Field Reports

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For the past three years of The Rational Male there’s been a consistent presence in the comment threads of guys seeking advice for particular situations with regards to Game. Whether it’s fine tuning certain aspects of Game or a larger consensus of the guys participating in my comment threads it’s become obvious there’s a need for a dedicated page and comment thread to address these Field Reports.

So I’m instituting this page for exactly this. If there is some urgency to have members of The Rational Male community analyze your particular situation feel free to hit anyone up in the comments of my current post, but please refer them to your particular field report with a link to your comment here. I’m hoping this will alleviate the mass of posts for field report analysis and Game specific insights piled into the main blog post for any given week.

There will be some rules for this “forum” as such. I ask that you only keep your comments to addressing the field reports at hand and save your larger theoretical stuff for the main posts, or if relevant, keep the “bigger scope of things” posts to being as succinct as possible. There will be no moderation in this comment thread (spamming excepted), so realize it will be a very hot kitchen before you post. I will impose no restrictions on video links here, nor will I limit links to various, but pertinent articles.

Understand, this is an experiment for now. It’s likely this comment thread will exceed thousands of comments. I’ll be instituting new comment plug-ins for wordpress to deal with this in the future, but I may archive this page the the posts and refresh this page in the future as well. If this gets cumbersome I may simply institute a dedicated forum-style sub-site of The Rational Male to accommodate for Game specific questions.

So have at it, post your field reports and feel free to comment on the ones you have some particular insight for. Be forewarned that it’s likely things may get a bit salty at times and I expect a lot of back & forth with debate and disagreements, but that’s what this thread is for – to hash out Game particulars for your given situations.

 

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TantumErgo
TantumErgo
4 years ago

@Palmsailor

“She says “do you have a girlfriend”

I said “not really” and she is totally shocked”

So, is she looking to make you into boyfriend material?

TantumErgo

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

So, is she looking to make you into boyfriend material?
TantumErgo

https://youtu.be/R4apiZ4pOIo

TantumErgo
TantumErgo
4 years ago

https://therationalmale.com/field-reports-comment-page-2-comments/comment-page-123/#comment-277547

Don Draper (DD): So tell me, what do women want?

Roger: Who cares? … Jesus, Do you know what they want? Everything . Especially if the other girls have it.’

THIS. 🙂

Many thanks.

TantumErgo

IRL
IRL
4 years ago

@Palma

Break it down and we’ll see.

It’s a combination of they’re all just girls</> (aka game works), culture (*) and individual characteristics (self-esteem, personality type etc).

(*) I wrote a piece on Russians/EEs a while back:
https://therationalmale.com/field-reports-comment-page-2-comments/comment-page-42/#comment-216306

TantumErgo
TantumErgo
4 years ago

@Palmasailor “Anyway moving on, had a date with an Estonian tonight. It was odd, found her difficult to warm up. Either she just didn’t want to know or the rumours of then being cold until they know you have something to them. Anyone got any experience?” No experience with Estonians, but with a Belorusian (geographically as close to Estonia as I have yet been able to get …). She liked to test all the time, and was initially very cold, but being direct and sexualising worked very well. She was aware that she was attractive, and was used to swatting… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

For those with eyes covered…the point of my field report was that you can have a good time hanging with friends…and girls are just an added feature. You can be authentic and still have a good time. Amuse yourself first. Yeah, I flirt with girls and tell them sexy jokes and they don’t always like the jokes and that’s Ok. Amuse others to make yourself liked. Bring the party to others. Combine this with item 1. Console friends going through a rough patch. This helps you show that you’re authentic. Admit your mistakes and it’s Ok to feel silly about… Read more »

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

TantumErgo

Tell us about you hanging out with Palmasailor.

TantumErgo
TantumErgo
4 years ago
Reply to  SJF

@SJF The inaugural ‘London Summit’ with @Palmsailor was good, and the first step in my education. 😊 We ate, we drank, and we talked… @Palmsailor gave me some much-needed perspective on my Babushka affair, which is helping me to let go… as well as my most recent attempts with the half-Nicaruagan hottie. So that’s a good thing. In contrast to some of the stuff he has been through, I have actually gotten off quite lightly, although it hurts to have fallen in love with ‘the wrong woman’. I am dusting myself down, and need to get out into the field,… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Some of you all must be on the rag.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

Public Service Announcement: The YaReally Archive is back online again. Only showing posts from 2012/13 but that’s a start. Good to have it back online instead of relying on the PDF Book of YaReally or messing around finding it on the Internet Archive etc.

IRL
IRL
4 years ago

Number one problem in my view is you’re broke, so what you gonna do about that?

Number one is knowing – doing gap.

