Donal Graeme had some very relevant ‘musings’ about last week’s post that summed things up and provides me with a great prelude into this week’s post. I hadn’t intended these last couple of posts (and now this one) to become another series (again). I suppose they are now, but I don’t think I’ve quite hit this from all angles just yet. In the interests of full disclosure I should point out that these last three posts were inspired by the first section of the Preventive Medicine book I’m presently working on so it helps organize my thoughts.
From Donal Graeme’s Removing the Mask:
Many, if not most, men would not be content to marry a woman whom they realize is choosing to marry them solely as a meal ticket, and effectively a sperm donor as well. It should surprise no one that men don’t like to be used in that way, and will balk at it if they realize that is what is happening. Hence the importance of hiding what is going on from them.
On the other hand, this repulsion at being used is mitigated/countered by a sense of desperation in many men in the West. Owing to the nature of the SMP, they have limited options when it comes to female companionship. Naturally, this makes them desperate, and they are willing to take on women they wouldn’t otherwise if it gets them at least some measure of opportunity with them.
What seems to be happening is that many women are now certain that male desperation in the future will be greater than any sense of male self-respect, and so they can do whatever they want and not have to hide it. Part of me wonders if women see the ability to be open about their intentions/strategy as a status symbol- a woman who can act that way is a woman of value, and therefore a woman to be envied. The problem with this strategy, though, is that it relies on male desperation not having any limits. I suspect this to be a grave mistake. This is because the average quality of women in the West has been dropping fast, perhaps even faster than male desperation has been rising. If that is the case, we will soon reach a point where most men will simply not accept the (Western) women who are available, no matter how desperate they might have become.
All of this plays into part of this subject- the looming fight between women. Women at the margins of “value” will start to feel the pinch first. The “where have all the good men gone?” articles out there seem to indicate that this has already begun. It will only increase in tempo over time as more and more women drop below the acceptable rate for most men. Combine this with many men being burned or realizing what a danger most Western women are, and you get a huge disparity in outcome between the female “haves” and “have-nots”.
This may seem optimistic coming from me, but I think it will be ‘educated’ men who are the 3rd rail in this equation.
Men at the top end of the SMV curve will always be the commodity over which women will feel entitled to. Feminine hypergamy does not seek its own level, it looks for a better-than-market optimization. Thus the ideal ‘balance’ is one where there is a greater than 1-2 SMV degree difference between that of a man and the women he spins as plates or considers to become intimate with in the long term.
The Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategies
For one sex’s sexual strategy to become realized, the other sex’s strategy must be compromised or abandoned entirely.
One of the greatest misdirections of gender understanding over the past 60 years has been the idea that both men and women should share the same sexual strategy. A naive equalitarian ideology dictates the need for both genders to have equally similar, cooperative gender life goals, and equally similar methods to realize them. But as with most feminine-primary social engineering, Mother Nature and men and women’s biological imperatives are always at odds with this.
Generally this assimilation of a commonized sexual strategy is ingrained early on in men’s feminization conditioning. I use the term ‘assimilation’ because men are taught and conditioned to presume that the feminine sexual strategy (however most women subjectively choose to define it) is universally the correct strategy – and any deviation from what ultimately serves feminine hypergamy is met with ridicule at best, accusations of misogyny and ostracization at worst.
The goal of feminism is to remove all constraints on female sexuality while maximally restricting male sexuality.
Roissy dropped this maxim years ago, but in its simplicity it defines the Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategies as they apply to a post-sexual revolution, feminine-primary society. Remove all constraints on hypergamy, maximally forcing men to compromise or abandon the male sexual strategy.
As I outlined in the last post, feminine hypergamy essentially revolves around optimizing (and maximally protracting) women’s unilateral sexual selection from Good Genes men and Good Dad’s men. Alpha Fucks / Beta Bucks.
From a biological perspective men’s sexual imperative is one of unlimited access to unlimited sexual availability. This isn’t to discount the very strong impulse in men to seek assurances of paternity in the children they ultimately sire, however, prior to his parental investment, the male impetus is to seek unlimited access to unlimited sexuality.
When we consider a male sexual imperative in the biological respect, and the strategies men use to effect it, it becomes easier to understand the social conventions and engineering the Feminine Imperative uses to control and maximally restrict men as sexual selectors.
Widespread ubiquitous pornography and then the social pathologizing of the male sexual response (while empowering and encouraging the female sexual response) are two very easy observations of this control. However, when we consider paternity laws, legal bans on genetic paternity testing, outlawing testosterone while making female hormones readily available and many other legal and social trends that restrict the male control not just of women’s hypergamous priority, but any degree of a man’s shadow of his own sexual strategy’s control, Roissy’s maxim becomes all the more clear.
Is Game Adversarial?
Almost three years ago I considered this question in a post. My critic at the time posed this to me:
“My biggest problem with the Ro writers is that Game is by definition adversarial. It’s us against them, don’t let the bitch win. That is most definitely Rollo’s approach, yet he commands respect from men here. I can only assume that good men read a lot of Roissy, Roosh or Rollo, incorporate some small fraction of it, and use it to improve their relationships, rather than for nefarious means.”
It took time for me to come into an understanding of the real nature of this distortion concern until May’s tragic events and the deliberate misdirections that followed it in the media and the blogosphere proper.
Game is adversarial because it has to be. I’ve gone on record stating that Game is the logical response to the changes feminism has wrought in society and gender relations over the course of the last 60 or so years, but it’s really more than that.
Game is a threat to feminine-primacy because it returns a degree of control of sexual strategy prioritization back into the hands of men. Game challenges that maximal restriction of male sexuality and leverages (however marginally) some of women’s hypergamous choice to his own purpose.
The Feminine Imperative hates Game because it’s an effective tool against its control – so anyone steeped in the conditioning of the imperative will naturally perceive that challenge as being adversarial. You’ll notice this (female) critic’s first concern was to presume men would use Game and a red pill awareness for ‘nefarious’ ends. This is a prime illustration of that terror of losing hypergamous control.
Tricks and Traps
As I mentioned at the beginning, hypergamy does not seek it’s own level. An ever pragmatic evolution drives hypergamy to seek a better-than-equal pairing. This is the evolutionary jackpot: to combine and send one’s genes into future generations with a (at least perceptually) better than equitable genetic match – and ensure one’s progeny with a better than SMV equitable provisioning.
For all of the handwringing about assortive mating recently, evolution’s capacity to adapt stagnates and stunts under conditions of homogeny. It may occur under less than ideal circumstance from a moral perspective, but assortive mating is regularly thwarted by the (usually hypergamous) drive to mate with a better than equitable sexual market value than the lesser partner.
The problem with the assortive mating equation is that hypergamy has two sides and two (often conflicting) aspects to optimizing it – Good Genes / Good Dad (Alpha Fucks / Beta Bucks). Assortive mating is not the same order as assortive pairing.
Nature has selected-for women with an instinctual capacity to satisfy and optimize the visceral needs of short-term breeding and optimizing on the genetic aspects of hypergamy. However the better-than-SMV assortive pairing aspect relies on men adhering to and behaving within defined roles in order to optimize it.
The Feminine Imperative needs honest provider males to behave predictably in order for women to select a better than equitable provider.
The Feminine Imperative demands assurances of both better than equitable breeding and better than equitable provisioning – and it’s got a very brief window of sexual peak SMV competitiveness in which to assure them.
