The Global Sexual Marketplace

Before I launch into today’s essay I want to throw out a few caveats. The first is a reminder of my long-time policy of dealing with issues of race, politics and religion; and that’s to say it’s my practice leave these topics to other blogs and other writers unless those topics cross over into intersexual dynamics that are pertinent to Red Pill awareness. I feel like I need make this clear as I’m going to get into issues of race and how intersexual relations are modified by these issues today. It’s always been my belief that the shared input and related experiences of men of all races, cultures and nationality is one of the greatest strengths of the Red Pill. So it’s with this in mind that I think we need to address some of these experiences.

What got me on to this topic was the video I’ve linked above here today. As most of you know I’m not a proponent of the idea of a “Black Pill”. That is the ‘black’ part of understanding the harsh realities of what Red Pill awareness opens men’s eyes to. Accepting the uglier nature of intersexual dynamics and how it plays into today’s sexual marketplace is often something that drives some men to a kind of despondency. It can be really depressing to have Red Pill awareness destroy your long-held Blue Pill ideals – particularly when those ideals helped to give you a sense of hope in spite of your instincts telling you something different.

When I was at the 21 Convention last October I had a discussion with Dr. Shawn Smith about the nature of the Blue Pill. His question to me was something like “Don’t you think that some guys need at least a little Blue Pill to keep them going?” I’m paraphrasing here, but I’ve actually touched on this in a few prior essays. In essence, it should follow that human beings can’t handle too much ‘reality’. This is why we look for escapisms and turn our otherwise rational minds to something like faith. The human mind tries to remain hopeful in the face of dire realities; which also follows evolutionarily. Those humans who stayed optimistic in the face of crushing reality didn’t off themselves in despair and consequently passed on their genes.

That’s the nuts & bolts of it (yes, I know there’s more to it), but is this a feature or a bug in today’s realities? Willfully choosing conscious ignorance while your rational mind knows the truth can lead to despondency and depression. It’s the observer effect – observing a process will change that process – only, you’re playing that game with yourself. So, is a little bit of our Blue Pill conditioning a good thing if it gives us a hope that keeps us alive?

I’d have to say no. Because once you unplug from the Matrix going back to that ignorance is really impossible. Something in your hindbrain knows the truth about the fantasy you construct for yourself. Again, it’s playing the observer effect on oneself. And it’s just this simple truth that makes a lot of guys who are unprepared for the anger and nihilism that comes from Red Pill disillusionment to come up with things like a ‘Black Pill’.

But this essay isn’t about dealing with that despondency. I’ve already written that essay in A New Hope. This essay is about one of those ugly truths that Red Pill men have to evolve new adaptations for. You see, there is no ‘Black Pill’ – there is only the space in between a man dealing with his despondency about a harsh Red Pill truth and his crossing the abyss to accepting that truth and doing something with that information to better his life.

Local vs Global SMP

Watch the video I linked here. It’s by Black Pill 101, a channel that specializes in exactly the harsh realities of Red Pill awareness I mentioned above. It doesn’t pull any punches and for that I’m in agreement with them. Men deserve the unvarnished truth; without it they founder. This video outlines the innate difficulties Asian men face in the Global Sexual Marketplace. One of the most common requests I get for counseling is from Asian or Indian men asking me to help them improve their game. Many of them believe I have some Game solution to their getting laid with an SMV 6-7 they know from work. Many of them think they might have a chance with a modest SMV 6 if they either had some specialized technique or they could simply earn another $250K annual salary.

I honestly feel for Asian/Indian men in this respect. When I read about Aziz Ansari’s #MeToo’ing I read with morbid fascination watching his story play out with another ‘cute’ (SMV6-7) white girl. This is the stereotypical interaction. With my Red Pill Lens I saw a girl conflicted by her attraction to Aziz’s social proof (celebrity) with her visceral reaction to becoming intimate with a guy she simply wasn’t all that aroused by. This is just my personal experience, but I’ve counseled Indian (and a few Asian) men who all share a very similar frustration – they really want to get with a white American girl but they are sexually invisible to the vast majority of them.