Gamenoob
Gamenoob
4 years ago

@J

Thanks a ton. Went through all of them. Great insights. He mentions that he studied Gunwitch’s Seduction MMA extensively. Tried to find that program on torrents. They all were fakes. Do you know where I can download that program?

j
j
4 years ago
Just Beers
Just Beers
4 years ago

Is this still running, I’m looking for some assistance, wonder if this is still the place. Thanks in advance

TantumErgo
TantumErgo
4 years ago
Reply to  Just Beers

@Justin Beers

Still running, and very much the place to come to for good advice. 🙂

TantumErgo

Fred Smith
4 years ago

General question. Please recommend good websites to learn game. Not interested in those that charge a fortune.

theasdgamer
4 years ago

@Fred

Game? How about Rollo’s Year 1 posts? How about Heartiste’s Sixteen Commandments of Poon. All free.

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Fred

Go download Mystery Method….

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Fred, be careful to not confuse pickup with game. Sentient is pushing pickup. Rollo wrote a post about children with dynamite where the children know pickup but have no game. “Mystery” himself lacked game and was dumped by his gf because he lacked game. (Erik von Markovic goes by his nickname “Mystery.”) “Is Erik von Markovik married? Yes, he was but his current marital status is not available. He was having a tough time with his wife with whom Markovik is a father to a child. He posted a picture on his Facebook account with his daughter and seems like… Read more »

Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
4 years ago

@Fred Smith

This site is a few years old, but the principles are timeless.
Some will assert that it is too verbose but if you are starting from utter Blue Pill state the level of detail should help you.

https://masculineprinciple.blogspot.com/2015/02/principles-of-seduction.htmla

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

@Fred

What type of game?

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Fred

Ignore ASD… Lol. https://therationalmale.com/field-reports-comment-page-2-comments/comment-page-74/#comment-246211

Here is Yareally’s newb resource guide. All should be available free with some digging.

https://therationalmale.com/2016/02/10/the-red-pill-monthly/#comment-140381

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Funny little snippet… So this married neighbor was out at a couples thing recently. She’s a total SJW and browbeats her handsome beta hubby. Saw her at a party six months ago did some teasing etc. from a dominant bon SJW frame. She lapped it up. Was the FR when she came back 10 or more feet to hug me goodbye. Anyhow it’s amazing how much these card carrying feminists crave someone telling them what to do. I’ve seen a ton of this from divorced moms over the last month. About a third of the moms on our teams are… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

Sentient – did you see that the Bastiat Blogger has taken his blog private? I wanted to go re-read his Septivium thoughts with my new self-improvement perspective and now I have to search around on the Internet Archive. @Fred Smith – welcome to the FR section. All you need is YaReally’s advice, and then to put it into action instead of reading more and more stuff and buffering yourself from going out and taking action (YaReally was a fantastic PUA who used to post a lot here in the comments and in the Heartiste comments and he helped a lot… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

culum

You might reach him here Sebastian.Pritchard@rollins.edu

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Great stuff Palma. Underscores why these fakers like Bitch Muscles and George Homo are so detestable.

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

“practically begging for direction with their kids.” Young men have no guidance and they need it. You know what is interesting in what has happened with young men and women these days? There is less and less contact with older, experienced and successful people. Over the 1.5 million or so years of human existence, it is only for about the past one hundred years that most people have gone to anyone other than the oldest person they knew for solutions to life’s problems. Anthropologists tell us that in prehistoric times, the accumulated wisdom of older people was a key to… Read more »

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

“If I’m lucky, when one of them is 50 and I’m dead, one might have led a decent life because he learned something from the old fool that night 30 years ago..” Well, see there you go. Most inspiration on the path to Mastery and Talent (in anything) comes usually from an external source. That seems paradoxical, but it is not. These guys don’t usually sit in a sensory deprivation tank and dream up the next best path to greatness. I have an acquaintance who’s sons are depressed. The older one MGTOW at 20. They have no inspiration. The younger… Read more »

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

Palma “I’m thinking next Monday / Tuesday and “hows your head baby girl 🖕?”” Based on her being in the medical field at that age, and assuming you mean she is in “Accident and Emergency” (I’ve never heard that reference in the States), you might want to neg or test her with if she lost any patients she might have saved recently. Or tap into her feelings of stress at work in some way. And get her to get a Feelz that she can relieve stress by having a drink with you. And if you are a sneaky fucker, you… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

Passing on accumulated knowledge. This. I can’t imagine life without the stuff I’d learned from men x2-x3 times my age. Back in the 80’s, one of my hobbies was collecting samurai style/era swordage. Lol, back then you could by them in NYC at a dozen different stores. A man who’d taught/explained dozens of things to me also collected all kinds of weaponry, including samurai swords, asked me ” you want me to show you how to make one from scratch and how to get the perfect edge on it? “. I almost pissed myself in excitement. He learned from 3… Read more »

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

“Ok it means that she deals with the stuff that’s almost road kill and dragged in off the streets almost dead and has to keep it alive.”