The imperative needs men to fulfill these roles according to calculated and defined sexual stations of each man. So any duplicity or challenge on the part of men to this defined order is a threat to the assurances that women need to optimize hypergamy. Hypergamy’s optimal window of peak SMV for women can’t afford to be tricked into presuming men are anything less or more than their feminine sexual strategies define those men’s roles as.
Hypergamy can’t afford tricks, the ‘tricks’ that Game’s breaking of their sexual strategy’s code represents to women expecting to have their sexual strategy remain unilaterally dominant. As women’s comfort level has increased with the confidence that their strategy will contain that of men’s, they are that much more offended when their strategy is figured out and read back to them by red pill aware men.
It’s an uncomfortable reminder that they’ve traded their believed capacity to intuitively filter for themselves the men who best fill their hypergamous roles; traded that is for the comfort of having men socially controlled to expect to fulfill those roles as a default.
This outrage isn’t just limited to women’s hypergamous ‘exploratory’ years in her SMV peak. Whenever you read an article or hear some 33 year old woman lament the lack of marriageable men of ‘equal’ pairing to themselves (intellectually, professionally or otherwise) know that every cry of ‘Man Up’ is really a frustrated cry over men not playing by the conditioning the Feminine Imperative assured them men would play by, before or once they got to the point of losing the capacity to attract those men.
That’s the trap.
June 26th, 2014 at 5:03 pm
@ Kate – Okay, I’ll try a different tack here, because really, I want to be in a happy place. First off, the link to the honor article was great, I think I read it before but that was during my Rollo deep dive and it sunk in more here.
But here’s the thing. I’m here to talk to men. I hear from women everywhere in society – do you really not understand that yet? If another women doesn’t give me another piece of advice in my life, I’d be just great. I’ve told you this before – but you persist. Why? Does my request that you just leave me the fuck alone not register? I don’t care if you have the formula for turning lead into gold, just don’t speak with me.
As for the ‘war children’ post, yawn. Professionals have a much better bead on this issue with ideas like triangulation and parental alienation. You also might consider that your child simply hated being in your “frame” of life and was seeking to be anywhere else. Women’s frames are unstable and irrational usually, and most people don’t enjoy being in them for the long hauls as a result.
In fact, one of the major improvements in my life from the Red Pill has come from actively removing myself from environments where I’m in a woman’s frame. Whether it’s work or family or social events – I simply don’t participate or bail as soon as I realize it. You see, I recognized that anytime I was inside a woman’s frame, chaos ruled. Stupidity ruled. Emotions ruled. Reason was shut down. No sense of equity or fairness. Nope,and certainly, no respect.
So it could be that your kid just couldn’t stand living in the world you created. Just sayin’…
June 26th, 2014 at 5:12 pm
“This outrage isn’t just limited to women’s hypergamous ‘exploratory’ years in her SMV peak. Whenever you read an article or hear some 33 year old woman lament the lack of marriageable men of ‘equal’ pairing to themselves (intellectually, professionally or otherwise) know that every cry of ‘Man Up’ is really a frustrated cry over men not playing by the conditioning the Feminine Imperative assured them men would play by, before or once they got to the point of losing the capacity to attract those men.”
Well said.
I hope Men wake up because I notice a lot of dumb guys still. Sometimes I am happy because more women for me; however, then I feel pity and annoyed as to why these men don’t see this shit happening before their faces.
Case Point: My friend “Bob Beta” recently got divorced. This was post-red pill for me and I saw it a mile away and warned him. Bob is much older than me around early 50’s. I’ve noticed other men late 40’s and up to have this mindset where by marrying a women they assume guaranteed: sex and commitment without doing anything to initiate or maintain it. Post red-pill this becomes the perceived expectation of sex and commitment. A man always “pays for it” in some degree (emotionally, time, money, etc.) especially when the courts get involved. Imagine a judge telling a women that for every $1000 dollars of alimony she receives she is required 2hrs of emotional support with her ex-spouse or 30 min of intercourse.
Bobs marriage ends and he’s shocked despite all the warning signs. Now, within a year of the divorce process, Bob desperately runs around finding any woman who will give him the time of day. No standards. After a few months with two separate women he talks about marriage. His divorce is not yet finalized. He reeks with desperation and denies such feelings. His behavior suggests the typical thinking, “I can’t find another woman!” or “I’m too old to find another woman!”. I attempt to show him the ‘other side’ but he won’t have it. How scared I was…to really, really see the psychology of a person conditioned to be helpless, afraid to date more than one woman at a time, to think marriage is the only way to definite access to a woman.
This was hard to watch personally. Bob is not a man to be envied but he has been a good friend over the years. Bob seems set now to go for a woman in another state, whose ex still comes by, who has a 15 year old daughter who “Is a bitch to me and orders the most expensive things when we go out.” and his new lady can’t cook, won’t cook, can’t keep a clean house and expects Bob to spend money on eating out for nearly every meal. His new lady is apparently pretty rich from her first ex and her own business but still insists Bob drops cash in the relationship.
Bob and I spoke recently and he is thinking about moving across state to be with his new lady and over a month visiting dropped nearly $7,000 eating out and dropping bills on her and her kid. All the while Bob is frustrated and annoyed at the situation but still insists on being with her.
Gentlemen, sometimes you smile and walk away. I feel a large percentage of men will not wake up in time or are so lost today that you find yourself abandoning them and moving on.
June 26th, 2014 at 5:25 pm
“The romanticized notion of what we think of as ‘Honor’ today is simply a tool for the Feminine Imperative:”- Rollo
I disagree. ‘Honor’ as it’s defined by the dictionary suits the imperative of anybody, male or female, who prefers to live in a civilized society wherein a modicum of default good faith and trust exists amongst the majority of adults. As in, what our country used to be.
A lack of honor results in a writ-large ghetto where you have to watch your back on the street, you have to watch your back when you’re buying any expensive item that could be damaged/compromised, and you have to watch your back in your own fuckin’ home.
Honor is in the imperative of every decent red pill man.
June 26th, 2014 at 8:51 pm
@ Jeremy – Indeed. I think it’s even worse. Perhaps Rollo can chime in on this given his background in psychology. Humans go through developmental phases in which personality traits and habits and ways of thinking etc are formed while we mature that become a foundation we build from as adults, so I think this is very difficult work for any adult to do.
I have another thought. I wonder how dysfunctional childhood’s and abuse factor in to all this? In my case, I had a very violent Dad, a drinker and rager. As a result, I’m aggressive in response to aggression. I decided at one point in my teen years I simply would never tolerate abuse towards me and ran away every time I was struck. My erstwhile stepmom threw him out when I was 15, but the reaction to aggression stuck. I think this is where some of my alphaness comes from. I don’t back down and when confronted with aggression,I respond with a higher level of it until the aggression against me ceases. I did promise myself that I would never initiate violence against anyone when I was 17 and have kept that, so I don’t give myself the right to be physically aggressive without provocation.
My mom also died when I was 11. And them my stepmom, who let me stay with her till I was 18 after throwing my Dad out, moved on too. I know these things affected how my identity formed. Without going into a lot of detail, the bottom line is that I had women on such a pedestal. My mom was actually very loving and nice, so there was no abuse there. But I also think losing that security and that mother’s love at 11 set me up to be a sucker for “love”. There was a hole in my heart that I could not wait for “the one” to fill.
The women I ended up marrying had all the attributes of a person with covert narcissistic personality disorder, something I only found out recently. She alienated my daughter from me, and in seeking psychological advice about that I was asked to look at my ex with some new eyes. Turns out that parental alienation and NPD go hand in hand often. I learned that my abusive upbringing had me tolerate a huge amount of abuse from my ex-wife. My model for affection is that you had to earn it, so I was set up from the start.
