A few Rational Male updates to pass on here. I’m getting very close to publishing my third book – The Rational Male, Positive Masculinity, so needless to say April is already beginning to be a very hectic month for me. In addition to this, I’ve got several other business irons in the fire, both from a Red Pill perspective as well as my personal career, all of which are very exciting for me.
With the Private Man’s passing I had to stop and do a bit of introspection and self-evaluation. Andrew’s death occurred a day after my 49th birthday and I needed to take some time to ask myself what I want to do with the time I have remaining. One of the best things about The Rational Male is that the ideas I explore are both timeless and subject to the social winds of our time. That said, I don’t ever see a time where I’ll be slowing down from connecting the dots I do, but obviously I have only a very limited say in how long I’ll be doing this. I had asked Andrew to write the forward to my third book, but obviously fate had a different idea for the book. Needless to say I’ll be writing it myself now. I had wanted this section to be a sort of testimonial last message memorial to him, instead I’ll be dedicating the book to his memory. Both my books have become institutions in the manosphere and Red Pill awareness on whole. I had hoped this new one would be some kind of enduring obituary for Andrew.
In the five and a half years I’ve written this blog I have never taken a sabbatical longer than a week’s vacation time – hell, I even tee up two drafts just to keep things going on vacations. Making men Red Pill aware, evolving ideas, planning new ventures, and exchanging ideas with other men, has always been a life-mission for me. I never really planned it, it’s just something I feel like I need to do, but when a luminary like Private Man comes to an end, that’s when I have to take stock of things. The Red Pill, the sphere, unplugging men from their indenturement, my books, my presence is, I feel, the dent in the universe I, and other men are making at this time in human history.
So, with that, I’m happy to say I wont be slowing down any time soon. Steve Jobs was said to be even more motivated to making his dent in the cosmos after he’d accepted his own mortality. I’m very healthy now, I have a lot going on in my life and I see no reason not to continue doing what I do. I do however acknowledge my own mortality much more acutely these days. My wife’s brother died suddenly in his sleep back in 2011 at the age of just 39. No indication, no hypertension, no nothing. For all impressions the guys was very healthy, no alcohol, no smoking, etc., but one night he simply died (heart failure is what the coroner said). It’s incidents like this that keep me going.
In the coming year I have a lot planned for The Rational Male and Rollo Tomassi. I’ll be making a public appearance again; the first one in 2 years by the time I do. I’m more comfortable with being at least semi-public now, and while that wont change anything substantially for what I do, it does mean I’ll be less concerned showing my face. The third book will drop this month, or early in May, depending on when I finish the forward now. And Sam Botta assures me the audio for Preventive Medicine will be coming out in the next 2 months.
There is one big announcement I’ll be making tomorrow on my 4th podcast with Christian McQueen. I’ve had this in the works since October of 2016 and I’m happy to say it’s finally going to happen this year. As always, please use the comment thread here to ask me any questions you might like me to answer on the show tomorrow. We’ll be catching up and going at it like we always do. We’ll be recording around 12 noon PST.
Lastly, I’ll also be talking to Richard Cooper live on his own YouTube channel the following day, Saturday, April 8th. So if there’s anything on his show you’d like me to cover feel free to drop those questions here too.
The Christian McQueen interview can be accessed here. Fair warning, it is behind a paywall, but I feel it’s well worth Christian’s very marginal membership fee.
In Episode 78 of A Man In Demand Radio, I welcome the great Rollo Tomassi, an astute author and giant among men.
In this exclusive (3-hour) interview, we discuss everything from the Current State of Man in 2017 to politics (lightly), to hypergamy, and much more, including answering all of your questions that you posted in the Comments section of his blog and on my forum.
This is 3 plus hours of great insight and wisdom from Rollo and is not to be missed…
Show Notes
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How the Red Pill can help you raise your children (specifically daughters)
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The use of Game in relationships and marriage
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The epidemic of the anti-male agenda in the media
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When Rollo’s 3rd book is coming out and what’s inside
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Rollo’s advice to ‘himself at 15 years old’
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All readers questions answered covering a variety of topics
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And much, much more!
Wow so does this mean i’ll be able to order a hardcopy of the 3rd book sometime this month? or will it be digital only for a while?
Hardcopy first, digital maybe a week after.
How does the 21 convention work to attend?