So if she has any soul, that’s stressful. Tease and relieve her stress in an artful way.

Good luck!

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

I’ll play with her by text Monday / Tuesday to find out when her shift ends and pitch for that. Speaking from a medical job standpoint, you want to suss out her work schedule. Usually in medicine it is not a five day week. It might b 3 or 4 twelve hour shifts in a week. What days, how many days, how many hours? What you are angling for is logistics. You don’t want to blow off steam one night and she has to go into work hung-over the next early morning. That’s OK if you don’t want to angle… Read more »

kfg
kfg
4 years ago

I have heard it said that in 1415 about 5000 lads from all across England and Wales showed up in a little country town outside of Calais to celebrate Saint Crispin’s Day with a wee bit o’ shooting sport. Hearing of this, 30,000 Frenchmen showed up at exactly the right time and place to make sure that the lads from across the Channel had a good time by making sure that they were well supplied with targets. Of course I know this is some sort of fable, because in those days there was no Internet and the sort of communication… Read more »

j
j
4 years ago

@Palma “Next thing, the fog horn at the end of the bar asks me what my wine is”. Good. Preselection activated. “Finally they decide to leave and invite me with them”. Nice! “the gay is cock blocking” Why? Were you ignoring him? In my experience: gay friend likes you = pretty much 100% guarantee you will close the girl you’re interested in. They are really good wingman and if your girl is on the fence, they will help make it happen. “plus the fog horn is minging drunk” ok if she was that drunk, then number closing her is pretty… Read more »

Liz
Liz
4 years ago

I have to say it. Sorry, as the mother of boys (who have never been bullied, and kick ass) I have to.
Karate is shite for self defense.
Never recommend karate to combat bullies…
to get any level of experience it takes years, and even then boxers tend to be able to beat up martial arts practitioners.
Boxing teaches boys how to punch (unlike the fake air punches in “sparring” modern day martial arts dojos).
Jiu Jitsu is even better.
There’s a video of a Jiu Jitsu guy taking out Chuck Norris very quickly.

TantumErgo
TantumErgo
4 years ago
Reply to  Liz

@Liz @ Blaximus / @theasdgamer @ Palmasailor Blaximus: I take on board that you have boxed and practiced one of the Chinese in-fighting styles of Martial Arts (Wing Chun?) theasdgamer: Tae Kwon Do? Liz: Now to your post. Firstly, my cards on the table: 11 years of Judo, and 20 solid years of Karate (still training). ” I have to say it. Sorry, as the mother of boys (who have never been bullied, and kick ass) I have to. Karate is shite for self defense.” Not necessarily: It depends on the focus of training. If purely for sport / competition… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

@Sentient – thanks. Just re-read your FR – what the married chick did sounds incredibly intimate and forward right in front of your wife -if I understand correctly she was basically in position to kiss you, especially if she’d moved her hands from your shoulders to around your neck? It’s one thing giving you a hug – but why didn’t her husband and your wife flip out when this happened? @Palma – With the caveat about what @j said (basically if she was that drunk it would have been difficult for you to get a solid number where she remembers… Read more »

SJF
SJF
4 years ago

“…with a wee bit o’ shooting sport”

Lots of arrows flung, “a terrifying hail of arrow shot”.

I just received a nice looking Chinese compound bow, purchased off of a computer site (Newegg, nonetheless) for $160.95. I started setting it up, but I’m not sure what my draw length is. Good thing is I have a buddy to ask, rather than Google search it.

But I don’t have anyone to battle and my city ordinances prevent me from shooting arrows in my back yard. But my farm has lots of antler-less whitetail deer. And no such silly regulations.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

@Blax – mostly agree with you, but this: “Everything I know that’s really useful, I’ve learned from older men. The idea among young men that ” everything is different/changed ” damages their ability to rise above the herd of ” average ” men. Today it’s ” why would I need to do that? I can just buy/let somebody else do it “. Actually doing shit yourself? I.can’t express how much of a confidence builder that is, and that confidence becomes almost infinitely transferable – even to women and sex.” This is the same old discussion with YaReally and Scray about… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

Oh and Palma – remember to sexualize just a bit over text – especially if she doesn’t remember much about your conversation. You don’t need a lot, just a bit of flirting or innuendo to make it clear and remind her you’re interested in her as a woman and it’s not an asexual meetup with a kindly uncle type.

Yollo Comanche
Yollo Comanche
4 years ago

@Liz

Correct.