I know all my family drama also set me up to desperately want a family of my own. Somehow I thought it would prove something to me, that I wasn’t like my Dad. My point in all this? These things are baked into me and I can only shift myself around within some very real limits. But I see so clearly now how all this made me who I am. Truly, going forward, I don’t know who I am anymore sometimes – can anyone relate to that?
June 26th, 2014 at 8:59 pm
Steve H
June 26th, 2014 at 5:25 pm
Yes. Think of engineers without honor – Chinese crap. Now some Chinese stuff is good. But the boys without honor have given the rest a bad rep.
American engineers still have some honor. But it is eroding. See: switch, ignition, GM
June 26th, 2014 at 9:02 pm
But I also think losing that security and that mother’s love at 11 set me up to be a sucker for “love”. There was a hole in my heart that I could not wait for “the one” to fill.
All men are suckers for “love”. The red pill shifts body chemistry.
June 26th, 2014 at 9:05 pm
Truly, going forward, I don’t know who I am anymore sometimes – can anyone relate to that?
You will find out who you are in time. Keep going.
June 26th, 2014 at 10:03 pm
@M Simon – Thanks. I have glimpses and keep making progress so I’ll keep up the work.
June 27th, 2014 at 12:45 am
“Model T” sexbot, $2,800.00
Checkmate.
June 27th, 2014 at 1:13 am
@Steve H,
“Because almost any non-fat woman is still going to be able to get laid at will as she gets into her late 30s and even her early-mid 40s.”
Yes. All the theorizing is brilliant and impressive and I like reading it. The logic of many people here is very impressive but the 800 pound gorilla remains in the room. More like the 220 pound gorilla; the American female.
Any 38 year old with her hair 3/4 of the way down her back who is simply physically active and stays within 20 pounds of her high school weight will still command all kinds of attention. I guess it doesn’t matter really. Whatever beta gets yoked by her deserves her at that point. Anyone so lazy, unread, untraveled, and non-curious that they can’t see what has happened with gender dynamics in the US just deserves what they get.
I will always be stunned with the ease of life for an American woman. Do these things…
1. Go on easy weekend hikes.
2. Walk 18 holes of golf once or twice a week
3. Do fundamental, multi-joint barbell lifting. Low bar back squats with measured progress. Nothing crazy or vein popping and the J-Lo look comes along in no time.
4. Swim as much for fun and relaxation as exercise
5. Walk the dog
6. Eat lean, light easily digestible high quality foods, lots of filling fruit, teas etc..
7. Avoid the childish consumption of excess sugar and its moodiness, gassiness and general lameness.
8. Avoid excess alcohol and the hangovers, gassiness and expense.
9. Let the hair grow long
…And a 50 foot yacht has your name on it courtesy of a smitten real estate tycoon.
7 of things on that list are things that I couldn’t live without yet 90% of American females can’t be bothered to even DO ANY OF THEM. My mind will be eternally boggled by it.
It will always come back to the obesity for me though so many other points are interesting to read about.
June 27th, 2014 at 3:31 am
I’ve just worked oyt how it must feel to a woman to see an omega male: it’s the same repulsion I feel when I heat another whiney nauseating Coldplay song.
June 27th, 2014 at 8:45 am
@melmouth re: “I will always be stunned with the ease of life for an American woman.”
Yes, the *American* Female Entitlement Mentality. A nearby grocery store with frozen dinners bought with stamps and a free bus pass from her subsidized apartment, and for a fact she considers that too much trouble and agitates for someone else to go get the groceries for her. 359 cable tv channels and 764 people to follow on instagram are draining on her.
Similar example whether urban poor or suburban umc.
June 27th, 2014 at 9:03 am
@ Glenn
I have been in therapy for the last two years so I can empathise with you on the dysfunctional dynamic.
The problem with growing up with dysfunctional parent is you have no road map or intuition for what is normal. Erratic behaviours within the confines of the family unit become the default and the only reference point of that occurs on a family. Naturally all families are like these ??? right? NO . Reverse the dynamic from mother or father the result is the same only reversed.
When a child feels sad the natural reaction is to turn this inwards and into cognitive thought as the family dynamic is sick the matters are usually not discussed in open like a healthy family discussion so the child suffers in silence. The anguish he feels builds over the years with road map to understand or describe it. In a healthy dynamic a mother might say it’s ok to be upset people argue from time to time but this does not occur in this instance.
SELF DISTRACTION A COPING MECHANISM
Once the child has acquired some understanding of what has occurred he goes up to his head to sort it out,(Why is mother so moody, she’s always in bad form) the confusion and torment he has endured for as long as he can remember. This is has dissociation begins, repressing one’s feelings and trying to cognitively rationalise it out. The kid is lonely and feels pain inside his core and talking to himself becomes the go too mechanism for coping. If I were to describe your core being as a wheel, well this is where a buckle has been created which in time will grow exponentially. Now imagine this with all thought and feelings on a daily basis, it’s like a slag heap, constantly growing. The situation is now where emotions are automatically converted into thoughts. They’re analysed obsessed about giving way to more splintered problems such as hyper-sensitivity to facial expressions etc. Self-criticism becomes a daily occurrence.
BROKEN WHEEL
Trauma to the core of our sense of self prevents functioning on a normal daily basis. Hyper-sensitivity is key here as one is always on the lookout for the next mood swing or facial que’s. You’re in observation mode constantly, worrying how you are perceived by others. The problems really become prominent as we grow older in our relationships. Had any crazy girlfriends???? BPD/NPD. Well this is where this dynamic comes from, the road map set out in childhood will be the dynamic you re-create in your adult relationships. How do you treat yourself when your have free time? Do you keep pushing, keep training through injury? Critical on yourself? I know objective self-analysis is never easy. Self-flagellation is a learned response to overly-critical strict or dysfunctional parenting dynamics in childhood. You left an abusive environment with the wrong road map and now you’re doing it all over again to yourself. Compulsive perfectionist? Nothing good is ever going to come from this road map. You need to dismantle all the dysfunctional dynamics get into to therapy and essentially get reprogrammed. Yes it is an ugly truth. Been there done it.
June 27th, 2014 at 9:19 am
@ cynical optimist – For the record, I’ve done 15 years of therapy and have also pursued numerous other paths towards healing and empowerment. A tip for you, there is a biological/neurological component to all this.
As for your advice, I’m afraid you didn’t collect enough data first. I haven’t been with an abusive women in 21 years and in fact my marriage ended then because I upped the “bar” for acceptable behavior from my wife so she jumped to another guy. I have had a new roadmap for quite some time – long before the Red Pill. Also, I’m not a perfectionist, nor am I compulsive.
Consider that I may actually be much farther down the path of dealing with my abuse than you are. Fyi, I actually had PTSD by the time I was 8 due to horrendous abuse so today, that is the model I use to understand myself and it is quite different from other therapeutic approached – botttom line? A lot less fucking talk.
My only reason for bringing up my abusive past at all is to ask how this played into my relationships with women and Betaness. It would be interesting to hear from you on that, but 101 Child of Abuse therapeutic advice, I’m not really looking for help with all that. But thanks anyway.
June 27th, 2014 at 9:32 am
@jf12 – “SMP problematic over 40 even for a rich and famous woman…”
My guess is it even more problematic for a rich and famous woman over 40. They have the added worry of wondering whether the guy is after them just for the money and fame, which in most cases they probably are.
