Alpha

The Alpha Buddah, Corey Worthington.

What I’m about to type here is not going to make me any new friends. I know because any discussion of what constitutes Alpha characteristics in a Man always becomes clouded by the self-perceptions of how well we think we align with them. As I’ve covered in prior postings, the ‘community’, the ‘manosphere’, the new understanding of gender relations that’s picked up momentum for the last 12 years has always generated it’s own terminologies for more abstract concepts. The danger in this is that these terms lack real, universal definition. For purposes of illustrating a concept these terms are usually serviceable – we have a general understanding of what makes for a ‘Beta’ or a Herb, or a man who falls into a ‘provider’ mentality. Even ‘Alpha’ in a specific context is useful as an illustrative tool, when the subject isn’t directly about ‘Alpha-ness’. It’s when we try to universally define what constitutes Alpha that the sparks start to fly. So before you continue on reading further, think about what you believe makes a guy Alpha. Got it in your head now? Good, now put all of that aside, purge that from your head, and read the next few paragraphs from the perspective that you don’t know anything about Alpha.

I was first introduced to the Alpha Buddah courtesy of Roissy and this post “Umm, sorry?” You can go ahead and read this from the Chateau’s perspective, and I think the analysis is pretty good. I call Corey the Alpha Buddah not in the hopes that men will aspire to his almost Zen like ‘being’ in Alpha, but rather to provide an example of Alpha in it’s most pure form. He literally IS Alpha, unclouded by pretense, afterthought, or conscious awareness of any influence that could have a hope of prompting introspection about his state.

Corey Worthington is a piss poor example of a human being, but he’s a textbook example of Alpha. I could use a lot of adjectives to describe this kid, but “beta” wouldn’t be one of them. What’s funny, and a bit ironic, is this kid has probably never come across Mystery Method or “the community” or even heard of ‘peacocking’ and he gets naturally what millions of guys pay small fortunes at PUA seminars to acquire over the course of a lifetime. He’s a selfish little prick, but what makes him insulting to ‘normal’ men is his having the natural, internalized Alpha bravado so many AFCs wish they had. If you could bottle and sell this Alpha essence, you’d be rich beyond imagine.

Right about now all of those self-affirming preconceptions you had about Alpha-ness (that I told you to stow away before reading this) are probably yelling to be let out of the mental box you put them in. “,..but, but Rollo, how can you possibly think this arrogant douchebag kid could ever be an example of anything remotely Alpha?!” You’ll be pleased to know I fully empathize your outrage. You work hard to be a “better man”, you put in the self analysis, you paid your dues coming to terms with unplugging and reinventing yourself. You’re a success, Corey is fuck-up. Corey’s not a better Man than you are, however, he understands Alpha better than you do.

Alpha is mindset, not a demographic.

Alpha is as Alpha does, it isn’t what we say it is. There are noble Alphas and there are scoundrel Alphas, the difference is all in how they apply themselves. There’s a tendency to approach every “Alpha” argument from what a guy thinks is righteousness; ergo, his personal definition of Alpha is what appeals best to his sense of virtue. He earned his Alpha cred, played by the rules, and by God people (women) should respect that. However, the sad truth is that prisons are full of Alpha males who simply channeled their drive toward destructive and anti-social endeavors. There are plenty of examples of indifferent Asshole Alphas who you wouldn’t say are upstanding moral leaders at all, yet women will literally kill each other (or themselves) in order to bang them because they exude a natural Alpha-ness. Just as Corey does here. There are Alpha drug dealing gang leaders, and there are Alpha husbands, fathers and leaders of industry. It’s all in the application. Genghis Khan was Alpha as fuck, and a leader-of-men, but probably would be on most people’s douchebag list for that era. Here’s an illustration:

 

Guy’s like Corey infuriate men who have invested their self-worth in the accomplishments of what they think ought to be universally appreciated and rewarded. So when they’re confronted with a natural Alpha being undeservedly rewarded for brazenly acting out of accord with what they think the rules ought to be, they seethe with resentment. The natural response in the face of such an inconsistency is to redefine the term ‘Alpha’ to cater to themselves and their accomplishments as “real men” and exclude the perpetrator. The conflict then comes from seeing his new definition of Alpha not being rewarded or even appreciated as well as a natural Alpha attitude and the cycle continues. Your respect (or anyone else’s) for an Alpha has nothing to do with whether or not he possess an Alpha mindset. 3 failed marriages and 100+ lays has nothing to do with his having or not having an Alpha mindset. There are many well respected betas who’ve never had a passing thought of infidelity, or may have 300 lays either with prostitutes or because they possess fame or stunning good looks and women come to him by matter of course.

