A Girl’s Night Out
I’ve been dating this girl for about 5 months now. She’s very attractive, I’d say an HB7 or 8. Her interest level is extremely high. I’d say in the high 90% bracket. She always calls or e-mails me when we’re not together telling me how much she misses me, etc, etc. And she expresses her feeling towards me in many ways when we are together. So my point here is that I know she’s really into me. And I play by the rule of keeping my interest level slightly below hers to keep things going. And it’s worked. Also, I apply all of the Game principals in our relationship. So I’m no chump with this girl and I feel that I have a good grip on the realtionship.
Her friend from New York is visiting her for four days. Her friend is single and young (25). Tonight they’re going out to a dance club with another girl whom they know who is also not dating anyone. This is all just fine. I understand that I shouldn’t discourage or show any type of insecurities regarding her going out with her friends. But I do feel that her two friends are going to be interested in the possibility of hooking up with some guys even though my girlfriend is not. It only makes sense since her one friend is from out of town, and they are single. This concerns me because I think it will put my GF in an awkward position.
I’m a bit confused on whether or not I should ask her anything about that evening in a playful manner when I talk to her next. In other words, what’s the best practice to do in this situation? Should I simply ask how her night went and if she had fun and just leave it at that? Or should I playfully poke at her about dudes hitting on her, and how girls can be naughty?
So the dillema is that on one hand, I don’t want to seem too passive about the whole thing. But on the other hand I don’t want to seem insecure. Part of me says that I should express some degree of protectiveness toward her in this situation. But I don’t want to send the wrong signal.
What are your thoughts
Let her go.
“You do know what happens when your girlfriend ‘gets drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another,..’?!!” Yes, I’ve been the guy who nailed your girlfriend.
“You do know that ‘taken’ girls just want to live vicariously through their single girlfriends?” I’ve written volumes about it.
This is a very common shit test. Don’t even pause to think about it and do NOT let her perceive for a second that you’re even contemplating it. Be matter-of-fact and tell her you’ll see her when she gets back. Don’t tell her to call you, and don’t you call her. If she calls be concise and ask her if she’s enjoying herself, nothing more – no details, nothing. Let her be as forthcoming as she wants and never for a minute give her the impression you’re suspicious or posessive. This is the surest way to pass this test.
When and if she asks about what you’ve been doing, tell her you’ve been busy with work/school, your family, etc., (i.e. something unavoidably responsible). Do NOT say you’re out with the boys in some lame effort to counter her going off with the girls. Do NOT give her the impression that you are doing anything as a reprisal to her going off with the girls. Do NOT give her the impression that you are pacing around the house waiting for her to call or sulking. In fact I’d advise letting your voicemail pick up the call and then call her back an hour later, if at all.
I’m sure many guys reading this are experiencing the twangs of possessive insecurity even in my suggesting this course of action. The reflexive response most guys will have in a situation like this will be one of mate protection; the fear being that if they don’t express their disapproval they’ll run the risk of their woman thinking they don’t care enough about them to be jealous. This is a trope most guys sell themselves, because it’s more about suspicion than jealousy. As intuitive as this sounds it really masks the insecurity that their girl will meet another guy and hook up with him. On an instinctual level we’re well aware of women’s pluralistic sexual strategies, thus an evolutionarily honed suspicion was hardwired into our psyches to protect men from becoming the beta cuckold provisioning for another male’s offspring. However, as counterintuitive as this sounds, a GNO is an excellent opportunity to display confidence behaviors.
The GNO Shit Test
The secret of the GNO (girls night out) shit test is, the truth of the matter is, that if a woman is determined to cheat on you, there’s really nothing you can do about it. You can protect your own genetic interests, but whether it’s on a GNO or with some guy from the office, if a woman wants to fuck, she’ll find a way to fuck and all the psychological, possessive arm twisting in the world wont change that desire. The covert message in this is what’s important.
Remember, a woman’s default is to communicate covertly. When you are indifferent to her proposition of a GNO it sends the message that you are confident enough in your own ability to replace her should she cross that line. Let her imagination work for you. Women love to convince themselves, “he trusts me implicitly” while they secretly sift through your text messages, but the covert message is really a veiled threat and exemplifies your self-confidence. Bear in mind it’s what she feels in this communication. If you leave her with the feeling that you’re clingy, possessive, sulky and worried, the impression she has is that you’re weak and are the kind of guy that women settle for, not compete for. Essentially you make her the PRIZE by voicing your insecurities. Alphas don’t worry about their plates on GNOs, in fact women enraptured by Alphas don’t see the appeal of GNOs.
