For the past three years of The Rational Male there’s been a consistent presence in the comment threads of guys seeking advice for particular situations with regards to Game. Whether it’s fine tuning certain aspects of Game or a larger consensus of the guys participating in my comment threads it’s become obvious there’s a need for a dedicated page and comment thread to address these Field Reports.
So I’m instituting this page for exactly this. If there is some urgency to have members of The Rational Male community analyze your particular situation feel free to hit anyone up in the comments of my current post, but please refer them to your particular field report with a link to your comment here. I’m hoping this will alleviate the mass of posts for field report analysis and Game specific insights piled into the main blog post for any given week.
There will be some rules for this “forum” as such. I ask that you only keep your comments to addressing the field reports at hand and save your larger theoretical stuff for the main posts, or if relevant, keep the “bigger scope of things” posts to being as succinct as possible. There will be no moderation in this comment thread (spamming excepted), so realize it will be a very hot kitchen before you post. I will impose no restrictions on video links here, nor will I limit links to various, but pertinent articles.
Understand, this is an experiment for now. It’s likely this comment thread will exceed thousands of comments. I’ll be instituting new comment plug-ins for wordpress to deal with this in the future, but I may archive this page the the posts and refresh this page in the future as well. If this gets cumbersome I may simply institute a dedicated forum-style sub-site of The Rational Male to accommodate for Game specific questions.
So have at it, post your field reports and feel free to comment on the ones you have some particular insight for. Be forewarned that it’s likely things may get a bit salty at times and I expect a lot of back & forth with debate and disagreements, but that’s what this thread is for – to hash out Game particulars for your given situations.
“Channeling anger works better for a lineman than it does for a running back or quarterback.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgdEONTLqx8 lol @Sentient ya. not saying I had the worst childhood in the history of childhoods lol. Just giving you some background history of what lead to my inceldom (lack of friends, girls, red pill advice). I just went along with everything my parents said back then, cause I was a “good boy” ™ back then. I was scared of disappointing them, so I never took risks back then. First time, I think I did anything “bad”, was when I sneaked out of my… Read more »
ionizing victimhood
What is victimhood in its covalent state?
Covalent??
😁
https://www.collinsdictionary.com/us/dictionary/english/to-make-up-for-lost-time
see Blax, there’s this thing called duckduckgo.com
“Like @blax said, we reacted differently.”
Yeah. Why though? That’s the issue [hint – it’s still not just about you…]
I know what it means. I don’t see how it’s Germaine.
@j regarding your childhood shit… (you sound a lot like i was (incel, etc)… except i had acne…lol) i grew up working class (and i think Sentient did too…) and he’s right on about the 80%… as well as the transition to broken families in the 70/80s…and our current environment… and although (now) i realize that my parents loved me and showed me/did the best they could… i never had what you would call a ‘nurturing environment’…lol… [‘mine was worse than yours’ details deleted]…lol the thing is… you, me, Sentient, whoever… none of that shit matters once you ‘get’ that… Read more »
Germane…. Lol.
“see Blax, there’s this thing called duckduckgo.com”
“How do you look up the meaning of the word “dictionary”? – Observational Comic
D*mn! i lost another comment…
i’ll have to fourth/fifth/sixth/whatever that comments are being eaten… still…
good luck!
Greer
ionizing v. covalent
only funny to chemistry geeks
lol… well, what do ya know!… the comment popped out when i complained…lol… must be the beta boys at the N… S… A… grabbing comments for the record… and then sending them through…
test for theory
only lost one final comment/test… so it’s likely some type of stack overflow issue… let’s see if this goes through and pushes my final ‘test’ comment through…
@habd etc.
WordPress sometimes exhibits a time delay between “post comment” and the appearance of the comment on the page. There could be any number of factors involved. Some time delays are apparently infinite.
@AR
also, firefox doesn’t load properly for me – no OP photos or masthead (although the link itself works fine) or ‘reply’ box
(but the video links come through on the OPs – so it’s probably a wordpress issue)
( i get a “Error code: SSL_ERROR_NO_CYPHER_OVERLAP “)
but Brave works fine… which is how i posted this…lol
good luck!
