http://therationalmale.com/2012/05/07/ultimatum/

Demonstrate, never explicate.

A woman intuitively understanding what you will do if her behaviors / conditions don’t change by observing your behaviors and mannerisms will ALWAYS be more effective than overtly explaining to her what “she needs to do or else.” When you explain things women will act out of fear or obligation, when you demonstrate things to a woman she will alter her behavior according to her own desire to do so.

–‘the take-away’

–the dread,

–be ‘unpredictable’

–push sexual boundaries

–be the prize (the in-charge, adventurous “Alpha” male)

–avoid alcohol

–stay in shape

Wouldn’t these happen as a natural course of being the Alpha? These “desire levels” appear to be mainly stoked by the internalized Alpha frame- Outcome Independent, confident, in charge, competent.

Rollo has taught us many times that desire can never be negotiated. However, I firmly believe it can be commanded, and in a large sense it is always commanded. I told my wife exactly what Rollo told us not to do- after I got in shape, after she got to see me flirting with girls, and after I landed a much better job I went popping off how I was taking my balls back and finally disarmed her sexual denial weapon or else I was finding a new wife who did not use WMD’s in a relationship. Long/short she agreed to submit and entrusted me with the launch codes. I have not abused the privilege and her level of desire for me has never been higher since the 3rd day of the honeymoon more than 20 years ago.

So my question is at what point do you issue an ultimatum? I think when all else fails and even before you are ready to have an affair, leave, or file for divorce it is time to drop the covert and overtly demand your needs be met- or else.

I’m however wondering, how well will these advices work for me in getting a satisfactory LTR sex life? Being divorced two years ago after a 10 years LTR, I am now single and doing some plate spinning. It work for me, but I miss the emotional intimacy of a LTR. And still I’m hesitant to enter a LTR because I’m afraid it will become a boring routine.

So Rollo, I’d really like to know your real life experience with your own advices: To what extent do they work in providing you a fulfilling married sex life?

You have described all phases I went through during my 10+ years of relationship.

I thanked you not once, your former advices saved my balls and my sex not once in the past, I cannot completely follow your advices yet, too much social imprintings but I am not a looser thanx to your advices and i have my balls still together and working and however she feels her’s pussy power – she feels I have my 2 cents to say.

Are you ‘pshrink’ of any sort ?
I cannot imagine any amateur having that much knowledge.
I am amateur and I know how much I miss.
I know rules but how to use them it is another story.

Thanx Buddy.
Continue writings, please.
It is your input into mankind’s, human’s happiness,
… whatever …

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Again, I believe (from my own marriage) that the mainstream view that women need to feel pretty in order to be pretty is true. And this adds another angle to this discussion.