[…] Live with Christian McQueen […]
Rollo and TRP changed my life after my dad died a couple years ago. Looking forward to the third book.
I look forward to the pre-order date.
“How does the 21 convention work to attend?”
The usual way:
1. Send them money.
2. Send them your body.
Rollo, thank you very much for the work and service you are doing to us men !!
Regarding your Podcast, i would like you to hear your opinion and analysis about the fact that
several governments (UK, Iceland, Germany etc) have passed laws to fight the “paygap”.
Thank you for all, Rollo.
I would love to see the concept “Alpha Widow” discussed. I feel many men within this community misinterpret it; it’s my impression that these individuals misconstrue the concept because of a lack of experience with this particular female. I’ve been out with a couple of these women, and this idea is real. Upon reflection, what can be a little disconcerting is if I have cast a shadow upon women I’ve been involved with (causing them to become Alpha Widowed) unbeknownst to me. It’s a fascinating concept. Prayers go out to Private Man’s family. Early in my unplugging I read that… Read more »
“I never knew him personally, but I’m indebted to that man.”
All the testimonial he needs.
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@Rollo I’d like a topic of discussion between you and Christian to be: What are some best practices in Red Pill and Game discussions to bridge any divides between the Old Married Guys and Young Single Guys? You know, how to be on the same side. Not to have animosity. After all, you and Christian both have respect for each others red pill and game attributes. Your red pill and his style of game are complementary. It seemed like the ongoing Great Debates here in 2016 were a rabid frame battle. It seem to lack that same complementary benefits based… Read more »
” Can we all just get along without compromising our purpose and mission?”
No.
@Sam “I feel many men within this community misinterpret it; it’s my impression that these individuals misconstrue the concept because of a lack of experience with this particular female.” What mis-interpretations do you think men in this community make. “I’ve been out with a couple of these women, and this idea is real.” It’s deductively real. How did being out with a couple of these women make you feel and act and what impact did that have on the relationship. “Upon reflection, what can be a little disconcerting is if I have cast a shadow upon women I’ve been involved… Read more »
LOL.
I wasn’t actually interested in getting along. (I’ve learned not to relinquish MPoO and Frame needlessly). I was interested in what Rollo thought about the tribal animosities in advancing his version of The Red Pill Brand that I like subscribing to.
I have a question: I’ve had some recent issues with “Friends”…guys who I would otherwise consider had my back are acting more like girls: flakey, unhelpful, duplicitous, self-centered.
From a Red Pill perspective, what is the role of male friendships? Robert Greene in his book 48 Laws of Power says “Don’t put too much trust in friends”. Any insights? As I become more Red Pill, I find myself surrounded by weak, duplicitous, back-stabbing betas…. This ranges from business to personal situations. When I think “Who are my closest friends?” I find myself struggling to come up with an answer.
@rugby11
Early bird tickets will go on sale for the first time at the end of this month, along with a reveal of the speakers list, and related details.
Event dates are Sept 28th – October 1st. Location is Orlando Florida.
This is our 10 year anniversary event, dedicated to The Private Man (with his awareness and blessing).
Also, what KFG said 😀
– ADJ
@ walawala
It’s been my experience in life, that real, true friends are hard as hell to come by. If you happen to have shady, untrustworthy ” friends “, catalog them as such in your mind, and never trust them.
this way you will not expect too much from them. Either accept them as they are, or dump them. The choice is yours.
But don’t trust them.
The search for real, trustworthy friends is a journey of great length. When you happen upon frauds, keep it moving without mental investment on your part.
It is journey. We all learn (I think). The more Red Pill you become, the more you are able to see people for who they are. Also the more selfish you become (it comes with the definition of player). Birds of a feather; other players recognize you as one of them and open up subconsciously. So you get new “friends”; but like you they are players (and hence users). If you slip up you get used too. You are only as useful to a user as far as you have something to give, and a user is only as useful… Read more »
@walawala “I’ve had some recent issues with “Friends”……guys who I would otherwise consider had my back are acting more like girls: flakey, unhelpful, duplicitous, self-centered.” Why is that that they act like that?. What is their motivation. And what are you going to do about that? Certainly not keep them as friends, right. Acquiring friends is a process that does not depend on the outcome. It’s your job to consider and discriminate them. It’s not their job to be honest or to vet themselves for you. Didn’t you ever consider that they are self serving and duplicitous. (i.e., people are… Read more »
Blax Sjf
It’s a struggle because I find so many betas and white knights always undermining.