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Liz, I agree with you about boxing to some degree. At least over Karate. During my last fight, I used a side kick against a much better boxer. “Take your dough” it might be called (Tae Kwan Do), but it worked for me. One thing I have is a good sense of distance and timing.

I was having trouble clicking upvote on your post and tried the downvote (which worked), but the upvote still doesn’t work. Just on your post.

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

Asd If you tried to kick me, I’d break your leg in 3 places.😂 But I like you, so I’d drive you to the E.R. And help you inside. Boxer who studied martial arts. Agree, ju jitsu is more practical, and most arts take years of relentless study, but the close methods of select arts are hard as fuck for untrained street brawler bully those to deal with. You’re not really going to ” learn ” in a class of 20 people punching air, and that’s as far as most people get. I have nephews that are becoming really proficient… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Culum Yeah it was incredibly forward. She squared right up. Toe to toe and pushed her pussy right on my cock. So her waist was forward and her shoulders back a bit. My read is they did both see. And concluded this was inevitable. Wild. But exactly what rollo is righting about. Guys happy to share and women happy to share. Well happy is too strong but willing… That fits. She was a real handful after for sure so nerve struck. We shall see though. This womennia gone for a month and I never see her out. Palma I’m with… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Lol, Blax, my last fight was decades ago and I don’t wanna fight you. You’re too much fun and, besides, I’d just look pathetic for beating up an old man.

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Palma

So the hoop grab here would be go along but lead them to a place you choose.

And concur about fags… Especially if it’s one. They try hard to be the center of attention and have very strong frames.

liz
liz
4 years ago

Norris was a renowned fighter, so, care to post the link? I like Chuck Norris. I’m sure they’ve tried to keep this on the DL but (it’s in the last minute or so): I’ve known a few folks who were really good at martial arts and then schooled by a skinny Brazillian Jiu Jitsu practitioner. It’s what the guy used to combat the attacker on that train in Paris (and he was not a Jiu Jitsu master). I agree an unskilled instructor can be harmful though (and my spouse went to one, many years ago, was injured and gave it… Read more »

TantumErgo
TantumErgo
4 years ago
Reply to  liz

@Liz Thanks for the video link to the Chuck Norris v Gracie seminar demo. So, the Gracie family are the founders of what is now known as Brazilian Jiu-jitsu (BJJ), and in the early days of MMA, their fighters cleaned up. BJJ concentrates on close-quarter combat (excellent for self-defence): throws, arm-locks andstrangulations (for submission), but with less emphasis on the striking techniques (‘atemi-waza’) found in Japanese Jiu-jitsu. It is very similar to Kosen Judo. Their grandfather, Helios, earned the right to teach his ‘brand’ of Jiu-jitsu by defeating every Japanese Kodokan Judo champion sent to Brazil to make him ‘conform’.… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

FR from last Fri. night at my fav. country bar…just noticing what girls do… Girl #1 is married, mid-30s, bangable…I got her name wrong and have danced with her a lot…she wants me to continue using the wrong name with her…she also calls me “Darling” occasionally, which I see as beta bait…I think her preference for the wrong name is so that she can pretend like she’s another person with me and won’t be held accountable. She might wanna bang me “just because”. There’s no great chemistry, but there’s easy access and I’m “hot enough” for her, maybe. And she… Read more »

MrBrian
MrBrian
4 years ago

It’s been awhile since I posted but enjoy reading the comments, figured I’d give a report of Saturday night. I had a buddy come in from out of town and he wanted to hit a country bar, he was in town with one of his friends and his daughter was also there. Fairly early in the night I’m standing there talking with them and a chubby girl comes up and ask me if I dance, I say yes I do and if she wanted to dance to the current song. She ask “can you keep up?”, my reply “sure I… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

So the forward one upthread contrives a way to come round my front porch – kid in tow – and establish phone contact on some pretext… All perfectly deniable.

🐱

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

MrBrian

Sounds fun. You trying to be the chooser or the chosen though?

“I had checked out a tall young blonde earlier and went straight over and asked her to dance- we did but with some small talk it didn’t seem she was much interested in more than the dance, no big deal.”

