Hypocrites & Little Emperors

Over the weekend I read an interesting post from Vox regarding hypocrisy (great song BTW) and the impressions we as Game-aware men sometimes indelibly leave on guys who actually make the transition from from the Matrix to being Game-aware:

It is true that adulthood and maturity are drenched with hypocrisy, because we are all largely incapable of living up to our ideals, morals, and standards. But that doesn’t mean that wallowing forever in that point between childhood and adult is desirable, or even possible. With regards to Game, it is perfectly understandable that gammas and deltas might look at the decadent world of the alpha and think it looks like paradise, complete with 72 cheerfully compliant non-virgins, but that is as much of an illusion as the world of the blue pill.

For obvious reasons, nothing motivates a man’s imagination better than the potential for sex. On the most rudimentary level, the male ideal – the counter to feminine hypergamy – is unlimited access to unlimited sexuality. The most extreme idealization of this (72 virgins in heaven) is too far fetched for all but the most mentally imbalanced and religiously fanatical. However, men’s rational predispositions want to temper the unbelievable with the concept of the fantastically attainable. Think of it in terms of porn; most men tend to click past the videos of “porn stars” – huge breasted, HB10’s®, overly made up, in lingerie and high heels, all eager and willing to perform any feat of sexual acrobatic – they’re too improbable, too unbelievable. But give a guy a tempered, believable, sexual vignette, one into which he can relatively assume the POV perspective of the male, and now you’ve got participant. You’ve got a believer.

To varying, subjective, degrees of fantasized believability, a lot of newly unplugged red-pill men can visualize themselves in some, albeit limited, capacity to experience the Alpha’s porn. However, I don’t think Vox goes far enough in fleshing out the Alpha fantasy though. A majority of men (i.e. betas) wouldn’t entertain the notion that they could experience the, now stereotyped, hedonism of the rock-star bad boy PUA Alpha for the same reason overdone ‘porn stars’ don’t appeal to them – it’s too slickly unbelievable. What they will believe, and probably to their detriment, is that they can enjoy the Game well enough to fit their personal capacity to get with their ‘believable’ ONEitis girl who they just know is their perfect soul-mate. They’ll play the Game realistically and long enough insofar as it grants them access to the ‘type of girls who’d always rebuffed them.’

Rubrosa from the Sosuave forum picks up the continuation of this fantasy:

Every religious nut I’ve ever encountered who has passed judgement on me and my “sinning ways” has had a past which was heavy on the sex and drugs. In other words, they pissed all the “fun” living out of their system before they became “Born Again”. Now they preach “The Way.”

There seems to be a theme in certain parts of the manosphere (which I agree with) which states more or less the following:
It’s not about the chicks…it’s about you improving yourself….which gets the chicks.

I have a friend who’s a very successful Businessman/Playboy. We both have similar experience in terms of our journeys in dealing with the opposite sex. We were laughing at his story about how he didn’t feel like screwing this one girl only because he didn’t feel like driving that evening. I joked that if he was 20 years old, he would have made the drive. He laughed “Are you kidding? Back then I would drive 3 hours to get laid!”

I think that maybe I’m like those wackjobs who preach only after they’ve sinned. Does all my advice fall on deaf ears because no matter how much advice one hears, experience is the only true teacher? I have enough experience and Game savvy to where I can bang a different chick every night of the week with some reliability…so it’s somewhat EASY for me to say “It’s about you, not the chicks !” Kind of like a rich John Lennon singing “All you need is Love “
I feel guilty in some weird way because I’m saying that chicks aren’t a priority maybe because I have a large supply.

Rollo ? Your take ?

I don’t read Rubrosa as making a religious statement here so much as he’s drawing comparisons in hypocrisy. ‘Do as I say, not as I’ve done’ is what he’s concerned with. The religious are easy targets in this regard, but really, everyone’s a hypocrite to varying degrees.

When I was a young AFC in my late teens I would’ve honestly been appalled by what I advocate on this forum today. My outlook at that time was incorrect and influenced by persons, conditions and social conventions of which I was totally unaware. The 19 year old Rollo Tomassi would’ve advocated the exact opposite of the 44 y.o. Tomassi would now. Does that make me a hypocrite today? Or, what if my outlook was correct and through the course of life and events I changed my way of thinking and lifestyle for a period of time, only to later go back to what had originally been truth to me later?

Life is learning. A hypocrite is someone who’s words and actions are incongruent, certainly in the present, but maybe not so much the past. I give advice here based on what I got so horribly wrong in the past, not because I did everything perfect from the get go. This is why it’s a dangerous business to build your reputation on moralism or absolutism. What your life experiences teach you will eventually come into conflict with convictions in spite of how rock solid you believe they are. And it’s then that people will call you to the carpet for being something you say you are or you aren’t.