June 27th, 2014 at 9:47 am
@Acksiom – You are joking, right? I mean, you seriously think that a sex toy is substitute for a sexual partner? You can’t believe that, can you?
June 27th, 2014 at 10:20 am
Glenn
June 27th, 2014 at 9:19 am
I actually had PTSD
A much neglected topic. The difficulty is that if you haven’t experienced it you have no idea and most of the people who have had it are not competent to deal with it. And yet, as you point out – no one else fits as well. Because, “if you haven’t experienced it you have no idea”.
June 27th, 2014 at 11:21 am
@Glenn, well, it IS China…
June 27th, 2014 at 11:56 am
OT – Rollo – have a look at this piece on the subject of sexual fluidity. Particularly Camille Paglia’s comments. It’s hard to brand her as a ‘panderer’ given her decades of her sharp, consistently anti-Establishment insight and praise of men’s achievements.
http://blogs.villagevoice.com/runninscared/2014/06/she_was_a_lesbian_chirlane_mccray_tells_the_voice_how_her_past_affects_her_role_in_city_hall.php
June 27th, 2014 at 12:14 pm
@ M Simon – Glad somebody actually gets it. As a public service, I’m going to give a bit of my PTSD story and I think it makes clear what PTSD is and isn’t. Fyi, PTSD is being way overdiagnosed today and feminists have abused the term, claiming ‘trauma’ from ‘micro-aggressions’ (the angry child in me wants to give them real trauma…)
When I was 7-8 I began having a recurring nightmare that went on until I was 19. I also began having sleep disturbances in general and developed spastic colon as well as a stammer that I didn’t have before. I had been assaulted by a babysitter and her brother and held hostage in a bizarre event by them, locked in a toy chest and abused other ways during this event. The same year I was subjected to the most severe beating of my life to date by my Dad and also witnessed my father stab my brother and douse a bit of ground with gas, set it on fire and dangle him over it to teach him a lesson (it took a long time to realize that this single event alone was enough to cause a PTSD reaction as all I could think of was that I was next – it was my older brother who was getting the roasting), among other horrific, raging events that were the norm in my home. These are “PTSD” qualifying events in that I perceived them as life threatening.
I should also add that at this age I was already fighting regularly as that was the nature of the neighborhood I grew up in. I smashed a kids head open with a lunch box and had my head split open with a piece of cement by age 8. My brothers jointly tortured me as well in a variety of ways such as stretching me to make me grow, tickling me until I wet my pants then calling my mother to show her that I was till wetting my pants – I could go on… I was an 8 year old boy in a world of violent mayhem – and I was deeply and profoundly affected by it. Fyi, this is 1000th of the horrible stories I could tell, which is why when I hear people talk about “abuse” when someone raises their voice, or even the occasional physicality, I just laugh. They have no idea what psychological trauma is and it actually cheapens the real suffering of people like me who have been actually abused. You see, there is a real difference between being spanked and being subjected to a terroristic monster (fyi, I don’t support spanking and never struck my child – but still, my issues didn’t come from being spanked one time too hard).
Unfortunately, after years of “therapy” which was helpful in some ways but also involved me being misdiagnosed as bipolar (i always thought this was not the correct diagnosis) it all got worse What brought this to a head is that I started passing out, like Tony Soprano, in about 2005. I had a life threatening and severely injuring rock climbing fall in 2004 and afterwards my anxiety just sky-rocketed. I also has lucid dreams regularly while I was walking around, replaying the fall over and over.
I was hospitalized after showing up in the ER after passing out at home – and then passed out in the ER with my BP going down to 60/20. Fyi, I was the most fit I ever have been in my life at this point. In the hospital they are complimenting me on every aspect of my health – and I worked out like a dog and ate well. So, first thing I want to say is that PTSD isn’t like other forms of anxiety. It doesn’t give a shit if you are fit or eating well. It’s nothing like performance anxiety or social anxiety – it’s an entirely different thing, and much more profound and debilitating.
In 2009 I was finally properly diagnosed. One of the horrific silver linings of the Afghan and Iraq wars is that PTSD was studied more carefully. Docs in the military were faced with a conundrum. They often had circumstances where two or more combatants were exposed to exactly the same trauma – IED or whatever – yet one guy would not be able to recover from the trauma while other guys would shake it off in a few days or weeks (normal trauma recovery). After doing a lot of research they had a Eureka moment. For the most part, soldiers who develop PTSD also usually had a childhood qualifying event like I have (I have multiple actually, sadly). There are also people who are subjected to repeat adult traumas who develop PTSD too, but that has to be sustained, severe and repeated (as many soldiers experienced over there.
I had processed all the anger and family systems stuff and my own self-image and identity issues in regular therapy – so I don’t want to demean that, it was helpful. But it did nothing to touch PTSD. Now I deal with it purely through the lens of anxiety. I live in the country instead of NYC, I work as a consultant on my own terms, riding on the reputation I developed in my field in my younger years and I simply eliminate stressful things from my life and do things that help me burn off the anxiety. It’s funny, some of the advice I got in therapy was ultimately self-destructive. Hint – if your father lost his temper a couple of times when you were young, or even was generally a hard ass to you – sure, forgive him. But when your father is a sociopath? Nah – forgiveness is exactly the wrong reaction. One has to get over the hate and rage, but forgiveness? He died this year and it was really quite nice to already have been over him, having embraced my righteous disdain for him. No forgiveness for the unforgivable.
You’ll know if you have PTSD. I had 4 years of insomnia – ambien was useless, I had to take 3 pills to knock me out. I was passing out, had racing thoughts, anxiety spiraling up wildly and uncontrollably – it’s very noticeable.
PTSD is incurable. I found out from a doc that my neurology was unalterably affected by this while I was a child. My biology is at work in ways I cannot control. Last. Remember, I’m doing this for other men who may not be properly diagnosed. I’m in good hands and have done re-visualizing and other very helpful techniques and continue to make great progress with my illness. I’ve even dived into some alternate energetic healing therapies that make no logical sense to me but leave me feeling fantastic. So I’m well cared for. I just think that almost nobody talks about this stuff clearly and openly, and I’m sick of it. PTSD has a stigma and it’s really a shame. So, I’m ‘out of the closet’ about it now.
June 27th, 2014 at 12:57 pm
@Steve, been there, blogged that…
http://therationalmale.com/2011/09/01/sexual-fluidity/
June 27th, 2014 at 1:10 pm
Re: PTSD… All human experiences are not understood by those who have not experienced them. Sadly most humans, hateful of their own ignorance, substitute whatever they can drudge up from memory to attempt to relate to the non-shared experiences of others. They project, just like we in the manosphere so often see women do, they project their own experiences from the female-side of things onto what they think should be the male experience. Then when they decide to relate what they think they know to another human, they translate their make-believe into horrendously fallible and biased human languages. Is it really any wonder why our understanding of human behavior is so poor?
June 27th, 2014 at 1:15 pm
@Rollo – I know, read it a few times before now, and it’s excellent. I just thought Paglia puts a dramatically different context around the entire concept. Her propagation of ‘sexual fluidity’ seems to come from an entirely different place than does the typical HuffPost post-wall bitter anti-masculinist crowd.
June 27th, 2014 at 2:18 pm
Great article!!
The “game” has been so rigged in favor of the feminine imperative that men do not get credit for the tremendous sacrifice men make when entering into a provisioning arrangement such as a monogamous marriage. Our society instead views it as an arrangement in which men and women sacrifice and benefit equally or, worse, that women are the ones sacrificing and that men owe women.
