Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a Father you are to your kids.
Hypergamy doesn’t care how you rearranged your college majors and career choice in life to better accommodate her.
Hypergamy doesn’t care how inspired or fulfilled you feel as a stay-at-home Dad.
Hypergamy doesn’t care that you moved across 4 states to be closer to your LDR.
Hypergamy doesn’t care how ‘supportive’ you’ve always been of her decisions or if you identify as a ‘male feminist’.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about the sincerity of your religious convictions or aspirations of high purpose.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about those words you said at your wedding.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about how you funded her going back to college to find a more rewarding career.
Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a guy you are for adopting the children she had with other men.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about your divine and forgiving nature in excusing her “youthful indiscretions.”
Hypergamy doesn’t care about your magnanimity in assuming responsibility for her student loans, and credit card debt after you’re married.
Hypergamy doesn’t care if “he was your best friend.”
Hypergamy doesn’t care about the coffee in bed you bring her or how great a cook you are.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about all those chick flicks you sat through with her and claimed to like.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about how well you do your part of the household chores.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about how much her family or friends like you.
Hypergamy doesn’t care if you think you’re a “Good” guy or about how convincing your argument is for your sense of honor.
Hypergamy doesn’t care whether the children are biologically yours or not.
Hypergamy doesn’t care if “she was drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another,..”
Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are.
Hypergamy doesn’t care if you “never saw it coming.”
Add your own, I’m sure there’s more,..
May 18th, 2012 at 3:51 pm
brilliant as just truth can be… reality mocks itself hahaha
May 18th, 2012 at 5:40 pm
Already banned, two comments and gone. Wow is that twat sensitive. I suppose the young ladies must be sheltered from every slight deviation of her fairy-tale orthodoxy. Either that or she feels any criticism of the beta male is a direct insult to her “man.”
What a shame, women need guidance even more than men these days. Stingray? Warm up your throwing arm. QB1 just threw her fifth pick.
Matt
May 18th, 2012 at 5:47 pm
To comment there or to start my own? I’ll get banned just as quickly as you. I had so many comments running through my head and all I read were the list of ten things, not the post itself. I was going to argue, then didn’t see the point.
The thing is, the men she is attracted to are alpha (meh, for the most part). She just absolutely refuses to call them that as all alphas are cads in her book. She absolutely won’t call a man who is dominant with those traits she listed an alpha. There are too few for her, so she won’t do it. Yet, when people go there and generalize women, she gets quite upset.
May 18th, 2012 at 5:50 pm
Start your own. Just save your best comments and repost them. Works for me.
May 19th, 2012 at 2:27 am
I meant start your own. And it’s only a half-hearted suggestion. You aren’t masculine, the naked self-assertion typical of bloggery is not in your nature, and I like you that way.
Yohami has good advice for a compromise position. Repost what you’ve already written, comment on what’s around you (like that recital anecdote you recounted in another post), and see what kind of audience/commentary you draw, what conversation you facilitate/inspire. That aged hag has quite a following despite her gross errors of assumption. You might not get as many visitors, but those you get will be dedicated.
You are not of her hopeless and condemned age; you are the vanguard of youth; elder enough to be authoritative among the generations coming up, young enough not to have been terminally corrupted by the depredations of the last century; and with a solid man behind you. (No thinly veiled mash notes to hubby-wubby forcing you to preposterously venerate beta wussitude.)
You don’t have to make broad sweeping points and turn them into polemics that harken back to first principles, the way the male game bloggers do. You just have to give certain observations a female stamp of approval (or disapproval) from your unique vantage point.
On the other hand, if you don’t have a fire in the belly, that’s okay too. Some girl’s site I stumbled across had a promising start but appears to have petered out. The field has been abandoned to outright haters like Feministing and hideous saboteurs like Susan Walsh. If your effort becomes a bother or a dud, let it fade away. But it might be a vehicle for good things, a credit to your sex at last, a sex that has plenty to answer for. Women like you need a place to gather and support yourselves (and us) in this twilight struggle.