Hail to the Emperors

Now, more to the point, yes, it is all about getting laid, AND it’s also about improving oneself too. Pussy has inspired more men to become great than any other factor in human history. I think what’s missing here is that the drive to succeed and the drive to get laid are mutually beneficial, and often symbiotic. The problems arise when you attempt to separate these two influences and turn them into absolute binaries.

Pussy = Bad.  Being a Little Emperor = Good

Pussy = Good.  Being a Little Emperor = waste of time, or just a means to pussy.

It doesn’t work this way.

When people say “If all you’re living for is fucking and women, then I pity you for not living right.” what they’re doing is making a binary judgement call while using themselves as a referendum. When one guy feels he’s living ‘by the rules’ then everyone else has to play by them too in order for him to validate his existence.

When another guy wins by not playing by the first guy’s rules he then needs to invalidate that win. Take a guy who did everything by the book, got married to the first girl he’d ever banged, went to college, has a decent job, has 2 kids, and sit him next to the high school drop out, who’s still unmarried, enjoys many women, stumbled into a well paying job and has few responsibilities. Who has the greater life experiences? Who’s “doing it right? Which one of these guys is more likely to try to invalidate the lifestyle of the other? Who envies who, and who is ‘happier’?


33 responses to “Hypocrites & Little Emperors

  • A.B. Dada

    I remember driving when I was 19 over 3 hours to meet a gal, and there was no sex. I did it 3 or 4 times.

    After that, the only woman I ever drove for was the woman I married and divorced. One-itis.

    Now, if a gal isn’t willing to make the trek in a 2:1 ratio (and preferably a 3:1 ratio), it’s a sign that she’s not into me. Even now, every mile I drive to see a gal is a notch that entices me to friend zone her upon arrival.

    The quote above regarding “it’s not about chicks” is spot on. Gathering power and reputation is all a man needs to meet more and better women. As you grow in power and reputation, you quickly realize that women are unimportant.

    I can go out on the street today and meet a 23 year old who is hot, tight and domesticatible. I can’t as easy go out and land a business contact, or find a beach with perfect weather, or find the time for my hobbies, or get together with my guy friends and take a weekend flight.

  • Sam Spade

    I once recommended to a buddy of mine, who had recently married, that he travel internationally more. “Yeah, but I’m married,” he said. “I can’t just go to Thailand and bang random broads,” meaning like I might do.

    “I don’t travel to have sex,” I told him. “I travel because it’s fun.” Of course I also went out of my way to meet women in foreign countries and sex them, but that was all part of the fun. If I came back home without a notch, I didn’t mind, because at least I’d seen another culture.

    My greater point was that even though I found pleasure in foreign women, I also found pleasure in experiencing foreign lands in general. I’m a man, I’m going to find a way to have sex wherever I am, home or abroad. Yes in the end it’s all about sex, but we still have egos and still respond to other pleasurable experiences beyond the orgasm. As a man gains experience and resources on his own, he finds the ways to seduce women are myriad. A teenager or even a college student can only think of a few ways within his much smaller universe. A big part of the Matrix is young men coming out of college knowing only how to take home drunken chicks from bars and parties with very little seduction skill. (That was my biggest problem.)

  • Coy

    Recently I was “forced” by circumstance to undertake a mountaineering trip.Nothing hard though but a definite push out of the comfort zone.while I found an enthusiasm for the great outdoors, a lot of my peers just wanted to get it over with.
    So,I think its about how a mans’s experience shapes him.Two men can have a rock star PUA life style in their early twenties. later in life,one might end up to be a Pussy hunter while the other might wife a gal up and settle down.Then preach like the guy quoted.Who is more likely to be “right”?
    Personally I would like having an experience and finding out my preference on my own.

  • AB Dada

    so is the ab dada cycle beginning again? Can we just skip to the part where we’re all tired of his delusions of sexual accomplishment and make fun of him for clowning? Seems appropriate on the topic of hypocrisy and will-to-power fantasies.

  • King A (Matthew King)

    Hypocrisy is the tribute vice gives to virtue. Our leftist culture has always overestimated it in terms of villainy because the left’s insipid intellectualism puts a premium on ideas rather than action or result. Who cares what you think your philosophy is and/or your ability to articulate it, much less the impressions of the resentful in their judgment about your consistency? A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.

    For obvious reasons, nothing motivates a man’s imagination better than the potential for sex. On the most rudimentary level, the male ideal – the counter to feminine hypergamy – is unlimited access to unlimited sexuality.

    False. Or so generalized as to be banal. True enough that fucking is most average men’s most intense encounter with immortality and greatness, and it directs (especially young) fellows far out of proportion to its actual worth — and not without Nature’s reason, because youthful parenthood is simply better for the health of offspring.

    “[N]othing motivates a man’s imagination” more generally or crudely than sex, perhaps, in a Lowest Common Denominator way. But there are quite a few candidates for “better than.” Among them, power, wealth, glory, and pleasure (other than sexual). Still more refined motivators: truth, beauty, wisdom, justice, and joy.

