War Brides

Reader Nas had an interesting question regarding female duplicity:

“Evolution has largely selected-for human females with a capacity to form psychological schemas that preserve an ego-investment that would otherwise afflict them with debilitating anxiety, guilt, and the stresses that result from being continuously, consciously aware of their own behavioral incongruities. Evolution selects-for solipsistic women who are blissfully unaware of their solipsism.”

Can you please expand on this Rollo? I find it fascinating.

OK, baton down the hatches, we’re heading for dangerous waters. What I’m getting at here is suggesting that women’s propensity for solipsism is a psychologically evolved mechanism. In other words, it helped women to cope with the harsh realities of the past, to develop a more focused sense of self-interest. To really grasp this you need to understand women’s brain function and chemistry. I’m not going to get too detailed in this, but suffice it to say numerous studies show that a female brain is hard-wired for emotional response and communication on a more complex level than men. I think this is pretty much an established point for my readers, but if you disagree, well that’s going to have be the topic of another post.

Given the harsh realities that women had to endure since the paleolithic era, it served them better to psychologically evolve a sense of self that was more resilient to the brutal changes she could expect be subjected to. Consider the emotional investment a woman needs to put into mothering a child that could be taken away or killed at a moment’s notice. Anxiety, fear, guilt, insecurity are all very debilitating emotions, however it’s women’s innate psychology that makes them more durable to these stresses. Statistically, men have far greater difficulty in coping with psychological trauma (think PTSD) than women. Why should that be?

On the face of it you may think that men’s better ability to rationally remove themselves from the emotional would make them better at coping with psychological trauma, but the reverse is actually the case. Women seem to have a better ability to accept emotional sacrifice and move on, either ignoring those stresses or blocking them entirely from their conscious awareness. Women possessing a more pronounced empathic capacity undoubtedly served our species in nurturing young and understanding tribal social dynamics, however it was also a liability with regards to a hostile change in her environment. Stockholm Syndrome is far more pronounced in female captives (the story of Jaycee Duguard comes to mind), why should that be? Because women’s peripheral environment dictated the need to develop psychological mechanisms to help them survive. It was the women who could make that emotional disconnect when the circumstances necessitated it who survived and lived to breed when their tribe was decimated by a superior force. This is also known as the War Bride dynamic; women develop an empathy with their conquerors by necessity.

Men are the disposable sex, women, the preserved sex. Men would simply die in favor of a superior aggressor, but women would be reserved for breeding. So it served a feminine imperative to evolve an ability to cut former emotional ties more readily (in favor of her new captor) and focus on a more self-important psychology – solipsism.

Now, here is where I’ll step off the diving board and into the theoretical. It’s my purview that a lot of what men would complain are duplicitous acts of indifference towards them are really rooted in this innate feminine solipsism. That’s a bold statement, I realize, but I’d argue that what men take for inconsiderate indifference in a break up or in ruthless shit tests is really a woman tapping into this innate, self-preserving solipsism. Combine hypergamy with the chronically hostile environments of the past and you end up with a modern day feminine solipsism. Add to this an acculturated sense of female entitlement, social conventions that excuse this ‘duplicity’, and a constant misdirection of intent by women themselves, and you come to where we are now. As if that weren’t enough, throw in the element of hypergamy and the countdown in terms of fertility and long term provisioning that a woman must deal with before hitting the imminent Wall, and now you have a fuller picture of the conditions and stresses that necessitate this solipsistic nature.

Ever wonder why it is a woman can ‘get over you’ so quickly after a break up from a relationship you’d thought was rock solid for so long? Ever wonder why she returns to the abusive boyfriend she hopes will change for her? Look no further than feminine solipsism.

After reading all of this I can understand if anyone thinks this is a very nihilistic observation. Let me be clear, this dynamic is real by order of degrees for individual women. A woman’s conditions may be such that she’s never needed to tap into this reserve. Also, we are dealing with subconscious elements of her personality here, so it would come as no surprise that feminine solipsism wouldn’t be cognitive for most women – thus offensive and denied. I’m not asking that anyone accept this idea as gospel, just that the dots do connect very predictably.

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unbowed
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unbowed

I’ve often thought that women simply don’t understand loyalty to the group, tribe, ethnicity, family, etc. that they’re from. Their only ‘loyalty’ is to whoever is in power. True loyalty has to be tested, you have to remain loyal even when it is inconvenient.
As a man, I want to believe that there is value in being loyal. But I can see how the reverse is psychologically healthy. It’s difficult to simultaneously ‘move on’ and be loyal. Women are better able to kill their past.