@Sentient “Yeah. Why though? That’s the issue” Genetics? @HABD “Or any chick with zits, which is MOST of them” Hmm you sure about that, chief? Thinking back to all the girls from this year (and I bang all chicks crazy enough to fuck up their hair/makeup….i can already feel an @eh comment coming lol), I don’t recall any of them having acne problems as bad as Ford. The last time I saw a face that bad, was the second girl I banged in Mexico. I was like “hooooolllly shit” lmao. “WHY there are some people ‘shaming’ her for exposing her… Read more »
I have a dope ass comment I want to write but its real hard to get through this with all the copy pasta everywhere
@j @HABD “Or any chick with zits, which is MOST of them” Hmm you sure about that, chief? Thinking back to all the girls from this year (and I bang all chicks crazy enough to fuck up their hair/makeup….i can already feel an @eh comment coming lol), I don’t recall any of them having acne problems as bad as Ford. [they probably didn’t… but what % did you see without ANY makeup… and did ANY of them have absolutely perfect skin without that makeup?…and i never said ‘as bad’… but even so… WITH her makeup on, how would you know?…]… Read more »
So, mersonia, you lazy fucker, what are you going to do about that?
@j
and is it more or less likely that BB dudes can now actually see the truth of what girls are ‘trying to tell them shit that’s not true’?… (ie that ‘she’s too hot for you’…lol)
good luck!
@HABD
Hmm let me see if I got this, if not please explain it to me:
By exposing her makeup-free face online, Ford is indirectly lowering the sisterhood’s SMV because if SHE (a model – epitome of female beauty) looks THAT bad without makeup on, just imagine what normal girls (non-models) really look like without makeup. It kinda ruins that whole illusionary power they hold over men.
” a model – epitome of female beauty ”
Lol.
” By exposing her makeup-free face online, Ford is indirectly lowering the sisterhood’s SMV because if SHE (a model – epitome of female beauty) looks THAT bad without makeup on, just imagine what normal girls (non-models) really look like without makeup. It kinda ruins that whole illusionary power they hold over men.” thinking that Ford looks ” THAT bad..” because she has a few zits, which is not unheard of and not leprosy, on her face is something you need to think about J. Lots of women, especially many young chicks wear makeup. Very few women, especially young ones, can… Read more »
Makeup is not good for your skin.
Taking makeup off is horrid for your skin.
Models take makeup off far more than most. Sometimes several times a day.
@Everyone: general strategic / logistics question. Short version: if someone (not me) proposes dinner and a group of girls goes where there is one target, am I making a mistake if I don’t also join? Long version below. Setting was a group of the hobby I mentioned in recent FRs. There are 2 or 3 potential targets who I hadn’t seen before (was their 1st time trying the activity). Activity ends, one of the (male) “leader type” (alpha, I think also fairly RP) goes “Who wants to go for dinner? There is this nice restaurant (…)”; one of the targets… Read more »
“thinking that Ford looks ” THAT bad..” ” I don’t have to consult my brain whether this chick looks worse without makeup lol. I can trust my own eyes: https://www.instagram.com/p/BSWeZPUAOw5/ And I don’t mind makeup. Hell I love that girls put that much effort to impress me. I like when I want to go somewhere else with her, besides her bedroom, and they just can’t (“ok hold on give me a couple mins”) unless they brush their hair, and fix up their makeup first. Meanwhile I just put my clothes back on and I’m ready to go lol “Taking makeup… Read more »
Blax
Fuck herd mentality.
Fatties are in luck!