Black Pill 101 lays out this frustration from Asian men’s perspective. If you happen to be an Asian or Indian man I’d encourage you to add your own experiences in the comments here. But from my own interactions with these men the story revolves around their investment in locking down an average white woman. They aren’t looking to spin plates. They want an LTR with a girl and most of them tend to fixate on one they know from work or a friend of a friend. Maybe that lean towards monogamy is a cultural thing, but they all seem to set their sights on the average, seemingly attainable, American girl. And almost universally they are relegated to the ‘friend zone’ or the go ‘Black Pill’ in frustration.

I’m going to look at the bigger picture here while I try to answer why this is so commonly case. In our tribalist, hunter/gatherer ancestral past our naturalistic sexual marketplace was limited to what a very localized group of individuals had to offer. We might’ve lived in groups of 100-150 ‘natives’ of our tribe. In that tribe maybe there were 10-12 females who would’ve been potential breeding/pairing candidates for a young man.

There are general arousal cues that are universal to all humans across cultures. Natural cross-culture beauty standards is something that’s been widely studied since the mid seventies – globalized beauty standards and physical prowess cues – however, the context in which those cues are expressed are (were) buffered by whatever that localized sexual marketplace (SMP) can realistically manifest.

Example: Height in men something universally agreed on as attractive/arousing for women. This is a globalized attraction cue in women. Girls all over the world overwhelmingly prefer a man to be taller than they are. This is an evolved preference because the survival implications are that a taller man is (generally) an easily identifiable aspect of physical prowess. Height implies a capacity for protection, an imposed dominance, and is a signifier of presence in a male dominance hierarchy. Whether this is the actual case is irrelevant. All that matters is that a woman’s preference for tall men to breed and pair with.

The average height of a Filipino man is around 5′ 4″. Prior to the Spanish colonizing the Philippines all Filipino women knew of men was that 5′ 4″ man. And to the 4′ 11″ average Filipino woman that was attractive. A 5′ 6-7″ man was a giant by the local SMP standards.

But the global SMP standards are simply ‘taller men are more attractive’. So when the Spanish/Western peoples came to the island it introduced Filipinas to a new standard: the 5′ 7″ Spanish man. Now the globalized SMP began to modify the local SMP. Then, eventually, along came the first 6 foot tall Caucasian European guy. Then the first Black man, etc. Gradually the localized (previously tribally-defined) SMP to include the new possibilities of women breeding/pairing with men outside their own tribe.

Localized Contingencies

This is only one easy example of how a globalized standard of what defines the whole of the sexual marketplace redefines, and often replaces, the localized standard of attraction/arousal for women. There are many other ways this out-tribe influence introduces a new global standard for the SMP. This can include force as well as by invitation or local social norms shifting to accommodate the new global SMP. When a tribe is conquered by another it forcibly alters the other’s sexual marketplace standards (War Brides).

As such, societal standards shifted to favor social practices that defended the local SMP integrity of that tribe. This is nothing groundbreaking – tribalist humans have been creating social and religious contingencies to buffer agains women’s Hypergamy, and to solidify the integrity of the local SMP for millennia. And these norms affect both the men and the women of that culture.

Cultural norms that forbid intermarriage (really interbreeding) of women with out-tribe men are common, but there are also:

  • Prearranged Marriages
  • Guarding/Prioritizing Virginity
  • Buffering Against Hypergamy
  • Socially Enforced Monogamy

I should also add that there is the Samson Contingency which is a buffer set against (powerful) men taking out-tribe wives. It may’ve been acceptable to have sex with out-tribe women (rape or prostitution), but for the integrity of the tribe, that man was only to form lasting bonds (via marriage) from within that tribe. This kept vital resources within that tribe.

A Modern SMP

In an upcoming essay I’ll be exploring the deeper reasons why Blank-Slate Equalism is so difficult to purge from our present-day social order. However, I need to detail a bit of this now. We live in a feminine-primary social order (the Gynocracy), but without the Blank-Slate much of the preconception of it collapse. One reason Blank-Slate Equalism remains a social norm (despite a world of empirical proof that destroys it) is because it serves to disguise the ugly realities of a sexual marketplace defined by human evolution. Particularly so in an age of expanding SMP globalism. It’s not just culture, politics, ideology and socioeconomic considerations that are tied to globalization; a global scale sexual marketplace is following among all of this.