A Prince isn’t worried about the behavior of one woman when he has several more on the royal speed-dial; one more testament to the power of abundance thinking and Plate Theory. This may or may not be the case, but the impression of it and the covert communication of it is vital. If, by your actions you can leave her with the feeling that you have a lot going for you, you’re in demand, that you are a commodity that other women will compete for, that you are the PRIZE; you plant the seed of doubt and she will voluntarily curb her desire to go on GNOs – and this is the outcome you’re striving for. You want your attention to be more rewarding than the attention she’ll receive on a GNO. You can’t force this into being so, but you can covertly manipulate her desire. You want her to talk herself out of going.
Learn this now, making a woman cognizant of higher sexual market value can only be demonstrated, never explicated.
Disclaimer: At this point I should also add that this in no way excuses the woman who CONSTANTLY goes on GNOs as some kind of ritual with her girlfriends. This is symptomatic of a larger problem and this, again, is based in desire. If you ever find yourself in this circumstance your best recourse is to NEXT and remove your attentions entirely. Women who have a regular GNO in LTRs are seeking something vicariously through their friends that they feel deprived of and need a fix for to feel completed. It’s only a matter of time until the right circumstances arise for her to consolidate on that deprivation. Better to cut your losses on a bad investment than play the cuckold for a woman who has no genuine desire for you and regularly demonstrates this in her behavior.
Possessiveness
I’ve known seasoned players who’d pee themselves over a girls night out proposition, but I always advise they adopt the attitude that she’s free to go do whatever she’d like. In fact I’d encourage it. That’s where confidence makes you a man, when you can say “go ahead, have a good time.” It’s what’s implied in the action that counts. If a woman (or man) wants to cheat, they’ll find a way to do it, with or without your knowledge. The only person who’s actions you can control are your own. Now, would it suck to break up a marriage over that? Yes, but I’d rather it be dissolved than to live disingenuously one minute longer than necessary.
If I locked my wife/GF up in a closet that only gives credence to my insecurity about my relationship and changes the nature of my LTR. In fact, in doing so the frame automatically transfers to a woman the moment you become possessive, because you confirm for her that you lack the confidence to generate new options (i.e stimulate competition anxiety) – to be a man that other women would desperately want should she decide to cheat. You must be a Man that your GF/Wife doesn’t want to cheat on. Sometimes a woman can’t appreciate this because she’s too immature to get it, but you have to be the Man confident enough to say “do what you want” while communicating higher value. As I’ve stated before, when your silence inspires more dread than your words, you’re probably an Alpha.
A lot of guys have a real tough time with possessiveness. What they tend to overlook is the element of desire. If you’ve got a girl who want’s to go off with the girls to Vegas for a weekend the operative in the whole situation is that she WANTS to go. While I do understand the necessity of ‘mate protection’ this desire is already established BEFORE you issue any ultimatum (which is a declaration of powerlessness). If she had a fear of loss to begin with she would’ve passed on the trip because she had a genuine desire to do so. In fact considering it wouldn’t even be an afterthought.
This is the Desire Dynamic – you can never force a genuine desire by means of coercion or negotiation. You can pay a woman to fuck you, it doesn’t mean she wants to fuck you of her own volition. The girl still wants to go to Vegas even if her man were to give her an ultimatum, and in addition he comes off as an optionless, possessive chump. I realize the idea is that if he’s uncompromising and she magically respects him she’ll develop a real interest level in him because he put his foot down as a “real man”, but the damage is still done. Her desire isn’t for him, it’s for Vegas, even if she says “OK honey, you win”. It’s not genuine.
September 3rd, 2012 at 7:19 am
I’m not saying that I wouldn’t feel bad in that situation, but I would certainly think so after a couple of days have passed.
September 3rd, 2012 at 11:09 am
patrick,
you can’t reason with men that think with their emotions. fear rules them. they are as bad as women. i agree with you but they’ll never understand.
September 3rd, 2012 at 5:45 pm
Before civilization started to decay,which is to say before 1830, women were never allowed to have unsupervised contact with strange males, because it was expected that they would fuck them, causing the collapse of the family and thus society.
Well guess what. They did fuck them, the family collapsed, and now society is collapsing.