And it might eventually turn into something you enjoy as much as commenting down here in the combox ghettoes. I’d be happy to casually help you edit or punch up your format. No expectation, no stress, little cost, no worries.
Matt
May 19th, 2012 at 2:58 am
Agreed, which is why I said, “[T]hey like to be pressured, and they are built to be forced.”
All of this bravada about women wanting “the horror, the horror” … no. In their fantasy romance novels, where kindness and ravishment co-exist, maybe. But one hour alone in the real Hobbesian “state of nature,” the hell on earth of her perpetual rape, and she’ll insist the granddaughters of her granddaughters’ granddaughters remember what their obedience purchases for them in protection. Our institutional memory has forgotten that win-win transaction.
No, not even one hour exposure is necessary for persuasion. Not even one minute. I suggest that the rumors of the whisper of “the horror” will suffice to make them parley through the slow negotiation of generational adjustment. The world is so far out of joint that women are volunteering to be alpha punching bags and pump & dump pin-cushions just to get a slight reconnection to femininity again. They are getting zero proper advice about their predicament. Feminism still makes their escape route controversial, bordering on illegal. It’s the last spiteful move of a dying and condemned movement.
… to the last I grapple with thee; from hell’s heart I stab at thee; for hate’s sake I spit my last breath at thee. …
Like I say elsewhere, the geriatric harridans are not the target market. They are so poisoned by the lifelong ideological IV-drip that their rehabilitation is impossible by the hand of man. Their daughters may not be saved either: having followed slut-mom’s slut advice, found themselves bludgeoned about the cock carousel too long to be redeemed. But their daughters’ daughters might yet learn a thing or two about their mothers’ mistakes, as they recall “the horror, the horror” with trembling voice, imparting to their beloved children the recently recovered ways to avoid damage and pain: soul game.
Matt
May 19th, 2012 at 12:12 pm
Rollo, you should do a whole post on what women “say” they want in polite company and what they really want when it comes to real time action. How they LOVE if their guy is packing is just one gold nugget of a mother load of it’s not what she says she likes but what she actually likes evidenced by her actions. Hypergamy doesn’t care what she says. Hypergamy cares what she does.
May 20th, 2012 at 7:43 am
I ‘m seriously considering it. Thank you, both.
May 21st, 2012 at 11:16 am
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May 21st, 2012 at 12:09 pm
No, hypergamy does care about this, but by then its too late.
Today’s hypergamy does not care, tomorrow’s does.
May 25th, 2012 at 11:48 am
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May 26th, 2012 at 10:09 pm
You know, and male sexuality doesn’t give a rip about many of those things either … she pigs out and makes herself ugly to you, none of those much matter. Mind you, most men will tolerate graceful aging, but that’s not the point.
Question: what if you are on the other side of hypergamy? I.e.: her husband has betaized, she wants something attractive to her and she’s finding that in you.
Do we friend this hypergamy or run from it?
May 28th, 2012 at 10:05 am
No one is as cruel as individuals from a group of young girls.
May 30th, 2012 at 10:59 am
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May 31st, 2012 at 1:17 am
Hypergamy is very, very stupid….
May 31st, 2012 at 9:01 am
First rule of hypergamy: you do NOT talk about hypergamy
May 31st, 2012 at 11:05 am
Lol…Here is are the death blows.
– Hypergamy has a expiration date
– Who ever commits hypergamy will have hypergamy occur to them ( law of reaping and sowing).
Its a great lesson to learn, my only regret is not knowing about it sooner.
May 31st, 2012 at 11:12 am
Actually, hypergamy, as a psychological construct, lasts a lifetime for women. Even the 50+ Cougar crowd will self-convince that “they’ve still got it” in an effort to pacify their hypergamic impulse.
While there’s no expiration date for hypergamy itself, there is most definitely an expiration date for a woman’s capacity to capitalize and optimize hypergamy.