Game > dancing

Have you read Mystery Method? Can you breakdown what worked in the last interaction?

j
j
4 years ago

@MrBrian “I look close at her around the 3rd song and kiss her, songs over breaks into next song and we make out a bit on the floor there. I take her outside to get her phone number and kiss a bit more with some small talk”. Do you wanna make out with hotties all night (cause girls are more than happy to do that with random strangers) or do you want to fuck hotties (less likely to do so than the former)? Because if you want to fuck her, then this wasn’t the move. The move was to, make… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Lead/follow dancing is an element of game, despite what deniers say. However, dancing is not sufficient by itself. You can use dancing to build attraction and you can use dancing to build comfort and build tension and to ping girls’ emotions. Dancing is superior over PUA game because it takes a shotgun approach instead of a rifle approach like PUA game. Dancing will only give you “liminal space isolation” for the duration of the dance. You have to make a move to get a girl to isolate with you off the dance floor–maybe switch to a food venue or something.… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

@Sentient – you going to do anything with the phone number? Or not worth it as too close to home etc? @Palma – I think you’ve got the general idea re text game. Only thing I’d say with that plan is that I wouldn’t mess her around too much with who you are. Joke around once maybe and dodge the direct question but it smacks of overgaming if you do it more than that. But that’s kind of a judgment call. Also be prepared for her to just blank you/not reply/block you at any point because you’re not there spiking… Read more »

TantumErgo
TantumErgo
4 years ago
Reply to  Culum Struan

@ Culum Struan And you have this – in a nutshell. 🙂 “@TantumErgo etc – my understanding of the martial arts thing is that the key distinction is arts that routinely train with live sparring (judo, boxing, BJJ, Muay Thai, some forms of karate but not all) and arts that do not routinely train live sparring (other forms of karate, aikido, most kung fu styles, Wing Chun, etc). Unsurprisingly, the arts that train students in “live” sparring produce students who are good at fighting because they actually fight as part of their training – unlike the arts which primarily focus… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Palma/Culum

We will see. We texted back and forth a little. Perfectly deniable. Comm channel open. HABD always says make a prediction – Will let sit and expect she opens some time when she has a window.

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

DDB eyes…

This is one of the better examples

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UQPHK_7dwTU

Surprised it’s still on the net. Tyler does give a master class in mate guarding though, just pulls her away…

MrBrian
MrBrian
4 years ago

Thanks for the feedback guys, I’m definitely still working on getting better here and have a lot more to learn.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

Hahaha, that’s a good video – for some reason he’s blurred out Tyler’s face but not anyone else’s?

And how did Tyler know he was filiming? He asked almost immediately if he was filming..

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

He knew Cassonava was a pua and he threw Cassanova out of a Summit session prior, and he himself was out shooting infields.

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

TantumErgo …been away floating in the Atlantic for a few days ( with stingrays no less ). ” Blaximus: I take on board that you have boxed and practiced one of the Chinese in-fighting styles of Martial Arts (Wing Chun?)” I boxed for 30 years, give or take, 10 as an amateur. I studied Wushu way back ( 70’s-early 80’s ) because when I grew up, before guns, there was an awful lot of fighting taking place. Studied off and on for about 5 years, but boxing won out as it took up most of my time. I became interested… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

“Plus I had a mini arsenal of Tonfas, nunchucks, staffs and broadswords that I wanted to learn how to use.” Lol, some of us never grow up. I still like that shit. When Dirty Harry is on, I pull out my .357 when the scene comes on, “Do ya feel lucky, Punk? Do ya?” When Bruce Lee is on, I pull out the nunchuks. Sometimes the balisong knives, too. And when Ivanhoe or The Vikings are on, the broadsword comes out. When Robin Hood comes on, I pull out the longbow. When The Wind and the Lion comes on, or… Read more »

j
j
4 years ago

theasdgamer
4 years ago

J illustrating how not to hit on a waitress, lol. But thanks and keep on trying!

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

@palma – this is the drunk doctor girl you met with the gay friend? And then text gamed?

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Palma

Vanilla Man Babies… Arent they playing Glastonbury?

Lolz. What was the butter bit about?

TheMarquis
TheMarquis
4 years ago

Having A Bad Day And Sentient and all the others who advised me on my predicament with online dating a woman who is going to be my kids’ teacher in the new school year – thank you. As you all said, I was overreacting and freaking out. Once I made my excuses and vaguely promised to meet next week, she faded away and unmatched me herself a few days later. Don’t think I have anything to worry about. Even if I meet her at school after my kids join, I’ll just pretend nothing happened. That said, this has triggered some… Read more »

