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I can remember reading with great interest the particulars of Tiger Woods’ affairs when they went public. Considering his talent and drive I had always thought he’d cashed in far too early by marrying his Swedish model, but this woman represented the feminine archetype most men idealize for most of their lives. When the unattainable becomes attainable for a man so deprived, he tends to look past anything but his most immediate gratification.

However, Tiger was following a common script for beta men, and just this weekend a new example of this script has been illustrated for us in the resignation of General David Petraeus. Petraeus’ story is a classic tale of when youthful beta idealism, an almost self-affirming obliviousness of the SMP, and a Contextual Alpha status run headlong into the realities of our contemporary sexual marketplace and the brave new world of a fem-centric society.

Understandably most of the media concern about Petraeus revolves around the political implications of his resignation as CIA director, but there’s much more ‘under the hood’ here with respect to how he came to resign. For the breakdown have a read here for the timeline of events.

First and foremost, Petraeus is a beta. I realize that’s going to come off as presumptuous on my part, and possibly offensive, but I’m making this assessment based on history and behaviors here.

Disgraced former CIA Director David Petraeus exchanged a sexually explicit email about having sex under a desk with his mistress and continued to pursue her by bombarding her with thousands of messages even after she had broken off the affair it has been revealed.

I have no doubt that manosphere readers subscribing to the “Leaders of Men” definition of Alpha will have their rationales about how Petraeus was never really Alpha, or his actions prove his betaness, but his story follows a common pattern for betas in a feminized social structure. He married his idyllic ‘high school sweetheart’ and launched his military career. Only later in life does he become aware of his true SMV as his wife’s nose-dives after hitting the wall. After his contextual Alpha status has been established he begins to come to awareness of his now matured SMV, and a flirty, subjectively attractive, late 30s PhD looks a whole lot better than clinging to the idealism that’s kept him unaware of how the SMP really works.

For young idealistic betas, the fairytale scenario of marrying the ‘girl of your dreams’ out of high school (college?) seems perfect. If you need a musical example of this, listen to any Taylor Swift song or ‘Hey there Delilah’ by the Plain White T’s. The idea of only ever having sex with that one special girl, that “genetic celebrity”, only reinforces the fantasy for a young beta who’s never gotten laid before. At 17-19 this seems like conviction, but 37 years later, and after realizing his true SMV it’s a liability; it’s a sacrifice that cannot be appreciated.

The cruel hoax is then revealed once a man becomes established in his personality, his career, his maturation and mastery of his particular elements. His achievements are commonplace to the wife he’s been with for decades, but they’re a wellspring of attraction and arousal for women unfamiliar with how he achieved them. As I outlined in Navigating the SMP, there comes a point (usually by his early 30s) that a man, at least should, become aware of his higher sexual market value while realizing the SMV declination of the woman he’s committed himself to. He starts to see the code in the Matrix, and the long term wisdom, or lack of wisdom, his youthful idealism led him to.

The Status-to-Marriage Failsafe

As I stated though, a man should become more aware of his higher SMV as he matures. For some, this is an internalized, subconscious acknowledgement –it’s something a man knows, but either hasn’t the reason or the opportunity to act upon it. For other men it may be a more overt acknowledgement, one useful in prompting dread or reigniting competition anxiety in women. Still for others, such as Petraeus, the acknowledgement doesn’t really come until the right opportunity to address it comes along. In this case in the form of Paula Broadwell.

One societal fail-safe against this inevitable male SMV awareness the feminine imperative has established for women comes in tying a man’s status to his degree of commitment to his wife. For as accomplished and determined a man is, for as lofty as his achievements may be, in girl-world none of that matters unless it directly benefits a woman he’s committed to in an enduring security. Beyond the obvious financial imbalances written into our contemporary divorce laws, there is the societal aspect that accompanies a man’s ‘downfall’ when he cheats on his wife. Tiger Woods could weather the cash & prizes settlement of his divorce, but what he couldn’t weather was the hit to his reputation. His status, his personal perception, was damaged as a result of his breach of contract. Similarly Petraeus, a General with the distinction of a storied military career and directorship of the CIA had his status diminished as a result of this status-to-marriage association.

To further complicate matters Petraeus himself ‘believes’ in this status association so strongly that he was willing to resign his position – relinquishing the source of status that made him attractive to the likes of Broadwell – in order to comply with it.

Back to Beta

Petraeus’ story of beta doesn’t end here. As his relationship with Broadwell decayed we can see further evidence of reverting to beta in his ‘thousands of emails’ to her. As with most people reinserted into the SMP after having married in their youth, Petraeus reverts back to the only social skill set he knew when he was dating his wife – an adolescent social skill set. So the beta desperation comes back strong. For all of his post-revelation posturing about how “We all will make mistakes. The key is to recognize them and admit them, to learn from them, and to take off the rear view mirrors – drive on and avoid making them again.” Petraeus literally made thousands of them. Like any desperate beta I’ve consulted with, he ‘wants his girlfriend baaaaack’ and so, like a teenage boy, inundates her with a barrage of emails over the course of months – not unlike the battery of texts Tiger Woods sent to his mistresses.