    For all the “learning curve” of we men who were raised in the chaos of sexual revolution, the solution must be unified across the age groups. What is the point for Rollo’s young charges to suffer into the wisdom that will guide them when they become his age? Why can they not practice it now?

    The unifying factor across all ages is discipline. One must practice amused mastery — over oneself. While this becomes easier as we age, the truest tests occur when the temptations are at their most acute.

    Does all my advice fall on deaf ears because no matter how much advice one hears, experience is the only true teacher? I have enough experience and Game savvy to where I can bang a different chick every night of the week with some reliability…so it’s somewhat EASY for me to say “It’s about you, not the chicks!” … I feel guilty in some weird way because I’m saying that chicks aren’t a priority maybe because I have a large supply.

    This ethos is predicated on the young-man assumptions that 1) “experience is the only true teacher” and 2) one cannot manage the sexual impulse without first experiencing “a large supply” of “chicks.” I glean from Rollo’s advice that he agrees with these assumptions, and he therefore counsels young men to indulge their id — making hay while the sun shines. But none of this approaches the dynamic from a truly neutral perspective, asking the most basic question: what if anything does a man give up in order to procure that “large supply”? “[U]nlimited access to unlimited sexuality” may in fact foreclose some options, but for us to understand the trade-off would require considering the possibility that Shame-like levels of “unlimited sexuality” carry with it not just bad consequences but opportunity costs as well.

    This inquiry is laughed out of the conversation but only because faith in the two assumptions above is so unshakable, so sacrosanct as to never be questioned. Whatever you want to call this dogmatism, it isn’t philosophy. Philosophy subjects every received notion to the test. Socrates our model was executed for encouraging a brand of destabilizing inquiry. Without putting everything on the table — particularly those matters we are least likely to question — a pursuit of truth, and therefore a consistent solution, is compromised.

    This is how game matures into a code for life, by turning it past the limits of how teenage boys conceive the world. Men are responding an undercurrent of “red pill” PUA boosterism. They see within the PUA’s honesty and skill an independence which every man qua man yearns for, with only its most proximate consequence the quantitative score-count with so many women that they blur into impersonal abstraction. There is no reason why young men have to “experience” that blur in order to build upon it, and indeed there are indications that the blur precludes many possibilities that can never be recovered — not unlike the woman who delays childbirth until 40, chasing phantoms of sex-revolutionary dogma that ultimately dry out her womb.

    So, when young, put-upon betas whine (as they do) that it’s easy for you to say “stop pursuing the meaning of life down hundreds of vaginae,” you would do well to discount their envy as easily as you discount anything a beta says. You would do well to tally up what negative consequences attend a life of chasing one’s tail in the prime of youth. But I don’t think this community has the philosophical imagination to entertain the possibility of a self-critique, much less refrain from persecuting those who insist upon one.

    Matt

  • King A (Matthew King)

    Some anonymous hater wrote:

    so is the ab dada cycle beginning again? Can we just skip to the part where we’re all tired of his delusions of sexual accomplishment and make fun of him for clowning? Seems appropriate on the topic of hypocrisy and will-to-power fantasies.

    He won’t respond with anything but equanimity (if at all), so I will interject. You are a shitbag, a typical creature whom websites like these inadvertently encourage to express himself in anonymity and, still worse, impersonation. It beggars belief that you could be surrounded with so much wisdom and still act contrary to it. Do you not yet understand that we can smell the resentment on you, no matter how much you attempt to conceal it with pretensions of superiority?

    It is not enough to proclaim the Word of Game while acting out your old nerdish ways, dressed up in new lingo. It’s like stuffing a fatbody into stylish clothes four sizes too small. You fool no one with your strut, except yourself, even as the buttons pop and go flying.

    There is no need to defend another man who is capable of his own defense here, but you resentful bottom-feeders make me ill on general principle. I know exactly why chumps like you come out against those who distinguish themselves in this community through their independence of mind. We are used to your herd-mentality and reflexive hatred. It is everywhere. And the scavenger is nothing if not resourceful. And persistent.

    “A dozen mangy dogs can take down a lion.” You should be swept out of the halls of men, you stink up the place, but who of any stature has the patience to constantly play pest exterminator? At some indefinite time a tipping point is reached, and the unwashed masses of ressentiment squat in the institutions their betters created while they imagine themselves worthy heirs. You the online equivalent of the African taking a shit on a grand piano.

    In fact there was—and not very far away, in a building called the Centennial Hall, where the inauguration ceremonies of the presidents of Liberia took place. The hall was empty now, except for the busts of former presidents, some of them overturned, around the walls—and a Steinway grand piano, probably the only instrument of its kind in the entire country, two-thirds of the way into the hall. The piano, however, was not intact: its legs had been sawed off (though they were by design removable) and the body of the piano laid on the ground, like a stranded whale. Around it were disposed not only the sawed-off legs, but little piles of human feces.