Here are some game tips…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8WwMafI1Gg
Jenny Craig’s List… lol
IAS It’s not the tactical issue that’s a problem, it’s the detail… You CAN go along and DHV and isolate AFTER. I had a FR just like this last spring. It depends on the setting though. If you get trapped in some kind of BS staid serious dinner setup it is going to be harder, and if the group is large enough that you get cockblocked by others in the seating it is going to be harder. And you aren’t going to isolate during this kind of meal so you have to ride out two hours of dead time. But… Read more »
@j @HABD Hmm let me see if I got this, if not please explain it to me: By exposing her makeup-free face online, Ford is indirectly lowering the sisterhood’s SMV because if SHE (a model – epitome of female beauty) looks THAT bad without makeup on, just imagine what normal girls (non-models) really look like without makeup. It kinda ruins that whole illusionary power they hold over men. almost…lol… just not quite there yet… that^^^ is the FI approved surface level analysis (pun intended…lol) stopping point (but IS also in play…)… and that’s also why i put ‘bad’ in quotes…… Read more »
@IAS practice being social is practice being social…lol… more is better… you should go… you don’t even have to worry about isolating the target… although pushing each set is best… you can practice – just spotting the group dynamics in play from a RP lens – the subcomms of everybody there as they interact – leading/ changing topics of conversation – compliance testing (hey, pass me the salt/pepper) – spotting shit tests… can be towards other men… – holding your frame against/responding to a shit test (and you will be getting at least SOME…) – giving compliments… and then taking… Read more »
Most of what people consider ” model quality “, I just consider another girl. I never carry any kind of pedestal for women around with me. There’s only what I like, and what I don’t like.
Heartiste Commandment of Poon X. Ignore her beauty.
Looks like someone has been visiting that racissss site again, lol.
Hey guys I know I said I wouldn’t post again till I had a cold approach lay (and I haven’t), but I was catching up some comments and saw Sentient was asking about me a while ago and thought I would post with an update before vanishing again, especially since I’m struggling with this right now. I think I posted my last post in the second week of August. I had a couple of weeks of trying (and failing) and then I hurt myself in the gym and was basically stuck indoors for the last week of August. September was… Read more »
@HABD Ok, I wanna play too. the girl on the left is cute enough… in a sort of girl next door way… the girl on the right is that SAME girl with about $3 worth of ‘cheat’… which just about ANY girl can trowel on JUST like that… if she watches some utube videos…lol… if you were out at da club, and you saw the girl on the left, would you sarge her? A girl I spent a fair amount of time chatting up looked a lot like the girl on the left. Very little makeup. She gave off lots… Read more »
” Looks like someone has been visiting that racissss site again, lol.”
Lol. Ummm… I figured that shit out by 1977.
it’s not game techniques, it’s about this last, hardest “inner game” or mindset step I need to take. Just to accept that I’m enough and I’m entitled to their time and attention and they will love me without me having to “do” anything.
You’re at the edge of the tunnel. See the light?
Props!
Another unrelated thingm not quite FR but it is interesting. A relatively recent (male) friend I made is mid-20s and has a gf. They are both Eastern European ethnicity and culture but live here in Western Europe. The guy can “hustle” apparently (or at least pretends well enough in the stories he tells me from work, for me to believe he can), but the girl got a very high paid job (partly through her family’s connections). Then, because she couldn’t before and now she can, she started gifting him several expensive gifts (“toys”, watch, mobile phone). He was quite upset… Read more »
@IAS
…gifts are given to dominant males and gifts are given by dominant males…the guy shouldn’t feel like he needs to reciprocate…just act like it’s the most natural thing in the world…
@Blax
Of course, I was giving you shit, lol.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breitbart_News
https://www.theamericanconservative.com/dreher/breitbart-fake-news-alex-marlow/
Lol @ Blax
Seriously?
@ Culum I don’t know how to help you much. But I might just riff on a few things. I fixed a lot of my red pill and game shit over the last 5 years. I tried hard, but I didn’t just flail. I relied on seeking a path to freedom. I can’t really resonate with you or others in PUA or single man game. I sometimes have trouble resonating with my best buddy because he is doing single man game and shares the same personality type as me and has the same world mindset and hobbies that I do.… Read more »
@culum “another guy swooped in to continue the conversation and I saw him pull her literally 10 minutes later and leave the club” lol yeah sorry about that 😉 When she asked, “where do you live”, I’d lean into her ear, lightly brushing her earlobe with my lips, pause for a second, and say “close”. then lean back and smile at her. After a high point (make out, spike), be like “you know this place is kind of dying down. I kind of want to keep partying and drinking. Don’t you? Awesome lets go somewhere else. I know a great… Read more »
Culum says he has mindset issues. Doesn’t believe he has competence Pua Game issues and J. swoops in to give him PUA tips like he’s Hank Holliday.