(r)Evoluzione
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(r)Evoluzione

You nailed it here. It appears that any deeply ingrained trait present across broad and diverse societies will show demonstrably strong genetic & evolutionary foundations. If indeed these traits are adaptations, it’s a maladaptive response from men to view them in a negative light. As it’s been said, “It’s a feature, not a bug.” I would extend this view to the tendency to seek spiritual experiences in both men and women. It does seem that women seek to spiritual experiences, and certainly participate much more in new agey “chick crack” sort of stuff much more frequently than men. This is… Read more »

Ollie
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Ollie

Do you know what this strategy reminds me of? The strategy of herd animals, which seem to be remarkably unaffected by their repeated losses to predation. It is an extremely effective strategy, but also a sort of developmental dead end. Let me elaborate. Attachment is the mother of vengeance and territoriality, and because of this, is the true mother of progress. If you look at nature, you will notice that the minority of animals that have a sense of territory also tend to be most advanced within their given ecosystem. The reason for this is that the attachment instinct (whether… Read more »

Ollie
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Ollie

*…..which render men both considerably more likely [to be aggressors] and considerably more effective at aggression and combat.

Good Luck Chuck
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Good Luck Chuck

“I’ve often thought that women simply don’t understand loyalty to the group, tribe, ethnicity, family, etc. that they’re from. Their only ‘loyalty’ is to whoever is in power.” Loyalty as we know it is not in a woman’s best interests. Being the physically weaker sex necessitates social and moral fluidity. In other words, women are shady and duplicitous creatures because the have to be. Before I understood psychology this used to eat at me. Especially the fact that a woman can turn off her emotions toward you like a bathroom faucet. I believed in “love” until I began to realize… Read more »

Nas
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Nas

Very helpful, it adds well to Rollo’s points. Thank you.

Question for me though, how do we apply this knowledge on an individual level? I suppose this propensity for attachment is what causes us men to be so devastated after a divorce or break up even if it doesn’t bring about financial ruin. Should we keep our emotional investment in our female mates at a minimum? Don’t fully love? It would seem that females somewhat do this instinctively.

samseau
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samseau

You make a good case of why women should be ruled by force, Rollo.

poutchi
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poutchi

”This is also known as the War Bride dynamic; women develop an empathy with their conquerors by necessity.”

While reading this i thought about the women in conquered Europe by the Germans in WW2 that would sleep with the enemy.

flyfreshandyoung
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This is one of the greatest truths one can ever learn.

And, like other great truths, there is no going back after discovering it.

Ollie
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Rollo Tomassi
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Pretty much everyone who’s familiar with my writing over at SoSuave knows my policy on personalizing anything, but I feel like I’ve got to relate the story that brought me to this theory. In 2003 my my brrother-in-law hung himself from a tree. He and my wife’s sister been married 20 years at that point since he’d got her pregnant at 17 and married her at 18. He did ‘the right thing’ and they had another daughter about 6 years later. He wasn’t the greatest guy in the world, but he busted his ass constantly. He had to forego any… Read more »

Mike C
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Mike C

I suppose this propensity for attachment is what causes us men to be so devastated after a divorce or break up even if it doesn’t bring about financial ruin. Should we keep our emotional investment in our female mates at a minimum? Don’t fully love? It would seem that females somewhat do this instinctively. I hope you’ll tackle this one Rollo. Interested to get your thoughts on this question. I’ll likely be entering a second marriage in the not too distant future after the first one went up in flames and left me pretty devastated. Makes me wonder if it… Read more »

Arch
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Arch

I can’t dispute the theory here at all. It is very logical and there are far too many anecdotes that track nicely with it. One thing I think we are missing here though is that feminism in the Western world has excused women from the civilizing process of growing up under rules and morals like women of several generations ago. I believe what we are seeing is a failure of society to civilize women, to teach them to deny their base impulses, and that is why their base impulses have become rabidly apparent for anyone willing to look. In the… Read more »

MacAgent
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MacAgent

“Gentlemen, it doesn’t get easier, you have to get BETTER. Depending on her conditions, depending upon your own, hypergamy is the stalking butler in the shadows just waiting for you to slip. Every guy in divorce court has the same story, “I never saw it coming.” Could my wife do the same? Not if I stay on top of my Game. I’d like to think Mrs. Tomassi’s commitment to me is iron clad, but I’d be a fool to think it’s unconditional. In fact it’s just this knowledge that inspires me to keep my edge, personally, professionally, creatively, psychologically,..etc. I… Read more »

MacAgent
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MacAgent

Agreed. IMO, this is why men “oppressed” women for so long. Females need some type of external morality and ethics placed upon them, because they lack the ability to moderate themselves based on anything but their own emotions.

