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By: siquaeris

siquaeris — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 03:32:10 +0000

I don’t see manufactured relationship drama as a shit test. For a lot of women, drama and love are one and the same. This is especially true for women in their teens and 20s. It’s highly dysfunctional, but it’s really common. It tends to decline in later years, although not for all women. In many respects, it helps to explain the psychology of attraction to the bad boy.

By: Sword

Sword — Sat, 11 Aug 2012 19:16:33 +0000

I don’t know if you will ever see this post, but this is nearly the EXACT same situation I was in. It is insane how beta-izing a BPD girl can be with her reflection she gives of yourself, how ensnared you become.

Ugh, it was disgusting. As painful and as much as I lost, I would actually go through it again (in another life) just for how much it shocked my world into reality.

-Brothers from another mother, keep the fight alive
Sword

By: nemesis

nemesis — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 12:45:42 +0000

I live to see women making the blonde’s retarded and disappointed facial expression. It gives me a power surge

By: The One Reason

The One Reason — Fri, 03 Aug 2012 16:06:04 +0000

SpecialK,
Thanks for elaborating on the last, vital paragraph, my conclusion too. Namely that dramatism amounts to a kind of sh*t testing. From what I’ve seen in friends’ etc. relationships, the dynamic of the two mindsets vs. the amount of dramatism is well demonstrated.

GKate,
So you go au naturel. That’s most laudable, yet rather naughty.
(Apologies to all for turning the commentary into a frat party…)

By: xsplat

xsplat — Fri, 03 Aug 2012 08:53:09 +0000

You can’t take responsibility for a womans BPD traits. Some women have high conflict personalities. You can mitigate their episodes, but you can’t cure their shit tests once and for all.

One way to deal with conflict is to out-conflict the girl. Scream at her for all the hotel guests to hear. She wants drama? Give her 10 times more than she bargained for. Another way is to trigger abandonment. Ignoring her is usually a TERRIBLE way to deal with it. The girl will just up her negative behaviour until you respond, even, and especially if it means you snap.

Women hate equanimity. It makes them insecure. Ever hear women say that they can’t tell if a man loves her until he hits her? That’s the principle of how much they need a strong reaction from you. They can’t rest until knowing they can move your emotions. Equanimity to them means you don’t care.

People think that being stoic is the route to power, when in reality conflict is the route to power. Fuck equanimity.

By: treylesnorth

treylesnorth — Fri, 03 Aug 2012 05:14:23 +0000

You are not too socially inept.
You are socially well-adjusted.
…therein lies the problem.

By: Special K

Special K — Fri, 03 Aug 2012 04:57:11 +0000

Matt:
I don’t want to put words in Rollo’s mouth. But what he’s saying is the sort of woman who actively seeks out drama in a relationship, is one with a higher than average hypergamic instinct and a Boyfriend whom she considers Beta.

In essence, relationship drama is a form of shit-test. If you adopt a submissive frame and back down, you fail. Instead you have to deflect the drama and display to her that it’s unimportant to you.

As with all shit-tests this is an indicator of interest (she wants to see your alpha chops). But if it happens too often it means she’s not confident in her assessment of you and feels the need to keep testing to determine where you fit on the scale.

The best way to make this behavior stop is a heavy dose of jealousy and dread game. To the point where you feel like a serious asshole for doing it. All of a sudden your girl is wondering if maybe you found someone younger and hotter. Is she about to lose you? etc. This establishes your role as the prize and the alpha without her needing to test. Also, because she’s now pursuing you, the relationship is less predictable and more exciting. Thus she doesn’t have to fuck things up just to break the routine.

This is what Rollo meant by the difference between a Beta-alpha (during the drama)-Beta relationship and an Alpha-beta (just enough to make sure you’re human) – Alpha one. Drama queens thrive in the former dynamic because they constantly need to shit-test the beta. However when dating an undeniable alpha, they don’t need to constantly assess his status, and thus they tend to be much better behaved.