Of course dropping them is the result. But I’m curious whether I’m the only one who finds this.
” . . . I’m curious whether I’m the only one who finds this.”
No.
Excellence lies in seeing people for what they are, leading them as they are, and not being confused.
Hey Rollo glad to hear you’ll be continuing your great work here. Looking forward to the next book! The first one was truly my gateway to red pill awareness and I’m forever grateful. Condolences to the Private Man-he sounded like a solid dude and we’re fortunate he shared his wisdom with us over the years.
A definite must have.
Rollo, just need to say that sincerely appreciate your time and effort keeping this blog up and running with such regularity. Your thoughts and your words have shook me to the core. I’m sure they’ve done the same to many others. Thank you.
@Palmasailor I hadn’t realized the wider situation. Feminized men who are so thirsty for pussy they throw you under a bus, undermine you or otherwise think they can have a go at you.
The search for real, trustworthy friends is a journey of great length. This is the biblical “friend who sticks closer than a brother”, and we can expect to find very few such friends during a lifetime. This man is in a class by himself and not to be confused with friends generally. I need a different word for him but don’t know what it is. TRM makes observable the sort of facts of life that have been going on for centuries but that many of us didn’t see, or at least didn’t understand. A side effect is seeing all the… Read more »
@Blaximus @ walawala It’s been my experience in life, that real, true friends are hard as hell to come by. If you happen to have shady, untrustworthy ” friends “, catalog them as such in your mind, and never trust them. this way you will not expect too much from them. Either accept them as they are, or dump them. The choice is yours. But don’t trust them. The search for real, trustworthy friends is a journey of great length. When you happen upon frauds, keep it moving without mental investment on your part. +1… my dad always told me… Read more »
Pressfield
http://www.stevenpressfield.com/2017/04/big-idea-nonfiction/?mc_cid=10c8c29688&mc_eid=1a72fd3c93
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXZSeiAl4PI
Jordan peterson
https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/support-professor-jordan-peterson-s-research-media#/
@ HABD Your Dad was totally on point and it is great advice. I’m of the same mind, being that most people do indeed have a high degree of suckage. This is why I mostly bristle at Andy’s equalist style pronouncements. My oldest and dearest friends were made 40-50 years ago, and have stood the test of time/baptism by fire. Lol. I’ve made a few new friends over the past decade or so, married men 10-15 years my junior. The 20-30 year olds in my life I do not consider true friends. They’re ” okay “, but none are guys… Read more »
“I’m very healthy now, I have a lot going on in my life and I see no reason not to continue doing what I do. I do however acknowledge my own mortality much more acutely these days.” In a few years, early 50’s, I’ll be the longest living male in my family. I’m pleased to know you all, learn from you. What a unlikely gift. Speaking of gifts… Bilaterally terminated my employment relationship (a.k.a. fired) with a decent parachute. There are many keyholders involved. My department chair didn’t see it necessary, there were zero indications of incompetence, but administration threatened… Read more »
@Sam re: alpha widows I think this concept is a bit overplayed. The thing is, I’m unfamiliar with the concept of having a woman in my arms and not basically owning her mind, body and soul during intimacy. I have had girlfriends in the distant past who were hung up on their previous boyfriends. One very extreme case in particular, what a basket case. But when they are with you, it’s up to you to project the notion that you are the best they have had or ever will have. I’m well aware that is often not the case, especially… Read more »
As TRM goes more public, and its sensei goes more public, I foresee an interesting experiment in branding and media presence, with our sensei as both self-appointed guinea pig and totem. To wit: (1) maintain and promote his RP writings as The Great and Powerful Rollo, while (2) maintaining a separate professional presence/ego/personality as the ad-man and liquor brander, using his real Meat-World name of Aaron WashingUpLiquid or whatever it may be. And perhaps that is the best solution, which the experiment can validate: maintain two separate professional personalities. The first is the evo-psych behavioral science commentator known as Rollo,… Read more »
Rollo, why don’t men find out a little information about a girl he has sex with? Do they not want to know? Or don’t care ? Why seem surprised when you find out later ..
Cheryl…read year one, two, three….
