Comments on: Girl’s Night Out

By: dunav78

dunav78 — Sun, 04 Jan 2015 12:58:45 +0000

hi mate im lady but my answer on this is if women who is either married or in LTR she wont go nowere without you ,best thing you tell her that you not happy about that if she not agree let her go you deserve better person who will love u

By: Beta Tells |

Beta Tells | — Wed, 12 Nov 2014 00:20:03 +0000

[…] Does she keep a core peer group of ‘girlfriends’ she insists on prioritizing over being with you? Frequent GNOs? […]

By: Jason

Jason — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 20:37:26 +0000

What qualifies as too many GNO? I am currently in a relationship with a girl in college who goes out once or twice a month to parties with her friends in different colleges. These are college parties and she is with a couple girl friends but otherwise knows no one. So of course If she didn’t want me to know something I won’t. I don’t try to stop her, but we do have rules, I don’t condone drunkeness or drugs or nudity. And she as far as Ik never dances with other men. What concerns me is now that she is wanting to and is going to these parties semi frequently, her friends are very wild, and many times I have seen videos of them with their shirts up or drunk out of their minds doing completely immature things. And don’t get me wrong im all out for going out and having a couple drinks or shots and having fun. But I would never without my girl or with other girls around. So is this something I should end now or see what happens? She isn’t this type of girl around me but I feel like her friends influence her and I dont understand why she needs to be around these things if she isn’t even going to get drunk or be excessively wild even though her friends are.

By: Jean

Jean — Wed, 17 Sep 2014 20:05:03 +0000

Phamrich,

I say: if that happens, take note of her behavior and re-evaluate her status in your life. Don’t get emotionnally involved, just realized she is willing to take the risk of losing you (she knows that it will make some doubts arise in your mind).

If she is willing to risk losing you, then it can mean two things :
First, she thinks you are desperate and that you will not go away anyway.
Second, she doesn’t want to be with you anymore.

Anyway, you can NOT change her behavior. Even if you talked to her, it would be of HER initiative to change her behavior and it seems she doesn’t want to. Since you can not change her behavior and you clearly don’t like it, I would suggest to get rid of that bitch who – I’m sure – already cheated on you at least one time (too wasted because of the dealer’s stuff, she went to another guy’s house to fuck him, for instance).

By: phamrich

phamrich — Mon, 09 Jun 2014 05:33:38 +0000

I can totally accept GNO’s when the girl comes home to you or her house at the end of the night. But it would be great to hear more advice if it would be any different if the girl isn’t coming home for the night or even consecutive nights where she says shes sleeping over somewhere which could be a girl/guy friend, condo, etc. To top it all off my girlfriend likes to go party with druggies and dealers that are willing to blow huge amounts of cash in one night which is always a challenge for my jealousy complex. ANY REPLIES OR COMMENTS TO THIS WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED.

By: saintNick

saintNick — Mon, 07 Apr 2014 08:50:17 +0000

I fell upon this website by chance Friday the day before the dreaded girls night out, (how silly it feels after reading this I dreaded it) discussing it with my mom what I discovered really upset us both (she still thinks its aload of shit)but only cause I was the ideal beta.(raised by my mother no father figure, cheated on constantly by my exes,person who belived in the ideal of true love n soul mates and if I don’t cheat she wont cheat, n all that shit )

I even chose a girl below my station , shes overweight and insecure. Not to brag but I knew I was way too good for her. perceives herself as a good girl,she has good morales has strong work n family ethic makes a lot of money .shes caring and thoughtful and nurturing yet she went through phases of not going out then back to back going with her singles friends and LTR friends( she went out a lot in the 2nd year but it started happening again with a new single friend). I even saw one of her friends who was in a LTR hit on a guy in the bar while I sat just opposite with her baby daddy!

Took rollos advice and look whats happened……texted me after sat saying she getting to old for this, shes replaced her Saturday night seshes with Thursday night in door drink with the girls. Normally I would have been over the moon with this but its only solidated everything ive read and its broke me .
(Even challenged her to do a lie detector test last week full on beta move which she flat out refused and said she has nothing to prove and without trust with having nothing lmao)

I never cheated on her sexually. entrusted to her I kissed someone else 2nd year in our relationship (only slip up in 4 f****** years!) 2 months ago and she didn’t end it just made me feel like a insect, fed me aload of logic vs love shit days later and said i can make it up to her n buy her something nice!!! which I fucking did.

4 years into this LTR, were a big support to both of us in everything .distanced myself from all my mates. Shes my only support, She’s always bought me dinner to begin with. then taking turns now its half n half.

but I keep seeing the signs… I hit the gym she pressures me to go for that job promotion, I take her out for a meal then hints I should go gym after, shes realising with age whats happening(were both 26).replacing sexy underwear with baggy pj’s, withholding sex before GNO then day after jumping all over me while still bargaining i take her out for a movie or food.

so many other signs. I want to escape but we both got our annual holiday to turkey coming up in 2 months which is paid for and ive invested all this time and effort and im still fighting becoming unplugged. my mom said stay the good guy, phoned my dad he said be the dog I always was meant to be ….

any positive advice really appreciated none in resentment as ive seen on here.

By: Possession |

Possession | — Wed, 08 Jan 2014 06:08:24 +0000

[…] with me when I suggested that if their girlfriends or wives wanted to head out with the girls for a GNO they should, as indifferently as possible, let them go. Granted, I attached more than a few caveats […]

By: tim

tim — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 19:27:11 +0000

My wife went out with her girl friend years back and said only girls but it was happening to much so i asked a few questions and went later to her friends house any ways and her friends car was in the drive way still after my wife told me she was driving . i called my wife on the phone she told me again her friend drove and they are at the bar i asked her why is her car still at her house she told me nothing was going on she is drunk .I went down the street and waited she pulled up in a truck with her friend and 2 guys .I zipped down there catching her in a lie , and i was yelling pissed ,if the guys would not have driven off i would have killed them .I was already past reason yelling at them asking my wife who they where .
she keep saying nothing happened her friend was saying the same thing
i was yelling your fucking liars . Why should i believe you. she has never said anything about girls night out sense then , but sometimes she wants to go out she will ask if I want to come . sometimes she says she might be drinking and pass out at her friends and i tell her thats a bad idea .
she is married she should be home at night . she will say your not going to be home your working ,and i tell her it doesn’t matter she should not be drinking so much she cant come home and make me worry or thank shel doing anything wrong .