The take home message here is that you are not Alpha because of your achievements, you have your achievements because you are Alpha. You possess a mindset you either had to develop or it came naturally to you. I constantly field questions from young men asking me whether some action or behavior they displayed to a woman was Alpha, or Alpha enough. The real answer is that Alpha behaviors are manifestations of an Alpha mindset. And just like Corey the Alpha Buddah, the introspect required to wonder if something was or wasn’t Alpha wouldn’t ever be a consideration enough to ask. You almost need to have a childlike understanding to really appreciate what Alpha really is. Kids get Alpha. Even the picked on, introverted, beta-to-be kid has a better understanding of Alpha than most adult men do because he lacks the abstract thinking required to rationalize Alpha for himself. Most men, by our socialization, and to varying degrees, lose this in-born Alpha mindset over time. The naturals, the Corey’s of the world, have a better grasp on it’s usefulness and repurpose it; either to their adulthood advantage or their detriment.

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Author of The Rational Male and The Rational Male, Preventive Medicine

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Djeed
Djeed
7 years ago

It looks to me the same as if one would define the “winner mindset” as the one that makes you “win”. This is called an adhoc definition.

Djeed
Djeed
7 years ago

Rollo, I agree with the fact that alphaness is amoral. But if every man in the world would start to behave pure alpha without any concern in moral, our society would turn into chaos.

Would you agree in that alpha mindset should always be supported by a “constructive moral” layer?

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B2
B2
7 years ago

PUA’s get women through their own efforts and playing on women’s weaknesses. For Alphas, women come to them naturally.

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Jack.Rayner
6 years ago

I thought the kid was hilarious. Actually surprised to see that some really did take you naming him “alpha” as an affront. And I can relate to having the “alpha” suppressed by conditioning. You mentioned your background in psychology, and it made me wonder if you would have something to say on my situation. I feel like my transition from Iraq back to the civilian world, namely the therapy I went through for my PTSD, did the most to kill my inner alpha. After about of year of one night stands after returning home from Iraq, I finally agreed to… Read more »

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Tgrln
Tgrln
6 years ago

I submit here the 6yr old Alpha Buddah: Hunter

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=05c_1386748043

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5 years ago

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TuffLuv
TuffLuv
5 years ago

Fuckin love this guy.

TuffLuv
TuffLuv
5 years ago

Sometimes alpha is simply the knowledge that you don’t have to do what a bitch (or any authority) says.

“Oh, you thought since you have me on the air and you’re a well spoken, accomplished, older, attractive woman, you could order me to take off my glasses before I apologize? Uh, No.”

Go, take a good hard look at your self..

Uh, I have.. so has everyone else. and they love it. LOL

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mrmancy
5 years ago

Reblogged this on mrmancy's Blog.

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5 years ago

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bear
bear
5 years ago

Im married – never was a huge player when single. But Ive always been pretty selfish, blunt,cocky , headstrong and never really cared what others thought about me or what I did. Needless to say when I was single, there were many instances where I was literally jumped by women. Getting laid was easy. Reading this article it now makes perfect sense.

brody
4 years ago

I have encountered the term `alpha male` in social animals like wolves. It’s basically a leader of the pack, who

brody
4 years ago

I have encountered the term `alpha male` in social animals like wolves. It’s basically a leader of the pack, who gets to mate any female he wants. National Geographic actually did a revealing documentary about a not-so-typical black wolf in Yellowstone who, over the course of his lifetime, had a great number of offspring with multiple females, by not being the alpha of the group. He was kind of an outcast who charmed a group’s females and get them to follow him. He eventually did became a leader of his own pack in his later years. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9pIeKyYqTfw). My definition of… Read more »

rugby11ljh
rugby11ljh
4 years ago

Alpha is a mindset

Bold Seduction
4 years ago

This is great. Thank you for sharing. It reminds me of that comment from a girl “Real men would do this…” – Response: “Well, then I’m not a real man.” – You do what you want, when you want, and no-on else’s ideas even remotely come into it.