Cheryl.. same reason any human avoids talking themselves out of anything. If you look hard enough and/or are pessimistic enough.. you’re going to find a reason not to do something. Ignorance is bliss. What your don’t know won’t hurt you, etc.. is the reason. Why are they surprised? Because they actually believed the things she said. It’s ok to get caught up in the moment and enjoy the lies (ahem, things) she says.. But most guys fail to take it with a grain of salt and pay attention to her actions. Most guys fail to protect themselves properly. The enlightened… Read more »
Ehintellect, For a more indepth explanation, I will. I meant this just in a simple..”holy shit I didn’t know she was married/engaged or whatever” didn’t even know her name,but I’ll sleep with her.
Tuff, I guess you’re right on that. Easier or more exciting not to know or ignore . So it’s two that play the game then right? There should be no shock value when you chose not to know.
Cheryl are you really that delusional? Women are uniquely able to be this picky. Men are not, excepting the sexual-alpha, of course. First of all, many of us, myself included, most definitely screen for her involvement with another man, whether married, engaged or just a bf. I won’t play. It’s not for me, and I resent men who do. I could catch a ton of shit for that here, but I don’t care. It’s wrong, and it’s no small contributor to the diminishing quality of women in our society. These men are as much a part of the problem as… Read more »
Didn’t mean to call you a name, I was just emphasizing my point btw…
But yes, you are absolutely correct, both parties play that game.. and there’s nothing wrong with it. Even more true in the middle-age market, because everyone has baggage, and show-stoppers. But the show must go on..
Tuff, I’m not delusional. It’s an honest question (which you answered) I’m fully aware of women’s options and the abundance of them. I think you would be surprised at the amt of men who don’t screen and are just there for the f*
value but then complain later about her,which is as bad as a woman complaining if a man doesn’t call her the next day.
Tuff, thank you .
There should be no shock value when you chose not to know. But there ends up being shock, because initially you’re in the dark, then you’re swept up by her lies, or sugar-coated truths. Then, without any real foundation, you begin to believe she’s better than she really is, just based on your ‘connection’ with her. So you have real feelings without, as you pointed out, and truth about her. Then the truth comes out and you’re shocked and hurt. The RP is a good preventative for this, because you don’t start out in the dark. You start out with… Read more »
on the verge of full on MGTOW because of this right here: “These men are as much a part of the problem as male feminists and white knights. We talk about men having each other’s backs, and this is part of it that most men don’t because they’re chumps with no personal convictions. Relationships should be respected.” “you’re swept up by her lies, or sugar-coated truths. Then, without any real foundation, you begin to believe she’s better than she really is, just based on your ‘connection’ with her. So you have real feelings without, as you pointed out, and truth… Read more »
@Tuff
^^ Words to live by.
@Plat
Feel ya bro. me too. Except for the drunk part. It’s just so hard to view any woman these days as having a shred of integrity.
“There is a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path.” @Platinum Hang in there dude. You can’t reach the promised land without walking the path. There’s a better one around the corner. When you meet her, check your internal frame. Then let her have it. Don’t refrain. Don’t worry. Fall in. But treat each day like tomorrow she’ll be gone. It will help you keep an eye on the rest of your world. See when she’s gone, most of us are left in a shattered world, and it’s because we neglected it while she was around. If you… Read more »
@Disgruntled Earthling:
It’s not about integrity. It’s about . . . (hint: it begins with a “b”).
brains?
Balls.
@Disgruntled Earthling:
Babies.
Babies . . . babies . . . babies . . . all the way down, and all the way up. It’s all about babies. Nothing less, nothing more.
You speak of integrity, but you mean the integrity of the hunting pack, of the raiding party. The ethical integrity of men on a mission together. But that isn’t the only sort of integrity.
Women are all about integrity, but in a different sense of the word:
Babies are the integrity of life.
thanks guys.
I’m not giving up. it’s just every corner turned SEEMS to uncover a new low. more crap to fix in my head. shits deep lol
Long time reader, no time commenter. But I know this one. “Babies all the way down”
TuffLuv: great stuff.
“The ethical integrity of men on a mission together.”
That’s what TRM is about. Sex? Yeah, Frame? Yeah. Freewill? Yeah. Praexology? Yeah. RP, Alpha as mentality? Yeah.