    I had never seen a more graphic rejection of human refinement. I tried to imagine other possible meanings of the scene but could not. Of course, the piano represented a culture that was not fully Liberia’s own and had not been assimilated fully by everyone in the country: but that the piano represented not just a particular culture but the very idea of civilization itself was obvious in the very coarseness of the gesture of contempt.

    Get out of our sight. We are building something here whose nobility your proletarian brain cannot conceive.

    Matt

  • AB Dada

    Lol at King A, the admittedly sexless, riding to the defense of Dada, one who despises his own sexlessness.

    There’s some irony that Dada himself represents the pathological need for a “large supply” of chicks that King A just wrote an essay railing against…. except glaring logical inconsistencies just aren’t that exciting. Hopefully there’s entertainment value in watching King A try and reconcile the two.

    Ultimately King A is strongly skewed towards transcendental intellectual masturbation and has nothing to add on the real-world psychology of game or it’s implications on it’s practitioners. Even Nietzsche’s superman wasn’t in a narcissistic pursuit of ‘truth’ hamster wheel, but learned how to act upon others to achieve goals. It’s no surprise that King Troglodyte cannot pick up on the cornucopia of linguistic and psychological cues that AB Dada is a bold-faced liar.

    There’s nothing wrong with an essayistic journey- but men with weak ideas will be mocked as all weak men are mocked.

  • YOHAMI

    Good stuff. Let’s add this

    http://yohami.com/blog/2012/05/25/do-you-want-to-be-successful-with-women-for-real/

    I have A.B Dada on facebook and he looks legit. A jerk and an asshole, sure, and proud.

    Matt: during all my omega years it was the LACK of pussy what drove me to immortality and forged my discipline and so on. The actual pussy, compared to that immortal and transcendent drive is simply banal in comparsion.

    Still. I have no doubt that males got that powerful drive to score pussy, only. Become an emperor and score pussy. It’s the same thing.

  • A.B. Dada

    AB Doppleganger:

    I’ve said it on every other blog (game or otherwise) that has my dopplegangers present: all you serve to do is enhance my reputation for those who know me, and those who want to know me. It’s not my time I’m wasting here since I both learn and pass on my learning. If you think everything I post is bullshit, that’s your right to believe what you want to.

    I also don’t “need” lots of pussy by any means, I just travel a ton, and it’s very hard to be away for weeks on end without someone taking care of my domestic needs — and as long as they’re doing that, why not take care of their sexual needs?

    Yohami:

    Yeah, I’m an asshole but I’m not a jerk. The ladies on FB that I’m involved with would all take bullets for me if someone thought I was a jerk. Self-involved? Sure. Egomaniacal? Absolutely. But if people meet my needs, I do the same for them.

    “I have no doubt that males got that powerful drive to score pussy, only. Become an emperor and score pussy. It’s the same thing.” — In my opinion, that sexual drive for pussy is also the sexual drive FROM pussy that wants to get taken by a powerful man. I would defend my belief that my girlfriends and lovers and others who I sleep with and have slept with NEED me to have sex with them. If you don’t believe me, try not orgasming every other time, and see what happens to them. They need to collect their trophy as much as I do.

  • YOHAMI

    ABDada, I meant that “jerk” in a comrade way. Agreed about not orgasming – they freak out.

  • xclampa

    as true of women and men…

    chicks change a lot to have a good man under her sheets as well.

  • krauserpua

    It’s very important to build your life independent of getting good with women. I know a few guys who seduced their way through their 20s very effectively but now they are 30+ with no career, no money, no skill. What is cool at 25 is a loser at 35 if he doesn’t move forward. They now find it much harder to get quality women (even 20 yr olds) because the girls will no longer judge them on potential. Their self esteem is slipping too, knowing their most productive years have been pissed away. It’s easy to go too far in either direction for game / lifestyle

  • furiousferret

    These blogs have an audience that needs instruction on a deficiency that the readers have in their lives.

    Doing well with women is a definite need that most men have. When men are having their whole life wound up either how to get laid or how to please their wife/gf, then that’s a huge problem that needs to be rectified.

    It has to do with the whole suite of needs that should be meet in order to have a fulfilling lifestyle.

    It has be shown that after a certain amount of money, happiness does not increase. However, being poor causes massive unhappiness.

    The same with love life. If you are sexless beta, you’re going to be unhappy. Now a successful alpha is not going to be happy simply because he can get laid but the inverse is damn well true.

    Also, taking the red pill especially when you are young release your mentality from bondage. You can escape the poision of feminism early on. Not viewing the world through propaganda and instead having a clearer picture of how things really are helps the individual immensely.

    For example, when you find out how women really work and you find ways to reclaim a suitable behavior with women because of Rollo or Roissy, then you begin to question whatever lies have I been told.