Good job.
Tone deaf guy.
@SJF and you give him shit to scroll past. I’m invested in getting @Culum results. He’s had enough things to read about “mindset”. Mindset follows results. (“yes I’m enough because I’ve banged X amount of attractive women”) Your brain needs proof. How the fuck are you gonna believe that if you are entitled to these bitches if you keep get rejected by said bitches nightly, or you get close, but fumble the ball in the red zone? After some results, then you slowly begin to relax and the stress goes away…shit tests don’t mean anything to you anymore because you… Read more »
J. You are relying on notch count for your own self validation. That’s simple minded. There is nothing wrong with notch counting. Culum has a fine notch count. Self validation via discussing notch count is trying to validate yourself. To justify your/someones ego. Your fine, you young thing. Culum isn’t getting to the goal line. Some thing and some one is blocking him. He needs to figure that out. He’s trying to figure it out. It’s not about getting laid for him. It’s him trying to be his best representation of himself. He’s failing and he’s asking for help. From… Read more »
” just ask @fox (sorry), how many girls he’s banged since turning 50 because of “mindset”. saying “haha they are just silly girls”. “DPA” “amused mastery” is not gonna do shit for you.”
If those a re just words that can’t be 1) understood fully, 2) internalized into your being/soul,
then you may have a point.
Men.Shouldn’t.Rely.On.Faking.Shit.They.Don’t.Understand.Or.Believe.
They are just girls. You are not able to understand that yet.
Age isn’t a barrier.
Do you believe that?
Do you think you’ll be 50 one day?
Do you think you will believe and think just as you do at 24?
(* hint: If you do, you fail.)
I think the ninth chapter in Greene’s book has a detail of Richard Nixon’s cock block problem. He was a needy child and had dysfunctional parents. His too long to cut and paste story leading up to Watergate was told. He wanted personal validation for being a great statesman. But he was petty. And had his “issues”. He won the election good in 1968. Bigly in 1972, but he had pettiness in 1972, a dark side that came to bite him. Quote: “Interpretation: For those who worked closely with Richard Nixon, the man was an enigma. According to his chief… Read more »
“Mindset follows results. (“yes I’m enough because I’ve banged X amount of attractive women”) Your brain needs proof.” Self validation and confirmation bias. As well as a lot of other fucking biases. Good luck with your fucking biases J. An excerpt from guess who’s new book: Step One: Recognize the Biases Emotions are continually affecting our thought processes and decisions, below the level of our awareness. And the most common emotion of them all is the desire for pleasure and the avoidance of pain. Our thoughts almost inevitably revolve around this desire; we simply recoil from entertaining ideas that are… Read more »
@ habd
Firefox
Brandon Eich’s old browser, now “maintained” by the SJW’s of Mozilla to the point of uselessness. Sic transit gloria mundi.
Brave
Brandon Eich’s new browser which actually works fairly well.
Bonus: The version for Android also works … so far.