TheMarquis
TheMarquis
4 years ago

Also, just so that it is not all “angsty” stuff from me: wife aside, I’m slowly starting to get a grip on my son’s issues. He still has them, but much better when I’m around to the point my wife said something last week along the lines of “I know I’m a feminist and all that, but I have to say [son] really needs his father..he is so much better when you are at home and not travelling”. And she frequently now calls me – phone or in person – to discipline him when he’s starting to get out of… Read more »

having a bad day
having a bad day
4 years ago

@TheMarquis Having A Bad Day And Sentient and all the others who advised me on my predicament with online dating a woman who is going to be my kids’ teacher in the new school year – thank you. As you all said, I was overreacting and freaking out. Once I made my excuses and vaguely promised to meet next week, she faded away and unmatched me herself a few days later. Don’t think I have anything to worry about. Even if I meet her at school after my kids join, I’ll just pretend nothing happened. i’ll just point this out…… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Marquis Very good insights. Sorry to hear about the PE stuff… +1 to all of HABD’s comments. This is all about the fear of the outcome. but it feels like I can’t develop myself to my potential without addressing these issues – and they have to do with me, not my wife. I have to make myself into a better man who feels whole and at peace with himself. Yup. Authenticity. Also realize that this here (there are other issues with my wife) Is also coming from fear… Great stuff with your kid… That is exactly what being a dad… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

I have one thing to add to HABD’s excellent analysis…even if you tell a girl that you’re married, she may still try to blame you later for messing around with her when you’re married, especially if your relationship causes her any problems…in which case, the go to play is simply to poke fun at her for this tactic (“whatever” with an amused grin should be perfect), which implies that she’s being silly and absurd…

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Following on my previous comment, an incorrect response would be to take her accusation seriously, as in:

She: You were married and shouldn’t have tried to get in a relationship with me!

You: What do you mean? You knew I was married.

[at this point you have slipped into the girl’s frame…if you say, “whatever” and grin, you maintain your frame]

…if she pushes some more, “you’re right, it doesn’t take two to tango” (Agree and Amplify) is the play, while maintaining your grin…you maintain your frame and she is chasing, which means that she has abandoned her frame

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

She: You were married and shouldn’t have tried to get in a relationship with me! You: Yeah, I’ve done a lot of shit in life that I shouldn’t have done. Poor me…. sigh maybe I’ll just walk into traffic. or You: I didn’t get into a relationship with you. Ohhhh, I see what happened here, you caught feelings. You couldn’t control your emotions. Lol, it’s okay, I forgive you. ( I’ve actually used a similar line ) or You: I’m gonna order some chow because I have a relationship with Uber Eats. You want something? It takes a certain kind… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Blax, if a girl goes nuclear over your dismissal of her bullshit, which you both know is bullshit, it’s a test of your frame. This isn’t rocket science. You hold frame. You can backturn and leave her immediate vicinity if that’s appropriate and take an interest in something or someone else in the room. If you’re isolated with the broad, you just depart.

This sort of test can help alert you if you are too invested in the broad.

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Marquis Suggest you ditch online stuff and focus on cold approach SNLs. First it will greatly improve your game by going for SNL. Second it avoids a lot of the issues you face with the online stuff you are doing. No numbers, no phones… Often in this scenario no names as well. That’s comms securiry. I tried early on using a fake name, just a first name even. Doesn’t sit right. Generally as HABD says if you amp up the attraction the name thing may never even come up. I’ve discovered though even if they know your name and number… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Marquis

Also if it’s not about the sex, why are you so concerned with getting validation from 5 and 6 girls?

Guaranty your wife will be crushed if she finds you’ve bang3d girls lower than her… She can forgive you banging a 9… But a 5? She Will have problems with that.

It reflects on her you know…

wahoo Mcdaniels
4 years ago

Marquis, never admit anything! Deny everything! Tell the side fling you were separated,tell the wife she was infatuated and nothing happened. When you get a handle on the frame,then the honesty begins from that point forward without regret.

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

” You were married and shouldn’t have tried to get in a relationship with me! ”

Hmmm… shit test? Maybe, but it’s the subject matter Lebowski. I don’t see this type of comment as a ” test “.

Guess you’d have to have her standing in front of you to properly gauge what’s really going on under what circumstances, hence my ” whatever ” advisory. If you’re gonna smash a shit test, SMASH that motherfucker.

IAS
IAS
4 years ago

@Marquis: interesting post. What HABD and Sentient wrote, basically. I’m still a bit in your field but I’m much better now. To put it into context, the first time I Kiss closed a woman I freaked out to the extent that I apparently got psychosomatic “herpes” on my lips (thanks again @SJF which put up with me and calming me a lot). But props to you because the way you are writing you are managing to bang new ones regularly (I’m interested on your tales of success there). Own it and make those issues with PE go away. I wasn’t… Read more »

IRL
IRL
4 years ago

@TheMarquis
my son is my responsibility

I’m reading Way of the Warrior Kid by Jocko Willink with my son now. Good framework and practical lessons at the same time. Reads well because it’s a story too.

I think you and your boy will enjoy it. Especially if you put it into practice and both challenge yourselves.