The only means to maintaining Alpha, maintaining RP, MRP is tribe mentality. Sigma is unnecessarily lonely. There’s no present day masculine hivemind sisterhood equilivalent. Western world life brooks no public FI dissent. Thus here we are, digitally.
Upthread woman defaults to her solipsism. “What I see, think is reality…all my gf’s agree. Thus it’s truth.”
TuffLuv did a great job explaining RP, he can’t understand it for her though.
“As TRM goes more public, and its sensei goes more public”
Thinking about printing simply “Red Pill” on a t-shirt. Hm.
“Sigma is unnecessarily lonely.”
Alpha = <1, however:
Alone =! Lonely
Sigma =! Alone
Addendum:
I will note, however, that TRM has a particular focus and that within that focus the distinction between Alpha and Sigma is meaningless.
@Eh “The only means to maintaining Alpha, maintaining RP, MRP is tribe mentality. Sigma is unnecessarily lonely. There’s no present day masculine hivemind sisterhood equilivalent. Western world life brooks no public FI dissent. Thus here we are, digitally.” Walawala spoke upstream about guy friends. You speak of tribes. Back 5-6 years ago I took initiative to link up with guys from a statewide sportsman’s forum. (e.g. you could actually drive to their house two miles or 60 miles away.) It was a by-product of passion and a pursuit. And it served as my redemption in masculinity to develop a tribe.… Read more »
@Moosejaw
Welcome.
Why come (sic, Idiocracy talk) you so reticent? Tell us about yourself.
Seek GOD in your lives men (and women). Amen.
~ Bro. Jed
” Seek GOD in your lives men (and women). Amen ”
And sensible, comfortable shoes.
I like your work Tomasi but I can’t read it or follow it no more, its unfortunately difficult for me to read or follow your phrases or ideas ;(
Hope you guys are happy, I just spent 3 hours with Christian and we dedicated almost the entire show to answering questions.
Rollo
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. “— V IKTOR F RANKL , Man’s Search for Meaning
Re: Frankl, TRM
TRM: That man shall not suffer atrocity to gain knowable truth,.
@SJF/Palmasailor/HABD This idea of backstabbing “friends” has been on my mind for a few months. I just had a situation where a business partner I run an event with suddenly decided to double-book his venue without asking me….just told me. I call him back, we get into it. He’s like a girl—gaslighting me….my events don’t bring in enough money—not true…I show up too early to set up—not true. Finally we agree to end the other one at the agreed upon time. He then posts an invite that is the original plan. I call him back ask what up….says “Oh, I… Read more »
@kfg
I have seen this a few times now and as a serious question what makes it all about babies?
Historically and hopefully I can see this being the case, but why is this still in play?
Western women seem more than happy to abort babies in the millions when modern methods of contraception fail to prevent pregnancy. Overall, there seems to be little interest in producing babies.
What is it that makes this still a factor?
“It’s like there is no “safe haven” anywhere. White knights, betas, thirsty fucks, backstabbers.”
Welcome to the monkey house.
“….I now see I’ve got another challenge—”
The race doesn’t get easier, it gets faster.
I’m more comfortable with being at least semi-public now, and while that wont change anything substantially for what I do, it does mean I’ll be less concerned showing my face. Stay cool Rollo. There are millions of them out there waiting and hoping for the opportunity to make your life a living hell if they can find a way to do it. I admit I know nearly nothing about it, but remember Roosh V when he tried to normalize men conversing about the FI in the real world. People dropped everything they were doing to chase him down and make… Read more »
” . . . what makes it all about babies?” Natural law. The fact that it can’t be about anything else. You are a part of a process – a long, moving line of babies. You just happen to be an instantiation of that line. You personally don’t matter, you’re just a baby’s way of making more babies. If you don’t make babies, then the entire line of “your” babies ceases to matter. It’s been a nice ride up until now, but now it’s done. ” . . . why is this still in play?” We are stardust. We are… Read more »
<blockquote.Welcome to the monkey house.
“….I now see I’ve got another challenge—”
The race doesn’t get easier, it gets faster.
@walawala
You’re work will continue to be one of sexual politics.
Better to Accept it rather than be in a continual state of denial,anger, bargaining. and depression over it.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Welcome_to_the_Monkey_House_(short_story)
@kfg
Thanks for that explanation.
Sex and violence. Fucking and killing.