Another desk/laptop option: Vivaldi, a sorta new browser by most of the old Opera team. Opera was sold to China a while back, it likely phones home as much as Chrome does…
@Culum on my phone so no [head smack]…lol… just pretend though … lol back on “da BLITZ”, eh?…lol… still trying ‘earn it’?… feeel that pressure… the FI is riding your ass into the ground… why is there ‘pressure’?… FI gonna repo your car if you don’t ‘go out’?…lol “didn’t know how to move it forward”…? lol… not even a real thing for you… absent the FI kickin your *ss that is… go back to whatever FR page where Sentient and I told you STOP doing THAT (blitz)… and reread… bc none of that shit has changed… including that yoda pie… Read more »
Thank you @theasdgamer, @j, @SJF. The comments are appreciated. 1. @j – the group strategy you suggested hadn’t occurred to me, but of course now that I think about it, it makes perfect sense. Noted for the future, thank you. 2. As a general point – I have plenty of mindset issues (as you’ll see in my post), but what I *don’t* have are hangups about age or looks. It literally doesn’t even cross my mind that being nearly 40 (or skinny and average looking) is going to be an issue with 19 year olds. Thankfully I got rid of… Read more »
@theasdgamer
“It’s not about the deception, because I can see through the makeup. ”
sing it with me now… “which one of these is not like the others”…lol
good luck!
Culum What’s up man? Same old same old… I wish you and I where together so I could put my foot squarely up your ass [no homo]. Have you watched The Gambler [2014]? Have you watched this clip? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M7Ddmf8VNDQ I mean really watched them? No phone… focus… open mind…? September was “off” because I was back in the small town. … I’m out properly for the next 2-3 nights. After that from Monday, I’ve managed to swing a work assignment which means I can stay here in the Big City for the next 3 months, but I won’t be able… Read more »
Culum
I might (will) feel awful about not getting a cold approach lay despite devoting the whole of October to it, but at least I can focus back on my work and career and not feel that *daily* guilt about not getting laid *today* because I simply won’t be in a position to go out etc.
And there is the payoff…
Culum
” you change mindsets by taking action, and the action leads to new reference experiences (eventually) and it is having new reference experiences that leads to a change in mindset.</i.
You wont take action if you enjoy the payoff of not changing.
You can’t “think yourself into change”.
False. You can flip the switch.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oG-nnDlnWrA
You might benefit from reference experiences reinforcing your decision. But the decision TO CHANGE can be done on its own.
“I’m not going to be the person I’m expected to be anymore. “
IAS
I’d be interested in the community thoughts on his conundrum.
He is blue pill and ego invested in being the provider.
But hey, I was almost an escort so there…
You wont take action if you enjoy the payoff of not changing.
no italics
You can’t “think yourself into change”.
False. You can flip the switch.
You see yourself as you wanna be/really are (the new you) and act accordingly.
@HABD – thank you. I can feel Mark Harmon smacking me already (I think of him as your alter ego lol). Not sure what you mean by me trying to “earn it”, exactly or what you think I’m doing, but let me try to think through your post in this reply – I’m just kind of thinking aloud here: 1. You’re right of course, it’s not really accurate to say “I didn’t know how to pull that girl” – although I haven’t done that precise thing before, except for one flukey almost forgotten pull a decade ago (cold approach SNL… Read more »
Sentient – Update, I just watched the Pacino Gambler clip. Properly. Bookmarked.
That is *precisely* me. Just replace gambling with “sarging”.
I think I get it now. I can’t really articulate or explain it verbally the way I usually think through things, but I get it.
It reminds me of something the famous 1970s/80s trader Ed Seykota said – I can’t remember the exact words, but it’s along the lines of “the market gives every trader what he really wants – whether it is profits or losses”.
What I don’t understand is how to change it.
Culum I’m not sure I agree you can just “flip the switch” without supporting action. You ever decide to do something? Break up with someone? Quit a job? You flipped the switch. This isn’t going to go on. and THAT is what results in action. But I don’t understand what you think that emotional payoff is The “payoff” is the feeling bad… and it’s then rationalized away to avoid confronting change. You are reinforcing a subconscious view that ‘you” are not not enough. “i will feel awful… but at least…” I guess what I’m saying is – what should I… Read more »
Culum
“the market gives every trader what he really wants – whether it is profits or losses”.
Yup
Restated
“The club gives every player what he really wants – whether it is lays or rejection.”
Now watch the 2014 The Gambler with Mark Wahlberg.
