Very important point that guys who don’t study PUA shit beyond the surface but make judgements about it (there’s a couple in this very comment thread lol) and newbies-intermediates to pickup don’t understand is that while it looks like we’re teaching guys to do new things we’re actually just removing restrictions society placed on them. We give them routines to make this easier but most advanced PUAs hit a point years in after lots of success where they go “wait a sec, this isn’t building up its tearing down…holy shit!” and actually fully understand what that means.

Go further back than 5 years old. When you were a month old, when you were hungry you cried to get food, you didn’t give a shit who was around or how appropriate it was to be doing. Down the road you were taught not to cause a scene in public or demand what you want until you’re in the appropriate conditions.

When you were a month old, you calmed down and enjoyed it when you were comforted and touched by other human beings. Down the road you were taught not to invade people’s personal space and about sexual harassment and lawsuits and boys and girls have separate change rooms etc.

When you were a month old, you’d talk to (or attempt to interact with) anyone interesting around you. You’d stare them in the eyes curious and wanting to figure them out. Down the road you were taught not to talk to strangers and that eye contact is rude and can lead to violence.

When you were able to finally speak, if someone was ugly you had no problem letting them know your honest opinion. If you liked or didn’t like something (people, vegetables, ice cream, cartoons) you made sure people knew it. Down the road you were taught to hold back your opinions to not offend anyone and to be open minded to things you knew you didnt like and to not be rude etc.

People don’t realize how far back social conditioning goes. It wasn’t just watching a few Disney movies that made a beta who he is. All that alpha shit is still in guys, but the social conditioning for some guys is way deeper than for other guys. The alpha Buddhas were never really conditioned. The natural alphas were partly conditioned. The learned alphas overcame and eliminate their conditioning. The beta nerds dont know they’re conditioned. The feminist-guys and lame emo weiner guys dive head first into conditioning lol

This is the hazard of treating a thought project like a hobby and being apprehensive about applying principles beyond their most immediate application (pick-up), i.e., the most common and familiar one. The PUA becomes easy prey for slipshod technospeak that sounds authoritative, like evo psych and “Laws of Power.” There is no ignoring the foundational principles just as there is no ignoring the ground beneath one’s feet. There is only pretending to be disaffected, unconcerned, and independent.

Either the PUA becomes conversant in first principles or he becomes a dead thinker’s unwitting puppet. And down that easy path picking a reliable puppetmaster becomes a matter of randomness. The PUA fears loss of his independence and identity if he acknowledges superiors in any realm, and he therefore is consigned to randomly latching onto the first fundamental philosophy that feels right and seems to fit his experiences. (The awesome power of humility. Meek inherit earth.) He doesn’t have the skill set to choose between the good puppeteer and the charlatan — pride blinds a self-assessment. And the real, tangible results of game make him all the less likely to acknowledge his accidental dependency on higher-order thinking: “Real alphas don’t care!” “Only nerds think this deeply!” “Intelligence is a DLV!” etc.

Or, “Game works. I leave it to the nerds to think about why it works.” Great, except that now makes the PUA the philosopher’s bitch in ways the former actively discards the skill-set to recognize. Why a method works allows a man the ability to make it work better, and makes it translatable to other arenas. If you only know what you can personally confirm out in the field, you reduce your knowledge base to an infinitesimal fraction — a lone wolf blog blabber with no capacity to apply others’ trial & error and/or deep observation to your own isolated, solipsistic theorizing.

Matt