    Because of these blogs, I began to question the very nature of society in general and it’s interactions. It lead me to read Robert Greene’s books and now I can see how interactions can be distilled into a series of power plays. While I do not think that I have any where near the full picture of how the world really works, it’s better. It’s more clear. That has to mean something.

    At the end of it all, I think that these type of blogs are more useful than simply how to bag chicks. They provide a starting point to question the world and that in of itself is worth it’s weight in gold.

  • immoralgables

    @furiousferret

    I’m 100% with you on all that

  • Johnycomelately

    “Shame-like levels of “unlimited sexuality” carry with it not just bad consequences but opportunity costs as well.”

    “There is no reason why young men have to “experience” that blur in order to build upon it, and indeed there are indications that the blur precludes many possibilities that can never be recovered.”

    “You would do well to tally up what negative consequences attend a life of chasing one’s tail in the prime of youth.”

    Platonic idealist bullshit aside, the real test is how it manifests in the material plane. What possibilities does a blue balled virgin who masquerades his ineptitude as mastery have over experience? Games, Latin, some dead man’s palambra, giving his free labour to the undeserved, becoming a yogi?

    Point to these pillars of light that you talk about. If the first and the last are paid the same then what is the point of being the first, masochism?

  • Team-Red

    “Rejoice O young man in thy youth…” ~Ecclesiastes

    Finding a balance is essential as Krauser mentioned above and working towards whatever goals a man has in his life and getting a little ass on the side is ultimately what should be preached to young men today. The pleasure of women is fleeting and should only be a byproduct of a man’s life, never his focus.

    I think the very nature of chasing women is fem-centric and is ultimately a distraction for a young man attempting to leave his mark on the world. It’s very tricky in that finding a balance is nearly impossible if you really think about it, but it can be done. Guys that marry and settle early are fucked in the sense that they are chained down to the wife and kids. So, put your endeavors first, try to get some ass on the side, and wait until you are ready to marry and get chained down. Or just put your endeavors first, get some ass on the side, and be a bachelor the rest of your life.

  • gregg

    Interesting topic. I think, that male body is constructed to be a slave to women – as it is everywhere in nature. I see confirmation of this every thay every hour. We may say that – “there are more important things than pussy”, “women should be a compliment to man´s life, not priority”, etc., but this all is bullshit for the vast majority of men.

    When I hear those statements I watch pretty closely from whoom they are coming. So we have this married guy with marriage lasting over 2 decades with two children, blabbing about more important things than pussy? Jesus, that fella sacrified his freedom to serve his woman, he works as a slave 12 hours per day so that his wife could do NOTHING and he speaks about those “more important things”? For him – women and children are MOST IMPORTANT thing, thing that defines him and he has the courage to speak about women being “compliment” to his life. Just submit him through divorce and you would see that there is NOTHING in him. NO PERSONALITY besides his emotions towards women and his children.

    We see those pua clowns, many with good eductaion and degrees with goofy hats learning a tons of tricks, spending lots of money and monkey – dance, to be “worthy” of some uneducated, low class pussy? We see those attractive men living in abundance or those married guys alvinbg everyday to their obese harpies say that “women are not that important”?

    Just try a little experiment – DENY pussy to a man. Let him be succesful otherwise, but DENY him women. Give him a time and watch. Most men drop out, become depressed, suicidal tendencies emerge, they began questioning the menaning of life, etc. Only hungry know the value of the food. Of course – there is a tiny minority of men that have mastered their emotions and bodies and for them – women are nothing but a compliment. But those men are mostly not married, live their own lives with passion – and their mission is beyond women. They enjoy occasional company of women but their goals lie elsewhere. Their live proves their position. I hate to say it – but others are nothing but SLAVES to feminine.

  • kidbourbon

    @Gregg: you’re a terrible writer.

  • Jon

    @Gregg: I fear you’re right. Esther Villar makes the same point in her book, The Manipulated Man.

  • htown

    As a relative newb consumer of the Red Pill, I keep seeing an acronym around the manosphere that I can’t figure out: what the hell is an “HB#”?

  • htown

    Thanks, Rollo. I’d guessed the “HB” stood for “hard body” and the # was for the face and other “intangibles” (ie, skin, smile, etc.) I thought I saw “FB” (“flabby body”?) somewhere but maybe I dreamed that.

    Appreciate your work. Keep it up.

  • King A (Matthew King)

    YOHAMI wrote:

    Matt: during all my omega years it was the LACK of pussy what drove me to immortality and forged my discipline and so on. The actual pussy, compared to that immortal and transcendent drive is simply banal in comparsion.

    Still. I have no doubt that males got that powerful drive to score pussy, only. Become an emperor and score pussy. It’s the same thing.