“You flipped the switch. This isn’t going to go on. and THAT is what results in action.” He did “flip the switch”. He said enough is enough, got rid of his online clutch, and drinking clutch, sacrificed time he could have spend doing other things like seeing friends, because he wanted to slay girls he “isn’t suppose to get” “You are reinforcing a subconscious view that ‘you” are not not enough.” Because he is not getting results. Aka reference experience to support how he’d like to view himself (slayer). And that can not be faked. No matter how many positive… Read more »
Because he is not getting results. Aka reference experience to support how he’d like to view himself (slayer).
I don’t think that’s what Culum is looking for. I think that he’s looking for that inner confidence that comes from knowing who you are and being happy and comfortable with your masculine identity. It involves deleting some FI-inspired “nice guy”/”gentleman” programs running in your mind. It’s the kind of mindset that says, “Girls, here I am. I will bestow my awesome presence on you tonight.”
When your out of it, when your states down, DO NOT go home. Go to the bathroom, go in the stall and listen to music, watch motivational shit. Rebuild your state. Then get back out there and start approaching again.
This is good stuff when you’re just beginning to learn to have a masculine mindset. My state never goes down, so I forgot about this gem. I’d say that you might forget who you are and need to remind yourself about your awesome masculine identity.
@HABD “Or any chick with zits, which is MOST of them” @J “Hmm you sure about that, chief? Thinking back to all the girls from this year (and I bang all chicks crazy enough to fuck up their hair/makeup….i can already feel an @eh comment coming lol), I don’t recall any of them having acne problems as bad as Ford. The last time I saw a face that bad, was the second girl I banged in Mexico. I was like “hooooolllly shit” lmao.” =========================> Most of them? Really??? Well I’m glad I’m not seeing them. From my Mom growing up,… Read more »
@Sentient: I understood the guy felt threatened about not being the “higher earner”. He was already uncomfortable with not having the pay to surpass her new job even before she started the “gifts spree”. Is there something I can do to help him? I don’t think he is quite ready for me to drop the RP (Rollo’s book) on his lap.
@Culum: you got this. You have the skills. And you are worth it (L’Oreal LOL). I’ll just highlight the “fun” aspect here – it is not a coincidence that when you have the wing you had the best sets, when you report you were having fun. It would be very powerful if you could self-generate that fun when you are out on your own.
@HABD: your comment on practice being social reminded me of one transformative experience in a social dinner a few months after I started reading here. I posted an FR about it. Christmas dinner of my then sports club. I wound up seating next to a girl I fancied from the sessions and there was a lot of EC. At the end of the dinner she drove me home (with my partially disassembled bicycle in her car trunk LOL). There was a strong connection between us (and an opportunity) and I knew it. It was a very powerful experience for me.… Read more »
New squattingcasanov infield
https://www.youtube. com/watch?v=PpuqLxvsJXw
@J, this dude has like a 300+ slaycount. It’s probably doubled now since he was in loveisland a lite while back lol. He done a ‘personal appearance’ in my local club and it was like Beetle-Mania with the teens trying to seduce him lol
https://www.youtube. com/watch?v=r_ta4o86Crk
J He did “flip the switch”. He said enough is enough, got rid of his online clutch, and drinking clutch, sacrificed time he could have spend doing other things like seeing friends, because he wanted to slay girls he “isn’t suppose to get” No, he didn’t. yeah he wants success… but that isn’t the same. Hint – there are other more important crutches. Because he is not getting results. Aka reference experience to support how he’d like to view himself (slayer). And that can not be faked. No matter how many positive affirmations you tell yourself. Nothing at all to… Read more »
@AR
thanks… that makes sense about the firefox… that’s probably why the only sites that get messed up are the right-side sites…lol… places like d.u. come through just fine…lol
good luck!
Interesting question about mindset, I don’t think it’s all mindset for sure but you got to work on your internal buffers/fears first is my opinion. I’ve been doing said work for the last 4 years or so, it’s slow going but slowly the fear/lies/false constructs start to melt away. It’s hard work, with no definite payoff short term, in fact the payoff is negative as you will have to take action you don’t want to take which may makes you feel bad in the short term but set you up for long term success. Each individual is different, but we… Read more »
” . . . they have been at this game since their teens at least.”
