Based on above principles, we can expect women to: 1) Keep a backup plan (aka ‘beta orbiter’, aka ‘can of beans’) on the hook, and 2) For her to be driven towards an upgrade (aka ‘next best thing’). These issues can fester and be problematic for a long term relationship. But overt communication about the issues leads to frustrations, as the woman is unconscious of her hypergamy.

I’ve gone as far as to create a quiz in an effort to pin women down on which ‘just friends’ are in bounds and out-of-bounds. This is an exercise in futility based on assertions above.

But women are skilled at positioning their spinning plates as ‘just friends’, while the man’s spinning plates are obliterated. There has to be a practical defense against this that does not compromise man’s integrity.

Thoughts?

This post kinda points similarities to the bio reasons women (and men) cheat as well as the social ones.

I find it very interesting that you acknowledge the role of the Beta and Alpha in female life. Women who cheat, some, often marry the beta but during ovulation are naturally and physically sexually drawn to the Alpha, then cheat and have the Beta raise the kid unknowingly… not saying all women, but this happens.

Its fucked up, but kind of along the lines of what you have pointed out here.

“She doesn’t see all those months of hanging out as “investment” in her, or even as the guy working up the courage to make a pass at her, she sees it as something coming out of nowhere. Because if he had wanted to fuck her all along, why the hell didn’t he make that obvious going in, like any normal (alpha-ish) guy?”

If you want to fuck her then decide because it takes a woman only 5-10 minutes to decide if she really wants to fuck you or not.

There are several reasons a girl will reject you : she’s emotionally and mentally not in a certain place she needs to be to accept you or you simply don’t do anything for her.

Either way, it’s not personal.

I get why men are scared of the “direct approach” because a girl may think he’s a jerk. Bear in mind, a girl who finds you attractive will NEVER think you are a jerk and a girl who is in a space where she can recipocrate will NEVER think you are a jerk.

The only problem, then, are men who think of themselves as jerks and then projecting that out on women and make it look as if we are that hard to read.