May 31st, 2012 at 4:39 pm
Hypergamy doesn’t even care what it is about at all.
The term and phenomenon can be seen generally as a woman’s tendency to ditch someone in order to gain the next “best deal” available, be it sexual, social or financial.
Reminds me of that young chick at work who was put under my mentorship a year ago as a newcomer. She was outgoing and rather actively ignored especially by other women at or under 10 years her senior so I got mainly to be the one that she was in contact with daily. She tried to get me flirting with her, definitely in a dancing monkey/validating way, but I wasn’t going to go there especially as I knew from previous jobs that it would lead to a flood of jealousy and all that silly crap. Which of course didn’t stop some guys hating me nevertheless for having daily contact with this crumpet. Tough for them. Heh.
So, her being assigned to my project, I taught her patiently the ropes and despite her, hum, stupidity and questionable quality of work tried to keep the best appearances — because otherwise the white-knighters (including the firm owners) would have had a field day for me being too tough on that fragile creature.
After seven(!) months at the firm she finally made her breakthrough socially after the Xmas party (white-knighters finally had the courage to go after her) and hypergamous trading-up set in immediately. The culminating moment was one lunch break when her revenge-filled contemptuous attitude (for me originally having rejected her flirting attempts) fully exploded in her starting to shout over me to shut me up when I was trying to talk to another person at the table. For a couple of seconds I saw deep into her ugly narcissistic soul. At that moment I also knew she had some serious mental problems beneath that built nice-girl facade, a typical attention wh0re-class crazy bitch. Fully knowing that I would be vilified, I nevertheless shouted her down by unflusteringly continuing my questioning to the other person. She and her personal posse left the table, horrified by my “misogynism” of treating her like that. Later I gave her a piece of my mind about her conduct and proceeded to start keeping my distance.
The only thing worse than being hypergamed(tm) after having sex is being hypergamed after no sex at all and being forced by the employers to give one’s professional knowledge to the hypergamer and you can’t even make a total never-see-again breakup with her… Luckily I treated that c*nt after that in such a way that we were assigned into different projects. One of the owners actually later “confessed” (along with expressing disbelief about her being nothing more than an angelic perfection) that his concern was about the fear of bad publicity if she wasn’t “protected”.
Hypergamy doesn’t care if it has to manifest itself as a total crazy bitch shoutfest meltdown.
June 5th, 2012 at 4:59 pm
Hypergamy doesn’t care about truth. Or justice.
And hypergamy doesn’t care about White Knights, it just uses and discards them.
June 6th, 2012 at 5:44 am
Hypergamy doesn’t care about feminism.
June 28th, 2012 at 5:31 pm
Holy shit, this makes my red pill boner hard. Not the reality of hypergamy, but the awareness of it.
And of course, hypergamy doesn’t give two bits of a shit about the red pill, blue pill, purple pill, or The pill
July 11th, 2012 at 12:12 am
on the other note, alpha male is waiting to get dumped, just got free pussy for awhile, no investment anyway and was cheating on the side while she assumed he was exclusive. lesson one: always pretend exclusivity if necessary, but never do it no matter what..
August 8th, 2012 at 11:05 am
[…] Lost in the midst of all this we have 26 year old Edward Rob Pattinson experiencing his WTF? moment. While he’s ostensibly a good looking guy and a Contextual Alpha, the lesson to be learned here is one which may confuse red-pill noobs. Why the fuck would Stewart ‘cheat’ on a guy who’s adored and desired by millions of women? Because hypergamy doesn’t care. […]
August 10th, 2012 at 6:29 pm
Hypergamy ceases to exist when people stop shaming sluts.
When they are shamed, they are less likely to say “yes” when propositioned, making it difficult for men to get laid just by asking.
Men, on the other hand, have no such consequences and are more likely to say “yes” when a woman propositions them, making it easy for women to get laid just by asking.
When women are shamed for being sluts, they try not to act slutty, but when they do, they make up for it by doing it with an extremely attractive man.