A girl who does not show herself to be reasonably adept at The Game by the age of six is retarded.
Good stuff Foxguy.
“A lot of attention is on the social especially with PUA, but you must truly learn to be by yourself and at peace before you can truly be with others and still retain your identity/mental point of origin.”
Sit in a room and be in peace for 30 years then go into a public social circle and find out your socially retarded…….. check
@echo
“New squattingcasanov infield”
Mate….What. The. Fuck. Lmao. Squatting fucking sucks. Specially considering the fact that he’s been gaming for YEARS now. And he’s a fucking pick up coach! Embarrassing tbh
Mersonia
Reading for comprehension deficient. See me after class.
Sentient
….you’re getting old……… mundane responses are also old ……….one day you will respond to the content written with actual analysis………..until then keep quacking.
You flipped the switch. This isn’t going to go on. and THAT is what results in action. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5t7Rc_Okw5A @Culum I’m up to my eyeballs in other things with not much time and energy for writing. But I luv ya, sooooo… I’ll find time… for some harsh love: discuss this Evo-psych is beyond/pre- words. “Discussing it” is a wrong way to try to really connect with someone. There’s a reason why HABD and Sentient want to kick/punch you. Why would this work better? Oh, and you wouldn’t be “discussing this” with me too much either. Not this way. Here’s all that… Read more »
@Culum @HABD – thank you. I can feel Mark Harmon smacking me already (I think of him as your alter ego lol). too bad i’m not really there in person… i really could give you a smack in the head…lol Not sure what you mean by me trying to “earn it”, exactly or what you think I’m doing, you just seem to be playing out your FI beta provider script… you know where you can ‘be a player before you ‘grow up’ but THEN have to ‘settle down with a nice girl who’s ‘not like that anymore’…lol… and have some… Read more »
BTW You have tendencies for thorough dog logic, don’t let it drive you (any more) insane. I have a routine around that (thanks TRM lab!)… lol… I tell girls that men have tendencies to get stuck in their heads… overanalyze… and feminine energy makes them move back to their bodies… yin and yang… if the girl is sensual enough… you’re not a logical type, are you? …and off we go talking about how this or that makes her feel… mmmmmhmmmm @Sentient I’ve had an NLP topic for you, but need more free time to keep the thread running. Another time…… Read more »
@ Foxguy148 “…..but you got to work on your internal buffers/fears first is my opinion. I’ve been doing said work for the last 4 years or so, it’s slow going but slowly the fear/lies/false constructs start to melt away. It’s hard work, with no definite payoff short term, in fact the payoff is negative as you will have to take action you don’t want to take which may makes you feel bad in the short term but set you up for long term success. Each individual is different, but we must all make the mental journey and fight for our… Read more »
Mersonia ….you’re getting old……… mundane responses are also old ……….one day you will respond to the content written with actual analysis………..until then keep quacking. Not mundane, precise… How about you look at what you’ve posted ducky… for analysis… Your quoted portion from Fox: “A lot of attention is on the social especially with PUA, but you must truly learn to be by yourself and at peace before you can truly be with others and still retain your identity/mental point of origin.” followed by your, ahem, “analysis”??? Sit in a room and be in peace for 30 years then go into… Read more »
“I’ve made significant career and financial sacrifices IRL:…to focus on a glorified pussy and that you’re an impostor who isn’t worthy of it… …instead of focusing on your bed (/you), cutting the crap and just leading a girl there… because you have other important stuff to do and don’t have time for this beating around the bush…” That’s what I was referring to. And as far as discussion things “Women talk, Men Do”. What I discovered after collaborating in a tribe like way with men in men in male only spaces (on the side of socializing with men and women)… Read more »
culum
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0v9WhRpQw8E
some music to change by…
For real, how is you you go through so many hours a day – regardless of locale – and NOT find girls? Everywhere! Damn man I am beating the locals off with a stick these days…
As Rollo says “Children with Dynamite”.