In the age of global mass communication our localized (tribal) SMPs are replaced with a global standard. That global standard destroys the old local SMPs, but it also selects-out the men who don’t measure up to its standards. This is something I think most MGTOWs and all Incels instinctively know: according to the global SMP selection criteria there are some men who will simply not be selected-for. If the Black Pill 101 video about how Asian women don’t select Asian men for mating opportunities is any indicator, I think Asian and Indian men are facing this head on today.

Now, I expect the first rebuttal to this proposition will be that the present, global SMP is a reflection of Westernized beauty standards and horribly distorted expectations. Asian/Indian men seem to want nothing to do with the native women who are ruthless in expressing that they want nothing to do with them. What globalized demographic is really left for these men? The same might be said about socially inept white men seeking an easier sexual marketplace in Asian women. All of this is simple deductive adaptations men will naturally resort to when it comes to solving the problems of sex and reproduction.

I’m totally accepting that there is a societal influence in all of this. However, I think the incentives to look into the opportunities that a larger global SMP offers is still based on Darwinistic principles. Even Western romanticism is still founded upon natural female arousal cues that define the larger SMP. The global SMP is rooted in the naturalistic, evolved (not socialized) elements that trigger arousal, incentivize parental investment and play off women’s dualistic sexual strategies (Alpha Seed/Beta Need).

The Global Social Order

Finally, I want to point out that while our expanding globalization has given rise to a global SMP, that expansion is rooted in Gynocentrism. Since the time of the Sexual Revolution an unfettered, unconstrained Hypergamy has dictated this global sexual marketplace. The world-scale SMP is driven by women’s prime-directives, not men’s. As women are afforded more authority to direct society, their reproductive interests are what defines the global SMP. And all unchecked and unbalanced by any male interests. This is important to consider when we see the old tribalist, local SMPs decay to extinction. The checks and balances on Hypergamy that existed in the past were the creations of a smaller localized SMP. One that was familiar with the risks and results of allowing men and women of that particular tribe to reproduced without thought to the integrity of the tribe.

This is why Blank-Slate Equalism, as big a lie as it is, is so necessary to maintaining the unfettered Hypergamy that the global SMP is based on. Without its social constructionism, without its presumption of coequal agency, the Gynocentric power base is replaced with conventional, evolved gender norms that would favor men’s influence in the global SMP. Gynocentrism needs Blank-Slate Equalism to disguise its authority and influence. Notions of ‘Equal Value’ and social constructionism are needed to cover the ugly Darwinsim that unchecked Hypergamy thrives in.

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j
5 years ago

lol just googled ‘alicaia vikander’

dat skin complexion

tbh

kfg
kfg
5 years ago

She’s OKish looking, when she’s got her CGI on.

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

For teh newbs and lurkers – ( h/t YaReally ) Re: the Jabba video posted by J. I’d like to add something for you to mull over. Jabba says ” no man can get all the women, it’s impossible “, and I agree mostly. I don’t think I could waltz into a club and just pluck a chick because I like her outfit, and definitely 100% bang her. That’s an unrealistic extreme, and Culum pretty much covered why this is true. But what I want guys to understand and believe about Game ( not club pulling in record time ),… Read more »

j
j
5 years ago

Huge ass post!!!!! @Culum “you’ve made the “Looks Threshold” so subjective” ummmm…..because it is. To one girl you might be a 7 (above average) and to another girl you might be a 9 (good looking) like I said in my NextASF post. Your approach with the later girl will be different than the one who just views you as ‘fuckable’ because you’re working with much higher compliance. However one girl can think you’re a 4 out of 10 in her eyes (below her threshold), but another chick might view you as a 6 out of 10 – maybe. But NO… Read more »

Jalal Malik
Jalal Malik
5 years ago

I think it’s mostly how you handle yourself that makes the game harder or easier, regardless of race. Your inner game reflects on your surroundings.
All these Asian chicks that have a “No Asian Guy” rule. They’ll break it wholeheartedly if the Asian guy was perceive the dude as alpha enough. You said it best: “Women break rules for the alpha and make rules for the beta”.