Ollie
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Ollie

First, I recommend channeling one’s sense of passion into something other than another human being (especially a woman). The Game bloggers refer to that misplaced attachment as Oneitis (One- as in “she’s the only one for me”, and -itis, as in sickness) and there are reasons they give hearty admonitions against it. Second, I believe that as men, we should acknowledge the tremendous generative/creative power inherent in our propensity for attachment. This is after all, the urge that forms the very foundation for intellectual evolution. It is your prerogative to harness it in a way that benefits both yourself and… Read more »

poutchi
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poutchi

Yes, not only in France but also in Belgium Holland and so on…
Even the famous Coco Channel had an affair with a German officer!

Y
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Thanks for sharing your experiences Rollo. It’s good to get the perspective from men further down the path.

The way I see it I’m in this for ‘life’. Like you said there can never be a time where you rest on your laurels. You always have to keep improving yourself and learning into your edge as David Deida says.

Nas
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Nas

“This was over the course of 8 years. Now she’s become hyper-religious, perhaps as a coping mechanism for what she’s done.” Wow! This is precisely is what is so fascinating to me. One part of me is morally repulsed but I must admit that I cannot help but marvel at this. They can just rationalize their actions and not feel any guilt?! Females can just avoid feeling these “bad feelings” because of their innate solipsism. I can’t do that. I wish I could. Like your brother-in-law, most of us men too would be concerned with “doing the right thing” or… Read more »

The Truth
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The Truth

I was born a beta but somehow instinctually knew about female solipsism and hypergamy. Now I am MGTOW and am ok. I have ups and downs but don’t need a woman to be ‘fulfilled’. There is no refuge outside of ones own self anyway.

jack
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jack

Since both men and women possess traits (both innate and learned) that are counter to a well-ordered society, I am going to say that your statement

“social conventions that excuse this ‘duplicity”

is probably one of the largest components of the effect.

I believe that social conventions develop to act as mitigating forces and “shock absorbers” for society.

When a convention is very swiftly inverted – feminism and judgment free sexual liberation – the effect will be catastrophic. And it has been.

Atl Man
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Atl Man

A+ post, Rollo. Hope you will tackle and do a post on how to deal with a breakup and how to conduct yourself as a MAN in the aftermath. I recently dealt with a breakup and I will say with ease that I couldn’t have coasted through it without you, Roissy Heartiste, VKempire, Roosh, and Tariq Nasheed. Long story short, I have effectively and efficiently made her get back into MY orbit after she exercised herself from it. No calls, no emails, no asking mutual friends ‘how she was doing’, one package sent with something she left at my place,… Read more »

DJDamage
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DJDamage

Great blog and post Rollo, keep up the good work!

T&A Man
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T&A Man

I’ve lurked here for a while and this is my first post. Rollo, I place you as the pinnacle of the Game writers. Both in depth of content and the train of thought I am pursuing. This one is outstanding, and this article will prompt me to read your legacy work at SoSuave now. There is bit that NOW strikes me like a hammer. I am transitioning into more sound game, but I clearly recognise my beta ways of supplications. But during arguments, my wife would retort “You make me feel guilty”. I truely didn’t get it, my internal response… Read more »

YOHAMI
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Brutal and true. Thanks for the personal story too.

Johnycomelately
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Johnycomelately

“While reading this i thought about the women in conquered Europe by the Germans in WW2 that would sleep with the enemy.”

You think that’s bad, what do you think the Aryan women were doing while their supermen husbands were on the Eastern Front?

My teenage Grandfather and his comrades were POWs during the war and were let out for extended periods on work assignments, during which time they’d bang German women! Some even married and stayed there after the war.

deti
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deti

Rollo: A chilling story. The last paragraph: True. Sobering, but true.

deti
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deti

It really seems to be true that women will ruthlessly pursue their own self interests, commitments be damned.

deti
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deti

“This is why you should never fully trust a woman and you should never allow yourself to become emotionally dependent. Your relationship is only as good as her perception of you at any given time. She doesn’t love you for “you”, she loves the feelings you give her and the things that you can provide for her.”

THIS. Brutal, but true. This, along with the realization that a wife has within her the capacity to cheat and probably would do so under the right circumstances, is one of the most difficult to assimilate truths I’ve ever read.