June 27th, 2014 at 2:23 pm
I read you, but the fundamental conflict (or convenient rewriting) is still the nature vs. nurture debate over homosexuality. If women can ‘go gay’ on demand it discredits the ‘born that way’ straightjacket mentality.
Sexual Fluidity only became ‘a thing’ once more women realized that other (masculine) women were becoming their only option for sexual release.
June 27th, 2014 at 3:38 pm
Yup. RSD Tyler documents this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HGEO6ig8WsM
“Stay in your provider box, you creepy beta.”
June 27th, 2014 at 4:28 pm
@ Glenn
That’s what I thought but the interpretation didn’t make sense in context. What he was actually saying was that women are able to choose the father of the child – by deciding who they sleep with and using contraception.
June 27th, 2014 at 7:05 pm
@ Jeremy – Well said, and very true. But still, I’ve come to believe that most of us, in our own way, are attempting to be “less wrong”. There is a great site on cognitive science that i dip into sometimes, http://www.lesswrong.com . Great name, right? And what it’s getting at is that any single human is bound to be deluded by biases, which are by no means only ideological. Recency, locality – all these and many other aspects of our reasoning and consciousness and senses conspire to make a hash of reason.
However, there is a saving grace. Human’s collectively working in groups on the same subject matter, are self correcting and self learning. Essentially, the contentious process of real argument forwards and perfects the “less wrongness” of what we think. This is the scientific process of course, which is really only applied reason anyway.
I also think that while we may not understand each other, we can love each other more. And I don’t mean love in the cheap romantic con-game sense, I mean it as perhaps men might speak to each other in the west 200 years ago. I’m talking about real solidarity with each other, supporting and pulling each other along. That’s what I think makes a difference, much more than being ‘right’ or even understood. Yet men are very individualistic so we often are not allies for each other when we could be. Particularly alpha men.
June 27th, 2014 at 8:29 pm
@Glenn
Not quite… Humans in groups are self-correcting towards whatever direction their collective knowledge is capable of, and it follows a collection of loosely-constrained ‘random’ walks, with occasional major divergence when perturbed. But that overall path that the group takes is not necessarily self-correcting towards reality. It is constrained by human senses. Humans had to actually invent the scientific method from nothing, from literally pure abstraction (it’s original name/form was the Socratic method). Humans owe more to the worlds first philosophers than we owe to anyone else, since all human progress rests on their clumsy, brute-force attempts at understanding their reality. Without them, we might actually still be tribal dumbshits (** although philosophy erupted in different parts of the world at different times, so it might be a natural result of our grey matter).
There is one event in history that was extremely eye-opening for me. It’s a footnote, something that you’ll never see mentioned in history books. But the implications are as profound as what Aristotle and Socrates had to deal with. It was something so basic, our modern experience actually has trouble recognizing it for how profound it is. In Egypt there is a fantastic engineering record since many of their buildings are still standing (The desert is a fantastic place for preservation). There is a stone building there, that predates most stone buildings in the world. Since it’s Egypt, it’s probably a tomb (I forget the specifics). It looks a little strange to modern eyes, since you see round stone columns with stones stacked on top of each other, but next to those round stone columns, structurally part of the column, is a stone wall. It is not accidental, they literally carved perfectly round columns, stacked stone on stone to build a building, but integrated those columns into walls *in the interior space* as a deliberate part of the mechanics of the structure. The entire building is built this way. Why did they do this? Because they *did not know* that you could actually stack carved stone on carved stone without them toppling over. They were experimenting, they just didn’t know if it could work. It was beyond their experience to believe that you could build stable stone columns with nothing reinforcing them. It was beyond their experience to fully understand what might cause a stone column to collapse.
Spend some time trying to fathom the experience people in that day had by recognizing their level of ignorance, and you’ll learn quite a bit about the human experience.
June 27th, 2014 at 8:56 pm
Rollo Tomassi
June 27th, 2014 at 2:23 pm
If women can ‘go gay’ on demand it discredits the ‘born that way’ straightjacket mentality.
The evidence I have seen so far is that hormones in the womb predisposes. Not exactly “born that way”. But not exactly not born that way.
June 27th, 2014 at 9:03 pm
@ Jeremy – What part of our ability to reason being flawed did I not make clear? Of course we make errors and biases creep in – group think is a kind of bias, yes? But empiricism forces us to check the crazy shit we come up with against observable phenomena. As well, reason isn’t arbitrary, rather it’s actually a set of axioms that we agree upon in terms of ways to argue and prove something conclusively. Your comments about group consciousness/bias don’t override it, they exist alongside reason, and when applied
This is the source of all human progress, yes? The is the source of humanism itself, a la Lucretius, yes? So I won’t concede that groups acting with reason as a guide – not religion or other magical belief systems – can’t bend towards being less wrong using the principles of reason.
June 27th, 2014 at 9:09 pm
Glenn
June 27th, 2014 at 12:14 pm
My studies show PTSD is a two factor problem. Genetic predisposition and trauma.
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Jeremy
June 27th, 2014 at 1:10 pm
I can see you have never had the experience. It is so qualitatively different from other “normal” human experiences that it is completely different. Which is why those with it only tend to be long term attracted to others who have had similar difficulties. And the men tend to run in packs if they run at all. Think outlaw MC gangs. They run on PTSD. In my experience.
I am well past the worst of my difficulties but I am still only long term attracted to “broken” women. More difficult than most women but they do have their points from time to time.
June 28th, 2014 at 8:54 am
@jf12 – link to this story should be sent to most girls I know. Probably this will be a good wak up call for them.
June 28th, 2014 at 10:21 am
@ Jeremy 25 June: a) occurrence of female orgasm is related to bilateral symmetry of male, and b) female orgasm actively aids conception
Here is the science – http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199601/the-orgasm-wars
June 28th, 2014 at 12:23 pm
@Glenn: I fully support you in seeking happiness. Happiness: you can’t buy it, and you can’t steal it; you have to create it yourself.
June 28th, 2014 at 1:55 pm
@Glenn – “I’m here to talk to men. I hear from women everywhere in society – do you really not understand that yet? ”
If she could simply understand that you are not here to be scolded by women it would be a step up.
” . . . you persist. Why? Does my request that you just leave me the fuck alone not register? ”
Because she is, by her nature, the very sort of middle aged, scolding mother hen with a scorpion’s stinger, a basilisk, that the North Koreans employ to keep people in line.
I have not previously said word boo about Mark’s personal choices, they’re his business, not mine, but it does make me wonder that this is what he found so desirable that he sold his reputation among men for it.
June 29th, 2014 at 9:51 pm
You guys are going to like this:
http://www.buzzfeed.com/jessicaprobus/this-serial-monogamist-is-documenting-her-adventure-to-go-on
“After a recent breakup, Moreno, a self-proclaimed ‘serial monogamist,’ realized she had never been on a real date as an adult.”
I read that as, “After getting used like a whore, Moreno, wanting to ride the cock carousel with no consequence, realised that having guys spend money on her pussy was the best way to rationalize it.”
“100 Dates of Summer is making me realize that there is no reason to settle for less than ideal,” she said. “Hell, shoot for perfection. I’m going on dates with stellar dudes that I never thought would give me the time of day.”
LOL!
This fatty is a 4 at best but hypergamy is unquencable regardless of a woman’s SMV.
We all know how this will end.