I often get criticism for suggesting men ‘explore their options’ in their 20’s. Spin Plates, learn Game, understand the intricacies of how a feminized acculturation has crafted men to be what the imperative would have them be. The idealistic zeal of young men is admirable, (it’s what makes us men) but it’s important to take a long-view of how that idealism is useful to a feminized society. Have a look at the context and reporters uncovering this story. There is no male perspective, there is no male insight, only the reactions of a female perspective in accordance with the feminine specific understanding of the SMV and the social failsafes instituted by fem-centrism.

The set of convictions idealistic young men cling to today aren’t what they believe they are. Your ideal of a “quality woman”, you’re grandfather’s high school sweetheart who was your grandmother are useful archetypes that the imperative is more than happy to have you delude yourself with. There may have been a time when that idealism meant something, but it’s important to understand that it is now a tool of a feminine-primary acculturation.

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Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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3rd Millenium Men
8 years ago

“After his contextual Alpha status has been established he begins to come to awareness of his now matured SMV, and a flirty, subjectively attractive, late 30s PhD looks a whole lot better than clinging to the idealism that’s kept him unaware of how the SMP really works.”

Especially with his biographer. Seems to have been quite a few examples of recent time in men cheating on their wives with them… a lot of alone time access and as they become the woman’s whole world, it’s not surprising that she’d become obsessed with him and things happen……

xsplat
8 years ago

Bob, you were writing about how a masculine thinking style is capable of high level abstraction and detailed big picture conceptualization, while feminine women have next to no big picture conceptual ability. You really need to understand how a girl experiences the world in her everyday life. You must understand that the way you see and understand the world is specifically masculine (unless you’re a girl or a feminine man). You must understand this crucial difference, and cultivate it. You’ll swallow the red pill the day you fully comprehend and embrace your own masculinity. I’ve written a few posts recently… Read more »

xsplat
8 years ago

Comment in moderation because of many links to my blog, but Bob, I’ve been having similar thoughts about masculine vs feminine thinking styles, and wrote some posts recently about how some MGTOW guys have very feminine brains, and speculated about testosterone levels during development in the womb, and as adults.

KnightsCross
KnightsCross
8 years ago

Beta. No need to argue this. Look at his wife. If you are an Alpha would you allow such a slide in your spouse? Heck no, you’d be pushing her into the gym, getting her to run with you. Would you be so played by a ManJaw writer? It’s simple, Petraeus got duped. I’m in a position where I have lots of underling females that look up to me. Same thing, it’s at my place of employment. To get some there is career suicide. We’ve all seen it. Petraeus just did it on a national scene. Sure plenty of women… Read more »

Underdog
Underdog
8 years ago

“Further, Fox News confirms that the FBI agent who originally spurred the Petraeus investigation was taken off the case because authorities grew concerned about his relationship with Kelley. Kelley had alerted this agent to her concerns about the harassing emails from the start, but the agent was removed from the case over the summer because of his behavior, which included sending shirtless photos of himself to Kelley. He now faces an internal investigation.”

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

itsme
itsme
8 years ago

If Petraeus was such a beta weakling at heart, how could he accidentally induce a high-quality woman like Broadwell to betray her “contextual alpha” husband

because she’s not a high quality woman. she is, for all intents and purposes, a high quality man.

Guy
Guy
8 years ago

This is a fine piece of work, sir. Really well written, and much appreciated. There’s something that bugs me, though, and you can probably guess what it is: Patreus is a highly decorated military man, with combat tour stripes all the way up his arm. A “leader of men” as a result of brave accomplishments. He is Alpha, by your definition: “you are not Alpha because of your achievements, you have your achievements because you are Alpha.” Yet, he is, in the end, or in the beginning, or now, Beta. The concept of contextual Alpha seems an easy out. Alpha… Read more »

Tam the Bam
Tam the Bam
8 years ago

Guy’s a bureaucrat. Married into the aristocracy.
Had a glittering career, implementing the decisions of others, under strict supervision.
Sure he wielded unimaginable power.
So did the Emperor’s Chief Eunuch, compared to say, Spartacus.

Gruesome
Gruesome
8 years ago

What a mindfucking orgas… er, explosion of ideas!

Aleph
8 years ago

Turns out that Petraeus had ANOTHER woman, and she was catfighting with Broadwell for the rights to Petraeus’s wrinkly ballsack.

Two MILF’s, married with children in electronic mortal combat over him and you guys are probably still going to call him beta.

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505263_162-57548827/who-is-jill-kelley/

taterearl
8 years ago

@Aleph…

Ever heard of the concept…kitty kats kompete. She was trying to do the same thing the other manjaw was trying to do. But I guarentee you if she got Petraeus…he would of sent her thousands of emails.