No question those are the things I thought about most as a teenager. Then as one gets older (if one lives long enough) and gradually loses the urge for both of these (it happens, see my father-in-law), one becomes more philosophical as a substitute for active participation?
“No question those are the things I thought about most as a teenager.” Because that’s what male teenagers are for. They are fashioned to be that way. “Then as one gets older . . . one becomes more philosophical . . .” Where did the mind capable of becoming more philosophical come from? Hundreds of millions of years of selection. Making, feeding and protecting babies, for the purpose of better making, feeding and protecting babies. All of it, art, technology, politics, warfare, the whole ball of wax, ultimately derives from the basic biological drive. This is just a nest: This… Read more »
Palmasailor, thanks. Much.
How the heck did I manage all these years without knowing who Felix Dennis was?
https://infogalactic.com/info/Felix_Dennis
The man left a fortune of 500 million Pound Sterling to … his forest. Excellent.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/10921261/Felix-Dennis-leaves-500-million-fortune-to-his-forest.html
@kfg
Nailed it then capped it! Cheers
I’ve had my babies thanks. Getting snipped in July. At 58 I just want to fuck bitches before my plumbing disintegrates. After learning RP I can’t say I like them much anymore.
I guess the anger is coming back
From SJF: “Red pill guys are out there, and I sense guys don’t know that it should be an imperative to pursue them as possible friends. Cause sometimes red pill is seemingly like Walter White in Breaking Bad (not out in the open like a crystal blue persuader). I brought this up a year or so ago, the there should be more desire (and methods) to hook up with red pill guys in real life off of blogs. I’m of the opinion that guys should use any means necessary to actually have a tribe of like-minded men. I didn’t really… Read more »
Never mind the typos. Editing on an iPhone with phat thumbs is something I need to master.
Kfg’s “babies” should be the forward to Mystery Method… The why behind the why behind the how.
Much respect and appreciation for your excellent work over the years Mr T. I’ve certainly learned a lot and have shared TRM with a few friends, all of whom have been appreciative. Women are such flakes these days they just can’t be taken seriously & really aren’t worth getting involved seriously with, apart from just to play with as you would a child. My current lover has just flaked out on her 47th birthday party ’cause for some reason. This is after I had organised for one of my band’s to play there, dropped my pa off, started promoting it… Read more »
@Glider
https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/06/the-medium-is-the-message/
Please share this before youtube takes it down. There are powerful forces in our society arrayed against men holding women accountable when they mistreat children.
But the forces of good are stronger. Light has a cleansing quality. How many more situations like this happen every day that we never hear about?
Apologies, here is the link:
Sfcton
http://wp.me/p4pKtS-ND
Reading the opening sentence of the second paragraph, my first thought was, “shit, he’s quitting.” This quotation came to mind:
“It’s just natural, it’s not a great disaster. People keep talking about it like it’s The End of The Earth. It’s only a rock group that split up, it’s nothing important. You know, you have all the old records there if you want to reminisce.”
What a relief.
@If-I-Fell
I’ll never quit. In fact, that’s how you’ll know I’m dead, I’ll stop posting. I’m just reprioritizing things these days. I’m actually considering retiring early (like 55) from my day-to-day career. I’m in a pretty good spot to do so, but then again, I I don’t want to end up like the Captain from Captain and Tenile.
Yes, I agree.
Any man should try to form friendships with other RP men. In real life.
Any people from Germany in here?
@Glider
Replace the band as her gift, with a gift-wrapped hamster wheel.
I’m 58 and also thinking about retiring in 2 or 3 years, depending on when I can sell the farm and various toys I’ve collected over the years. Not sure it’s this right think to do. As long as I have a 120K/year hi tech job why not stick around?
Also started my MSF so motorcycling is to play a big part in my new life
* it’s the right thing to do.