June 30th, 2014 at 1:24 am
@Don Clicko
Loved her date with a “dating coach”, he took her to mcdonalds and ate all her food. He was probably trying to get a SNL and figured he wouldn’t invest much effort into it. She isn’t bad looking but if I knew she was doing a “100 dates of summer” project I wouldn’t even put in the mcdonalds level of effort, why would you? She is not settling for any one man and seems to be flaunting her ability to get men to buy her shit and entertain her. This is the equivalent of some PUA or whore-monger documenting a “100 lays of summer” project and putting it on the internet for all the world to see the chicks he banged.
June 30th, 2014 at 9:36 am
@Don Clicko, re: “I’m going on dates with stellar dudes that I never thought would give me the time of day.”
“Hey mister, you got the time?”
“I suppose I can spare you a few minutes, dear.”
June 30th, 2014 at 11:56 am
@ M Simon – On homoesexuality and epigenetic factors such as invitro hormonal exposure, it’s pretty clear with respect to male homosexuality that high exposure to estrogen in the womb causes the homosexual orientation. There doesn’t seem to be much doubt about that in scientific circles due to the famous twin studies which showed this conclusively.
However, female sexuality is more plastic. J. Michael Bailey (who was almost completely destroyed by the lgbtczuayr9gm gender studies fascists) has done some great research on all this. His book The Man Who Would Be Queen is available as a PDF for free – just google it. He’s a legit academic research psychologist who’s spent his life studying these issues and is worth reading. He’s also done some great lectures recently that are on YouTube which provide a precis on the current state of what’s known about sexual orientation. It turns out that female homosexuality and orientation and practices develop differently from male homosexuality and the answers aren’t so clear yet when it comes to women. (My early theory – women’s sexuality is far more socially constructed and adaptive than men’s, hence them beating us like red step children in the current culture).
Bailey was nearly run out of town on a rail for his work on trans men though. He debunked utterly the notion of “a woman trapped in a man’s body”. Such people are either auto-gynephiles who’s main interest is having female body parts on their body to play with (this presents in adults 25 or older usually and is best understood as a fetish, not a sexual orientation) or are homosexuals. You see, the homosexual adopts feminine affectations to attract men and dressing up like a girl is part of that. It really all depends how the family reacts it seems. Most homosexual men report dressing in women’s clothing young and virtually all “trans” men who present young, as children, grow up to be homosexual.
In fact, there is a growing community of post op trannies who’s lives are utter nightmares. Kids who’ve grown up on hormonal therapies to “correct” their gender who hate their parents for doing this to them. And very few post ops are “happy” or functioning in any way normally or in a healthy way after their surgery. This is because gender is biologically determined and it cannot be changed by adding a few folds of skin or taking some hormones. This gets at the underlying fiction of all gender studies (and rad fembots) – the social construction of gender (and everything). John Hopkins, an early trailblazer, has stopped doing hormonal therapy to kids due to the clear damage being done to kids who are subjected to these horrors. Fyi, it’s almost always some social justice warrior mom fembot asshole behind shoving children into this situation.
Ask a neuroscientist or a biochemist if there is any observable phenomena that they would describe as a “woman trapped in a man’s body”. An honest one will laugh, but one who has been properly cowed by social justice warrior harridans will meekly say that it’s unknown, or “biocultural”. Lol.
The entire trans movement is a fraud and its inextricably tied in with feminism and the politics of homosexuality. One can accept homosexuals as “normal” without buying into the rest of the gender studies lies.
Last. There is a reason the gender studies warriors do this. It give them a whole set of victim/oppressor dyads they can plug into all the rest of their critical theory ideas and the epistemology of exploitation that sociology presents them with, which is of course heavily influenced by Marx who is considered one of the three fathers of modern sociology and given hagiographic treatment in all sociology depts. This is crucial because it becomes part of what I call the “unified field theory of the left” – social justice theory a la John Rawls. They roll critical theory, gender studies and it’s idiotic child, feminism, and other materially deterministic ideas into a melange of criticism and hate that is today’s ‘left’ worldview in the west.
Which makes my post here “hate speech”. Lol. Fuck them all.
June 30th, 2014 at 12:10 pm
@ Don Clicko – I wonder how much cock she’s going to have sucked by the end of the summer? If my experience with lower SMV women like her when I was younger is any indication, I’d say a lot. When a lower SMV female does get a higher SMV man, she puts out like a whore on ecstasy. When I was 35, I would get women like her to blow me in the men’s room of the bar we were at or in a doorway on 5th avenue late at night and never talk to her or think about her again.
When I would occasionally lower myself to fuck a troll like her, the price for my attention and company was sex on whatever terms I wanted or I moved on. The only thing a lower SMV chick like her brings to the table for a guy who has higher smv and some alphaness is easy access to sex. I do have a hidden secret technique for girls like her. Tell her you think you could fall in love with her – the first night you meet her. It’s sounds stupid, but if you do it right, hideous wildebeast trolls like her can’t help themselves. The possibility of acquiring a high status man overwhelms all other sensibility and even the prudest, most uptight born again Christian chick will start grinding on you in the bar and flashing her tits if you make it clear that’s the price.
And why not? Couldn’t happen to a nicer girl…
June 30th, 2014 at 12:11 pm
Why is it that transexual men always want to become young attractive feminine women, yet there are no young attractive women who wish to ‘correct’ themselves into becoming middle age, fat and balding men?
June 30th, 2014 at 12:28 pm
@Rollo, re: question. Lust like Chaz Bono, mtf transmen uniformly are personally gratified by their transformation, but *uniformly* dismayed by how poorly women treat them.
June 30th, 2014 at 12:31 pm
@Glenn re: biocultural and hormones etc. It turns out that Roundup is an extremely effective aromatase inhibitor, but I won’t spell out the dosage in fears of someone thinking it’s good advice.
June 30th, 2014 at 12:32 pm
Correcting self :Chaz is of course a ftm trans i.e. transman.
June 30th, 2014 at 1:04 pm
Jf12
Re: Roundup
Hmmm? Could you then suggest a “safe” level of exposure?
Let’s say that to preserve the purity of my essence and natural bodily fluids I only drink rain water and pure grain alcohol. Let’s say my rain is near where I store the Roundup and the stuff is always dripping into rain bucket. In a 20 gallon bucket how much Roundup contamination is “safe” for a man?
June 30th, 2014 at 1:41 pm
@ Rollo – In case it wasn’t clear, the answer to your rhetorical question is that it depends on the subject’s motivation. There are two types of trans-sexual men, as I described above. Let me make the distinctions more clearly, and keep in mind most of this is kind of settled science by now. The only reason you don’t hear much about it is that it contravenes the entire basis of gender studies dogma.
1. Auto-gynephilic trans men – This is a fetish for female body parts that emerges in adult men, usually in their 20s. Such men aren’t typically homosexual and often don’t have sexual partners at all. They are like the killer in Silence of the Lambs, and sex for them would involve preening in front of a mirror while they fondle themselves – made all the more fun with real female body parts. They are in no way women trapped in a man’s body. They are just like other fetishists who like feet or other things – and are by no means confused about their sex.
The most corrupt aspect of this trans sexual is that the gender studies folks know about this kind, but they actively tell him to lie to health authorities about their sexual habits etc because in places like Canada, where sex re-assignment surgery is paid for by the govt, they try to limit it to people who actually are “women trapped in a man’s body” – which of course is a fools errand from the outset, but they are trying to limit this ‘treatment’ only to actual gender dysmorphia (or whatever stupid terms they have for it). So gender studies activists brief trans men of this first type how to lie in the screening interview about their sexual habits so govt will pay. Cuz that’s the real goal of the sjw (social justice warrior) anyway – to get someone else to pay for everything. So they know this entire exercise is a fraud by their own speech and actions, just get that.