September 3rd, 2012 at 7:24 pm
In all sincerity Wes, it does seem like you have alot going for you. You seem to have tangible attributes and accomplishments from which you derive your confidence, which makes your confidence seem genuine to me.So yes, given what you have going for you and what not it would be more difficult for your woman to find a man of higher value. So when you say that the guys expressing concern about loyalty are just “lower value men”, there might be some truth to that. However, that only goes to prove the point that they’re making. I think what’s trying to be conveyed is that women are still typically looking to trade up, it’s just that in your case that may be more difficult. So while your circumstances may be different, it doesn’t make what alot of men are saying on here wrong.
Also, another thing to consider is the age of the women you’re with. Correct me if I’m wrong ( I can’t get back to the older posts right now to verify) but I believe you said your current woman was married 20 years and divorced 5 when she met you. This easily puts her in the 40s and maybe older. That’s not to say she isn’t still attractive (she is), but a woman at that age has somewhat different wants/needs than a woman in her 20s, which I suspect the majority of men here are dealing with. Hypergamy – the desire to “trade up” so to speak – never entirely goes away in a woman, but it certainly wanes with age.
I read a good comment on a Heartiste post a while back that I feel bears repeating (not verbatim): “The takeaway from the manosphere is that while not everyone can be top dog, no one has to be a victim”. I think thats the purpose behind some of the comments being made, to aide in the detection of warning signs. The harsh reality is that for some men, they will almost always be respected by women; and for others, women will always be attempting to take advantage of them if they let them. And in truth, from my observation and experience, women who are really into their men really aren’t too into the girls nights out. Girls night out is dinner at most.
September 3rd, 2012 at 7:45 pm
Here’s what gets me, and I’m open to suggestions on this, but how can one NOT care about fidelity and not get jealous when they’ve invested themselves in a relationship and their investment is being met with disrespect at times? The purpose of an investment is a return on that investment in some form or another. So just by the nature of the relationship, you’d have to have some sort of outcome dependence (just like stock investments and one’s desire to make sure they’re profitable). It seems like some people manage that well from what I gather in the comments.
September 3rd, 2012 at 9:12 pm
> So, given that a) girls don’t go out on GNOs to be a cum dumpster
If a wife is actually in to her husband, she has no interest in Girls Nights Out in the pub.
It being easier to observe whether a wife is in to her husband, than whether she is a cum dumpster.
This correlation is evidence that girls that go out on a girls night out, are cum dumpsters.
September 3rd, 2012 at 10:16 pm
One last thought (I drank a red bull for the first time in a while so I’m on a roll)….
Not just from this post, but from other one’s i’ve seen the saying along the lines of “all girls in the modern world go on GNOs, it’s normal” in the comments section. Yes, this is true, but this needs to be placed in the context of hypergamy. The modern, “normal” dating scene exists in the context of a world in which there are not checks for hypergamy. It’s due to the overall fem-centric nature of current society that facilitates the pursuit of hypergamy. Now I know that I’m not going to win any fans by saying this, but here’s the somewhat ugly truth on “normal”. It’s normal because the average girl doesn’t have what they perceive as a top-tier man (hence why they are the average girl). So the majority of women (i.e. “normal” women) won’t feel like they’ve maximized hypergamy. Ergo, the “norm” is the continued pursuit of this, which the modern dating scene is designed to facilitate.
September 4th, 2012 at 5:42 am
“Here’s what gets me, and I’m open to suggestions on this, but how can one NOT care about fidelity and not get jealous when they’ve invested themselves in a relationship and their investment is being met with disrespect at times? The purpose of an investment is a return on that investment in some form or another. So just by the nature of the relationship, you’d have to have some sort of outcome dependence (just like stock investments and one’s desire to make sure they’re profitable). It seems like some people manage that well from what I gather in the comments.”
Most people don’t understand what love (I assume there is love involved in a relationship) is about.
Love is not about investing and expecting something in return. This is programmed disaster.
Love is not give and (expect) take.
Love is giving without wanting anything in return. Isn’t there a saying, something like “if you love someone, let him/her go and see if he/she comes back”?
Also your stock investments analogy has the same basic problem. Stock investors are advised to be absolutely outcome independent. The outcome is not completely in the investors hand, so it makes no sense to be attached to something you can not influence.
Same applies for a poker player (which I am), if you are attached to the outcome (whether you win or lose) you are doomed. You will lose at times and then lose your mind along with everything in front you. Same applies to stock investors and relationships.
Note that outcome independency doesn’t mean you don’t do your best to maximize your expected outcome.