Lost Patrol
Lost Patrol
5 years ago

This made the lightbulb come on for me. As the quotas for women in media power positions increase, the inability for women to understand anything about a man’s journey will widen the gaps.

https://twitter.com/RationalMale/status/1104509379154391040

kfg
kfg
5 years ago
Lost Patrol
Lost Patrol
5 years ago

Dispatch from the gender war: Sisterhood over own sons. Check. “I’d betrayed the bloody sisterhood – and I hadn’t even noticed.” Focus in raising sons should be to make feminists of them. Check. “Because it involved admitting that I was naive, that I didn’t put nearly as much thought into the business of rearing good feminist boys as it deserved.” And we all know what this means when she says it. “They seem to be turning out all right, considering” So which way do these boys play it ten years from now? Do they become ‘allies’, or rebels to her… Read more »

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Mihc
Mihc
5 years ago

If hypergamy is thriving, is a majority of females better of, emotionally and psychologically, than earlier in history?

Let’s leave out the sexual market losers crowding social media & dating sites, what about the others?

S. Patel
S. Patel
5 years ago

Rollo: What makes me mad as an Indian American is that I grew up amongst white girls but they don’t want me. I didn’t grow up as an Indian, move here when I was 25 with a wife and then suddenly sexually desire all of these white women. This is what really messes with your head more than anything. The fact that you can grow up somewhere but not be of that tribe. I now know what it means to be a “negro”. Never would have thought that growing up. Nobody told me, not my parents, not other kids, not… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

” I now know what it means to be a “negro”. ”

Respectfully, you haven’t a clue.

…. negro?

Lol.

S. Patel
S. Patel
5 years ago

Blaximus:
I’m using negro rather than another “n” word that we both know but I respectfully will not use.

To white people, we are the same. Even though I will never be African and you will never be Indian, to whites we are just darkies who need to shut up and die or hurry up and leave their spaces.

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@S Patel – nonsense. I’m Indian American and I’ve never had a problem with white chicks. Sure, I had a problem with being a nerd in my teens and early twenties, but that had nothing to do with race. Once I fixed those issues, I stopped having problems with girls in general. Look at my more detailed post earlier in this thread. Your mental attitude is what is holding you back, not your race. Don’t do online dating, learn game, and don’t be an “Indian guy” stereotype and you’ll be fine. (and not to speak for Blax, but I don’t… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

S Patel I don’t think that’s true, especially if you use the term ” whites “. That implies that all people that are white feel exactly the same, and I reject that notion the same way I reject the ” all black people/minorities are the same “. Don’t get me wrong, I understand what you are saying, and why you see things in that light, but imo your first mistake was somehow feeling that you weren’t indian, or a member of a ” tribe ” other than being part of The American tribe. I do not know where you grew… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

Culum!!!!!!!! Lol, I only see ” girls ” I’d wanted to have sex with. I like variety, so that’s that. My 1st wife was a Nubian princess, after divorcing I went on a World Tour ( again ), then I married a Latina princess. Before getting married, I’d heavily considered marrying a ” white ” girl that I was extremely fond of, but she was young for me ( 22 years old ) as I had 15 years on her. But I didn’t see her as much ” white ” as I saw her as ” young “. I’m not… Read more »

Culum Struan
Culum Struan
5 years ago

@Blax – yes, agreed. The way I’d put it is that race is one factor about a person. Height is another factor. Intelligence is another. So is personality. Whatever. There are so many axes on which someone can be categorized – but race gets a lot more attention than the others (yes, I understand the reasons why). But I’d rather look at the whole package – race is part of that, but only a part. And yes, of course, there are women who will never date outside their race. There are women who will only date outside their race, and… Read more »

Blaximus
Blaximus
5 years ago

absolutely.