Kinda burnt out from this afternoon’s motorcycle lesson
“Also started my MSF so motorcycling is to play a big part in my new life” Better to be burnt out than it is to rust. I’m jealous. I can’t think of a more masculine thrill (excepting sex or real power) than riding a motorcyle. I’ve always had that as a top priority on my bucket list, but with the caveat that “only if” my professional job, my patriarchal role in raising the children and my harmonious relationship with my wife went to shit. I’m 0/3 on the scoring of the motorcycle. Life doesn’t always honor one’s desires, but surrogates… Read more »
I think most men lack true friends because they don’t have that series of shared extreme hardship experience that create masculine bonds. This lack of masculine friendship is another down side to civilized life Trust? An honest man, who can find? I trust my rifle, my training, the Ranger next to me and my Pit Bull. Again, how do you trust a man who hasn’t gone through some serious shit with you? Killing and fucking? It is the nature of things. When I was a kid, I was #1 in the stack. Didn’t want to do anything else, wasn’t good… Read more »
Congrats on starting the msf!
It becomes more natural and much less like work in a few weeks of weekly riding
Yeah thanks – I’m doing ok when I don’t think of what I’m doing and starting fucking up when I think clutch, gear, brake sequences. There’s a lot of clutch work in the MSF course and the 650 I was riding today had a pretty awful hard clutch lever. Really didn’t help my carpel tunnel syndrome. Still painful as I write this. I can’t think of a more masculine thrill I did pretty hard rock climbing in my 20s-30s. That’s a pretty masculine crowd. Unfortunately I wasn’t… I don’t think it’s what you do that counts – it’s your attitude… Read more »
@Earthling Since I can’t keep my comments to myself when the subject turns to motorcycles, I’ll add my congrats and unsolicited advice. They’ll probably talk about it in the msf course but it just about has to be lived through to sink in. Most people on the road don’t seem to see a motorcycle. It doesn’t fit the subliminal pattern recognition or something, though you’d think it would stand out all the more for that. Riders, and even hope to be riders like SJF (because they think about bikes a lot), when they are driving their cars and trucks see… Read more »
Ladies Day at the Grand National.
@Lost Patrol I get the not being seeing thing. A work buddy had that happen to him. Old geezer in a car just turned into him. Just not seen. MSF training (the written material) speaks to this quite a bit. There’s a good book I think called Effective Motorcycle Riding that talks about this quite a bit. I myself thought and professed for the past 40ish years that mc riders were insane – you’d never catch me on one of those things. So yeah, I’m cautious. I have yet to ride on the rode. SO far just parking lot. Road… Read more »
“I can’t think of a more masculine thrill (excepting sex or real power) than riding a motorcyle.”
My 74 CB360 is running again. It’s been 25 years since I’ve ridden. How bracing. Another new wrinkle in my marriage as I’ve never shown Mrs. Eh I can ride. It’s a serious aphrodisiac, just bombing around town. Fun. I put $4 of gas in all weekend and hung out at coffee shops and Mexican bars.
It’s Effective Cycling and Proficient Motorcycling.
I also recommend Keith Code’s The Soft Science of Road Racing Motorcycles, even if you’re never going to road race.
Oh funny thing about the Mexican restaurant bars here. They hire 17-20 y.o. sassy Latina staff. I routinely bust the male owner for hiring underage girls, he finds it really funnny as he’s otherwise under constant testing from the ladies. I mentioned labor laws and one 17 y.o. actually said, arms defensively across abdomen “I’m a full grown woman!” That brought down the house
Ladies Day at the Grand National. Shit. Why come no hot babes? Narrator: As the 21st century began, human evolution was at a turning point. Natural selection, the process by which the strongest, the smartest, the fastest, reproduced in greater numbers than the rest, a process which had once favored the noblest traits of man, now began to favor different traits. Most science fiction of the day predicted a future that was more civilized and more intelligent. But as time went on, things seemed to be heading in the opposite direction. A dumbing down. How did this happen? Evolution does… Read more »
Really enjoying this website/ blog – particularly the SMV chart. I want to share an interesting throw-away line from a guy I was chatting with on a plane last week that really helped to validate the female chart further for me. He used to manage a highly successful bar in my city. He was telling me, very matter-of-factly that the people who complained to him the most were “middle-aged women, 25 to 35 year olds”. Yes, he bracketed 25 year old women as middle-aged. Their constant complaint? That they weren’t getting enough attention from men in the bar and that… Read more »
Natural selection selects against intelligence. There are few things as messy as birthing children. The smarter you are, the bigger the revulsion/aversion.
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Natural selection selects against intelligence. There are few things as messy as birthing children. The smarter you are, the bigger the revulsion/aversion.
You should not post while drinking. It clearly confuses you. This is not the dumbest thing I’ve read here, but it is close.