2. Homosexual boys – Homosexuality presents in children as young as infants in some ways but can be clearly observed in male children by the age of 3-4. Twin studies confirm this – there is no choice involved, nor cultural factors. It pure epigenetics (there is some evidence of some other genetic effects but it’s really unsure and nowhere near as solid as the hormonal stuff, it’s likely a combo of these things). Some men are exposed to more estrogen in the womb than others and this seems to have some correlation with the extent of the claims of being a “woman stuck in a man’s body”. But virtually all are homosexual boys. And all the effeminate behavior of homosexual men is properly seen as engaged in to attract men – not homosexual men, just men. An interesting aside here are the phenomena of “tops” in the homosexual world. There are many otherwise hetero men who will be a “top” – penetrating rather than being penetrated, yes? This is even more common in some non-western cultures.
Ask any gay man you know, and he will fill you in on how many straight guys they’ve had some kind of sexual encounter with. My point? While the LGBT people hate even discussing this, one can best understand effeminate behavior by homosexual men as being about attracting men and the ultimate expression of this is becoming a woman. But you see, this doesn’t work either because the subject is still a man. Homosexuals develop a very interesting mix of effeminate and masculine behaviors as they mature, and there is no need to have sexual re-assignment to deal with this. In fact, this entire exercise of glomming onto young gay boys who wear mommy’s clothes is a feminist phenomena in which such an action is seen as “natural” and to be encouraged – completely wrongheadedly. The “treatment” of such children is due to politics and ideology, not due to science and accordingly, as I mentioned above is often regretted. Here is a site full of people who regret what has been done to them in service to left wing gender ideologues. http://www.sexchangeregret.com/examples . This is why Johns Hopkins and other leaders in this field are retreating.
The worst part about all this? The lgbt gender studies crowd has shamed and denigrated any discussion of these issues on terms they don’t dictate. You either accept that there is a man stuck in a woman’s body or you are a cis gendered bigot. The anti-intellectual and closed nature of their system of thought is truly ugly and damaging to real people. Just imagine you are a non-political, down the middle mom and dad and you find your boy likes dressing up as a girl sometimes. His school and counselors and the health professionals that they get involved all encourage thinking the mythology of “woman stuck in a man’s body”. If you weren’t strong, you might go along with it, thinking you were doing the right thing for your child.
This is why feminism and it’s gender politics and the lgbt crowd needs to be stood up against. Not because they are tolerant of things some people might find odd or even immoral – it’s because they are wrong about almost everything. And many institutions of our society are now building policy based on these terrible ideas. Fyi, I was a life coach to a trans man – post op. He was severely psychologically troubled and also completely intransigent when faced with any criticism or advice. After 4 months of no constructive work, I realized he was actually quite immature and narcissistic and absolutely uncoachable about anything. Interestingly, he was a big wig as an “artist” in the gay community in NYC and well known politically as a trans activist, so he was constantly surrounded by people who treated him like he was unique and ‘speshul’.
The pattern with him was being withdrawn and dishonest about his emotional state, and every time I interacted with him it began with me “working” to draw him out and to open up. There are standard ways of doing this so I would do so but only after some effort could we even get to facts and reason, ever so slightly. The context of my coaching took the form of helping a person achieve a self-defined project in their life and I had a specific methodology and group structure in which I coached them. It was not psychological, it was about planning and doing, and then dealing with what comes up with people regarding the gaps between the two in their lives. Often reams of psycho-babble would fall out of people’s mouths, which I simply didn’t pay attention to.
He was the only person I coached who was incapable of doing a single thing he said he would do. He would go on about nonsense that I could barely pay attention to but never accept what he was doing to make his life a wreck. What I realized is that he suffered from something I’ve heard called “terminal uniqueness” and I think the lgbt movement aggrandized that sense within him to the point of complete irresponsibility. You see, he didn’t have to take anything I said seriously because I was cis-gendered. Fyi, I coached about 30 people over 3 years, including a couple of gay men and as many women as men. I didn’t encounter anything like this guy’s intrasigence in anyone else. I was involved with a self-help method that had become trendy/cool in NYC and I think he liked the idea of himself developing his “leadership” – which was the subject of the coaching work. He seemed to resent the fact that leadership involved doing something more than talking, and also resented petty ideas like accountability and keeping one’s word. It was bizarre but really revealing.
He is why I started to reach out and try to find actual science on transgenderism. This is how I found Bailey and this amazing book The Man Who Would Be Queen http://faculty.wcas.northwestern.edu/JMichael-Bailey/TMWWBQ.pdf Read it – it will blow your mind.
You’ll realize how badly this crowd is lying to us about virtually everything wrt gender and sexual orientation.
June 30th, 2014 at 2:30 pm
Another teacher lets her id run wild:
http://www.everyjoe.com/2014/06/25/crime/kathryn-ronk-photos-teacher-arrested-bishop-foley-high-school/#11
A commentor posted, “Katy Ronk was just married in 2011 and her husband is like 2 to 3 years older.
The Birmingham house is a brick 2200 Square Feet home worth half a million in a trendy affluent suburb that is quite different from the city she works in. She is a University of Michigan graduate and did her post graduate studies at YOLO, I mean Loyola University. She is all over social media and should probably take some of the profiles down.”
Older aged men with a lot of money or status can’t compete with the youth and physical virility of a young alpha.
Once again, genes are king.
June 30th, 2014 at 2:32 pm
Microcephaly doesn’t care
Much has been written about what makes a woman desirable. Young, hot, low N count, no children, traditional values etc.
It is also apparent that the carousel riders, single moms, femihags etc. are not going to get much of a comeuppance at all. The PUAs are thrilled to get sloppy 132nds. Fat HB3s have no trouble getting laid. BPD women get laid with thrilling ease. Single moms get marriage proposals from the likes of Mark Minter.
The real reason that Minter gets slammed around here is that he inspires fear in the hearts of men. If he marries a single mom, we are all likely to do it. He is living proof of the power of pussy over men.
Actually, pussy has no power over us. It is our own selves that cause us to give our power and lives to pussy. Because microcephaly doesn’t care.
I looked for terms for the male equivalent of hypergamy. Some suggestions were femogamy (attraction to feminine women) and koreagamy (attraction to young women). But a little observation shows that women who do not meet those descriptions get laid with no problems. Rather, men act like they are thinking with their little heads. Micros is Greek for small and cephalus means head. Microcephaly in this context means behaving by the dictates of our “little heads”. Yes, the term is pejorative. And deservedly so.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she is a single mom.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she is a BPD slut.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she is an obnoxious bitch.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she is a square jawed feminist.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she has a crew cut.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she has multiple kids from different fathers.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she frivorced other men.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she is fat.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she is 60 years old.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she has openly declared an AFBB policy.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if a man has declared himself MGTOW.
He’ll end up fucking them anyway.
June 30th, 2014 at 2:53 pm
He is living proof of the power of pussy over men.
Welcome to the party pal. However, the power is not unlimited.
June 30th, 2014 at 3:14 pm
Glenn
June 30th, 2014 at 11:56 am
Very nice – thank you. Appreciate the short version.
I have often been attracted to lesbians. On a few occasions it was reciprocated. I’m inclined to agree that female sexuality is more fluid. But there are inclinations.
