“From our perspective this is all should be very obvious.”

It would be obvious if for 30+ years almost every newspaper, magazine, book, movie, would not be trying to blind my eyes and ears with “women are these emotional angels that need a connection”,

It would be obvious if for 30+ years, people in my family would not be blinding my eyes in relation to what women want, and men would not be silent what they go through.

It would be obvious if women would be giving out clear signals, and owning up to them when they do, and not blaming men for being unable to read the little pinky standing bent at 15.67 degrees as “Please come over and say hi”.

For example: A girl that I am happy not to have moved further than the point we moved to, but a good study case for me, good looking woman and extremely flirty and good in it,

“So, we kissed that night and it was beautiful”
“Good for you”
“Yea but the next day we did not talk about it”
“But you met”
“Yes. And then I sat like this (insert very sexy pose) and looked at him like this (insert very sexy looks)”
“And he did not get the point?”
“No. He asked me about the looks (the poor saps attempt at flirting, which backfired due to his lack of… amused… mastery), and I told him, no, what the fuck are you talking about”)
“So it is done?”
“Noooo.. I want to see him again… It felt so good”
“You are and idiot and insane” (In my naivete I thought this comment would set me free, I did enough studying)

So this guy, who she will see again in the coming week, is supposed to know the obvious? (unless he goes the “I don’t care what the fuck she is thinking” , route)

Please.

I suspect that “amused mastery” is a byproduct of “self mastery.” In more specific terms, mastery over one’s psychophysiology.

While this might sound like psychobabble, I’ve heard scientists suggest that in studies, elite athletes, scientists, and entrepreneurs have greater control over their psychophysiology than average people. Specifically, it was noted that these elite performers can control physiological markers like heart rate and heart rate variability (HRV, which is a proxy for sympathetic vs. parasympathetic tone).

Importantly, it appears that while these higher levels of control might be genetic, they can probably also be learned through training (I know of a few methods).

All of that is to say: Amused mastery can probably be trained.

One of the most popular Seinfeld episodes produced the most popular catchphrase of its time: MASTER OF MY DOMAIN. This is the alpha key, the holy grail of “game”, albeit I doubt the show’s producers knew what they were really letting on. I also agree with the statement that you can only pull off the Prince Harry effect if you’re incredibly self-possessed. That kind of senior-alpha authenticity can only come by being master of your domain — that means having a ruthless level of self-command and command of people and things in your operating vicinity, and possessing the habits, structures and routines to support this in all areas of your life. It shouldn’t suprise that Prince Harry has the benefit of centuries of royal court tradition behind him to invoke this self-mastered pose.

Vladimir Putin is a senior alpha in this regard. As master of his domain, he commands leadership of a nuclear nation. His foreign policy is no-nonsense. He is an accomplished martial artist, rider and athlete who ice-dips and flies a plane to lead Russian geese on their migratory path. He is incredibly wealthy. He has a super-loyal, super-submissive, super-pretty wife. With that kind of self-possession, he’d look upon this blog post and comment thread with a kind of, shall we say, amused mastery.

I like to do the less-is-more frame-based dominance. I wrote a bunch of chick crack routines last year which are basically this. Recently I do things like pat a girl on the head as a reward, when she’s agitated say (deadpan) “Is that your angry face?”, physically move her out of the way when I want something (rather than ask her to move) etc

What exactly is it that should be obvious? Do you not notice that women deliberately obfuscate their true desires?

It’s not a matter of men not being able to read women’s subtle cues. It’s a matter of women working very hard to not give off accurate cues.

It’s only through long experience and the sharing of it with other men that we can learn about you at all. It has very little to do with your “subtle cues”.