Good effort man.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

@TantumErgo – coincidentally, I just came across this (On the RooshV Forum of all places!) summary list of a very wide range of martial arts (pretty much everything you’ve heard of) and the pros/cons/comparisons of each one. This is an exceptional list, not just because it lists such a wide variety of martial arts and fighting styles, but also because the author has real expertise – genuine expert level in several arts, and has tried out or experimented with virtually all of them. He really knows what he’s talking about and I like how he’s not a fanboy or religious… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

IAS Come on man… “I really thought it was going well with one particular girl, managed to “stick” with her until almost 5 am and the logistics lined up such that I had isolation just before taking her home, but I must have messed something up because although I felt some vibe going, at the very end she was really insisting I go catch the public transport instead of taking her to the door… ” Dudebro… You are backsliding. Where is the Game in this interactionn? Basics. Always basics first. I.e. DHV? IOI/IOD loop? Compliance tests? Intravenue isolation? Leading? Preselection… Read more »

IAS
IAS
4 years ago

@Sentient: fair enough busting me on being lazy. The frustrating thing here is I’m not sure if I was missing A, or C, or both. Here is a more proper FR. Event is an open air location, very chill crowd, another country. I arrived around 23:00. I was prepared not to find anybody I knew and cold approach a group but I spot guys I met the day before. There were some targets in the group with these guys and some in adjacent sets. I get social with the guys and get Social Proof. Things go well for me as… Read more »

j
j
4 years ago

@IAS “I tell her I’ll take her home, as my final public transport is not right now. She appears uncomfortable with the idea.” Well. It’s your job to make her feel comfortable with the idea. “I again tell her it is too early for me to catch my transport so I will walk her to the door. She insists on saying goodbye.” You’ve got to create a better narrative than that, mate. I’d tell her, “I don’t want to just be sitting there at the subway/bus stop waiting for my train/bus to arrive. There’s like so many fucking homeless drunk… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

IAS

“Overall I had good fun on the night and had a good display of social skills. ”

Is this what you wanted? Dancing Monkey level unlocked! 🐵 🔓

Kidding but not kidding.

Can’t break it down now, but there are some good spots I think you missed.

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Blax, there’s something wrong with your smeller if you can’t tell when a girl is feeding you a line of bullshit. And a man should never ever take bullshit seriously, no matter how great an actress a woman is.

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

IAS the target girl goes also in the language “What about me?” and I say “You’re not actually [his nationality], you don’t count”. Good. Who’s frame is this in? (Why was she the target btw???) I befriend foreigner and ask him to teach me to a physical skill [think juggling, although it wasn’t]. The girl lends me her material for training. This acted as a DHV because even though I’m the apprentice the guy complied to my request, the target complied in letting me use her stuff, and I’m picking it up reasonably well. Other foreigner leaves relatively early. The… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

Field Report Danced with maybe fifteen girls. I think I knew one girl. Got ten rejections. Met some cool, young husbands who were out of towners and chilled with them a bit. I asked one girl to dance who was out with her bf. (First I asked his permission and he Ok’d it.) Turns out that I’ve danced with this girl before. She says that she’s a dancer and I don’t think to ask where. She didn’t follow well, but she asked my name. A beauty, but too bad she couldn’t dance well. The husbands saw me dance with her… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

Asd 😅 I don’t get conned much by men or women. I can tell when a woman is attempting to ” feed me a line of bullshit “, but my thing is to see if I can get her to stop. It’s an art. A gift that comes through practice. Why do you think I like approaching strange women and having conversation? I’m not trying to bed them, but it’s practice breaking them down like when I was trying to fuck them. That never changes. That’s Game. If you’re only trying to fuck them, you’ll only know how to talk… Read more »

IAS
IAS
4 years ago

@J and @Sentient:
thanks for the advice and breakdown. Very helpful to see things from outside. Indeed several things didn’t go well there.
Main message is overall I was too passive instead of leading.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

@IAS – great stuff from @j and Sentient. I’ll only add two things: On the meta-stuff – reading that just felt like you weren’t proceeding with A Plan. You have all the knowledge you need, but you need to actually apply the structure and go through it without being distracted. If you’d been stopped at any point inthe night and asked – what is your plan to pull this girl (incorporating the usual Mystery ACS/M3 framework but specifically applied to yoursituation) and where in that plan you were at that precise moment, would you have been able to answer? I… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
4 years ago

@Palma – I mentioned something similar in an FR about a hotel bar once.

Sentient told me to get up and go walk over to the cute girl’s side of the bar and go talk to her.

Alternative suggestion: catch her eye and make some kind of jokey gesture about the obstacles and roll your eyes or something.

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

” human contact is finished ”

Certainly looks that way.