    One underappreciated aspect of the “all my omega years” factor is when those omega years occurred. In a certain way, we can regard every man as having begun in omegaville, since we all must grow out of boyishness into manhood.

    But I am beginning to see a distinct, qualitative difference between those who overcame their omega/betadom early and those who are joining the party late. There are years of mature resentment for the latter to get over, and I am not sure they understand the importance of “putting away childish things,” given the social embarrassment for having been duped for so long and for having their “youth wasted on the young.” An old saying has it that there is none so zealous as the convert, and I would modify the phrase to say, “the recently converted”. They cannot achieve the relaxation that attends alphatude.

    For that reason, men like you and Dada (and Rollo) are absolutely vital to this community as examples in the midst of ideologues. There is no zealotry in your proclamation of game but rather a holy detachment that communicates, “Take it or leave it, bro. Couldn’t care less.” It seems that the newly converted cannot achieve that zen state easily, and so they are given to weird little witch hunts against betas in their midst, proclaiming themselves more-alpha-than-thou, and considering every dissent to be intolerable heresy.

    Analogize it to young pregnant women and old ones. If a girl gets knocked up early, her body can bounce back easily. If she is in her thirties, that baby weight clings to her forever. Game theory needs to take a timing curve into account more explicitly, because teaching a 21-year-old how to alpha up is very different from telling a 35-year-old that much of his life has been invested in a lie.

    “I have no doubt that males got that powerful drive to score pussy….” Of course they do. Only, that drive takes a very different form of urgency depending on whether you are entering your prime or you are desperately trying to make up for lost time, particularly given a decade-long diversion in beta-marriage servitude. Game for oat-sowing years is not applicable to those who have almost missed the harvest altogether.

    The approach should be unified in a single principle that can be modified to particularities of time, skill, disposition, and place. Unlimited pussy acquisitiveness takes a different toll on a man depending on his maturity and stage in life. Aged, recent converts carry with them a whiff of desperation that runs contrary to the comfortable-in-one’s-skin attitude of alpha. Pussy is a consequence of that comfort more than the other way around.

    For that reason “become an emperor and score pussy” is not exactly “the same thing,” because it depends on how much opportunity a man has left to build empire. If the reformed beta is making up for lost time during the age when he should be building his estate, he might indeed equal the lifelong scorecard of the young alpha, eventually. But it will be at the expense of what alphas should be focused on at their stage in life. When the early alpha reaches the late-bloomer’s age he will be transforming the relaxed attitude he acquired in his youth into empire, while the former beta is making a retroactive attempt at achieving equality of notches.

    This disparity is reconciled by giving the development of one’s alpha chill primacy in every age, but many aged betas are too resentful and too desperate to make the attempt. Therefore PUAs should modify their approach and castigate the resentment itself since it stands in the way of not just notch-acquisition but from the essential relaxation of the alpha that makes both notches and empire possible.

    Matt

  • YOHAMI

    Matt,

    I my case the omega peak was around 21-24 years old. It conceded to a beta frame at 25yrs and cracked into playeralphawhatever when I hit 27.

    “The approach should be unified in a single principle that can be modified to particularities of time, skill, disposition, and place.”

    Yes.

    “For that reason “become an emperor and score pussy” is not exactly “the same thing,””

    I see how my quote can convey the wrong message too. What I really mean is that hypergamy is king, just like the male drive to reach higher is king. If you focus on reaching higher while socializing (and being awake), you´ll be scoring pussy. Or if you dont, pussy will be throwing at you anyway.

    Game can be used as a diversion… a specialized way of *chasing* pussy, which is a waste. Let girls do the chase and the screening. That’s their specialty. Men should focus on the mission.

  • YOHAMI

    Actually the player/red pill thing thing was more around 30. Im doing the math wrong. I forget how old I am.

  • Gideon

    I’m in my early thirties and have known about game for a decade now. It helped me a lot in my ability to socialize but to an extent I neglected to build an empire (although I have cultivated skills that will help me do so).

    In the past one or two years I’ve had a second awakening in big part due to this blog. I certainly hope it isn’t too late to start building an empire.

  • Rollo Tomassi

    There is a Chinese proverb which asks,..

    “When is the best time to plant a tree?”
    “30 years ago.”

    “When is the next best time to plant a tree?”
    “Now.”

  • wudang

    Yohami: “I forget how old I am.”

    How old are you by the way?

  • YaReally

    “I have enough experience and Game savvy to where I can bang a different chick every night of the week with some reliability…so it’s somewhat EASY for me to say “It’s about you, not the chicks !””

    This is why I stress going out and putting in field time and setting goals and using routines and putting in effort. I even recommend hyper-focusing on it for a while. Because while game is easy for me now, I still remember very clearly what it was like when I started out and the shitty “Just work on yourself and the girls will come” advice would have been no more useful than the “Just be yourself” advice girls gave me back then.