Asian Guy
Asian Guy
5 years ago

6’0 asian male in North America here. I did well with the genetic lottery but was girl-shy and beta until around 20 (when I lost my virginity) and started reading up redpill stuff. With redpill knowledge I’ve gotten fit and have had no trouble attracting even high SMV white women, but I’m against miscegenation so I stick with my own race for serious relations. I’ve woken up a couple of soyboy whites with yellow fever when I tell them that their kids will end up looking more like me than themselves. I know the stats don’t lie and it’s true… Read more »

S. Patel
S. Patel
5 years ago

Take the sex pill and race pill at the same time, guys. If you are below six foot, less than alpha in any way, and ethnic (black, mexican, indian, chinese, etc.), no white girl in America will allow you in. If you are an alpha ethnic, she will allow you in but as just another throwaway fuck. She either already is pregnant with white chad’s baby, or soon to marry him. If you can’t handle this reality, best to just move back to mexico, india, china or wherever, or stay within your race and accept your reduced chances. No more… Read more »

madlib
madlib
5 years ago

Asian/Indian men seem to want nothing to do with the native women who are ruthless in expressing that they want nothing to do with them.

madlib
madlib
5 years ago

“Asian/Indian men seem to want nothing to do with the native women who are ruthless in expressing that they want nothing to do with them.” Well put. India is a highly stratified society. 1. The intensity of hypergamy is proportional to a woman’s(or her family’s) financial and physical status. 2. In local SMP, a man can get away with being ugly compared to the woman if an only if he has wealth by a much wider margin than the woman. 3. The most common causes of divorce stems from the man being impotent(pretty much instant) or deceiving wealth before marriage.… Read more »

Novaseeker
Novaseeker
5 years ago

If you are below six foot, less than alpha in any way, and ethnic (black, mexican, indian, chinese, etc.), no white girl in America will allow you in. If you are an alpha ethnic, she will allow you in but as just another throwaway fuck. She either already is pregnant with white chad’s baby, or soon to marry him. Yeah, not really true. Of course, any guy will do relatively better the more muscular, masculine, taller and alpha he is — that’s true across the board. it isn’t true that non-white alpha guys are throwaway fucks for white women …… Read more »

theasdgamer
5 years ago

If you are below six foot, less than alpha in any way, and ethnic (black, mexican, indian, chinese, etc.), no white girl in America will allow you in. If you lack game and have lots of anti-game bitterness, no girl will want to fuck you. Your cock will have no value to women because you don’t value yourself. The most essential part of game is to value yourself and that means that you have to be able to calibrate yourself…this may mean some self-improvement like lifting to raise your testosterone levels and working on your conversational skill and game skills… Read more »

EhIntellect
EhIntellect
5 years ago

“Asian guys can do badly here (and tend to be lower in the hierarchy) because they tend to be overwhelmingly beta.” My Vietnamese neighbors….Dad is Beta, speak barely an English word. His one son is Alpha. Most of the guys are kind and zfg but tribal. Women are pretty feminine and smile a lot, tribal too. Tales from my soldier brother….. Fellow soldier starts dating Turkish Muslim woman. Her clan men find him and beatdown ensues. He’s out of action for a while. When healed he finds each guy and exacts a retribution beating, one at a time. He’s married… Read more »

theasdgamer
5 years ago

He’s married to that woman today.

Your fellow soldier showed his value to the tribe through violence. He was accepted into the tribe.

S. Patel
S. Patel
5 years ago

When I say “allow you in” I’m merely referring to the technical fact that a woman has to allow you in otherwise it’s rape. If you gentlemen want to rape, good luck with that.

Play game all you want, the woman absolutely must consent. No woman thinks of herself as the alpha’s property, to do with as he pleases. She is actually giving her consent to him and him to her in a dual decision.

Tiger
Tiger
5 years ago

Hey Rollo its very interesting to see the tribalism you mentioned play out in the comments. The Asian/Indian guys claiming that only the ugly women of their group date and marry white guys while they are getting the top tier white women. Laughable.

