Comments on: Girls on the Side

By: Spyros

Spyros — Sat, 27 Dec 2014 17:10:54 +0000

erratum: “surprized” (3rd §)

By: Spyros

Spyros — Sat, 27 Dec 2014 17:10:15 +0000

To blackbird.young:

So, how was it?

I was also quite surpozed never to read anything about swinging here.

We actually do play that game, my wife and I, from time to time. Either 4 (2 couples) or 3 (ourselves + a girl), mainly privately.

It’s a (very) good thing to do…as we say here in France, if your couple is happy, it will be even more…if not, it’s going to be worse. We are happy, so that is only positive. No need to explain why…noone dislikes some alpha overdose from time to time.

By: Rollo Tomassi

Rollo Tomassi — Mon, 10 Sep 2012 12:57:50 +0000

True, but a condom is an immediate mediary between a man and a woman at the time of the sex act. Yes, it serves the same function as feminine birth control but hormonal birth control still has the element of trust associated with it. In other words, you’re taking a woman’s word that she’s on the pill whereas a man can’t pretend not to be using a condom.

In an immediate, spontaneous sexual encounter (ONS) a prudent guy with his wits about him would see the utility of protecting himself with a condom, but put that same guy into an extended relationship with a woman who “accidentally” got pregnant because he got comfortable with going bareback with her and you’ll see how the dynamic shifts.

Most ‘accidental’ pregnancies are the deliberate results of a woman’s concerted effort to lock down a guy in commitment / provisioning, not a one time careless bang. If a man were on the pill, and covertly insured himself against that sort of predation it would change the SMP dynamic.

There’s an internet story about the guy with the vasectomy who’s girlfriend explained she was pregnant by him, only to have her infidelity and her plot to saddle him with her child exposed and her shamed. Imagine that story being commonplace enough to upset women optimizing the unfettered pluralistic sexual strategy they enjoy now because their form of birth control is a covert form of birth control.

By: titanium

titanium — Sun, 09 Sep 2012 18:49:32 +0000

Rollo
“An exclusively male form of hormonal birth control (the male pill) would set the present SMP on its ass. The primary reason for the SMP as it is today is largely due to women being afforded unilateral control of their birthing (and ultimately provisioning), entirely excluding men from determining when they will have a family, and with that the control of male sexual strategy. ”

Could the same argument be made except with condoms replacing male hormonal birth control? In that case, condoms do exist so it’s not entirely accurate that men are excuded from deciding when to start a family. Why does your assertion depend on hormonal birth control rather than condoms?

By: Sword

Sword — Thu, 06 Sep 2012 02:11:52 +0000

I liked the pic, I think more guys need to think of women in terms like this, dirty little sluts.

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By: Alpha Mission

Alpha Mission — Sat, 01 Sep 2012 16:12:40 +0000

I believe you are on to something Mr. Momma

By: joemomma35

joemomma35 — Sat, 01 Sep 2012 13:19:47 +0000

Not to mention that I would assume a relationship where a type A (masculinized, Westernized) woman ends up gaining more status and money than her husband, thus putting her out of her female defined role, probably causes plenty of anxiety for women as well. She goes out searching for other men who may or may not fuck her and her family over, if other men even consider her in the first place given her aging looks. Roissy’s blog once pointed to women being happier in a traditional woman role, but I can’t find the link and I don’t remember if it mentioned anxiety or not. Regardless I would assume that it would include anxiety levels.

This came up to me this morning because I was reading a PT article on anxiety levels. I can’t even find that link right now either..