But the upside is, the guy who Will put down his phone/crack pipe and approach all of these chicks will seem novel ( or annoying, depending on the level of brain damage already caused by phone staring radiation) and different, as long as he can apply a modicum of Game.

kfg
kfg
4 years ago

I walked past a house with a street level picture window a couple of days ago. The drapes were wide open. Inside a big screen TV was playing and there were a half dozen or so college age men sitting around. Not one of them was paying any attention to the TV, or each other. They were all fixated on their “phones.”

Sentient
Sentient
4 years ago

Palma

Good opportunity to go over to those girls…

“So… You two. What’s wrong with your phones (arch eyebrows, point to masses on phones”

And you’re off.

Next move bounce them back to your space. Command and back turn lead after hooking.

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

Kfg One of the most vexing things I’ve noticed is the volume of men addicted to ” smartphones “. Traditionally, women have always had an affinity for phones and ” talking ” endlessly, even when it was analog and hardline, but men didn’t spend much time on phones unless they were actually doing something. Out in the wild I can’t help but consistently notice how many men are hunched over staring into those little screens. I recently walked into an office at work containing 2 ” managers ” head down, fingering phones. I gently said ” thimble fuck this weekend… Read more »

theasdgamer
4 years ago

“I don’t get conned much by men or women. I can tell when a woman is attempting to ” feed me a line of bullshit “, but my thing is to see if I can get her to stop.” Glad you clarified. Sure, you’re practicing your game skills. My “whatever” response works for me. Low effort and iron frame = smashing shit tests…once girls are used to that, they come around pretty quickly…but they will always, always test you…so never expect that girls will stop if your game is “good enough”…it doesn’t work that way…you might as well try to… Read more »

TheMarquis
TheMarquis
4 years ago

Thank you to Everyone who commented. It’s given me even more to think about. IRL – coincidentally, we just read the Jocko Willink book to my son and he enjoyed it. This particular book was actually my wife’s idea so she read most of it to him, and I read some. I think he’s still slightly young to fully understand it (7) but I need to incorporate references from it to his sporting activities. There are also a couple of sequels which I have been meaning to buy. IAS – Thank You. I find sleeping with new girls to be… Read more »

IAS
IAS
4 years ago

@TheMarquis:

“My wife sometimes tells me out of the blue, something like “You’re the only man I’ve ever trusted” and that always makes me feel really unpleasant and guilty.”

Oh she is good. She is feeling the dread and this is a shit test, and, as @HABD would say, you are really feeling that FI hand pressing hard on your shoulder…

TheMarquis
TheMarquis
4 years ago

Thank you IAS. I should also add that my wife’s most serious boyfriend before me (not the last one before me, but the most serious before me), cheated on her and when she found out, she contacted the Other Woman (who didn’t know the guy had a girlfriend) and both of them arranged to meet him in a coffee shop at the same time and both enjoyed the shock on his face when he saw them together and both of them dumped him there. It’s been years since I heard the story, but if I remember correctly, he was very… Read more »

ChunkyMonkey
ChunkyMonkey
4 years ago

@Blaximus “I don’t get conned much by men or women. I can tell when a woman is attempting to ” feed me a line of bullshit “, but my thing is to see if I can get her to stop. It’s an art. A gift that comes through practice. Why do you think I like approaching strange women and having conversation? I’m not trying to bed them, but it’s practice breaking them down like when I was trying to fuck them. That never changes. That’s Game.” Do you never get blind sided? Some people are very good, one tell I’ve… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
4 years ago

Marquis Lots of thoughts. I’ll get back to you in ( long ) detail a bit later, but the first thing I’d like to say is that stress over anything that a man is doing is unhealthy. You either need to figure out how to do what you want without stress and worry, or rethink what you want or are doing. Advice like Black Dragon’s is mostly only actionable for relationships from the very beginning and basically useless for a man midstream in a marriage or ltr. A majority of men could NEVER pull that kind of scenario off. Marriage… Read more »

IRL
IRL
4 years ago

@TheMarquis Not much time to respond properly, so I may come back with more details if other don’t cover them. IRL – coincidentally, we just read the Jocko Willink book to my son and he enjoyed it. “We”? Where’ the male space? This is a boys book. This particular book was actually my wife’s idea Why? What is she trying to solve? And why is she in the driver’s seat? so she read most of it to him, and I read some. You’re missing opportunities to take control over how your son is raised, build male only space, do what… Read more »

ChunkyMonkey
ChunkyMonkey
4 years ago

@Blaximus,

Just to add, I’m not talking in a relationship context specifically.

It could be as simple as stopping someone who works for you from doing something daft.

It would be nice to be able to persuade without the the use of authority, or such like, and have some willing think “you know what, that’s a good idea”, rather than annoyance, followed by grudging acceptance.

Dog logic is definitely not the way.

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