September 4th, 2012 at 6:28 am
– You cannot stop hypergamy by denying GNO’s, in fact I would argue that you encourage it by displaying betaness
– It is normal for girls to spend some time out with their own gender, and we all know from experience it is much harder to snag a girl who is in a group, often they are not interested at all, what does that tell you?
– Time and energy is better spent on improving yourself rather than trying to own your girlfriend’s schedule. Honestly, I would find it a utterly humiliating if I found myself trying to control someone elses schedule because I’m too insecure
Remember – the girl sticks herself to you, not vice versa. I am a rock, not a weed. I am always prepared to walk away if it is the best thing for me, even if it means ripping my heart in two and rebuilding it. She will always be losing out more than me, so what do I fear from hypergamy? Nothing.
Game-aware men use hypergamy to their advantage, they don’t fear it and whine about it on forums. “Unbridled hypergamy” blah blah blah, you are one of the fortunate men who know about it and have access to game material, 95% of men never will have the opportunity to learn game the way that you do.
If you think all women are bad, sluts, etc then you are wrong and you need to look inside yourself to find out why you are only bringing these types into your life. Make positive changes and find positive influences drawn to you.
But whatever, I know some people here will never take this on board because they can’t, they are not mentally or emotionally strong enough. They are forever playing the victim and don’t know anything else – well here’s a bit of knowledge – hypergamy is not good or evil, it simply IS.
Everyone is free to live how they want. Every path has challenges, and mine is no different, but I believe this approach is the most positive and will get you the positive and sustainable relationships we all eventually want. It is best not to stifle the individuality of others, and in return ask that they do not stifle yours.
Very interesting topic btw and I’ve enjoyed the debate :]
September 4th, 2012 at 12:14 pm
@patrick:
Very good points, I agree. Here’s what I guess gets to me. I’m seeing a girl, having fun, truly not dependent on an outcome but then she pushes for a relationship, to take things to a “more serious” level. However, it seems the expectation is for me to take it to a more serious level while she’s not really meeting me halfway on it.
I agree with you on what love is or at least ought to be, but that makes me think love is really something that exists between parents and children, not men and women. That saying you mentioned “if you love someone, let him/her go and see if they come back” reminds me of something. I was casually seeing this girl whose previous relationship was an “on and off for a few years type”. Meanwhile, she was the one with her hand on the on/off switch. She’d dump the guy when some better option came around, got hooked up with the other guy and when that fizzled out, she’d go back to the original guy and he’d take her back. So where’s the love on her part (I think Rollo has mentioned before about how a woman can’t love the same way a man loves a woman)? She just seemed to like the fact that he was so “in love” with her because it made him an easy fallback plan, a sucker if you will. How can this guy be in love when he’s constanty being screwed over and disrespected? At what point, regardless of love, do you simply stand up for yourself?
All in all, I think alot of the problems guys are describing here could be mitigated if they took more time to vett the women they get into relationships with.
September 5th, 2012 at 11:35 am
Dump her for even asking. Find a new one. You already know you’re able to attract good looking women from past experiences so why worry about losing one who isn’t treating you right? Yes it might be a bit painful since she’s been saying how much she likes you and stuff but you gotta realize from this behavior that she isn’t long term relationship quality and move on. Let her go on her ‘GNO’ single and go out yourself and find another one. Or mourn for a day or two and then go out, but I would go out right away.
September 8th, 2012 at 8:45 pm
I’m long gaming a girl who lives in a different country that I met. There are feelings there on both sides (possible oneitis, I’m afraid to report) and I’m confused as to what point bringing up the pick-up aspect of my life into conversation with her should be (she already knows about it and we spoke about it in person, but I’ve been reluctant to since we have only been speaking online from different countries so as not to “lose her”). How do I communicate “I picked up a girl’s number at the bar” or “I’m going on a date with a girl” without driving the girl that I like away whilst keeping the dominant frame, showing that I am and keeping myself at a higher value, and keeping her chasing?
Another point, after speaking to some people who do game is that men are happy to treat girls as numbers but when the role is reversed, it’s not such a great feeling. In the same situation, again, how do you communicate all of this without her thinking “well, we like each other but if he’s going to fuck other people I’m going to fuck other people too”?