Beta is a mindset…he was alpha in stature.

Rollo Tomassi
8 years ago
Reply to  taterearl

Matt King’s absence noted without comment.

King A (Matthew King)
8 years ago

Robert wrote:

Yup. Honeymoon bed. All that conquering and rapine, and he still couldn’t Game her pants off.

Brush up your history before you make a comment. Read the story of Honoria and Attila and get back to me about what a beta he was.

Now Attila the fucking Hun is a betamale according to game logic. You are becoming a parody of yourselves.

Matt

King A (Matthew King)
8 years ago

Rollo snarked: Matt King’s absence noted without comment. What absence would that be? Correcting your errors is not my favorite pastime. I do what I can, when I’m inclined to. I see nothing in your doubling down on precipitate innuendo that requires further debunking. Confirmation bias’s gonna confirm bias. You mock the idea of alpha as “Leader of Men®” as if that were some erroneous and competing definition of the term rather than the original and more precise meaning before gameboys claimed the word for themselves to turn it on its head. The affair simply would not have happened if… Read more »

King A (Matthew King)
8 years ago

taterearl writes:

Beta is a mindset…he was alpha in stature.

The “alpha in stature” defines the alpha mindset. Men do not/cannot attain the stature through a beta mindset. If they did, it would ipso facto become the alpha mindset.

You have reverse engineered the process to confirm a theory that is notable by its inflexibility and goes against every piece of incontrovertible evidence that indicates Petraeus’s alpha, preferring rumor to fact.

Matt

Rollo Tomassi
8 years ago

So, no comment on Petraeus’ and Allen’s white knighting influence to overturn custody of a child from his father to a woman the judge described thusly: The generals’ letters to the court — written in the past two months — supported a motion to overturn a ruling made nearly a year earlier by a judge who resoundingly denied custody to Khawam, because of serious reservations about her honesty and mental stability, court records show. The father, Grayson Wolfe, was unable to see the child for more than a year, according to court documents. The judge overseeing the case cited Khawam… Read more »

FuriousFerret
FuriousFerret
8 years ago

Matt seems to agree with the alpha/beta terminology when it fits his right wing republican view points. I have seen him refer to the President of the United States Barak Obama as a beta. A man that is infinitely more masculine and suave than a thousand Peteraus’. Petreaus is a nerd general, plain and simple. He has the X and Os down pat but he is (beta, dweeb, whatever fuck you want to call it) when it comes to acting in an instinctively masculine manner. If Petreaus was a liberal democrat Matt would be in total agreement of the assessment… Read more »

OlioOx
OlioOx
8 years ago

It seems to me you two squabbling boys are simply disagreeing over the definition, or definitions, of that unfortunately chosen word ‘alpha.’ Remember what happened to Mystery once? In the middle of getting his professional PUA career going, when he was already a bona fide seducer and proven quantity as a man who could talk his way into bed with beautiful women, he had a complete oneitis breakdown over a woman. It’s all documented in Neil Strauss’ book. Clearly this alpha/non-alpha thing can be rather complicated at times. According to one given definition of alpha, Petraeus is it. He drove… Read more »

OlioOx
OlioOx
8 years ago

It might be helpful if, every time a discussion involving ‘who’s alpha’ like this emerges, the poster or commenter includes a link to his preferred definition of ‘alpha’, or otherwise clearly defines his terms.

OlioOx
OlioOx
8 years ago

By the way, Heartiste has just posted his take on the Petraeus thing, and I’d say it’s probably all anyone needs to read. Perhaps some of you might compare it point-for-point with Rollo’s take here, I gotta run.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/11/15/petraeus-and-the-infidelity-risk-curve/

King A (Matthew King)
8 years ago

Rollo wrote: So, no comment on Petraeus’ and Allen’s white knighting ….? I in fact have no comment. You know why? It’s not because I don’t have my criticism of Petraeus. He is lacking in many ways. The reason why I don’t care and you do is because you have a bloodhound’s sniff for this kind of irrelevant trivia, seeking as you are to fit pieces of evidence into a prefabricated theory, regardless of the quality of that evidence, regardless of the weakness of that theory. This was never about making Petraeus out to be the ideal incarnation of the… Read more »

King A (Matthew King)
8 years ago

FuriousFerret wrote: Matt seems to agree with the alpha/beta terminology when it fits his right wing republican view points. I have seen him refer to the President of the United States Barak Obama as a beta. A man that is infinitely more masculine and suave than a thousand Peteraus’. So clever. Everything is just a reflection of ideology. “The personal is the political.” When I see beta behavior in front of my eyes, I call it out. When a rise to leadership is based on competition and self-initiative, rather than passively benefiting from a wave of racial condescension, I take… Read more »

Hopeless Romantic
Hopeless Romantic
8 years ago

I’m a hopeless romantic but even I know that lifelong monogamy is not natural for many people. Open marriage peeps, open marriage. For the sake of the kids!

Beatris
8 years ago

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