June 30th, 2014 at 3:42 pm
@ M Simon
The power is enough to cause the President of the United States to publicly spout feminist lies, lies contradicted by data from agencies of his own government.
June 30th, 2014 at 3:47 pm
Think that might be the desire to be looked at as being to desirable. Any woman will gladly take an ego boost, even if a lesbian, to be of as desirable from anybody. Even from straight men.
June 30th, 2014 at 3:54 pm
@ M Simon
I have had similar experiences with lesbians.
I find physically attractive feminine lesbians to be particularly disturbing to me.
“A lesbian pussy is a terrible thing to waste”.
Microcephaly doesn’t care if she is lesbian.
June 30th, 2014 at 3:56 pm
@ M Simon – I’m attracted to women I find attractive, lesbian or not – just like a homosexual will find straight men attractive. That’s how attraction works. In fact, many gay men don’t find effeminate gay men attractive. I think there is also a fad of lesbianism in modern culture so some women who would easily be bisexual or at least are bicurious/comfortable with experimenting declare themselves lesbians. My niece is going through it right now. It’s not a coincidence that she’s at a small, private, elite, radical liberal arts college. I’m sure that her decision is highly politicized and carries real cred in her social circles. But hey – what won’t women do for social status? Lol…As I’ve become hipper to all this I’ve started asking lesbians that I meet just how hardcore they are. Oftentimes you find that many have been hetero and may be so again. Some lesbians…
As for me I’ve never been bothered by homosexuality morally, and kept myself open to it when I was younger, but when the moment of truth came I was utterly uninterested in cock. I don’t know how that is fluid for some people, but cest la vie. Either one gets excited at the sight of a turgid member being thrust at you, or one doesn’t. I’m glad I remained open minded up until that moment of my life because I’ve never been curious since. Of course that gay guy got pretty pissed at his case of blue balls, lol…
June 30th, 2014 at 3:57 pm
@Symmetrical Truth, Adam Ronk is a lot bigger and more symmetrical than the 15 yr old.
June 30th, 2014 at 4:38 pm
I think if you combine what was said in Rollo’s post “remove the man” and how attention is such a coveted currency in girl world(more so now than ever), you get the fad lesbianism and experimentation.
June 30th, 2014 at 5:14 pm
“Why is it that transexual men always want to become young attractive feminine women, yet there are no young attractive women who wish to ‘correct’ themselves into becoming middle age, fat and balding men?”
This is both hilarious and horrifying! :)
“If he marries a single mom, we are all likely to do it. He is living proof of the power of pussy over men.”
Let me try to allay your fears. First, for the last time, I am not a single mother. I am divorced and there is a vast difference. When I got divorced, I settled 140K on my ex despite the advise my lawyer gave me, which was that he wasn’t legally entitled to any of it. You aren’t likely to meet many women who would do that, so the “narrative” (as that crackpot “livefearless” refer to it) is flawed from the get go. That is just one of many factoids that might change your interpretation of events. Others will not be shared as it would be imprudent to do so, not to mention that its none of your damn business! So, trust me: what happened to us will NOT happen to you. You will not fall ass backwards into a perfect life because your very good sense of humor caused a woman to overlook the fact you were a raging woman hater. And what makes you think my body has any power over him? Pffft. Like he’s that easy.
I hope you can now stop living in fear of being master of your domain, having woman and child devoted to you, and it not having cost you a cent to do so.
June 30th, 2014 at 6:16 pm
re: transwomen’s sexual choices, from TMWWBQ:
“My impression is that they would rather have a relatively uncommitted
relationship with a very attractive man than a committed relationship
with a less desirable partner.”
June 30th, 2014 at 6:19 pm
@Kate, let me see if I understand your point. You claim to be so extremely different, unlike all of the other women who also belong to the exact same NAWALM (not all women are like me) club, that jacklabear can take comfort in the fact that he could never find a woman who would treat him well.
June 30th, 2014 at 6:36 pm
Kate, no wuckies. My comments were not meant to be personal about you and Mark.
My girlfriend has two children by another man. On the plus side, I’m only the second man she has been with in her life, she was celibate for 5 years before meeting me, she was a virgin when she got married at 20, and her ex husband divorced her after 20 years because he decided that he was gay.
Regarding her kids, she said to me once that “family comes first” (over me).
You wrote: “… having woman and child devoted to you…”
I sincerely hope that you will be an inspiration to other women. Would you be willing to offer her coaching on the devotion of herself and her children to me? ;-)
June 30th, 2014 at 7:59 pm
Glenn,
My father was a psychiatrist till he retired.
He once interviewed a guy who wanted a sex change operation because the law required them to be certified to be competent to make that decision by two psychiatrists.
He told my father how a couple years ago he got into bodybuilding and got all bulked up doing 600 sit ups a day etc.
He said: “You know what doc, that was the dumbest thing I ever did!”.
Apparently it hadn’t occurred to him that he was about to do something even dumber and more irreversible. Dad’s take on it was “he must be suffering from some kind of inner pain”. I wonder if he suffered ‘phantom dick pain’ post amputation.
Business opportunity: offer dicks for transplantation to f to m candidates.
It would avoid situations like the local policewoman who got transgendered. Her name was Debbie Woodcock. (true story) That way, it’s girlfriend would be spared the nickname Sylvia Sliversnatch.
June 30th, 2014 at 9:38 pm
I love compliments, and I do.
July 4th, 2014 at 9:14 pm
As a certifiable example of the BB (Blissfully Betrothed!) side of the AF/BB equation, the last few posts have really helped me to peel back a few more layers of the social dynamics that have mislead me to my current existence.
Though Sandbergs’ advice to young women is enraging, it’s beneficial for younger men, and even a guy in my position to see the intention for ‘settling’ so clearly promoted. It solidifies the undeniable truth that just a few short years ago was just observations, questioning, speculations as to what was really happening around me.
One of my stepping stones into Red Pill awareness came a few years ago, my wife essentially stating that because I’d gone so long as a young man without intimacy, it shouldn’t be a priority for me now. Yup- I don’t think I need to say anything else about that. Another more recent gem- that Husbands don’t really deserve frequent BJs. Fun Fact: Her reasoning on that came from the experience of a former roommate, whose boyfriend fresh out o’ prison had apparently demanded (&received) them 4* a day.
The issue isn’t entirely about intimacy, just a few seconds on the internet with an amateur video can inform a schlubby just how very shortchanged he is.
The most angering part of being duped into thankless servitude at this point for me is recognizing the disparity in allowable behaviours women discern between types of men. This should be stressed as a warning to boys, since the consequences can last a lifetime, and into future generations. I’ve become aware over time of how my wife helped through school, fed and housed a guy who would bring home other women, fucked her Bestie also, never once admitting that they were ‘together.’ For 4years she allowed that shit to continue until he finally moved out.
So I’ve almost no real motivation to be good, or nice, or hell even respectful towards her now since from the start her expectations of me have been entirely different. And I know that, deep down, she’ll never be satisfied with me or my efforts because she’s not haaaapy. However our situation turns out, our children will not be unaffected by this reality you discuss.
July 7th, 2014 at 12:13 pm
@emeraldcurtain, re: “So I’ve almost no real motivation to be good, or nice, or hell even respectful towards her now”.
Correct. The fake motivation earlier was the expectation, or hope, that she would respond properly to being treated well. You now know that hope was false, and you now know that she will/would respond MUCH more properly with being treated poorly.
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