[Say goodbye to your Invisible Friend]
September 8th, 2012 at 10:04 pm
@RDIAN
I don’t have the link to the post but Rollo said it best:
“If you have a long-distance relationship, you have no relationship”. Get out. A long-distance relationship is to a woman what a fuck buddy is to a man. With a fuck buddy, a man gets sex without giving emotional commitment. A LDR is commitment without the sex. You’re basically doing the male equivalent of whoring yourself out. Don’t do it. Pick up ass in your own country. To be honest, it sound to invested already. I recommend dropping it on peaceful terms.
September 17th, 2012 at 5:48 pm
It depends mostly on the venue. If she’s going out with her friends to a bowling alley where there’s a small chance she’ll be hit on, that’s one thing. But if she’s going to a bar/club or any environment where she’s guaranteed to be hit on, that’s a huge disrespect to the boyfriend regardless of whether she actually intends to hook up with these other males.
A lot of PUAs say you should act like you don’t care, suggesting that passivity equals alpha/confidence. That’s doublespeak in my opinion. The alpha is supposed to be the strongest, most dominant male in the group. I cannot picture an alpha caveman or an alpha chimpanzee passively allowing other males to hit on his girl. In all likelihood, the beta chimp or caveman would likely get a severe beating. Of course, you can’t do that today, but you can at least put your foot down verbally.
Now, if you tell your girlfriend that GNO is unacceptable, she will, in all likelihood, accuse you of being insecure, but that’s just a really clever shit test. She’s trying to reframe your alpha male behavior as beta male behavior so as to intimidate you from acting alpha. The beta male who’s just acting alpha will fail this test because his chief concern is her perception of him as an alpha male. The true alpha male doesn’t care whether others perceive him as such. You either treat him with respect or face the consequences. It makes no difference to him either way.
October 31st, 2012 at 10:17 pm
Stupid advice. If you gf is doing this you need to go out and make it obvious you don’t give a shit about her.
If your gf/wife is doing this she is likely to end up with Yareally’s dick in her mouth.
A prince will kick her out of the palace as soon as she comes back and sees him with the next woman.
December 6th, 2012 at 10:36 am
I do not fully understand many comments of this post. Maybe it is because I have been a beta for too long but, if any of you have the ability to seduce hot women at will, why the hell would you care about one of them having a GNO?
Sincerely, I imagine myself being a true seducer now, and I can’t see any reason I would even start to care about a GNO.
December 15th, 2012 at 4:29 pm
If a 25 yo woman is considered young, what about a 26 yo?
January 2nd, 2013 at 7:36 pm
“At this point I should also add that this in no way excuses the woman who CONSTANTLY goes on GNOs as some kind of ritual with her girlfriends. This is symptomatic of a larger problem and this, again, is based in desire. If you ever find yourself in this circumstance your best recourse is to NEXT and remove your attentions entirely. ”
Does the same apply for BNOs?
February 1st, 2013 at 4:56 pm
So in the event your girl goes out and makes a drunken mistake without telling you and you end up with some incurable sexually transmitted disease then what?
February 1st, 2013 at 4:57 pm
So in the event your girl goes out and makes a drunken mistake without telling you and you end up with some incurable sexually transmitted disease, then what?
April 26th, 2013 at 3:27 pm
My wife went out with her girl friend years back and said only girls but it was happening to much so i asked a few questions and went later to her friends house any ways and her friends car was in the drive way still after my wife told me she was driving . i called my wife on the phone she told me again her friend drove and they are at the bar i asked her why is her car still at her house she told me nothing was going on she is drunk .I went down the street and waited she pulled up in a truck with her friend and 2 guys .I zipped down there catching her in a lie , and i was yelling pissed ,if the guys would not have driven off i would have killed them .I was already past reason yelling at them asking my wife who they where .
she keep saying nothing happened her friend was saying the same thing
i was yelling your fucking liars . Why should i believe you. she has never said anything about girls night out sense then , but sometimes she wants to go out she will ask if I want to come . sometimes she says she might be drinking and pass out at her friends and i tell her thats a bad idea .
she is married she should be home at night . she will say your not going to be home your working ,and i tell her it doesn’t matter she should not be drinking so much she cant come home and make me worry or thank shel doing anything wrong .