It’s like hypergamy in reverse. The top social group women dating down white lower social groups dating up. Ultimately this debate is near impossible to have as Asian and Indian men have to admit to the problem which damages the ego immensely.

The Inimitable NEET
5 years ago

@ ex-cartoonist “On the one hand, I want to be more Alpha because I want to have more and better sex with women. On the other, the men I know who are successful with women are not men I want to emulate. They seem to see the world as a playground and tend to be self-centered and unreliable. The men I respect—by which I mean have traits I respect such as loyalty, trustworthiness and the willingness to sacrifice their own self-interest for a principle they believe in—are all Betas. They all believe in monogamy and fairness. They all believe in… Read more »

LJ
LJ
4 years ago

The global SMP exists for men too and is, in fact, more relevant to us as we typically are more inclined to travel and pick up women overseas.

Men now have the option to date African girls, Asian girls, Latin American girls and Eastern European girls – all in their own country of origin. It’s a much better state of affairs for us – we’re not limited to our own town, city or country. Often you do better in a different mating environment.

Yollo Comanche
Yollo Comanche
4 years ago

*banned for race-baiting

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Dan
Dan
4 years ago

25yr old white Australian here Have a long history with the manosphere, more or less credit them with saving my life. Was pretty much incel till I discovered ROK/redpill age 20. Eventually had some success in early 20s. After finishing uni came to China to teach english for a couple of years. Have much higher SMV here. Slept with 8 girls in a year (and that’s without trying all that hard as busy working two jobs). Ages 20-40. Even had something of a sugar mamma for a while. This after only sleeping with 2 girls in Australia (and both foreign… Read more »

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Stefan
Stefan
4 years ago

I’ll admit that guys of asian race have a bit harder than black/whites but still it’s not as bad as you think. I have indian and pakistani friends who do well, where as I am white and 5’5 and can’t get anything. Because why…? Well, because height trumps everything else. Tall ugly guys get laid, tall ethnic guys get laid, tall guys without game get laid, tall guys without money get laid…. you get the point. If you split looks into parts you have : face, height, frame/muscle. Out of all 3 the height is the most important. There is… Read more »

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Ek
Ek
2 years ago

Rollo. Asian male 5’7″ SMV about 7-8, 40s. What changed everything is looking beyond race and trying to adopt archetypal characters: Growing a beard (my barber recommended it), working out (wider shoulders, glutes, chest), edgy haircut (again my hipster barber recommended it, undercut). But it really came about because I stopped looking for validations and just enjoyed how I looked and felt. As the confidence grew and my archetypal male cues became sharped into a “look”, my need to even see what was going around me lessened.

PalmaSailor
PalmaSailor
2 years ago

@Ek It how you feel about all that ^^ which seeps out of every pore of your being – that they pick up on. They’re led by you, if you’re comfortable with yourself they will be too. If you’re uncomfortable/ insecure, they’ll pick at that to find out how deep it goes. What they’re actually doing is testing your “fitness” for partnering. We call it shit testing, but it isn’t, it’s fitness testing. On the height thing, it can’t be said enough, I thought I was 5’7” because I was measured as that at school. It turns out now in… Read more »

Sentient
Sentient
2 years ago

Was good reading back up the posts and seeing great comments from old names.

PalmaSailor
PalmaSailor
2 years ago

@Sentient

Was good reading back up the posts and seeing great comments from old names.

It’s unfortunate that the locker room appears to be disintegrating about as fast as external society.

I had hoped this would be a hold out.

Sentient
Sentient
2 years ago

Remnants gonna remnant…

Victor Lim
Victor Lim
2 years ago

My experience growing up as an average looking Asian (glasses,fat,fashionless) that grew up in Asia and Australia. From young were taught to focus on studying which is primarily memorise and regurgitate. We were never taught much of basic social skills. That’s why you see alot of asian are unadaptive and very linear in thinking, which is the typical beta male conditioning. We’ve also been disciplined from young to always do the right thing, this hits on the perfect is boring Rollo mentions. But that all can change. Big ups to you Rollo for helping men like us around the globe.… Read more »

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