Men are likely to say “yes” to these sluts, because the slut-shaming has made it more difficult for them to get laid, so they’ll take what they can get.
Stop slut-shaming, and you’ll stop hypergamy.
But you can’t both increase slut-shaming and decrease hypergamy.
Not unless people start getting married at the age of 14 again.
August 13th, 2012 at 4:03 am
Reblogged this on JustBeAManAboutit – How to "Just Be A Man About it" in a Post Feminist World and commented:
Great post I missed from Rollo…it woukd behoove you gentlemen to take heed to these wise words.
August 24th, 2012 at 5:54 am
Guys this situation is just as bad for females then it is for men.. Think about it.. if a Female is younger say 23-25 masters degree plus, taller 5’7 or so, good looking, plus comes from a rich family.. Then she will need to find a Rich guy with equal education that is at least the same height as her when she wears high heels.. 5’9 and at least average looking not fat.. If she is so lucky to find this guy, this guy will now he is rare and if she messes up 1 once there will be 50 other women 1 text away.. So pretty much 80% of females chasing 20% of the guys.. and most of these guys take advantage of this demand as women do Hypergamy.. in the end EVERYONE looses..
August 29th, 2012 at 2:13 pm
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September 5th, 2012 at 11:25 pm
Hypergamy works for me. I focus only on my looks and money, never on my partner. I just check if I can have them. If they’re not very interested, I work on my looks and money and check in a year or so and usually then it works better. For example I had this guy and he was a lil bit too cute for me and I had no proper job. Now I did bunch of surgeries and gym and diet, I moved up from being weak 7 to being 8-8.5 and I have a house and a nice car and all my things are taken care of and…. He is trying to date me seriously, so we talk and date and he introduced me to his mom and rest of family already.
I just wanted to see if me changing will work and it did, I still have a few things to do to go from 8 to 9 but I’m sure I can get there and I still will make sure to do better financially. I know another guy who wasn’t interested in me before (he is a model and a cute one), I like him a lot and I would like him to like me, so hopefully it will go through. We did a few dates before but even we clicked I saw my looks didn’t match his so it didn’t work out. Once I know even he likes me than I can be single knowing I am an attractive female :) and I can focus on other things in life.
September 6th, 2012 at 5:27 pm
Hypergamy doesn’t care she use to juggle dicks like a circus act and fuck 6 ways until Sunday, and that you are the “Simp” that took her in and forgave her. Once her family finds out Hypergamy doesn’t care!!
September 11th, 2012 at 9:04 pm
Hypergamy doesn’t care if you love her.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about being your soulmate.
Hypergamy doesn’t care about your sacrifice.
Hypergamy doesn’t give a goddamn about you unless you can make her vagina tingle.
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October 8th, 2012 at 11:20 am
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October 16th, 2012 at 3:08 am
Come on guys, look at the bright side. the cup is half full here.
if hypergamy doesnt care about all these things then that means that you dont really have to do ANY of them.
sure a lot oof you find it difficult to adapt to the reality, start acting like pompous pricks and all that. but these couple of things are a lot easier and less stressful to do than all the shit you used to do.
the hard part isnt being confident or arrogant or telling a woman to suck or go home.
the hard part is accepting that your mother was a liar.
October 16th, 2012 at 9:38 am
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October 31st, 2012 at 8:11 am
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November 12th, 2012 at 8:11 pm
How in the hell am I 6 months from my 40th birthday and this is the first I’ve heard about this!?! Holy dog shit! It all makes sense now! So does the argument I had with my girlfriend yesterday about her wanting “more” when she didn’t even define what the hell “more” meant!
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January 14th, 2013 at 12:48 pm
Hypergamy doesn’t care whether you live or die.
January 15th, 2013 at 2:03 pm
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January 19th, 2013 at 9:28 pm
Hypergamy doesn’t care about her either.
January 26th, 2013 at 9:47 am
Love it Rollo. Still as relevant as ever.
