The whole dialogue surrounding the applied tactics of game for the beginner is of course about fakery. One hopes the process creates something real beyond improving acting skills.

As an actor, people are all around you expecting you to perform on cue. It’s about breaking down the walls of insecurity and pushing all inhibitions aside in the moment. You, your body language, your breathing, your voice… become the emotional truth that will affect the audience the way that truth is intended to affect her.

From “The Rational Male – Preventive Medicine” by Rollo Tomassi:

There are a lot of guys paying ‘marriage coaches’ $150 an hour because they never did. There was a great comment I received in this regard that was too good not to include…:

“…Up to now I have faked my Game, to some extent . I just knew better than to do certain things or did things I knew would make me attractive, etc. to women. But seeing this now, not only am I realizing there is nothing to be bitter about – I was always happier working on myself and my interests and actually resentful of having to stop them – but that I am actually happier doing this thing women want of us we call “performing”. In a way, you are performing, as Rollo says, either way…(partial excerpt of the comment – the whole comment is in the book)”

@Badpainter, so the commenter “faked” his game to some extent. But, really, each person, in real life, has to be an actor. It’s not practice that makes perfect, it’s perfect practice that makes perfect. When we’re doing the alpha mindset the right way, habitually, positive stuff happens. It’s reinforced, and this makes the habit begin to become a part of who we are.

From “The Rational Male – Preventive Medicine” by Rollo Tomassi:

As I’ve stated on many occasions, it is men who are the True Romantics. Granted, it’s the indeliberate result of centuries of evolved ‘courtly love’, but in the realm of what qualifies as a true act of romance, it’s men who are the primary actors; it’s men who ‘make’ (or want to make) romance happen. And of course therein lies the problem, a man cannot ‘make’ romance happen for a woman.

When the alpha mindset becomes who he is, he’s considered ‘successful’ in everything he does. In person, people do not approach that man and accuse him of being fake or inauthentic. It is who he is even though he did not begin that way.

Well said. As a demonstration of what you said, do you remember in the movie “Hitch” actor Kevin Sussman is “Neil” and actor Will Smith is “Hitch”

“Hitch: The shoes are hot. You went to the place I told you?

Neil: Yeah, but I don’t think they’re really me. “You” is a very fluid concept right now.

Hitch: You bought the shoes.

You look great in the shoes.

That’s the you I’m talking about.”

In other words, this is not normal for Neil, it feels uncomfortable for Neil, but what Neil was instinctually doing has not been working.

It is not inauthentic to take the actions of self improvement. We were not born knowing how to tie our shoes. Is it not ‘who we are’ to tie our shoes?

From “The Rational Male – Preventive Medicine” by Rollo Tomassi:

To the boys who grow into Beta men, the ready eagerness with which they’ll roll over and reveal their bellies to women comes from a conditioned belief that doing so will prove their emotional maturity and help them better identify with the women they mistakenly believe have a capacity to appreciate it…

Of course I had no idea I was practicing any Game at the time. I had reinvented myself and my identity shifted into that of a guy who was Spinning Plates, being more self -concerned and enjoying the benefits of that social proof and DHV; but if you’d asked me what I’d done to effect that change… I wouldn’t have been able to give you an answer then – Game was just instinctual for me. Now in my married years, as a husband and the father of a teenage daughter, and my professional life in the… where I interact with beautiful women on a weekly basis, I still employ Game when I don’t realize I am… You can unplug. You can change your programming

The latest Rollo Tomassi is simply a must-read for all men, even men that assume they’ll disagree with its concepts. On this particular topic, he has added sections that are not part of the glossary, which further explain the answer to the question. The book has mountains of mind-blowing NEW MATERIAL that’s never appeared on this blog. I could cut/paste more, but eventually I’ll just have to quote the whole book.

@Badpainter you also wrote:
For myself that’s where Rollo comes, providing the knowledge of how and why things work as they do. Those of us who unplug are as children copying adults to learn. Part of that learning is learning to identify what is real and what is not.

Well said. The beauty of it is that we have the ability, in choosing male friends, mentors etc, to choose ONLY those that LIVE the Alpha mindset. We have the ability to turn off the TV and YouTube and other stuff that’s not doing something that will enhance life exponentially instead: Learning from those with that authentic mindset like Rollo Tomassi.

That’s sort of what I meant. I think the question tipareth raises is an illustration of misunderstanding what you are saying.

The Alpha mindset exists separate from external factors, and in spite of those factors. In my mind it’s a matter of costume vs. character vs. action. The whole holding doors BS a couple weeks back is what I am talking about. I see the Alpha/Beta debate as often missing the point and being a distraction in that too much time spent arguing about the costumes and scripts.

A man who buys the Alpha costume and apes the stereotypical behaviors without the mindset won’t pass close scrutiny. The man with the Alpha mindset can wear whatever costume he wants, act how he wants.

The whole dialogue surrounding the applied tactics of game for the beginner is of course about fakery. One hopes the process creates something real beyond improving acting skills.

For myself that’s where Rollo comes, providing the knowledge of how and why things work as they do. Those of us who unplug are as children copying adults to learn. Part of that learning is learning to identify what is real and what is not.

Rollo Tomassi is another great example of this. He doesn’t just write about this stuff, but he demonstrates in when he chooses to help someone.

One of the times I remember when I reached out to him for advice. His response was not beta. It was Alpha. He didn’t say, “Oh, Sam, you pitiful little man, let me listen to all the details about how much you’re hurting and let send you a teddy bear.”

Instead he asked me why I had chosen to put myself in that situation. It was a masculine, matter of fact question. No long explanation was needed. He’s like “The Adjustment Bureau” but in a positive way.

Instead of the soft BS one might hear from a well-educated psychologist, Rollo Tomassi snapped me – the ‘patient’ – back by reframing my mindset back to the state it had been practicing for years. There is no room for anything else.

The lack of congruence with the alpha mindset causes problems like beta behaviors. Beta behaviors are recipes for tragedy.

Victor Pride writes with that mindset.

Victor Pride and Mike Cernovich answer that question in every blog post.

Mike is a close friend that I’ve spent a lot of time with him in person prior to his extended relocation this year. I’ve never seen one second of beta behavior from him. It’s in a group I brought him into that’s filled with people that would intimidate most men and also in a larger group of our friends, girlfriends/spouse etc there is simply no beta behavior. He’s respected for that.

The only MEN other than relatives that I surround myself with are Alpha Men.

Your time is limited, so it’s important to avoid spending that time (if you mean close friends) with males that do not exude congruent Alpha.

The only MEN that I make introductions to my network of top performers, global leaders, innovators, celebrities, etc, as necessary… are alpha leaders.

One of my voice coaches is one of the best on earth at what he does. Despite that, his voice is not known for it’s depth. On the scale of male voices, his voice has a higher pitch, yet he has complete control over his voice presence. NO ONE thinks of him as anything but Alpha because, despite a higher pitched voice, he has complete control over his body language, voice presence, frame etc