Both J and Mersonia should read that post two or three times.
Long Game FR I was on a date with Mrs. Gamer…mallwalking followed by lunch at a Chinese restaurant. When we first got to the mall, we went to get a bagel and coffee. Mrs. Gamer got a table and I fixed up our coffee and took it back to the table and sat down to eat. Bagel wasn’t toasted. I went back to get it toasted and saw a girl whom I haven’t seen in a year. 23 y.o. brunette HB6. I used to have her no., but didn’t bother transferring it to the new phone. She recognizes me and… Read more »
Heheh. More. To drive Mersonia, the lazy bitch, crazy and to integrate Culum’s dilemma. Hah, the ending of Chapter 9 in The Laws of Human Nature. This is great stuff. I lived it and so have the other principles here. Culum, are you listening/reading? It’s not about Process any more. A wise sage told me once….It is about True Intention. Stop trying to make yourself your own mini god. Offer your self up to True Intention. Stop trying to make your own perfect the enemy of the good. Anything any of my Red Pill buddies an myself did under the… Read more »
” ..And no, not in a way of sex, cocaine…”
Now you tell me.
“And no, not in a way of sex, cocaine”
I lie to myself about the alcohol all the time….
I can’t get up the motivation to smoke weed.
And now for something completely differently…
https://youtu.be/lLVFHgPgeZ4
Thanks guys – a lot to think about in these responses (and particular thanks to IRL for taking some extra time out to reply). I’ll post more detailed replies tomorrow but I wanted to post this Thursday night FR first while it was still fresh in my mind. FR LateThursday night. No real surprises (well maybe one – a first step towards progress) but I’m posting for the record Solo at a kiddie nightclub trying to pull fast towards the end of the night with Hand of God. I only went in late all fresh when everyone was drunk. Perhaps… Read more »
@Culum: good FR, but you can do better and you should know it. That is the kind of stuff I do, so I would know. Given the previous responses and HABD driving the point so many times, can you see for yourself how even simple things like writing “kiddie club” (and thinking it) is the FI pushing on you as in “I shouldn’t even be here” (it is subconscious but is showing through)? The hottest girl in the club: you should have done something, even though they are often just showing off and teasing on purpose, even if you don’t… Read more »
Update about the dinner I didn’t go to: I talked to the Alpha / RP guy that threw out the dinner invite, and he started talking about the dinner. I went “so was it just you and all the estrogen?”. Turns out it was him and 4 or 5 girls (including one of my potential targets, as I said). But apparently this dude (which is quite a lot “right wing” LOL) is also homophobic and vocal about it so he literally TRIGGERED the fuck out of them LOL. My target was apparently the worse SJW type in the group that… Read more »
IAS so he literally TRIGGERED the fuck out of them LOL. So he got a strong emotional spike eh? Anger, outrage etc… a few steps removed from sex. And remember strongest frame wins… What you don’t want is indifference. Reminds me of the time I came across two Jewish SJW attorneys in San Francisco… and after the outrage and banter they agreed that Hitler wasn’t all bad… And I had one on each side of me in headlocks and kissed their heads while they laughed… [Autist Disclaimer – this does not mean to logically and pedantically debate them into the… Read more »
Culum
“She and I are sleeping together”
Me too!!!
After that I didn’t have to try, just “be”.
AKA “relaxing into it”.
She said “A gay guy??? Wait, are you bisexual??”
First rule of improv… Agree…
“I’m not just gay… I’m gayer than Liberace’s gay brother…
I have a whole bunch of stuff on gay… A good 3 or 4 minutes.
“Look just because you suck dick it doesn’t mean your gay… Right? I mean… Your mom sucks dick and she isn’t gay right?”
Stuff like that. Key is body language, pausing and timing. Deadpan delivery. Kino on high notes…
Finish bringing back around to her…
“Well I self identify as a woman actually… It’s true! I’m a lesbian though so it’s cool. We could still have sex”