February 17th, 2013 at 10:29 pm
someone wrote “Hypergamy doesn’t care if you fool around on her”, I’m not too sure about that, I think a man fooling around/cheating on his woman/wife/gf has an effect on hypergamy – I think it somehow communicates higher status on the man’s part, that’s why so many women stay with their husbands that cheat on them several times instead of leaving them to find another more faithful husband – if Hypergamy is essentially the pursuit of a higher value male, a cheating husband is communicating a form of higher value to his wife
February 18th, 2013 at 2:55 pm
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March 18th, 2013 at 1:57 pm
And if you’re an Alpha, you won’t care about losing her, which will make her more likely to try to come back.
May 20th, 2013 at 2:00 pm
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May 23rd, 2013 at 1:27 pm
Hypergamy doesn’t care that you are responsible for ALL of Western Civilization’s technological advancements. Smart guys are categorized as Beta. “Alphas” don’t feel the pain of loneliness that inspires them to overcome their resentment of continuous rejection for simply BEING authentically GOOD. Beta’s cannot help but be good, and tend to care for OTHER men! A species that is reproducing itself to extinction must DIE!
June 23rd, 2013 at 10:11 am
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July 10th, 2013 at 2:35 am
Hypergamy no longer cares because the consequences are minimal. Hypergamy has been unleashed and released by its enablers; feminism, capitalism and all those that stand to benefit from societies that are unquestioning, bewlidered and consumption driven with populations that are kept in check by cryptofascist kleptocracies posing as democratic governments.
July 15th, 2013 at 4:38 am
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July 24th, 2013 at 12:36 am
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July 26th, 2013 at 12:30 pm
Hypergamy doesn’t care about civilization or history. Hypergamy doesn’t care about keeping the world above a state of tiny warring villages, hypergamy should be violently repressed with real penalties for those who attempt to practice it. Too bad for civilization that it is now a “right” whose influence will bring about a new dark age. Too bad…
July 27th, 2013 at 1:06 am
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September 2nd, 2013 at 4:26 pm
so what does hypergamy care about?
September 22nd, 2013 at 11:44 pm
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January 26th, 2014 at 10:27 am
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May 30th, 2014 at 1:36 am
Hypergamy is seen 90+% in men while “upgrading” their wives; and only <10% in women for "upgrading" their men. Yet it gets called out disproportionately as a thing women do…
Geese and ganders. Geese and ganders.
June 30th, 2014 at 11:37 pm
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July 2nd, 2014 at 9:44 pm
The men are not practicing hypergamy unless the men are marrying into a higher socioeconomic class. Websters dictionary defines hypergamy as: marriage into an equal or higher caste or social group. Typically trophy wife marriages involve a younger more sexually attractive female from a lower social class marrying a relatively less sexually attractive male of a higher social class. This is the most classic and blatant occurrence of hypergamy all of which is fundamentally nothing more than legal prostitution. CV”s comment “Hypergamy is seen 90+% in men while “upgrading” their wives…” makes absolutely no sense. The comment is extremely idiotic.
July 12th, 2014 at 4:19 pm
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August 14th, 2014 at 4:09 am
Hi Rollo. We would like thank you for this article and your others on Hypergamy. Especially for the poetic way in which you present “hypergamy doesn’t care”. We just created (and launched) a motion graphics Hollywood-style trailer and wish to thank you for the inspiration.
We attributed the inspiration to you and link back to this article.
A thousand thanks.
MGTOW.com
We attributed the inspiration to you and link back to this article.
A thousand thanks.
MGTOW.com
August 24th, 2014 at 9:05 pm
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September 28th, 2014 at 11:41 pm
Rollo – Hypergamy *does* care if you’re bitter so can be shunned after being identified as such.
October 25th, 2014 at 2:38 pm
As soon as guys finalize this in their heads, the better off they shall be!
November 10th, 2014 at 9:05 am
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December 18th, 2014 at 5:30 am
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January 2nd, 2015 at 8:40 am
Hypergamy doesn’t care if you visited her in prison.
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