Deep Dish
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Deep Dish

I once read the book Quirkology by British psychologist Richard Wiseman. One interesting finding is how women are totally oblivious to attraction. They can’t tell which personal ads will be successful, whereas men are very good at spotting game. I figure it must be because women are the center of the universe. The solipsistic experience of being hit on doesn’t give them deep insight into what attracts men.

Brian
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Brian

I just made a comment at Chateau Heartiste that relates to this pretty well, though not as brutally as Rolo’s experience. One of the women I’m dating is a solid 8.5-9, and was a 9.5 or better when she was younger. If I prime things right, I can get her to be surprisingly honest at times. Last night, while she was in one of those “being honest to qualify herself” moments, I got this story: When she was in college, and for a little while after, she was dating both a model/bartender and an engineer. Both of them thought they… Read more »

Isaac Jordan
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Isaac Jordan

I usually lurk, but after reading this I just had to post. Absolutely brilliant stuff. I love the emphasis on evolutionary biology as it relates to female psychology. It’s easier to accept the hard facts of women’s true nature when there’s a logical explanation behind them.

just visiting
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just visiting

This leads to the question of whether a man should marry a woman who loves him more than he loves her. As a woman I have to ask, would men be satisfied with that? would it lead to abusive power games?

Rollo Tomassi
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Gracias.

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In southern Italy, where I am from, if a woman even tried this would be dead within a week. Unless she tried it with Berlusconi or a local mafioso, and even then she’d be exposed to his boss’s judgement of the affair should it be discovered. In fact, she’d perhaps face the most danger from other women, who, in parts of Napoli, will have shootouts in the street over their husbands. Sounds like a movie plot, but ’tis truly the way of things. Not Sicily by the way. There is a lot of construction in my part of the country,… Read more »

anon
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anon

I will not even contemplate why I made the typo, “kill myself”, LOL.

uh
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uh

You may want to incorporate the “tend and befriend” strategy of females as opposed to the more general fight or flight. It is basically the same as “War Bride” and Stockholm Syndrome. The appropriate research is available online.

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Columnist
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Columnist

All this means that if and when white men take charge, non-white women will flock around white men.

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Leap of a Beta
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Rollo, do know the names of any studies you’d recommend from the first half of this post? I’m trying to get a reading list together on how men and women evolved biologically and mentally into the current Roles we have today. Trying to break down where biological/evolutionary Influences in those patterns occur and how they interact with the crazy societal pressures and Influences we have today.

Leap of a Beta
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Thanks for any help with that you’re able to give. Loved the post and want to follow this kind of good thinking up myself.

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Bowman
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Very true. I’d like to add that we men also have those ancient survival protecting mechanisms deep inside of us. Manifestations can go from Nice Guy Syndrome (so alphas don’t kill me and mommy loves me) to Abusive Jerk (better smack everyone with a bat before they see my weakness). In order to “protect” us our mind creates an image of ourselves, which is false for it does not even dare to tackle our survival part of brain. We end up feeling incomplete, frustrated etc. and seek for a partner to fill the void. Which he or she can’t of… Read more »

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necorochi

Illuminating…

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Thank you for one of the most intelligent posts I’ve yet read on the “manosphere.” IMHO, maybe if the men who were left had spent more time affirming their wives and/or being not only the “boss,” but the true head of the household in a spiritual sense, they would still be with their wives. Billy Graham preached that the man set the tone for the marriage. if he treated his wife well and followed God’s plan, he would reap great rewards. I also appreciate the tone of (most of) the comments. They were intelligent and respectful, a far cry from… Read more »

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Reblogged this on oogenhand and commented:
And then stupid Anti-Semites think Jewish women will prefer sterilization over clitoridectomy…

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OK, the psychological explanation makes sense. Genghis Khan invades your country, and kills everyone. If you are pretty, you survive. You have two choices: being constantly angry because all your family has been brutally killed, or adapting. If you adapt, you might not save the genes of your husband, but you might save the genes of both your father and mother. If you don’t adapt, you will probably die, or your children wouldn’t survive. I suppose it takes a very strong heart to have your family and culture destroyed, to be enslaved, to be raped, to bear children of the… Read more »

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Opus
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That is a chilling story – so sad, and yet one of my clients – years ago – on her latest divorce was telling me how her former husband had threatened to kill himself if she left him. She left and he topped himself. She exhibited not so much as one ounce of remorse or pity. Her only disappointment was that as she had hit the wall pretty hard I found her physically repulsive, and thus found I would not jump through hoops for her. This resulted in what I now recognise as an attempt at shaming (belittling me as… Read more »

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The first time I came face-to-face with this truth was in the military, and my Basic Training instructor’s description of “Dear John” letters. I was in complete disbelief and appauled that women were notorious for dumping their husbands/boyfriends serving over seas, to the point where there was actually a name for it — “Dear John”! This was in direct contradiction to the fairy-tale love concepts that have been fed to me over the years… and yet, here it was.

