was sickened by the prevalence of white knights and beta suckups. I saw that Aunt Sue’s “wisdom” was only the same old hamster spinnings with a bit of clever repackaging and rebranding. If you ban all the dissenters and controversial voices your blog becomes incredibly banal and worthless. Just like Jezebel.

    Another female PC-driven censor who bans anything her hamster spits up. Nothing new here. Boring. Time to go back to the Manosphere.

    1. “I saw that Aunt Sue’s “wisdom” was only the same old hamster spinnings with a bit of clever repackaging and rebranding.”


      and that is what makes it so dangerous.

      i feel strongly about this issue cause i used to be the biggest beta alive, and it is a pathetic way to live. no male should have to live this way, and i would hate for a young dude to think he has discovered real game when instead he has discovered crap.

      HUS = pink pill

      rollo = red pill

  20. HIlarity continues. Aunt Sue has just banned the word ‘female-centric’ on her blog.

  21. I’ve been gone for two and a half weeks from the ‘Sphere. Was there more ridiculous drama kicked of by Susan seeing illusions of attacks, making them personal, and escalating? Anything that brings more men here instead of there, I’m in favor of.

    Either way, I found my way into the ‘Sphere with HUS and am glad I didn’t stay limited to it. No room for an real growth for men over there in that minefield of Feminist Twister. Spin the wheel, put your left foot on game real quickly, your right hand on moxie, your left on femininity, and dear lord don’t fall into the ‘dark game’ or you’re out!

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