    The irony is that “just be yourself” is accurate, it’s just that you have to go through a lot to understand what that actually means when you’re starting out from a beta headspace. Ultimately in the game you come full-circle back to where you started, but it’s like playing a videogame a second time through and having all the stats and skills you finished it with on the first play-thru.

    “When another guy wins by not playing by the first guy’s rules he then needs to invalidate that win.”

    Thus the guys who harp on how you need money (because they’re chasing money or have plans to make lots of money in the future where they envision they’ll have their harem), a 6-pack, drink alcohol, have a nice car, etc. to get the hot girls.

    In their heads it’s “but I’m following the rules!! I know this is right, I’ve dedicated most of my life to it so I can’t be wrong or I’d be an idiot! That guy over there shitting all over my rules and getting the success I’ve been working toward must be lying, or a scammer, or he’s only fucking hammered low-quality bar sluts, or blah blah blah”

    This is again why PUAs ignore the gay “scientific studies” done by keyboard jockey nerds in ivory towers under unrealistic conditions that aren’t even targeted at asking the right questions…because we’re out there regularly shitting all over their “theories”.

    The hardest thing to accept about pickup is how easy it ultimately is.

  • Tertullian

    @ “King A (Matthew King”:

    Our resident Jesus-Freak wrote: “Do you not yet understand that we can smell the resentment on you, no matter how much you attempt to conceal it with pretensions of superiority?”

    What’s the old saying about the pot calling the kettle black…?

  • King A (Matthew King)

    YaReally wrote:

    This is again why PUAs ignore the gay “scientific studies” done by keyboard jockey nerds in ivory towers under unrealistic conditions that aren’t even targeted at asking the right questions…because we’re out there regularly shitting all over their “theories”.

    Do you count Roissy as one who “ignore[s] the gay ‘scientific studies'”? Every other post of his is something that refers back to dorks in lab coats.

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  • Eric

    I recently became game-aware and start to see women respond different to my nascent alpha behavior. I did a quick comparison this afternoon to reeducate myself on the world we operate in as well as sharing it with others. Please point out errors or proper adjustments.

    We are now living in an age where female primacy (hypergamy) is priority and mating is totally stack against men.
    Here are the list of social conventions that was conditioned to be the norm:

    1. Convention: Monogamy is the not only legal recognition of social union. It is natural that men and women are innately monogamous.
    Purpose: To shame men’s preferred polygyny sexuality.
    Reward for Women: The security of living with a man when they hit the wall..

    2. Convention: Women are advertised as not wanting sex.
    Purpose: To advance women coquetry mating strategy.
    Reward for Women: Any relationship is a give and take exchange process. Under this context, women would be doing men a favor since women don’t enjoy sex, it would only be fair for men to compensate women in another aspect. Usually in the form of compliance or money. (Be my doormat if you want sex or pay for the sex that I am giving you.)
    Truth: Women do want and enjoy sex.

    3. Convention: Women are encouraged to hide their sexual apetite.
    Purpose: To advance women coquetry mating strategy to capture the men with the best financial resource when they decide to settle down.
    Reward for Women: Money and guilt leverage against men.
    Truth: Women do want and enjoy sex.

    4. Convention: Women care about a man’s sensitivity, humor, chivalry, etc.
    Purpose: To keep men blind from learning women’s true sexual arousal trigger.
    Reward for Women: To keep the supply of beta healthy for women retiring from the carousel.
    Truth: Betas do not sexually arouse women.

    5. Convention: Women are advertised as emotionally stable.
    Purpose: To position themselves as equal of men that men historically enjoy. IE. To advance career opporunities.
    Reward for Women: Money, social position, power.
    Truth: Women have the capacity to be rational human beings (in a life/death situation, I doubt a woman’s action would be emotionally driven), but women are encouraged to act according to their emotion in a femininst society. Just look at the all the useless crap they buy and the drama they create!

    6. Convention: Women control birth right because it is a woman’s body. I.E. Women have birth control pills, abortion rights etc while men do not.
    Purpose: Allowing women to control whom to have a family with.
    Reward for Women: Control over men and family creation.
    Truth: It takes two to tangle. A woman alone cannot possibilty conceive a new born. So why is men booted from the decision making process?

    7. Convention: Men who have not started a family by the age of 40 are branded as a adolescence who refuse to grow up.
    Purpose: To push men to work as hard as possible to interest a female to start a family with him.
    Reward for Women: Free labor.
    Truth: Not all men are fit or want to become fathers.

    8. Convention: Men abandoned by women during marriage are social outcast and are subjected to extreme social adversity.
    Purpose: To provide women with the legal tool to discipline their husbands such as the threat of divorce.
    Reward for Women: Women’s control over men and the household.
    Truth: Allow women to threaten a beta’s life-long saving.