January 8th, 2014 at 1:08 am
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April 7th, 2014 at 4:50 am
I fell upon this website by chance Friday the day before the dreaded girls night out, (how silly it feels after reading this I dreaded it) discussing it with my mom what I discovered really upset us both (she still thinks its aload of shit)but only cause I was the ideal beta.(raised by my mother no father figure, cheated on constantly by my exes,person who belived in the ideal of true love n soul mates and if I don’t cheat she wont cheat, n all that shit )
I even chose a girl below my station , shes overweight and insecure. Not to brag but I knew I was way too good for her. perceives herself as a good girl,she has good morales has strong work n family ethic makes a lot of money .shes caring and thoughtful and nurturing yet she went through phases of not going out then back to back going with her singles friends and LTR friends( she went out a lot in the 2nd year but it started happening again with a new single friend). I even saw one of her friends who was in a LTR hit on a guy in the bar while I sat just opposite with her baby daddy!
Took rollos advice and look whats happened……texted me after sat saying she getting to old for this, shes replaced her Saturday night seshes with Thursday night in door drink with the girls. Normally I would have been over the moon with this but its only solidated everything ive read and its broke me .
(Even challenged her to do a lie detector test last week full on beta move which she flat out refused and said she has nothing to prove and without trust with having nothing lmao)
I never cheated on her sexually. entrusted to her I kissed someone else 2nd year in our relationship (only slip up in 4 f****** years!) 2 months ago and she didn’t end it just made me feel like a insect, fed me aload of logic vs love shit days later and said i can make it up to her n buy her something nice!!! which I fucking did.
4 years into this LTR, were a big support to both of us in everything .distanced myself from all my mates. Shes my only support, She’s always bought me dinner to begin with. then taking turns now its half n half.
but I keep seeing the signs… I hit the gym she pressures me to go for that job promotion, I take her out for a meal then hints I should go gym after, shes realising with age whats happening(were both 26).replacing sexy underwear with baggy pj’s, withholding sex before GNO then day after jumping all over me while still bargaining i take her out for a movie or food.
so many other signs. I want to escape but we both got our annual holiday to turkey coming up in 2 months which is paid for and ive invested all this time and effort and im still fighting becoming unplugged. my mom said stay the good guy, phoned my dad he said be the dog I always was meant to be ….
any positive advice really appreciated none in resentment as ive seen on here.
June 9th, 2014 at 1:33 am
I can totally accept GNO’s when the girl comes home to you or her house at the end of the night. But it would be great to hear more advice if it would be any different if the girl isn’t coming home for the night or even consecutive nights where she says shes sleeping over somewhere which could be a girl/guy friend, condo, etc. To top it all off my girlfriend likes to go party with druggies and dealers that are willing to blow huge amounts of cash in one night which is always a challenge for my jealousy complex. ANY REPLIES OR COMMENTS TO THIS WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED.
September 17th, 2014 at 4:05 pm
Phamrich,
I say: if that happens, take note of her behavior and re-evaluate her status in your life. Don’t get emotionnally involved, just realized she is willing to take the risk of losing you (she knows that it will make some doubts arise in your mind).
If she is willing to risk losing you, then it can mean two things :
First, she thinks you are desperate and that you will not go away anyway.
Second, she doesn’t want to be with you anymore.
Anyway, you can NOT change her behavior. Even if you talked to her, it would be of HER initiative to change her behavior and it seems she doesn’t want to. Since you can not change her behavior and you clearly don’t like it, I would suggest to get rid of that bitch who – I’m sure – already cheated on you at least one time (too wasted because of the dealer’s stuff, she went to another guy’s house to fuck him, for instance).
October 31st, 2014 at 4:37 pm
What qualifies as too many GNO? I am currently in a relationship with a girl in college who goes out once or twice a month to parties with her friends in different colleges. These are college parties and she is with a couple girl friends but otherwise knows no one. So of course If she didn’t want me to know something I won’t. I don’t try to stop her, but we do have rules, I don’t condone drunkeness or drugs or nudity. And she as far as Ik never dances with other men. What concerns me is now that she is wanting to and is going to these parties semi frequently, her friends are very wild, and many times I have seen videos of them with their shirts up or drunk out of their minds doing completely immature things. And don’t get me wrong im all out for going out and having a couple drinks or shots and having fun. But I would never without my girl or with other girls around. So is this something I should end now or see what happens? She isn’t this type of girl around me but I feel like her friends influence her and I dont understand why she needs to be around these things if she isn’t even going to get drunk or be excessively wild even though her friends are.
November 11th, 2014 at 7:20 pm
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January 4th, 2015 at 7:58 am
hi mate im lady but my answer on this is if women who is either married or in LTR she wont go nowere without you ,best thing you tell her that you not happy about that if she not agree let her go you deserve better person who will love u