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Sully
4 years ago

Wow, she is the most sanctimonious, superior, condescending feminist douche I’ve seen in quite a while.

Toshihiro Tanaka
Toshihiro Tanaka
4 years ago

Beautiful post & discussion.

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eghost247
3 years ago

Reblogged this on eghost247.

Karnak
Karnak
3 years ago

Now…let’s see. Assuming that dressing yourself like a gay, wearing a nipple piercing and speaking shit just because one is seen as “cool” by the society’s weak standards, one’s wealthy, has a lot of fag buddies who support every crap that drools out of his mouth is … Alpha behaviour?? So…so wrong, people. Please, Rollo, please… Don’t put Genghis Khan in the same class as this rich Corey looser. The great mongol Khan would cut off your head, drag your corpse tied to his horse and take your wife and children as slaves. Being an Alpha is, first and foremost,… Read more »

Saint Fond
Saint Fond
3 years ago

Alpha is following the beat of your own drum. Alpha is having a deep understanding of society and reality: be it inherently so or be it learned strictly through philosophy. With this understanding of society the alpha male rejects its notion, and chooses if he will be civilized or if he will rebel, but the choice is his alone: no influence by anyone shall be leave their mark upon the alpha male. He acquires information and sorts out the useful from the nil all for advantageous purposes.

Nathan
Nathan
3 years ago

Read somewhere Korey is doing well, his own home, a missus (maybe wife i forget). Im thinking its social engineering rewarding the Alphas to improve the gene pool. Just a thought, maybe paranoia.

mark
mark
3 years ago

i been beta my whole life when it came to females i cared about. i was raised by a single mother who hated men and that included me. my affirmation never really came by her unless i was a “good boy”. even then it was superficial and very short lived. now in my adult life its been bullshit. seems like my life mission has been to find the acceptance from women that i never got from my mom. i have no problem w women being attracted to me. its the ones i really like are the ones that i end… Read more »

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Stoic101
Stoic101
2 years ago

Hmm….basically your saying a 16 yrd old intelligence is alpha; which to me sort of makes sense because most girls are locked in a 16 yr old mindset if not younger. Most girls are emotionally children or teenagers, so it wouldn’t be a surprise to make the claim that a guy that acts like a teenage girls version of a ‘badass’ would be what you would describe as ‘alpha’…the problem with defining alpha this way is its in the woman’s frame and not the mans frame. The assumption is this guy is what girls want, when an alpha term is… Read more »

Stoic101
Stoic101
2 years ago

hmmm

zzzz
zzzz
2 years ago

zzzz….

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Steve W
Steve W
1 year ago

Hi Rollo, I’ve been a big fan of yours for several years now. You’ve helped me immensely to navigate our current society in almost every way. On top of owning your first 2 books, this is my 2nd re-read of your “Best of 1st Season” series. This particular post “Alpha” I believe to be one of your most profound posts, period. One minor issue I have noticed with your incredible content is many typographical errors. To be honest, I am surprised that an author of your caliber has never hired someone to go back over your previous post histories and… Read more »

Steve W
Steve W
1 year ago

Also, please amend my screen name to “Steve W”, I could not find anywhere on your site to do so. Sincerely, Steve W

DANIEL HUGHES
DANIEL HUGHES
1 year ago

I have, everyone has, they love it. Legend!

Allyn71
Allyn71
1 year ago

“Corey Worthington is a piss poor example of a human being, but he’s a textbook example of Alpha.”

Nope. An alpha is that paragon of virtue, integrity, and honor, along with good looks, a sense of humor, and a killer competitive nature.

Ben
Ben
1 year ago

Am I the only one to look up Cory in 2018 and see he married an ugly, older chic, while still in his mid 20s? Comments?

Googler
Googler
1 year ago

Ever wondered what happened to this Alpha Buddha? He got married at 24, on a 28yo obese girl. Look at his beta-nized face now:

https://www.nowtolove.com.au/news/real-life/corey-worthingtons-balinese-wedding-31329

Sadly, a common fate of natural alphas.

The empirical mysoginist
The empirical mysoginist
2 months ago

This sounds familiar. I know you disagree with some of JP’s views, but in his personality lectures, when explaining the big 5 personality dimensions model, this is quite the textbook example of the disagreeable end of the agreeableness dimension.
More interesting though, is that here seems to be independent replication of results, which is a form of validation.

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