    9. Convention: Women are advertised as not wanting to be mothers. They are a victim of societal construct.
    Purpose: Instill a sense of guilt in men. Men should compensate women for their mothering labor.
    Reward for Women: Money and guilt leverage against men.
    Truth: Motherhood is a common theme in all of animal kingdom. Female animals’s default state is wanting to be mothers.

    10. Convention: Men are encouraged to be fathers. An ideal ‘real men’ are would not penalize a single mother for her poor mating choice. Men who do not get married are selfish. (Man Up!)
    Purpose: Encourage men to play the female coquetry mating strategy.
    Reward for Women: To provide women with a safety net for those who are tired of riding the carousel.
    Truth: Not all men want the financial liabilities of being a father. Not starting a family does not make a man less of a man.

    11. Convention: Men are discouraged to look at women’s sexual history.
    Purpose: Women are free to ride the carousel without the associated cost.
    Reward for Women: Exciting sex with alpha without compromising future mating opportunity.
    Truth: It is pragmatic to look into any entity’s historic performance to estimate future performance. Think of it as a business decision. Women’s sexual past is an indicator, whether accurate or not, of future sexual activity, which in term tells whether she will be a reliable mother.

    12. Convention: Women are by default a stable nurturer. Men are by default violent. The result of women’s emotional instability must be the initiation of men’s violence. Society (cops) must keep men’s violence in check.
    Purpose: Control over men’s behavior while excusing women’s.
    Reward for Women: Indirect tool of violence.

    And after a few generations. Most men have become betas or PUAs and the women ask, where have all the good men gone?

    If you have problem unplugging from the feminist world we are living in. Just imagine the opposite.
    In an alternate masculine primacy (polygyny) driven world, all actions are totally stacked against women. These are the social conventions that people are led to believe as the norm.

    1. Convention: Polygyny is a legal recognition of social union. It is natural for men to ‘possess’ multiple women.
    Purpose: To provide men with the social recognition of having multiple sex partners.
    Reward for Men: Sex

    2. Convention: Prosmiscuity is a celebrated feature in women.
    Purpose: To encourage prosmiscuity in women.
    Reward for Men: Sex

    3. Convention: Women are encouraged to experiment sex as early as possible to secure a reliable mate.
    Purpose: To remove the social stigma of having sex too young.
    Reward for Men: Sex

    4. Convention: Men care about the acrobaticity and intensity of sex women give. Women are valued heavily on the ability to arouse sexual interest. Women would give their best show in the bed all the time, every time.
    Purpose: To encourage women to discover how to ‘hit the spot’ for men.
    Reward for Men: Sex.

    5. Convention: Women are advertised as emotionally unstable.
    Purpose: Justification of social discriminations. “We need to keep these women (inferior beasts) in line!”
    Reward for Men: Control and power over women.

    6. Convention: Men control birth right. I.E. Men have birth control pills women’s birth control pills are outlawed.
    Purpose: Enable men to pump and dump and give men the choice of whom to have a family with.
    Reward for Men: Control over family creation.

    7. Convention: Women who have not been given birth by the age of 30 are ostracized as being a social failure.
    Purpose: To push women to use any means possible to capture a man willing to take her in to avoid ostracization.
    Reward for Men: Easy sex and other material resource.

    8. Convention: Women abandoned by men during marriage are social outcasts and are subjected to extreme social adversity.
    Purpose: To provide men with the legal tool to discipline their wives.
    Reward for Men: Men’s control over the household.

    9. Convention: Men are advertised as having little to no interest in playing the father role.
    Purpose: Women would do whatever it takes to entice the men to close the deal or face osctracization. Men are doing women a favor by offering them the possibility of marriage.
    Reward for Men: Control over women.

    10. Convention: The ideal women are expert in satisfying their husband both sexually and financially.
    Purpose: Encourage women slut up and to be the breadwinner of the household.
    Reward for Men: To allow men to experience the best of both worlds.

    11. Convention: A man’s sexual history and future sexual activities has no correlation to his reliability to be a good husband.
    Purpose: Marriage does not inhibit a man from having sex with other women outside marriage.
    Reward for Men: More sex.

    12. Convention: Men are by default a stable protector. Women are by default emotionally unstable. The result of domestic violence must be the initiation of women’s emotional instability. Men must act violently to keep the house in order.
    Purpose: Men’s control over women.
    Reward for Men: Tool of violence.

    And after a few generations. Most women have become over used or manipulative and the men ask, where have all the good women gone?

    I do not condone such behavior or mentality. I am merely making a point on the current societal conventions we are living in. It is pretty clear that neither pure feminine primacy nor pure masculine primacy are sustainable. I am sure such society did exist at some point in history where female work much more and enjoy much less than the male population. Needless to say, these cultures were wiped out by societal evolution or outcompeted by a more efficient society. We are now in the transition where men are waking up to the societ injustice inflicted heavily on us. I hope that more men will rise up either by equipping themselves with game or educating other women that leads to a better, sex-fair society.

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