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Scholosis
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I do have one problem (among many) with men hailing ‘patriarchal’ cultures some kind of a heaven-state. It isn’t. I am from India, and I have lived in England for my undergrad. Men are fools, they think they have power; but since women are denied power and access to resources, they have covert ways of getting it. That is the essence of Matriarchy. All so-called patriarchal cultures are essentially matriarchal. The amount of arse-licking, pandering, begging for sex, supplication that goes around here (and a lot of so-called ‘Alpha’ men do it) gives me nausea. I was a liberal, now… Read more »

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Tom
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Tom

Maira you are right in agreeing with Rollo about the evolutionary reason for female behavior: survival. Also in noting that there are always exceptions to the Rule: your friend talking about her 10 year old divorce and men also acting solipsistically. But while I’m sure there are some women whose minds and therefore behavior are more reason-based, they are most definitely the major exception to the Rule. Also, you need to come to terms with the fact that Marriage is just another form of prostitution as Rollo’s story of his sister-in-law and Hypergamy itself basically prove. For most women marriage… Read more »

Ann Withaplan
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Ann Withaplan

I would argue that solipsism is a HUMAN response in times of high stress – a mechanism for coping. However, I suppose that it is only natural for heartbroken men to ascribe solipsism to their former partners. So many men are enamoured with evolutionary theory – it is just so damn neat and cosy and it provides all the answers, right? RIGHT??? But the fact is most women happen to lust after other men – and when reciprocated by the other man that lust tends to kill the love for her current sexual partner. Again, this – sadly – is… Read more »

Ann Withaplan
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Ann Withaplan

In answer to Tom: damn right marriage is a business. It always has been. You’ve never heard of dowry?! It is when fathers effectively sell their daughters to the highest bidder, and it was almost universal in the bad old days. I *would* scratch your eyes out but I generally don’t like the feel of vitreous fluid under my fingernails. To Scholosis: she was probably only ever being nice to you (you know, in a PLATONIC way) but I expect she’s learnt her lesson now! Get over yourself. Learn the difference between signs friendship and signs of lust. And another… Read more »

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Alex
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Alex

Married twenty years to same woman, children, built house, etc., then suicide without personal justice having been served? No way. Six shooter stuck up the cunt and trigger pulled repeatedly. Concrete mogul found swinging from a lamp post with nutsack in mouth. Go out with a bang, I say!

Tom
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Tom

“She doesn’t love you for “you”, she loves the feelings you give her and the things that you can provide for her.”

Bam. This should be taught to all Junior High School age boys. Why let them go through hell for 30 years before figuring it out? Girls get sex-education; boys should learn THAT.

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singh1699
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singh1699

Um during the 1947 partition of Punjab, thousands of women commit suicide to preserve their honor.

Going past Sikhs, 100,000s Of Rajput children and women burnt themselves. They would rather die horribly than be taken as slaves by homo sexual muslims, if the Rajput men lost in battle.

Our women are still loyal, despite western society saying men should be hairless. We don’t cut our hair, not all the world is the same.

It’s matriarchy that causes this; look to the prussians, hungarians, even Russians in villages from warrior tribes. They understand, honor and loyalty.

singh1699
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singh1699

Lol scho guy you’re from a matriarchy. Hindu india is created by Victorian thought.

And many men don’t beg the guys who do are losers. I’m from Khalistan very different story, while your men and women were being taken to be sold as slaves we raided at night and brought them home.

The problem with your nation culture is it has no identity.

It hasn’t had a chance to develop civilization but it will in time. It will go back to old kingdoms because the India today on the backs of the youth is not sustainable.

Dusk Rain
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Dusk Rain

“Ever wonder why she returns to the abusive boyfriend she hopes will change for her? Look no further than feminine solipsism.”
WIth solipsism and the female nature in mind, I’m trying to rationally understand how a woman thinks this going back to the abusive ex (or bad boy ex) would be a beneficial thing to her. But I can’t make sense of it.
Could you enlighten me on this?

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Kaos
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Kaos

This was very enlightening, although I have a question. I read the wiki page and i basically understood solipsism to mean the idea that you can’t really know anything exists past your own experiences. So as would relate to women, is this to say they are more detached from a given situation? I feel like I’m missing something fundamental about this term and how it relates to women.